Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau

In this episode we explore how to remain your warm, kind, and whimsical self while being clear and direct (you can be both!). We also discuss why being clear doesn't mean telling people what they can and cannot do and how to be clear and direct sans the fear of being rude, blunt, or "mean." What you'll learn in this episode: The difference between being clear and being controlling—and why they two are NOT actually related How to free yourself from the responsibility of how someone processes your directness How to communicate what you want, what you're available for, and what you will do next while leaving other people responsible for their own choices. IG: @clearernotlouder

  ***PSST, NO EPISODE NEXT WEEK SEPTEMBER 10, WE WILL BE BACK SEPTEMBER 17 IN LIGHT OF LABOR DAY*** In this episode, we chat: Why being comfortable and confident setting boundaries with other people might start with getting better at telling yourself no—and what your day-to-day choices can teach you about saying no when letting things slide, minimizing the severity of an issue, or simply going along with it feels like... the easier option. What you'll learn in this episode: Why setting boundaries is about more than knowing what to say—and how the way you manage your impulses and emotions in everyday life can show up, positively or negatively, in the boundaries you set with others. What it looks like to tell yourself no when yes is still an option, and why being able to do something doesn't always mean it's in your best interest to do it. How to actually begin building the muscle to hold boundaries with others without the guilt, mind-spiraling, and preoccupation with how they will receive what you say. Book recommendation mentioned: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: Why you should consider yourself—and the things you're drawn to—interesting and worth paying attention to, not just other people, and how uncovering the unique perspectives God has placed within you connects to the purpose over your life. What you'll learn in this episode: What the people you consider "interesting," "unique," and "cool" are doing differently that causes them to stand out—and why it's not what you think. How dropping performance and developing your own unique point of view around your interests can make you far more interesting than trying to be interesting. How the things you're naturally drawn to and curious about tell a story about the gifts and skills the Lord has equipped you with for the purpose & assignment over your life. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: The FINE line between what it's like to have a connection-- a friendship, a relationship etc-- with someone who is delighted to learn the ins and outs of you and someone who... wants to relate to you on their terms What you'll learn in this episode: What it looks like when you make a decision to no longer FIGHT and adjust yourself in order to be seen. The difference between being mindful about how you communicate to someone and changing who you are to sustain the connection-- adapting vs. self-sacrificing. Why someone NOT taking the time to know the ins-and-outs and quirky little facts about you does not mean you're not worth getting to know deeply-- they might just not be... for you ESPECIALLY if you're a whimsical and curious girly. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: How to stay CLEAR AND FIRM on what you know, want, and believe when someone else's pressure or reactions challenge your boundaries, values and opinions. What you'll learn in this episode: Why a friendly "come onnn" after you've already said no is worth paying attention to—and how easily a decision can become a negotiation you never agreed to have. Why someone telling you all about who they're going to be can distract you from paying attention to who they're showing you they are right now. How dramatic reactions and "well, what about you?" arguments can leave you questioning a choice you were perfectly clear about five minutes ago—and what that can tell you about your discernment. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: The fine line between someone loving you and someone loving who they ARE and who they BECOME around you. What you'll learn in this episode: Why someone can genuinely enjoy being around you—and still be more attached to how they feel with you than to who you actually are. How to recognize the difference between someone who values you for your utility and someone who remains invested in you as a person. The subtle difference between someone who carries your company and someone who carries your story—and why one leaves you feeling familiar, while the other leaves you feeling deeply known. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: Why it's high time you stop giving everyone but *yourself* the benefit of the doubt when something is off with that friendship, that job, that relationship etc. What you'll learn in this episode: • Why the benefit of the doubt becomes expensive when you're the only one paying for it. •  Why grace needs... discernment and why you don't have to overextend yourself under the guise of "giving the benefit of the doubt" • Why assuming everyone would handle a situation the way you would might be keeping you from seeing the truth (because yes, even though you think they would NEVER... they might just) IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: Why you don't have to wait until you are a shell of yourself, hanging on a thread, practically on life support to leave or change your boundaries in that friendship, relationship, job, or business partnership. What you'll learn in this episode: • The difference between sacrificing yourself and making a willful sacrifice that doesn't steal from you • Recognizing when to say WHEN... early, rather than waiting until you are completely exhausted and unrecognizable to make a decision for yourself • Why noticing that something is... off over and over again—and having an internal WAR with yourself about it—might just be enough. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: Staying in a relationship, job, career, or friendship longer than you planned because of the investment of....time even when you're stressed, unhappy, and dissatisfied and... how to gain the courage to choose different. What you'll learn in this episode: • The sunk-cost fallacy and what you might be doing early on that causes you to stay even when you're questioning the relationship, the friendship, the business, or the job. • Why your pride might actually be keeping you in that relationship, job, career, or friendship-- NOT embarrasment, fear of what people may think, or the investment of "time". • You don't have to endure and survive a job, a friendship, or a relationship-- and nearly fall apart and lose your mind in the process-- just because they have *some* good traits that you enjoy amongst all the alarming ones. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: That moment when you're getting to know a friend, someone you're dating, a new workplace, someone you are considering collaborating with and you feel something is... off. You can't put your finger on it, but something isn't... right. But are you overthinking it? Are you being judgemental? Should you just... wait and see?  What you'll learn in this episode: • Why whimsical, optimistic girls often overthink a situation that they usually... are right about the first time. • The importance of leaning into your God-given discernment when it comes to clocking when something is... off. • How wondering if you're overthinking what you're seeing may actually be a sign that you struggle with trusting your own perception and... what to do about it. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: Embarrassment-- it has a bad reputation. Let's fix that. This week, we introduce a fresh perspective on confidence, embarrassment, and why your willingness to look a little foolish may be one of your greatest assets. What you'll learn in this episode: • The relationship women with a strong sense of agency and confidence have with embarrassment compared to those with lower self-esteem. • The relationship between pride and your capacity to experience embarrassment—and how both influence your willingness to pursue success. • How your capacity to experience embarrassment impacts your ability to fulfill God's purpose and assignment for your life. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: Why you're not "bad" at sticking to routines, inconsistent, or undisciplined... you just might need to tweak how you approach routines especially if you're a spontaneous, fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants type of gal. What you'll learn in this episode: How to actually STICK to your routines even when they feel and seem, well, borringg. How routines actually bring out MORE of your playfulness and whimsy A whole new way to view consistency-- and no, this does not look like get it PERFECT or give up. Permission to breathe. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: How they say... you're the "sum of the 5 closest people around you." And while I personally find that particular phrase to be a bit corny, I've come to realize... there's wisdom in that phrase, especially, for the whimsy girl. What you'll learn in this episode: What friendship characteristics negatively impact whimsy, vibrant, playful, and emotionally alive women and which friendship characteristics to look out for as a whimsy girl to support you in your joy and curiosity How to go about finding and cultivating friendships as an adult whimsy girl-- it's not as hard as you think. Why some whimsy girls are meant to have large friend groups and others, 1-2 close friends and why both... are more than okay. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: Whimsy as aliveness, joy, optimism, delight, and vibrancy--- NOT childishness-- and why all things whimsical deserve a front seat in your life. What you'll learn in this episode: Why whimsy AND sophistication can exist together at once-- a conversation on how paradox can and should work together really beautifully Whimsy as a reclamation of yourself, your agency, and who God created you to be How whimsy is spiritual and God's gift over your life and a key aspect of your life's purpose IG: @clearernotlouder Read More  

