Conversations With Yaya

You will hear it time and time again that when you reach a certain age, you have no fux to give. I used to think it was a myth, well I'll be damned it's true!Press Play.

Sometimes you have to sit back and let people do what they need to do on their own. Alot of people really do need your help and advice while others just want attention and they end up wasting your time.Know when it's time to step back and mind your business.

We're at the big age now where you should be way past making these kinds of decisions. I'm not here to judge but ...baby what is you doing?Let's chat!

I have my theory on my mean girls turn into mean women. Let's talk about it shall we?

Sometimes we get so caught up in life, surviving, living, healing etc that we forget to live!!!!!!Next thing you know, years done went by and you don't even know who you are any more.But then one day you wake upAnd everything you went through is beautiful. If you can relate, this episode is for you.

Your life is worthy of praise, no matter how big or small the accomplishment. No matter who's clapping for you or not, make sure to clap for yourself, always!

Did you know that it's a scientific fact that the woman you hang around the most can affect you physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and financially?Let's have a ponderosa about the benefits of having great women around you and how you reaction around women says more about you than it says about them.

When you pray to God, "Show Me How Good It Can Get" be prepared for what he's going to give you but most importantly what he's going to take away. Certain paths or meant to be traveled alone. Come and talk to me!

Talk To Me Nice is unsolicited advice with music as the catalyst. Come join this party of one with Author, Ayana Ellis, Wednesdays at 4pm.

The way this generation finds it so funny when people get their heart broken and how they villainize the victim in the situation, is delusional and vile to me. I thought about this as I watched the entire internet tear Meg the Stallion down after she got her heart publicly broken. I have a theory....Press Play...

I'm giving this podcast thing one more try! And you know what? Hell yeah, I love it here! Join my party of one as I combine music and advice to get us through this thing called life! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts and Youtube! Tell A Friend!

Inspired by the horrible news of Tina Campbell's (Mary Mary) husband Teddy filing for divorce after 25 years a slave, I want to talk about why forgiveness is overrated and closure needs to stop being romanticized. When someone violates me, they become Persona Non Grata, period.

As a survivor and advocate for Domestic Violence Awareness, it's breaking my heart how week after week a black woman is being murdered by her partner. What in the world is going on? Please God....Week after week there's been a black woman in the news.... I'm beyond wrecked about this. DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

I'm discussing Tina Campbell of Mary Mary's situation. If you're unaware, her husband of 25 years filed for divorce after she forgave him for cheating on her multiple times over the span of 25 years. Let's discuss the less respect you get the more you forgive. And why closure isn't necessary in most scenarios. Come and talk to me on Wednesdays for the full episode dropping at 4pm est!

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The Pivot is real, it’s scary, it takes confidence in yourself to reinvent yourself repeatedly.If you have a gift, fall in love with the pivot. Do it again and again and again!!!!I’ve found a million ways to pivot my career and this podcast, and I think I landed on my square for real this time. Thank you to all 2 of you that’s been subscribed and listening. This time around I’m holding myself accountable to be consistent, because I have so much to offer and I have so much to share with you all. I'm excited for the new energy I'm bringing and my outlook and perspectives on life as a whole.  So, let's get into some things! Press play for my P.O.V on what the Pivot means to me and how it can possibly help you. If you can relate, leave a comment but remember...Talk to me nice!  

I was inspired by an interview that I saw with Denzel Washington and Spike Lee and was enamored by how Denzel stood on business about not needing validation from anything or anyone. I found the perfect song to fit the conversation because there's a song for everything. Here's one about letting go of the bullshi* and setting boundaries.If you enjoyed this, come again and bring a friend! Books by me on byayanaellis.com

"Don't nobody want no broke heart, don't nobody want no two-time loser... (oh nooo...wooh!)"Let's talk about letting go and letting things flow....(had my music up too loud, I was hype, please excuse the quality when the music plays)www.byayanaellis.com

Have you ever hit rock bottom so hard you had no hope of ever getting back up? Have enough courage to love one more time...and one more time again.-Maya Angelou

Brandy said, "I'm calling you now just to make it through, won't you hear my plea?"If you have a loved one in an abusive relationship, please do your best to be kind and supportive. If you or a loved one is in danger, please get to a safe location and call the National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-SAFEVisit byayanaellis.com or Amazon for a copy of my 10th release, Full Circle - A Renewed History. My story of triumph and survival after leaving an abusive relationship.

I love this song and fell in love with it even more when I learned that Candi Staton made composed it after leaving an abusive relationship. Visit byayanaellis.com or Amazon for a copy of my 10th release, Full Circle - A Renewed History. My story of triumph and survival after leaving an abusive relationship. Byayanaellis.com Come again and bring a friend!

Say man...I get it, I do. But there has to some SOMETHING in your life that you are thankful for and feel blessed to have. Try focusing more on those things and nothing else. Don't let life whoop your azz.Leave a comment with what you feel most blessed about!!

When you're in an abusive relationship, even when it's all said and done, set yourself free and tell YOUR STORY. Don't let it fester or sit in your nervous system. AIR IT OUT!Visit byayanaellis.com or Amazon for a copy of my 10th release, Full Circle - A Renewed History. My story of triumph and survival after leaving an abusive relationship.

This is my favorite motivational feel-good song. Because when the people around me are being azzholes, I've got myself...to remind me of love!Make sure you remind yourself that you are worthy of love YOU ARE LOVE!!!!!

