AuDHD and me

In this episode, Robert White shares his journey as an autistic, gay comedian who has navigated the world of stand-up, television, and touring while staying true to himself. We discuss how he balances authenticity, improvisation, and the challenges of performance through an autistic lens, highlighting the importance of humor in addressing social issues.Key Topics:Robert White's background in comedy and achievements, including Britain's Got Talent and Edinburgh Festival awardsHow Robert scripts and improvises his routines, comparing his approach to jazz improvisationThe role of masking and authenticity in performance for autistic individualsAudience demographics and the importance of connection over controversyHandling sensory sensitivities, audience reactions, and stage anxiety as an autistic performerThe use of comedy as a tool to provoke thought on identity, politics, and social justiceThe impact of societal attitudes on neurodivergence and sexualityThe balance between masking and being oneself on and off stageReflections on the politics of identity, including neurodivergence, sexuality, and raceRobert White - Official WebsiteBritain's Got Talent - Official PageMalcolm Hardy Award - Edinburgh FestivalJewish Comedian Joe BrandTwitterInstagramTimestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to Robert White's career and achievements00:45 - The work behind rehearsed and scripted comedy routines01:58 - Improvisation in comedy and jazz analogy02:48 - The diversity of Robert’s projects beyond stand-up03:18 - Balancing spontaneity and scripting in performances04:28 - Audience composition and neurodivergent viewers05:09 - The typical audience for Robert’s comedy shows06:04 - Audience reactions at private parties versus mainstream gigs07:41 - Experiences on Britain’s Got Talent and stage anxiety08:57 - Managing sensory and social sensitivities on stage10:22 - The calculation process in handling large audiences11:19 - The role of masking and authenticity in comedy12:27 - How stage processes help manage anxiety and audience reading12:56 - Genuineness during improvised moments in shows13:36 - Masking as a tool versus a negative aspect14:05 - The societal view on masking and authenticity15:16 - The persona vs. genuine self on stage16:39 - The evolution of Robert’s comedy from self-masking to authenticity17:33 - The significance of connecting with an audience as your true self18:13 - Impactful moments from the stage that foster genuine connection19:21 - Political and social commentary in comedy20:18 - The influence of societal issues on comedy content21:39 - The intersection of neurodivergence, sexuality, and social justice22:44 - Society’s treatment of neurodivergent individuals today23:33 - The power of humor in addressing identity and societal topics24:25 - Anti-hate messaging through comedy25:21 - Audience reactions and family influence25:40 - Final thoughts and encouragement for authenticity in performance26:43 - Closing remarks and upcoming performancesResources & Links:Connect with Robert White:https://www.robertwhitecomedy.comhttps://www.instagram.com/robertwhitejoke/https://www.facebook.com/robertwhitecomedianhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3jYsk2CL6f9Yh0b1s5iSgQhttps://www.tiktok.com/@robertwhitejoke

Ever felt overwhelmed trying to fit neurodivergent kids into a system that just wasn't built for them?Working with families in education, we see it all — small class sizes, flexible timings, and truly personalized learning can make a difference.But what if the entire system shifted to prioritize understanding and individuality?Imagine classrooms where every child is seen, heard, and respected for who they are. No more one-size-fits-all, just truly human education.It starts with honest conversations and rethinking what learning really means. I chat to @audhdaucioushumans. Martha and Jenni are the founders of AuDHDacious Humans, where they support discombobulated families to understand sensory systems, reframe behaviour, and ditch the systems that break them. With 40 years of combined teaching experience, they met at a progressive school where they became each other's children's key teachers. But despite knowing exactly what neurodivergent children needed, they realised their own AuDHD/PDA kids weren't school-shaped, not even alternative-school-shaped. So three years ago, they left the education system and started their real education.They went on to create Make & Create Club, a flexible, low-demand space where rule makers and rule breakers thrive. As late-diagnosed AuDHDers parenting pressure-sensitive children, they've lived this experience themselves, unravelling everything they thought they knew about parenting and education.Some people call it a journey. They call it a reckoning.What change could you see making the biggest difference?

