Beyond the Self with Africa Brooke
by Africa Brooke
Welcome to our unfiltered corner of the net, created by me, Africa Brooke. In a worldly sense, I am a globally acclaimed consultant, mentor, speaker, writer, and artist. My deepest desire with this podcast is to use my God given skills and gifts to remind us ALL of the power inherent in taking simple, consistent, and often uncomfortable steps towards personal integrity. I'm all too aware that overwhelm and societal pressures make it easy to become fixated on external influences, tiptoe around potentially sensitive issues and cross our own boundaries in the process. And this kind of environment often leads to self-sabotage. That's where Beyond the Self steps in to be your guiding light. In this house, we FOCUS ON WHAT WE CAN CONTROL. I will be using all my intellectual property, training, tools and wisdom to help you in uncovering your own blind spots and learning to tolerate discomfort so that you can rekindle curiosity,
Episodes
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#093 - It's the TRUTH or NOTHING: I got close to selling my soul, finding Jesus (!?), & fighting for integrity
I think this is the one we've all be waiting for. I'M BACK HOME, AND I'M BACK WITH A FIRE that can never be extinguished. And YES, I address that other podcast I was supposed to be doing. I'm truly grateful for my freedom. I'll let the episode do the talking.... GOD BLESS <3 RESOURCES MENTIONED:...
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#092 - Storytelling as resistance, wild tea, deep friendship, and fighting to remember - w/ Rui Liu
Oh my goodness. This conversation is everything I needed, and more. I’m joined by one of my best friends and favourite humans on this planet, the incredible Rui Liu, a child of tea and founder of Grass People Tree. We went beyond what you might expect from a conversation that centres tea (though…
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#091 - are you 'protecting your peace' or is it just avoidance in disguise?
I’ve been thinking a lot about the ways we convince ourselves we’re doing something noble - spiritual, even - when really, we’re just avoiding the thing that actually wants to set us free. Like last week, this conversation is personal. It’s present. And it’s pulled straight from the patterns I’ve...
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#090 - I let myself down, this breakup was my most brutal lesson in self-integrity, pain of duality, & MORE
WOW! I really went there with you for this one. March is here, Spring is upon us, which means my 2025 begins. I return here with fresh thoughts and an open heart. I'm learning to allow myself to share the truth of what's happening in REAL TIME, instead of only sharing retrospectively, and as a…
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#089 - The cost of belonging, identity, and being okay with being the unconventional one - w/ Caro Gomez
What does belonging look like for you? Can you think of a time when you navigated the space between two cultures, and how did it shape your identity? These are themes I'm exploring today with my guest, Caro Gomez. Caro opens up about her journey of figuring out her identity and finding her place,...
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#088 - Be brave enough to ask for help!
I know there's a sense of hopelessness in the world right now, and to be very honest, there always will be. And something that I want to do here is I don't want us to deny reality. That is not what we do. And at the same time, I want you to look at the areas of your life where you are in the...
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#087 - Put an end to sex & intimacy related SELF-SABOTAGE
Tired of feeling like you're constantly tripping over your own feet when it comes to sex and intimacy? You're not alone. Let's get real about the sneaky ways self-sabotage creeps into our bedrooms. In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the dirty little secrets that might be holding you...
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#086 - Being brutally honest about my relationship with identity & money - w/ Sharmadean Reid
Feeling like the system's rigged against you? Join us as Sharmadean Reid MBE, founder of The Stack and author of "New Methods for Women," dismantles that narrative. In this episode, we explore Sharmadean's journey of overcoming societal barriers, navigating limited resources, and redefining…
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#085 - It's time to face the conflict you're avoiding
Do you find yourself avoiding conflict at all costs? In this episode, I explore the surprising impact conflict avoidance can have on our ability to build strong, intimate relationships. I also discuss the reasons behind this behaviour, examining the potential influence of our upbringing on…
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#083 - What your discomfort is trying to teach you
Discomfort. It's that feeling that makes you want to crawl back under the covers. But what if I told you it could be the key to unlocking your full potential? In this episode, we'll DITCH the dictionary definitions and dive deep into the world of discomfort. I explore why stepping outside your...
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#082 - What if your 'imposter syndrome' is correct?
