Better Together! Christian Marriage and Parenting

Have you ever heart... "Sure, whatever" only to come home to a furious spouse? This isn't a lack of communication skills—it's the Different Glasses Problem.We reveal why husbands and wives often see the same moment through completely different lenses: Blue Glasses filter through logic and respect, while Pink Glasses filter through love and emotional connection.Discover the critical truth found in Ephesians 5:33 and the universal core needs of men (respect) and women (love).We'll expose the three most dangerous phrases—"Sure, whatever," "I'm Fine," and "We Need to Talk"—and give you practical Translation Tools to bridge the gap.Stop focusing on the 7% (the words) and start understanding the 93% (tone and context) to experience breakthroughs in your marriage.

The empty nest can feel like a sudden silence after years of a full house. It’s a time of major change, and it's okay to feel a mix of emotions—grief, excitement, and uncertainty. But what if this new season isn't just an ending, but a new beginning designed by God?In this episode, my wife, Lorrie, and I share 10 powerful, biblical truths to help you find joy and purpose in the empty nest. We'll explore:Why we are stewards, not owners, of our children.How to shift your prayers from management to intercession.Finding your identity not in your role as "parent," but in Christ alone.The importance of building a deeper relationship with your spouse now that you have more time together.Whether you're already an empty nester or just getting ready for the transition, this episode is full of practical wisdom and encouragement to help you embrace the season God has for you.

Welcome to Better Together! This is the podcast for Christian couples and parents seeking to build a stronger, more intentional family. We dive into real-life topics like communication, discipline, and spiritual growth, offering practical advice and heartfelt encouragement grounded in God's Word.Join us weekly as we navigate the challenges and joys of marriage and parenting, learning to grow closer to each other and to God every day.

Imagine this: You've raised your kids, your house is quieter, and you're finally free to focus on yourself... only to realize that your marriage is falling apart. This is a more common occurrence than you might think.In today's episode, we're diving into the all-too-real danger of post-kid divorce. We'll explore why it happens and provide practical tips to prevent it.Check out our youtube channel where DJ answers some of life's toughest questions from God's Word!!  www.youtube.com/@djharryteaches

Hey there, Parents! Today on Better Together, we're talking about something that's super important but can be really tough: being on the same page in your parenting. We've definitely made our fair share of mistakes in this area, especially early on in our marriage.For us it often seemed to center around discipline...we just weren't on the same wavelength! Yeah, it wasn't pretty.But we've learned that when it comes to parenting, unity is key. Having those tough conversations behind closed doors and presenting a united front to our kids is essential. Disunity can create a wedge between you and your spouse, and it can leave your kids feeling confused and insecure. So, let's talk about how to bridge the gap, find common ground, and work together to raise happy, healthy, and faithful kids!Let's do this together!

Hey there, Parents! Today on Better Together, we're diving into a topic that's super important but often overlooked: setting boundaries for your kids. Let's face it, boundaries can feel like a buzzkill sometimes. We want our kids to feel loved and free, but without clear limits, things can get chaotic fast. We're talking confusion, frustration, and a whole lot of it!!  But guess what? Boundaries aren't about being mean or strict. They're actually a way to show your kids that you really love them. When they know what's expected of them, they feel more secure and less anxious. It's like having a roadmap for life. So, let's talk about how to set boundaries that are both loving and effective. We'll share some real-life examples and practical tips that you can start using today. Let's do this together!

We recorded a previous episode on the analogy of parents as coaches...and walked through how parenting changes as your kids mature and change. We have also talked a lot about the seasons of parenting...it has come up in several episodes.As our children walk through those seasons of life, the discipline that we impose serves a different purpose depending on the season of developement... So today we are going to talk about the purpose of discipline for our children and how it changes as they change!

From the time you brought your precious little baby home from the hospital to the day they step out into their own adult life, the Biblical design for parenting is taking a helpless, dependent baby and producing an adult that has discernment, wisdom, and independence.What is the goal of parenting?Is it to raise great kids? Is it for your kids to have fun? Is it to train your kids to be respectful and well-adjusted?Nope...your job as a parent is to train up God-fearing, well adjusted, equipped adults!

In this special episode, we welcome Catherine Segars, a seasoned author, speaker, and stay-at-home mom, who hosts the insightful podcast, Christian Parent/Crazy World. Joining forces with Lorrie and me, Catherine shares invaluable strategies for parents navigating the challenges of raising children in an ungodly culture. Together, we explore six empowering tools that parents can teach their kids, equipping them to stand strong against the pressures of a world that often challenges their faith.

