Fatherhood Field Notes

In this straight-shooting Craft of Fatherhood episode of Fatherhood Field Notes, Ned Schaut calls fathers back to two lost arts of manhood: listening well and leading with purpose. Ned challenges dads to stop being the constant lecturer, fixer, and rule-enforcer—and instead become the trusted voice and steady ear their children actually want to come to. He shares how some of the deepest moments with his daughters came not through speeches, but through quiet conversations in the car, in the hot tub, and in everyday life. His warning is blunt: if a father won’t listen to his daughter, some immature boy eventually will.The second half of the episode pushes fathers to rethink discipline, chores, curfews, and household rules. Ned argues that great dads don’t enforce rules just for control—they connect expectations to character formation. Curfews become lessons in respect and communication. Chores become lessons in responsibility. Family standards become training ground for adulthood. This is a practical, masculine reminder that fatherhood is not passive—it is leadership, stewardship, and sacrifice. ---------Check Out the Program Talked About: Genesis by Rise Up KingsThis episode is sponsored by Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?www.adventureoffatherhood.comwww.rebelandcreate.comEach week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis

In this powerful episode of Fatherhood Field Notes, Ned Schaut sits down with Eugene Johnson Jr. for a bold, no-nonsense conversation on biblical manhood, fatherhood, marriage, and spiritual leadership.Eugene shares wisdom forged through 25 years of marriage, raising two children, mentoring men in courts and prisons, and leading fathers back to God’s design.He challenges modern labels like “provider,” “protector,” and “alpha,” arguing that men are not gods of their homes—they are stewards under God’s authority.This episode calls fathers higher: stop chasing image, start pursuing obedience. Learn why your kids need more than money, why your wife needs leadership not passivity, and why true masculinity begins with submission to Christ.Key Takeaway:If you want conviction, clarity, and practical steps to lead your house well, you'll want to listen to what Eugene has to say.---------Check Out the Program Talked About: Genesis by Rise Up KingsThis episode is sponsored by Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?www.adventureoffatherhood.comwww.rebelandcreate.comEach week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis

On this Craft of Fatherhood short, Ned reflects on a recent conversation with Mondoe Davis where Mondoe gave us all a challenge: ask your kid to rate your relationship. Then smile and say "thank you". And get busy implementing their feedback!Listen to this episode for some thoughts on how to implement this and walk out changes and development with the help of some insights from your kids.After all, we rate everything... shampoo, albums, restaurants... and then we look for others' feedback. Why shouldn't we be seeking feedback from the ones we love the most, the ones we're responsible for? Yeah, it's vulnerable, but so is humility. Do it!Bottom line: find out ways that the ones you love think you could be loving them better and make it happen.---------Check Out the Program Talked About: Genesis by Rise Up KingsThis episode is sponsored by Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?www.adventureoffatherhood.comwww.rebelandcreate.comEach week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

In this episode, Ned sits down with Johann Kurtz - a legacy adviser, former technology professional and author of Leaving a Legacy: Inheritance, Charity, and Thousand-Year Families. Kurtz's work focuses on the philosophy, theology, and practical structure of multi-generational family impact. Drawing from a deep engagement with Western intellectual and Christian traditions, he explores how families can steward wealth, culture, and responsibility across generations rather than defaulting to short-term or purely individual success models. His recent thought-provoking book challenges modern assumptions about inheritance, philanthropy, and family responsibility, arguing for a return to intentional, values-driven legacy building rooted in moral clarity and long-term vision.This episode is a wake-up call for fathers who want their life to mean something beyond just a career and a paycheck. Together, they challenge one of the biggest cultural assumptions today: that success is about building wealth for yourself—and in some persuasions, giving it away—rather than building something that lasts through your family.Johann makes a bold case—strong families, not institutions, have historically built the most meaningful, lasting impact. Multi-generational vision isn’t about hoarding wealth or entitlement; it’s about raising sons and daughters who are capable, virtuous stewards of what’s been built before them.The conversation gets practical fast. Fathers are challenged to rethink how they’re raising their kids—not just pushing them toward school and jobs, but intentionally shaping character, exposing them to real responsibility, surrounding them with strong men, and integrating them into meaningful work and relationships early.There’s also a hard truth: if your adult kids aren’t ready to carry something forward, that’s not a market problem—it’s a fatherhood problem. You had decades to prepare them.Key Takeaway:Stop thinking in terms of one lifetime. Start thinking in generations. Build something worth passing on—and raise the kind of men and women who can carry it.---------Check Out the Program Talked About: Genesis by Rise Up KingsThis episode is sponsored by Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?www.adventureoffatherhood.comwww.rebelandcreate.comEach week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis

This Craft of Fatherhood short hits on a tension every dad of a teenage son will recognize: how do you lead, teach, and hold the line… without becoming a micromanager your kid resents?Ned walks through a real moment of conflict with his son and zooms out to something bigger: most families are operating without clearly defined beliefs. Not because they don’t care—but because they’ve never actually said them out loud.The challenge is simple but powerful: define what your family actually believes.What’s the role of a father? A mother? What’s the purpose of your home, your work, your money, your standards? If you don’t define it, culture will—and probably not in a way you want.He introduces the idea of creating a “family legacy document”—not something perfect, but a working blueprint you revisit over time. It becomes the foundation for how your family operates and what you’re building across generations.And layered into it is a personal gut check: your kids aren’t just hearing what you say—they’re absorbing what you model. The systems, habits, and even frustrations in your home are often things you’ve unintentionally taught.Bottom line: Lead your family with intention. Define your family standards. And don’t wait until there’s conflict to figure out what you actually believe.---------Check Out the Program Talked About: Genesis by Rise Up KingsThis episode is sponsored by Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?www.adventureoffatherhood.comwww.rebelandcreate.comEach week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

In this powerful episode, Ned sits down with Mondoe Davis—a man forged through discipline, faith, and intentional fatherhood—to confront one of the most urgent issues facing men today:Who is preparing our sons to become godly men?Drawing from his work with Rise Up Kings and the Genesis rite-of-passage program, Mondoe speaks directly to the silent burden many fathers carry—the fear that they are unprepared, unequipped, or already too late. This conversation is a wake-up call.Key Takeaways:A clear understanding of your biblical responsibility as a fatherWhy intentional fatherhood—not perfection—is what changes generationsPractical frameworks to guide your son in faith, family, fitness, and financeHow to replace shame with action and build a vision for your familyA tangible way to begin preparing your son for manhood today---------Check Out the Program Talked About: Genesis by Rise Up KingsThis episode is sponsored by Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?www.adventureoffatherhood.comwww.rebelandcreate.comEach week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

This Craft of Fatherhood Friday edition short is a sharp reminder that some of the best moments in fatherhood aren’t planned—they’re happening right in front of you.Ned challenges dads to stop chasing the “perfect” family activity and instead lean into the space between—those unstructured moments where real connection happens. The conversation at the kitchen counter, the random 45 minutes that turns into something meaningful—that’s the good stuff.He also reinforces the importance of protecting your family’s culture. Traditions matter—but only if you lead and guard them. That might mean saying no to others so you can say yes to what your family actually needs.And then a simple, high-impact move: when you think something good about your kid—say it. Send the voice text. Give the compliment. Bring the flowers. Small actions, massive return.The bottom line: Be present. Lead your family on purpose. And don’t underestimate how much the little things matter.---------Got a son ready to enter manhood? He needs a rite of passage. Check out Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's books hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood.Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis - a rite of passage for young men & dadsRise Up Kings Genesis

