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Connecting Couples
by therealimhoffs
Dr. Chad Imhoff, Marriage and Family Therapist, and his wife Angela, Certified Life Coach and Speaker, have created this podcast for couples. Originally designed for those who have experienced EFT Therapy or who have participated in a Hold Me Tight or Created for Connection Workshop, this podcast briefly concepts from EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) and then encourages the listener to have a conversation with their partner about the topic. Join The Real Imhoffs as they create conversations designed to help in Connecting Couples.
Episodes
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Connecting Couples on Vacation: Episode 5- Returning Home
The vacation is over and now you are headed home. By plane, train or automobile, your body and your relationship are both preparing for impact. The car pulls into the driveway and what happens first? Is there a plan? How long does is take to unload and reset to start back into the routines of...
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Connecting Couples on Vacation: Episode 4- The Unexpected
We all hope that once we get to our destination that everything will go smoothly, but inevitably, something will happen that we didn't expect or plan. In this episode Chad and Angela discuss several content issues that can often be places where the unexpected happens. How much to spend, what to...
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Connecting Couples on Vacation: Episode 3- The Destination
It would be great if once we got to our destination everything went smoothly and as planned. It just doesn't. Inevitably, something will go wrong and when things do, it can be difficult for couples to repair quickly and get back to enjoyment. In this episode, The Real Imhoffs talk about the real...
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Connecting Couples on Vacation: Episode 2- The Departure
Couples make plans to go on vacation for the adventure, the relaxation, the experiences, but often, the departure is riddled with stress and conflict. In this episode, Chad and Angela discuss what leaving for vacation looks like. Who determines the deadline? What do both individuals have to get...
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Connecting Couples On Vacation: Episode 1- Where and When?
There are a lot of little decisions that go into taking a family vacation. Starting with the planning stage of deciding where and when, to agreeing on how much to spend, how much leisure versus adventure, how long to stay and what the return home looks like. In this new series, Chad and Angela...
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Healing From Past Wounds: Episode 9- What Growth Looks Like
Episode 9: Show Notes First 5 minutes: Intro- Now that they’ve shown you several places where there is tension in their relationship, Chad and Angela start to explain how you can tell there is growth in those areas. Now that you have awareness around some of the content issues, what does…
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Healing From Past Wounds: Episode 8- Counting The Cost
Episode 8: Show Notes First 5 minutes: Intro- Chad and Angela are breaking down content so you can get into the process and ask yourself what is going on? In this episode Chad breaks down some of his “Raw Spots” around money. He explains that growing up his family was poor and therefore he thinks...
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Healing From Past Wounds: Episode 7- Can You Notice A Pattern?
Episode 7: Show Notes First 5 minutes: Intro- Chad and Angela are bringing up another example of a place where they got into a cycle. They break down the content and help you understand how they had a different conversation about it. The content of this ‘fight’ is building a play structure in the...
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Healing From Past Wounds: Episode 6- Can You Talk About It?
Episode 6: Show Notes First 5 minutes: Intro- Chad and Angela are bringing to you different areas where they have tension in our interactions and show you have to navigate the conversations. Both of us have experiences that are valid and deserve to be responded to, but when they push up against...
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Healing From Past Wounds: Episode 5- Does It Need To Change?
Episode 5: Show Notes First 5 minutes: Intro- Chad and Angela have given a few clear examples of ‘Raw Spots’ that they had previously identified in their relationship, but now what to discuss how you know if it’s just a trigger or a little cycle, or if there is something deeper. Often times our...
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Healing From Past Wounds: Episode 4- A Link To The Past
Episode 4: Show Notes First 5 minutes: Intro- Can you identify when these past wounds get triggered in a present interaction and the tie it back to something that happened in your past. This process happens in an order and needs to go slow. Don’t try to jump to the healing, if you can’t identify...
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Healing From Past Wounds: Episode 3- Unexpected Responses
Episode 3: Show Notes First 5 minutes: Intro- The hard thing about “Raw Spots” is that first you have recognize that something is happening, then you have understand where it came from, and then, it would be good if you could share it with your partner so that you can get an accepting response.…
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Healing From Past Wounds: Episode 2- Where Have I Felt This Before?
