Born to Thrive with Jamie Lee
by Born to Thrive with Jamie Lee
Welcome to the Born to Thrive with Jamie Lee podcast, where I present ideas, tips and tools to help ambitious women become bolder, braver and better paid. As a coach, I help smart women who work in male-dominated industries and hate office politics get promoted and better paid without throwing anyone under the bus. Learn more at www.jamieleecoach.com
Episodes
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Ep 63. Strategic Conversations Part 2: Root of All Behavior
This is part two of a five-part podcast series on leading Strategic Conversations so you can improve your results and relationships at work. Check out the first episode here. In this episode, I explain what's at the root of all behavior. When you understand what drives people's behavior and what...
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Ep. 62 Strategic Conversations Part 1 - Planning with Future Focus
I coach smart women to get promoted and better paid without throwing anyone under the bus, manipulating people, or burning themselves out. How? I teach simple but powerful concepts that help my clients engage in strategic conversations with a mindset of self-confidence and authentic power. Over...
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Ep. 61 How to Negotiate Budget Cuts and Unconscious Bias with Amy Auton-Smith
I met Amy Auton-Smith at Catalyst Conference in March 2019. She shared a salary negotiation story of how she successfully negotiated a win-win solution when the budget for her position was significantly reduced. I immediately knew I'd love to have her share both her negotiation story and the…
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Ep. 60 Two Simple Reminders that Improve Negotiation Outcomes: Dr. Julia Bear
According to research, women's monetary negotiation outcomes improved when they did two things before negotiating: 1. Recalling the last three times they were assertive 2. Imagining that they are negotiating for a friend. In this episode, I interview one of the co-authors of this research, Julia...
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Ep. 59 On Money, Family, and Passion: Eric Kohner Coaches Jamie Lee Using The Five Knowledge Centers
According to Ivy Business Journal, “Executives and HR managers know that coaching is the most potent tool for creating lasting personal change.” I think coaching is something everyone should get to test drive and experience first hand to really understand the impact of it. But if you can't hire a...
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Ep. 58 How to Tame Your Inner Mammal with Dr. Loretta Breuning
When I first encountered Dr. Loretta's work on Youtube, I was delighted because she has created a valuable body of work that helps us understand the why and how behind our animal impulses that don't always support our human aspirations to be better, to thrive, and to be at peace with ourselves…
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Ep. 57 The Human Brain: How Neurotransmitters Impact Negotiation Behavior
As a negotiation geek, I love thinking about how the brain impacts our negotiating behaviors. The brain is a fascinating organ. It's the human computer that can process a trillion bits per second. Yet scientists say we've only barely begun to understand how the brain works. We know a few basic...
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Ep. 56 You've Gotta Ask
In this episode, I share insights on negotiation and leadership from the book Success Affirmations: 52 Weeks for Living a Passionate and Purposeful Life. In week 17, the affirmation is: I am asking for what I want and need with a positive expectation that I will get a YES. Some of the useful tips...
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Ep. 55 How to Generate Self-Confidence Without Faking Anything
We all know self-confidence helps you get more of what you want. But how do you get confident if you haven't yet gotten what you want? There's a better way than "fake it till you make it," pretending to be something you're not, or blowing yourself up like a blowfish... The best way is to generate...
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Ep. 54 Why do you assume the worst case scenario?
"I'm afraid of losing all my money and becoming a bag lady." "I think they are going to criticize and rebuke me." "They will pigeonhole me for what I've done, not what I can do." Does your brain assume the worst case scenario when it comes to your career and interactions with other people? If so,...
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Ep. 53 How to Set Boundaries Without Giving Up Power
Clients often tell me that they struggle with setting boundaries at work. The feelings associated with this are resentment, victimhood, and powerlessness. Here's the good news: It's totally possible to set and maintain boundaries without giving up personal power when you take 100% responsibility...