What if your fitness… wasn’t just about you?In this conversation, Ben Barker breaks down why physical discipline is directly tied to how you show up as a husband, father, and man.This isn’t about six-packs or vanity.This is about responsibility, leadership, and stewardship.Ben shares how injuries forced him to confront something deeper:👉 His inability to rest👉 His tendency to stay “on” instead of trusting God👉 And the reality that even driven men struggle with Sabbath and surrender⚔️ A hard truth:“If you let life take the reins, you’re going to end up somewhere you don’t want to be.”🔑 In this episode:Why most men fail at fitness (and what actually works)The difference between discipline vs identityHow being in shape affects your marriage and sex lifeWhy your kids are watching everything you doThe danger of passivity—and how to break itThe role of the father: live a life worth emulatingWhy “discipline begets discipline” across all areas of lifeHow to balance fitness without neglecting your family---------Check out Ben's podcast Fit Fathers Fellowship and profile on Instagram:@benbarkerfitnessFit Fathers Fellowship---------An epic experience for boys becoming men: Genesis by Rise Up KingsThis episode is sponsored by Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?www.adventureoffatherhood.comwww.rebelandcreate.comEach week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis - a rite of passage for young men & dadsRise Up Kings Genesis

In this Friday Craft of Fatherhood short episode, Ned explores the importance of family legacy, intentionality in marriage, and the role of fathers in shaping the future. He shares personal stories, reflections from a recent marriage retreat and practical steps for investing in family and faith.key topicsFamily legacy and passing valuesIntentionality in marriage and family lifePersonal growth and reflection as a father---------Got a son ready to enter manhood? He needs a rite of passage. Check out Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's books hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood.Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis - a rite of passage for young men & dadsRise Up Kings Genesis

In this episode of Fatherhood Field Notes, Ned sits down with Chris McCall—worship leader, missionary, and instructor at YWAM Kona—for a deeply honest and faith-centered conversation about what it means to lead a family without relying on formulas. Chris shares his unconventional journey from construction work and pastoring to raising support as a missionary, ultimately redefining what it means to provide as a father. Rather than tying provision to income, he reframes it as obedience to God, stewardship, and fruitfulness—trusting that when he follows faithfully, his family will be taken care of.Throughout the conversation, Ned and Chris explore key tensions every father faces:Control vs. surrender — letting go of the need to “figure it all out” and instead walking in daily dependenceFormulas vs. relationship — rejecting step-by-step parenting systems in favor of truly knowing and studying your wife and each child as individualsProtection vs. preparation — gradually giving kids real responsibility in safe ways so they grow into capable, confident adultsChris offers a powerful framework for fatherhood: “The things I love, I study.” By learning each child’s unique interests and wiring, fathers can connect more deeply and lead more effectively.The episode also dives into:Building emotional awareness in marriage (sometimes your wife needs a hug, not a solution)Breaking generational mindsets around money and identityInvolving kids in your mission so family becomes a shared purpose, not separate livesCreating intentional rhythms of connection, both daily and over timeThis is a conversation about leadership, humility, and intentional living—challenging fathers to move beyond default patterns and step into a more relational, purposeful, and spiritually grounded approach to raising their families.---------Check out Chris' music profile on Instagram and the web:@chrismccallmusicwww.chrismccallmusic.com---------An epic experience for boys becoming men: Genesis by Rise Up KingsThis episode is sponsored by Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?www.adventureoffatherhood.comwww.rebelandcreate.comEach week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis - a rite of passage for young men & dadsRise Up Kings Genesis

In this Friday short episode of The Craft of Fatherhood, Ned dives into a powerful but often overlooked concept in parenting: perspective. As kids grow into teens and young adults, fatherhood shifts from simply making decisions to guiding thinking and shaping character.Ned challenges dads to move beyond just asking for their child’s “opinion” and instead seek to truly understand their perspective—not to always change the outcome, but to better understand the heart and reasoning behind it. He emphasizes that while fathers still carry the responsibility to make hard decisions, growth often comes through asking better questions instead of giving immediate answers.He breaks this down into three practical approaches:Step into your child’s shoes and understand what they want and whyAsk clarifying questions and invite mutual openness to each other’s perspectiveFocus on character over control, asking: Who are they becoming through this?Through real-life examples, Ned highlights the importance of allowing space for failure within the safety of the home, building trust so kids will return to you when things go wrong.The episode closes with a simple but powerful challenge:Create intentional, distraction-free moments to ask your kids about their perspective on everyday topics—not just when there’s a conflict or decision to make.This is an episode about shifting from control to connection, from authority alone to intentional influence—and raising kids who think, process, and grow into who they’re meant to become.---------Got a son ready to enter manhood? He needs a rite of passage. Check out Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's books hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood.Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis - a rite of passage for young men & dadsRise Up Kings Genesis

A state championship was his daughter's dream and massive victory. For Seth Garten, learning as a dad-coach when to speak, when to stay silent, and how to guide his child through failure were some of his own personal wins in the process. This episode is a masterclass in timing, trust, and raising faithful, resilient kids who know who they are in Christ.This episode highlights a critical leadership principle for fathers and coaches: proper timing matters more than instruction. Seth shares how emotional awareness, delayed feedback, and trust-based communication helped his daughter grow from early losses to taking the Idaho State Championship her senior year of high school.Seth's approach emphasizes identity formation, accountability agreements, and modeling behavior—core frameworks applicable to parenting, coaching, and leadership.Key TakeawaysTiming > Truth — The right words at the wrong time do damageAfter loss, kids don’t hear coaching—they hear identityAsk the child or athlete: “Are you ready?” instead of forcing feedbackMastery requires sacrifice—sometimes from the whole familyYour kids will mirror your discipline, not your adviceIdentity must be rooted deeper than performanceGo for the ride and dive in for this deep conversation between Ned and Seth about coaching our own kids and youth as we help them to know their God-given identity.---------Check out Seth's Family First Fitness on Instagram:@familyfirstfitness37---------An epic experience for boys becoming men: Genesis by Rise Up KingsThis episode is sponsored by Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?www.adventureoffatherhood.comwww.rebelandcreate.comEach week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis - a rite of passage for young men & dadsRise Up Kings Genesis

In this Friday Craft of Fatherhood short, Ned shares an honest look into a midweek moment of fatigue, fatherhood, and personal growth—centered around one powerful theme: patience. Living in Hawaii while navigating the demands of running a business in another time zone and family life, he unpacks the tension between exhaustion and intentional presence as a father. Prompted by his ongoing journey through The Primal Path with his son, and John Tyson’s book “Five Shifts of Manhood,” Ned explores how patience isn’t just about waiting—it’s about becoming. Through everyday interruptions (including a profoundly timed pause for his daughter), he makes the case that fatherhood is less about control and more about responsiveness, humility, and growth. So here are the 4 things:Take a pause: Slow down your reaction time.Celebrate: Look for two wins your family member has had recently.Build in Time for Yourself. Break away unwind. Go take a walk, ride your bike, whatever. Just "take five". This episode is a reminder that the “craft” of fatherhood is forged in ordinary, imperfect moments—when we choose to slow down, stay present, and lean into the work of becoming the men our families need.---------Got a son ready to enter manhood? He needs a rite of passage. Check out Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's books hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood.Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis - a rite of passage for young men & dadsRise Up Kings Genesis

