Beyond the Self with Africa Brooke

I think this is the one we've all be waiting for. I'M BACK HOME, AND I'M BACK WITH A FIRE that can never be extinguished. And YES, I address that other podcast I was supposed to be doing.I'm truly grateful for my freedom. I'll let the episode do the talking.... GOD BLESS <3RESOURCES MENTIONED:(NEW! LIVE virtually Sun 29th March) The In-between: An intimate 90min masterclass w/ Africa Brooke - For those Closing Doors, and Opening doors as life presents some necessary changesBUY AMIE MCNEE'S BOOK - I DON'T WANT A JOB (sales closed)In I Don't Want a Job, author Amie McNee challenges the embedded assumption that having a mundane “job” is a sacred, unquestionable part of life.WATCH / LISTEN TO MY TESTIMONY: I was willing to try ANYTHING but JesusMy very unexpected story of how I came to Christ on the 22nd April 2025. BOOK A 1:1 Clarity & Strategy coaching session w/ meThis is a focused, deeply intentional 1:1 session for anyone navigating self-censorship (holding back what you really think, feel, or want to say in order to avoid conflict, rejection, or discomfort), self-sabotage (repeating patterns that undermine your progress, confidence, or happiness - even when you know better), or standing at an internal crossroads (that unsettling but crucial moment where the old way no longer fits, and the new way isn’t fully formed yet).BUY MY BOOK THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE:(also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery. Request it at your libraries too!)SUPPORT THE SHOW:If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me  (including if you have podcast episode requests) at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Oh my goodness. This conversation is everything I needed, and more.I’m joined by one of my best friends and favourite humans on this planet, the incredible Rui Liu, a child of tea and founder of Grass People Tree. We went beyond what you might expect from a conversation that centres tea (though we go deep into that too). We found ourselves going into culture, identity, ancestry, friendship, artistry, business, beauty, rebellion, ritual… all of it.We talk about Rui’s childhood in rural China, her unexpected leap into the fashion world, and how tea became the anchor that brought her back home. To herself, to her people, and to a way of life rooted in reverence. We unpack what it means to create from truth, to honour your roots while navigating the modern world, and to stay close to the quiet, sacred things even when life gets loud. I'M SO EXCITED FOR YOU TO DIVE INNNN!I especially wanted Rui to tell us all the story behind building Grass People Tree. And to go into the details of why GPT is beyond being a brand, but more of a living archive of oral histories, indigenous knowledge, and living tea. We explore the difference between tea that is alive versus tea that’s been industrialised, and how language, story, and care make all the difference.This was one of the most expansive, soul-shifting conversations I’ve ever had. Guys, I honestly felt like we were sitting in a temple, laughing and crying and remembering the parts of ourselves that are often forgotten in the rush of it all.I just know you will love where we took this! She's also kindly given us a 10% DISCOUNT (use code AFRICABROOKE) when you buy yourself some tea from the GPT website, below. Make use of it, and you'll see why I drink this tea each time I sit down to connect. Resources Mentioned:The Roots of Tea (A Self-paced Course) - I have to say it again, this offering is phenomenal! Grass People Tree JournalGET IN TOUCH WITH RUI:Website: Grass People Tree (discount code AFRICABROOKE for 10% off)Instagram: @grasspeopletree / @rui.raeEmail: [email protected] you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me  (including if you have podcast episode requests) at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

I’ve been thinking a lot about the ways we convince ourselves we’re doing something noble - spiritual, even - when really, we’re just avoiding the thing that actually wants to set us free. Like last week, this conversation is personal. It’s present. And it’s pulled straight from the patterns I’ve had to face, and some I’m still facing, in real time. If you’re someone who’s ever thought or said ‘I’m just protecting my peace’ while secretly knowing that something deeper is going unaddressed, this episode is for you.I asked a confronting question:Are you protecting your peace, or is it just avoidance in disguise?And I take us all through the 8 shadowy, often socially-acceptable ways avoidance hides in plain sight. I go into how we cloak it as boundaries, empowerment, self-care, independence, or emotional intelligence.I speak about:The silent treatment as a form of self-sabotage, masked as boundary-setting.How we wear solitude like a badge of honour, when it’s actually isolation.The self-betrayal of over-compromising and calling it “keeping the peace.”The seductive nature of numbing through productivity, fitness, or “wellness.”Avoiding commitment and calling it “empowered detachment.” LOLHow refusing accountability is often disguised as “not engaging in drama.”Dodging difficult feedback under the guise of “protecting your energy.”And the ultimate intimacy-killer: withdrawing emotionally and calling it space.I loveddddd this one because I shared stories from my own life, including my past relationships, addiction, healing, and even the deeply internal narratives that still challenge me today. This episode is an invitation to look closely at the ways you might be calling something peace when it’s really just another way to avoid yourself, others, or 'the work'.If you've been telling yourself, "I’m just protecting my peace", but it doesn’t feel peaceful in your body… this one is for you.Let me know what lands. Resources Mentioned:BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW(also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery. Request it at your libraries too!)If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me  (including if you have podcast episode requests) at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

