A Soft Mess

Barelyn (previously Bare Ly) is back after a few months of getting swallowed by that thing we call life. Take a listen to the stuff that has happened to them, lessons they’ve learned, and whats to come. Zaddy Bare is back and ready to talk some more about softness. —-Follow us on Instagram (@asoftmess) for more updates and other featured content.

In this episode of A Soft Mess, Bare and Michaela get a chance to ask a local queer therapist questions about how we connect and form relationships with people. Talking about Attachment Theory is so important. So here's a conversation to start you off. Our guest, Lyndsey Lyons (she/her/hers) is a polyamorous, queer therapist living in Boulder, Colorado. She works with individuals and couples in various relationship configurations to form and maintain loving connections in their lives.  She believes that relationships are one of the most powerful tools we have in healing. Her journey to support others began with her own process of healing trauma and learning to embrace secure attachments in her life. Lyndsey practices Diane Poolheller's Somatic Attachment work along with Stan Tatkin's attachment focused therapy for couples. In addition to her private practice at the Love, Sex, and Gender Center, she is also a Psychedelic Therapist at Innate Path, a clinic utilizing medicine assisted therapy for trauma healing. Lyndsey spends much of her free time with her partner, pup, and friends - often while plotting ways to help reduce sexual shame, dismantle toxic systems, and practice authentic connection. // To support the creation of A Soft Mess Podcast, leave a review on iTunes and share your favorite episode with a friend or three! Also, monetary donations can be sent to @thebarecaveco on Venmo!

A Soft Mess is so happy to bring Michaela onto the team. We are both dedicated to open listening and uplifting marginalized voices so this is a perfect match! Get to know Michaela through this short update.

On the newest episode of A Soft Mess, Bare Ly and guests get real about mental illness. What's it like to survive a hard day? Who are some mental health role models? And lots more. If you have a story about mental illness that you want to share, Bare is here to listen. Follow A Soft Mess on Facebook an Instagram @asoftmess and DM us to chat. <3

A short update from your queer host, Bare Ly

This is our special Pride Month episode where we talk to Josie Ivy Nixon about the gender binary, coming out as trans, dating apps, and what it's like to explore the world of love, sex and relationships. If you've ever wondered what it's like to navigate these parts of the world as a trans person, this vulnerable interview is a great introduction to that. 

This month, your host Bare Ly, talks to some guests about asexuality. What is it? What does it look like in people's day to day lives? Do you have to come out as asexual? Do asexual people have sex or date? And more. Check out guest speaker Emily's instagram @asdfiwik <3

The host of A Soft Mess, Bare Ly, is back to answer listener questions. This episode they talk about the process of starting therapy, what healing might look like for someone with a poor memory, and what life is like post diagnosis. 

In this episode, Bare Ly explores the world of editing and publishing with special guests Mike Malpiedi and Ellie Swennson. Mike Malpiedi works over at Game Over Books and talks with us about the day in the life of a small press editor as well as gives tips and tricks to writer's who are looking to submit their work to have it published. Ellie Swennson graces us with her vocal presence in the form of a creative piece, written specifically for A Soft Mess, about the writing process. Check out ASoftMess.com to contact us or support the show!

In Season 2 Episode 2, Bare Ly chats with freelance writers Nicole Hallberg about getting started in the freelance world, writing habits, mental health and more. Check out ASoftMess.com to get involved with the show!

In this episode, Bare gets down to talking shit on some ADHD myths and giving out tips and tricks that have helped them along the way with their ADHD. For tips having to do with habit forming, to mood tracking, and much more, listen to the podcast! For more information, please seek the advice of a mental health practitioner. 

In this episode, Bare Ly talks a little about what it might look like to be a Highly Sensitive Person along with some tips and tricks they've used to get through tough moments. Check out https://hsperson.com/ to get more info on HSPs and to take the test and see if you're part of the club. <3

A special "Dear Bare" segment ft. several of your poignant gender questions. Featured voices include Desiree Celeste, Liz Young and Mike Malpiedi.

In this episode, Bare Ly discusses four life alienating speech patterns that we can cut out of our lives in order to connect to our own and other people's wants, needs, and values. <3 Outro Song is Wrong Direction Home by Double A Dollar (link below) https://open.spotify.com/track/2qIrdJzqYs9yC354IimXOv?si=56vPXHshRy2qTFr3HVCz8Q

In this episode, Bare Ly answers 2 questions from our listeners about love and friendships as well as defines some of their favorite C-words. <3

This week's episode is a continued conversation about suicide awareness and mental health. With an original song for our listeners and and interview with our guest, Marissa Light! Download and support the song at: https://barecave.bandcamp.com/track/im-so-glad-that-youre-alive-2 Transcript available 7/14

This is the first of three episodes that will focus on suicide attempts, ideation, mental health and self-care. <3 Please consider talking to a professional or go to https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ if you are struggling with thoughts of suicide or self-harm. <3 Transcript available on 6/19

Some information about the upcoming episode being released on Sunday; some content warnings & a note from your host, Bare Ly 💕🌸

This is the 2nd episode of A Soft Mess which features our first "Dear Bare" segment which answers a listener questions. This week's episode is about Trans Identity; join us as we explore coming out, growing up, and learning about who we are with Bendt Lizzy (creator of Anxious Jellyfish on CompletelyAbsorbed.com); Finn, an agender student in TX; Taylor, a nonbinary human who works with students in NY; and your host, Bare Ly (of TheBareCave.com). Volunteer Readers include Mike Malpiedi (dear friend & poet) & Desiree Celeste (kickass human of Stoned & Spooked) Transcript available @ https://www.thebarecave.com/cave/pride-month-are-you-really-trans

The first full length episode of A Soft Mess ft. Bare Ly talking about #MeTimeMay, Self-Love thru Self-Care & how to trick yourself into taking care of yourself instead of others. Transcript available 6/1

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