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Advice That Hurts & Helps (formerly E-rotic by Eden Mitelman)
by Eden Mitelman
Advice That Hurts & Helps is a bold, honest podcast about relationships, confidence, identity, and personal growth. Hosted by coach and mentor Eden Mitelman, this show blends real-life insight with powerful mindset shifts and emotional intelligence to deliver the uncomfortable truths that actually create change.Expect tough love, clarity, and practical tools to help you build self-worth, set boundaries, and create healthier connections. If you’re ready to evolve emotionally and level up your life, this podcast is your starting point.It hurts. It helps. You grow.
Episodes
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HOW TO STOP LOSING YOUR MIND WHEN YOU WANT A RELATIONSHIP TO WORK
You can really fucking like someone. You can hope they text you. You can want a relationship to work. And you can still be okay if it doesn't.THAT is what mastering detachment actually looks like.In this episode of Advice That Hurts & Helps, we're talking about how to want someone without needing...
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Stop Wasting Time Dating: Make Your Intentions CLEAR
Dating shouldn't be a guessing game. So why are so many people afraid to say what they actually want?Whether you're looking for something casual, a serious relationship, or you're still figuring it out... Making your intentions clear is one of the most important things you can do in dating.In…
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ARE YOU FALLING OUT OF LOVE OR SELF-SABOTAGING YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
TEXT ME: https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme/p/text-eden-private-text-coachingDo you actually have a relationship problem — or have you convinced yourself that you do?Sometimes when a relationship is healthy, stable, and no longer giving you constant emotional highs and lows, your brain…
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THE RED FLAGS YOU DON'T NOTICE UNTIL IT'S TOO LATE
The worst red flags usually aren’t the obvious ones. They’re the ones that whisper.The little comments you brush off.The subtle inconsistencies.The way you start changing your behaviour to avoid a reaction.The things that feel slightly off... But not bad enough to leave over.Until months or years...
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CAN YOU PREDICT SEXUAL COMPATIBILITY? THE SIGNS BEFORE SLEEPING WITH THEM
Can you actually know if you’re sexually compatible with someone **before** you have sex with them? I think you can get a pretty damn good idea.Sexual compatibility isn’t just about what happens in the bedroom. It shows up in the chemistry, the tension, how comfortable you are talking about sex,...
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Things Men Complain About That I Actually Agree With
Women are not always the victims in dating. In this episode, I'm talking about several dating complaints from men that I actually understand, and in some cases, completely agree with. From coffee dates and financial screening to entitlement, validation addiction, opposite-sex friendships, and the...
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ADVICE I'LL GIVE MY DAUGHTER BEFORE SHE STARTS DATING
What will I teach my daughter before she starts dating?In this episode of Advice That Hurts & Helps, I share the brutally honest relationship advice I wish more women heard younger, the kind that might sound controversial, harsh, or unpopular… but could save years of heartbreak, confusion,...
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WHY "HIGH VALUE" CULTURE IS MAKING DATING WORSE
Somewhere along the way, modern dating stopped being about connection and started becoming a marketplace. Everybody is “high value.”Everybody thinks they deserve better.Everybody is ranking humans like stocks.And somehow… nobody is happy.In this episode, we’re talking about how the internet’s...
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HOW TO MAKE YOUR GIRLFRIEND LESS ANNOYING
Most men think women become “annoying,” emotional, controlling, or nagging out of nowhere.But a lot of the behaviours men complain about are actually responses to inconsistency, broken trust, poor communication, and emotional imbalance in the relationship.Because the truth is:A lot of women don’t...
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YOU'RE NOT CHILL, YOU'RE JUST AFRAID OF LOSING THEM
You’re not “chill.”You’re just afraid to lose them.You think you’re playing it cool but really, you’re overthinking every text, holding back what you feel, and pretending you don’t care… Just to keep someone around.In this episode, I break down the difference between real detachment vs....
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LISTEN TO THIS IF YOUR PAST RELATIONSHIPS STILL HURT
If you’ve been hurt in past relationships… this is the episode you need to hear.Most people think they’re healing… But they’re actually keeping their wounds open.Waiting for closure.Waiting for an apology.Waiting for someone to finally say:"You were right. I was wrong."But here’s the truth no one...