WOW! I really went there with you for this one. March is here, Spring is upon us, which means my 2025 begins. I return here with fresh thoughts and an open heart. I'm learning to allow myself to share the truth of what's happening in REAL TIME, instead of only sharing retrospectively, and as a very reflective but also private person - this feels exposing, yet insanely liberating. I am practicing what I preach. I am practicing courage. I am practicing brave expression. And it's making me trust my self-leadership at another level. Privately and publicly.In this episode, I decided to take you deep into the raw, painful, and necessary truth of my recent breakup. A relationship that was both my greatest teacher and my biggest test. I share what it’s like to grieve someone who is still alive (AGAIN), the profound heartbreak of loving someone deeply but knowing you cannot stay, and the brutal self-reckoning that followed. I wanted to be completely fucking open about how this experience has forced me to confront my own self-betrayal, how I shrunk myself in ways I didn’t even realise, and why I'm, having to become my own student to find my way back to integrity.Thank you for letting me go there <3Resources Mentioned:Your UNCENSORED Year: A 2.5HR masterclass with me (available now!)africabrooke.com/your-uncensored-yearThis masterclass is a call to the audacious, the curious, and the brave—to those who know they’ve been hiding in plain sight, censoring their thoughts, suppressing their greatness, and settling for “safe.” This masterclass will prepare you for the year ahead (whenever you decide your 12 months will begin) by provoking you to think bigger, become braver, and step fully into the life you’ve been avoiding. I'm excited to support you with this.BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW(also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery. Request it at your libraries too!)If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me  (including if you have podcast episode requests) at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

What does belonging look like for you? Can you think of a time when you navigated the space between two cultures, and how did it shape your identity? These are themes I'm exploring today with my guest, Caro Gomez. Caro opens up about her journey of figuring out her identity and finding her place, sharing the ups and downs of blending cultures and the hurdles she jumped over. We also explore the idea of privilege, cultural pride, and the emotional rollercoaster of staying true to her roots while soaking up new freedoms.Caro's story is not just about her journey but also the universal quest for connection and being okay with being the unconventional one. Whether you’re an immigrant, someone interested in cultural dynamics, or simply a lover of inspiring stories, this episode has something for you.GET IN TOUCH WITH CARO:Instagram: @carogomez_joywitchEmail: [email protected] Mentioned:BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW (also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery)Join the waitlist for Dine with Your Ancestors hereGet your Mayan horoscope sign hereBe the first to know when Joy Witch's Cacao from El Salvador  lands!Caro Gomez is a visionary shaman’s apprentice of the MayaQ’eqchi’ lineage, an award-winning fashion designer, and founder of the Mayan School of Embodiment. With an ICF-accredited diploma in body-oriented coaching, she has guided hundreds of creative women to embrace their true selves. Proud of her Mayan and Spanish roots, Caro blends ancient wisdom with modern artistry, offering transformational experiences in self-discovery and expression.Her accolades include "Ones to Watch" by the Sustainable Lifestyle Awards, Fashion Designer of the Year at the 2019 LUKAS Awards, and Best Sustainable Luxury Womenswear Label in 2022 and 2023 at the LuxLife Awards. Caro is also a published author and regular speaker, with appearances at the University of the Arts, Wilderness Festival, and Tate Modern.If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

