You're Not Misunderstanding Him—You're Triggered!

Most women believe they have a man problem.But what if the real issue isn’t men… it’s the lens you’re seeing them through?In this episode, Coach Vee breaks down one of the most misunderstood dynamics in modern dating: the difference between discernment and trauma response.When your heart has been hurt before, your nervous system learns patterns. It begins scanning for signs of disappointment, inconsistency, or rejection before those things have even happened. The result? Anxiety starts masquerading as intuition, and hypervigilance gets labeled as wisdom.In this conversation, you’ll learn:• The psychological difference between discernment and trauma triggers• Why anxious attachment often feels like “intuition”• How past pain distorts the way you interpret men’s behavior• The hidden cost of mislabeling fear as discernment• Why familiarity is not the same as emotional safety• How healing restores clarity in dating decisionsCoach Vee also shares a powerful biblical perspective using the story of Leah and how wounds can shape our expectations in relationships.If you’ve ever said “something just feels off” but couldn’t explain why, this episode will challenge you to examine whether you’re responding to the man in front of you… or to a memory from your past.Because when trauma is interpreting everything, wisdom never has a chance to lead.If this episode resonates with you, join Coach Vee for the Stop the Trauma Workshop on March 14, where she’ll go deeper into identifying the hidden wounds that show up in dating and how to rebuild your relationship decisions from wisdom instead of fear.Learn more and reserve your seat here.