Feel This with Frank and Jess
by Frank and Jess
Welcome to Feel This: an ongoing conversation where Frank and Jess model Authentic Connection, a novel approach to self awareness and expression within the space of relationship, through the lens of Internal Family Systems and Attachment Theory. Here we speak for what is arising within us moment to moment, sharing healing tools and insights along the way.
Episodes
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#78 Sparks of Aliveness and Rediscovering the Why in Creativity
In this introspective episode, Frank and Jess explore the delicate balance between personal growth, creative expression, and the challenges of public sharing. Their conversation weaves through themes of authenticity, inner spark, and the importance of boundaries, all while considering the future...
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Session #77, The Tarot's Whisper: Embracing the Universe as Other
# Feel This: Episode 77 In this deeply reflective episode, Frank and Jess navigate the complexities of emotional states, the power of connection, and the profound insights offered by tarot. Their conversation weaves through personal struggles, the nature of consciousness, and the transformative...
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Session # 76: Tears and Tarot: Navigating Growth and Vulnerability
In this deeply introspective episode, Frank and Jess explore the interplay between personal growth, vulnerability, and the wisdom found in tarot cards. Their conversation weaves through themes of emotional processing, professional relationships, and the profound insights that can arise from...
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#75 Riding the Waves: Balancing Excitement and Stillness in Life's Flow
# Feel This: Episode 75 In this episode, Frank and Jess dive deep into the realms of presence, excitement, and the natural ebb and flow of energy in our lives. They explore these themes through the lens of a Tarot card - the Six of Cups - which sparks a rich discussion about balance, healing, and...
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Session # 74- Unveiling the Emperor and Empress: A Tarot Journey into Self-Awareness
In this enlightening episode of "Feel This," Frank and Jess dive deep into the realm of tarot, self-awareness, and the delicate balance between action and receptivity. Frank and Jess explore how tarot can be a powerful tool for self-reflection and gaining new perspectives on life's challenges.…
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#73- Embracing Sadness as Self Care
In this deeply introspective episode, Frank and Jess explore the delicate balance between structure and freedom, giving and receiving, and how these dynamics play out in their personal growth and relationship. Key points: [00:01:27] Frank leads a grounding meditation on self-compassion and care...
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Session #72: The Dance of Parts: Integrating IFS, Tarot, and Authentic Connection
In this expansive episode, Frank and Jess dive deep into the integration of tarot into their podcast format, exploring themes of inner relationships, self-compassion, and the power of embracing the unknown. Key points: [00:01:14] Frank leads a grounding meditation on gentleness and internal…
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Session 71: From Flatness to Fullness: Tarot's Wisdom on Recharging and Purposeful Living
This session offers a fascinating glimpse into how tarot can be used as a tool for self-reflection and personal growth. Through Frank's reading, we explore his current struggle with feeling flat and the tension between his enjoyment of recreational activities (like chess and biking) and a nagging...
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Apologies for missed episode!
An apology for not getting our session published June 30th, 2024.
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Session #70: Unveiling the Seven of Cups - A Tarot-Inspired Journey into Belief and Perception
In this thought-provoking episode, Frank and Jess delve into the complex world of beliefs, exploring how our perceptions shape our reality and impact our relationships. Through the lens of tarot and personal experiences, they discuss the vulnerability of sharing our deepest truths and the courage...
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Session #69: Feel This 2.0, Enter the Tarot
In this episode, Frank and Jess vulnerably navigate the waters of change as they discuss bringing Jess's tarot practice into the podcast. Through authentic sharing and deep listening, they explore the fears, excitement, and growth opportunities that arise in the face of transition. The tarot…
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Session #68: The Power of Practice In Everyday Life
In this session, Frank and Jess explore the concept of practice and how it can be applied to various aspects of life, from engaging with addictive behaviors to finding joy in the present moment. They illuminate the importance of integrating all parts of ourselves and finding the hidden wisdom in...
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Session #67: The Knight of Resignation - Navigating Vulnerability and Acceptance
In this session, Frank and Jess dive deep into the murky waters of resignation, uncovering its sneaky power. Jess names the constriction and anger bubbling up around her upcoming art show, while Frank shares his own experiences navigating the push and pull between connection and self-protection....
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Session #66: Exploring Healing and Self-Awareness with AI
In this thought-provoking session, Frank and Jess venture into the uncharted territory of using artificial intelligence for self-discovery and personal transformation. Frank introduces his work with Claude, an AI model developed by Anthropic, which he has tailored through meticulously designed...
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Session #65: Detoxing from Fear and Control
Frank and Jess share the practice of softening, the most amazing antidote to defensiveness. Softening connects us to a fuller sense of self, by creating space for our “negative” parts. This detox process can be slow and scary, but it leads to more flow and energy to take action naturally, without...