I know there's a sense of hopelessness in the world right now, and to be very honest, there always will be. And something that I want to do here is I don't want us to deny reality. That is not what we do. And at the same time, I want you to look at the areas of your life where you are in the driver's seat. In this episode, I want to impart my wisdom, experiences, and intellectual property and share anything I'm learning that I think could be useful for you. So tune in to hear me riff aloud about letting people fucking help you.P.S. This episode's audio is a reupload from our archives, but the insights are timeless!Resources Mentioned:BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW(also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery)If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Tired of feeling like you're constantly tripping over your own feet when it comes to sex and intimacy? You're not alone. Let's get real about the sneaky ways self-sabotage creeps into our bedrooms.In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the dirty little secrets that might be holding you back. From the mind-bending effects of porn to the pressure cooker of societal expectations, I dive into the stuff that really matters.Tune in to hear how you can break free from the shackles of shame and unlock your true sexual potential. Get ready for a no-holds-barred conversation about pleasure, power, and personal liberation. P.S. This episode's audio is a reupload from our archives, but the insights are timeless!Resources Mentioned:BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW(also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery)Women’s Anatomy of Arousal - Sheri WinstonTantric Orgasm for Women - Diana RichardsonTantric Orgasm for Men - Diana RichardsonPractices mentioned:Pussy GazingTantric / Yoni massageIf you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Feeling like the system's rigged against you? Join us as Sharmadean Reid MBE, founder of The Stack and author of "New Methods for Women," dismantles that narrative. In this episode, we explore Sharmadean's journey of overcoming societal barriers, navigating limited resources, and redefining success on her own terms. Discover how she balanced creative and spiritual growth with financial empowerment, all while building wealth and escaping a scarcity mindset. This is an episode packed with practical tools to challenge limitations and create a richer, more fulfilling life.Connect with Sharmadean:Sharmadean Reid MBE is a founder, writer and creative consultant who in her 20 year career has launched an innovation led salon, a beauty tech start up and now a media company. Her work explores women’s power, equity and ownership.She is currently working a series of essays on the theme of EQUITY and a scripted TV show about female founders. In 2015 Sharmadean was awarded an MBE from HRH Queen Elizabeth.Her first book, New Methods For Women is published in June 2024 by Penguin Random House.BUY SHARMADEAN'S BOOK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/New-Methods-Women-Perspective-Relationships/dp/0241461758Sharmadean's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharmadeanreid/BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW(also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery)If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Do you find yourself avoiding conflict at all costs? In this episode, I explore the surprising impact conflict avoidance can have on our ability to build strong, intimate relationships. I also discuss the reasons behind this behaviour, examining the potential influence of our upbringing on conflict styles. The episode will challenge your perception of conflict as purely negative, as I believe it has the potential to foster deeper connections. I also share some strategies for navigating difficult conversations and effectively seeking help will be provided. Let's take this opportunity to reflect on where conflict avoidance might be hindering intimacy in our own lives and develop the skills necessary to build stronger, more meaningful relationships.P.S. This episode's audio is a reupload from our archives, but the insights are timeless!Resources Mentioned:BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW(also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery)If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Discomfort. It's that feeling that makes you want to crawl back under the covers. But what if I told you it could be the key to unlocking your full potential? In this episode, we'll DITCH the dictionary definitions and dive deep into the world of discomfort. I explore why stepping outside your comfort zone might be the best thing you can do for yourself (even if it doesn't feel like it at first!). Plus, I talk about the science behind discomfort and growth, share tips for shifting your mindset, and even sneak in some inspiring advice on becoming a morning person! Ready to ditch the fear and step into your power? Tune in and join the conversation!P.S. This episode's audio is a reupload from our archives, but the insights are timeless!Resources Mentioned:#006 - How to release perfectionismBUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW(also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery)If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Ever feel like a fraud despite your accomplishments? That nagging voice whispering "you're not good enough". What if that discomfort isn't a sign you're a 'fraud', but a nudge in the right direction? We often slap the "imposter" label on any flicker of unease, but sometimes it's a learning curve, not a character flaw.In this episode, I'm reflecting on a change I made in my business and a full-blown imposter alert went off in my head! But upon reflection, the truth smacked me upside down: it was a skills gap, not a mindset issue.Join me as we explore the idea that discomfort might be your guide, not your enemy. We'll delve into intellectual humility, the importance of honest self-assessment, and how to ditch the over-labelling that keeps you stuck. Tune in and discover how to transform that discomfort into growth!P.S. This episode's audio is a reupload from our archives, but the insights are timeless!Resources Mentioned:BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW(also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery)#008 - How to move through imposter syndromehttps://www.mindtools.com/If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Are you ready to unravel the mysteries of modern love and intimacy? Today I'm joined by renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist, Todd Baratz. Together, we're peeling back the layers of how our personal histories shape the way we handle conflict and connect intimately with others.We're tackling the tough questions: How do self-awareness and open communication empower us to defy societal pressures and those pesky, unrealistic expectations in our romantic lives? What impact do past traumas have on our adult relationships? And let's get real about emotional intimacy – why is it so crucial, and why do so many of us struggle with it?Get ready for a candid exploration of the complexity between love and intimacy in the modern age. It's an episode you won't want to miss!RESOURCES MENTIONED:Buy Todd's book How To Love Someone Without Losing Your MindBuy my book,The Third Perspective(also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery)Connect with Todd:@yourdiagnonsensehttps://www.toddsbaratz.comIf you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

What a whirlwind this past week since my book has been published and has been in your hands! It's been a crazy but amazing past few years writing my book, The Third Perspective and I appreciate every single one of you who has purchased it, supported and shared with me what you think.This episode is more of an update of what's been going on in my life, as well as some reflections on my book launch and how I've been feeling in the days since it's been out. Plus I'm sharing with a little insight into my upcoming projects that I know lots of you are excited about!Resources Mentioned:BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW(also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery)Youtube Podcast episode w/ Rangan ChatterjeeAudio Podcast Episode w/ Rangan ChatterjeeRead The Guardian ArticleIf you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Get ready for an engaging conversation as I sit down with my dear friend, Mark Vicente. Many of you might recognise him as the whistle-blower for the cult NXIVM, but there's so much more to him than that. Mark is not just a public figure; he's an author, a speaker, and the cinematographer behind the iconic film Sarafina!Together, we explore the intense demands placed upon us by social media, our battles with how the public sees us, and being honest in our self-expression. Mark shares with us his experience of having a cult-like following, and we examine how historical patterns of coercion and censorship are repeating in our modern society.If you're ready to explore the nuances of authenticity, the role of vulnerability in connection, and the importance of critical thinking in personal growth, tune in to this episode.Connect with Mark:Mark Vicente is an author, speaker, and filmmaker who played a key role in the creation of the sleeper hit "What The Bleep Do We Know?!” Born in Johannesburg - South Africa in 1965, he discovered his passion for cinematography early and made his mark as a Director of Photography in Hollywood with films like “SARAFINA” and “FATHERHOOD.”Mark transitioned to directing with a focus on challenging and thought-provoking themes. His work includes “Encender el Corazon,” a film addressing Mexico's kidnapping crisis. Despite it touching many people deeply, he withdrew the film to expose the criminal activities of the NXIVM cult, detailed in the HBO series “THE VOW.” Today he continues to explore human stories through film, with the goal of shining a light on both the beauty and complexity of the human condition.You can follow Mark Vicente on:Instagram: @markvicenteTwitter: https://twitter.com/markvicenteFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/markvicente/Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/MarkVicenteWebsite: https://www.markvicente.com"WTF is on my Mind?!" Podcast available on all podcast platforms.Also on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@markvicente7His Next Film (2024 Release) www.empathynotincluded.comCourse with Richard Grannon DECODING CULTS & NARCISSISTS https://www.richardgrannon.com/narcissistic-cults-decoded-courseDon't forget to pre-order my book, The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of IntoleranceIf you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

