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Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc
by Dr. Pamela Kreiser
Dr. Pamela Kreiser (with Meredith Edwards and Teighlor Polendo) shares her practical insights about how to improve relationships and promote peace—drawing upon her experience teaching graduate and undergraduate students, serving as a Lead Mediator, and training Mediators.Submit your questions to [email protected]: Communication, Interpersonal Communication, Interpersonal Conflict, Relationships, Mediation, Human Connection, Dyadic Communication, Interpersonal Communication Skills.
Episodes
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#150: The Ostrich Effect: Why We Avoid Hard Conversations & How to Stop
EP 150: The Ostrich Effect: Why We Avoid Hard Conversations and How to Stop The TalkDoc and Co. discuss the “ostrich effect,” the tendency to avoid threatening or anxiety-provoking information (distinct from procrastination’s task avoidance), originally observed in investors avoiding bad market...
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#149: The Brain Science Behind Rejection, Overthinking, and Belonging
EP 149: The Brain Science Behind Rejection, Overthinking, and Belonging The TalkDoc & Co. discuss why being left on read or excluded can trigger intense overthinking, emphasizing it’s a normal brain response tied to a drive for connection and belonging, not a personality flaw. They explain…
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#148: This is Your Brain During a Conflict!
The TalkDoc & Co. explore what happens to your brain during a conflict. Those “flooding,” moments in conflict are challenging…the prefrontal cortex goes offline and the sympathetic nervous system triggers fight, flight, or freeze, leading to freezing, blanking out, or saying things you don’t…
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#147: Why Your Brain Fights Back When You Try to Change
The TalkDoc & Co. discuss how people use frames to interpret experiences and how reframing ideally in real time can change self-talk, perception, and fear responses. A story about cleaners mistakenly cleaning a friend’s house illustrates how fixed interpretations resist contradictory information....
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#146: Stop Guessing. Check Perceptions Instead!
The TalkDoc & Co. discuss how conversations stall when someone answers “fine” or “I guess,” and argue the real issue is an assumption habit rather than a communication habit. They emphasize replacing certainty with curiosity because ambiguity feels threatening, and introduce the “perception…
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#145: When You Shut Down Mid-Fight, This Is What's Happening Inside You!
In this episode, The TalkDoc & Co. explain “stonewalling” as one of John Gottman’s Four Horsemen (criticism, defensiveness, contempt, stonewalling) and frames it like a relationship “dashboard” warning light that, if persistent, predicts relationship termination. Stonewalling is described as...
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#144: How to Spot a Fake Apology (and Give a Real One)
The TalkDoc & Co. discuss why “crappy” apologies (e.g., “I’m sorry if I offended you,” “I’m sorry you feel that way,” “I’m sorry, but…,” “you know I’m sorry,” “my bad,” or “I guess I owe you an apology”) feel empty because they shift blame, lack reflection, and show no effort. They outline…
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#143: Never Have a Boring Conversation Again!
Stop Having Shallow Conversations: 3 Simple Tools to Get People Talking TalkDoc & Co. discuss how shallow, unsatisfying conversations often come from asking too many closed or leading questions and not “hanging around” for the answer. They define closed vs. open questions and explain that opening...
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#142: Holiday Gathering Survival Guide: Navigating Difficult Conversations!
In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo share real, honest, and practical ways to improve communication and relationships, especially during holiday gatherings. They recount personal anecdotes about family...
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#141: How to Manage Holiday Stress with Vanessa Trine, LPPC
In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo welcome back licensed therapist Vanessa Trine, known for her expertise in anxiety disorders and trauma. Vanessa shares practical ways to handle holiday stress and…
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#140: Meet the Parents! How to Introduce Your New Partner to Family
In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo delve into the dynamics of introducing a new partner to your family during the holidays. From deciding if your relationship is ready to tackling family traditions and...
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#139: Navigating Holiday Gift Giving and Money: Unwrapping Expectations
In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo discuss the holiday pressures of gift-giving. They share insights on finding meaningful and thoughtful gifts, the impact of mismatched gifts, and how to avoid financial...
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#138: The Power of First Impressions: Navigating The World of Appearances
In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo explore the profound impact of appearance on personal and professional relationships. From the concept of “pretty privilege” to the influence of grooming and scent, they...
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#137: Don’t Say It! When NOT Talking Is the Best Communication Strategy
In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo discuss the importance of editing our speech and the adage, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all." They explore the impact of words on…
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#136: Siblings Matter! Communication Strategies for Adult Sibling Relationships
In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo explore practical ways to enhance communication and strengthen relationships among adult siblings. They discuss common challenges such as dealing with aging parents,...
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#135: How to Navigate Adult Sibling Relationships
In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo dive deep into the complexities of adult sibling relationships. This episode responds to previous discussions about relationships with aging parents and transitions into...