Ned sits down with Dave Ronning, faithful Christian and Kona real estate professional, to talk about how to incorporate playfulness into your parenting style. They uncover 5 actionable ideas that will help you connect with your kids and create lasting memories.Did you know that playfulness is not just for kids, that it’s vital for parents too? Engaging in playful activities can rejuvenate our spirit and strengthen our connections with our children (and even with God). According to Dave, play allows us to tap into our inner self, reminding us of who we are beyond our responsibilities.Dave and Ned talk about how play:Strengthens Bonds: Playful interactions create lasting memories and deepen relationships.Encourages Openness: It fosters an environment where children feel safe to express themselves.Promotes Emotional Well-being: Play can reduce stress for both kids and parents, making family time enjoyable.Dave also shares some powerful personal stories from his own life where he became aware of and connected to the "little David" inside himself. He also shares about a particular traumatic event for his son that resulted in some impactful growth and vision for them both.Want to dive deeper into the topic of playfulness in parenting? Check out our full conversation with Dave Ronning for more insights.---------This episode is sponsored by Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?www.adventureoffatherhood.comwww.rebelandcreate.comEach week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis - a rite of passage for young men & dadsRise Up Kings Genesis

On this Friday Craft of Fatherhood episode of Fatherhood Field Notes, Ned shares about a recent shift he's implemented in his family's morning routine: a ten minute time sharing something they're thankful for within the family, then naming somebody they could be praying for... and then doing it.This comes on the heels of asking questions about how we can be really modeling to our kids a lifestyle that will affect the next 100 years, even 1000 years of our family legacy. It's huge.Listen to day and let us know in the comments and your reviews what changes you've been making in your family routine. Then share this episode with a dad!---------Got a son ready to enter manhood? He needs a rite of passage. Check out Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's books hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis - a rite of passage for young men & dadsRise Up Kings Genesis

By popular demand, we dug deep into the archives to bring you a rewind of an oldie but a goodie from 2020 when Ned sat down with former UFC fighter and Hall of Famer Urijah Faber.Urijah and Fatherhood Field Notes Guide, Ned Schaut, sit down to talk Fatherhood and Dad Life. In 2019 Urijah came out of retirement and fought Ricky Simmons, knocking him out in 46 seconds.But 2019 was also the year that Urijah became a father, one of his life goals... and true to his character, when he goes in, he goes all in. Now in 2020 his family grew with the birth of his second child. Urijah is an intentional man, making the most out of life.You can watch the interview here on YouTube.---------This episode is sponsored by Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?www.adventureoffatherhood.comwww.rebelandcreate.comEach week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis - a rite of passage for young men & dadsRise Up Kings Genesis

What if the secret to truly impactful fatherhood isn’t about being perfect but about being present, vulnerable, and intentional?In this episode, Ned's friend, dad and entrepreneur "Hype Man Dan" Chang shares how his own painful childhood fuels his deep commitment to his kids, to revealing the subtle but powerful shifts that transformed his marriage and parenting. His story is a reminder: your legacy can be rewritten, starting today.Timestamps:00:00 - Welcome and introduction to Dan’s journey02:10 - Feeling young at heart despite age03:11 - Highlights from pickleball rivalries & lessons in resilience04:05 - The importance of carving out time with family and friends05:23 - The value of real, honest conversations in male relationships06:39 - What Dan does for a living: Collectibles, art, and entrepreneurship08:15 - From corporate sales to high-end collectibles - Dan’s hustle09:33 - The art and value of Magic: The Gathering and rare trading cards10:24 - The significance of original artwork and grading in collectibles11:56 - Wisdom for entrepreneurs and dads: Perseverance & authenticity12:29 - Overcoming childhood poverty and rejection to build a legacy14:43 - The impact of absent fathers and the importance of presence16:01 - Appreciation and lessons learned from Dan’s dad18:12 - Healing from past abuse and breaking the cycle of generational trauma20:00 - The power of empathy, forgiveness, and choosing a positive legacy22:13 - How Dan’s family history influences his parenting style24:55 - The importance of forgiving past hurts for healing and growth27:01 - Building trust and meaningful bonds with stepchildren28:51 - Embracing imperfect fatherhood and intentional presence31:29 - The significance of instinct, action, and calm leadership34:24 - Self-awareness, humility, and growth as a dad37:00 - Navigating marriage challenges and personal development40:23 - Supporting children’s unique spiritual journeys43:53 - The character traits and skills Dan hopes for his sons45:11 - Honesty, trustworthiness, and the importance of authenticity46:32 - Cultivating human connection and critical thinking in children48:57 - Rebel and create: Disrupting selfishness and promoting service51:04 - Practicing gratitude, presence, and small acts of kindness55:05 - Investing early in legacy and financial wisdom58:47 - Teaching kids about money, consumption, and delayed gratification60:17 - Practical advice for fathers on vulnerability and being present61:37 - The ultimate reward of family connection and authentic love---------This episode is sponsored by Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?www.adventureoffatherhood.comwww.rebelandcreate.comEach week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis - a rite of passage for young men & dadsRise Up Kings Genesis

In this episode of Craft a Fatherhood, Ned talks about how powerful he's found it to be intentional about asking his kids a question every day. Big things happen. How are you inquiring about the thoughts, hopes, dreams, challenges your kids are having? Ned has a challenge for all of us on how we can change the very trajectory of our kids' lives just through intentional curiosity.He also shares some thoughts about how to envision the future you want your kids to live, work backwards with a plan for how to get there, and to really live it.---------Got a son ready to enter manhood? He needs a rite of passage. Check out Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's books hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

In this episode of Fatherhood Field Notes, host Ned engages in a deep conversation with Mike Yarbrough, co-founder and co-owner of Rustic & Main and Wolf & Iron. They explore the complexities of fatherhood, marriage, and personal growth. They also discuss the importance of connection, communication, and the role of spirituality in parenting.Mike shares his journey of overcoming personal challenges like his marriage and his relationship with his own father. He also talks about getting help with attachment issues. He offers quite a few nuggets on the significance of creating meaningful moments with children, and the impact of homeschooling on family life. The conversation emphasizes the need for fathers to embrace vulnerability, set aspirations for their role, and actively participate in their children's lives. Mike's insights and experiences provide valuable lessons for fathers seeking to navigate the journey of parenthood with intention and purpose.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Backgrounds04:17 Reflections on Age and Personal Growth07:28 Marriage Challenges and Growth10:22 Parenting and Raising Young Adults13:26 Business Ventures and Entrepreneurship16:27 Creating Meaningful Connections through Rings19:15 The Role of Fathers in Family Dynamics20:21 Navigating Teenage Years and Independence21:45 Building a Foundation of Thoughtful Christianity24:57 The Importance of Engaging with Church Messages25:24 Homeschooling Insights and Educational Choices32:21 Making Life Decisions as a Family36:50 Elevating the Role of Motherhood37:52 Creating a Brotherhood for Men40:20 Reflecting on 12 Years of Creation42:00 The Impact of Writing and Connection43:17 Building Community Through Guilds44:45 Fatherhood and Personal Connections47:28 Embracing Fatherhood: Lessons Learned50:15 Advice for Young Dads55:19 Healing Through Connection and Vulnerability---------This episode is sponsored by Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?www.adventureoffatherhood.comwww.rebelandcreate.comEach week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis - a rite of passage for young men & dadsRise Up Kings Genesis

