BeThatHealingGirl Podcast
by bethathealinggirl
Listen up Girlies!! Healing isn’t just a (hot girl) walk in the park, it’s a damn journey. The BeThatHealingGirl Podcast is all about busting old school dating myths, breaking down our childhood traumas, unlearning our bad habits and healing your way to your DREAM LIFE! Let’s keep it real and begin to heal because honestly… eff that guy not texting you back, stop worrying about being liked, it’s time to let go of anxious attachment behaviors, start getting comfortable with being vulnerable and know your damn worth! So stop wishing you were her, join the journey and BE that healing girl.
Episodes
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Lies Your Overthinking Tells You When The Vibe Feels “Off”
You know when your partner's energy feels just a LITTLE different and suddenly you're convinced your entire relationship is falling apart? 😭 They send a shorter text. They're quieter than usual. They don't seem quite as affectionate. And your brain is like, “WELL. IT WAS NICE WHILE IT LASTED.”…
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Helpful Reminder if You Keep Thinking “What if” When You’re Triggered
In this episode, we're talking about that awful feeling that your anxious attachment is going to push someone away, and what happens when you're so afraid of being "too much" that you start making yourself smaller. Because there's a difference between having needs, experiencing relationship...
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What To Do Differently When Things Feel Distant in Your Relationship
You know that feeling when your partner takes a little longer to text back, seems slightly less affectionate, or doesn't send the usual goodnight emoji and suddenly your brain is screaming SOMETHING IS WRONG?! 😭 Babe. I've BEEN there. In this episode, we're talking about what to do when your...
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When You Feel Like You’re “Too Much” in a Relationship
Have you ever worried that you're just... TOO MUCH in your relationship? 😭 Too needy. Too sensitive. Too emotional. Too many questions. Too much reassurance. Meanwhile, you're a fully functioning, independent, successful woman in literally every other area of your life. MAKE IT MAKE SENSE. In…
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Does Your Anxiety Make You Think You’re Not a Priority?
You rearrange your schedule. Keep your weekends open. Make sure there’s time to see them. And somehow you’re STILL sitting there thinking… why don’t I feel like a priority?! 😭 In this episode, we’re talking about what can actually be happening when you feel unimportant or unchosen in your...
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The Easiest Way to Stop Needing Constant Reassurance
You know when your partner has told you they love you, shown you they love you, and your anxious attachment is STILL like... okay but can you tell me again? 😭 In this episode, we’re talking about why you crave constant reassurance in your relationship and why trying to force yourself to “stop...
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Why Your Overthinking isn’t Changing (no matter how hard you try)
You’ve read the books. Saved the posts. You KNOW you have anxious attachment. So why are you still overthinking everything?! 😭 In this episode, we’re talking about the frustrating gap between knowing your patterns and actually changing them. Because being wildly self-aware doesn’t necessarily…
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What I Told Myself When My Anxious Attachment Was Triggered (that 100% helped)
In this episode, I’m sharing the 3 things I learned to tell myself when my anxious attachment was triggered that helped me stop turning one tiny vibe shift into an entire relationship spiral. We’re talking about why you can’t out-logic your nervous system, why what feels hysteric can be historic,...
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When Their Silence Feels Like They've Stopped Caring
You know that feeling when they haven't texted back and suddenly your brain is doing A Beautiful Mind level calculations trying to figure out what it means? 😭 They told you they have a busy day. They've consistently shown you they care. You KNOW logically that nothing is wrong. But your anxious...
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How to Stop Overthinking When There’s Nothing Actually Wrong
Ever have one of those weekends where everything was amazing... and then Sunday rolls around and suddenly your brain is convinced something is wrong? Yeah. I know that spiral. Your partner is kind. They're consistent. Their words match their actions. They've given you absolutely no reason to...
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How to Calm Your Anxiety When Your Partner Feels Distant
Ever feel like your partner gets quiet and suddenly your entire nervous system decides the relationship is ending? Yep. Been there. In this episode, I'm sharing one of the biggest shifts that helped me stop spiraling every time I thought something felt "off" in my relationship. If you're a high...