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#134: Teaching Kids to Manage Conflict with Jason Harper
In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo are joined by Jason Harper, a professional mediator specializing in employment and special education. Jason shares his journey into mediation, the challenges of being a...
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#133: 👨👩👧 Adulting is Hard - Setting Boundaries with Parents🔒
In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo explore the challenges of adulting as both you and your parents age. The hosts explore practical strategies for setting boundaries, handling unsolicited advice, and...
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#132: 🔍Interpersonal Data Mining: Breaking Through Assumptions🔦
In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo discuss the impact of assumptions on relationships and provide practical tools to replace these assumptions with clarity. Through real-life examples, they explore how...
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#131: 📢 How to Give Feedback without Sounding Harsh 🔥
In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo explore the art of giving feedback. Reflecting on the discomfort of receiving harsh feedback, they present two effective strategies for providing constructive criticism...
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#130: Stop the Drama! How to Break the Avoid-Criticize Loop
In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo discuss the “Avoid Criticize Loop,” a destructive conflict pattern in relationships. They explain how indirect communication, passive-aggressive comments, and involving...
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#129: 🥉Dad Life: Insights on Balancing Home, Work and Self-Care
In this Father's Day special episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo step aside and give the microphones over to their spouses, Pete, Tom, and Ralph. In this episode, they dive into personal stories, tips for…
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#128: You Did It First! Breaking the Tit-for-Tat Trap
In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo dive into the topic of tit-for-tat arguing and its detrimental impact on relationships. They explore the concept of critical startup moments, blame shifting, and the…
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#127: Celebrating Motherhood: Lessons from the Mothership with Melissa Beck
In this heartfelt episode, we welcome back Melissa Beck, President of Anonymous Philanthropy, to share her wisdom on balancing the multifaceted roles of being a mother, career woman, and spouse. From managing career expectations, unseen labor, and burnout, to the importance of boundaries and the...
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#126: Embracing Common Ground We Didn’t Know We Had
In this enlightening episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo delve into the complexities of maintaining cherished relationships. The episode addresses the common tendency to focus on differences rather than…
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#125: Unlocking Optimism: The Art of Reframing
Welcome back to Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, featuring hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo. In today's episode, we explore “reframing”—a powerful mental communication tool backed by research that helps cultivate resilience, clarity, and purpose. The...
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#124: Mastering Boundaries: How to Say No and Improve Your Relationships!
In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo discuss the importance of setting boundaries in personal and professional relationships. They demystify common misconceptions, explore why boundaries are essential for healthy...
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#123: Stonewalling Explained: Why it Happens and How to Overcome it!
In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo explore the concept of stonewalling in relationships. They discuss common misconceptions, Gottman's Four Horsemen, and the damaging effects stonewalling can have on relationships....
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#122: Stop Taking It Personally! Managing Defensiveness
In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo take a deep dive into defensiveness in relationships. They explore how defensiveness affects communication, relationships, and even children, drawing from personal experiences and...
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#121: That's Not What I Meant! Unpacking Intent vs. Impact
In this episode of “Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc,” Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel and Teighlor Polendo discuss the intricacies of communication and relationships, emphasizing the difference between intent and impact. Using Maya Angelou's quote as a backdrop, the hosts explore how...
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#120: Unfiltered! The Joy and Curiosity of Children's Speech
In this episode, TalkDoc, Meredith and Teighlor dive into the hilarious and insightful things kids say. From funny family anecdotes to holiday preparations, discover the lighter side of parenting and the developmental quirks of childhood speech. Listen in as our hosts discuss the cognitive…
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#119: Navigating Conformity: When to Speak Up and When to Listen
In this episode, TalkDoc, Meredith and Teighlor share personal anecdotes from their week, including funny family moments and unexpected challenges that set the tone for a lively and relatable discussion. They dive into the fascinating dynamics of conformity and the pressures to fit in, exploring...
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#118: Cracking the Code on Humblebragging
In this episode of “Asking for a Friend,” hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo take a deep dive into the fascinating world of humblebragging. Together, they unpack what humblebragging really is, why we do it, and how it shapes our social interactions. With humor...
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#117: Cultivating Joy and Gratitude with TalkDoc and Atlas of the Heart
In this last episode of our three-part series on Brené Brown's Atlas of the Heart (2021), Meredith, Teighlor, and TalkDoc dive deep into Chapter 11 focusing on the concepts of joy, happiness, tranquility, and contentment. Engage with discussions on the importance of vulnerability, the impact of...
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#116: How To Keep an Open Heart with Meredith and Atlas of the Heart
In the second episode of our three-part series on Brené Brown's Atlas of the Heart (2021), Meredith, Teighlor, and TalkDoc dive deep into Chapter 10: 'The Places We Go When the Heart Is Open.' This chapter explores powerful emotions like love, heartbreak, trust, betrayal, defensiveness, and hurt....