In this episode of Craft a Fatherhood, Ned talks about finally getting into golf, being surprised to still to get to know his wife more and the importance of dating your wife. He shares about the significance of rest through the concept of Sabbath. He encourages fathers to actively engage in their families' interests and to create meaningful connections with their partners and children.---------This episode is sponsored by Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis - a rite of passage for young men & dadsRise Up Kings Genesis

In this engaging conversation, Patton Dodd, author of the recent book The Father You Get: And the Ones You Make, Believe In, and Become, shares his insights on fatherhood, personal growth, and the power of windshield time with your kids.Dodd reflects on his journey through the challenges of growing up with a removed and isolated father who created hurt and pain in most of his relationships and growing up to turn that into resolve. He emphasizes the significance of vulnerability and mere presence in building connections with his children, while also addressing his own insecurities. The discussion highlights the need for fathers to create safe spaces for open conversations and to rebel against the insecurities that can hinder their relationships with their kids.Order your copy of Patton's book here and be sure to leave a review: https://amzn.to/3ZvTrtk---------This episode is sponsored by Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?www.adventureoffatherhood.comwww.rebelandcreate.comEach week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis - a rite of passage for young men & dadsRise Up Kings Genesis

In this Craft of Father episode of the Fatherhood Field Notes podcast, Ned tells about his "death hike" adventure led by his teenage daughter. He reflects on the evolving journey of fatherhood, emphasizing the importance of legacy, family values, and the transition of children into independence. He shares his thoughts about his children's adventures and the challenges of homeschooling, while also discussing the significance of intentional fatherhood and mentorship.Takeaways:Adventures with our kids foster independence.Navigating independence is a key part of parenting.Intentional fatherhood requires active engagement.Rites of passage are ongoing throughout life.Teaching dependence on God is crucial.Building relationships with our children is essential.Fatherhood is a journey of personal growth and mentorship.---------This episode is sponsored by Genesis - a Rite of Passage by Rise Up KingsOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis - a rite of passage for young men & dadsRise Up Kings Genesis

In this episode of the Craft of Fatherhood Podcast, host Ned Schaut reflects on his journey as a father, sharing insights from his experiences and conversations over the past year. He emphasizes the importance of observation in parenting, how impactful it can be to have annual family meetings for reflection on the year and connection, and the sheer power of setting goals and dreams as a family.---------Is your son coming of age as a man? He needs a rite of passage.Check out Genesis. www.riseupkings.com/ffn---------Liked this episode? The Craft of Fatherhood is a weekly short reflection by Ned. For the full Fatherhood Field Notes podcast, check out the weekly releases on Tuesdays!---------Order The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis - a rite of passage for young men & dadsRise Up Kings Genesis

Jim Morrison, a 26-year veteran of marriage and father of three (ages 24, 22, and 19), shares his unconventional approach to fatherhood that rebels against the idea that parenting ends at 18. As an insurance broker with 36 years of experience, Jim has learned to prioritize presence over perfection, building a family culture around travel, embracing failure as a gift, and maintaining deep relationships with his adult children. From coaching losing baseball seasons to picking his son up from LAX at 9 PM just to be the first face he sees, Jim demonstrates that fatherhood is a marathon requiring consistent showing up. He discusses the power of experiences over possessions, the importance of teaching financial literacy, how he and his wife navigated a five-year break before marriage, and why he believes surrounding your kids with the right community matters more than constant advice-giving. Jim's philosophy centers on making his children feel valued and important—not just loved—while preparing them for independence through international travel, mission trips, and letting them experience failure. This conversation will challenge fathers to think differently about their role beyond the teenage years and inspire them to create a family legacy built on experiences, presence, and unconditional relationship.Chapters:(00:00:00) - Introduction: Three Key Nuggets on Fatherhood(00:17:00) - The Role of a Father: Being Present(00:21:00) - When Did Fatherhood Click?(00:24:00) - The Gift of Failure: Book That Changed Everything(00:30:00) - Supporting Adult Kids Without Enabling Them(00:36:00) - Learning from His Own Father's Story(00:42:00) - Choosing Relationship Over Being Right(00:46:00) - Why Family Travel Became Their Foundation(00:50:00) - Favorite Family Vacations: Croatia and Africa(00:55:00) - Work Will Always Be There—Your Kids Won't(00:56:00) - Legacy: Making People Feel Valued and Important---------Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis - a rite of passage for young men & dadsRise Up Kings Genesis

Join Ned as he sits down with entrepreneur and father of four, Garr Russell, for a raw conversation about what really matters in fatherhood. Garr shares his unconventional approach to raising kids—from buying a restaurant so the whole family could work together, to full-time RVing for five years, to navigating his daughter's most vulnerable moment. They dive deep into the power of physical touch, why we need to stop rescuing our kids from pain, and the critical importance of maintaining heart connection above all else. Garr reveals how one word from his own father marked him for years, and why he's fighting to create a different legacy. This isn't your typical parenting advice—it's about building grit, hearing God's voice, and preparing your kids for their calling. Whether you homeschool or not, whether you work 12-hour days or own a restaurant, the principles Garr shares will challenge you to show up differently for your family.Guest Links:WebsiteLinkedIn---------Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis - a rite of passage for young men & dadsRise Up Kings Genesis

Blake Casteel opens up about his journey from a fear-driven father repeating generational patterns to becoming a man committed to authentic connection with his six children. Blake shares the pivotal moment when he realized his older kids weren't getting the best of him, and how he's been intentionally changing the "menu" of his fatherhood over the past six years. He challenges dads to stop blaming their wives and kids, to validate their children's identity rather than just correct behavior, and to rebel against the convenience culture that's weakening families. With raw honesty, Blake discusses his work with Youth With a Mission, using fitness as a tool for discipleship, and the life-changing impact of bringing everything hidden into the light. This episode will convict you, encourage you, and equip you to show up differently for your family starting today.---------Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:Rise Up Kings Genesis - a rite of passage for young men & dadsRise Up Kings Genesis

Sean Bothelio shares how he transformed from a scared 23-year-old father into a man who raised two confident sons who followed him into military service. After 30 years in the Air Force, Sean reveals the intentional decisions he and his wife Kim made to create a home where their sons' friends felt so safe that over 100 teenagers gathered there during a tragedy. He discusses the critical role of building confidence in children, why he encourages young men to consider military service, how to raise kids who can be "dropped anywhere in the world and thrive," and the profound difference between being a father and a grandfather. Sean's story proves that fatherhood isn't just about your own kids—it's a posture that impacts every young person who enters your home.Guest Links:LinkedIn---------Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

Jeremiah Cooper opens up about his journey through divorce, remarriage, and learning what it truly means to be a father. After eight years of marriage, separation, and four years divorced, Jeremiah and his wife Wendy remarried in 2013—a story that proves hope exists even in the darkest moments. He shares the hard-won lessons about unconditional love, the difference between happiness and joy, and why trust must be rebuilt through consistent behavior over time. Jeremiah discusses how he started an intentional Bible study in his living room that grew into a weekly gathering for teens searching for father figures. He wrestles with the balance between work and family, the importance of teaching wisdom over religion, and why the role of a father is to help kids discover their true identity in Christ. This conversation challenges men to fight for their marriages, be present for their children, and understand that righteousness isn't about perfection—it's about saying yes to God's transformation in our lives.---------Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

