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EPISODE · Jun 4, 2026 · 36 MIN

You're Not Unlucky. You Keep Telling the Wrong Story.

from Better After Divorce · host Coach Ivy

You're Not Unlucky. You Keep Telling the Wrong Story. This week we’re talking about the shadow — the place every archetype goes when the pattern wins. And the woman who lives there. Meet Allegra. She’s done the therapy. She’s done the work. She knows her patterns. And she hasn’t had one serious relationship in over a decade. She’s not one of the five archetypes. She’s the shadow that lives inside all of them. And she has a name. The Victim. Not victim as an insult. Victim as a position. A place you stand in relation to your own life. This episode is for every woman who has ever asked — why does this keep happening to me? And is finally ready for the real answer. IN THIS EPISODE → What we appreciate appreciates, and why every archetype is looking at the wrong thing → Allegra’s story — and the three red flags that were never about him → The five archetypes in their shadow state — and the pop culture women living every one of them → The 100% responsibility concept — why I hated it and what I finally understood → The Queen vs the peasant — two ways to carry a hard story → Where everything starts to change REFERENCE → Read the article this week on Substack: The Pattern No One Wants to Admit They’re Living IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED Send it to the Allegra in your life. Not as a call out — as a gift. The woman who is ready to see it will. RESOURCES MENTIONED→Find Your Pattern — Download the Dating Pattern Guide→Want to go deeper — Schedule Your Pattern Breakthrough Sesson→ Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to: [email protected] — subject line: RLGL→ Loving the show? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — I read every one, and yours might be featured on a future episode. CONNECT WITH COACH IVYInstagram: @coachivyallenFacebook: CoachIvySubstack: Better Dating After Divorce 

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