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Ep. 52 Why It Feels Gross to Claim Value For Ourselves
Clients often tell me, “It feels gross to claim value for myself. It feels like bragging. It’s uncomfortable to assign dollar value to my accomplishments.” In this episode, I dispel a persistent myth -- one that was ingrained in me by the patriarchy from a very young age -- that holds us back…
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Ep. 51 How to Break The Habit of Being You
Out of unconscious habit, I've thought that there's something wrong with me. I've thought, "I'm lazy. I'm not smart enough. I'm not good enough." Thinking this way had me feeling shame, anxiety, and self-loathing. This negative mindset did not motivate me to inspired action. In 2019, I'm…
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Ep.50 How to Set Wildly Improbable Goals for 2019 and Beyond
"What the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve," said Napoleon Hill. What is your compelling vision for a fulfilling life and career? In this webinar replay, I walk you through 12 powerful questions I've asked my coaching clients to help you set some Wildly Improbable Goals (WIGs for...
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Ep. 49 How to Apply the Growth Mindset to Your Career Strategy
This is a replay of Free Coaching Live session recorded on November 27th, 2018. In this session, I supported one of my clients apply the growth mindset to his career strategy, because learning to negotiate, influence, and lead is just like growing a muscle. With practice and on purpose, you can...
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Ep.48 How to Become Bolder, Braver, and Better Paid with Klay S. Williams
How do ambitious people actually become bolder, braver, and better paid? By making a contribution. By committing to their life's purpose. By risking their authenticity, even when there's only $500 in the back pocket and not much else, other than a dream. This the story of Klay S. Williams, whom I...
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Ep.47 How to Negotiate and Coach Relationships with Aeric Meredith-Goujon
If you're a human being in, wanting to be in, or who just got out of a relationship, you won't want to miss this interview with relationship coach Aeric Meredithgoujon. Aeric is a visual artist, musician and relationship coach. He lives in Brooklyn with his wife and two kids. In this…
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Ep. 46 A 15-Year Career Retrospective Introspective
What did you desire for yourself in the past? What did you think and believe in the past that have now become your current reality? What do you believe now? What is your dream for the future? These are some of the questions I answer for myself in this career retrospective introspective episode.
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Ep.45 How to Self-Appreciate So You Can Self-Advocate
Please enjoy this special replay of Free Coaching Live session recorded on Wednesday, 11/21/18. With a live audience, I shared - My journey in becoming a leadership and negotiation coach helping ambitious women become bolder, braver, and better paid - The distinction between information and…
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Ep.44 How to use Future Gratitude as Networking Fuel
What if you can decide how you want to feel in the future? What if you can use gratitude to fuel your strategic interactions so that you can become bolder, braver, and better paid? In this special episode, I share a quick five-minute exercise that you can do ahead of a networking event to…
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Ep.43 How to Embrace Discomfort to Become Unstoppable as a Negotiator
Please enjoy this special episode - a replay of my Bolder, Braver, and Better Paid: Coaching Live session recorded on November 14, 2018. I shared: - #1 secret to becoming unstoppable as a negotiator - The impact of neurotransmitters on our feelings, thoughts, and results - The root of all…
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Ep.42 Future Focus and Goal Shame
“Why do you need to articulate your future potential as part of your negotiation strategy?” I address this question and explain the importance of future focus for you, for your negotiation, and for your leadership. I share my updates for 2018 “Wild and Improbable” Goals and how I am dealing with...
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Ep.41 The People-Pleasing Trap
How differently would you show up to ask for help, work, or money if you didn't have the need to please people? My bet is that you'd be bolder, braver, and as a result, better paid. I have a lot of experience with the people-pleasing trap, because I'm a recovering people-pleaser. In this episode…
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Ep. 40 Six Common Negotiation Mistakes with Vivian Giang
If you're a pragmatic negotiation geek like me, or if you want to improve your negotiation skills so that you can thrive, you won't want to miss this interview with Vivian Giang. Vivian is a business writer covering how the changing workplace has impacted the way we work and live, in areas…
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Ep. 39 How Ambitious People Overcome Anxiety and Burnout
Though I believe we are all born to thrive, I know there are days when that truth can feel like a lie, because of anxiety. We experience anxiety more acutely when we most need our courage to brave a high-stakes conversation like negotiation. In this valuable conversation with Dr. Maya Borgueta, a...
