breakup BOOST: Direct Advice for Messy Situations
by Trina Leckie
breakup BOOST is your golden ticket to healing heartbreak, raising your standards, and dating smarter. Hosted by Trina Leckie (breakup coach & author), this podcast dishes out honest talk, sharp insights, relatable humor, and no-nonsense advice to help you reclaim your power and turn the page with purpose. Your bounce-back era starts here.Grab your copy of "Don't Be DESPERATE: Get Over Your Breakup with CLARITY & DIGNITY" on Amazon. This book will shift your mindset, rebuild your confidence, and set you up for a fresh start. Before you know it, you'll be wondering, "What was I thinking?!"For breakup & relationship coaching, visit breakupboost.com. Follow on TikTok @breakupboost. Subscribe on YouTube "breakup boost"
Episodes
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#422: "Love is Blind"? Are You Actually Falling in Love - or - Falling for the Fantasy? (Time for Some Dating Wake-Up Calls!)
Have you ever met someone and started imagining a future with them before you even really knew who they were? Watching Love Is Blind got me thinking about how easily you can get caught up in the excitement of a connection and how sometimes your desire to find love can influence what you think...
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#421: ASK TRINA: Open Relationships - Let's Get Into the Meat & Potatoes of It, Shall We?
So, your partner wants an open relationship, eh? ... But what's really behind that request, and what does it mean for the two of you? In this ASK TRINA episode, I'm not holding back or sugarcoating a damn thing. We keep it logical and 100 around here! LISTEN NOW! Then, check out my book "Don't Be...
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#420: Does My Ex Want Reconciliation - or Just Validation?? (when your ex "comes back" after the breakup)
In this episode, I'm talking about how to tell whether your ex genuinely wants another chance - or simply wants to know they could still have you. Because an ex missing you, reaching out, getting jealous, or even talking about getting back together doesn't always mean what you think it does.…
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#419: Before You Send That Long, Emotional Text Re: How Much They Hurt You... LISTEN TO THIS!
After your ex has hurt you deeply, you may find yourself wanting to explain EVERYTHING in one long emotional text. Every feeling. Every disappointment. Every way their actions affected you. Maybe you're hoping that this time they'll finally understand. Maybe you just need to get it all out....
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#418: The "Hope You Are Well" Text Message (insert eye roll here, lol)
It's one of those texts that can instantly get your mind spinning after a breakup or the end of a situationship. Simple enough - until it comes from that person. I'm gonna break it down for ya... LISTEN NOW. Then, check out my book "Don't Be DESPERATE: Get Over Your Breakup with CLARITY &…
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#417: Why I Hate the Saying, "Pick Your Battles" (advice for dealing with conflict in relationships)
You've probably been told to "pick your battles" in a relationship - but is that advice really as wise as it sounds? Hmmm... I say, "no." lol. If you've ever questioned whether you should speak up or simply let something go, this episode will hopefully completely change how you look at it... as...
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#416: "I'm Tired of Asking You for What I Want" (feeling unheard & frustrated)
If you've ever caught yourself saying, or even just thinking, "I'm tired of asking you for what I want," this episode is for you. I'm talking about what it really means when you're having the same conversations over and over, why so many people get stuck in this cycle, and what your next step...
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#415: Feeling Behind in Life? There Is No Template (comparison is terrible for self-worth & a waste of time)
In this episode, I'm challenging one of the biggest assumptions people make about life success, timing, and what it really means to be "behind." Because what if the pressure you're putting on yourself isn't based on reality at all? If you've been comparing your life to everyone else's timeline,...
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#414: The Relationship Trap Few Admit: Choosing SAFETY Over a FEELING OF CERTAINTY (which ironically isn't "safe" at all)
In this episode, I'm talking about a relationship trap that doesn't get discussed nearly enough: the difference between choosing someone because you genuinely want them - and - choosing someone because they seem less likely to hurt you. And while most people would never say that out loud, their...
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#413: Do You Miss Your Ex - or - Do You Miss Having "Someone"? (breakup questions that can help you move on)
You may assume that because you're still thinking about your ex, it must mean you're not over them. But is that REALLY the case?! The answer may reveal more than you expect. LISTEN NOW. Then, check out my book "Don't Be DESPERATE: Get Over Your Breakup with CLARITY & DIGNITY" on Amazon:...
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#412: 5 Reasons People Refuse to Take Accountability After Hurting You
Few things are more aggravating than being hurt by someone who refuses to simply own it. Instead of taking accountability, they make excuses, deflect, blame-shift, or act like YOU'RE somehow the problem. Huh??!! In this episode, I break down 5 reasons some people refuse to take accountability…
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#411: I'm Not Being Negative. You Just Don't Like What I'm Saying.
