Femme On The Spectrum

Send us Fan MailThe longest one yet, and worth it. The relationship that turned out to be something else entirely, the moment the floor dropped, and how getting blindsided ended up being the unlock. A no-fluff story about waking up mid-betrayal.

Send us Fan MailC-PTSD and AuDHD overlap so hard that clinicians keep mixing them up and women keep getting misdiagnosed for decades. A clinical and personal breakdown of what's trauma, what's neurology, and what's both wearing a trench coat.

Send us Fan MailAutistic women carry C-PTSD at rates that should be a public health emergency, and somehow it's a footnote. The numbers, the overlap, and dark humor as a load-bearing wall when the alternative is melting down at Target.

Send us Fan MailWhen the family fixer comes calling with a soft voice and a sharp agenda, it isn't a reconciliation, it's a containment op. A close read of the professional gaslight, dressed up as an apology and tied with a guilt-trip bow.

Send us Fan MailEvery abusive family has the one who does the harm and the one who enforces silence about it. The enforcer is often worse than the original abuser, because they weaponize loyalty. How the two-person system protects the rot.

Send us Fan MailFamily scapegoats get assigned the blame, the silence, and the gaslight, all at once. Using Liar Liar as the unlikely textbook for the protocol, how it runs, and how to step out of the role without setting the kitchen on fire.

Send us Fan MailA generation of women got missed because they were quiet, smart, and good at performing fine. Now they're 35, 45, 55 and the mask is falling off mid-sentence. For the lost girls finally finding their own face.

Send us Fan MailFake nice has a physical taste, and autistic women clock it on contact. A semi-statistical breakdown of holiday performance, why the script feels so wrong in our mouths, and what it costs to keep smiling through it.

Send us Fan MailThe trad-wife aesthetic sells a holiday fantasy that even the women selling it can't live in. A look at the nostalgia con, the loneliness underneath the linen aprons, and why opting out is the actual upgrade.

Send us Fan MailEvery dysfunctional family has a saint who everyone protects and a sniper who picks off anyone who tells the truth. Often they're the same person. How the roles get assigned, and why the scapegoat is usually the one who was paying attention.

Send us Fan MailHoliday burnout isn't a vibe, it's neurology. The forced socializing, sensory chaos, and family politics melt a neurodivergent nervous system. Here's the science, and full permission to cancel the thing you don't want to go to.

Send us Fan MailNarcissists keep score in a game autistic women didn't know existed. While they were running their little hierarchy plays, we were just answering questions honestly and accidentally winning by not caring. The dilemma is theirs, not ours.

Send us Fan MailNeurodivergent burnout isn't being tired. It's your nervous system filing for bankruptcy after years of masking, overworking, and pretending you were fine. Seven signs you're in it, and why rest alone won't fix what masking broke.

Send us Fan MailA real apology changes behavior. A fake one buys silence and resets the clock so they can do it again. Here's how to tell the difference, and why "I'm sorry" is often the start of the next round, not the end of the last one.

Send us Fan MailThe kid who got labeled "too much, too sensitive, too dramatic" was usually the only one telling the truth about what was happening in the house. An autopsy of the problem-child role and the autistic girls who got handed it for life.

Send us Fan MailSome men reserve the word "bitch" as a kill shot, and neurodivergent women hear the violence in it the second it lands. A piece on Renee Nicole Good, entitled rage, and the price of being too perceptive to look away.