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Connection Codes
by Connection Codes
We often find ourselves stuck in a cycle of miscommunication and frustration. We don't know how to convey how we feel OR we burst out and create even more pain. Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill have spent years researching human connection and how to break that cycle. The Connection Codes is the guide to helping couples and individuals conquer conflict and it is the tool to break the cycle of pain and live in peace together.For free resources to live a connected life go to https://www.connectioncodes.co/
Episodes
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Connection, Not Compliance (with Elijah Runyan)| Connected Parenting
We're starting something new: Connected Parenting on our podcast, a monthly conversation on how to practice Connection Codes in parenting. Dr Glenn and Phyllis are joined by The Connection Codes COO Elijah Runyan, a dad of four (almost all teenagers!), to talk about what changed when he and his...
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Organizing From the Inside Out (with Tracy Hoth)
Most of us think clutter is a stuff problem. Organizing coach Tracy Hoth has spent 18 years learning it's usually something else: a skill we were never taught, a belief we picked up as kids, or an emotion we'd rather not feel. In this conversation, Tracy, Dr Glenn, and Phyllis Hill talk about why...
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What Does It Actually Mean to Process an Emotion? - With John Kilmer
We say it all the time: "You need to process that." But what does that actually mean? John Kilmer is back with Glenn and Phyllis to answer the question so many people are quietly asking, and the answer is simpler and more physical than you might think. Through Phyllis's childhood memory of being...
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Why Does Pulling Away Feel Safer Than Letting Someone In? - With Elijah Runyan
Elijah woke up one morning with a familiar weight on his chest. It was the start of the kind of heaviness that had cost him two to three weeks with his people, over and over, for years. This time he caught it. He named what was happening, and then he made the harder choice: he answered his wife...
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I Didn't Cry When My Mom Died
Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill are recording from a new house, surrounded by half-unpacked boxes, and the conversation turns to something some of us haven't fully unpacked either: grief. Phyllis opens up about the thirteen years since her mom died and the fact that she doesn't remember crying, or…
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What Do You Do When the Floor Gives Way?- with Andrew & Lara Pilcher
Two weeks before we hit record, Andrew came home white-faced and said, "Are you sitting down?" He'd been let go with no warning, and because their family's entire life in the U.S. is tied to that one job, this wasn't a setback; it was a sinkhole. In this episode, our dear friends and certified...
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The Stories Inside Your Body That Run You - with Dr. Margaret Nagib
Your nervous system is running the show — and most of us never learned how it works. This week, psychologist Dr. Margaret Nagib joins Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill to unpack why the body sounds the alarm, why "sucking it up" actually works (and what it quietly costs you), and why the same protective...
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Intense Emotion Shuts Down Cognition- with Teresa & Mark Lubovich
We've all watched a kid "check out" and assumed they weren't trying — or weren't smart enough. This week, Teresa and Mark Lubovich blow that up. They run a learning center built on one radical tagline: connection before content. Their students don't get better at math because they get smarter…
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Slower Is Faster: Coming Home to Your Body (With John Kilmer)
John Kilmer is back 💥 and this one we couldn't stop. Picking up where the last conversation ran out of time, Glenn and Phyllis sit down with John to talk about what it actually means to live in your body instead of in your head. Somewhere in the middle, something unplanned happens: John invites…
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Are You Chasing Meaning or Creating It? | Justin Jones-Fosu
Two years after his first visit, Justin Jones-Fosu is back, and this time he's rewritten a story we all thought we knew. His new fable, Stop Chasing, Start Creating, reimagines the Tortoise and the Hare and asks a question most of us never stop to consider: what if the tortoise was never slow…
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It Is Not Well With My Soul — with Pastor Vadim Yurchenko
We're taught to rush past grief. To fix it, explain it, or hurry someone back to "it is well with my soul." Pastor and author Vadim Yurchenko learned the hard way that healing runs the other direction. After losing his newborn daughter, Hope, at just 56 days old, Vadim discovered that before you...
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A Key to a Room I Never Knew Existed — with Laurel Simpson
Connection Codes coach Laurel Simpson returns to talk with Phyllis about chronic pain, not as a purely physical problem, but as something tangled up with fear. After a severe 2023 injury left her in constant pain, Laurel noticed her flare-ups spiked every single time she was under emotional…
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Your Brain Is Making the Pain (And That's Good News) - with Esther Mooney & Laurel Simpson
Phyllis sits down with two friends in very different time zones — Laurel Simpson in Canada and holistic pain coach Esther Mooney in Australia — for a conversation about something most of us carry quietly: pain that doesn't have a clear cause. Esther spent over two decades chasing answers for pain...
