Counselor Chat Podcast

Dear Tired Counselor: You’re Allowed to Rest From Being TiredIn this episode of Counselor Chat, I’m sharing a summer permission slip for counselors who may be on break but still feel completely worn out.Being away from school does not automatically mean your mind and body have caught up after a demanding year. This episode is a reminder that you do not need to turn July into another to-do list, school improvement plan, or race to get ahead for August.In this episode, we talk about:Why being on break does not always mean feeling restedLetting go of the pressure to be productive all summerTrusting that your work mattered, even when you cannot see every outcomeReleasing unfinished things from the school yearThree gentle reflection questions for a summer resetTakeaway:You do not have to earn rest by being exhausted enough. You are allowed to let summer be summer.Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook Group

The Game-Changer I Wish I Had Found Sooner: Restorative PracticesIn this episode of Counselor Chat, I’m sharing why restorative practices became one of the most meaningful shifts in my school counseling work.Restorative practices are not about avoiding accountability or forcing students to say sorry. They are about helping students understand impact, repair harm, build skills, and remain connected to their school community.In this episode, we talk about:Why consequences alone do not always teach the skills students needMoving from “What rule was broken?” to “Who was affected?”Why repair is bigger than a forced apologyHow circles can build connection before conflict happensSimple restorative questions counselors can begin using right awayTakeaway:Students can take responsibility for their actions and still know they belong. Restorative practices help us hold accountability and humanity at the same time.Resources Mentioned:Think SheetsCommunity Circles Starter BundleGrab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook Group

Being the Last to Leave Didn’t Make Me Amazing: Boundaries I Wish I Set EarlierIn this episode of Counselor Chat, I’m continuing the series on things I wish I had done earlier in my school counseling career — and this one is all about boundaries.For a long time, I thought staying late, saying yes, and being endlessly available meant I was dedicated. But looking back, I can see that being the last car in the parking lot didn’t make me a better counselor. It just made me tired.In this episode, I’m sharing the boundaries I wish I had set earlier, including time boundaries, emotional boundaries, role boundaries, communication boundaries, and personal life boundaries. I also reflect on why school counselors often feel guilty setting limits — and why boundaries are actually what help us stay effective, compassionate, and sustainable in this work.In this episode, we talk about:Why overworking is not the same as being effectiveThe difference between being dependable and being endlessly availableWhy school counselors need role clarityHow guilt shows up when we start setting boundariesSimple scripts for saying no or pausing before saying yesWhy leaving on time does not mean you care lessHow boundaries protect your energy, family, and long-term careerTakeaway:You can care deeply about students and still have limits. Being a good counselor does not require burning yourself out.Reflection question:What would change if you believed you could be a good counselor without being endlessly available?Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook Group

I Didn’t Know What I Didn’t Know: Why Conferences Changed My Counseling PracticeIn this episode of Counselor Chat, I’m sharing why professional development and conferences became such a turning point in my school counseling career. Early on, I didn’t fully realize how much I could learn outside of my own building — or how much my perspective was limited by only knowing my own experiences.I’ll talk about finally attending my first conference, creating a small local conference for counselors, and how trainings in restorative practices and trauma, illness, and grief have deeply changed the way I support students, staff, and school communities.In this episode, we talk about:Why professional development is not “extra”How conferences expand your perspectiveThe power of learning from other counselorsWhy asking to attend training mattersHow restorative practices and crisis-response training changed my workTakeaway:You don’t know what you don’t know — and sometimes one conference, one training, or one new idea can change your entire practice.Check out the:Summer Counselor ConferenceGrab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook Group

What I Wish I Had Done Earlier: Invest in My FutureIn this episode of Counselor Chat, we’re kicking off a new reflective series about the things I wish I had done earlier in my school counseling career. First up: investing in my future.This episode is not financial advice, but it is a gentle reminder that school counselors spend so much time helping students plan their futures that we sometimes forget to plan for our own. I’m sharing why I wish I had started asking questions about retirement, savings, and long-term planning earlier — and why taking even one small step now can make a difference for future you.In this episode, we talk about:Why future planning matters for school counselorsThe importance of asking questions about retirement and benefitsHow small steps can add up over timeWhy confusion should not keep you from startingCaring for your future self without guilt or shameTakeaway:You are allowed to care deeply about your students and still care about your own future. Future you is worth planning for.Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupDon't forget to sign up for the Summer Counselor Conference! Early Bird registration ends June 15th!

Celebrating Growth (Even When It Doesn’t Feel Like Enough)As the school year comes to a close, it's easy to focus on the students we didn't quite reach, the goals that aren't fully accomplished, and the work that still feels unfinished. But what if success isn't always found in the big moments?In this episode of Counselor Chat, we'll explore how school counselors can reframe success by recognizing the quiet growth that often goes unnoticed. From students who finally ask for help to those who simply know they have a safe adult at school, these small wins matter more than we sometimes realize.In This Episode:Why growth is often messy, slow, and easy to overlookThe small victories counselors should be celebratingA touching story about a former student whose life was changed by a simple belief in his potentialWhy students often remember the little things we doHow counselors amplify student success every dayThe importance of recognizing your own growth as a counselorKey TakeawaySuccess doesn't always arrive as a dramatic transformation. Sometimes it sounds like:"Can I see my emotional support person?""Thanks for always listening.""You made me think I could actually do this."The relationships, encouragement, and consistency you provide matter more than you may ever know.As you wrap up the school year, take a moment to celebrate the quiet victories—both your students' growth and your own. 💛Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupGet Your Ticket to the Summer Counselor Conference!

The Students You’re Still Worried AboutAs the school year winds down, most people are focused on celebrations, graduations, and summer plans. But school counselors know there’s another side to this season—the students we're still thinking about.In this heartfelt episode of Counselor Chat, we'll talk about the students who stay on our minds long after the final bell rings. The students who still struggle with friendships, attendance, anxiety, family challenges, or simply finding their place in the world.You'll learn:Why it's normal to worry about certain students as summer approachesWhat you can realistically do before the school year endsSimple ways to help students identify supports and prepare for summerHow to effectively hand off information to next year's teamWhy counselors need to remember they are only one chapter—not the entire storyIn This Episode:✔️ Supporting vulnerable students before summer break✔️ Creating meaningful final check-ins✔️ Helping students identify trusted adults and support systems✔️ Transition planning and counselor-to-counselor handoffs✔️ Letting go of the pressure to "fix everything" before June✔️ Trusting that the seeds you've planted will continue to growKey TakeawayYou don't have to solve every problem before summer. Sometimes the greatest gift we give students is consistency, connection, and the reminder that they matter.The fact that you're still worried about certain students doesn't mean you haven't done enough—it means you cared deeply.Connect with Carol🌐 CounselingEssentials.org📸 Instagram: @counselingessentialsIf this episode resonated with you, share it with another school counselor who may be carrying the weight of unfinished stories as the school year comes to a close.Until next time, remember: the relationships matter, the small moments matter, and you matter too. 💛Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook Groupwww.summercounselorconference.com