Have you ever been told you're "being negative" just because you expressed a concern, had a different opinion, or didn't automatically go along with something? Yeah… we need to talk. In this episode, I'm getting into a communication pattern that can quietly create anxiety, resentment, and…
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#410: 10 Signs You're Acting Desperate in Dating or Post-Breakup (And Need to Stop)
When emotions take over, people can start doing things that feel justified in the moment… but usually lead to more pain, more confusion, and less self-respect. The first way to avoid desperation in dating situations or after a breakup is to call yourself out on it. LISTEN NOW. Then, check out my...
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#409: Stop Pouring Into People Who Are Just Drinking It Up (Overgiving, Boundaries, One-Sided Relationships)
If you're tired of feeling drained, confused about someone's effort, or stuck in a situation where you're doing way more than your share - hello - this is your wake-up call... LISTEN NOW. Then, check out my book "Don't Be DESPERATE: Get Over Your Breakup with CLARITY & DIGNITY" on Amazon:...
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#408: ASK TRINA: "I've Lost Respect for a Friend Who Won't Move On" (+ The Truth About Friends Who Don't Actually Want Advice)
We've all had THAT friend - and / or - BEEN that friend who won't move on, but also won't stop complaining. At what point does it drive too big of a wedge between two people? Also, what you want to keep in mind when it comes to giving friends advice... LISTEN NOW. Then, check out my book "Don't…
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#407: 5 Reasons Why Your Ex Moved On Quickly After The Breakup
After a breakup, nothing messes with your head more than seeing your ex move on fast. One minute you're still processing what happened… the next, THEY'RE posting, dating, or already acting like they've upgraded their entire life. LISTEN NOW. Then, check out my book "Don't Be DESPERATE: Get Over...
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#406: The Hidden Danger of Giving a Relationship / Your Ex a Second Chance
Have you ever reconnected with someone from your past and convinced yourself that things will be different this time? Second chances can feel hopeful… even exciting. But they can also come with a hidden risk that many people don't realize until they're already back in the dynamic. LISTEN NOW.…
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#405: 5 Reasons to Stop Keeping the Door Open for Your Ex "Just in Case" (wanting your ex to come back, basically)
You may not be actively pursuing your ex, but if you're still leaving the door open "just in case," it can quietly keep you stuck in the past... and that's not a good place to be... LISTEN NOW. Then, check out my book "Don't Be DESPERATE: Get Over Your Breakup with CLARITY & DIGNITY" on Amazon:...
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#404: Why Do Your Friends Still Have Your Ex on Their Social Media??
Sometimes it's not just the romantic relationship that needs boundaries - it's the others around it. In this episode, I talk about a dynamic that can create problems before and after a breakup. LISTEN NOW. Then, check out my book "Don't Be DESPERATE: Get Over Your Breakup with CLARITY & DIGNITY"…
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#403: TWIN FLAMES Relationship?! More Like Cosmic Excuses for Crappy Men
This episode has been a long time coming... I break down the delusion, dismantle the excuses, and expose the "twin flames" fantasy you're worshipping - so you can stop embarrassing yourself and start reclaiming your dignity. A MUST-LISTEN! Common sense, baby... common sense... LISTEN NOW. Then,...
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#402: Why Saying "Their Loss" Can Keep You Stuck (breakup clarity and moving forward)
In this episode, I'm talking straight to YOU about the mindset you may jump into after a breakup and how it can quietly keep you stuck without you even realizing it. LISTEN NOW. Then, check out my book "Don't Be DESPERATE: Get Over Your Breakup with CLARITY & DIGNITY" on Amazon:...
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#401: The Truth Behind "He Doesn't Know How to Love" (relationship reality check for women)
This episode exposes a painful reality… and you'll know pretty quickly if it hits a little too close to home. That's a GOOD thing though. As they say... the truth will set you free. xo LISTEN NOW. Then, check out my book "Don't Be DESPERATE: Get Over Your Breakup with CLARITY & DIGNITY" on…
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#400: What's YOUR "Word of the Year" Going to Be for 2026?
Forget resolutions - - - this is about choosing ONE WORD to help you stay focused, accountable, and aligned in how you think, decide, and move through the year. I also share the word I chose and "the why." LISTEN NOW. Then, check out my book "Don't Be DESPERATE: Get Over Your Breakup with CLARITY…
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#399: ASK TRINA: 20 Random Breakup & Relationship Questions!
ASK TRINA is back... tackling 20 random questions with zero fluff and maximum honesty. Grab some snacks and get comfy! LISTEN NOW. Then, check out my book "Don't Be DESPERATE: Get Over Your Breakup with CLARITY & DIGNITY" on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3R2EHiz Get personalized help: breakupBOOST.com...
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#398: Stop Saying Your Ex RUINED Your Life (They're Not That Important)
You keep saying your ex ruined your life - but you've got to stop giving them so much power. I get it... after a breakup, you're hurt, you're angry, you're replaying everything in your head… but calling your life "ruined" doesn't just flatter them - it makes it sound like you don't even have an...