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How You Are Ruining a Good Relationship with Self Sabotage
Hey Girlies! It's your girl Clare back at it with another episode of the BeThatHealingGirl Podcast where we're diving into the real and sometimes messy parts of our love lives. 🌟 This week is all about self-sabotage. Yep, been there, sabotaged that... especially with those sweet, secure types…
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Anxious attachment making up fake scenarios? (My brain made up an affair!)
Have you ever been convinced something was wrong in your relationship... only to realize later your brain completely made it up? Maybe they took longer to text back. Maybe they seemed quieter than usual. Maybe one tiny moment turned into a full-blown story that had you convinced they were losing...
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What To Do When Your Anxious Attachment is Pushing a Good Person Away
Hey Girlies! It's your girl Clare back at it with another episode of the BeThatHEalingGirl Podcast where we're diving into the real and sometimes messy parts of our love lives. 🌟 This week is all about self-sabotage. Yep, been there, sabotaged that especially with those sweet, secure types who...
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The Real Reason Why You Think You Need Constant Reassurance
In this week's episode, I'm unpacking why reassurance never seems to stick and why asking for more isn't actually the thing that's going to make you feel safe. One of the biggest mindset shifts I ever had was realizing I wasn't really asking: "Do you love me?" I was asking: "Am I safe?" And those...
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What To Do When Your Anxious Attachment is Pushing a Good Person Away
If you've ever felt like you're pushing a good person away because of your anxiety, or if you're caught in the same argument cycle every few weeks, this episode is a must-listen for you. Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or even married and finding those anxious triggers popping up, I'm...
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The Hard Truth: Why You Still Overthink (Even After All The Work)
You know you're overthinking... so why can't you stop? 🤯 You've read the books. Listened to the podcasts. You know your attachment style, your triggers, and exactly why you're spiraling... ...so why are you still spiraling? In this episode, we'll unpack the hard truth that most self-aware women...
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Why The Good Times Still Trigger Your Anxiety
You had an amazing weekend together... So why are you MORE anxious now? 😅 If you've ever caught yourself overthinking after things went well ("Why am I spiraling? Nothing even happened..."), this episode is for you. In this episode, I'm breaking down why anxious attachment often gets triggered...
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How To Survive The Overthinking Spiral (Even though you know better!)
You know they're a good partner. So why does your brain still act like you're about to get abandoned? 😵💫 You know your attachment style. You've read the books. You can literally watch yourself spiraling... ...and somehow you still can't stop. In this week's episode I'm breaking down why…
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How To stop OVERTHINKING Relationships
Hey Girlies! It's Clare, your go-to gal for navigating the rollercoaster of emotions that is modern dating and relationships. This week we're diving into a topic that I know way too well, and I bet you do too: overthinking in relationships. You know the drill - analyzing texts, second-guessing...
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He Hasn't Texted You... Now What?!
Hey Girlies! Buckle up for a wild ride where I’ll be spilling the piping hot tea on all things love, anxiety, and healing. This episode is all about the down and dirty truth about anxious attachment (and how to start healing now!) Ever find yourself obsessing over a text (or lack thereof) from…
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What Breaking the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle Actually Takes
You keep chasing. They keep pulling away. And somehow you're both exhausted. 😵💫 If you've ever felt like you're carrying the relationship, making all the plans, initiating all the conversations, and doing all the emotional heavy lifting... this episode is for you. Because here's the hard…
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What To Do With Yourself When They Feel Distant
They're busy, stressed, traveling, focused on work... and logically you know nothing is wrong. But your nervous system? Your nervous system is acting like the relationship is on fire. In this episode, we're talking about what to do with yourself when your partner feels distant and why the answer...
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The Reason You SPIRAL (Even After The BEST Weekend Together)
If you’ve ever had the BEST weekend together… only to spiral the second Monday hits? This episode is for you. We’re diving into: ✨ why the “post-weekend crash” happens ✨ why anxiety gets louder after connection - not quieter ✨ the hidden loop behind overthinking, decoding texts, and picking…
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Why you Feel Confident in Life But Anxious in Your Relationship
This episode is for the girlies who have the degrees, the promotions, the emotional intelligence, the podcasts, the therapy vocabulary… and still feel like they’re one weird text away from a spiral. And if you’re tired of “understanding your patterns” but still feeling stuck inside them… I'm also...