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Bonus: A Thousand Names for Joy
In this bonus episode, I read chapter 42 from Byron Katie’s book - A Thousand Names for Joy.
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Ep. 38 Money is Easy
I share my own experiences in holding on to limiting beliefs about money and explain some new beliefs about money, value, and self-worth. What new and better story can you tell about money so that it can flow into your life like water?
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Ep. 37 How to Negotiate a Career Pivot with Lisa Lewis
If you are ambitious and analytical, and if you want to grow your career through strategic pivots, you won't want to miss this value-packed conversation with career change coach Lisa Lewis. Lisa Lewis is a career change coach helping ambitious, analytical individuals feeling stuck in their…
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Mac's List Interview: How to Manage Emotions in Negotiation
This is my interview on Mac's List podcast "Find Your Dream Job." When preparing for a negotiation, especially about money, people are often told that their feelings don’t matter. We are warned to not get emotional at the negotiating table. Women are seen as emotional while men are seen as…
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Ep. 36 How to Avoid the Trap of Imposter Syndrome
One of the most insidious traps in negotiation is the impostor syndrome. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling like you are good enough, or if you’ve sabotaged your outcomes because of imposter syndrome, you won’t want to miss this episode. I walk you through the root of behavior that generates…
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Ep. 35 Three Key Principles for Negotiating as a Leader
It's no coincidence that the principles behind interest-based negotiation framework dovetail with time-proven leadership principles. 1. Success is 80% mindset and 20% tactics. My clients are applying this insight to reinvent their lives and careers from stifling to thriving. Success is an inside...
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Ep. 34 What If You Lowballed Yourself? #SalaryNegotiation
What if you took the job without asking for more? What if you find out only later that you’re getting paid under-market rate? I’ve done this a few times early in my career. In this episode, I share my own experience, insights into shifting your mindset, and concrete strategies and script for...
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Ep. 33 Webinar recap: How to Deal with "Difficult" People
With webinar series "Bolder, Braver, and Better Paid," I am working towards my mission of helping women double their income and impact. This is a quick recap of the kick-off webinar "How to Win Over Difficult People." I give an example from my own life, when I felt that my manager was difficult,...
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Ep.32 Interview with Eric Kohner: How to Take a Stand #MeToo
Eric Kohner is an ally who taught me how to coach -- which I love not only because it's a grand way to make a living, but also because coaching skills are at the intersection of leadership and negotiation skills. Eric is also an internationally recognized executive coach and keynote speaker. He...
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Ep. 31 Jay Fields: How to Use the Brain in Your Body
Jay Fields is a somatic educator and therapeutic coach who teaches women how to regulate their nervous systems -- or "the brain the body" -- so they can manage anxiety and difficult emotions with empathy and connection. In this impactful interview, Jay walks me through exactly what happens in our...
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Ep. 30 Interview with Lisa Gates: How to Name the Elephant.
Lisa Gates is my good friend and mentor who taught me nearly everything I know about teaching negotiation to professional women. She's also the co-founder and chief inspiration officer of She Negotiates, a leading negotiation consulting and leadership coaching company for women. In this…
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Ep. 29 Eight steps to coaching yourself to a promotion
Take twenty minutes to brainstorm on your promotion strategy. What strengths do you bring to the table? What expresses the unique value of you? Who do you need to become to be leadership potential? I present step-by-step, easy-to-follow self-coaching process to help set the optimal direction for...
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Ep.28 Interview with Simon Brady, CFP: How True are Truisms?
Simon Brady, CFP® is founder and principal of Anglia Advisors, a fee-only personal financial planning and investment management firm in New York specializing in a clientele of younger professionals in their 20s, 30s and early 40s as well as foreign nationals based in the US. He also hosts the...