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#397: Misusing The Term "Trauma Bonding" & How It May Be Keeping You Stuck
You've probably seen people throw around the term "trauma bonding" like confetti on social media… but are they using this term correctly?! In this episode, we're breaking down what trauma bonding actually is, how people misuse it, and why calling every messy relationship by that name might be...
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#396: Self-Respect Pep Talk: You're Not a Bargain Bin Deal (dating advice & self-worth motivation)
This one's your wake-up call. If you keep discounting yourself for people who don't even pay full attention, that's on you. Self-respect isn't arrogance - it's knowing you're not a clearance-rack find. The moment you start acting like you're the prize, your whole energy changes. Stop begging to…
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#395: Betrayal in Relationships Isn't a Sliding Scale: CHEATING IS CHEATING!
Sure, you can try to convince yourself (or someone else) it was just a "mistake," a "drunken slip," or "not really cheating," but for anyone with integrity... betrayal is betrayal. Period. If you've been downplaying what happened to you - or what you did - this episode is here to show you why you...
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#394: 7 Social Media Moves That Look a Lil Unhinged (online drama post breakup & in relationships)
Whether you're reeling from a breakup or tangled in relationship drama, your social media can speak louder than you realize. This episode is your reminder to pump the brakes so you don't end up looking back, wishing you had. Think of this episode as a friendly wake-up call to stay classy, stay...
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#393: 6 Reasons You Ignore Red Flags (and Pretend They Magically Appear AFTER the Breakup)
Red flags aren't just cute little quirks you should "wait and see" about - they're WARNINGS. And ignoring them? That's how you end up in relationship quicksand. Not fun. If you've ever second-guessed your gut or brushed off a behavior because you didn't want to "make a big deal out of it," this...
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BIG NEWS: Trina Created a Spin-Off Podcast ... FOR MEN!!!
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#392: Weekend Loneliness After a Breakup - Don't Text Your Ex!!! xo
Weekends are supposed to feel exciting. But when you're fresh out of a breakup, they can feel like extra days of torture. Everyone else seems busy, happy, and coupled up - and you're stuck fighting the urge to reach out to your ex. This episode is your reminder of why that's the worst idea you...
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#391: "Maybe One Day We Can Get Back Together…" (breakup help for the DUMPED)
Have you ever been dumped and hit with the classic, "Maybe one day we can get back together..."? In this episode, I'm breaking down why that line is more insulting than comforting... and what it REALLY means. If you've been holding onto a "maybe," after a breakup situation, this is your wake-up...
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#390: 6 Types of People Who Say, "The Cheating Made Us So Much Stronger" (Dealing with Infidelity)
You've heard it. Maybe you've even said it. But today I'm ripping that phrase apart and exposing the truth behind it. I'm breaking down the 6 types of people who claim cheating somehow helped their relationship - and trust me, it's not the "flex" they think it is. If you've ever tried to justify...
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#389: DATING DECODED: He Says He's NOT READY for a Relationship (Dating Advice for Women)
It's once again time to KEEP IT REAL. When a man says he's "not ready for a relationship," what does he really mean? In this episode, I break down the truth behind this all-too-common phrase, why women keep holding onto it as though it signifies "hope" ... and what's actually going on beneath the...
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#388: 10 Brutal Truths Re: Cheating - COLDPLAY COUPLE KISS CAM (Andy Byron & Kristin Cabot)
Introducing the very first Peeling Back the Layers Special Edition of breakup BOOST - where I spotlight breakup, dating, and relationship headlines... pulling out the real-life lessons for YOU. Unless you've been living under a rock (or a concert speaker), you've probably seen the Coldplay Couple...
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#387: If You Use AI to Communicate in Dating & Relationships, Please Stay Single :)
Let's be real: if you're using AI to write love notes, apologies, or breakup texts… this episode is about YOU. And yeah, it might sting a little - - - because it should. I'm diving into the sad, weird, and honestly CORNY new trend of people outsourcing their emotional communication to chatbots.…
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#386: "Why Is My Narcissist Ex Doing This or That?!" (breakup advice that cuts the BS & provides clarity)
Tired of analyzing your narcissist ex? So many questions, so much confusion. You think you want answers - but trust me, you need to hear THIS before you ask again. LISTEN NOW. Then, check out my book "Don't Be DESPERATE: Get Over Your Breakup with CLARITY & DIGNITY" on Amazon:...
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#385: 5 Mistakes That Make You Look Like a CLOWN in Dating and Relationships
So, today I'm talking about a handful of moments in dating and relationships where you look back and just cringe. You know the ones - where you ask yourself, "What was I thinking?!" Awareness is everything... and once you have awareness... you can't keep making the same bad choices. So, if you're...