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WHY DOING "TOO MUCH" TURNS THEM OFF (AND KILLS ATTRACTION)
You showed up. You cared. You supported them. You tried to be the best partner possible… and somehow they still pulled away.In this episode, I’m responding to a listener submission from someone who feels like they always do everything right in relationships — thoughtful, supportive, emotionally...
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YOU'RE NOT READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP (HERE'S WHY)
Wanting a relationship and being ready for one are two completely different things.A lot of people say they want love, commitment, and a serious partner — but their lifestyle, habits, and behaviour make a healthy relationship almost impossible.In this video, we talk about the real reasons someone...
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SHE DIDN'T RANDOMLY LOSE INTEREST. YOU DID THIS...
She didn’t just “lose interest.” Attraction doesn’t disappear randomly. It shifts when the dynamic shifts. In this episode, I break down the real reasons women pull back after being interested — and it’s rarely about looks, money, or another guy. If women seem interested at first and then…
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If He Wasn’t Hot, You’d Be Gone: The Truth About Attraction & Toxic Relationships
If they looked average… you probably would’ve left by now. But because they’re attractive, you start tolerating things you normally never would. Disrespect. Inconsistency. Mixed signals. You tell yourself “it’s complicated” when the truth is a lot simpler: you’re emotionally attached to the...
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Make Sex Sexy Again: Simple Ways to Bring Back the Spark
Has your sex life started to feel… predictable?Not bad, not terrible... Just a little meh?In this episode, we’re talking about how to make sex sexy again—without pressure, awkward tricks, or unrealistic expectations. Just simple, doable shifts that bring back the spark, the tension, and the...
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You’re Arguing Wrong (And It’s Ruining Your Relationship)
Most couples don’t have communication problems.They have arguing problems.If every disagreement turns into a loop, a blow-up, or emotional distance… you’re probably arguing the wrong way.In this episode, we’re breaking down:- Why your arguments keep going in circles- The biggest mistake people…
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Hard Dating Truths About Yourself Nobody Wants To Hear
You don’t have a dating problem. You have a mindset problem. In this episode, we’re ripping apart the comforting lies, romantic fairytales, and self-sabotaging mental habits that are quietly destroying your love life. If you keep repeating the same patterns, attracting the same emotionally...
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Valentine’s Day Test: Are You Doing The Bare Minimum?
Valentine’s Day creates unnecessary pressure — so let’s simplify it.In this episode, I break down the Valentine’s Day Bare Minimum Test, share experience-based gift and surprise ideas at every price point, and give advice for couples who don’t really care about Valentine’s Day but still want...
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NEW ERA. SAME TRUTH. | Advice That Hurts & Helps
Welcome to the new era of Advice That Hurts & Helps. Same honesty. Sharper conversations. This is where real growth begins. 💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme 🎥Watch on youtube:https://youtu.be/6xxRsG9IV4Y🛍 My Amazon Storefront...
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I ALMOST DIDN'T TELL ANYONE THIS… HOW TO BE "THAT GIRL" in 2026
GET "THE LIST": https://edenic011.gumroad.com/l/thelistI almost never shared this… the ultimate list to becoming your best self in 2026. No fluff, no excuses—just the habits, mindset, and moves that actually work. Consider this your glow-up blueprint.GET COACHED BY ME:...
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Moving In Together? The Truth No One Tells You About Money, Chores & Sex
In this episode, I'm discussing the real truth that no one is honest about when you move in together: not the aesthetic, not the highlight reel, but the day-to-day reality that makes or breaks relationships.We cover:• How responsibilities & chores quietly create resentment• The money…
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Dating in Your 20s: WHAT EVERY WOMAN NEEDS TO KNOW
Dating in your 20s can feel confusing, chaotic, and overwhelming. In this episode, I’m sharing real advice every girl in her 20s needs to hear. The shit I will tell my daughter one day. Whether you’re dating casually, looking for something serious, healing from past relationships, or trying to...
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DO YOU NEED TO BE HOT OR RICH TO GET THE GIRL?
Do you actually need to be hot or rich to get the girl? DEPENDS on the girl. In this episode, I share my honest opinion on this contentious debate. Not the internet highlight reel, not the “alpha” advice, and not the toxic takes. Suppose you want a level-headed woman who wants a life partner......