In this episode, we chat: The grief and utter SHOCK that comes when relationships and friendships you thought would last... forever end. In this episode, we chat how remembering that no one is above the program might actually take you from difficulty accepting what happened to a calm peace and ability to finally move on with strength and dignity. What you'll learn in this episode: What "no one is above the program" when it comes to betrayal in relationships means and how it might actually help you process the betrayal and grief. Why betrayal isn't as personal as you think it is (even though it feels like it was custom-made just for you, I know!) The liberation that comes from accepting things as THEY ARE not as you wish them to be and... how to get there. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: What it's like when being single no longer feels like a problem to solve, a challenge to overcome, or something to trevail. In this episode, we discover the confidence, security, contentment, and PEACE that comes from arriving in singlehood and we confront the idolatry of marriage and relationships that... may be preventing you from getting there. What you'll learn in this episode: The difference between arriving in singlehood and treating being single like something to "get through" The 4 things that can indicate idolatry of Marriage and/or relationships The 4 things that indicate your arrival into singlehood (and contentment in it!) IG: @clearernotlouder

Why love... is not enough. Part 5. In this episode I continue discussing what I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Navigating dating men who are insecure and the difference between a man who likes you vs. likes what you can do for him,  Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These FINAL 3 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road

Why love... is not enough. Part 4. In this episode I continue discussing what I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These 3 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road Navigating when a relationship seems good on PAPER with no obvious "problems" yet and still you feel something is OFF and remain restless in the relationship

In this episode, we chat: Why love... is not enough. Part 3. In this episode I continue discussing what I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These 2 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road Positive, real life examples of what relational responsibility and caregiving temparament might look like in the RIGHT relationship-- a continued discussion from last week's episode.