Show Notes First 5 minutes: Intro- We’re trying to bring forward the idea that you have residue from a past wound and your present relationship is triggering that pain and neither of you know that this cycle is based on meaning from past pain. It’s normal for us to react to pain this way. These...
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Healing From Past Wounds: Episode 1- How Wounds Show Up
Connection Couples Podcast: Healing Wounds from the Past Series Episode 1: How Wounds Show Up First 5 minutes: Intro- How do would from our past show up in our present relationships. Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy, wrote a book called Hold Me Tight, where she discusses 7...
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Connecting Couples in Addiction: Episode 14- Responding to Pain
Connection Couples Podcast: Addiction Series Episode 14: Responding to Pain Show Notes Intro & First 5 minutes: Alternative Responses that come up for couples who have experienced addiction. Once there has been health and sobriety, things feel better, however, if we never go back and discuss and...
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Connecting Couples in Addiction: Episode 13- Relapse
Connection Couples Podcast: Addiction Series Episode 13: Relapse Show Notes First 5 minutes: Intro- Relapse is part of the process. What happens in your relationship when the ‘addicted’ person relapses? Does it mean you are back at square one? Addiction and coping strategies are fluid, meaning...
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Connecting Couples in Addiction: Episode 12- Recap and Resources
Episode 12: Recap and Resources Show Notes First 5 minutes: Intro- In order to navigate these hard places, we often need a guide. We need help. We encourage you find resources and use them so that you can start to adjust the very strategies you needed when you were in an unhealthy place. In this...
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Connecting Couples in Addiction: Episode 11- The Partner of Addiction
Episode 11: The Partner of Addiction Show Notes First 5 minutes: Intro- Now that your partner has a stretch of sobriety, the partner of the addict has to adjust the tendencies of control and over managing- that were required when the addict was using- but that are now not helpful for the...
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Connecting Couples in Addiction: Episode 10- Attachment Injuries
Episode 10: Attachment Injuries Show Notes First 5 minutes: Intro- We have to go back, not to say I’m sorry, but to say that I recognize that damage I’ve caused has left a lasting impact and I hate that impact and want to make up for it. Still talking about addiction and how it impacts...
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Connecting Couples in Addiction: Episode 9- Your Story
Episode 9: Your Story Show Notes First 5 minutes: Intro- Sharing your story and how you got healthy give you assuring in your heart and in your relationships that you aren’t’ going back to the place where you were. The fifth of the 5 action steps is embracing your story. It’s often hard to ‘own’...
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Connecting Couples in Addiction: Episode 8- Relationships
Episode 8: Relationships Show Notes First 5 minutes: Intro- When we are talking about relationship and community, we are referring to people who get your journey and who can support you in the process. The 8th episode and the middle of the 5 Action Steps that support recovery. Number 4 is...
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Connecting Couples in Addiction: Episode 7- Self-Care
Episode 7: Self-Care Show Notes First 5 minutes: Intro- If we are going to consider healthy self-care, we need to consider something that engages our physical body and something that challenges our mind. We’re discussing the nuts and bolts of recovery and how we get traction in our health and...
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Connecting Couples in Addiction: Episode 6- Self-Awareness
Episode 6: Self- Awareness Show Notes First 5 minutes: Intro- We have to take the time to check in. Do we have a process of checking in, especially around our areas of pain? If in don’t know what my pain is, I will comfort it somehow and not even know why or what I am doing. We are in the 2 of 5...
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Connecting Couples in Addiction: Episode 5- Safe Guards
Show Notes First 5 minutes: Intro- We have to start to look at the reasons why we go to a substance. The story always makes sense. We want to help bring context to your struggle. This is where we talk about how we take action. In addiction people often talk about what they aren’t going to do.…
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Connecting Couples in Addiction: Episode 4- The Process of Change
First 5 minutes: Intro- Inaction doesn’t work in recovery. You have to have Action. You have to do something healthy or it leaves a vacuum that will possibly be filled with the wrong things. Now that we’ve acknowledged how hard it is for someone to just stop an excessive habit, let’s discuss what...