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#115: True Belonging vs. Fitting In? A Deep Dive with Teighlor and Atlas of the Heart
Join hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo in this episode of Asking for a Friend with TalkDoc. They delve into Chapter 9 of Brené Brown's “Atlas of the Heart” which explores the places we go when we search for connection. Covering topics such as belonging…
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#114: AFAF with Melissa Beck on Impactful Generosity
In this episode, we welcome Melissa Beck, President of Anonymous, an organization specializing in philanthropic strategies for wealthy families. Melissa discusses the complexities of giving away money effectively, emphasizing the importance of identifying specific goals and passions. She…
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#113: Overcoming Comparison! The Thief of Joy
In this episode, we explore the deep-seated impact of comparison on our creativity, happiness, and overall well-being, inspired by the insights of Brené Brown. We dive into Social Comparison Theory, breaking down the differences between upward and downward comparisons, and how each shapes our...
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#112: Overcoming Negative Sentiment Override: Strategies for Healthier Relationships
In this insightful episode, hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser (TalkDoc), Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo dive into the phenomenon of negative sentiment override. Discover how negative experiences can overshadow positive ones in relationships and learn the importance of maintaining a healthy...
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#111: AFAF with Christopher Faris on Imposter Syndrome
Join us as we sit down with licensed marriage and family therapist Christopher Faris, who shares his journey from traditional therapy to creating engaging YouTube content on his channel Mort's Garage. In this episode, we delve into imposter syndrome—what it is, where it comes from, and how it...
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#110: AFAF Rewind! How to Control Your Anger
In this episode, hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo revisit episode 59 featuring Christopher Faris and Carrie Johnson. The discussion delves into anger management, exploring the nature of anger, its physiological effects, and strategies for controlling…
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#109: Direct vs. Indirect Communication: Understanding the Differences
In this episode of "Asking for a Friend,” join Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo dive deep into the nuances between direct and indirect communication styles. Through personal experiences, expert insights, and practical examples, they explore why individuals might...
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#108: Understanding Contempt: The Silent Relationship Killer
In this episode of "Asking for a Friend,” join Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo as they delve into the toxic dynamics of contempt in interpersonal relationships. Dubbed the "worst of the four horsemen" by renowned researcher John Gottman, contempt is a critical...
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#107: Lies Lies Lies! Exaggeration, Deception, and Confabulations
In this episode, we dive deep into the fascinating world of deception, exaggeration, and confabulations in our everyday interactions. We start by unraveling the mechanics of intentional deception, where people consciously mislead others to alter beliefs or obscure the truth. Our discussion then...
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#106: AFAF Rewind! Spotting Red and Green Flags in Relationships and Dating
Join TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor on the latest episode as we dive into understanding the intricacies of healthy relationships. In this episode, we revisit essential topics covered in our previous discussions on spotting red flags (Episode 80) and green flags (Episode 82). We take a...
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#105: The Truth About Lying: White Lies, Omission, and Equivocation
In this latest episode, TalkDoc, Meredith and Teighlor embark on a deep dive into the intricate world of deception within human communication and relationships. Unveiling the staggering statistics that reveal an average of three lies every ten minutes in a conversation, the hosts unravel the...
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#104: AFAF Rewind! How to Master Your Emotions
Join TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor on the latest episode of “Asking for a Friend with TalkDoc,” where we revisit an essential topic covered in Episode 58: Keeping Your Cool: How to Control Your Emotions So They Don't Control You. We explore practical strategies for navigating challenging...
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#103: Mom! Get Off Your Phone!
In this latest episode of our podcast, TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor tackle the intricate dance between mothers and their smartphone habits. With Mother's Day as our backdrop, we embark on a heartfelt exploration of personal anecdotes, unveiling the layers of guilt that often accompany…
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#102: AFAF Rewind! How to Express Your Emotions
Are your loved ones left guessing about your true feelings? Do you often find yourself taking the safer route by avoiding emotional conversations? It’s easy to overlook the importance of identifying, labeling, and expressing our emotions effectively. However, enhancing our emotional expression is...
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#101: AFAF with Carrie Johnson on Codependency and Hypervigilance
Understanding Codependency and Hypervigilance In this episode of Asking for a Friend with TalkDoc, we deep dive into the intricate dynamics of Codependency and Hypervigilance. Our guest, Carrie Johnson, brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to the table, enriching our understanding of these...
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Dr. Pamela Kreiser (with Meredith Edwards and Teighlor Polendo) shares her practical insights about how to improve relationships and promote peace—drawing upon her experience teaching graduate and undergraduate students, serving as a Lead Mediator, and training Mediators.Submit your questions to [email protected]: Communication, Interpersonal Communication, Interpersonal Conflict, Relationships, Mediation, Human Connection, Dyadic Communication, Interpersonal Communication Skills.
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