In this powerful conversation with Bob Fraser—bestselling author, international speaker, and partner in a private equity firm—we explore three transformative concepts every father needs to understand. First, how do you see people? Your view of mankind shapes everything. Second, what's the real purpose of wealth and finances? It's not what you think. Third, how do you launch your children into their true identity and calling? Bob shares his journey of 41 years of marriage, raising four kids (now with 12 grandkids), and building a family legacy that spans generations. From learning to fly at 62 to writing "Invest Like a Billionaire" with his son Ben, Bob reveals why Earth's greatest days are unfolding now, how the Kingdom of God is steadily advancing, and why your family is here at this exact moment in history. This conversation will challenge your view of success, wealth, fatherhood, and what it means to partner with God in transforming the world.Guest Links:LinkedInWebsite---------Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

Ned sits down with his former high school Bible teacher, Mr. Tom Amato, who has dedicated 54 years to working with youth. At 78 years old, Mr. Amato shares profound wisdom about unconditional love, the power of presence, and what it truly means to be a father. He reveals how he emerged from six years of total darkness and bitterness to discover God's infinite love, and how that transformation shaped his approach to loving others—especially children. This conversation challenges fathers to move beyond transactional relationships with their kids, to see themselves through God's eyes, and to understand that showing up with authentic, selfless love is one of the most powerful things we can do. Mr. Amato's insights on human needs, love languages, and walking beside others rather than controlling them offer practical wisdom for any father wanting to create deeper connections with their children. This isn't just another parenting conversation—it's a masterclass in what it means to love like God loves.---------Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

Russell Kimura, creator of Fathers with Daughters and girl dad of three, shares his journey of learning to show up with intention for his daughters. In this rich conversation, Russell reveals why consistency beats perfection, how to create emotional safety without sacrificing leadership, and why fathers must commit to connection over convenience. He opens up about the tension of releasing control as daughters grow independent, the power of modeling faith through action rather than religious systems, and practical ways to stay connected during the chaotic teenage years. Russell challenges dads to rebel against cookie-cutter parenting, embrace the messiness of real relationship, and prepare for their future role as father-in-law. This episode will inspire you to audit your commitments, become a student of your family, and pursue your daughters with the same intentionality you once pursued your wife.Guest Links:Russell Kimura on LinkedInRussell on InstagramFathers with Daughter on Instagram---------This episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

When Thomas Pfanner's eighth-grade son walked out of his life for six months, he realized something had to change - and it wasn't his son. In this powerful conversation, Thomas breaks down his FORGE framework (Faith, Ownership, Respect, Groundbreaking Adventure, and Expectation) from his new book "Dads Who Lead," revealing why teen rebellion happens and how fathers can shift from being the "police officer dad" to becoming a trusted guide. We dive deep into the critical mistake most dads make (focusing on changing the kid instead of changing themselves), the concept of your "dad brand," why listening is more powerful than lecturing, and how to create groundbreaking adventures that build unshakeable bonds. Thomas shares practical strategies for handling the daily friction of homework, screens, and expectations, while maintaining the bigger vision for who our kids are becoming. Whether your kids are still young or you're in the thick of teenage rebellion, this episode offers a roadmap for showing up as the father your family needs - starting with mastering yourself first.Guest Links:Dads who Lead By Tom PfannerWebsite---------This episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

In this raw and unfiltered episode, Ned opens up about the chaos of everyday fatherhood—from dead rats in the trash to staying up late with his twelve-year-old daughter on her last night of being twelve. He challenges the pressure dads feel to do everything perfectly, reminding listeners that presence trumps perfection every single time. Ned shares how he's learned to say yes to the moments that matter most, even when it means the yard looks rough and the garage is a mess. This is a rallying cry for dads to stop keeping score, to invest deeply in the season they're in, and to lead their families with love—not guilt. If you've ever felt like you're not doing enough, this episode will remind you that you have what it takes.Links and Resources:Primal Path by John Tyson - https://www.primalpath.comCraft of Fatherhood Website - www.craftoffatherhood.com

Zack Ponder shares his raw journey from struggling entrepreneur with a DUI to becoming a present father who homeschools four kids while his wife battles cancer. A former special education teacher who worked with profound autism students, Zack discovered God through the daily challenges of non-speaking, violent students and translated those insights into his books "Special Days" and the upcoming "Happy Days" devotional. Now splitting time between his construction business in North Idaho and Southern California where his wife receives treatment, Zack opens up about the transformation from doing the right things to actually being present, learning to ask "what" instead of "why" when facing hardship, and discovering that his podcast interviewing special needs parents became unexpected training for finally seeing and hearing his own wife. He discusses the critical shift that happened six months ago when he truly embraced fatherhood in the hospital, realizing that if he didn't keep it together and lead, his family would fall apart. Zack vulnerably shares about living with in-laws for ten months, the reality of needing God moment-by-moment through daily challenges, and why he believes comfort is the enemy of growth for fathers.Guest LinksThe Unspecial Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unspecial-podcast/id1829866470Instagram: @unspecialllc or @zackponderWebsite: unspecialllc.comZack's book: Special Dayz: Finding God in Special Education---------This episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

In this episode, Ned challenges the destructive cultural narrative that young men need to "get it out of their system" in their twenties, sharing insights from a recent father-son gathering and introducing Adam Lane Smith's transformative framework for masculine leadership based on four areas of safety that men must provide: resource safety, protection, emotional safety, and bonding safety. This episode is essential listening for any father who wants to shape his sons into men of character and teach his daughters what to look for in a partner.(00:00:00) - Father-Son Night(00:02:00) - Challenging "Get It Out of Your System" Mentality(00:03:00) - Working It INTO Your System vs. OUT of Your System(00:05:00) - The Abundance Mindset vs. Hoarding(00:07:00) - Four Areas of Safety Men Must Provide(00:08:00) - Resource Safety and Protection(00:08:00) - Emotional Safety and Bonding Safety(00:09:00) - Teaching These Principles to Family(00:10:00) - Earning the Right to Speak Into Your Children's Lives----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

Ned sits down with Brad Plett, a father of four and full-time missionary with Youth With A Mission (YWAM) in Kona, Hawaii. Brad opens up about his journey through a dark season of anxiety, shame, and guilt in his early years of fatherhood, and how discovering his identity as a son of God transformed not only his life but his entire family's trajectory.Learn more about YWAM here: https://ywamkona.org/courses/family-dts/- 00:00:00 - Welcome to Brad Plett- 00:03:00 - 25 Years of Marriage: Keys to Longevity- 00:10:00 - Identity Before Function- 00:14:00 - Walking Through a Dark Season- 00:25:00 - The Power of Humility and Community- 00:27:00 - Marriage: Fighting Through to Deep Connection- 00:30:00 - Women Carrying the Torch: A Call for Men to Pray- 00:33:00 - Life with Four Kids: Ages 4 to 17- 00:38:00 - The Role of the Father: Imparting Identity- 00:41:00 - Why Compliant Kids Won't Change the World- 00:50:00 - Legacy: Raising Kids Who Know Their Identity