This is something I'm experiencing firsthand. It's tender, and while some of me still feels low, I'm driven to share my insights with you from my recent experience of rejection. From viewing rejection as feedback to cultivating resilience and prompting deep self-reflection, in this episode I share 5 learnings that have reshaped my perspective. So, if you're facing rejection, remember—it's not defeat but a chance for growth and transformation.Don't forget to pre-order my book, The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of IntoleranceDownload The Third Perspective companion guide:https://hachettebookgroup.formstack.com/forms/the_third_perspective_preorder_bonushttps://www.hodder.co.uk/books/2024/03/01/pre-order-the-third-persepctive-and-receive-an-exclusive-companion-workbook/If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Today I want to revisit an episode I did that focused on the importance of rejecting urgency culture. I share some things I'm doing personally and riff out loud with you as well.From honouring my own timeline and why it seems like we are all in such a rush, why I'm dedicated to simplifying and going deeper, to how I'm learning to set realistic expectations without compromising my standards.Don't forget to pre-order my book, The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of IntoleranceDownload The Third Perspective companion guide: https://hachettebookgroup.formstack.com/forms/the_third_perspective_preorder_bonushttps://www.hodder.co.uk/books/2024/03/01/pre-order-the-third-persepctive-and-receive-an-exclusive-companion-workbook/If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

I have my thoughts about what it means to love and be loved in the modern world. What's the real cost of swiping right? Is there truth to attachment styles or has it become a (Western) collective obsession? Is the dating scene really as demotivating and disturbing as people say?In this special episode, I'm joined by someone I've wanted to speak to for a while; the ever-insightful Rebecca Archer. Rebecca, a poet whose words bleed raw emotion, shares her battlefield stories from the front lines of dating apps. She talks about the art of setting boundaries, the seismic shifts caused by heartbreak, and how she channels her experiences into her poetry. Listen in and hear how we don't shy away from the gritty realities of "situation ships" and the relentless pursuit of a connection that's not just skin deep. RESOURCES MENTIONED:Pre-order my book, The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of IntoleranceConnect with Rebecca:Rebecca Archer (Instagram @wandering_in_heels), recently published her first poetry book, Heartbreak, which explores themes in modern day dating. The book documents a decade of being single and is themed around the seven deadly sins of the human heart, such as lust and envy.Taking some artistic licence,  Rebecca repositioned the sin of “pride” in a positive way in the final chapter of the book, interpreting it as the “dignity” she eventually found. By exploring negative romantic experiences and dysfunctional relationship-forming patterns, Rebecca has been able to approach the search for love with more accountability and self-respect.Rebecca says, " I do hope that by candidly sharing my experiences of modern dating, I will help others feel less lost and alone. I firmly believe that we attract the love we believe we deserve. For years, I thought I only deserved “scraps”, and so that is what I settled for. Once I learnt to stop being turned on by romantic ambiguity, and started to see stability and security as sexy, everything changed. Never forget: you are worthy of love."You can follow Rebecca Archer on Instagram: @wandering_in_heelsHeartbreak is available to buy now at: wordsbyrebeccaarcher.comHeartbreak was written by Rebecca Archer. Designed and published by Couper Street Books. Edited by Susannah Saary. Hand-finished in London by Book Works UK. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Do you keep avoiding help from others? I'm guilty as charged. In this episode, I'm exploring the obstacles of seeking help and the profound challenge of accepting it. I've battled with this myself, particularly when I was neck-deep in writing my book. I had this mind-blowing psychedelic trip, coupled with deep meditation, and it hit me like a ton of bricks—the lesson of opening up, of not letting this hyper-independence trap me in a "golden cage." It's about the give-and-take, the law of reciprocity, and smashing through the fear of being vulnerable. So hit play and let's break down those barriers of allowing people to help together.RESOURCES MENTIONED:Pre-order my book, The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of IntoleranceIf you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Have you ever wondered what it's like to confront your deepest struggles head-on? Today, I'm revisiting a past episode where I talk about my letter addressing my battle with alcoholism, a letter I wrote in 2017. This letter is a testament to my growth and the crucial role of self-acceptance in my life. I've learned that honesty isn't just a policy; it's the foundation of who I am and who I've become.Join me as I honour the resilience of my past self and dive deep into a conversation about identity, integrity, and the transformative power of embracing personal change. This episode isn't just my story—it's a mirror reflecting the universal challenge of staying true to oneself.If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