Most of us take joy for granted—until we realise we’ve been suppressing it. Jon and I share how embracing authentic excitement transformed our lives. What if you stopped suppressing your passions and let yourself feel this all-consuming happiness? This episode breaks down the subtle yet powerful ways neurodivergent minds experience joy differently—whether through stimming, hyperfocus, or sensory-rich interests. You’ll discover: the significance of surrounding yourself with like-minded people who celebrate your enthusiasm, how unmasking can unlock deeper happiness, and why advocating for your needs is a form of self-love. We explore the barriers neurodivergent individuals face when embracing their joy, from societal expectations to internalised shame, revealing how self-acceptance opens the door to genuine fulfilment. We also delve into the quirks that make neurodivergent joy so unique—and why these are more than coping mechanisms: they are vital channels for self-regulation and happiness. With humour and empathy, we discuss how these joys ripple into everyday life—strengthening friendships, easing parenting, and fostering deep self-awareness. Particularly powerful is the reflection on how diagnosis changes everything—empowering us to be unapologetically ourselves.

In this episode I invite Victoria White back to talk about the intersection of neurodiversity and birth. We explore the importance of understanding neurodivergent experiences in perinatal care, the challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals during pregnancy and birth, and the need for healthcare professionals to be aware of these unique needs. Victoria shares her personal journey as a doula and a mother of a neurodivergent child, emphasizing the significance of communication, support, and self-awareness in creating a positive birthing experience for neurodivergent individuals. The conversation also addresses misconceptions surrounding neurodiversity and the importance of community engagement and resources for better support.You can find free resources at https://www.ndbirth.comYou can follow Neurodivergent Birth on social media https://www.instagram.com/neurodivergentbirth/

Understanding PDA: Demand Avoidance and Its Impact on Neurodivergent ChildrenThis episode features a heartfelt and insightful conversation about Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA) behavior, its misunderstood nature, and practical approaches for supporting neurodivergent children. Jessie shares her lived experience as a parent, explores the importance of framing PDA as a drive for autonomy, and discusses community support resources.Main Topics Covered:The definition and misconceptions of PDA as demand avoidanceThe importance of terminology shift from "pathological demand avoidance" to "drive for autonomy"How PDA manifests in children and adults, including behaviors like masking, dysregulation, swearing, and physical outburstsStrategies for reducing demands and framing requests to avoid escalationThe significance of understanding individual tolerance levels, sleep, hunger, and environmentThe role of support groups for parents and advocacy for school accommodationsPractical tips for daily routines, mealtime, and managing meltdownsThe impact of emotional regulation and nervous system-based interventionsCommunity resources and how to connect with others for supportResources & Links: Connect with Jessie:The PDA Society – Advocacy and information on PDALinda K. Murphy’s book on Declarative Language (search for exact title) – Effective communication strategiesPDA Parents Circle – Community and support network setup by JessieInstagram Profile of Jessie – For daily updates, resources, and community supportInstagramWebsite (coming soon!)Note: The insights shared in this episode aim to normalize neurodivergence and encourage tailored support that respects individual needs and autonomy.

In this episode I chat to the inspirational James Hunt. James is a devoted father and advocate for autism awareness. He shares his experiences raising two autistic sons and building a supportive community through social media and his clothing brand. We explore the nuances of communication, acceptance, and the power of connection in family life with autism. In this episode:James shares his motivations behind creating the "Stories About Autism" Instagram account and the impact it has had on his family and others.The significance of community, sharing, and catharsis in mental health and advocacy.Deep insights into non-speaking versus non-verbal communication and the importance of understanding different ways autistic individuals communicate.Celebrating small joys and moments of achievement, especially breakthroughs in communication like texting.The story behind James Hunt's clothing brand advocating neurodiversity and its role in fostering acceptance and connection.The process of writing a heartfelt book about navigating autism, life's unexpected challenges, and finding hope amid difficulty.James's hopes for his sons' future, emphasizing independence, happiness, and experiencing the world fully.Practical advice for families, parents, and allies to create inclusive environments and embrace neurodivergence.Resources & Links:Love Needs No Words - James Hunt's BookStories About Autism InstagramSAA Clothing InstagramJames Hunt's Advocate JumperInstagramFacebookWebsiteNote: James Hunt’s book "Love Needs No Words" is available now at major bookstores, including Amazon and local independents. The shop in Burnham-on-Crouch in Essex offers community-focused support and merchandise, that encourage acceptance and understanding worldwide.