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Session #64: The Mom Shack - Grieving a Dream to Find Peace in the Present
In this deeply personal and revelatory episode, Frank vulnerably shares about a profound setback he recently faced and the powerful emotions of grief and shame that arose in its wake. Jess holds space for Frank's authentic expression, as they navigate the complex terrain of grief, shame, and the...
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#63 - Collaboration Begins with Showing Up As You Are
We explore what collaboration means, what it looks like, and why it’s important. It starts with bringing in the gifts of our individual awareness and being willing to show up as we are. Also, we take a little dive into the capitalistic drive to stay productive at all costs. How deep does it run…
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#62 - Walking into the Mouth of the Lion
In this week's episode I, Frank, share the culmination of the last years's battle over the guardianship of my handicapped brother. Jess and I stay connected, present and attuned, as I share this story of triumph of open heartedness in the most difficult of circumstances- a previously vitriolic...
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(Re-Release) Rupture and Repair
After hitting a bump in the relationship road, Jess & Frank share what happened and how they got back on track and reconnected. This rich conversation begins after an 8 minute meditation settling into the body and checking in with any relationship where you may be feeling confusion, complication…
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New format announcement
New episodes once every two weeks on Sunday 9 am pacific/ 12 Eastern.
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#61 - Surfing the Waves: From Beauty Culture to Inner Voices
Feel This: Exploring Trauma, Healing, and Awakening In this episode of 'Feel This', hosts Jessica and Frank delve into the depths of the human mind exploring trauma, healing, and awakening with an opening grounding meditation. Their conversation navigates towards various subjects such as...
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#60, Part 2 - Relaxing with the Parts That Can’t Relax
As the conversation continues, Jess sees Frank's agitation as a spot of color rather than a wash over the whole canvas. A connected exploration follows, including how we learn to surf the waves of our feelings and parts with growing and nuanced skill. When parts ask, "Did I make a mistake?" can…
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#60 pt 1 Minding the Gap: Finding meaning and connection through agitation
When Frank enters into the space feeling agitated, it opens up a conscious dialogue about the gaps in our perceptions of ourselves and how others see us, what meanings we create when we are "struggling" with circumstances in life, and the difference between struggling or simply being present to…
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#59, Part 2 -- My Part's Worst Fear
In part two Frank’s and Jess’s parts quickly get all tangled up in a mini drama of judgments and apology after Frank retroactively says the thing he was afraid Jess might hear as criticism… and she does. Or, rather, her parts do! This gives us a chance to return to a question from episode 58: Can...
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#59, Part 1 — The Mid-Winter Meeting of the Hermits
Jess and Frank enter into a wintery conversation, one which Jess likens to two hermits meeting during a break from their separate retreats from the world. The tone is introspective and deliberate. In the first section, both Jess and Frank allow themselves to let go more into a flow in the…
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#58, Part 2 — Finding Windows of Agency
As the conversation on meaning-making continues, Jess and Frank make room for disagreement to be a source of connection. While Frank explores the importance that conscious meaning-making holds for him right now, Jess gets clearer on her internal resistance to the idea of always having some…
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#58, Part 1 — Mortality and Meaning-Making During the Holidays
Today begins with a lovely, deep, sense-based meditation. Then Frank and Jess discuss the windows of power and meaning that open up in a moment of panic after Jess’s mom is in a car accident the day before Christmas Eve. Recorded 12/27/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! We were...
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#57, Part 2 — Mind Altering Possibilities, Part 2
Today the conversation exploring Frank taking a low dose of ketamine in the podcast space continues. Woven through with exploration and connection, Jess gives voice to parts both curious and uncertain and Frank stays with his authentic desire even as he hears Jessica’s questions and concerns....
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#57, Part 1 — Mind Altering Possibilities
We begin with an experiential and grounding meditation. This leads into a slow, spacious “feelings first” conversation in which Frank suggests doing a low dose of ketamine during the podcast and Jessica has feelings, thoughts, questions, and parts. Recorded 11/22/2023 New to Feel This? We're so...
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#56, Part 2
Recorded 11/08/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. Primer #1 - Modes of Communication...
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#56, Part 1
Recorded 11/8/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. Primer #1 - Modes of Communication...
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#55, Part 2 — Engagement is Always Good, Right?
When we put ourselves and our creations “out there” we can’t control how others will respond. In this episode, more connected and coming in with different points of view, Frank and Jess dive into a discussion about social media. Frank sees any response as an ultimately positive move, while Jess…
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#55, Part 1 — Dancing in the “We Space”
After a lovely meditation, today’s episode finds Frank in flow creating music and Jessica watching with curiosity the parts she has that seemingly want to paint… not painting but instead finding distraction through random to-do’s. A connected We Space is cultivated by Frank and Jess naming parts...
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(Re-release) Looking Into Internal Family Systems
(Originally released January 2022) What are “parts” and why are we always talking about them? Today we’re exploring Internal Family Systems and modeling what working with it looks like. This episode offers an overview on a healing modality we’ve been strongly influenced by in our lives that shows...