In this powerful solo episode of The Craft of Fatherhood Podcast, host Ned Schaut closes out his four-part marriage retreat series with a heartfelt message that blends raw honesty, practical wisdom, and encouragement for fathers. Sharing lessons from Greg and Julie of Married for a Purpose, Ned unpacks why we must stop defining relationships by differences, how to discipline our minds to focus on promises instead of problems, and the life-changing power of saying, “I didn’t handle that right.” Fathers will walk away with simple but profound tools to strengthen their marriages, model humility for their children, and lead their families with love, integrity, and purpose.00:00:00 - Welcome00:01:43 - The Foundation: Love Yourself, Love Your Spouse, Teach Your Kids00:03:00 - We Become What We Think About00:03:39 - Stop Thinking About Problems, Start Thinking About Promises00:05:25 - Shift #1: Stop Defining by Our Differences00:07:00 - Shift #3: Stop Building a Case Against Your Spouse00:07:30 - Shift #4: Discipline Your Mind (Book Recommendations)00:08:57 - The Sentence That Changes Everything: "I Didn't Handle That Right"00:09:24 - How to Apologize to Your Wife and Kids00:10:57 - Be the Man You Wish Others Would Be00:11:40 - Closing: You Matter, Fatherhood Matters

In this powerful episode of Fatherhood Field Notes, we sit down with Ryan Miller—a man whose joyful demeanor belies a journey through significant trials and transformation. Ryan opens up about his 24-year marriage, raising two daughters, and how embracing suffering has shaped him into the father and husband he is today. He shares vulnerable stories about his own mistakes, including a near-infidelity experience, surviving the 2017 Las Vegas mass shooting, and how these moments became catalysts for growth rather than destruction. Ryan discusses the importance of physical and spiritual health, intentional presence with our children, and how fathers can balance ambition with family priorities. He offers practical wisdom on passing faith to our children and extending fatherly influence beyond biological connections. This conversation will challenge you, inspire you, and equip you to embrace both strength and vulnerability in your fatherhood journey.Chapters:00:00:00 - Introduction and first impressions00:01:06 - Finding joy through suffering and Ryan's transformative experiences00:05:30 - Discussing suffering with children and embracing life's challenges00:09:09 - Ryan's background and focus on health00:11:19 - Life in California and creating family memories00:13:00 - Building relationships with daughters and potential sons-in-law00:22:38 - Ryan's central message to men about purpose and responsibility00:25:01 - Men of Greatness Brotherhood community and resources00:26:43 - Understanding discipline as alignment rather than control00:29:18 - Discussing God's purpose versus individual choices00:35:52 - Balancing career aspirations with family priorities00:40:17 - Rebelling against the idea that vulnerability is weakness00:45:45 - The father's role as provider and protector00:48:10 - Passing faith to children through modeling and conversation00:56:53 - Envisioning the future as a grandfatherLinks and ResourcesRyan's Community: Skool.com/men-of-greatnessRyan on YouTube: YouTube.com/RyanJamesMillerRyan's Website: RyanJamesMiller.comWounds: How Hurt, Heartache, and Tragedy Become the Keys to Unlocking Greatness:

In this episode, Ned shares powerful insights from a recent marriage retreat that every dad needs to hear. He explores the importance of creating rhythms of rest in a 24/7 culture, the life-changing power of speaking blessings over your kids, and the vital role of truly listening to your wife and children. With raw honesty and practical takeaways, Ned challenges fathers to stop striving, start resting, and build a family culture of peace, presence, and love.Chapters:- 00:00 - Introduction to the Marriage Retreat series- 03:24 - The importance of rest in a 24/7 culture- 08:12 - Shabbat and Sabbath: Creating family rhythms- 12:45 - Speaking blessings over your children- 17:30 - The power of truly listening to your wife and kids- 22:18 - Keeping the boys away: Protecting your daughters- 27:53 - Building a family culture of peace and presence- 34:09 - Practical takeaways for dads- 38:42 - Closing thoughts and next steps

Larry Hagner, author of "The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood," founder of the Dad Edge Podcast, and a passionate advocate for helping men discover their identity and opportunity in fatherhood. With over 1,400 podcast episodes and a decade of coaching fathers, Larry shares profound insights on breaking free from "the drift" - the state where many fathers find themselves going through the motions without true fulfillment.Chapters:00:00:00 - Introduction to Larry Hagner00:01:58 - Larry's background and experience as a fatherhood coach00:04:00 - The wisdom of turning 50 and advice for fathers in their 40s00:05:00 - The importance of learning fatherhood skills like any other discipline00:08:00 - Making intentional time investments in marriage relationships00:12:35 - The connection between being a good husband and a good father00:15:00 - The three needs of wives and kids: feeling seen, heard, and safe00:19:00 - The state of modern marriages and the three camps of couples who stay together00:24:00 - Setting a marriage example for our children to follow00:27:00 - Overview of "The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood"00:29:00 - Understanding "the drift" and why men settle for less00:34:00 - Raising sons and daughters with complementary values00:41:00 - Final wisdom: You already have what it takes to be an amazing fatherLinks and Resources:Larry's new book: The Pursuit of Legendary FatherhoodDad Edge Podcast: https://thedadedge.com/podcast/Larry's website: https://thedadedge.com/ (includes free resources with book purchase)Dad Edge Alliance (for career dads): https://thedadedge.com/alliance/Dad Edge Business Owner Brotherhood: https://thedadedge.com/bob/

In this heartfelt solo episode, host Ned Schaut continues his four-part series on lessons from a recent marriage retreat. Speaking directly to fellow fathers, Ned shares raw stories and practical takeaways on how to stop defending yourself, start asking for forgiveness, and bring your best energy home to your family. From learning the three questions that heal conflict, to navigating moments of being misunderstood with his teenage son, Ned unpacks what it means to lead through serving. With a mix of vulnerability, humor (including an unforgettable skinny-dipping story), and fatherly wisdom, this episode equips dads to fight for connection, love, and unity in their marriages and families.Three questions for healing conflict:"By the tone of your voice, sounds like I hurt you. Is that true?""Please tell me how I made you feel.""I'm so sorry. Will you forgive me?"Chapters:00:00:00 - Welcome and Introduction00:01:00 - The Power of Fighting for Connection in a 20-Year Marriage00:02:00 - How People Leave Your Presence: Being Interested, Interesting, and a Blessing00:04:00 - Decreasing Conflict: Three Questions That Heal Hurt Feelings00:06:00 - The Power of Asking for Forgiveness Without Defending Yourself00:08:00 - Feeling Misunderstood: A Father-Son Conversation00:10:00 - The Different Hats of Fatherhood: Parent, Friend, and Mentor00:11:00 - Creating Unforgettable Memories: The Skinny Dipping Story00:12:00 - A Man's Identity: Created to Fight for Love and Connection00:13:00 - Final Encouragement: Your Kids Need to See You Fight for Their MomLinks and Resources:Craig Hill's booksJohn Tyson's "Primal Path" program