In this episode, we chat: Why love... is not enough. Part 2. What I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These 4 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road How I learned these lessons personally in my previous relationships--- the HARD way IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: Why love... is not enough. The mistakes I made in my previous relationships. And what I got RIGHT in my 20's when it came to dating and what I undermined and didn't realize was important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone. You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: What I was evaluating and looking for in relationships that I actually got right and have taken with me in my 30's Where I've matured (and how you can too so you don't make my mistakes!) when it comes to really evaluating compatibility and saving yourself unnecessary STRESS. What I got WRONG in my 20's and would no longer dismiss (every woman should know these!) IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: A fresh perspective on the  the ever-recylced  conversastions around "Know[ing] Your Standards" and "Know[ing] Your Worth" through discussion of how to begin putting it into practice by examining and holding a magnifying glass to what you are willing to endure What you'll learn in this episode: Determining what you'are willing to endure in relationships and what its costing you. The difference between well-placed duty and misplaced duty and what its costing you in relationships (and not to mention with your sanity and self-esteem!) What scripture actually has to say about enduring things in life that are depleting you, taking from you, and causing you death by a thousand cuts IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode, we chat: What it really looks like to have a strong internal "no"—the kind that doesn't wobble when it comes to your standards and principles—and why some of our no's feel clear while others feel… negotiable. What you'll learn in this episode: What it looks like when your "no" isn't fully decided—and why you find yourself going back and forth on things you already said were standards. The subtle difference between being led by your feelings versus being led by your principles—and how that shows up in your tone, how quickly you're able to respond, and your overall clarity. The four ways people with a strong internal "no" move—what makes it easier for them to stay solid in their decisions and boundaries without going back and forth. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode we chat: Why we keep saying "let's see how it goes", what it costs is to ignore the GLARING red flag when something feels.... off, and how to start thinking and moving differently. You'll hear how to spot where you're taking on unnecessary misery and CONFUSION and how to make decisions that actually serve you—without going back and forth, without the noise, and with a whole lot of clarity. What You'll Learn in This Episode: "Let's see how it goes" can be costly—learn to notice the red flags before they cost you. Focus on what you can control: your actions, your standards, and your energy-- and invite God into the process Make a departure with self-negotiation and begin to lead with choices that protect your time, peace, and future. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode we chat: An HONEST conversation about how delivery MATTERS when it comes to honesty inasmuchas the message itself and how it can either strengthen or erode trust when it comes to relationships both romantic and platonic What You'll Learn in This Episode: Navigating "I was just being honest" conversations Honesty that controls and manages vs. the honesty that edifies Stewarding and sharpening your own relationship with honesty- both in how you give it and how you receive it from the people you trust IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode we chat: Stewarding your voice when it comes to handling conflict, frustration, and points of contention with people without stepping out of YOUR character and simultaneously, without being a doormat. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How to handle situations where you're frustrated with someone and even tempted to lash out at them without giving into your ego/into your flesh Where you might be getting into God's business when it comes to handling people in confrontation and points of contention Being "nice" vs. being kind and why being nice does NOT work in boundary setting How to set boundaries with people who are frequently defensive, offended, and inflamed in conversation. IG: @clearernotlouder

Welcome to the FIRST epsiode of Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau (formerly known as the Self Love Fix Podcast)! In this episode we chat: The difference between presence and performance—and why leaning into presence can cause effortlessly shift your ability to connect to others in everyday conversation and in relationship EASILY and in a RELAXED manner. Think dropping the act of APPEARING a certain way and being HYPERVIGILANT to how others are perceiving you. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How God slowed me down and showed me the power of presence-- inadvertently-- through two hobbies I picked up during my year-long hiatus: baking and gardening. The difference between how people experience you and how you experience others depending on whether you are oriented in presence or performance How presence vs. performance shows up in everyday life (in ways you might not even notice or think about!) Practical- and easy- steps to start cultivating presence in your life IG: @clearernotlouder

Hi friend! It's been... a while. I know. Forgive me, girl. We're back but get this... we're coming back with a NEW name, NEW vision, same voice, same vibes 3.12.26. Tune in to this trailor to find out the new podcast name and find out: The new vision for the podcast, where we're headed What we've learned from the Self Love Fix Podcast and what we're taking as we're moving forwards A mini riff giving a peek into the new podcast! The new name! See you in the FIRST episode of the new podcast 3.12.26 xx Beatrice