As we journey through life, clashes in values and beliefs are inevitable, often leading to the discomfort of disappointing others. Especially in the realm of online interactions, where diverse perspectives collide, staying true to our integrity can sometimes mean disappointing those around us.In this episode I explore how the pervasive influence of cancel culture amplifies the fear of disappointing others, stifling our authenticity and forcing conformity. But here's the truth: embracing the liberation of disappointing others is not only inevitable but essential for our growth and happiness.Tune in as we navigate the art of setting boundaries and reclaiming your authenticity in a world obsessed with approval. It's time to prioritise your happiness over pleasing everyone else. Let's dare to disappoint together!RESOURCES MENTIONED:PRE-ORDER  MY BOOK  HERE(thank you in advance!)#060 - Self-reputation: who are you at the mercy of?#024 - Why you don't have to speak up on every social issueIf you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

I am so, so deeply grateful for everybody who has pre-ordered my book, The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of Intolerance. Your support means so much to me! In this episode, I'm discussing something that over the past 8 years, I've grappled with and have refined as time has gone by - this notion of managing who has access to you. Be it friends, romantic partners, family, clients, audience, colleagues, even internet strangers…I covered it all! It’s easy to think that when I speak of ‘access’ I’m defaulting into talking about the physical, but  we're transcending the physical and exploring the realms of emotional, mental, and spiritual accessibility. By becoming intentional gatekeepers of our personal space, I want us to know that we can unlock pathways to greater peace, happiness, and personal evolution. RESOURCES MENTIONED:PRE-ORDER  MY BOOK  HERE(thank you in advance!)#060 - Self-reputation: who are you at the mercy of?#069 - Your circle determines your successIf you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Ever walked into a room and felt an INSTANT connection with someone without a single word exchanged? That magnetic energy, that unspoken charisma – that's the power of seduction beyond the obvious. In this episode, I'm stripping away the sexual connotations of the term 'seduction' to explore how it applies to our everyday lives. It's not about manipulation - it's about authentically refining who you are. From feeling something after watching an ad to leaving a memorable impression on everyone you encounter, I'm uncovering the secrets to genuine influence. Make sure to listen because this episode might just change your view on the subtle magic of true social seduction.RESOURCES MENTIONED:#036 - Is it confidence, or an inflated sense of self?If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

In this mini-sode I give you an update on all things book, love, life, and VOICE. Although you might not think it, there’s an area where I still experience STRONG RESISTANCE when it comes to activating my voice. Singing. Yes, SINGING. I didn’t expect I would be sharing this in today’s episode but here we are. If you sometimes find it difficult to put effort into things you're passionate about too, and fear is holding you back, this episode is also for you.I’ll be encouraging you to embrace those risks because trust me, you will feel liberated once you let yourself be seen! REALLY seen.If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

WE ARE BACK! As we step into the new year, join me as I riff out loud and explore how our social circles influence our personal success; whether we realise it or not. And whether we LIKE it or not.In this episode, I remind you to reflect on the relationships you keep close to you and get honest about how they are helping you expand, or how they might be keeping you stagnant. I had a lot of fun with this one! And some truths were brought to the table, but what’s new…😉RESOURCES MENTIONED:#018 - Do you know what you stand for?#026 - What happens when the 'toxic person' is you?#034 - Signs you’ve outgrown people, places, and things#068 - What happens when you outgrow YOURSELF?Episodes on Success:#043 - Thinking deeply again, living slowly, redefining success#062 - Tough lessons: owning your toxicity, using your voice confidently, the truth about successSarah Ann Macklin - Live Well Be WellIf you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Ever wondered how each new experience moulds the person you're evolving into? Join me in a powerful exploration of self-awareness and transformation. As decisions about who we are in this world unfold, fundamental changes ripple through our beings, shaping our growth. In this episode, I invite you to witness the beauty of conscious evolution, unravel the language of outgrowing, and reflect honestly on who and what we've outgrown. It's also the perfect time to reflect, grow, and reject the pressure of instant success. Tune into this episode and learn that you're not entitled to anything – it's about proving yourself and earning the respect you deserve.RESOURCES MENTIONED:#034 - Signs you’ve outgrown people, places, and things#040 - Rejecting urgency culture & the pressure to do it ALLIf you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

What happens when you start defining yourself, and your way of being by your attachment style? Do they confine us, creating a trap we unwittingly fall into? In this episode I'm exploring if placing a label on ourselves does us any justice.I share my journey, navigating the nuances of Dismissive Avoidant and Fearful Avoidant styles, exploring solitude and the rollercoaster of ambivalence in relationships. It's a journey that questions the very essence of attachment style labels.So if you're curious about this topic and want to hear my experience navigating different attachment styles, then press play!If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Join me in exploring the impactful journey of H, a listener navigating entitlement during pivotal life moments. H shares her experience with entitlement during pregnancy and childbirth. This episode explores the broader theme of politicizing intimate aspects of our lives and why it's important to stand firm in your experience and not allow others to dictate or deny it. I also opened up about my challenges in maintaining authenticity within my sexual wellness company, Cherry Revolution. Sharing with you the pressure to incorporate experiences different from my own.Tune into this episode and explore how has entitlement shaped your narrative, and how you navigate the complexities of staying authentic in your experiences. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