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Emotion as Information: A Body-First Guide to Feeling It - (With John Kilmer)
John Kilmer is back — and this time, Glenn and Phyllis wanted to go all the way in on somatic work and embodiment. What starts as a simple breathing exercise turns into a full tour of the body: where joy lives, where shame hides, why so many of us have been trained since childhood to ignore what...
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Stop Making Marriage the Goal - (With Bridgett Blood)
Bridgett Blood is back — a year older, a year braver, and now specializing in the work underneath the work. She's traded a leap-of-faith move to Nashville for certifications in story work, narrative-focused trauma therapy, and Christian sexual health, all aimed at singles, daters, and engaged...
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Fear Isn't Trying to Kill You - (With Laurel Simpson)
In April, Laurel Simpson's husband was rushed to the hospital — and for ten days she didn't know if he would live. In this tender, remarkable conversation, Laurel walks Glenn and Phyllis through what it actually looks like to process Fear in real time when it won't stop coming. Not the tidy…
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The Language You've Been Missing — (with Greg & Missy)
Greg and Missy didn't come to Connection Codes as experts — they came as a couple who almost didn't make it. Thirty years married, with a near-divorce and a two-year separation somewhere in the middle, they found the Core Emotion Wheel during the slow work of rebuilding. In this episode, Phyllis...
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Your Body Remembers What Your Mind Forgets - (With John Kilmer)
What if your body has been keeping a record your mind never agreed to? In this episode, Glenn and Phyllis sit down with John Kilmer — occupational therapist, life coach, and newly certified Connection Coder — for a conversation about how emotion lives in the body long after the moment has passed....
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Nobody Chooses Pain (With Dr Glenn & Phyllis)
A trigger isn't an overreaction — it's stored pain asking to come out. From a rainforest compound in Costa Rica (howler monkeys included), Glenn and Phyllis unpack what's really happening when someone gets "triggered," why the brain can't tell the difference between a stubbed toe and an old…
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What Happens When You Don't Cry? (With Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill)
Glenn and Phyllis at the mic. They open with a goodbye on a train platform in Switzerland — and the tears Phyllis chose not to swallow — then go straight into what crying actually does inside your body, and what it quietly costs you when you don't. Glenn unpacks the science (your tears are…
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Goodbye, Tera - A New Season Begins
After four years, hundreds of episodes, and countless wheels, Tera Wages is stepping down from her role as host of the Connection Codes podcast. In this special two-part episode, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis open with a heartfelt tribute from Costa Rica, and then Tera takes the mic solo from Spain —…
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Why More Emotion Words Make It Worse (with Michelle & Kurt)
Michelle and Kurt have been married since 1999 — and they're the first to tell you that "together a long time" isn't the same as "doing well." In this conversation, they share the moment Connection Codes stopped being a book on their shelf and started reorganizing their marriage. Michelle, a...
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"We Called It the 30-Year Fight. Now We Know Why." (With Susan & Sean McGinnis)
Susan and Sean McGinnis drove two hours to a live Connection Codes event in Austin knowing almost nothing about the framework — just desperate to save a 30-year marriage that kept circling the same argument, every three or four months, for three decades. In this episode, they walk Glenn and…
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To Feel Is To Connect (With Bob and Jen Bevan)
Bob and Jen Bevan are a married couple from Cleveland, Tennessee — 29 years in, two kids, three grandchildren, and owners of Witt's Frozen Custard. What they didn't expect was that the path to real connection would run straight through the Core Emotion Wheel. In this episode, Bob and Jen share…
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What Happens When a Man Finally Says How He Feels? (With Mitchell Osmond)
What happens when a man who was wired for achievement — not emotion — finally says out loud that he's afraid? For Mitchell Osmond, it took four years of marriage, a near-divorce, and a funeral to find out. In this episode, Tera sits down with Mitchell, host of the Dad Nation podcast and coach to...