163. Helping Students Transition WellAs school counselors, we spend so much time managing schedules, testing, field trips, celebrations, and end-of-year chaos that it’s easy to forget what many students are experiencing underneath it all: transition.In this episode of Counselor Chat, I’m talking about how transitions affect students emotionally and how we can support them in simple, meaningful ways without adding one more giant project to our already busy season.From elementary students moving to middle school, to seniors preparing to graduate, students often carry fears, uncertainty, excitement, grief, and anxiety all at the same time. The good news? Supporting them doesn’t have to involve complicated lessons, elaborate crafts, or Pinterest-perfect projects.In this episode, I share realistic and manageable ideas that help students process change, reflect on growth, and move forward with confidence.In this episode, we discuss:Why transitions can feel emotionally overwhelming for studentsCommon fears students have when moving to middle school and high schoolThe importance of normalizing emotions during times of changeEasy reflection and closure activities for different grade levelsHow simple conversations can create lasting impactWays to support graduating seniors emotionallyWhy counselors don’t need giant productions to create meaningful momentsFavorite Quote from the Episode:“Simple is often better because it’s realistic and repeatable, and students remember how they felt, who listened, and who helped them feel seen.”Resources Mentioned:Year End Review Discussion QuestionsSummer Counselor Conference Remember, meaningful does not have to mean complicated.You are making a bigger difference than you realize.Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook Group

Don’t Wait Until June: The 3 Pieces of Data You Should Grab Right NowIn this episode of Counselor Chat, we're talking about one of the biggest end-of-year stressors for school counselors: DATA. But instead of overcomplicating things with giant spreadsheets and impossible tracking systems, this episode focuses on the simple, meaningful information that actually matters.If you’ve ever found yourself in May wondering:“Where did this year go?”“Did I track enough?”“How am I supposed to summarize my counseling program?”…this episode is for you.Carol shares:The 3 pieces of data every school counselor should gather before the year endsWhy simple data is still powerfulEasy ways to use the information you already haveHow stories and student growth make your impact visibleWhy presentation matters when sharing your counseling program with administrators and stakeholdersShe also shares practical examples from her own district counseling program and explains how data can help guide next year’s counseling priorities—not just “prove” what you did this year.In This Episode, You’ll Learn:✔️ Why more data does NOT always mean better data ✔️ The importance of tracking the scope of your counseling work ✔️ Simple ways to show student growth and outcomes ✔️ Why stories and student quotes matter ✔️ What NOT to do during May survival season 😅 ✔️ How to create visuals that make your counseling program shine ✔️ How data can help shape next year’s counseling goals and supportsThe 3 Types of Data to Collect Right Now1. What You DidClassroom lessonsSmall groupsIndividual sessionsCrisis responseParent meetingsAttendance and behavior interventionsCommunity circlesCareer activities2. What ChangedPre/post surveysAttendance improvementsCoping skills growthTeacher observationsStudent reflectionsBehavior changes3. StoriesStudent quotesTeacher feedbackParent commentsSuccess momentsImpact stories that bring your work to lifeFree Resource Mentioned in This Episode🎁 Free End of Year Counseling ReportThis free counseling report template helps school counselors summarize the highlights of their school counseling program into an eye-catching, professional format that is perfect for:AdministratorsAdvisory councilsStaff meetingsProgram advocacyEnd-of-year reflectionIt’s designed to help you showcase:Lessons taughtGroups facilitatedStudent impactProgram highlightsCounseling outcomes…without spending hours creating reports from scratch.Connect with Carol🌐 Counseling Essentials 📸 Instagram @counselingessentialsIf this episode encouraged you, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another school counselor who’s trying to survive the end of the school year one spreadsheet at a time. 💛Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook Group

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Episode 160: Simple Mental Health Supports Every School Can Use Right NowMental Health Awareness Month is coming up, and I know how easy it is to feel like you need to do more.Add another lesson. Try something new. Fit one more thing into an already full schedule.In this episode, I share a different perspective. Supporting student mental health is not about adding something big. It is about what is already happening in your day and how you show up in those moments.I walk through simple, realistic ways I support student mental health that do not require extra time or complicated planning. These are things you can start using right away.In this episode:Why mental health support is not limited to a lesson, a week, or a specific monthHow everyday interactions shape how students feel and respondSimple ways to support students without overwhelming your scheduleThe role consistency plays in helping students feel safeHow to support your own mental health while supporting othersPractical Ways to Support Mental Health:Checking in with students in small, informal moments throughout the dayHelping students understand that all feelings are valid and worth sharingTeaching a few coping strategies and practicing them regularlyCreating predictable routines so students know what to expectMaking space for connection through simple conversationsUsing tools like calm down kits to support regulation when needed"You are not responsible for doing everything. You are responsible for doing what you can with intention."Resources Mentioned:Calm Down Kit Freebie!High School Mental Health LessonFeelings Check InsGrab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

Episode Title:Rocks, Sand, and the Pressure to Do It All (Especially in April)Episode Summary:April can feel like a breaking point for school counselors. Between testing, behavior challenges, end-of-year responsibilities, and ongoing student needs, it’s easy to feel like you’re falling behind.In this episode, I'm sharing a powerful perspective shift using the classic “jar of rocks” story to help you refocus your time, energy, and expectations. This is your reminder that you were never meant to do it all—and that doing less of what doesn’t matter can actually help you do more of what does.In This Episode, You’ll Learn:Why April feels especially overwhelming for school counselorsThe hidden “invisible checklist” many counselors carryHow to identify your “rocks” (what matters most right now)The difference between rocks, pebbles, and sand in your daily workWhy letting go is a strategic decision, not a failureA simple mindset shift to reduce overwhelm immediatelyKey Takeaway:“You were never meant to do it all.”Reflection Questions:What are your rocks right now?Where are you spending time on sand instead of what matters most?What is one thing you can let go of this week?Where are you already making a difference (even if it doesn’t feel like it)?You don’t have to do everything to make a difference.You just have to focus on what matters most.And right now… that’s enough. 💛Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