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#384: The 1 Thing You ACTUALLY Want When You Say You Want "Closure" ... Post-Breakup REAL TALK Advice
You say you want closure - but is that really what you're after??? Hmmmm.... In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on what's really behind that phrase. It's not about a neat ending or a final conversation. There's something else going on - and understanding it is the first step to FINALLY...
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#383: Groveling After a Breakup Is the Death of Your Dignity (The "please just talk to me" texts gotta go!)
Let's be honest - groveling is straight up cringe. Every text, every "please just talk to me" moment? It's not helping. It's eating away at your dignity. In this episode, I'm giving you the tough love you need to stop chasing someone who clearly isn't chasing you. LISTEN NOW! Then, check out my...
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#382: 6 Truth Bombs For Cheaters That'll Make Them Squirm (And Validation For Those Who Were Cheated On)
Dear Cheaters: Don't get too cozy. This episode's got your name written all over it! And to everyone who's ever been cheated on, gaslit, or made to feel crazy... you're about to get the validation you deserve. I'm dropping 6 truth bombs cheaters desperately try to avoid. No sugar. No spin. Just…
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#381: How to Cope When It Feels Like Your Ex Doesn't Miss You After Your Breakup (Advice for Heartbreak)
Breakups mess with your head - and one of the most painful thoughts you can spiral into is: "Do they even miss me?!" If you've been obsessing over their silence, stalking their social media, or searching for any sign that they still care… this episode is for you. Listen NOW! Then, check out my…
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#380: The "Block-Unblock Your Ex" Olympics Will Win You a Gold Medal in Desperation (No contact rule is key)
Let's get real - blocking and unblocking your ex or situationship isn't a power move - it's a hot mess. A cycle that hurts you WAY more than it helps. It's time to stop giving away your power and start standing by your decisions. If you're ready to ditch the drama and step into your confident…
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#379: Dear Men Who Date Women Young Enough to Be Their Daughter:
In this episode, I unpack the real story behind those "age is just a number" relationships. Whether you've dated significantly older, younger, or just sat back watching this type of slow-motion trainwreck... you don't want to miss this! Listen NOW! Then, check out my book "Don't Be DESPERATE: Get...
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#378: 10 Types of Men to NEVER Have a Baby With - Because Parenthood Is PERMANENT (life advice for women)
Let's get real: too many women end up tied to the wrong man for life because of pressure, fear, or straight-up wishful thinking. In this episode, I'm breaking down the types of men you should never have a baby with (let alone date lol)... The men who'll charm you into chaos and leave you holding...
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#377: Are You Missing Your Ex OR THE HIGH They Gave You? (Post-Breakup Reality Check)
Let's dig into the truth about post-breakup grief. Sometimes, it's not the person you're grieving — it's the rush. The attention. The chaos. The illusion of connection. If you've ever felt addicted to someone who wasn't actually good for you, this one's going to hit hard (in the best way). Listen...
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#376: "What's Your Body Count?" is the Dumbest Question You Can Ask (dating advice for men & women)
Thanks for stopping by for the latest "tiny talk" ... bite-sized episodes, packed with punch! In this tiny talk, I explain... (in great detail)... why you NEVER want to ask someone what their body count is. Quick, straight to the point, and filled with REAL TALK. Don't miss this one! Listen NOW!...
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#375: The Bachelor S29 E9 FINALE: Safe Pick or the Fun, Alluring Gamble? (Episode 9 After Show)
Season 29 Finale is HERE! Listen now for my insights and full breakdown - plus I give my take on where this relationship may be headed now that the show is over. Oh, and PS... I also spotted a RED FLAG on a social media video of Grant & Juliana that was uploaded this morning about their "next...
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#374: The Bachelor S29 E8: THREE Room Keys… TWO Mysteries (Episode 8 After Show)
I'm breaking down the Season 29 of The Bachelor... What can we learn from THIS episode?! Come back every Tuesday for weekly recaps of all the romance, rivalries, ridiculousness... and breakups! I'll point out the red flags and cringeworthy moments... plus the things you DON'T want to replicate in...
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breakup BOOST is your golden ticket to healing heartbreak, raising your standards, and dating smarter. Hosted by Trina Leckie (breakup coach & author), this podcast dishes out honest talk, sharp insights, relatable humor, and no-nonsense advice to help you reclaim your power and turn the page with purpose. Your bounce-back era starts here.Grab your copy of "Don't Be DESPERATE: Get Over Your Breakup with CLARITY & DIGNITY" on Amazon. This book will shift your mindset, rebuild your confidence, and set you up for a fresh start. Before you know it, you'll be wondering, "What was I thinking?!"For breakup & relationship coaching, visit breakupboost.com. Follow on TikTok @breakupboost. Subscribe on YouTube "breakup boost"
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