In this episode, Caroline Thor, a professional organizer and Konmari consultant, shares practical insights specifically tailored to neurodivergent households. We explore personalized strategies for managing clutter, routines, and overwhelm, emphasizing that what works for one family may not work for another. Key topics:The importance of personalized and flexible organizing systems for neurodivergent familiesHow to approach clutter and tidying when children and parents are neurodivergentThe impact of environment on neurodivergent wellbeing and calmnessPractical tips for managing children's bedrooms, toy clutter, and routinesStrategies for adults to maintain tidiness and reduce overwhelmUsing gamification, timers, and visual labels to foster independence and consistencyThe significance of knowing what "good enough" looks like for your familyHandling emotional reactions to clutter and physical space managementThe benefits of systems like "tidy in 15 minutes" and body doubling sessionsAccepting individual differences and avoiding judgment in household organizationLiving Clutter Free Forever PodcastCaroline Thor - WebsiteMarie Kondo's The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie KondoKonmari MethodLabels and Storage SolutionsInstagramWebsite

Rethinking Autism and ADHD: An Inclusive & Neuro-Affirming Perspective with Dr. James Winkworth. Discover how recent developments challenge traditional views on autism and ADHD. This episode offers insights into neurodivergent experiences, diagnostic practices, and the importance of affirming identities, especially for girls and women. Key Topics:The evolution of autism diagnosis and understandingWhy autism and ADHD often go unnoticed in girls and womenThe limitations of traditional assessment tools like ADOS and alternativesThe role of masking in masking neurodivergent traitsThe importance of neuroaffirming practices and cultural differences in understanding autismHow societal narratives impact mental health and acceptancePractical advice for parents and educators on supporting neurodivergent childrenThe concept of "cultural difference" versus "disorder" in neurodiversityThe significance of positive self-identity and accurate information in diagnostic processesResources & Links:Cognition Clinical Psychology – Private assessment and neurodiversity supportAutism Spectrum Disorder Diagnostic Criteria – DSM-5 overviewDr. James Winkworth on LinkedInUta Thrift's Perspective on Autism Spectrum – Recent debates on masking and spectrum understandingThe Autistic Self Advocacy Network – Resources promoting neuroaffirming practicesLinkedInCognition Clinical Psychology WebsiteConnect with Dr. James Winkworth:This episode promotes a compassionate, evolving view of neurodivergence—emphasizing respect, understanding, and the importance of authentic identities.You can find James and all his info at https://cognitionclinicalpsychology.co.uk

This episode features Dr. Helen Wall, a GP and menopause specialist, discussing women’s health, hormonal impacts on mental health, and the importance of personalized treatment approaches. We explore PMDD, hormone sensitivity, and how hormonal fluctuations influence mental and emotional well-being, especially in neurodivergent women and during perimenopause.KEY TOPICS​The significance of body language and empathetic listening in healthcare​The underfunding and slow progress of women's health research​The influence of sex hormones on brain function and emotional regulation​The prevalence and severity of PMDD, especially its link with ADHD​Hormonal fluctuations during perimenopause and their impact on mood​Progesterone sensitivity and responses to synthetic vs. body-identical hormones​The stigmas around antidepressant use and the importance of individualized care​The potential role of HRT and SSRIs in managing PMDD and menopausal symptoms​The need for better education among clinicians about female hormones’ effects​Practical tips for women to advocate for themselves in healthcare settingsResources:​British Menopause Society​HRT - NICE Guidelines​Understanding PMDD - Scientific PaperConnect with Dr Helen:​Instagram​Website