Test Anxiety Isn’t Just Nerves—Here’s What Students Really NeedTest anxiety is everywhere this time of year, but it doesn’t always look the way we expect.It’s not just nervous students biting their nails.It’s avoidance.Shutdown.Frustration.“I don’t care.”In this episode, I’m breaking down what test anxiety really looks like, what’s happening in the brain, and how we can support students with simple, effective strategies that build confidence and calm.💡 What You’ll LearnWhy test anxiety is often misunderstoodHow overwhelm—not defiance—is driving behaviorA simple way to explain anxiety to studentsHow confidence and identity impact test performance🧠 What’s Really HappeningWhen students feel stressed, their brains flip into alarm mode.Heart rate increasesThinking becomes foggyFocus dropsIt’s not that they don’t know the material…👉 Their brain is trying to protect them.🎨 Easy Activities to Support StudentsColor-by-code coping activitiesConfidence statement practiceCollaborative classroom posters with calming messagesSimple. Low prep. High impact.✨ Key Takeaway“They care a lot… they just don’t feel capable.”🎁 Resources MentionedColor by Code Test Taking SKillsTest Strategies GameTest Prep MotivatorsTest Prep Collaborative PosterGrab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

Why I Don’t Make Kids Apologize (And What I Do Instead)💭 Episode OverviewWe’ve all said it:“Go apologize.”But what if that moment isn’t actually teaching accountability?In this episode, I’m sharing why I don’t force apologies—and what I do instead to help students take real ownership, build empathy, and repair relationships in a meaningful way.🔑 Key TakeawaysAn apology is not the same as accountabilityForced apologies often teach compliance—not empathyStudents need understanding before they can offer a genuine repairSlowing down the process leads to better long-term behavior and relationships✨ Key Insight“When we force an apology before a student is ready, we’re not teaching empathy… we’re teaching compliance.”🛠️ Resources MentionedThink SheetsGrab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

Episode Title:156. Spring Fever Is Real: Managing Big Energy & Bigger Behaviors🌱 Episode OverviewApril is here—and with it comes big energy, distracted students, and behaviors that can leave teachers feeling overwhelmed.But what if those behaviors aren’t defiance…What if they’re communication?In this episode, I’m sharing a powerful reframe that will shift how you see student behavior this time of year—plus simple, practical strategies you can use immediately to support regulation, connection, and readiness to learn.💡 What You’ll LearnWhy “spring fever” is really a perfect storm of unmet needsHow to reframe behavior from frustration to understandingThe connection between regulation, belonging, and behaviorWhy community and purpose matter for both staff and students🛠️ Quick Tier 1 Strategies You Can Use Right Away1. Brain Breaks with PurposeCross-body movements to support focus60-second resets for breathing + attentionIntentional movement (not just “random wiggle time”)2. Reset Routines After TransitionsBuild in a 1–2 minute reset after lunch, recess, or specialsUse simple check-ins or grounding exercisesDon’t expect instant regulation—teach it3. Calm Down Spaces That Actually WorkFocus on regulation—not punishmentInclude tools students already know how to usePractice when students are calm (not just overwhelmed)Consider portable calm down kits for smaller classrooms✨ Key Takeaway“They’re not just acting out… they’re overwhelmed.”When we shift from asking“How do I stop this behavior?”to asking“What does this student need right now?”…that’s where real change happens.Resources MentionedBehavior ToolkitCalm Down KitGrab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook Group

Episode 155. How Long Is a Lifetime?This week on Counselor Chat, I’m zooming out.Over the past few weeks we’ve talked about college exploration, career research, brackets, and future possibilities. But in this episode I wanted to step back and ask a bigger question — one I ask my upper elementary and middle school students every year:How long is a lifetime?To explore that question, I use a simple visual with jellybeans, where each one represents a day of life. When students see them all laid out it feels like forever… until we start sorting them into things like sleeping, working, and everyday routines.That’s when perspective shifts.When we do the math together, students realize the average person may spend about 43 years working before retirement. And that leads to one of my favorite questions to ask them:“If you’re going to spend 43 years working, how do you want those years to feel?”Instead of focusing only on what job they want someday, students begin thinking about the kind of life they want to build — and how the effort and skills they build now create opportunities later.In This Episode• The jellybean lifetime visual and why it resonates with students• How I help students see the value of their time and future choices• Why asking students how they want life to feel changes the conversation• The connection between effort today and opportunities later• The transferable skills that prepare students for any career pathSometimes the most powerful lessons aren’t about choosing a career yet.They’re about helping students understand that their time matters.Because when you see your life represented by jellybeans, it becomes real.Resource MentionedFuture Plans Lesson (How Long Is A Lifetime?)Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

154. March Madness and School CounselingMarch Madness already brings energy into our school buildings.Students are talking about brackets.There’s excitement.Competition.Predictions about who will win.In this episode, I share how I take that same excitement and turn it into a college and career exploration experience that students find engaging and meaningful.Because if there’s one thing I want students to feel about their futures, it’s this:I want their future to feel exciting, not overwhelming.So instead of basketball teams…I create a Future Bracket Challenge.As I tell my students during this lesson:“What if your future had its own bracket?”What if colleges competed for you?What if careers battled it out?And what if you got to decide what makes it to your Final Four?In This Episode• How to turn March Madness energy into meaningful college and career exploration• The College Research Pennant Project and how it makes research feel celebratory instead of overwhelming• The Career Research Pennant Project that helps students connect education pathways to real careers• A Career Cluster Bracket Challenge that encourages critical thinking and reflection• A Sweet 16 Skills Bracket that explores essential future workplace skills• Reflection questions that help students identify what matters most in their futureThese activities help students begin to see their future not as something distant or intimidating…But something they can start exploring right now.Resources MentionedCareer Research Pennant ProjectCollege Research Pennant ProjectThese ready-to-use templates include structured research sections and resource links, so students can focus on exploration rather than teachers building materials from scratch.Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