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The Tool That Rebuilt Our Marriage — and the People We Were Leading (with Xio & Hiubert)
What does it look like to lead hundreds of people every week — and have no idea you're quietly breaking down inside your own marriage? Hiubert and Xiomara are Connection Codes certified coaches,former associate pastors, worship leaders, and evangelists who spent nearly twodecades in ministry.…
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The Energy Audit: Why You’re Emotionally Bankrupt by Noon (with Dr. Daryl Appleton)
What if the thing keeping you stuck isn’t a lack of motivation — it’s that you’re too comfortable? This week, Tera sits downwith Dr. Daryl Appleton — award-winning executive coach, high-performance psychologist, and host of the Vogue Top 10 podcast Feelings & Other F Words — for a conversation…
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Reignite Your Marriage: The Product That is Changing How Couples Connect
What if the thing standing between you and better intimacy was something as simple as the mess of a massage oil? In this episode, Dr Glenn and Phyllis sit down with Justin and Natalie — the couple behind Evree, a 100% natural intimate massage cream that functions as both a massage product and a...
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Reclaiming Your Desire: The 5 Things That Will Make or Break Your Marriage, Career, & Mental Health
What if everything you've been labeling as a problem — the addiction, the affair, the marriage that feels like a hostage situation, the career that's slowly killing you — is actually a prophet trying to get your attention? Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill sit down with Jay Stringer, psychotherapist,...
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Emotions Are More Than Just Joy & Anger: How Learning the 8 Core Emotions Can Transform Your Marriage & Life
What does it look like when someone who only knew two emotions — anger and joy — finally faces the full spectrum of what they feel? That's the story Han and Alicia Lau bring to the table this week. Married 31 years, parents to six kids, grandparents to six more — and coaches who almost skipped…
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Why Your Marriage Feels Disconnected (And the Emotional Tool That Actually Fixes It)
What does it actually look like when one spouse starts doing the emotional work before the other is ready? Ben and Hannah have been married 19 years, raised four kids (including three teenagers), and spent nearly a decade unknowingly drifting apart — until one ordinary walk changed everything. In...
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The Way Through Grief: Healing Through Emotion, Identity, and Community When Loss Changes Everything
What do you do when the person you built your life around is suddenly gone? In this deeply moving episode, Glenn and Phyllis sit down with Eric — husband, father of 10, and Connection Codes community member — to talk about what happens when grief, identity loss, and emotional isolation collide....
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The Emotions Behind ADHD (& Why It Doesn't Mean Your Brain is Broken - It's Just Wired Differently)
What if the biggest relationship challenge in your home isn't a communication problem — it's an ADHD brain that nobody ever explained to you? In this eye-opening episode, Tera sits down with ADHD expert, educator, and coach Martha Hoffman (host of ADHD in the Real World podcast) to unpack what…
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Why Ignoring Your Emotions is Destroying Your Health (And What You Should Be Doing Instead)
What if the reason you can't sleep, can't focus, and come home completely depleted has nothing to do with your schedule — and everything to do with what you're doing to your emotions? In this episode, Dr. Glenn Hill, Phyllis Hill, and Tera Wages go deep on one of the most important — and most...
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The Neuroscience of Connection: How Active Listening Releases Oxytocin in Your Marriage
The Power of Active Listening: How Oooo Transforms Conflict Into Connection. What if the secret to emotional regulation in your marriage wasn't another therapy session, but a simple audible response that releases oxytocin in your brain? In Part 2 of our active listening series, Dr. Glenn Hill and...
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How to Be a Good Listener (The 2-Second Fix That Changes Everything)
Description: What if the biggest barrier to emotional connection in your marriage isn't what you're saying—but the silence in between? In this episode, Dr. Glenn Hill reveals the neuroscience behind "audible listening" and why silence literally disconnects us at a physiological level. Drawing…
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The Hidden Gut Issues Hijacking Your Emotions (& How To Fix Them) | With Allison Jordan
What if your anxiety, anger, or depression isn't a mental health issue—but a gut health issue? In this eye-opening conversation, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis sit down with Allison Jordan, a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner and founder of Better Bellies Therapies, who reveals how hidden...
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Walking Through Difficulty Over & Over Again - How Creativity Heals Identity When Life Falls Apart
What happens when you lose your identity in a new country, face 65 consecutive rejections, and your creative voice gets buried under the weight of just surviving? Lara Pilcher, actress, author, and ICF-certified coach, shares her raw journey from Melbourne to America—and how creativity became her...