Join me for a slightly chaotic conversation with Jon as we explore the nuances of autism, neurodivergence, and how these experiences shape daily life. We cover everything from sensory sensitivities and special interests to social masking and shared coping strategies — a truly heartfelt, insightful and slightly crazy discussion (thanks ADHD!). In this episode:Personal stories highlighting sensory sensitivities, including fabric textures and food aversionsHow masking and masking privileges function in different environmentsThe role of special interests like Lego, Pokemon, and books in providing comfort and structureThe importance of routines, routines, and grounding rituals like matching drinks and charity shopsUnique perspectives on social communication, over-explaining, and interpreting humorThe impact of neurodivergence on management and work experiencesNavigating change: moving house, career shiftsJoy in shared passions and understanding, from TV shows like Bob’s Burgers and Fraggle Rock to collections of memorabiliaThe significance of affirming connection and community among neurodivergent individualsResources & Links:Autism Spectrum Disorder - Mayo ClinicAutism Acceptance and Neurodiversity ResourcesThe Autism Research InstituteBook: NeuroTribes by Steve SilbermanBob's Burgers - Official YouTube ChannelFraggle Rock Official SiteVinted - Buy and Sell Secondhand ClothesConnect with Jon:Jon's InstagramAuDHD or just a bit weird podcast

Ever felt the thrill and nerves of meeting someone you've only known online? Today’s the big day! Meeting John for the first time after months of voice notes. Jon and I planned a fun day out in London, diving deep into our shared special interests!I’m juggling last-minute meal prep for the kids, and honestly? It’s a bit chaotic! But the excitement is real. Meeting someone in person after connecting online is a whole different ballgame. Will I be my true self or put on a mask? Who knows? Let’s see how this unfolds!

In this episode I chat to Chrissy and Sarah from ADHD Peri Punks, discussing the intersection of ADHD, perimenopause, and mental health. They share their personal journeys, the challenges they faced, and the importance of community and support. The podcast aims to raise awareness about these issues, particularly for women who may be navigating similar experiences. They emphasize the need for authenticity, self-advocacy, and the importance of educating partners and family members about neurodivergence and women's health.

In this episode I chat to Liz, an ADHD and executive function coach, who has previously worked in health and social care for 30 years. She is a coach through Green Thread ADHD Coaching, and an associate with Foundations Assessments, coaching adults, young people and parents who may be formally diagnosed with ADHD and/or autism or suspect/display traits. In this conversation, we discuss the intricacies of ADHD coaching, exploring Liz's personal journey into coaching, the importance of understanding executive functioning, and how tailored coaching can help individuals with ADHD and autism. We delve into the significance of recognizing burnout, the need for self-awareness, and the challenges faced by parents of neurodivergent children. Liz emphasizes the importance of creating a supportive environment and the role of coaching in navigating workplace accommodations and personal growth.

In this episode, I chat to Victoria White, founder of Neurodivergent Birth, and fellow late diagnosed AuDHD person. We explore the journey of understanding neurodivergence, both personally and in the context of parenting. We also discuss the challenges and validation found in the assessment process, the importance of community support, and how our experiences shape our parenting styles. The dialogue emphasizes the emotional intelligence of neurodivergent individuals and the transformative power of self-discovery.You can find Victoria on instagram at https://www.instagram.com/neurodivergentbirth/ or their website https://www.ndbirth.com/

In this conversation, I chat to Michelle Jaques, and discuss the complexities of Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID) through personal experiences. Michelle shares her journey as a mother of two neurodivergent children, one diagnosed with ARFID, highlighting the daily challenges, emotional toll, and societal misunderstandings surrounding the condition. They explore the impact of ARFID on family dynamics, health, and the importance of raising awareness and finding support. The discussion emphasizes the need for empathy and understanding from others, as well as the unique struggles faced by families dealing with ARFID. You can find Michelle on social media here:www.Instagram.com/arfid_life_uk www.tiktok.com/@arfid_life_uk Facebook https://www.facebook.com/share/1A2pXSifhD/If you'd like more information on ARFID you can go to: https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk

In this episode I chat to Laura Mears-Reynolds, Globally acclaimed ADHD Podcaster and Activist, Twice NDA Award Nominee, and now ADHDAF+ Charity CEO. We discuss the challenges and triumphs of living with ADHD, the importance of community support, and the advocacy work being done to raise awareness and provide resources for those affected by ADHD. We explore personal experiences, the impact of gender on ADHD understanding, and the significance of creative approaches to education and awareness, including the vibrant ADHD AF Day. You can find Laura online at Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adhdafpodcast/ADHDAF podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/0Bt32kDxZGiGjW8v1q3Lk7?si=cb91e898d5e24145ADHDAF website: https://www.adhdasfemales.comADHDAF Emporium: https://www.adhdafemporium.com/