153. Shamrocks, Rainbows, and Gold: St. Patrick’s Day SEL That Actually WorksMarch in an elementary school often comes with a little extra magic.Leprechaun footprints.Construction paper rainbows.Gold coins hidden in classrooms.But seasonal fun doesn’t have to mean fluffy lessons.In this episode, I'm sharing creative ways to turn St. Patrick’s Day excitement into meaningful social-emotional learning experiences that students will actually remember.You’ll hear simple strategies you can use right away to teach growth mindset, resilience, goal setting, impulse control, and emotional regulation — all while leaning into the fun of the season.As I remind students during one of these lessons:“Some people think leprechauns bring the gold… but what if the real gold comes from effort?”In This Episode• A Luck vs Effort growth mindset lesson students love• How to use rainbows to teach goal setting• Turning leprechaun traps into problem-solving activities• A character traits treasure hunt with gold coins• A gratitude shift from “I’m lucky because…” to “I worked hard for…”• A playful impulse control lesson: Leprechaun Trick or Think• Rainbow Regulation coping strategies for younger studentsThese activities help students understand that success isn’t about luck.It’s about effort, perseverance, and learning along the way.Seasonal lessons can absolutely be fun.But when you add purpose, reflection, and conversation, they become something much more powerful.Because when students are laughing, engaged, and thinking…That’s when the learning sticks.And that might just be the real pot of gold.Resources MentionedLuck vs Effort LessonLucky Day IcebreakersBeing Golden with your Cyber SmartsGrab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook Group

Behavior concerns often land squarely on the school counselor’s shoulders, leaving counselors feeling overwhelmed, reactive, and stretched thin.In this episode of Counselor Chat, I'm breaking down MTSS for Behavior (MTSSB) in a clear, practical way that centers teamwork, intentional decision-making, and counselor sustainability.This conversation moves away from compliance and paperwork and toward systems that actually work for students and the adults who support them.In This Episode, You’ll Learn:What MTSSB really means and why it mattersThe difference between reacting to behavior and responding intentionallyWhy behavior decisions should always be team-basedHow to think about Tier 1, Tier 2, and Tier 3 supports without overwhelmWhat data-informed decisions look like in real school settingsHow a clear intervention menu reduces emotional decision-making and burnoutKey Quote“MTSSB isn’t about reacting faster. It’s about responding smarter.”Reflection Questions from the Episode:Who is currently making Tier 2 behavior decisions in your building?What data are you actually using, and is it useful?Do you have a clear intervention menu, or are you reinventing the wheel each time?Resources Mentioned:MTSS Behavior ToolkitBehavior Choice Survey BundleGrab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook Group

Episode 151: The Words Matter: Small Language Shifts That Make a Big DifferenceThe words we use as school counselors matter more than we sometimes realize.In this practical episode, I talk about everyday phrases we often say automatically and how small shifts in language can create more safety, validation, and trust for students, parents, staff, and ourselves.This isn’t about doing things wrong. It’s about becoming more intentional with our words, especially when we’re tired, rushed, or navigating emotional situations.In this episode, we explore:Why phrases like “It’s going to be okay” or “At least…” don’t always land as intendedLanguage shifts that validate emotions without escalating themHow curiosity-based phrasing changes the tone of conversationsWays to reduce defensiveness when working with parents and teachersWhy scripts are a helpful support during high-emotion momentsHow the language we use with ourselves impacts burnout and longevityAs you move through your week, I invite you to notice your language without judging it. Just notice where a small shift might help someone feel more seen, heard, and supported.You don’t need to change everything. One intentional change can make a real difference.Thank you for the heart you bring to this work every single day.Mentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

Episode 150: Not Every Week Is a Highlight ReelNot every National School Counseling Week looks like a highlight reel, and that’s okay.In this reflective episode, I share a personal experience from my own school where carefully made plans for National School Counseling Week were replaced by grief, crisis response, and the need to simply be present for students and staff.This episode is for counselors who felt exhausted, unseen, or overwhelmed, and for anyone who needed permission to let something go.In this episode, I cover:Why National School Counseling Week can feel complicated and emotionalHow unexpected events can shift even the best-laid plansWhat it means to truly “do enough” as a school counselorWhy quiet work still matters, even when it isn’t celebratedA moment from the episode that I hope stays with you:“Sometimes doing what we can with what we have is the most realistic and compassionate choice.”If National School Counseling Week didn’t look the way you hoped, if you stayed quiet, or if you focused on crisis instead of celebration, I want you to know this: you didn’t fail. You’re human. And the work you do every day still makes a difference.Thank you for being here and for all you give to this profession.Mentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

Episode 148: Lives Worth Living with Steve Sharp and Perri RosenIn this episode, I’m joined by Steve Sharp (a middle school counselor in Pennsylvania) and Dr. Perri Rosen (a nationally certified school psychologist and former special educator) to talk about their new book, Lives Worth Living: Applying the Zero Suicide Approach in Schools.We have an honest, practical conversation about how suicide prevention in schools has often been treated as “crisis response only”—and why the work we do before a crisis (SEL, belonging, school climate, connection) is a critical part of prevention too.In This Episode, You’ll Learn:Why suicide prevention is often seen as “its own box” in schools—and how to broaden that mindsetWhat the Zero Suicide framework is and why it can be adapted for school systemsHow SEL, belonging, and school climate function as real protective factorsWhat school counselors may need to unlearn about suicide preventionWhy “refer out and hope it resolves” isn’t the full picture—and how schools still play a role in recoveryWhy re-entry and connection matter so much after a suicide-related crisisHow data and continuous improvement can strengthen a school-wide prevention system over time“You don’t have to layer on all of these other things… it’s many of the things you’re already doing. It’s just making those connections.”Key Takeaway:Suicide prevention isn’t just a training or a risk assessment—it’s the systems we build, the connections we create, and the culture of belonging we protect, so students can truly live lives worth living.If this episode encouraged you, I’d love for you to follow the podcast and leave a review—it helps other school counselors find support, resources, and reminders that they’re not alone in this work.Resources Mentioned:Lives Worth LivingMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

In this episode of Counselor Chat, I celebrate the powerful connection between National School Counseling Week and World Read Aloud Day, and why stories play such a meaningful role in student success.I share how read-alouds create emotional safety, help students name their feelings, and open doors for conversations that might otherwise feel too hard to start. I also read an excerpt from my children’s book, Sammy’s Sad Day, and walked through simple, practical ways counselors can use storytelling as a Tier 1 support in classrooms, small groups, and beyond.This episode is a reminder that success isn’t just measured in data — it’s felt in connection.In This Episode, I Talk About:Why student success starts with emotional safety, not just academicsHow stories create shared emotional language for studentsWhy read-alouds work so well as low-pressure counseling toolsUsing books as Tier 1 support for whole-class and school-wide impactSimple reflection questions that build emotional literacyHow connection changes behavior and learning outcomes“You amplify student success when a student feels seen, a teacher uses language you modeled, and a child realizes they’re not alone.Links MentionedSammy's Sad DayPerks National School Counseling Week Free Month DealMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