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How to Stop Feeling Like You're Too Much in Your Relationship
If you constantly feel like you’re “too much” in relationships… this episode is for you. 🫶 Not because your needs are too big. Not because you’re “crazy.” Not because you care too much. But because somewhere along the way, you learned that being lovable meant being easy. Easy to date. Easy to...
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What "If He Wanted To He Would" Is Actually Doing To Your Relationship
“If he wanted to he would” doesn’t create clarity it creates pressure, testing, and a constant feeling of “am I being chosen enough?” And that’s where the spiral starts. In this episode, we break down: 💭 Why “if he wanted to he would” fuels overthinking and relationship anxiety 🧠 How this…
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Are You Testing Your Partner Without Realizing It?
Have you ever pulled back just to see if they notice? Waited to text… to see if they text first? Stayed quiet about what you wanted… just to see if they remembered? Yeah. That counts as testing. And if you’re doing this (even subtly) it might be the exact reason your relationship feels…
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What I Changed To Stop Chasing Constant Reassurance
We're talking about the loop today. The one where you keep checking: "Are we good?" "Do you still like me?" "Is everything okay?" And even when they reassure you… it doesn’t stick. In this episode, we talk about: 💭 Why reassurance feels good… but never lasts 🧠 The sneaky way reassurance becomes...
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How to stop getting anxiously triggered in your safe relationship
You know they’re a good partner. They text back. They show up. They follow through. And yet… you’re still spiraling. 😅 You’re analyzing tone. Second-guessing everything. White-knuckling your way through a relationship that is actually safe. And if you’ve ever thought: “Why can’t I just relax…
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3 Things I Did to Face My Biggest Relationship Trigger (That Most People Skip)
3 Things I Did to Face My Biggest Relationship Anxiety Triggers (That Most People Skip) If you’ve ever felt terrified that they might leave… If a delayed text ruins your whole day… If you logically know it’s not that big of a deal, but emotionally you feel completely hijacked… This episode is for...
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You’re Self Aware So Why Are You Still Triggered?
You’ve done the work. Read the books. Listened to the podcasts. Saved the reels. You know your triggers… and yet somehow, you’re still getting activated. 😅 So what gives? In this episode, we’re talking about the frustrating gap between knowing better and feeling better... and why self-awareness...
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What To Do When You Start Spiraling in Your Relationship
If you’ve ever caught yourself rereading texts, overanalyzing tone, imagining worst-case scenarios, or feeling your chest tighten because something feels off... this episode is for you. In this episode we’re talking about what to actually do in the moment when you start spiraling in your...
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Why Working Harder Isn’t Changing Your Anxious Attachment
Let’s talk about something that feels productive… but is actually keeping you stuck: working harder in your relationship. You know what I mean. You’ve got the notes app open in bed. You’re rewriting the text. Replaying the conversation. Journaling it out. Trying to say it the right way so you…
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What Secure Love Actually Feels Like
Today’s episode is a really special one because I’m joined by my dear friend and former client, Alyssa, and we’re talking about something that so many women with anxious attachment quietly wonder: What does secure love actually feel like? Not the Instagram version. Not the “perfect relationship”...
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Are You Overthinking… Or Self-Sabotaging Your Relationship
Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl Podcast! Today we’re talking about something I see constantly with my clients...and honestly something I know very well from my own life too: the overthinking spiral. You know the one. You reread the texts. You rewrite the message three times before…
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Why Being a High Achiever Makes Relationship Anxiety Worse
In this week’s episode of the Be That Healing Girl podcast, we’re getting real about one of the biggest patterns in anxious attachment: trying to “project manage” love instead of actually participating in partnership. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the emotional labor… overthinking…
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Why Valentine's Day Didn't Feel As You Hoped
Why didn’t Valentine’s Day feel the way you hoped… even though your partner is actually a good person? In this episode of the Be That Healing Girl Podcast, I’m breaking down the real reason you felt disappointed after Valentine’s Day, a weekend together, a date, or quality time — and why it...
