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Evolving Love
by Evolving Love Project
Conversations exploring Non-Monogamy, Conscious Relationships & Sexuality. Join Abbey and her husband Liam, as they share from their own lived experiences, and chat with special guests. evolvingloveproject.substack.com
Episodes
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Dangerous Ideas: Reflecting on FODI 2026
Fresh from a huge weekend at Sydney’s Festival of Dangerous Ideas, we take you behind the scenes of the talks, performances and conversations that stayed with us long after leaving Carriageworks. We unpack one particularly confronting moment inside Mark Haslam’s FAKE, which opened up a…
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Are You Afraid of Your Partner’s Success?
What does it mean to truly want the person you love to shine? In this episode, we explore compersion beyond sex and the joy that can come from watching your partner create, succeed, receive praise and step fully into who they are. Following Liam’s recent performances, we reflect on creativity,...
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Questions To Fall In Love To
In this episode, we share some exciting personal news, including our upcoming appearance at the Festival of Dangerous Ideas, where we’ll be exploring the provocative topic Why Non-Monogamy Makes Us Better Parents. We also talk about Liam’s new creative work, Channels: Artists on Ageing…
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Would You Rather Discover Your Partner's Affair Or...
What would you choose if there were no perfect answers? In this return of our Would You Rather series, we explore some confronting relationship dilemmas. Would you rather discover your partner had a passionate year-long affair you never knew about, or have them come to you beforehand and ask for...
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Falling in Love With Another...When Open Relationships Expand
In this episode of Evolving Love, we dive into one of the biggest fears people have around non-monogamy: what happens if you fall in love with someone else? We also unpack the difference between infatuation, limerence and lasting love. We share stories about dating separately for the first time,...
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Are Non-Monogamous People Narcissists?
In this episode of the Evolving Love podcast, we dive into one of the most common accusations aimed at non-monogamous people: are we actually narcissists? We unpack the way the word “narcissist” gets thrown around online and in relationship culture, and explore whether non-monogamy is genuinely...
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Is Non-Monogamy For You?
In this episode, we explore one of the biggest questions we hear: is non-monogamy actually right for you? We break it down into three parts, first looking at the reasons you probably shouldn’t open your relationship, signs you might be ready to start exploring, and finally we share what it feels...
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School Principal on Rethinking Family School Relationships - Dr. Sandra Webster.
Today’s conversation is deeply personal for us and one that features a unique, open-minded and compassionate perspective from our guest. We’re joined by Dr. Sandra Webster, an educational leader, former school principal across three different countries, and more recently the author of the book...
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The Poly Pile On, Online Trolls & SBS Insight
In this episode, we reflect on what it has been like to take our relationship into the public eye after appearing on SBS’s Insight, where we spoke about jealousy, envy, and compersion. What followed was a flood of online commentary, much of it critical. We unpack what it feels like to have our...
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Beyond the Gender Divide: Rethinking Modern Love
Today’s conversation opens up a wider reflection on modern gender discourse and and whether some narratives unintentionally deepen the divide between men and women rather than bringing them together. We explore what it means to hold space for the realities of inequality while still imagining a...
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When Abbey Veto'ed Fer - With Fer (Polycurious)
In today’s episode we sit down with Fer from the Polycurious Podcast to unpack a story that began with a first date in New York and unfolded into a powerful lesson about jealousy, veto power, honesty, and growth. We share openly about the moment Abbey felt triggered when Liam and Fer connected…
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Perimenopause, HRT & Supportive Partners w/ Shelly Horton
Today we are joined by the “Peri Godmother”, Australian TV Journalist Shelly Horton who has written the book “I’m Your Peri Godmother: A happily ever after guide to kicking perimenopause in the ovaries.” With a 30+ year media career spanning ABC, Channel Seven, Fairfax Media and ET America…
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Hotwifing & Hothusbanding - Let's Talk About It!