Ever feel like a fraud despite your accomplishments? That nagging voice whispering "you're not good enough". What if that discomfort isn't a sign you're a 'fraud', but a nudge in the right direction? We often slap the "imposter" label on any flicker of unease, but sometimes it's a learning curve,...
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#081 - You need to initiate sex, avoiding conflict in relationships, desire, & MORE
Are you ready to unravel the mysteries of modern love and intimacy? Today I'm joined by renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist, Todd Baratz. Together, we're peeling back the layers of how our personal histories shape the way we handle conflict and connect intimately with others. We're…
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#080 - An update: my book IS OUT, signing to Steven Bartlett, success on my terms, & MORE
What a whirlwind this past week since my book has been published and has been in your hands! It's been a crazy but amazing past few years writing my book, The Third Perspective and I appreciate every single one of you who has purchased it, supported and shared with me what you think. This episode...
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#079 - Releasing cult-like thinking & rigid identities - w/ Mark Vicente
Get ready for an engaging conversation as I sit down with my dear friend, Mark Vicente. Many of you might recognise him as the whistle-blower for the cult NXIVM, but there's so much more to him than that. Mark is not just a public figure; he's an author, a speaker, and the cinematographer behind...
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#078 - How to deal with rejection (I'm facing it in real time!)
This is something I'm experiencing firsthand. It's tender, and while some of me still feels low, I'm driven to share my insights with you from my recent experience of rejection. From viewing rejection as feedback to cultivating resilience and prompting deep self-reflection, in this episode I…
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#077 - Rejecting urgency culture
Today I want to revisit an episode I did that focused on the importance of rejecting urgency culture. I share some things I'm doing personally and riff out loud with you as well. From honouring my own timeline and why it seems like we are all in such a rush, why I'm dedicated to simplifying and...
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#076 - Dark side of dating apps, heartbreak, raw attachment style truths - w/ Rebecca Archer
I have my thoughts about what it means to love and be loved in the modern world. What's the real cost of swiping right? Is there truth to attachment styles or has it become a (Western) collective obsession? Is the dating scene really as demotivating and disturbing as people say? In this special...
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#075 - Let people f*cking help you!
Do you keep avoiding help from others? I'm guilty as charged. In this episode, I'm exploring the obstacles of seeking help and the profound challenge of accepting it. I've battled with this myself, particularly when I was neck-deep in writing my book. I had this mind-blowing psychedelic trip,...
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#074 - How to refuse living in shame
Have you ever wondered what it's like to confront your deepest struggles head-on? Today, I'm revisiting a past episode where I talk about my letter addressing my battle with alcoholism, a letter I wrote in 2017. This letter is a testament to my growth and the crucial role of self-acceptance in my...
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#073 - Be okay with disappointing people
As we journey through life, clashes in values and beliefs are inevitable, often leading to the discomfort of disappointing others. Especially in the realm of online interactions, where diverse perspectives collide, staying true to our integrity can sometimes mean disappointing those around us. In...
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#072 - It’s time to manage who has access to you
I am so, so deeply grateful for everybody who has pre-ordered my book, The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of Intolerance. Your support means so much to me! In this episode, I'm discussing something that over the past 8 years, I've grappled with and have refined as time has gone by…
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#071 - How to seduce people socially
Ever walked into a room and felt an INSTANT connection with someone without a single word exchanged? That magnetic energy, that unspoken charisma – that's the power of seduction beyond the obvious. In this episode, I'm stripping away the sexual connotations of the term 'seduction' to explore how…
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#070 - Don't be afraid to be seen trying
In this mini-sode I give you an update on all things book, love, life, and VOICE. Although you might not think it, there’s an area where I still experience STRONG RESISTANCE when it comes to activating my voice. Singing. Yes, SINGING. I didn’t expect I would be sharing this in today’s episode but...
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#069 - Your circle determines your success
WE ARE BACK! As we step into the new year, join me as I riff out loud and explore how our social circles influence our personal success; whether we realise it or not. And whether we LIKE it or not. In this episode, I remind you to reflect on the relationships you keep close to you and get honest...
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#068 - What happens when you outgrow YOURSELF?