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Connecting Couples in Addiction: Episode 3- Habits
Connection Couples Podcast: Addiction Series Episode 3: Habits First 5 minutes: Intro- It’s hard to just quick because we have to rewire our brains. Quitting an addiction doesn’t give us practice around engaging in our relationships in a way that’s comforting. Moving the definitions and…
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Connecting Couples in Addiction: Episode 2- Basic Terms
Connection Couples Podcast: Addiction Series Episode 2: Basic Terms First 5 minutes: Intro- This is the way people have learned to cope, and now it is running their life and stealing from what they cherish most. Breaking down specific terms. People can have a big reaction to a word based on what...
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Connecting Couples in Addiction: Episode 1- Comfort and Coping
Episode 1: Comfort and Coping Show Notes First 5 minutes: Intro- Where do I go when it hurts? We hesitated on titling this series “Addiction” because people have so many different ideas and experiences around ‘addiction’ that it isn’t an easy word. So, we’ll start with the definition. Even if you...
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Pursuers and Withdrawers: Episode 10- Why This Is So Hard
Connecting Couples Podcast: Series: Pursuers and Withdrawers Episode 10: Why This Is So Hard First 5 minutes: Wrapping up this series and tying all the pieces together. Getting both sides, the Pursuers and the Withdrawers to recognize they both get hijacked by a deeper thing that is at play.…
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Pursuers and Withdrawers: Episode 9- What Withdrawers Can Do
Connecting Couples Podcast: Series: Pursuers and Withdrawers Episode 9: What Withdrawers Can Do First 5 minutes: What do Pursuers need in distress? First- we are making an assumption that we are already de-escalated. De-escalated couples don’t get into as intense of fights and that we can do a...
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Pursuers and Withdrawers: Episode 8- What Pursuers Can Do
Episode 8: What Pursuers Can Do First 5 minutes: There is an order to growth. First, you have to be aware something is happening. Then you have to be able to recognize that you and your partner both ‘do’ things in the distress and identify what your trends are. After awareness around those things...
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Pursuers and Withdrawers: Episode 7- De-Escalated Withdrawers
Connecting Couples Podcast: Series: Pursuers and Withdrawers Episode 7: De-Escalated Withdrawers First 5 minutes: Escalation for a withdrawer doesn’t mean heighten energy and big emotion. What escalation means is that the strategies (of both sides) are in full play. An escalated Withdrawer is one...
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Pursuers and Withdrawers: Episode 6- De-Escalated Pursuers
Connecting Couples Podcast: Series: Pursuers and Withdrawers Episode 6: De-Escalated Pursuers First 5 minutes: Escalation happens quickly and sends us into a cycle that puts both partners into their strategies. How do we know when we are able to remain de-escalated in our cycle? De-Escalation...
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Pursuers and Withdrawers: Episode 5- The Withdrawer’s Dilemma
Connecting Couples Podcast: Series: Pursuers and Withdrawers Episode 5: The Withdrawer’s Dilemma Show Notes. First 5 minutes: Withdrawers have a hard time receiving feedback because any feedback lands like criticism. Feedback doesn’t mean ‘opportunity’ for a withdrawer, it means they must have...
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Pursuers and Withdrawers: Episode 4- The Pursuer’s Dilemma
Connecting Couples Podcast: Series: Pursuers and Withdrawers Episode 4: The Pursuer's Dilemma Show Notes. First 5 minutes: Pursuers often feel like their thought process might be too much and therefore are already modifying or holding back some of the energy they have. This episode is designed to...
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Pursuers and Withdrawers: Episode 3- Honoring Withdrawers
Connecting Couples Podcast: Series: Pursuers and Withdrawers Episode 3: “Honoring Withdrawers” Show Notes. First 5 minutes: Withdrawers have the ability to keep emotion from getting in the way of their task. They have been learning these strategies since their developmental years and life has...
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Pursuers and Withdrawers: Episode 2- Honoring Pursuers
Connecting Couples Podcast: Series: Pursuers and Withdrawers Episode 2: “Honoring Pursuers” Show Notes. First 5 minutes: Pursuers are really working hard to stay connected and to help the relationship stay connected. Pursuers are HOPEFULL. They believe that the efforts they are contributing are...