In this episode, we dive headfirst into the world of hot wifing and hot husbanding, unpacking what these dynamics actually are and why they can feel so electrifying. We talk openly about erotic charge, compersion, possession, and play, exploring how fantasy and power can exist inside consensual,...
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Non-Monogamy and Midlife: Will There Be A Crisis?
In today’s episode we talk about entering midlife without the stereotype of a meltdown. We explore grief for past versions of ourselves, tenderness for who we’re becoming, and how aging changes desire, ambition, creativity, and intimacy. We talk about perimenopause, slowing down, recalibrating...
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Pillow-talk On The Bedroom Floor - A Year In Review
In our final episode of the year we discuss 2025 and some of our favourite podcast guests of the year, our plans for the New Year, the ethics of sending old selfies and so much more... Here are links to the episodes mentioned in this episode: Dr. Emma Phillips - Sexy Selfies Evan Buckley - Cults...
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#100 - What is Love? with Dr. Christopher Ryan - Author of "Sex at Dawn" & "Civilized to Death"
Evolving Lovers!! 100 episodes of the Evolving Love Podcast!!! To celebrate, we invited back one of our all-time favourite guests: Dr. Chris Ryan, author of Sex at Dawn, Civilized to Death, and host of Tangentially Speaking. In this milestone episode, we dive deep into what it means to love, to…
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The Silent Load: Navigating Mental Loads in Relationships
In this episode, Liam and I sit down to unpack what we’ve been calling “the silent load”….the unseen, unspoken work that keeps relationships and families running smoothly. We talk about the four types of invisible load that show up in love: the physical, emotional, mental, and relational loads....
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Meet Our Girlfriend, Olivia
What happens when a married, polyamorous couple goes on a first date with artificial intelligence? In this episode we introduce our new “girlfriend” — Olivia, an AI companion built through ChatGPT’s voice mode — and take her on a virtual first date.We talk attraction, jealousy, and boundaries as...
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Lily Allen & Our P**sy Palace
Lily Allen has dropped her new album West End Girl. This record is a brutally honest breakup album about her open marriage with actor David Harbour, and has put non-monogamy back into the cultural Zeitgeist. In this episode, we discuss * Is Lily Allen’s “p*^sy palace” anthem empowering or...
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Abbey Gets Envious, NRE Music & AI Doomsday
This week, Abbey and Liam unpack the difference between jealousy and envy — and how those feelings show up even in the most secure relationships. What starts as a story about a paddle boarding invitation turns into an honest look at FOMO, friendship, and the desire to keep creating “firsts”...
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"Shame Dissolves In Safe Spaces" with Dabaco Sunset
Dabaco Sunset is a queer-affirming psychotherapist and embodiment facilitator in Sydney, specializing in Gestalt Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Embodied Counselling to help LGBTQ+ individuals and clients with alternative relating styles like ethical non-monogamy. Dabaco practices In…
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Are Female Friendships A Threat To Marriage?
“Why do you need a female friend if you’re married?” In this episode, Abbey and Liam unpack the space where friendship, attraction, romantic relationships and trust collide. From jealousy to risk-taking they explore whether cross-gender friendships are threats to marriage, what happens when you...
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Husband vs. Wife - Open Marriage Debate
In todays episode we play Devil’s Advocate. Can you argue a position you don’t truly believe in? Does switching sides test our own beliefs and sharpen our perspectives? We go head-to-head on: * Should happy couples risk opening their relationship? * Is non-monogamy a solution for struggling...
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Will AI Kill Intimacy? w. Evolutionary Biologist Dr. Rob Brooks
Abbey and Liam are joined by evolutionary biologist Dr. Rob Brooks to explore the rise of AI companions, sex robots, and whether love with machines can ever be “real.” They discuss jealousy over chatbots, the naturalist fallacy, and the deep question of whether humans are naturally monogamous or...