In this episode I chat to Calial McCarty. Calial is a therapist, parent, trainer, and consultant focused on mental health, neurodivergence, and complex health needs, and author of Naturally Divergent, her first book. We talk about why Calial wrote her book, and what it's for. We dive in to the benefits of the MIGDAS assessment tool for autism and why it's superior to the ADOS. We also share our views and stories parenting neurodivergent children as neurodivergent adults. You can find Calial at https://www.mccartytherapysolutions.com and on social media https://www.instagram.com/naturally_divergent_therapist/ and https://www.facebook.com/calial.lyonHer book is available here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/naturally-divergent/calial-mccarty//9798218724382

In this episode I chat to Clare, a late diagnosed autistic mum of 2 toddlers. We chat about the impact late diagnosis can have, parenting when you're neurodivergent, and we dip in to the horror that is PMDD. It was lovely to chat to Clare, who I've followed on TikTok for a long time, and I hope to have her on again in the future!You can find Clare on instagram and TikTok at:https://www.tiktok.com/@notallclarehttps://www.instagram.com/notallclareIf you'd like more information about PMDD, go to https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/premenstrual-dysphoric-disorder-pmdd/what-is-pmdd/

In this episode I chat to Lisa Lloyd. Lisa is the Sunday Times bestselling author of Raising the SEN-betweeners and Special Educational Needs campaigner! She describes herself as an Autistic honest mum raising very honest autistic kids, Finley and Poppy. Her tiktoks are hilarious and educating in equal measures, and she’s an active member of the neurodivergent community in Kent, attending and giving talks with local parents and creating a safe space to be authentic and supported in parenting neurodivergent children.We chat about parenting when you're neurodivergent yourself, raising autistic children and fighting for adequate support for them in education, a little rant on politics, and the highs and lows of being a social media influencer.You can find Lisa on the following social media platforms:https://www.facebook.com/ASDwithGandT/https://www.instagram.com/asd_with_a_g_and_thttps://www.tiktok.com/@asd.with.a.g.and.tYou can purchase a copy of her book here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Raising-SEN-Betweeners-bestselling-parenting-between/dp/1785045881/The West Kent SEN parenting group can be found here: https://thenet.uk.net/charities-and-voluntary-groups/west-kent-autism-parents-support-society/

In this episode I chat to Flo, was was diagnosed autistic in her 20s, and later ADHD. Flo was featured on BBC’s Inside our Autistic Minds with Chris Packham, where she shared how her late diagnosis impacted her life and her relationships around her. Flo is a comedian, and her TikTok account has kept me entertained with her funny anecdotes, dry humour and honesty! You can find Flo on TikTok at https://www.tiktok.com/@gotta.go.with.the.floYou can also watch Flo's episode of Inside our Autistic Minds on BBC iPlayer here: https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p0bbnjvx/inside-our-minds-inside-our-autistic-minds-episode-1Disclaimer: All of the opinions and information in this podcast are our own, and we do not offer medical information or advice.

I launch the AuDHD and Me podcast with an interview with the person who made this podcast happen! Jon is the host of "AuDHD or just a bit weird?" podcast, and kindly invited me to be on their show after following me on instagram. There started a wonderful friendship, full of understanding, laughs and support. So naturally I had to have them on the podcast to launch AuDHD and me! Jon is late realised (and recently diagnosed!) ADHD and self diagnosed autistic. We talk about the isolation and misunderstandings that occur living a life unrealised and undiagnosed, why channels like our podcasts are so important for education, awareness raising and reducing neurodivergent alienation, and all of the co-occuring conditions that commonly come with ADHD and autism.Be prepared for an authentic conversation, with lots of going off topic, lots of laughs, and a smattering of oversharing naturally!You can find Jon on the following socials:https://www.instagram.com/audhdorjustabitweird/https://www.tiktok.com/@audhdorjustabitweirdYou can check out Jon's podcast on Spotify here: https://open.spotify.com/show/3IUOruolsNuHXJBD5mwbCPDisclaimer: All of the opinions and information in this podcast are our own, and we do not offer medical information or advice.