January has a way of sneaking up on me—and usually bringing one big question with it: How’s your data looking?In this episode, I’m sharing a realistic, no-pressure approach to doing a midyear data check, without the guilt, the overwhelm, or the unrealistic expectation of having “perfect” charts and reports. This conversation is all about using what you already have to guide meaningful next steps for your students, instead of stressing over what you didn’t collect.In This Episode, I Talk About:Why “real data” doesn’t always live in spreadsheets and graphsWhat actually counts as meaningful data in a real school settingSimple reflection questions I use to spot trends and changing needsHow I know when it’s time to adjust groups, lessons, or interventionsWhy January is more about course correction than evaluationHow my own energy and workload often point to important patternsReflection Questions I Share:What feels heavier than it did in the fall?What feels lighter?Who am I seeing more often—and who am I seeing less?What has surprised me so far this year?“You don’t need more data to prove you’re doing meaningful work. You just need enough information to guide your next steps.”Key Takeaway:Midyear data isn’t about proving everything worked—it’s about asking one powerful question: What do students need now?If this episode encouraged you, I’d love for you to follow the podcast and leave a review—it helps other counselors find support, ideas, and practical strategies too.Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

January is often when attendance challenges start to feel impossible (for students and for counselors). In this episode, I break down why attendance dips during the winter months, how to reframe attendance as a support issue rather than a compliance issue, and what counselors can realistically do to help students re-engage with school.This episode focuses on compassion, collaboration, and practical strategies that honor what students are really experiencing.You’ll Learn:Common reasons attendance declines in January (illness, anxiety, routine changes, weather, and more)Why framing attendance as a symptom changes how students respondLanguage counselors can use to talk about attendance without blameLayered counseling supports for students with chronic absencesHow small wins (fewer tardies, staying longer, asking for help) matter more than perfect dataEngagement strategies that increase motivation and belongingQuote from the Episode“Students don’t avoid school because they don’t care. They avoid school because something feels really hard.”Resources Mentioned:Attendance Small GroupMiddle School Attendance Lesson (grades 6-7)Barriers To Attendance Lesson (grades K-1)Academic Success Attendance Lesson (grades 2-3)Barriers to Attendance (grades 4-5)Chronic Attendance Intervention Lesson (grade 8)Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

January can feel especially tough in schools. Big emotions, increased anxiety, mood changes, and shutdown behaviors often show up as students transition back from break. In this episode, I’m breaking down why January feels so hard, and what school counselors can do to support students in ways that are compassionate, practical, and sustainable.In this episode, I discuss:Why January creates emotional and behavioral shifts for studentsHow anxiety shows up differently across age groupsThe difference between behavior problems and regulation problemsWhy predictability is essential for reducing anxietyCounselor strategies to restore safety and routineLow-pressure Tier 1 lesson ideas for JanuarySmall group supports for anxiety, coping skills, and transitionsTrauma-informed practices that prioritize connection before correctionKey Quote from the Episode“Anxiety increases when predictability decreases.”Counselor TakeawayJanuary isn’t about fixing feelings or pushing through. It’s about regrounding, rebuilding routines, and helping students feel safe enough to learn again. Small supports matter—and they add up.Thank you for showing up for your students and for yourself. Your work matters more than you know.Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

January has a way of making counselors feel like they should start over with new systems, new routines, new everything. But what if that pressure is actually working against your effectiveness?In this episode of Counselor Chat, I'm offering a grounded reframe for the new year: you don’t need to become a brand-new counselor just because the calendar changed.Instead, this episode invites you to slow down, protect your energy, and focus on what already works.In this episode, you’ll hear:Why January pressure can lead to burnout instead of clarityA simple explanation of the law of diminishing returns in school counselingHow “doing more” can actually reduce your impactWhy small tweaks matter more than big overhaulsPractical ways to carry fall systems into the springThree gentle reflection prompts to guide your January planning“Sometimes less truly is more — especially when it comes to protecting your energy and sustaining your impact.”January Reflection Prompts:What is one counseling routine that felt manageable in the fall?What is one lesson, group, or system I don’t need to reinvent?What is one thing I can stop doing to protect my energy?This episode is a reminder that:You are not starting overYour relationships still matterYour systems didn’t disappearAnd sustainability is what carries you through March, April, and May✨ New year. Same counselor. Stronger boundaries. Smarter focus.Thanks for being here, counselor friend.You’re doing important work — even when it doesn’t feel loud or new.⭐ If this episode helped you, a quick review means more than you knowUntil next time — I hope you have a really great week.Links Mentioned in the Episode:Episode 83Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

As the calendar turns to a new year, many school counselors find themselves holding a mix of emotions about heading back to work. Motivation might feel low, energy might feel scattered, and that sense of readiness may not be there yet.In this New Year’s Eve re-listen, I'm revisiting Episode 41 of Counselor Chat Podcast, a conversation counselors return to again and again when break comes to an end.This episode is a reminder that feeling unmotivated, heavy, or unsure about returning to school is normal. Motivation does not magically appear on January 1st, and you do not need to have everything figured out before heading back.In this episode, you’ll hear:Why mixed emotions after a break are completely normalHow different breaks can bring different feelings from year to yearThe importance of acknowledging your emotions instead of pushing through themHow reconnecting with your “why” can ground you when motivation feels lowSimple strategies to ease back into work, including building white space into your calendarWhy prioritizing tasks and letting go of doing everything at once mattersThe power of reconnecting with colleagues for support and perspectiveGentle reminders about self care and protecting your energyYou are not alone, and you are allowed to take this transition one step at a time.Mentioned in the Episode:Energy Inventory: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1eXT5jXvwueU39AGvkFYq7-wvom9TiSns/view?usp=sharingGrab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

As the holiday season arrives, we’re revisiting one of the most meaningful episodes of Counselor Chat — a conversation filled with honest advice, encouragement, and reminders from counselors who truly understand the work.In this episode, counselors from across the country share the wisdom they wish they had when they were new to the profession — advice that’s just as powerful for seasoned counselors navigating full plates, shifting priorities, and year-end reflection.You’ll hear thoughtful insights on:The importance of visibility and relationship-buildingGiving yourself grace and letting go of perfectionAsking for help and leaning on your support systemBalancing heart work with realistic expectationsCaring for yourself while caring for othersRemembering that even the smallest moments matterThis episode feels like sitting down with colleagues who get it — the challenges, the joy, the exhaustion, and the purpose behind the work you do every day.Whether you’re listening on a walk, at the gym, or during a quiet moment of rest, my hope is that this re-listen meets you exactly where you are and reminds you that you are not alone.Ready to share your tips and advice on a upcoming episode? Just hit this link, and then press record on your phone or device. Easy peasy! https://www.speakpipe.com/msg/s/325646/26/h0ldegvcaj9roa3kGrab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