For those of you that have a loved one in an abusive relationship, never, ever stop pouring into her. I know it's hard, I know her actions may make it seem as if it's all falling on deaf ears, but I promise you...she hears you. Visit byayanaellis.com or Amazon for a copy of my 10th release, Full Circle - A Renewed History. My story of triumph and survival after leaving an abusive relationship.

Is it possible for a man and woman to have a solid FRIENDSHIP, if they were once in a sexual relationship?

The only people that are pissed that you set boundaries are the ones that benefit from taking advantage of you when you didn't have any. PROTECT YA NECK!Is it hard for you to set boundaries?

Let's kick the month off right, discussing a topic so near and dear to my heart. This month every Wednesday a song and conversation with yaya will be centered around the topic of Domestic Violence. This is an intro topic/episode, but let's discuss holding your loved one accountable when h/she is the abuser... Visit byayanaellis.com or Amazon for a copy of my 10th release, Full Circle - A Renewed History. My story of triumph and survival after leaving an abusive relationship.

Woman to Woman, Shirley was doing way too much!The clothes on his back.The car he drives.Girl...get a grip!Leave your comments below.

You can be addicted to a certain kind of sadness. You deserve so much better than what has happened to you and you know it, so what are you going to do about it because newsflash:NOBODY'S COMING TO SAVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think Mary J. Blige said it so perfectly. Every lyric to this song is everything that needs to be said when it comes down to your life and how you show up in the world.When you're feeling down, you should never fake it! Leave a comment!

Say man... I know there are some things that are beyond our control and I'm praying for you all, praying for myself too. But outside of those things we all know that life got hands! BUT FIGHT BACK!!!!!!!! Abeg! Now go have the day you deserve.

Fucc You vs Forgiveness:Dare I say that I've reached a point in my life where I'm 90% sure that forgiving people is overrated. Folks know what they be doin!

Love after Domestic Violence is no easy fete. Lets talk about this like adults.

Reconciliation after being abandoned by a friend or loved one after you leave your abusive relationship. Should you or would you forgive them?Let's talk like adults.Full Circle-A Renewed History available on Byayanaellis.com and Amazon.

The Cassie and Diddy case as it's been dubbed has of course brought up some thoughts about the backlash women get when they decide to tell their side of the story and why they stay silent for so long. Full Circle - A Renewed History available on byayanaellis.com and Amazon

Lets talk like adults.Carin had serious daddy issues and it affected her choice in men for a while.What about you? Do you think the way you're raised affects your decisions as an adult as it pertains to your personal life?Full Circle - A Renewed History available on Byayanaellis.com and Amazon

With knowledge and wisdom comes understanding. Let's talk like adults about the "why now" question when it pertains to partner abuse

let's discuss what happens the first time your abuser ... abuses you...and you forgive go back.let's talk like adults. based off my book Full Circle - A Renewed History available on Byayanaellis.com or Amazon

I saved the best for last. These women gave me my flowers and turned my booksigning into a much needed love fest that I didn't realize I needed.I heard youI RECEIVE IT❤️ I will play this video whenever I feel like giving up. Thank God for solid women.

Based off of my book Full Circle - A Renewed History, let's talk like adults about loving and supporting someone through their distress, shall we?It's not easy watching a loved one be in a relationship that isn't positive or healthy, especially if it's an abusive one. So, what do you do? How do you deal?

Why did I choose to remix a book from 15 years ago?Press Play To Find Out!Full Circle - A Renewed History available on Byayanaellis.com

I just released my 10th book based on my life ...back when I was in an abusive relationship....babyyyy last week was all church so I didn't even get to dive into the conversation like I thought I would but it's all good!!!We're gonna dive in now!Available on www.byayanaellis.com

Hey!So I wrapped up behind the books with my 9th book Daughters with chapters No Happy Holidays, Count On Me, Dear Mama, Whoop Shoop Shoop, Faded Pictures and Gotta Find My Way Back.Naomi is in deep deep deep trouble and if all else fails, Shantel will never ever forgive Jameela. But Shantel has other things going on and her mother has some serious questions to be answered!!!It may be too late for anyone in this book to reconcile with one another because the pain and the wounds are too deep.But that's what sequels are for!!Subscribe to my website to be the first to know about new book releases, new podcast episodes and new merch!www.byayanaellis.com Oh! Download the Daughters book Soundtrack!Linktr.ee/byayanaellis

What's done in the dark eventually comes to light over the next few chapters.When Jameela's man is finally exposed in front of everyone, he claps back by revealing conversations they had during "pillow talk" costing her, to lose her most meaningful relationships.Shantel and Yusef struggle with the reality of their past coming back.Naomi finds herself alone and in a dark scary space in life.

Naomi reaches a turning point in her personal life and decides to end things with one of her sex partners after an uncomfortable encounter

Author Ayana Ellis discusses the premise of her 9th book Daughters and catches you up on the chapters she's discussed so far.Daughters available on AmazonSubscribe to Byayanaellis.com for updates on new releases and merch.

CH 14: Somethin Somethin Just Aint RightJameelas eyes is now open to what her girls were saying in earlier chapters. Shes livid when her man doesn't come home after a night out with the boys.CH 15 I ApologizeThe girls reluctantly meet Jameela for brunch to hear her out after the disrespect she spewed over dinner months ago. Boundaries are set and true emotions are revealed.

Hey y'all hey! Here's what you'll find out in Chapters 11-13 1. Somebody spun the block and got married. 2. We finally meet Jameela's "man" Gerrod and boy is he something else!!! 3. Nasty Work has happened and sets the tone for what's to come! Daughters by Ayana Ellis available on Amazon

In this chapter we meet Jameelas parents and the very reason why she is the way that she is with men. But is it just a cop out?