In this powerful conversation, Ned chats with Tim Campbell, an 82-year-old father with decades of hard-earned wisdom to share. As a husband of 50 years, Peace Corps veteran, and author of "Holding Up the Sky," Tim opens up about the challenges and triumphs of raising three children—including two with serious health challenges. This isn't just theory; it's battlefield-tested fatherhood advice from a man who's lived it. Tim introduces concepts like the "phantom captain" and reframes discipline as building trust rather than punishment. His stories will resonate with dads in the trenches of parenting, offering practical insights on embracing selflessness, developing resilience, and committing to the long game of fatherhood. Both vulnerable and encouraging, this episode reminds fathers that your daily investments—even when unseen or unappreciated—are creating a legacy that will shape generations long after you're gone.Chapters:00:00:00 Introduction - The Journey of Fatherhood00:01:47 Tim at 82: Wisdom That Transcends Age00:03:03 Passing Down Fatherhood Lessons Between Generations00:04:45 Marriage as the Foundation: 50 Years of Partnership00:06:15 Supporting Your Spouse Through Family Crises00:08:19 How Challenges Can Strengthen Your Marriage00:12:41 Raising Children with Different Needs and Challenges00:27:05 Developing the Heart of a Father: Leading with Love00:39:36 How Our Fathers Shape Our Parenting Approach00:44:55 Building Your Legacy as a DadLinks and Resources:Holding Up the Sky (Book)Tim Campbell’s Personal SiteTim Campbell on LinkedInFamily Culture Guide Rebel and Create: A Compass to Mastering the Craft of Fatherhood

In Craft of Fatherhood, Marriage Retreat Part 1 of 4 + Complimenting My Son, Ned Schaut shares the first installment of a four-part series inspired by a recent marriage retreat. He asks dads to wrestle with a critical question: If the enemy could pick you off, where would it be? With a focus on guardrails, accountability, and the hidden blind spots in family life, Ned opens up about a powerful moment with his teenage son. By choosing affirmation—“You’re a hard worker”—over correction, Ned witnessed his son respond with an unprompted “I love you, Dad.” This episode lays the foundation for a series on building stronger marriages, affirming our kids, and leading with integrity in fatherhood.Chapters:00:00:00 - Welcome to The Craft of Fatherhood Podcast 00:00:24 - New four-part marriage series announced 00:01:36 - First lesson: Identify your weak spots 00:03:10 - The need for male accountability partners 00:03:55 - Setting up "guardrails" for protection 00:04:46 - Story: Praising a son's hard work 00:05:40 - The impact of a father's positive words 00:06:49 - A marriage affirmation for fathers Links and Resources:Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

In this heartfelt episode of Fatherhood Field Notes, host Ned Schaut sits down with Jake Stemo, Founder of Presence Worship, to explore what it truly means to embrace fatherhood. From raising four kids—including a 15-year-old entrepreneur launching her own thrift shop—to navigating loss, adoption challenges, and faith-driven parenting, Jake shares how presence, hard work, and an “all in” mindset shape his role as a dad. Together, Ned and Jake tackle cultural expectations and the pressures of the modern American dream, challenging fathers to rediscover what success truly means for their families. They discuss multi-generational living, marriage that requires dying to self, and the beauty of raising resilient kids who say yes to risk and creativity. This episode is about rejecting passivity, leading with integrity, and resurrecting a vision of the American dream that is rooted in faith, family, and legacy.Jake & Micah Stemo are the founders of Presence Worship, a ministry with a vision to equip worship leaders both spiritually and musically for the Kingdom of God. Over the past 10 years, they have equipped and discipled hundreds of worship leaders through Presence Worship’s Residency Program. Their ministry is based in Newton, Kansas, where they host a year-long equipping school that sends singers, musicians, and worship leaders to the nations. Jake regularly leads worship in rural churches as well as on ministry trips around the world. He carries a deep passion for the Presence of God and for raising up a generation of leaders rooted in intimacy with Him. Jake and Micah met at age 16, married at 19, and have now been married for 17 years. Together, they are raising four amazing children while continuing to pursue God’s call to equip and release worship leaders globally.Chapters:00:00:00 - Welcome to Fatherhood Field Notes00:01:23 - Jake's "Dad Moment": Launching his daughter's shop00:03:44 - The story behind their large age gap00:05:55 - Jake's Vocation: Running a worship nonprofit00:08:26 - Fostering his daughter's entrepreneurial dream00:11:35 - Defining the role of a father00:12:48 - When Jake embraced fatherhood00:15:28 - A father's perspective on young marriage00:17:44 - The "adventurously expected" mindset from Romans 8:1500:21:49 - Guiding a daughter's ambitions and dreams00:24:05 - The tension between God's plan and taking action00:29:19 - Navigating conversations about dating and early marriage00:32:04 - Redefining "hard" in marriage as dying to self00:35:37 - Lessons learned from his own father00:39:57 - Rebelling against the "American dream" status quo00:44:02 - Creating a new example for families on mission00:47:08 - Passing down faith through legacy songs00:52:40 - A final blessing for fathers and their unseen sacrificesGuest Link:Jake Stemo LinkedIn – linkedin.com/in/jake-stemo-b8944a28Jake Stemo X (Twitter) – x.com/jakestemoNewSpring Church – newspring.org Presence Worship (Jake and wife’s nonprofit equipping young worship leaders) – presenceworship.org Heaven Sent Vintage (Jake’s daughter’s curated thrift shop) – Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heavensentvintageks/Links and Resources:Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

In this solo episode, host Ned Schaut takes listeners inside a real-life story of frustration with his son and how it reshaped his approach to discipline. Drawing on wisdom from seasoned fathers and his own reflections, Ned unpacks the difference between reacting in anger and responding with intention. He challenges dads to ask not, “What punishment does my kid deserve?” but rather, “What does my child need?” From counting actual actions instead of repeated asks, to owning your discipline choices without hiding behind God or your spouse, this episode provides raw, relatable insights every father can apply. Stick around until the end for a powerful affirmation to anchor your identity as the CEO of your family.Chapters:00:00:00 - Welcome to the Craft of Fatherhood Podcast.00:00:21 - A new discipline approach from a 72-year-old guest.00:01:14 - Pause, don't react, and ask, "What does this kid need?".00:03:00 - A warning to own your decisions and not blame God or your spouse.00:04:11 - A personal story about reacting poorly to a son's comment on fairness.00:05:12 - A child's perception of working "all the time" vs. the reality.00:06:44 - Kids count the number of "asks," not the completed actions.00:07:45 - "I am the CEO... of this familyLinks and Resources:Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

In this candid episode, host Ned Schaut sits down with author and speaker Eric Rogell to confront the trap many fathers fall into—trying to be the “nice guy” who’s always liked instead of the man who leads with courage and conviction. Eric shares why advice often misses the mark, and why children need fathers who live out wisdom through the Sacred Seven Core Values: courage, honesty, integrity, commitment, duty, honor, and love. From fatherhood and step-parenting to manhood at “Level 60,” Eric unpacks how dropping the need for approval allows dads to guide their kids with strength, presence, and authenticity. This conversation challenges men to stop chasing validation, embrace their role as mentors, and build a legacy rooted in love and honor.Chapters:00:00:00 – Welcome to Fatherhood Field Notes Podcast00:01:19 – Meet Eric00:03:25 – Late 50s accomplishments: writing a book, producing a documentary00:04:24 – Turning point through meditation and taking command of life00:06:16 – No plans to retire from purposeful work00:07:28 – Untapped wisdom in older, retired men00:08:29 – Difference between advice (head) and wisdom (heart)00:09:47 – Using “wisdom, not advice” by sharing stories and mistakes00:14:25 – Value of letting kids make mistakes: “prepare the child for the road”00:16:35 – Creating healthy challenges, like running an excavator00:18:44 – The Sacred Seven Core Values: Courage, Honesty, Integrity, Commitment, Duty, Honor, Love00:22:26 – The “King and Kingdom” principle: care for yourself to care for family00:25:42 – Navy SEAL lesson on why most commitments fail after five days00:28:10 – Advice for men in the stepfather role00:28:34 –Don’t try to be liked; earn respect00:31:25 – Three Lights of Leadership: Friend, Guide, Guardian00:38:14 – What will your kids think of you at 60?00:38:58 – Complex relationship with father: once seen as villain, later as hero00:42:16 – Discovering father’s generosity through stories after his passing00:43:37 – Importance of a father’s attention, not just time00:46:28 – It’s okay to be the “villain” when acting as guardianGuest Link:Lions Raised as Lambs WebsiteEric’s WebsiteEric on InstagramLinks and Resources:Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