These past few months have felt heavy. After writing my book for what seemed to be going on for 3 years, I had to rewrite it as I realised I was writing the wrong book. So that's where I've been, rewriting my book which is now in the safe hands of my publishers.I also want to update you on the on-and-off relationship with my ex, the person I love the deepest and share my insights in real-time. So tune in and let's catch up.Resources Mentioned:#048 - Grieving someone who’s still alive (dealing w/ a breakup)If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

No matter what we say or do, there's always someone ready to dissect, criticise, or just plain misinterpret us. But should we let that silence us? Absolutely not. In this episode I ask you some important questions to help you see where you are holding back, censoring your thoughts, or watering down your message because you fear being misunderstood. It's something many of us grapple with, especially in today's climate where even everyday conversations can feel like minefields.So, join me as I explore the uncharted territory of speaking our truth, embracing the chance of being misunderstood, and discovering the profound beauty that lies in genuine conversations. It's time to let our unfiltered selves shine.If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Lately, I've been thinking about the labels society places on us. You might know me as a ‘content creator’ or as someone who influences, but that's just what you see on the surface. My daily work delves deeper than I could ever show you online.It involves extensive research and mentorship. I'm all about exploring self-sabotage and self-censorship and understanding the truth of our human experience.My work and mission requires slowness and intentionally, both of which can trigger the feeling of being ‘left behind’. But for fellow creatives and entrepreneurs, here's a friendly tip: Ditch the "content" label. Take breaks from social media, hone your craft, and live your ideas. Don't rush or mimic others without understanding and don't let algorithms or others' expectations dictate your path.Remember, your worth is not defined by societal labels or external validation, but by your authenticity and commitment to your craft.If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Prepare yourself for a thought-provoking exploration of three profound life lessons that shaped my path. Last year Steven Bartlett created a Self Development Coaching project, and I was one of the selected coaches.I led the segment on mental health and different elements of spirituality, but through the lens of very grounded, realistic, sustainable self-improvement. I recently found many of the notes and lessons I did within that program. There were around 12 lessons, so today I'm sharing three of my favourite ones.I share what sparked my path to becoming a confident speaker, why feeling victimised is stopping you from moving forward and how you view success (and not just in the entrepreneurial sense). So tune into this episode and hear me share these lessons, see how some of them have changed for me along the way, and let's create a conversation. Resources Mentioned:The Diary by Steven Bartlett: https://thediary.com/pages/the-diaryBook: Say What You Mean by Jay Oren SoferCourage over Conformity Course - This two-day course is a masterclass in communication. It's a comprehensive, engaging, practical, and completely UNCENSORED exploration of what it will take for you to liberate your mind and your voice - personally and professionally.Buy the course here:  https://africabrooke.com/courage-over-conformity-courseIf you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Ever wondered what it feels like to get feedback that challenges you to truly be yourself? Well, I've had that experience recently when I received feedback on the first draft of my book. My editors were quick to point out that I was holding back in my writing. Sure, it stung a bit, but I've come to realise the value of their honesty. Let's be real, sharing openly about this is important.As a writer, I've come to understand the power of seeking feedback. Although I'll admit, at first, it felt like a blow, I've come to embrace feedback as a chance for my personal growth. Striking that balance between staying true to myself and considering outside perspectives is a journey I'm fully engaged in.I also share how hitting the milestone of turning 31 has sparked some deep reflections for me. This journey towards sobriety and self-improvement has been a wild ride. Not all smooth sailing, for sure, but each experience has played a part in shaping the person I am today.Resources Mentioned:Courage over Conformity Course - This two-day course is a masterclass in communication. It's a comprehensive, engaging, practical, and completely UNCENSORED exploration of what it will take for you to liberate your mind and your voice - personally and professionally. Buy the course here:  https://africabrooke.com/courage-over-conformity-courseWendy / The Completion Coach - And What Else? Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/and-what-else/id1677586535Sunday Silent Focus Sessions 5-8pm GMT (to register for free, make sure you have a Zoom account and are logged in):https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZMrfu6grjsqHd3r7BgsEpk5mkMJ_7lOQCTr#/registrationIf you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Who really holds the strings to who you are? Join me as we dive deep into the captivating concept of self-reputation. I'll unravel the risks tied to seeking external validation and instead, offer a path to nurturing a self-reputation that echoes your values and authenticity.In a world where surveillance is the norm, we can't ignore the hurdles. Think of this episode as your compass, guiding you towards fortifying your self-reputation through self-awareness and introspection.Get ready to trust your instincts, embrace your beliefs, and rise above the noise of criticism. Tune in for a thought-provoking discussion that might reshape how you view yourself and the power you hold over your identity.Resources Mentioned:Courage over Conformity. This two-day course is a masterclass in communication. It's a comprehensive, engaging, practical, and completely UNCENSORED exploration of what it will take for you to liberate your mind and your voice - personally and professionally. Buy the course here - https://africabrooke.com/courage-over-conformity-courseEpisode 18  - Do you know what you stand for?If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