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Fantasy vs. Reality - Secrets & Exhibitionism
In this episode of Evolving Love 2.0, Abbey and Liam explore where they sit on the spectrum between swinging and polyamory. From loud neighbours and exhibitionist fantasies to navigating crushes, labels, and compersion, they dive into the playful, messy, and honest realities of non-monogamy after...
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Pickleball, Therapy & Sex Swings
In today’s episode we bounce from pickleball courts to cold plunges, breathwork breakthroughs, and even DIY sex swings. We discuss our experiences with therapy, and Liam’s recent experience in a men’s breathwork circle. 🧵 Topics Covered 🎾 Pickleball Obsession: Why Liam has pivoted from…
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When Affairs Go Public - Clinton to Coldplaygate
In today’s episode we dive into the spectacle of public affairs—from the viral Coldplay KissCam scandal to the infamous Clinton-Lewinsky saga. We explore the cultural obsession with infidelity, the ethics of public shaming, and the complex dynamics of relationships under scrutiny. Topics Covered…
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Is Liam Controlling? You Decide.
In today’s Evolving Love Podcast we discuss boundaries, limits, and unpack my recent Substack article. Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack | Retreat 🌿 Upcoming Event Women's Retreat – October 17–19, 2025 This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other…
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Protect Your Children - Former Detective Senior Constable Kristi McVee
Today we are having a difficult conversation on Evolving Love. A conversation that puts the safety of our children in the spotlight. To help us navigate this conversation, we have invited on child safety expert - Kristi McVee. Kristy was a Specialist Child Interviewer and Detective Senior…
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"Ask Me How It Works" with Deepa Paul
Deepa is a Filipina-Indian author living in Amsterdam and her writing explores the balance between being a mother, wife, girlfriend, daughter, adventure, and herself - all at the same time. This release is her first book, but you can also find her writing on Substack at - Letters by Deepa This...
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Is Monogamy Boring?
In today’s episode we deep dive the provocative question: Is monogamy boring? We discuss our own definitions of what a boring relationship looks like, erotic space and desire, the richness of shared non-monogamous experiences, is boredom a form of safety, our dream debate opponents and so much...
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Consent Violations in Non-Monogamy
We explore the nuanced topic of consent violations within non-monogamous relationships. From the ethics of sharing intimate photos to the complexities of informed consent in the context of infidelity, this conversation invites Evolving Lovers to consider how trust, transparency, and communication...
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Who Gets To Be Seen? Sexy Selfies with Dr. Emma Phillips
Today we sit down with photographer and academic Dr. Emma Phillips to explore the cultural, feminist, and personal dimensions of an activity that we hold close to our heart - the sexy selfie. Emma is a photographer and researcher/lecturer in Visual Communication at the University of Canberra.…
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How We Communicate - Radical Honesty, Conflict & Sleepy Husbands
In today’s episode we dive deep into the art of communication in long-term, non-monogamous relationships. We explore the nuances of radical honesty—when it’s helpful, when it’s too much, and how to balance truth with tact. From navigating attraction to others, to the infamous “chewer vs. spewer”...
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Confessions Of A Dominatrix w/ Mistress Fleur Driver
Mistress Fleur Driver is a professional Dominatrix and BDSM practitioner with over thirteen years of experience in the sex work industry. Originally trained in the courtesan tradition by European Madams, her practice is grounded in immersive, intentional experiences that welcomes people from all...
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"Beyond Monogamy" on ABC TV - Reactions, Triggers & Our Experience
In today’s episode we discuss our appearance on the ABC’s Compass program “Beyond Monogamy” which was released on Sunday 27th April 2025. We dissect the process of filming, the feedback we have been receiving, counter-opinions presented in the show and how we are feeling after our highest profile...
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Leaving A Cult: Love, Intimacy & Relationships with Evan Buckley
Evan's story is unlike anything you've heard. Imagine spending your most formative years within the confines of a religious fundamentalist cult. How would this shape your approach to sex, love and relationships? In addition to his vulnerability, honesty and ability to self-reflect, Evan is also a...