December in schools hits different.The schedules are off. The kids are buzzing. The teachers are exhausted. And counselors are somehow expected to be part Santa, part therapist, and part crisis manager… all before lunch.If your December feels especially full, you are not imagining it.In this week’s episode of Counselor Chat, I’m sharing The School Counselor’s Holiday Survival Guide. It’s a realistic, no-pressure conversation about how to get through this season without losing your sanity or your joy.In this episode, we talk about:Why December feels so intense for school counselorsHow to simplify lessons and expectations without guiltWhat to do when plans constantly changeSetting boundaries that protect your energy and still support your schoolSupporting students who struggle emotionally during the holidaysFinding small moments of calm and joy for yourselfOne of my favorite reminders from this episode is this:“Your goal right now is not to win Counselor of the Season. Your goal is to get to winter break in one piece.”If you’ve been feeling tired, stretched thin, or like you’re barely keeping up, this episode is your permission slip to simplify and take care of yourself, too.Mentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

Episode 140: Finding Calm in the Counselor ChaosDecember brings a special kind of school chaos. Schedules shift. Energy skyrockets. Teachers and students feel stretched. And counselors often find themselves trying to hold it all together.In this episode, I am sharing simple ways to stay grounded, centered, and calm during one of the busiest months of the school year.In This Episode You’ll Learn:• Common early signs of counselor burnout • Why noticing burnout is an act of wisdom, not weakness • Easy micro practices that take 30 seconds to 2 minutes • A guided one-minute breathing reset you can use anytime • How to let go of perfection and choose simplicity • Ways to weave calm moments into your day without adding tasksQuote From the Episode"You are doing enough. You are enough, and you are allowed to rest."Encouragement for the WeekDecember may be busy, but you do not have to absorb all the chaos around you. Take a pause, take a breath, and give yourself permission to rest. You are doing more good than you know.Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

December can feel like a whirlwind in schools, which makes it the perfect time to slow down and center students in one of the most grounding SEL themes we have: gratitude.In this episode, I am sharing simple, meaningful ways to introduce gratitude to students of all ages, plus ideas for weaving it into your counseling program throughout the whole month.In This Episode, You’ll Learn:• Why gratitude boosts mood, relationships, and academic outcomes • How gratitude connects to all five CASEL competencies • How I use the book Last Stop on Market Street to introduce perspective and meaning • Reflection questions that help deepen student understanding • My daily Witness Moment practice and how students can create gratitude snapshots • A gratitude acorn activity that helps younger students understand growth • A powerful gratitude cross the line lesson for older students • Schoolwide ideas: gratitude walls, gratitude grams, morning announcements • How to track simple Tier 1 data when implementing gratitude centered lessonsQuote From the Episode"It can start off tiny, just like an acorn, but gratitude has a way of growing into something great."Encouragement for the WeekAs we close out the year, gratitude becomes a beautiful reminder of why we do this work. Whether it is an acorn on the wall, a hallway display, or a quiet moment in your office, I hope you always find ways to grow gratitude in your school this season.Resources Mentioned:Last Stop On Market StreetGrab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

Right before Thanksgiving, in the middle of progress reports, last-minute meetings, and all the pumpkin spice in the world, it can be easy to miss the small moments that actually fuel us.This episode is a gentle pause. A breath. A circle of gratitude created for you.I asked counselors in my Facebook groups what they are most grateful for, and their answers were pure joy, connection, and heart. Today I am sharing their stories, along with a few of my own, as a reminder that even in the chaos, the work you do every day truly matters.✨ What You Will Hear in This Episode:Why the weeks before Thanksgiving feel especially heavyThe power of stopping to notice the goodA collective gratitude circle filled with counselor shared momentsStudents choosing time with their counselor as their rewardKids using calm down strategies and repeating your words back to youWhen a student calls you their trusted adultWhy small wins often matter the mostReal stories of connection from counselors across the countryA quick 30 second gratitude practice you can do anytimeSimple ideas to keep the gratitude going at school💬 Quote from the Episode“Emotional safety is such a quiet form of love, and when kids choose to show up in your space, that is gratitude in motion.”💛 Encouragement for the WeekTake a moment today to name one thing you are grateful for in your work, with no posting or documenting, just a quiet acknowledgment of a meaningful moment.You are the safe space. You are the trusted adult. You are the calm in the storm.And that is something to be profoundly grateful for.Happy Thanksgiving, counselor friends. I appreciate you more than you know. 💛Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

In this week's podcast we look at pre-holiday behavior spikes through a problem-solving lens. Instead of “How do we punish this?” we ask, “What skill is missing?” She models restorative conversations, shares reflection tools that build self-awareness, and walks through calm-down strategies that help students regulate before you problem-solve.Key takeawaysBehavior = communication. Shift from “what’s wrong with the student?” to “what’s happening for the student?”Use restorative approaches: understand harm, take responsibility, repair relationships, restore trust.Reflection > reaction: guided behavior reflection sheets connect thoughts, feelings, needs, and next steps.Regulation first: you can’t consequence a child into calm; teach calming tools, then problem-solve.Mindset shift: connection before correction; growth over guilt.Try-it-now toolsRestorative questions:What happened? • What were you thinking/feeling? • Who was affected & how? • What makes it right? • What will you do next time?Behavior Reflection prompts:Trigger • Feeling • Need • Better choice next time • Who to repair with & how (what a real apology looks/sounds like).Calm-down strategies:Square/5-finger breathing, grounding (5–4–3–2–1), movement/water break, sensory tools (rings, stress balls), feelings check-ins/thermometers.Scenario highlight“Jayden in the line”: Instead of office + lecture, Carol uses a brief restorative chat/circle + reflection sheet to move from guilt to growth and repair.Counselor moves to start this weekModel restorative conversations (skip “Why did you do that?”).Teach emotion language (feeling wheels, visuals, daily check-ins).Build a Behavior Reflection Toolkit for you and teachers.Quote to remember“Punishment might stop the behavior, but it doesn’t heal what’s underneath. Problem-solving does.”ConnectFollow Carol on IG: @counselingessentialsShare what’s in your calm-down kit and tag the show!Think SheetsGrab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