I’ve been very excited to sit down and record this episode, GIDDY even! I wanted to have a conversation that has been on my heart and mind for a while. Are our standards getting mixed up with unrealistic expectations? And how is this likely sabotaging all areas of our lives? Let’s talk about it.Join me as I share personal experiences and lessons, emphasising the importance of well-defined, grounded standards in relationships and in life.I discuss the thin line between healthy expectations and disappointment and how setting realistic standards can empower us to create meaningful connections and avoid unnecessary heartache. It’s time to find some balance.If you’ve been eager to work with me, you can take the courageous step towards liberating your voice and your self-expression by joining the Courage over Conformity Virtual Weekender with me in August!It’s all virtual so hopefully that should mean less excuses, and if you cannot make it LIVE - the replay will be sent to you.Discover the art of brave expression, effective communication, self-leadership, and learn how to navigate crucial conversations in a private and supportive space. Don't miss this golden opportunity to challenge limiting cultures and embrace your true voice.Secure your spot here (signing up also puts you in the running to be chosen for a private 1:1 session with me): https://africabrooke.com/courage-virtual-weekenderIf you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

In this episode, I had the opportunity to interview Light Watkins about his book 'Travel Light' and the fascinating concept of spiritual minimalism. We delved into the idea of choicelessness and Light explained how it can lead to greater freedom, peace, and contentment. True minimalism starts from within, decluttering not just physical spaces but also minds and beliefs.I wholeheartedly recommend listening to this remarkable conversation, as it offers profound insights that will leave you feeling enlightened. The power of choicelessness and inner work that Light discusses can be truly transformative, guiding you toward genuine fulfillment and genuine self-discovery. Prepare to be inspired and uplifted by the wisdom shared in this episode!Connect with Light Watkins:Order his new book 'Travel light' -https://www.lightwatkins.com/travelListen to Light's podcast -https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-light-watkins-show/id1515614913Learn more about Light Watkins:Light Watkins is a 20+ year meditation practitioner and teacher who grew up in Montgomery, Alabama. He's written three best-sellers, including Bliss More: How to Succeed in Meditation Without Really Trying, which Book Authority called "The Best Meditation Book of All Time."Light has personally taught meditation to Meghan Markle, Ava DuVernay, Rosario Dawson, and many other celebs and athletes. He's taught thousands of people over the years. And in 2018, Light got rid of all of his belongings and started living from a backpack. This experience inspired his fourth book, Travel Light, which is about what he calls "Spiritual Minimalism," which is the practice of minimalism, but from the inside out.If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Have you ever stopped to think about all the challenges and struggles we face in our lives? From financial difficulties to relationship issues and personal growth, it can feel like we're constantly navigating through a storm.But here's the thing - it's okay not to have it all figured out. In fact, it's important to be honest with ourselves and give ourselves the grace to take things one step at a time.I want you to know that you're not alone in your struggles. We all have our battles, and it's okay to ask for help when we need it. So, let's give ourselves some grace and remember that we're all in this together.If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

This question has been on my mind lately as I reflect on the concept of visibility and authenticity. I've noticed that even those who are already famous or in the public eye can struggle with truly being seen. It's as if there's a disconnect between external recognition and internal discomfort. Drawing from my experiences with clients who grapple with visibility, I see the profound impact of self-sabotage and self-censorship on our lives. In this episode, I explore the reasons behind hiding and invite you to break free from fear-driven self-censorship. Let's embrace our visibility and embark on a journey of honest self-reflection.Courage over Conformity: The Virtual Weekender : https://africabrooke.com/courage-virtual-weekenderIf you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣ You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