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From Judgment to Curiosity: What Judgment Is Costing You and What Changes When You Get Curious
What if the harshest critic in your life isn't someone else—it's you? We judge ourselves constantly. Our fears, our bodies, our parenting, the way we show up in relationships. And while we think judgment is motivating us to change, it's actually keeping us trapped in cycles of shame, anger, and...
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When Pain Becomes Home: Breaking the Pattern That Keeps You Stuck
Have you ever noticed how easy it is to stay in painful patterns—even when you know they're hurting you? In this powerful episode, we explore why pain becomes a "home base" for so many people, how depression and emotional suffering can feel safer than joy, and what it actually takes to break…
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Why Your Emotions Are Throwing a Temper Tantrum (And What to Do About It)
What if the "temper tantrums" in your life—whether from your kids, your partner, or even yourself—aren't misbehavior at all, but a desperate cry to be heard? In this episode, Dr. Glenn Hill and Tera Wages unpack a powerful truth: our emotions are pitching a temper tantrum when they're not being...
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The Monday Mindset: Breaking The Cycle & Actually Starting Fresh in 2026
What if the secret to actually starting fresh in 2026 isn't about making better resolutions—but about stopping to process what 2025 is trying to tell you? In this transformative year-end episode, marriage and family therapist Dr. Glenn Hill shares why he loves Mondays, New Year's, and fresh...
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Shrimp Rings & Silver Trees: The Holiday Traditions That Made Us Who We Are
What do a silver Christmas tree, a shrimp ring, and a pen from a Pringles can all have in common? They're all part of the wild, wonderful, and sometimes ridiculous Christmas journey of Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill! In this fun and festive episode, Glenn, Phyllis, and Tera open up about their…
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When Humor Hurts: Navigating Experiencing the Same Situation Differently
Why do the same moments bring one person joy and another person pain? And how can we stop letting those differences destroy our relationships? In this powerful episode, Glenn, Phyllis, and Tera unpack a transformative truth: we all enter the same situations with completely different backstories,...
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"I'd Rather Be Alone Than Feel Alone": Why Loneliness Isn't What You Think & What Actually Helps
What if the real problem isn't being alone, but feeling alone when someone's standing right in front of you? In this powerful conversation, we're diving deep into one of the most misunderstood emotions: loneliness. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis just returned from an incredible journey through Europe, and...
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From Fear to Freedom: A Marriage Coach's Journey to Breakthrough Sexual Connection | With Dan Purcell
Episode Description:What if one vulnerable conversation could completely transform your marriage? Dan Purcell, marriage intimacy coach and creator of the Intimately Us app, shares the pivotal moment when a friend's honesty about his sex life turned Dan's world upside down—and ultimately changed…
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The Difference Between No Conflict and Real Connection | Elijah Runyan
Episode Description: What happens when both you and your partner are flooded with emotion at the same time? In this behind-the-scenes conversation, Tera Wages and Elijah Runyan (Director of Coaching at Connection Codes) get honest about the messy middle of learning emotional connection tools—and...
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Connection That Changed Generations | Friedemann Pache
What happens when a pastor discovers he's been missing his wife emotionally for years—not from lack of love, but from lack of tools?In this powerful conversation, Dr. Glenn Hill sits down with Friedemann Pache, a Connection Codes certified coach from Germany, to discuss his transformation from...
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From a Facebook Message to Life Change | Annemiek Vernhout
Episode Description:What starts with downloading a simple emotion wheel? For Annemiek Vernhout, it sparked a complete transformation—in her marriage, her parenting, and ultimately led her to bring Connection Codes to an entire country.In this powerful conversation recorded in the Netherlands,...
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Rebel Against the Silence: How One Decision Changed Everything About My Marriage and Mental Health (with Laurel Simpson)
What happens when you've spent a lifetime being silent—and suddenly, you can't do it anymore? In this powerful conversation, Connection Codes coach Laurel Simpson shares the moment that changed everything: a walk with her husband John where she realized she had to rebel against the silence that…
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We often find ourselves stuck in a cycle of miscommunication and frustration. We don't know how to convey how we feel OR we burst out and create even more pain. Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill have spent years researching human connection and how to break that cycle. The Connection Codes is the guide to helping couples and individuals conquer conflict and it is the tool to break the cycle of pain and live in peace together.For free resources to live a connected life go to https://www.connectioncodes.co/
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