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The Proposal - A Wedding Anniversary Special
We take the opportunity to celebrate our 10th Wedding Anniversary by reliving the night of the proposal! Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit...
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Policing Language, "Adolescence" & Chris Williamson
In todays episode we discuss Liam being shamed, how we police language, a recent Chris Williamson Instagram caption, an incredible new TV show “Adolescence”, and so much more! Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other...
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The Hardest Conversation Of All
We have a difficult discussion in today’s podcast that relates to child safety and Abbey’s recent Substack article “We Must Be Critical of Non-Monogamy”. We unpack the reception and criticisms around the article, the importance of nuanced conversations around this topic, why no community is…
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Moral Panic & Non-Monogamy w/ Philosopher Dr. Tim Dean
Tim is a philosopher, award-winning writer and teacher. He has a doctorate in philosophy from the University of New South Wales on the evolution of morality and specialises in ethics, critical thinking, the philosophy of science and the philosophy of education. Currently, Tim is the Senior...
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My Vasectomy
In today’s episode we unpack Liam’s recent vasectomy procedure. We discuss the procedure, the lead up and the aftermath, delve into the ethics of contraception, the importance of peas and double briefs, semen, myths around vasectomies, manhood and so much more… Evolving Love Links: Website |...
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Fake Orgasms, Embodiment & Desire with Georgia Grace
Georgia Grace is a certified sex and relationship practitioner and somatic therapist who is particularly known for her work in somatic sexology, embodied counselling and trauma-informed practices. Her approach to working with sex and relationships is inclusive, sex-positive and shame-free, and...
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What If? The Polycule Went Camping
In today’s episode we trial a new format for the show as we play with hypothetical scenarios! Abbey’s lover Caspian leaves his socks everywhere! When is enough enough? How will Abbey confront him? Brenda, Kai, Abbey and Liam embark on a polycule camping trip…. come along for the ride!! Evolving...
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Do Men's Voices Matter? with James Winestock
In today’s conversation we discuss whether men deserve a voice, sensitive men, rolemodels, social media and the influence of the manosphere, how to bring men into the conversation, how men can advocate for men’s issues and hold feminist ideals in tandem, the importance of men expressing…
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Naked on Brooklyn Bridge
In today’s episode we discuss one of our favourite New York experiences… a photoshoot that was impossible to forget… on the Brooklyn Bridge with Kenn Lichtenwalter. Kenn Lichtenwalter Links: Instagram BSky Dive Deeper This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers…
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Cuckolding & Chastity with Shy
Today we're diving headfirst into the taboo world of cuckolding with Shy. We'll be exploring the psychological and emotional complexities of this relationship dynamic through an intimate interview with Shy - a ‘cuckoldress” who is in a 24-7 cuckolding dynamic. Get ready for an honest and…
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Things Are Hard Right Now
In today’s episode we share about what has been happening for us recently. It is a different kind of episode, with a tone that is different to our usual discussions. This conversation covers how we approach conflict, the importance of space, external stresses on the relationship, communication...
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Body Image, Self-Acceptance & Non-Monogamy with Kate Gordon
Today we are joined by Kate Gordon. Kate competed at the Cross Fit Games in 2015 and 2019 and has since become a certified Cross fit trainer and certified nutrition coach. In 2021 she started CFK nutrition and also hosts two podcasts - Gone Rogue which explores her journey in non-monogamy, and…
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Best of 2024
We handpicked some of our 2024 guest highlights to round out a big year for 2024 and Evolving Love. This episode features Andrew Gurza, Chris Ryan , Alex Alberto , Molly Roden Winter , Lina Dune , Multiamory, Dr. Constantine R. Campbell, Casey Calvert, Kyron Kruger & Normalizing Non-Monogamy....
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Conversations exploring Non-Monogamy, Conscious Relationships & Sexuality. Join Abbey and her husband Liam, as they share from their own lived experiences, and chat with special guests.
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