 In this episode we chat:   Leaning on God's wisdom and not your own understanding What's going to be happening hear on the pod for the next 2 months! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join the FREE Valued Woman challenge 10 day challenge below to enjoy 10 EASY to apply tips to start VALUING yourself STRAIGHT to your inbox!  CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE FREE VALUED WOMAN CHALLENGE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

 In this episode we chat:  The Proverbs 31 woman and how she demonstrated how she VALUES herself  FINDING time to maintain and care for yourself even with a busy schedule-- it's there I promise!!  How the way you carry yourself INFLUENCES how people treat you WORK WITH BEATRICE: I'm running a free 10 day email challenge called The Valued Woman challenge eek!! Over a 10 day period I will be sharing 10 EASY to apply tips to start VALUING yourself STRAIGHT to your inbox... for FREE! CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE FREE VALUED WOMAN CHALLENGE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

 In this episode we chat: The 30 things I've learned since turning 30! I promise these are non-generic and totally worth the listen! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to catch the valued masterclass at $19.95 ONLY through midnight 1/23/25 in honor of my 30th birthday! Valued is:a powerful, 52 minute masterclass that takes you from EFFORTING your way into SCRAPS of attention from INCONSISTENT MEN to attracting the types of men who SHOW you how they VALUE YOU through their actions CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