How do we help students stand by their values even when doing so might cost them friends? In this week’s episode, I'm sharing how a simple story—The Fall Festival Dilemma—sparked powerful conversations about honesty, belonging, and integrity.In this episode, you’ll learn:How to use moral dilemmas to help students reflect on their valuesWays to move from “teaching right and wrong” to helping kids live their beliefsDiscussion prompts that build empathy, courage, and critical thinkingHow to connect values lessons to ASCA Mindsets & Behaviors and CASEL’s Responsible Decision-Making competencyWhy standing up for what’s right helps students develop confidence and character💡 Quote of the Episode:“Values aren’t just beliefs—they’re actions. Real values show up when they cost you something.”Resources Mentioned:The Fall Festival DilemmaPerks Content ClubGrab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

October might be over, but kindness shouldn’t be. In this week’s episode, I’m sharing how restorative practices can take your school from reactive to relational — and how simple daily routines can build a culture where students feel safe, seen, and supported.Restorative practices aren’t about punishment; they’re about connection. When we focus on building relationships first, we prevent harm — and when harm does happen, we know how to repair it with empathy and understanding.I’ll walk you through what this looks like at each tier — from morning greetings and check-ins to community circles and peer mediation programs — so you can start building a stronger sense of belonging right where you are.✨ In this episode, I share:Simple ways to weave restorative practices into your daily routinesHow to use greetings, check-ins, and circles to strengthen relationshipsWhat each tier of restorative practice looks like in actionWhy reflection, not punishment, leads to lasting behavior changeHow connection and accountability go hand in handIf you’ve been looking for a way to take your anti-bullying work beyond October, this episode will help you do just that — one greeting, one circle, one conversation at a time.Because when we build connection into every day, kindness becomes who we are, not just what we do. 💛Links Mentioned:Community Circles Beginning BundleCommunity Circles Self-Awareness BundleCommunity Circles Self-Management BundleCommunity Circles Social-Awareness BundleThink SheetsGrab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

October is packed—Red Ribbon Week, conferences, spirit days, and of course, Bullying Prevention Month. But if we really want to create schools where students feel safe, seen, and supported, our work has to go deeper than themed t-shirts and hashtag campaigns.In this episode, I’m sharing how to build an anti-bullying culture that lasts long after October ends — one rooted in empathy, connection, and consistency.Here’s what I’ll walk you through:🌱 What a real anti-bullying culture looks like🧭 How to weave kindness and empathy into Tier 1 classroom lessons💬 Creative Tier 2 ideas like Kindness Clubs and leadership groups🏫 Whole-school strategies that make kindness part of your school’s DNA📊 Why data matters—and how to show that kindness work truly changes climateBecause awareness is great, but awareness alone doesn’t change behavior. Culture does.My favorite reminder from this episode:“Awareness is just the spark. But culture change? That’s the flame that keeps you burning all year long.”So grab your coffee (and maybe a donut if you have one), and let’s talk about how to make kindness stick all year long.Links Mentioned:Building Champions Small GroupTop Secret Kindness Club Small GroupGrab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

In this episode of Counselor Chat, I’m sharing one of my favorite fall-inspired lessons — what I like to call The Candy Corn Principle.You know how people either love or hate candy corn? Well, the same goes for our work as school counselors. No matter how much heart, effort, or intention we pour into our programs, not everyone is going to love what we do — and that’s okay.In this episode, I’m talking about why trying to please everyone can leave you burned out and how to stay focused on what truly matters: making a difference for your students.Here’s what I’ll walk you through:🎯 The real reason people-pleasing feels so natural (and so exhausting)🧭 How to protect your time and purpose with healthy boundaries💬 Calm, professional ways to say “no” without guilt💡 Why consistency earns respect faster than trying to please everyone❤️ How to shift from seeking approval to staying aligned with your missionMy favorite reminder from this episode:“You’re not here to make everyone happy. You’re here to make a difference. And those two things are not the same.”So grab your coffee (and maybe a handful of candy corn), and join me for a sweet little reminder that your value isn’t defined by how many people approve — it’s measured by the difference you make every single day.Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

In honor of Bullying Prevention Month, I'm exploring how counselors can help students move beyond “Don’t be a bully” to living empathy through meaningful, collaborative kindness projects.In This Episode, You’ll Learn:The difference between teaching empathy and practicing itSimple schoolwide projects that create a culture of kindness:Classroom extensions like kindness tickets, secret kindness agents, and gratitude postcards Lead with empathy — not just awareness. Don’t just define kindness. Show it. Celebrate it. Let it grow.Resources mentioned:Where Oliver Fits LessonBooks Mentioned:The Kindness QuiltKindness GrowsWhere Oliver FitsGrab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

The first few weeks of school are often a blur of class schedules, new faces, and back-to-school energy—but they’re also the time when every referral seems to come in at once.In this episode, I'm breaking down how to handle that wave of requests without losing your mind (or your lunch break). You’ll learn how to triage like a pro, set healthy boundaries with staff, and create systems that save your future self a ton of time and stress.What you’ll learn in this episode:Why referral overload is actually a good sign (and how to manage it)Carol’s 3-T Triage System: Time-Sensitive, Tiered, and TransparentHow to streamline referrals with a Google FormWhat to say instead of “That’s not my job” (without burning bridges)Why your language matters when setting boundariesA simple way to track referrals for data and advocacyEncouragement for Counselors:You don’t have to do it all at once. You just need a system, a plan, and permission to pause. Triage your time. Lead with heart. And remember—you’re not behind, you’re building something sustainable.Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

The first few weeks of school aren’t just about bulletin boards and icebreakers. They’re the perfect time to notice the small shifts in our students that tell us something deeper might be going on.In this episode, I'm sharing practical ways to recognize red flags early, along with strategies to check in without making students feel called out.What you’ll learn in this episode:How to spot withdrawal in a student who used to be engagedWhy perfectionism may really be anxiety in disguiseWhen humor turns from fun to a red flagThe patterns behind frequent nurse visitsHow to check in with “everything’s fine” studentsThe top “early warning radar” signs to watch for weeks 1–4Encouragement for Counselors: Your instincts matter. Be curious, not judgmental. A small check-in today can redirect the entire course of a student’s year, and sometimes, their life.Links Mentioned:Forced Choice Behavioral SurveysGrab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

“What do you do again?” If you’ve ever heard this question, you already know why visibility matters. In this episode of Counselor Chat, we’re diving into how a simple monthly newsletter can help you advocate for your role, connect with staff and families, and showcase the true impact of school counseling.What you’ll learn in this episode:The 5 essential pieces every counselor newsletter should includePractical ways to share updates, events, and tips without overwhelming yourselfHow newsletters shift the perception of counselors from “crisis response” to essential leadershipWhy visibility = value when it comes to your programA shortcut resource if you’re too busy to design from scratchLinks & Resources:Counselor Newsletter TemplatesMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