Ever wondered how each new experience moulds the person you're evolving into? Join me in a powerful exploration of self-awareness and transformation. As decisions about who we are in this world unfold, fundamental changes ripple through our beings, shaping our growth. In this episode, I invite…
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#067 - The trap of attachment style labels
What happens when you start defining yourself, and your way of being by your attachment style? Do they confine us, creating a trap we unwittingly fall into? In this episode I'm exploring if placing a label on ourselves does us any justice. I share my journey, navigating the nuances of Dismissive...
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#066 - REVISITED: Should the outrage of others stop you from speaking?
Join me in exploring the impactful journey of H, a listener navigating entitlement during pivotal life moments. H shares her experience with entitlement during pregnancy and childbirth. This episode explores the broader theme of politicizing intimate aspects of our lives and why it's important to...
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#065 - Painful but necessary changes
These past few months have felt heavy. After writing my book for what seemed to be going on for 3 years, I had to rewrite it as I realised I was writing the wrong book. So that's where I've been, rewriting my book which is now in the safe hands of my publishers. I also want to update you on the...
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#064 - Refuse to play the game
No matter what we say or do, there's always someone ready to dissect, criticise, or just plain misinterpret us. But should we let that silence us? Absolutely not. In this episode I ask you some important questions to help you see where you are holding back, censoring your thoughts, or watering…
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#063 - The fear of being left behind
Lately, I've been thinking about the labels society places on us. You might know me as a ‘content creator’ or as someone who influences, but that's just what you see on the surface. My daily work delves deeper than I could ever show you online. It involves extensive research and mentorship. I'm…
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#062 - Tough lessons: owning your toxicity, using your voice confidently, the truth about success
Prepare yourself for a thought-provoking exploration of three profound life lessons that shaped my path. Last year Steven Bartlett created a Self Development Coaching project, and I was one of the selected coaches. I led the segment on mental health and different elements of spirituality, but...
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#061 - Confession: I've been writing timidly
Ever wondered what it feels like to get feedback that challenges you to truly be yourself? Well, I've had that experience recently when I received feedback on the first draft of my book. My editors were quick to point out that I was holding back in my writing. Sure, it stung a bit, but I've come…
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#060 - Self-reputation: who are you at the mercy of?
Who really holds the strings to who you are? Join me as we dive deep into the captivating concept of self-reputation. I'll unravel the risks tied to seeking external validation and instead, offer a path to nurturing a self-reputation that echoes your values and authenticity. In a world where...
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#058: Do you have high standards, or unrealistic expectations?
I’ve been very excited to sit down and record this episode, GIDDY even! I wanted to have a conversation that has been on my heart and mind for a while. Are our standards getting mixed up with unrealistic expectations? And how is this likely sabotaging all areas of our lives? Let’s talk about it....
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#057: The freedom of choicelessness with Light Watkins
In this episode, I had the opportunity to interview Light Watkins about his book 'Travel Light' and the fascinating concept of spiritual minimalism. We delved into the idea of choicelessness and Light explained how it can lead to greater freedom, peace, and contentment. True minimalism starts…
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#056: A message for you: I know you’re exhausted
Have you ever stopped to think about all the challenges and struggles we face in our lives? From financial difficulties to relationship issues and personal growth, it can feel like we're constantly navigating through a storm. But here's the thing - it's okay not to have it all figured out. In…
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#055: Why are you hiding in plain sight?
This question has been on my mind lately as I reflect on the concept of visibility and authenticity. I've noticed that even those who are already famous or in the public eye can struggle with truly being seen. It's as if there's a disconnect between external recognition and internal discomfort....
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#054 - Getting sober, facing shame & taking responsibility - w/ Sarah Ann Macklin
I had a wonderful conversation with my friend Sarah on her podcast 'Live Well Be Well' and I just HAD to share it over here because I know it's going to be a useful resource for many of you. Navigating the road to sobriety might be challenging, but it's also a ticket to greater…
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#053: Are you self-censoring? Understanding communication styles in today's culture
Communication breakdown is a major issue today, and learning how to communicate better with ourselves and others is essential. This is where assertive communication comes in. I discuss different communication styles in this episode, including passive, aggressive, and passive-aggressive.…
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#052: Are you killing intimacy by avoiding conflict?