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Pursuers and Withdrawers: Episode 1- What Growth Looks Like
Connecting Couples Podcast: Series: Pursuers and Withdrawers Episode 1 Show Notes. We're back from our 6-month hiatus. First 5 minutes: A deeper dive into both roles in the relationship cycle. Understanding more the Pursuers and the Withdrawers; their motivations, the things we love, the things...
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What We Wish We Knew: Episode 11- Doing The Work
Before wrapping this series up, Chad and Angela get really practical about a vital part of staying connected, and that is doing forgiveness work often. Its easy to say that we should not harbor offense against our partner, but when they have and sometimes continue to offend us, its easier said…
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What We Wish We Knew: Episode 10- This Is Hard
With just a few more episodes in this series, Chad and Angela reiterate how hard this process is. The patterns and strategies we have been leaning on for years don't just go away because we are listing to new ideas. Adapting our responses and learning how to bring a vulnerable feeling forward is…
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What We Wish We Knew: Episode 9- What Do I Need
Once we have our partner's attention, how do we let them know what we need from them to support us in our experience? This process is layered. First, you have to know what is going on. Then, you have to be able to articulate it to your partner. Also, you partner has to be in a position to hear it...
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What We Wish We Knew: Episode 8- A Chance To Respond
Continuing their series on things they wish they had known earlier, Chad and Angela put into application the idea from the previous episode; A.R.E. Now that you have had the conversation about being accessible, responsive and engaged, you and your partner have created the safety you need to share...
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What We Wish We Knew: Episode 7- Partner Awareness
In last week's episode we discussed T.E.M.P., a great way to identify what is happening for you internally. In this week's episode we take that awareness and pass it over to our partner. A secure relationship requires not only an individual awareness of what is happening for us, but then also the...
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What We Wish We Knew: Episode 6- Self Awareness
The Real Imhoffs keep this series of What We Wish We Knew going with this internal dive into self awareness. If we back up before cycles and before Pursuer and Withdrawer roles and even before we met our partner, we already had a process of emotion going. Things in life 'triggered' us, which…
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What We Wish We Knew: Episode 5- Emotional Response
The series continues on things that it would have been good to know earlier in your marriage relationship, but no time like the present to bring a new awareness to some old habits. Whether you pursue conflict or give it some space, chances are you learned that strategy long before you met your...
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What We Wish We Knew: Episode 4- Content Topics
Continuing in this series about 'What We Wish We Knew', Chad and Angela discuss the influence our families of origin had on shaping our level of comfort and awareness around topics like money, politics, sex and even being able to do a repair or ask your partner for forgiveness. We learned how to…
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What We Wish We Knew: Episode 3- In-Laws Part 2
Chad and Angela continue their talk about in-laws in this episode, drawing out a few outliers from the previous segment. While it IS important that you are the one who talks to your own family of origin if something needs to be addressed, there are some cases where your partner might need to be…
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What We Wish We Knew: Episode 2- In-Laws Part 1
(During this episode, Angela's mic dropped out a few times. We recovered the sound, but it's slightly distorted. We apologize for that- this is not our usual quality of sound). Continuing in our series on What We Wish We Knew, the Imhoffs tackle the fun topic of In-Laws this week. Regardless if...
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What We Wish We Knew: Episode 1- Family Influence
Just finishing up with the new material the Imhoffs wrote for engaged couples, they realized there were so many things "They Wished They Had Known" before getting married that would have helped them navigate content and conflict with a little less difficulty. Which is why the are spinning off…
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Year In Review: Episode 3- Take Care Of Each Other
Wrapping up their first full year, the Imhoffs revisit some key points from previous episodes and share the importance of taking care of each other. During a long season of isolation, unpredictability and change, it's important to check in with yourself to assess what you need. It's equally...
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Dr. Chad Imhoff, Marriage and Family Therapist, and his wife Angela, Certified Life Coach and Speaker, have created this podcast for couples. Originally designed for those who have experienced EFT Therapy or who have participated in a Hold Me Tight or Created for Connection Workshop, this podcast briefly concepts from EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) and then encourages the listener to have a conversation with their partner about the topic. Join The Real Imhoffs as they create conversations designed to help in Connecting Couples.
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