Do you ever feel like you and your principal are speaking two different languages? Maybe you’ve been asked to cover lunch duty, sit in on last-minute student issues, or explain (again) why your role matters. You’re not alone—and you’re not powerless.In this episode of Counselor Chat, we’re talking about how to collaborate with administrators without feeling like you’re constantly on defense. You’ll learn how to reset your mindset, swap your language, and use strategy that strengthens your working relationships.What you’ll learn in this episode:How to shift your mindset from undervalued to essential leaderLanguage swaps that turn “ASCA says…” into solutions your admin wants to say yes toWhy aligning your work with schoolwide goals (attendance, achievement, behavior) is a game-changerPractical scripts for saying no without confrontationHow data makes your advocacy more compelling than feelings ever couldIf you’ve ever wondered how to stop being seen as “the other team” and start being seen as an essential member of the leadership team, this one’s for you.Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

Suicide prevention isn’t easy to talk about—but it’s a conversation we can’t afford to avoid. In this episode of Counselor Chat, I share strategies, stories, and resources to help school counselors navigate this difficult but critical topic.What you’ll learn in this episode:How to have age-appropriate conversations with students about suicide and mental health.Practical steps for creating student safety plans that are clear, collaborative, and effective.The role teachers play as gatekeepers, and how training can help them recognize signs and take appropriate action.Why we need to set expectations with staff about reporting concerns immediately—not at the end of the day.How we as counselors can support not just students, but also teachers, staff, and families in this work.💡 Remember: suicide prevention isn’t only about stopping a crisis—it’s about building hope, creating systems of support, and reminding students that they matter.🔗 Resources mentioned in this episode:Grades 6-7 Suicide Prevention LessonSuicide Prevention Grades 8 and up LessonGrab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

Sometimes the smallest gestures hold the biggest power. In this episode, we’re talking about how the High Five Habit can transform your energy, your relationships, and your school year.What you’ll discover in this episode:How high fives activate your brain’s reward center and lift your mood.Simple ways to use high fives with students, colleagues, and even yourself.The importance of celebrating presence and effort—not just performance.Ideas like high five rituals and creating a school-wide high five wall.Why giving yourself a high five in the mirror can shift your confidence and outlook.Whether it’s literal, symbolic, or metaphorical, high fives are a powerful reminder that we see each other, we’re not alone, and we’re worth cheering for.Mentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

Crisis isn’t on your calendar—but it will find its way into your school year. From grief to suicide risk to behavioral outbursts, these moments change everything in an instant. In this episode, I share how to build a Crisis Toolkit so you’re ready to respond with care, structure, and sanity when the unexpected comes knocking.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:How to approach student grief with honesty, check-ins, and healing resources.What protocols and tools to have ready when a student expresses suicidal thoughts.The must-have elements of a behavioral crisis communication and de-escalation plan.What to include in your crisis go-bag and why post-crisis support matters as much as the response itself.Motivation to Take With You:The best time to prepare for a storm is before the clouds roll in. You don’t need to be perfect—you just need to be prepared. Because you, counselor friend, are the calm in the chaos, the heartbeat in the hard stuff, and the soft landing for students who need it most.Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

Episode Summary:What does ice cream have to do with school counseling? More than you might think. In this episode, I share the famous Blueberry Story—a tale that perfectly captures the heart of what we do as counselors. While businesses can send back “bad batches,” schools take every child who walks through the doors—gifted, anxious, angry, brilliant, frightened, and everything in between.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:The surprising connection between ice cream and education.Why schools can’t—and shouldn’t—be run like businesses.How school counselors act as cultivators of every “blueberry” who enters their care.Why small, messy, and unmeasurable moments with students matter more than any spreadsheet.Motivation to Take With You:You don’t need perfect ingredients to create transformation. Every day, you’re doing life-changing work—not with butterfat percentages or flawless blueberries, but with patience, empathy, and heart. You’re cultivating growth in a patch that’s sometimes messy, sometimes wild, but always worth it.Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

If you’ve ever felt like your day is one giant interruption, this episode is for you.In this week’s Counselor Chat, I'm sharing my go-to strategies for using time-blocking to create structure, reduce chaos, and make room for what matters most in your school counseling program.Inside this episode, you’ll discover:What time-blocking is really about (hint: it’s not rigid—it’s freeing!)The 5 key “Counselor Buckets” to organize your time effectivelyHow to plan for flexibility with daily crisis buffers and walk-in timeThe tools Carol uses (Google Calendar, a printed planner, and color-coding)How to communicate your availability and reduce unnecessary interruptionsTips for reviewing, adjusting, and staying consistent—without guiltWhether you’re a sticky-note scheduler or a digital calendar pro, this episode will help you manage your time with intention—and protect your peace in the process.Links Mentioned:Perfect Counselor Planner-Printed VersionPrint Your Own VersionGrab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

Let’s be honest—back-to-school season can feel like a whirlwind. But there’s one move that can make the whole year smoother: teaming up with teachers from the start.In this episode of Counselor Chat, I'm walking you through simple and creative ways to build trust and connection with your teaching staff—without adding more stress to your plate.You’ll learn:Why visibility and approachability are your superpowersWhat to include in a 1-page Counselor Cheat Sheet 📝How to use small gestures (like hand sanitizer and chocolate 🍫) to open big doorsThe power of asking, “What do your students need right now?”Creative ways to co-create lessons and build classroom calm cornersQuick wins for consistent collaboration (hello, Coffee on a Cart ☕)Whether you’re brand new or just ready for a fresh approach, this episode will leave you feeling equipped and encouraged to be the kind of teammate teachers rely on—and students benefit from most.Links Mentioned:Counselor Brochure BundleGrab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

In this inspiring guest episode of Counselor Chat, Carey Hughes and Rachel Haglin take the mic to share how a simple shift in mindset — and one powerful administrative conference — led to real advocacy and real results.They didn’t just talk about change. They led it. And it’s already transforming their district.🔑 In this episode, you’ll learn:Why “It’s a program, not a position” is more than a mantra — it’s a movementHow Carey and Rachel used the ASCA Annual Administrative Conference to align with school goalsWhat happened when they presented data and needs directly to district leadershipThe behind-the-scenes story of becoming lead counselors — and how it started with a letterWhat to do when advocacy doesn’t work right away (hint: it’s a marathon, not a sprint)This episode is your reminder that small steps — when led with heart, data, and courage — can lead to powerful, lasting change.Mentioned in this episode:Perks Membership