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Ep. 27 Script and Strategy: Leverage an Offer to Get Another
How do you leverage a job offer to get and then to improve another offer from the company you most want to work with? How do you do that in a way that enhances your relationships and reputation? The script I offer here addresses these questions and provides a clear step-by-step strategy for using...
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Ep.26 Your Future Potential
What is your future potential? What are you doing about it? There are three types of responses to this question: 1. Avoid thinking about your future potential out of fear of disappointment 2. Define your present and future by your past 3. Own your future and embrace that path to actualizing your...
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Ep. 25 Interview with Erin Davis, Change Agent and Connector
Erin Davis is Director of Global Talent Engagement at Stantec, an international design and consulting company headquartered in Canada. Erin connects with individuals, teams, and the community to talk about why inclusion and diversity are key differentiators for business success. Erin is a…
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Ep.24 Yes Lives in the Land of No
We are often afraid of asking for what we want because we dread hearing no. What if we operated under the assumption that “yes lives in the land of no?” I share some of my deepest fears, recent client successes and misses that demonstrate that yes, “yes lives in the land of no.”
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Ep. 23 Big Embarrassing Mistake And Pitfalls of Assumptions
Last month I was in Japan to give a workshop and I made a terrible mistake that had me feeling mortified and embarrassed. In this podcast I share the dirt: what happened, how I recovered, and what I learned from the experience. Assumptions have the power to undermine our communication…
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Ep. 22: Selena Rezvani on How to Negotiate Meeting Culture
Selena Rezvani is a highly sought-after expert on leadership and negotiation who promotes a more female-friendly workplace culture through her award-winning writing and speaking engagements. If you've ever been told no, if you've ever been cut off at a work meeting, and if you want to close the...
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Ep. 21 Questioning: It's Unfair I Bungled My Salary Negotiation
In the book The Prosperous Coach, Rich Litvin says, "One advantage of me spending so much of my own life feeling powerless is that I now quickly see how powerful people are." Same here. In this episode, I share my experience bungling a salary negotiation that left me feeling powerless and...
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Ep.20 Three Scripts for Sidestepping Illegal Salary Question
The good news: Local governments (CA, OR, MA, DE, Philadelphia, and NYC) are taking the lead in banning salary history question ("What did you make in your last job?") that perpetuates the gender wage gap. The bad news: Bad hiring practices still dominate most of the country. Check out the…
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Ep. 19 Tele-class: Negotiating in Emotionally Smart Way
According to Ivy League experts in behavioral psychology, how you *feel* about the negotiation process, partner, and your negotiation capabilities have an outsized impact on your negotiation success. Contrary to popular misconception, emotions rule in negotiation. Smart negotiators prepare a...
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Ep. 18 Katrina Jones: Negotiation Secrets from HR, Diversity & Inclusion Expert
Katrina Jones is an accomplished HR executive and fierce champion for diversity, equality and inclusion. She currently serves as the Director of People & Inclusion at Vimeo and is also an adjunct faculty at NYU Wagner. In this interview, Katrina shares: What do employers think about when they put...
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Ep.17 Why We Need to Talk About the “F” Word in Negotiation
“How you feel doesn’t matter.” “Women are emotional and therefore make terrible negotiators.” “Your feelings are a weakness.” All false. To feel is to be human. To have emotional intelligence is to have a secret weapon in a negotiation. I explain the importance of feelings in negotiation and…
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Ep. 16 Kathlyn Hart: Desire More. Earn More. Give More.
My special guest Kathlyn Hart is creator of Be Brave Get Paid, a salary negotiation bootcamp for women. In addition, she hosts The Big Leap Show podcast where she interviews badass women about the journey from dreaming to doing. She shares the biggest lesson she learned as an "aftermath of a...
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Welcome to the Born to Thrive with Jamie Lee podcast, where I present ideas, tips and tools to help ambitious women become bolder, braver and better paid. As a coach, I help smart women who work in male-dominated industries and hate office politics get promoted and better paid without throwing anyone under the bus. Learn more at www.jamieleecoach.com
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