The marriage road often has cracks...and if those cracks are left unattended they can lead to destructive ends. Marriage left to itself will naturally deteriorate...and so God has called us to proactively meet the needs of our spouse and to deal with issues when they are small and manageable. Join us as we look at the common pathways of pain in marriage and how we can avoid them!!

In this empowering episode, we delve into the heart of marital harmony, exploring how wives can become truly irresistible to their husbands by meeting their essential needs. From the cornerstone of respect to the building blocks of intimacy, companionship, inner beauty, and reliable domestic support, we unravel the keys to fostering a connection that goes beyond the ordinary. Join us as we share practical insights and actionable tips for wives eager to understand and fulfill their husband's deepest desires. Whether you're looking to strengthen your bond or seeking to infuse more joy into your marriage, this episode is a guide to becoming the irresistible partner your husband has always longed for. Tune in and discover the profound art of meeting your husband's needs, creating a love that flourishes in every aspect of life.

In this episode, we're talking about how husbands can meet the needs of their wives and become irresistable in the process! We'll cover the basics like showing love, talking openly, being honest, handling finances, and strong family commitments. Join us for easy-to-follow tips on how husbands can meet these needs and become the kind of spouse their wives find irresistable. If you want to make your marriage stronger or just add more love to it, this episode is for you!

In this insightful episode, we unravel the intricacies of parenting styles, exploring the distinct approaches that shape family dynamics. From the laid-back permissive style to the structured authoritative approach, and the emotionally distant parenting to the values-driven Biblical model, we navigate through the strengths, challenges, and impacts each style has on children. Join us as we delve into the art of parenting, providing valuable insights and practical tips to help you identify and understand your parenting style. Whether you're looking to refine your approach or seeking alignment with timeless principles, this episode offers a compass for the rewarding journey of parenthood.

The process of shepherding your child through the teenage years can be daunting and difficult...and the issue of dating is often the one that creates the most tension and stress in the home.In this episode we look at how to help your child navigate dating relationship while keeping them focused on God's plan for their lives!

When it comes to parenting, there is a huge difference between consequences, discipline, and correction...and each have an important part in the instruction process of parenting. Listen in as we not only define these terms, but give real world examples of the differences...and how we use each of them in our home with our own children!!

One of the most dangerous and volatile of the family dynamics that can exist in a marriage is in regards to in-laws. It is no wonder that our culture often villifies in-laws. Though seems to be the norm in our culture, there is a way to navigate the in-law landmines and come out on the other side with great mother-in-law and father-in-law relationships!! In this episode we look at several ways to hava wonderful and loving in-law relationships!

In this episode, we explore the essential topic of overcoming common barriers to marital communication. We delve into five obstacles that often hinder effective dialogue in marriages: sarcasm, minimizing hurts, defensiveness, shutdown statements, and universal statements...and offer valuable insights and practical tips to break down these barriers, fostering healthier and more open communication between you and your spouse! Tune in to discover how to navigate these communication challenges and strengthen your marital connection.

The transfer of faith to your children is not automatic...it is not a mechanical process. Christian parents must be intentional regarding their faith and the faith of their children. In this episode we look at several foundational truths regarding our children and the priority of shepherding our families!

Compassion doesn't happen naturally in our homes...it takes work, training, demonstrating...and eventually a supernatural moving in the lives of our children to give them a spiritual compassion for those that are hurting.In this episode we talk about compassion in the home....ways that we can nuture a spirit of empathy in our children.

In this candid episode, we delve deep into a common struggle within marriages that often goes unnoticed until it becomes a glaring issue – the inability to truly understand our spouse. We explore how the busyness of family life and the demands of work can lead us down a path of disconnect, mirroring the callousness we see in Elkinah's response to Hannah.Join us as we uncover the root of marital disconnect and offer insights on bridging the gap to rediscover the heart of your spouse in your journey towards a thriving marriage.

In this enlightening episode, we delve deep into the profound significance of spiritual intimacy within the context of marriage. Join us as we explore how nurturing the spiritual bond between partners can be a transformative force in strengthening the foundation of love and unity.We share heartfelt stories and practical insights on how to cultivate spiritual connection in everyday life, whether through shared beliefs, rituals, or simply being present for one another in moments of reflection. Discover the profound joy and harmony that can blossom when two souls intertwine on a spiritual level, creating a deeper, more resilient, and truly blessed marriage. It's a journey of love, faith, and the beautiful art of growing together in spirit and heart.