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WHY NO ONE IS HAVING GOOD SEX ANYMORE
In this episode, I break down why no one is having good sex anymore, from emotional disconnect to unrealistic expectations, porn culture, and couples who don’t know how to communicate. Whether you're in a relationship or casually dating... This is worth a listen. GET THE "HOW TO MOVE ON" GUIDE...
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Are You Dating a Loser... or ARE YOU the Loser?
In this episode, I answer a DM from a listener who needed advice about her loser boyfriend... and let’s just say, the red flags were flying. But here’s the twist… sometimes, the “loser” energy doesn’t just come from the person we’re dating. It might be coming from us. I’m breaking down the most...
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STOP ASKING ABOUT THEIR BODY COUNT WHEN DATING
Does your partner’s body count really matter? 👀 In this episode, I’m explaining why asking for a number can do more harm than good in dating, what it says about trust and values, and healthier ways to have real conversations about the past without sabotaging the present.GET THE "HOW TO MOVE ON"...
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ARE YOU CONTROLLING OR IS IT A BOUNDARY?
Are you setting healthy boundaries, or are you being controlling? In this episode, I break down the subtle but powerful differences between the two, why so many of us get them confused, and how to recognize what’s really driving your behavior. We’ll talk about: The difference between boundaries…
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DETACHMENT IN DATING: CONTROL IMPULSES, PROTECT YOUR PEACE
If you’re tired of feeling anxious, over-invested, or emotionally reactive in dating, this episode is your reset.I explain how to master detachment through impulse control and emotional regulation practices. This isn’t about pretending not to care — it’s about learning to slow down your…
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HOW TO KNOW IF IT IS LOVE OR JUST ATTACHMENT
In this episode, I explain the real difference between love and attachment and how to tell if you're falling for someone or just your own idea of them.If you keep mistaking intense feelings for real connection, this one’s for you.Let’s cut the fantasy and get into the facts. GET THE "HOW TO MOVE...
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ARE THEY EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE? SPOT THE SIGNS
Are you constantly attracting emotionally unavailable people? In this video, I’m breaking down the clear signs someone is emotionally unavailable, how to spot them early, and most importantly — why you should avoid getting attached. These relationships can feel confusing, draining, and…
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CHANGE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THESE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES
Today, we’re diving into the 5 main love languages—what they are, why they matter, and how understanding them can transform how you and your partner give and receive love. It’s a game-changer for improving connection and staying mindful, because if you didn’t already know: not everyone shows love...
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ANALYSIS PARALYSIS: FINDING THE PERFECT PARTNER POST-BREAKUP
If you have been overthinking yourself into isolation or you're scared to get back out there and get hurt again, this episode is MADE for you. Dating post-breakup is challenging but so is life. HOW TO MOVE ON - THE GUIDE: https://e-roticthebrand.com/get-over-your-exGET COACHED BY ME:...
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ARE YOU WASTING YOUR TIME IN THIS RELATIONSHIP?
If you are unsure if you are wasting your time with someone, this episode will help make up your mind.There are certain things required for a healthy relationship and some of the things we deal with are just not worth the time and energy because they often lead to nothing but disappointment. GET...
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HOW TO KEEP HIM INTERESTED TIPS & TRICKS
Wondering why he might start off hot and end up going cold? Sometimes it is how we maneuver at the beginning. You might be overwhelming them without even realizing. Let's fix that.In this episode, I discuss some of the best beginner tips & tricks when it comes to attracting the right person and...
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WORRYING ABOUT YOUR PARTNER'S PAST?!
Are you comparing your current partner to your past romantic experiences? Or are you worried that they might be? If you're stuck in the past, you're probably not feeling great. In this episode we discuss the reason why people compare their past romantic partners and how to correct that endless...
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SOFT ROLEPLAY IN THE BEDROOM: ROLEPLAYING THAT WON'T MAKE YOU CRINGE
If the thought of you roleplaying makes you cringe, this is for you. There are many ways you can spice things up in the bedroom that don't involve a halloween costume and acting skills. I call it "soft roleplaying" - a way to play into one of the many characters that make up YOU without having to...
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MUST-HAVES FOR AN ADULT SLEEPOVER: HYGIENE & MORE
This is a fun one! Get ready to listen to your online mother/bestie chat with you about hygiene hacks and reminders for those spontaneous (or planned) sexy adult sleepovers... Keep this must-haves on you at ALL times & never miss out on a spicy experience. Thank me later! ITEMS MENTIONED: Real...