I had a wonderful conversation with my friend Sarah on her podcast 'Live Well Be Well' and I just HAD to share it over here because I know it's going to be a useful resource for many of you.Navigating the road to sobriety might be challenging, but it's also a ticket to greater self-understanding, more meaningful connections, and a significant drop in shame.In this lively episode, I dive into my personal evolution story like never before, and I generously share valuable tools for personal growth and self-awareness. Tune in for an invigorating ride towards self-discovery!Connect with Sarah:Sarah's podcast: https://link.chtbl.com/tmjIGiUd?at=1000l3apm Sarah's Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@livewellbewellsarah?sub_confirmation=1 If you found this episode valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Communication breakdown is a major issue today, and learning how to communicate better with ourselves and others is essential.This is where assertive communication comes in. I discuss different communication styles in this episode, including passive, aggressive, and passive-aggressive. Identifying your communication style is crucial to navigating self-censorship, cultural conflicts, and personal relationships effectively.So, the next time you find yourself in a cultural conflict or difficult conversation, remember the power of assertive communication. It may just be the key to finding common ground and understanding.If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Join me on a personal journey exploring conflict avoidance and intimacy. Discover how avoiding discomfort can hinder genuine connections and carry hidden costs.In today's episode (which is one of my favourites!), I share my experiences and how my attachment style shaped my relationships. Hear a poignant story of how conflict avoidance inhibited intimacy in one of my relationships, for seven years. A story which highlights the power of taking emotional risks and having open conversations. I also discuss my struggle with asking for help and steps to change. Let's reflect on areas where conflict avoidance blocks intimacy in our own lives. Let's uncover strategies for authentic connections and growth through the discomfort.If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Does it feel like you're being forced to choose between two worlds, and you can no longer straddle them anymore? Today I wanted to give you permission to choose, to let go of past versions of yourself and the ideologies that are not working. I know the struggle of holding onto versions of ourselves that no longer work, but I want to share in this episode the importance of making a decision and reintroducing ourselves to ourselves.I also share where I've been, from celebrating my friend's wedding in the South of France to soaking up the sun in Lisbon, focusing on writing my book and enjoying the culture surrounding me here.If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Have you ever questioned if it's possible for someone to participate in cancel culture and still feel fulfilled in life?I dive deep into this topic with empathy and understanding, exploring the emotional dysregulation that may drive people to take part in these rituals and discussing the idea that cancel culture is a form of collective sabotage.Later in the episode, Veronica joins us to share her wisdom and shed light on the importance of forgiveness and meaningful conversations. She speaks candidly about her personal experience of silence and neutrality over the past two years, revealing how it allowed her to make choices without judgment and anger. You won't want to miss this dynamic and enlightening episode that will leave you rethinking your approach to cancel culture. So tune in and get ready to be moved, challenged, and inspired!Veronica's Instagram @iloveisolaIf you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Today we're revisiting Ep 12 and the concept of 'faking it till you make it'. As a coach, I do a lot of work around identity and helping people discover who they truly are. And in this episode, I explore why faking it can be damaging because it takes away from the journey of discovering our true selves.In this episode, I share my insights from my own life on the topic of sex and relationships, as well as lessons I have learned from my work as a coach. I hope that by sharing my experiences, you can gain a better understanding of why "faking it till you make it" is not the best approach.So grab your notes app and get ready to hear my practical tips for self-improvement and the importance of building strong foundations for success. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

I’ve never shared anything like this publicly…Have you ever experienced the pain of grieving a difficult breakup? Today I'm sharing my current journey through the stages of grief; from denial to acceptance. I’ll be offering my insights through real-time sharing - which is new to me in many ways.Join me as I explore the lessons learned from past relationships, the role of timing, and individual growth in building strong partnerships. If you're looking for guidance on how to move through grieving someone who is alive, this episode is for you.If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Have you ever felt like you needed to reintroduce yourself to the world? In this episode, I discuss the power of reintroduction and how it can be a transformative process for changing oneself and being honest with others.I talk about how reintroduction is an invitation to meet the person you are becoming, and it's important to reintroduce yourself to yourself and not worry about other people's opinions. I also give tips in this episode on reintroducing yourself to others and encourage you to make it a conscious practice. An open letter: why I'm leaving the cult of wokeness: https://ckarchive.com/b/d0ueh0h67mpdEpisodes I recommend:Episode 18 - Do you know what you stand for?Episode 30 - Why cancel culture thrives on you being a terrible communicator (let's talk solutions!)If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Staying in integrity with oneself is a non-negotiable for me, and I share my personal experience of accepting my deep desire to be led by a man and doing personal work to understand my fractured relationship with masculinity. I talk about the difference between being controlled and being led in a healthy way and the importance of polarity in relationships. This episode is a must-listen if you want to embrace your desires and honour yourself, even if it means going against what society expects of you.If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

In November, I went on Instagram Live to pose this thought provoking question to my community:Do your public opinions match your private (and most honest) views?Today I'm sharing that live with you so you can hear my views on this question and how different people answer it. Are you being effective with how you communicate or not? Are you willing to die on the hill for every opinion you give? Or are you staying silent in the public eye and showcasing your PR opinion? These are just some of the questions I ask you throughout this episode. I also explore how timing, delivery, tone, and body language play a huge role in how our opinions come across to others. It's easy to have a brave voice online, but when it comes to being confident in person, we need to pay attention to these elements to see how we're coming off to people.So if you're curious about this topic and want to hear different people's answers to this question, then press play!If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

This episode is a MUST LISTEN.It's easy to believe you're not worthy, that you shouldn't be where you are, and that you lack the skills for your position. And maybe you're right, but is this really imposter syndrome?Today I'm exploring imposter syndrome in a new light, so when you're listening to this episode, make sure you stay open to what I'm saying!I also share my story of dealing with imposter syndrome and how my lack of experience was right; I wasn't ready, I was overestimating my capabilities.Listen to episode 8 if you want to hear more on Imposter Syndrome.Resources mentioned:https://www.mindtools.com/If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

Well, well, well….it’s been a while since we've talked, but good news is in store! In this episode, I wanted to give you a general update (strained voice in tow) and a look into my journey of fighting to get my attention span back!I also share some thoughts on the benefits of choosing slow living, getting curious about what success means to me, and landing on a BOOK TITLE. Dive on in.Book mentioned:Stolen Focus: Why You Can't Pay Attention - Johann HariIf you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!

No option but to get honest...let's talk!Books mentioned:Women’s Anatomy of Arousal - Sheri Winston Tantric Orgasm for Women - Diana RichardsonTantric Orgasm for Men - Diana RichardsonPractices mentioned:Pussy GazingTantric / Yoni massageIf you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at [email protected] with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!