In this insightful podcast episode, we delve into fundamental parenting principles aimed at nurturing children's self-esteem and personal growth. We emphasize the importance of distinguishing a child's performance from their inherent value, stressing that a child's worth remains constant regardless of their achievements. Furthermore, we discuss the significance of accepting and genuinely praising a child's best efforts, fostering the understanding that striving for personal best is a vital internal accomplishment. Additionally, we challenge the notion of being surprised by a child's failures, highlighting that failure is a natural part of the maturing process. Above all, the episode underscores the need for unconditional love, as children must always feel secure in the knowledge that their parents love them, especially in the face of challenges and mistakes. These principles serve as a blueprint for creating a nurturing environment that promotes a child's self-esteem and resilience.

In this empowering episode of the Better Together Podcast, DJ and Lorrie explore one of the foundational pillars of a thriving marriage: setting boundaries. Just as a fortress is protected by its walls, boundaries are the protective walls that safeguard your marriage from external threats and internal conflicts. Join us as we delve into the importance of establishing clear boundaries, both as individuals and as a couple.We'll discuss why boundaries are essential for maintaining trust, intimacy, and respect in your marriage. Learn how to identify the areas in your relationship that may benefit from defined limits and how to communicate and establish these boundaries effectively with your spouse.Through real-life examples and personal anecdotes, DJ and Lorrie share their own journey of setting boundaries and the positive impact it has had on their marriage. Discover practical strategies for nurturing your connection, preserving your individuality, and creating a safe and loving space where your love can flourish.

Making the transition to college can be difficult for your new college student...and often we as parents get calls when things are not going well. In this episode we look at 6 common issues that freshman have at college and how to help them deal with those issues.

Understanding the Biblical foundations of Christian parenting and Christian marriage can be difficult and overwhelming. In Better Together, hosts DJ and Lorrie address share their 25 years of marriage and parenting experience to cover topics such as Biblical discipline, compassion in the home, understanding your spouse, marriage intimacy, and the commands to love and respect your spouse.

We want to protect our children...and the tendency is to shield them from anything that causes pain or discomfort. That includes failure. Our culture places incredible pressure on our children to succeed...and we have to be careful that we don't shield our children from the learning experience of failure. Dealing with failure is something that has to be learned...and it never happens if we never fail...and it will never happen with our children if we never let them fail!Understanding the Biblical foundations of Christian parenting and Christian marriage can be difficult and overwhelming. In Better Together, hosts DJ and Lorrie address share their 25 years of marriage and parenting experience to cover topics such as Biblical discipline, compassion in the home, understanding your spouse, marriage intimacy, and the commands to love and respect your spouse.

Understanding the Biblical foundations of Christian parenting and Christian marriage can be difficult and overwhelming. In Better Together, hosts DJ and Lorrie address share their 25 years of marriage and parenting experience to cover topics such as Biblical discipline, compassion in the home, understanding your spouse, marriage intimacy, and the commands to love and respect your spouse.

We are back after a two week break...our daughter got married!!Where do we get the confidence to let our kids seek out direction for their lives? First, we taught our kids to pray...seek after God's direction for their own lives. We would help them think it through and involve them in their own life decisions. Second, we stepped back and assessed our kids....the talents and gifts that the Lord has given them. We want our children to understand how God has equipped them for service. Finally, we put them in the game. Sending your child off to college shouldn't be the first adult decision that your child makes. Put them in the game early and often and coach them as they make life decisions. Understanding the Biblical foundations of Christian parenting and Christian marriage can be difficult and overwhelming. In Better Together, hosts DJ and Lorrie address share their 25 years of marriage and parenting experience to cover topics such as Biblical discipline, compassion in the home, understanding your spouse, marriage intimacy, and the commands to love and respect your spouse.

4 years ago we had something happen to us that was frightful.... We walked in to find one of our young daughters texting with a strange man...it was a numbing situation...but a reminder that there is danger all around for our children...and it often comes through the conduit of technology...That is what we are going to look at in this episode. 5 important steps to protecting your children from the dangers of technology.Understanding the Biblical foundations of Christian parenting and Christian marriage can be difficult and overwhelming. In Better Together, hosts DJ and Lorrie address share their 25 years of marriage and parenting experience to cover topics such as Biblical discipline, compassion in the home, understanding your spouse, marriage intimacy, and the commands to love and respect your spouse.