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(Re-release) The Five Modes of Communication
(Re-release - Originally recorded in August 2022) The Modes of Communication are fundamental to our conversations here on Feel This. They are the doorway into what makes our podcast “experiential.” And they are in your conversations, if you know what to look for. Understanding these modes gives…
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(Re-release) Harmonious & Disharmonious Emotions
(Originally released August 2022) After a 9 minute meditation, we get right into an exploration of what “good” and “bad” emotions look like through a non-dual lens and how the story of the Tower of Babel may explain why “We Chat” is so dang tricky. Enjoy! Recorded 8/23/22 New to Feel This? We're…
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(Re-release) The Red Button
(Originally recorded December 2021) Today Frank shares a powerful thought experiment he calls the Red Button, inspired by the intense experience of having a life-threatening brain tumor. We also get very clear about one of our foundational practices on this podcast: Feelings first, content…
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#54, Part 2 — When Fun is Fun, Not Avoidance
When our kid parts get overwhelmed, finding “serotonin hits” in fun activities, video games and bright colored paint for example, can be just the thing. Today Frank and Jess share how taking care of their 10 year olds has changed with growth and healing. Connecting in real time with each other…
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#54, Part 1 — Old Story, All New Terrain
When we are with another person, how do we live as if that current moment is more important than any other thought or idea? In this episode, Frank and Jess leave their little bubbles and throw all their toys in together, and the relationship begins to come forward in new ways. In this space…
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#53, Part 2 — Owning What’s Meaningful
Jessica shares her experience with a Bobcat, twice in one day, and the meaning it had. Inevitably, when sharing a pivotal moment, others may get it and they may not. No matter which, how can we step into the absolute knowing that this is what this means to us? And whether we are feeling powerful…
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#53, Part 1 — Sitting Quietly In the Middle of the Mess
Moving from the pressure and stress of travel back to clarity and presence, Jess shares her quiet moment of revelation along Highway 1. She first had to choose to move into the hot mess of feelings and judgments, which she had unsuccessfully been trying to dismiss, dodge or manage. While in the...
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#52, Part 2: Reaching Out from Inside the Triggered Space
When our internal turmoil of thoughts and feelings seem more real than what’s happening around us, how do we connect to ourselves and others in the now? Frank is sharing his experience visiting Maui after the fires. He moves between presence to his intense internal experience and connection to…
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#52, Part 1: Connecting Through The Maui Fires
How do you keep track of ourselves in the face of trauma? How do we not lose ourselves when others are sharing their trauma with us, or when we are sharing our trauma with others? In part one of this episode, Frank shares his feelings and relationship to the fires in Maui, as a part time…
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#51, Part 2: The Interplay of Healing and Awakening
Frank and Jess engage in a deep and introspective conversation about their present experiences and the value of connection. They explore the concept of being fully present in the moment and the importance of staying connected to one's authentic self. They discuss the interplay between healing and...
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#51, Part 1: Navigating Disconnection and Obligation in Relationships
Summary: Jess and Frank start the episode by inviting listeners to bring their attention to their inner experience of being in the moment. They emphasize the importance of staying present and not getting caught up in thoughts or external distractions. Jess shares her nervousness and excitement...
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#50, Part 2: Conflict at Karaoke
When someone responds to Frank’s big energy at karaoke with a strong request for boundaries, Franks shares his experience of staying with himself and his emotions. Recorded 07/31/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place...
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#50, Part 1: I Can’t Feel My Mouth
Fresh out of a dental procedure, Jess shares her experience, which is both personally specific and universally human. Having this fallible and impermanent body with history of trauma in a vulnerable, mundane moment is one of life’s everyday rollercoasters. Frank explores what it’s like to be a...
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#49, Part 2: The Risk and Exhilaration of Relationship
An invigorating conversation ensues when Jess asks Frank to reflect on their relationship. Here’s the bottom line for all of us: There is great potential to experience tremendous aliveness within relationships. And it comes from the transparent revelation of feeling. Feeling sourced in...
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#49, Part 1: Laughing with Me, Not at Me
It’s a little unusual… Frank is feeling grumbly while Jess comes in open and happy. From this place they explore when poking fun brings lightness and joy into a relationship versus when it feels critical. Recorded 7/17/2023 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! Our primer episodes…
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#48, Part 2: The Reading
Jess gives Frank a reading of three tarot cards, looking more deeply into his growing sense of who he, and you, truly are. The cards reflect what is has meant to see himself more as pure awareness than ego and thought and where this new awareness leading him. Card Images: Ten of Swords King of...
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Welcome to Feel This: an ongoing conversation where Frank and Jess model Authentic Connection, a novel approach to self awareness and expression within the space of relationship, through the lens of Internal Family Systems and Attachment Theory. Here we speak for what is arising within us moment to moment, sharing healing tools and insights along the way.
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