Join me on a personal journey exploring conflict avoidance and intimacy. Discover how avoiding discomfort can hinder genuine connections and carry hidden costs. In today's episode (which is one of my favourites!), I share my experiences and how my attachment style shaped my relationships. Hear a...
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#051 - For those that can no longer delay making THAT decision…
Does it feel like you're being forced to choose between two worlds, and you can no longer straddle them anymore? Today I wanted to give you permission to choose, to let go of past versions of yourself and the ideologies that are not working. I know the struggle of holding onto versions of…
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#050 - Can you be fulfilled in life and still participate in cancel culture?
Have you ever questioned if it's possible for someone to participate in cancel culture and still feel fulfilled in life? I dive deep into this topic with empathy and understanding, exploring the emotional dysregulation that may drive people to take part in these rituals and discussing the idea…
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#049 - Why 'faking it till you make it' doesn't work, and what you can do instead
Today we're revisiting Ep 12 and the concept of 'faking it till you make it'. As a coach, I do a lot of work around identity and helping people discover who they truly are. And in this episode, I explore why faking it can be damaging because it takes away from the journey of discovering our true...
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#048 - Grieving someone who’s still alive (dealing w/ a breakup)
I’ve never shared anything like this publicly… Have you ever experienced the pain of grieving a difficult breakup? Today I'm sharing my current journey through the stages of grief; from denial to acceptance. I’ll be offering my insights through real-time sharing - which is new to me in many ways....
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#047 - It's time to re-introduce yourself, no more hiding!
Have you ever felt like you needed to reintroduce yourself to the world? In this episode, I discuss the power of reintroduction and how it can be a transformative process for changing oneself and being honest with others. I talk about how reintroduction is an invitation to meet the person you are...
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#046 - My deep desire to be led by a man
Staying in integrity with oneself is a non-negotiable for me, and I share my personal experience of accepting my deep desire to be led by a man and doing personal work to understand my fractured relationship with masculinity. I talk about the difference between being controlled and being led in a...
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#045 - Do your public opinions match your private (and most honest) views?
In November, I went on Instagram Live to pose this thought provoking question to my community: Do your public opinions match your private (and most honest) views? Today I'm sharing that live with you so you can hear my views on this question and how different people answer it. Are you being...
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#044 - What if your 'imposter syndrome' is pointing to an uncomfortable truth?
This episode is a MUST LISTEN. It's easy to believe you're not worthy, that you shouldn't be where you are, and that you lack the skills for your position. And maybe you're right, but is this really imposter syndrome? Today I'm exploring imposter syndrome in a new light, so when you're listening…
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#043 - Thinking deeply again, living slowly, redefining success
Well, well, well….it’s been a while since we've talked, but good news is in store! In this episode, I wanted to give you a general update (strained voice in tow) and a look into my journey of fighting to get my attention span back! I also share some thoughts on the benefits of choosing slow…
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#042 - Are you sabotaging your sex life: porn, intimacy, drugs & alcohol
No option but to get honest...let's talk! Books mentioned: Women’s Anatomy of Arousal - Sheri Winston Tantric Orgasm for Women - Diana Richardson Tantric Orgasm for Men - Diana Richardson Practices mentioned: Pussy Gazing Tantric / Yoni massage If you found this valuable - be sure to follow…
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About this show
Welcome to our unfiltered corner of the net, created by me, Africa Brooke.
In a worldly sense, I am a globally acclaimed consultant, mentor, speaker, writer, and artist. My deepest desire with this podcast is to use my God given skills and gifts to remind us ALL of the power inherent in taking simple, consistent, and often uncomfortable steps towards personal integrity.
I'm all too aware that overwhelm and societal pressures make it easy to become fixated on external influences, tiptoe around potentially sensitive issues and cross our own boundaries in the process. And this kind of environment often leads to self-sabotage.
That's where Beyond the Self steps in to be your guiding light. In this house, we FOCUS ON WHAT WE CAN CONTROL.
I will be using all my intellectual property, training, tools and wisdom to help you in uncovering your own blind spots and learning to tolerate discomfort so that you can rekindle curiosity,
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