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When You’re Worried They Won’t Show Up For You on Valentines Day
Worried they won’t show up for you on Valentine’s Day? Spiraling about whether you’ll feel chosen, loved, or disappointed? This episode is for you. 💔 In this week’s podcast ep, we’re talking about relationship anxiety around Valentine’s Day... and why overthinking romance, surprises, and...
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Why You Overthink When Nothing is Wrong in the Relationship
If things feel safe in person but the moment you’re apart your brain goes into panic mode… this is the episode to save, replay, and send to your bestie. In this episode I share: ✨ Why your brain goes into “red alert” even when there’s no actual danger ✨ What overthinking is really trying to…
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I Didn’t Look at the Facts, and My Relationship Paid the Price
In today’s episode, I’m getting real about the moment I didn’t look at the facts and how my relationship paid the price. If you’re an overthinker, a scenario-maker, a “what if” queen, or someone who keeps searching for problems when there are none… this episode is for you. Because here’s the hard...
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How to Stop Trying So Hard Because You’re Scared They’ll Stop Loving You
Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl podcast! 🧠💘 Today’s episode is for the girlies who are exhausted from being the emotional project manager of their relationship. You know the one: the planner, the fixer, the emotional laborer, the one Googling “how to stop being anxious but still be...
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A Simple Way to Slow Down an Overthinking Spiral in the Moment
If your brain goes from 0 to 100 the second something feels “off” ... if you replay conversations, wait for texts, or feel that frantic “I have to fix this” energy... this episode is for you! In today's podcast I’m walking you through a simple, science‑backed breathing tool you can use right now…
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Why You Get More Anxious the More You Focus on Your Relationship
If you’ve ever said *“I’m gonna be the BEST partner ever and do all the right things”… and then wondered why you still feel anxious, on edge, or like you're constantly spiraling... this episode is for you. Today, I’m breaking down why over-focusing on your relationship is actually making you feel...
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3 Anxious Attachment Habits That Ruin Your Relationships Over Time
In this episode we’re breaking down the 3 most common (but sneaky) anxious attachment habits that slowly destroy connection over time... even in loving relationships! If you: - Feel like you’re too much or never enough - Constantly overanalyze texts, tone, or timing - Chase closeness, but end up...
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The Fastest Way To Calm An Overthinking Spiral
If your thoughts are spiraling… If you’re checking your phone again… If your brain won’t slow down and it feels like your nervous system is in overdrive… This episode is your quick reset. 🤍 In today’s episode I’m walking you through the fastest and most effective tool I use to calm an anxious...
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How To Stay Grounded When Their Mood or Distance Triggers Your Anxiety
In today’s episode I’m breaking down why your nervous system reacts so intensely to your partner’s mood, distance, or emotional shifts... and more importantly, how to stay grounded instead of spiraling. This one is especially for my high‑achieving, high‑functioning girlies who are crushing it at...
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Why Choosing Yourself Makes Your Relationship Feel More Safe
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What Happens When You Keep Saying "I'm Fine" When You're Really Not
You say “I’m fine”… But your stomach’s in knots. Your voice is quieter than usual. You’re spinning in your head while trying to act chill on the outside. Sound familiar? In this episode, I’m breaking down what really happens in your body, your brain, and your relationships when you keep…
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How We Talked through Something Scary without Pushing Each Other Away
We’ve always agreed we didn’t want kids. But suddenly, with a hysterectomy on the table… I felt wobbly. And there was this tiny part of me whispering, “If I bring up my 'unsureness'… is everything going to change?” In my past relationships, feeling unsure or changing my mind felt like a no-go…
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Listen up Girlies!! Healing isn’t just a (hot girl) walk in the park, it’s a damn journey. The BeThatHealingGirl Podcast is all about busting old school dating myths, breaking down our childhood traumas, unlearning our bad habits and healing your way to your DREAM LIFE! Let’s keep it real and begin to heal because honestly… eff that guy not texting you back, stop worrying about being liked, it’s time to let go of anxious attachment behaviors, start getting comfortable with being vulnerable and know your damn worth! So stop wishing you were her, join the journey and BE that healing girl.
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