Damned If You Do

Episodes

1. 3

   Gentle Parenting, Part I

   "Gentle parenting" rose to fame quickly on social media and quickly became part of the zeitgeist. In this two-part episode, Linda and Praise break down the concept, address misconceptions, and explain how they do gentle parenting perfectly...never.

   Sep 10, 2026

   37m
2. 2

   The Hairy Butthole

   Linda and Praise start the year strong with a new episode! We attended a book-reading-slash-comedy show and left with very hairy buttholes. There's a Korean saying that goes, "If you laugh while you cry, hair will grow out of your butthole." Youngmi Mayer, a biracial Korean American comedian…

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   Jan 19, 2025

   57m
3. 1

   The Present | Part 1

   In keeping with the theme of gratitude around the holiday season, we invite you to exercise gratitude...for yourself! Join Linda and Praise as we talk about all the decision-making and "showing up" required in adult life. How do we stay present through all of it? In Part 1, we unpack what "being...

   Dec 3, 2024

   28m
4. The Present | Part 2

   In keeping with the theme of gratitude around the holiday season, we invite you to exercise gratitude...for yourself! Join Linda and Praise as we talk about all the decision-making and "showing up" required in adult life. How do we stay present through all of it? In Part 1, we unpack what "being...

   Dec 3, 2024

   1h 00m
5. The Spaces | Part 3

   The final part of The Spaces series explores what it looks like when we take up space - both in our real, everyday lives and conceptually in our heads. Join us in our villain era as we practice drawing clear boundaries!

   Apr 30, 2024

   46m
6. The Spaces | Part 2

   In Part 2, we tackle why we didn’t take up more space growing up. We unpack all things Korean-American, the patriarchy, transactional culture, and of course, our moms. Join us!

   Jul 9, 2023

   25m
7. The Spaces | Part 1

   Have you ever wondered what it means to "take up space?" We, Linda and Praise, have often heard that we have a big presence. Then why do we both feel like we take up so little space? Join us for Part 1 of 2 as we dive into this!

   May 23, 2023

   25m
8. The Emotions

   Our comeback episode is a banger! We discuss all things related to emotions. In the past, we used to say that we only feel two emotions: happiness and anger...that is, before we started a lot of therapy. We explore our big therapy breakthroughs that have fundamentally changed us, unintentional...

   Nov 28, 2022

   1h 09m
9. The Mediocre Life

   It's been a minute since our last episode - because we were busy living la vida mediocre! This week, we discuss the expectations put on us by our parents and by society, and the futility of running a rat race you can't ever win. We have both committed to mediocrity and invite you to do the same!

   Dec 20, 2021

   1h 10m
10. The Non-Review

    We give our take on Shang-Chi, not as a review, but more as an experience of what came up for us while watching the film, especially as children of Asian immigrants. We talk about everything from patriarchy and double consciousness, to the lack of vulnerability shown by our parents. But damned if...

    Oct 14, 2021

    54m
11. The Takedown

    Three years, two babies, and a pandemic has happened since we started teasing the idea of a podcast, but episode one is finally here! It just wasn't the episode we thought we'd start with. We planned our first to be typical of the rest: a Linda and Praise discussion that is honest, irreverent and...

    Sep 12, 2021

    50m