 In this episode we chat: What I'm doing different in 2025 vs 2024 when it comes to goal setting and why 2024 was quite... directionless.  My yearly goal setting + executing process (and why vision is KING when it comes to goal setting)   Actionable tips all along the way on how to set, execute, AND ACHIEVE ALL your 2025 goals  WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join Valued the masterclass at $77 where I  teach you how to go from being a SLAVE TO ATTENTION from a man (aka WAITING ANXIOUSLY next to your phone and putting it on DND to avoid seeing zero notifications, hinting at him to do more even though you know he won't, and feeling CONFUSED ABOUT HOW HE FEELS because he doesn't make you feel SECURE by TELLING you how he feels about you... to stepping into the SOFT, RELAXED feminine woman who attracts men who SHOW you how they VALUE YOU with your actions. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat: The Personal Development to Spirituality to "My Truth" Pipeline Manifestation and what they DON'T tell you about the spiritual world God, the Truth, + the Spiritual Realm WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join Valued the masterclass at $77 where I  teach you how to go from being a SLAVE TO ATTENTION from a man (aka feeling CONFUSED ABOUT HOW HE FEELS because he doesn't make you feel SECURE by TELLING you how he feels about you... to stepping into the SOFT, RELAXED feminine woman who attracts men who SHOW you how they VALUE YOU with your actions. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Why it's VERY HARMFUL to "see" how things are going and "wait it out" when you KNOW he is a walking dealbreaker How to STOP undermining your dealbreakers when you come across the "nice guy" the guy that seems like "the one" What it looks like to have dating/the marriage thing/the man thing be an IDOL in your life  The dangers of IDOLIZING a man and therefore putting him in God's place WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join Valued the masterclass at $77 where I  teach you how to go from being a SLAVE TO ATTENTION from a man (aka feeling CONFUSED ABOUT HOW HE FEELS because he doesn't make you feel SECURE by TELLING you how he feels about you... to stepping into the SOFT, RELAXED feminine woman who attracts men who SHOW you how they VALUE YOU with your actions. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Letting go of OVER-EXPLAINING or JUSTIFYING yourself + your decisions How talking TOO MUCH can actually be a sign of a LACK of confidence Why confident people say LESS WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era  CLICK HERE TO ENROLL IN THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, one-of-a-kind school that teaches you how to effortlessly elevate your love life through skyrocketing your confidence around men and calling forward masculine, provider men who adore, cherish, and VALUE you through their ACTIONS.   CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Confidence vs. FAKE confidence and how to tell the difference Ways insecurity masks itself through FAKE confidence How walking in FAKE confidence is actually incredibly manipulative  WORK WITH BEATRICE:  CLICK HERE TO CATCH THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, one-of-a-kind school that teaches you how to effortlessly elevate your love life through skyrocketing your confidence around men and calling forward masculine, provider men who adore, cherish, and VALUE you through their ACTIONS. Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Confidence vs. FAKE confidence and how to tell the difference Ways insecurity masks itself through FAKE confidence How walking in FAKE confidence is actually incredibly manipulative  WORK WITH BEATRICE:  CLICK HERE TO CATCH THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, one-of-a-kind school that teaches you how to effortlessly elevate your love life through skyrocketing your confidence around men and calling forward masculine, provider men who adore, cherish, and VALUE you through their ACTIONS. Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... That feeling of OBSESSION with him wanting you back and what to do about it The surprising reason behind the OBSESSION that I guarantee you are not aware of  Leaning on God during this time for strength and the ability to LET GO WORK WITH BEATRICE:  CLICK HERE TO CATCH THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, one-of-a-kind school that teaches you how to effortlessly elevate your love life through skyrocketing your confidence around men and calling forward masculine, provider men who adore, cherish, and VALUE you through their ACTIONS. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... The ONE wounded feminine trait you have that keeps causing you to get FRUSTRATED and EXHAUSTED by dating The dangers of being unequally yoked mentally and emotionally with a man Why dating a man who is operating on a mental and emotional level that is underdeveloped is a destiny KILLER for YOU.... AND HIM. WORK WITH BEATRICE:  CLICK HERE TO CATCH THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, one-of-a-kind school that teaches you how to effortlessly elevate your love life through skyrocketing your confidence around men and calling forward masculine, provider men who adore, cherish, and VALUE you through their ACTIONS. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... How to navigate doubting the romantic connection you're in whether you're single or in a relationship The two types of doubt that exist in dating and relationships  Walking in God's best for you WORK WITH BEATRICE: I am running a FREE love + dating masterclass event called The Dating Confidential. This is for you if you... can barely get a text back or you don't experience the PROTECTIVE, provisional, I'm-gonna-treat-you-soft vibes from men or in your relationship Click here to sign up to the Dating Confidential for FREE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... How the patriarchy has distorted your view on your relationship status + what it means about you The privilege in being single that most do not SEE How to THRIVE in your singleness WORK WITH BEATRICE: I am running a FREE love + dating masterclass event called The Dating Confidential. This is for you if you... can barely get a text back or you don't experience the PROTECTIVE, provisional, I'm-gonna-treat-you-soft vibes from men or in your relationship Click here to sign up to the Dating Confidential for FREE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... How I was able to bounce back after my break up SO QUICKLY How to RESTORE your belief in love and ability to love after a break up or after someone betrayed your trust  Forgiveness after a relationship or betrayal WORK WITH BEATRICE: I am running a FREE love + dating masterclass event called The Dating Confidential. This is for you if you... can barely get a text back or you don't experience the PROTECTIVE, provisional, I'm-gonna-treat-you-soft vibes from men or in your relationship Click here to sign up to the Dating Confidential for FREE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Why it is that the wrong men will waste your time for months, years even and think nothing of it. How boys-- NOT masculine men!-- will waste your time if you're not careful and how masculine men will approach you much MUCH differently.  The case for celibacy, why I'm such an advocate for it-- and why I VERY MUCH BELIEVE masculine men will gladly WAIT! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Why your STATE of peace + rest should be HIGHLY REGARDED and why the RIGHT MAN would do anything in his power to MAINTAIN your state of rest/peace  The consequences of being around people who CONTINUALLY disturb your state of rest How to become someone that LISTENS TO ACTIONS more than words WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Why every single person on this planet has VISION + an ASSIGNMENT from God The importance of keeping the RIGHT COMPANY and knowing when to zip it when it comes to the vision you have for yourself for MORE out of life How God has a plan + a vision for you and why you should know it! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Why MEN are providers and BOYS are not The difference between BOYS and MEN and spotting it in dating How the RIGHT man actually will invite EASE + make you 100x the woman you already ARE WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... The influence of spirituality in the online and personal development space Naiveté around spirituality and my relationship to it The spirituality that WORKS WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... A life update! What does it mean to be ON ASSIGNMENT/in your purpose and the impact of it on your dating life What happens to your assignment/purpose when you deal with WOUNDED masculine energy WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... The 4 controversial dating beliefs I have including ONE I used to be FULLY AGAINST-- Tune in to find out what it is! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Wounded feminine vs. Balanced feminine when it comes to what she's LOOKING FOR in dating  Why his ATTENTION shouldn't be impressive The difference between ATTENTION and being VALUED WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to purchase dating apps 101 If you're ready to go from SITUATIONSHIP to RELATIONSHIP, snag the FREE 5-day email bootcamp by clicking here CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!