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FEAR OF BEING CHEATED ON? HERE IS HOW TO FIX THAT
Are you constantly paranoid or worried that you will get your heartbroken again? We all worry bad things will happen to us but there is a line that you should be aware if you are crossing. Our past experiences can ruin our future ones if we do not heal and learn to deal with them correctly. In…
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HOW TO REIGNITE THE SPARK IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
In this episode, I explore with you a few easy and fun ways to bring back that spark, beyond the bedroom. If you've been dating for a while and find yourself falling into boring routine, it is time to spice up the relationship and find ways to continue doing so, going forward. Relationships…
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HOW TO MAKE CASUAL RELATIONSHIPS WORKS
Casual relationships usually don't work. It takes maturity and transparency for it to stand a chance. HOWEVER if both parties are able to do that then you just might be able to have a sexy companionship for the time being! In this episode, I discuss how casual relationships can be beneficial to...
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HOW TO GO FROM FRIENDS TO MORE: IS IT POSSIBLE?
You requested it and as much as I LOATHE this topic, I had to come and set the record STRAIGHT. Truth is, going from friends to a relationship is tricky waters. There is no solution or a secret way to master it. And no, you can't have everything you want and then some all the time... That…
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HOW MEN VS. WOMEN FALL IN LOVE
I have this on going joke with my fiancé about how men fall in love vs. how women fall in love. He fell in love with me because I stress him out... And there is science behind that to prove it might be why he chose me to be his partner in life.All jokes aside, this episode is focused on one of…
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HOW TO SURVIVE BEING CHEATED ON
Let me help you heal and move on from a cheater without becoming a hurt little bitch. This episode is a reminder to not lose yourself while healing through a difficult time. We've all been there and understand, but we also don't need to be apart of that cycle. Climb above babe. ALL THE SHIT I...
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HOW TO DATE: DATING TIPS THAT'LL GET YOU A PARTNER
It is becoming ALARMINGLY apparent that many of you need some guidelines and specific tips to help you in the dating world. This episode is for people who actually want a relationship rather than a one night stand. YOU'RE WELCOME. ALL THE SHIT I RECOMMEND: https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd GET COACHED:...
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DOES SIZE MATTER? - WITH MEASUREMENTS
LET'S REVISIT THIS TOPIC SINCE SO MANY ARE STILL ARGUING WITH THEMSELVES IN MY COMMENTS. This is an honest, to-the-point, episode revisiting this topic again. It might not be what you want to hear, but size DOES & DOES NOT matter depending on a few factors we discuss. I hope this episode helps...
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THE BEST POSITIONS IF YOU'RE LARGER
Here are some suggestions for my larger guys! In this episode, I discuss some pointers in making sex more enjoyable while giving you ways to adjust some common sex positions to help make them work for you and your partner. Depth Limiting Ring: https://amzn.to/46ToqSP NEW CHANNEL:...
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BEST POSITIONS IF YOU HAVE A SMALLER PENIS (TIPS & TRICKS)
This episode is not just for the smaller ones, it is for anyone who is looking to find ways to maximize penetration! I have rounded up the top 5 positions best suited for achieving deeper penetration while sprinkling in some tips & tricks to elevate your game in the bedroom! EPISODE ON HER...
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ARE YOU SETTLING?
Most of you are. Here is how to tell if you are. In this episode, we discuss why we settle and how to tell if we are. Send this to that bestie of yours that desperately needs this. CALL ME: https://popcall.com/e-roticthebrand ALL THE SHIT I RECOMMEND: https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd GET COACHED:...
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CREATE THE BEST DATING APP PROFILE: TIPS & TRICKS
Let's discuss your dating app profile in detail! In this episode, I go through some of the do's and don'ts of building your dating app profile to help you attract more matches. I met my fiancé on a dating app so I feel like I have a pretty good understanding of what works and what doesn't. While...
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Advice That Hurts & Helps is a bold, honest podcast about relationships, confidence, identity, and personal growth. Hosted by coach and mentor Eden Mitelman, this show blends real-life insight with powerful mindset shifts and emotional intelligence to deliver the uncomfortable truths that actually create change.Expect tough love, clarity, and practical tools to help you build self-worth, set boundaries, and create healthier connections. If you’re ready to evolve emotionally and level up your life, this podcast is your starting point.It hurts. It helps. You grow.
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