In this Craft of Fatherhood episode, host Ned Schaut challenges fathers to reflect deeply on a pivotal question: What are you modeling for your kids? Drawing from candid stories and personal struggles, Ned explores how the way we speak about others, show up in marriage, approach work, and set the tone at home creates a lasting picture for our children. He invites listeners to evaluate whether their actions align with the values they hope to pass on and ends with a powerful affirmation about identity and intentional fatherhood. This episode is a call to lead by example—because what we model matters more than what we say.Chapters:00:00:00 - Introduction: Welcome to the Craft of Fatherhood Podcast 00:00:20 - Central Question: What are you modeling for your kids? 00:00:47 - Personal Reflection: Modeling marriage for growing daughters 00:01:21 - Anecdote: How a parental divorce influenced a daughter's view on marriage 00:02:22 - Self-Reflection Point 1: The words you model in your home 00:02:50 - Self-Reflection Point 2: The example you set in your marriage 00:03:12 - Self-Reflection Point 3: How you model work and approachability 00:03:51 - Self-Reflection Point 4: The values you model in your home environment 00:04:11 - A challenge: How would your kids describe what you value? 00:04:50 - Affirmation Prompt: Who do you say that you are? 00:05:10 - A Father's Affirmation: I am here to listen, provide, protect, and care Links and Resources:Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

In this heartfelt conversation, host Ned Schaut sits down with Gary Stache— a husband, father of five, grandfather of seven, and Vice Chairman with CBRE Capital Markets, Investment Properties — to explore what it really means to love unconditionally as a dad. Gary shares raw stories of raising a blended family, guiding kids through rebellion, and embracing both tough love and tender moments. With wisdom from 40 years in business and 30 years of parenting, Gary reveals why he never plans to retire, how faith shaped his role as a father, and why being present matters more than perfection. Most importantly, he reflects on raising his children with values and ensuring those values are passed down as the true legacy. His insights on marriage, mentorship, and modeling love will encourage every dad to embrace the messy adventure of fatherhood.Chapters:00:00:00 - Welcome to the Fatherhood Field Notes Podcast00:01:34 - Meet Gary00:02:10 - Family background and children00:02:46 - Career at CBRE and choosing not to retire00:04:47 - The father’s role: loving unconditionally00:04:58 - Story: a cherished memory with his young daughter in a special dress00:05:53 - Becoming a stepfather and raising a blended family00:07:10 - Story: disciplining a stepson by removing his bedroom door00:09:35 - Tip for fathers: praying before disciplining children00:11:16 - Leading with love: beginning every hard talk with “I love you”00:11:53 - Overcoming the past: growing up without hearing “I love you”00:12:22 - Story: a teenage son showing affection00:14:17 - A blended family’s honor: stepdaughter naming her child after him00:15:06 - Building unity: inviting his wife’s ex-husband to family gatherings00:19:32 - Balancing discipline with fun and engagement00:20:05 - A united decision: asking the kids for permission to propose00:20:40 - Lessons from his father: valuing the outdoors and family first00:22:17 - A moment of healing: asking his father to say “I love you”00:23:40 - Advice for single men: letting God define your future wife00:27:21 - Loving adult children: allowing them to learn their own lessons00:29:21 - Rebelling against distraction: turning off the phone and avoiding social media00:32:43 - Continuing family valuesGuest Link:Gary Stache on LinkedInGary Stache – CBRE ProfileLinks and Resources:Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

In this episode of Fatherhood Field Notes: The Craft of Fatherhood, host Ned Schaut gets real about the tension between being a “fun dad” and a responsible parent. Reflecting on moments with his teens and college-aged kids, Ned shares how easy it is to say yes to dirt bikes, hangouts, and late-night drives—but how crucial it is to also enforce accountability, chores, and responsibility. Through candid stories about family dinners, devotions, and even shutting down screen time, he explores how fatherhood shifts with each season—from raising young kids to guiding adult children—and why dads must lead their homes with love, calm firmness, and consistency. At the heart of the conversation is learning when to hold the line and when to step back—when to enforce discipline and when to show mercy. Ned opens up about moments where he intentionally stayed quiet, choosing relationship over reaction, and how that practice can change the way kids respond. With practical tips, raw honesty, and affirmations like “I am the CEO of this house” and “I will not surrender my responsibility to lead this home,” this short but powerful episode challenges fathers to ask: Do I need to say yes more, no more—or show mercy more often? Chapters: 00:00:00 – Welcome to Fatherhood Field Notes00:01:32 – “Good Dad, Shitty Parent”00:03:52 – Balancing fun dad vs. structured parent00:06:27 – Tip 1: Present a united front; don’t say “because mom wants it”00:07:14 – Tip 2: Know when to stay silent00:08:00 – Tip 3: Enforce consequences (screen time off for missed devotions)00:08:51 – Tip 4: Balance saying yes and no00:09:54 – Parenting beyond 18—shift into advisor role00:12:15 – Affirmation 1: “I am the CEO of this house”00:13:49 – Affirmation 2: “I will not surrender my responsibility to lead”Links and Resources:Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate

In this heartfelt episode of Fatherhood Field Notes, host Ned Schaut sits down with Daniel Lehmann — pastor, father of four, and leader at Living Stones Church — to unpack what it really means to raise kids with stability, authenticity, and truth. From defining the role of the father as one who “trains kids in the way of the Lord” to navigating teenage years with firmness and love, Daniel shares candid stories from 25 years of marriage and parenting. Together, Ned and Daniel discuss when to extend mercy, when to stand firm, and why your home should never be a place of performance. Daniel also opens up about a traumatic brain injury and how embracing weakness has reshaped his view of fatherhood, faith, and family. This episode will leave you encouraged, challenged, and equipped with real tools for leading your home with love, integrity, and courage.Chapters:00:00:00 - Welcome to the Fatherhood Field Notes Podcast00:01:34 - Meet Daniel Lehmann00:02:40 - Daniel's Family Snapshot00:03:33 - Parenting Grown Children00:05:46 - Defining the Father's Role00:06:50 - How to Pass on Faith00:10:01 - Authenticity Over Performance00:11:45 - Three Pillars of Training Kids in the Lord00:18:20 - The Cell Phone Struggle00:20:30 - Learning from His Own Father00:22:25 - Connecting with Each Child Uniquely00:24:48 - Pivoting from Career to Family00:28:10 - Grace, Mercy, and Fatherhood00:29:45 - A Story of Misplaced Mercy00:34:00 - The Principle of Mercy vs. Enabling00:38:35 - A Life-Changing Health Scare00:40:55 - Embracing the Power of Weakness00:43:50 - Motivation Through Adversity00:46:40 - The Secret to 25 Years of Marriage00:48:40 - A Blessing for FathersGuest Link:Daniel Lehmann on InstagramLinks and Resources:Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate