Elevate With Shae

We made it to the final day.Today is about remembering who the fuck you are.Not who you were before motherhood. Not trying to “go back” to some old version of yourself.But learning how to reconnect with all the pieces of you now:The woman. The mother. The human being underneath all the responsibilities.In this final episode, we talk about:- Identity shifts inside motherhood- Why you are not meant to be the exact same person you were before kids- Integrating your motherhood identity instead of resisting it- The cycles of expansion, change, and rediscovery many women experience- The emotional weight and beauty of motherhood- Honoring everything you carry and everything you’ve become- Releasing the belief that motherhood erased you- Celebrating yourself instead of waiting for others to fully understand or validate what you doThis episode is a reminder that:You are not lost. You are evolving.Motherhood did not erase you. It expanded you.We also reflect on:- The deep love and awe of creating life- The beauty of watching your children grow- The invisible emotional labor mothers carry every day- The unrealistic expectation that non-mothers will fully understand the experience of motherhood- Why you deserve to celebrate yourself even when no one else fully sees everything you doA huge theme of this episode is:Returning to yourself through honoring yourself.Not by abandoning motherhood. But by allowing yourself to exist fully within it.You are allowed to:- Be a whole person inside motherhood- Have desires, needs, interests, and dreams- Change over time- Outgrow old identities- Rest- Celebrate yourself- Stop judging yourself so harshly- Feel proud of what you’ve created and who you’ve becomeJournal Reflection Prompt:Write a letter to yourself.You can write to:- Your current self- Your past self- Your future selfStarter prompts:- “I see you…”- “I’m sorry for…”- “Thank you for…”- “I want you to remember…”- “You’re allowed to…”- “I’m proud of you because…”Final Reminder:You are not messing this up.You never were.Your kids do not need a perfect mother. They need you.And you were meant to be theirs.Thank you for being here for this week of reflection, awareness, healing, honesty, and reconnection.I hope you leave this experience carrying a little less pressure… and a little more love for yourself.Happy Mother’s Day. Go love on your babies. Go celebrate yourself. And maybe go have that mimosa and brunch too. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit elevatewithshae.substack.com/subscribe

Today’s conversation is for the moms who are carrying too much.Not just tasks and schedules…But emotional responsibility. Expectations. Pressure. The feeling that you have to hold everything together for everyone all the time.In this episode, we talk about:* Overcarrying and emotional overload* Why overwhelm often comes from carrying things that aren’t actually yours* Boundaries with kids, time, energy, and expectations* The guilt many moms feel when they stop pouring from an empty cup* Letting your children experience disappointment without making yourself responsible for fixing every feeling* Tiny “energy leaks” that slowly deplete you* The core wound of “not enoughness” many women carry* Why your worth is not tied to productivity or perfection* Allowing yourself to be a whole person inside of motherhoodWe also dive into the idea that:Your kids do not need a perfect mom.They need safety. Presence. Love. Repair. Connection.And your presence does not mean being endlessly available every second of the day.You are allowed to:* Need rest* Need space* Say “not right now”* Protect your energy* Stop overextending yourself* Let others hold their own responsibilities* Be more than just what you do for everyone elseReflection Questions:* Where am I not holding boundaries because I don’t feel like I’m enough?* What am I carrying that isn’t actually mine?* What do I need more of right now?* What do I need less of?* What is one small boundary I can practice this week?Reminder:Enoughness is not something you earn through doing more.It is a state of being.You are already enough.And you deserve support, rest, peace, and space too.Love you. See you tomorrow for the final day. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit elevatewithshae.substack.com/subscribe

Motherhood can feel like constant input.Noise.Needs.Touch.Questions.Responsibility.Mental load.Overstimulation.And eventually… your nervous system says:“I literally cannot take one more thing.”In today’s episode of the Ease Edit: Motherhood Edition, we’re talking about what happens when moms hit that overload point — the snapping, the shutting down, the guilt, the spiraling — and how to actually support yourself through it instead of just shaming yourself for it.We dive into:- Nervous system regulation in REAL life- Why your reactions make sense in context- Fight, flight, freeze, and shutdown responses in motherhood- How overstimulation builds slowly before we “lose it”- Thought awareness + body regulation working together- The importance of quiet, movement, grounding, and releasing emotions- Why emotions don’t just disappear when ignored- Forgiveness, self-compassion, and recovering faster instead of expecting perfection- Learning to ask: “What do I need right now?”This episode is your reminder that messing up does not make you a bad mom.You are not failing because you’re overwhelmed.You are human.And sometimes regulation looks less like becoming perfectly calm…and more like:going for a walk,crying in your car,breathing for five minutes,screaming to angry music,or finally giving yourself permission to stop carrying everything alone.You don’t need to become a perfect mother.You need support, awareness, recovery, and grace.Go love your babies today.And maybe love yourself a little too. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit elevatewithshae.substack.com/subscribe

Today we’re looking at something big:What’s actually hard about motherhood…and what extra pressure are you adding on top of it?Because yes, motherhood is a lot.But so much of our exhaustion also comes from the expectations, perfectionism, guilt, comparison, and pressure we put on ourselves.In this episode, we talk about:* where your motherhood expectations came from* how childhood experiences shape the way you parent* comparison, guilt, and the “I suck” spiral* why awareness is the first step to changing your patterns* learning how to reframe your thoughts instead of automatically spiralingYou are not failing because you forgot a form, ordered chicken nuggets again, or lost your patience.You’re carrying a lot.And maybe some of the rules in your head… were never yours to begin with.Today’s invitation:start catching the story you’re telling yourself in real time.What’s actually happening?What part is the story?And how can you soften it?Because the way you speak to yourself matters. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit elevatewithshae.substack.com/subscribe

Motherhood is a lot.Not just what you do every day…but everything you carry mentally, emotionally, and energetically too.And most of the time, you don’t even stop long enough to see it.So today isn’t about fixing anything.It’s not about doing better or being better.It’s about awareness.In this episode, we’re starting with a simple motherhood audit—just noticing:what you’re carrying, what you’re thinking about all day, and where you might be making things harder on yourself without even realizing it.No judgment.Just seeing it clearly.Because you can’t change what you won’t look at.You’re not messing this up.You’re holding a lot. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit elevatewithshae.substack.com/subscribe

We’re really good at worrying…and really bad at feeling excited.In this episode, I share how a simple moment—taking my daughter to a concert—made me realize how often we downplay our own joy.We talk about:why your brain defaults to stresshow we unintentionally shrink our happinessand how to start actually feeling the good parts of your lifePlus, a simple way to practice excitement in real time. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit elevatewithshae.substack.com/subscribe

In today’s episode, I’m sharing one of the most impactful hospice stories of my entire career—about a Vietnam veteran who completely changed the way I see life, death, and everything in between.I took care of him for years, and what I experienced during that time challenged everything I thought I understood. From unexplainable moments at the bedside… to feeling energy move through a room… to witnessing things that simply don’t fit into logic or science.This episode isn’t about having answers.It’s about opening your mind.It’s about allowing space for the unknown.And maybe finding a little more peace in not needing to understand everything.We talk about:* What it’s actually like to sit with someone at the end of life* The emotional and spiritual weight of hospice work* Moments that can’t be explained—but are deeply felt* How these experiences changed the way I live my life now* And why waiting until the end to think about “quality of life” might be the biggest mistake we makeIf you’ve ever wondered what really happens at the end of life… or you’re someone who feels there might be more than what we can see and explain—this episode is for you.If you want to go deeper into this work, you can join me inside The Living Room, my online community where you also get access to the P3 Method—my framework for helping you create more peace, presence, and purpose in your everyday life.You don’t have to wait until the end of life to start living better.Link:The Living RoomIf this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend, and don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe.Thank you for being here.Go love yourself. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit elevatewithshae.substack.com/subscribe

If you constantly feel overwhelmed, busy, and mentally drained… this episode will change how you see it.In this episode of Elevate with Shae, we’re talking about the difference between your actual life responsibilities and the mental load you’re adding on top of them.Because most of the time—it’s not your to-do list that’s exhausting you.It’s the stories, expectations, overthinking, and emotional weight you’re carrying.Drawing from my experience as a hospice nurse, I share how we focus on eliminating unnecessary suffering at the end of life—and how you can start doing that in your everyday life right now.✨ In this episode, we talk about:* Why you’re not actually as overwhelmed as you think* Mental load vs. real-life responsibilities* “Pre-suffering” and overthinking things that haven’t happened yet* How expectations (especially unspoken ones) create stress* Carrying other people’s emotional weight (and how to stop)* Simple ways to make your life feel easier right now* The power of asking: “How can I make this easier?”* Why awareness is the first step to real change🧠 Key Shift:Your life isn’t as heavy as it feels.You’re just carrying more than you need to—mentally and emotionally.When you change the way you think about your life,you change the way you experience it.🌿 Want to go deeper?Inside The Living Room, I teach the P3 Method (Presence, Peace, Purpose)—a simple, real-life approach to:* Becoming aware of your thoughts and patterns* Regulating your emotions and stress response* Releasing what’s not yours to carry* Creating more clarity, peace, and intention in your lifeThis isn’t just something you listen to—it’s something you live.Check it out here 👉 https://stan.store/elevatewithshae/p/the-living-room-s7pxo89j🔗 Connect with me:Instagram: @elevatewithshae This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit elevatewithshae.substack.com/subscribe

In this first episode of Elevate with Shae, I share how working as a hospice nurse for over 7 years—and over 20 years in healthcare—completely changed the way I see life.When you sit with people at the end of their lives, you start to notice patterns—what brings peace, what creates suffering, and what truly matters in the end.This episode is about those lessons… and how they led me into deeper self-awareness, personal growth, and a more intentional way of living.✨ In this episode, we talk about:* Lessons from hospice and end-of-life care* How mindset and perspective shape your life* Why awareness is the foundation of personal growth* Letting go of resentment, fear, and limiting beliefs* Creating more peace, presence, and purpose in everyday life🌿 Want to go deeper?I teach the P3 Method (Presence, Peace, Purpose) inside a private space called The Living Room—where we apply this work in real life through voice notes, reflection, and ongoing support.Check it out here:https://stan.store/elevatewithshae/p/the-living-room-s7pxo89j🔗 Connect with me:Instagram: @elevatewithshae This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit elevatewithshae.substack.com/subscribe