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Finding Traction: Recovery from Porn
by Vern Tompke - Porn Recovery Coach
Are you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to
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Porn Recovery and Your Dad Edge (with Larry Hagner) - Ep. 220
If you talk to most married guys about why they want to walk away from porn they will often mention the idea of being a better husband and father. Toward sharpening that motivation, Vern interviews Larry Hagner from the popular Dad Edge podcast about how recovery from porn can truly make you the...
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A Daily Porn Recovery Prayer - Ep. 219
The further along I get in this porn recovery journey, the more I realize that recovery is essentially a daily thing. In this episode I give a daily prayer that can help you focus your mind each day - and it's easy to remember! Are you looking for a group of guys to journey out of porn with? Vern...
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Porn Recovery by the Numbers - A New Tool - Ep. 218
Are you someone who likes being able to measure things - someone who loves a clear concise way of measuring how you are doing? In this episode Vern outlines a tool that one of his guys developed that gives him the specificity he needs to track how he is doing. Are you looking for a group of guys…
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Are You the Head of your House? - Ep. 217
There is a debate in Christian circles what the passages mean regarding the man being the "head" of women? In this episode Vern takes that issue and applies it in a different way - to challenge men in their recovery to be the true "head" of their families. Are you looking for a group of guys to...
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Disclosing My Sexual Secrets - A Model - Ep. 216
Last episode we spoke about the importance of becoming historically honest with your wife so that you can build a foundatin of truth and reality going forward. In tihs episode we give some further thoughts to help you see a possible process in walking that out and what to potentially expect. Are...
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Sexual Betrayal - What If Being Honest Will Blow Up My Marriage? - Ep. 215
Todays episode deals with one of the toughest questions I have faced from guys - "What if being honest with my wife will blow up my marriage?" Becuase I needed coaching in this - I brought in an expert Dr. Barbara Steffens who is an expert in helping women and couples deal with betrayal and…
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The #1 Benefit Of My Porn Recovery - Ep. 214
How is it we accomplish anything in our life? - how is it we see God working through us? - the answer is prayer. And the one benefit above all for me in leaving porn has been the ability to pray with confidence! Today we explore that concept through another sad lesson from Vern's automotive life...
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Your Porn Recovery Needs An Alternator - Ep. 213
Recently Vern learned a valuable lesson from a car "event" on his trip back from a family vacation. Of course never one to waste a good story, Vern applies what he learned to our recovery and why your porn recovery needs an Alternator? Are you looking for a group of guys to journey out of porn...
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My New Favorite Porn Recovery Quote - (Ep. 212)
I heard a podcast recently that included a quote that I thought "wow - does that ever hold true for us in recovery" Today on finding traction I share that quote - and yes I bury the lead! If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle...
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The Odyssey of Porn Recovery - Lessons from the Movie (Ep. 211)
What does Christopher Nolan's retelling of the Greek Tale the Odyssey teach us about the porn recovery journey? In this episode Vern reflects on his recovery thoughts from the movie. If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle...
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How Porn Addiction Keeps you Stuck in Peter Pan Land (Ep. 210)
Do you want to grow up before you grow old. In this episode my friend and therapist Caleb discuss his journey out of porn and his insights on growing up through the story of Peter Pan. If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle...
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Stop Watching Porn By Rewiring Your Heart: The Psalm 51 Strategy (Ep. 209)
Most everyone who has struggled and fallen when it comes to porn will be familiar and drawn to Psalm 51 - David's Psalm of Confession. In that Psalm David cries out for a new willing heart. In this episode Vern recalls how important that prayer has been to him on his journey out of porn to...
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The Path To Porn Freedom Starts With THIS Specific Phone Call - Ep. 208
When I talk to guys about their journey out of porn they often remember how significant it was the first time they reached out to someone for help. Today we talk about that experience and I explain how a phone (zoom) call would look and feel like as you take a step like that. If you want to get...
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Stuck in Porn Recovery? Understanding Plateaus and Breakthroughs - Ep. 207
For most guys, the porn recovery journey does not represent a straight line but is more like a series of plateaus and tipping points. In this episode Vern explores why we hit plateaus (resistant points) and how new tipping points can further the sucess we are finding in our recovery. To download…
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Why Your Charlie's Angel is better than any Porn Star - Ep. 206
In this episode Vern explores how porn affects our ability to grow older with the wife of our youth. In case you didn't realize it, you get older every year! Is porn robbing your ability to grow older and still be contented with your wife who is also growing older? If you want to get access to a...
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Is Your Porn Recovery Stalling Out? - Ep. 205
It is not uncommon to get off to such a great start in our recovery journey but then find ourselves stalling out or "losing traction". In this episode Vern talks about some ways to get your recovery back on track if that is what you are experiencing. If you want to get access to a host of free...
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How Quitting Porn Leads to Lasting Joy - Ep. 204
Today Vern shares an inspiring couple of bible verses that have recently encouraged him on his recovery journey and makes up his own new verse! If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following…
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Porn Triggers: How Boredom Can Lead to Relapse - Ep. 203
What do you do when you get bored? What do you do when you want to just "kill some time". In this episode Vern talks about how being unskillful in this area often leads us to negative results and some ways to "redeem this time" (or at least make it less problematic!) If you want to get access to…
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See why Porn Addiction is becoming a mainstream Coversation- Ep. 202
When porn is mentioned in media it is often joked about or minimized. Now and again a serious article appears that actually describes the tsunami type effects it is having on people. Today I want to read an article which focuses on these effects - especially in regard to young men. If you want to...
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What do I Deserve (this Good Friday) - Ep. 201
If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle learning platform. Just use the following link to get started. if you are using a mobile device signup using the link on your web browser BEFORE you download the circle app) - (white…
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Looking Back at 200 Episodes of Helping Men Quit Porn - Ep. 200
Hard to believe its been 200 Episodes of Finding Traction! In this episode various men share about podcasts and lessons (from the Finding Traction course) that have been helpful in their recovery - here's to the next 200 episodes! If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I...
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Stop Feeding Your Mental Porn Library: A Key to Porn Recovery - Ep. 199
Are you able to see images in your mind? Do you struggle with fantasy as a result of carrying your own porn library betweeen your ears? In this episode Vern talks about differences between people around these questions and how it effects our strategies of recovery? Here is the link to the TED…
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I Can't Stop Watching Porn - Does that make me a Pervert? - Ep. 198
Do you ever think you may be a pervert or used that term to describe someone else? In this episode Vern explores that term particularly in reference to the describe how big of a role sex plays in your thinking and behavior. A diagram of this talk can be found on the circle learning app under free...
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Are you a Broken Boy? - with Dr. Patrick Morley - Ep. 197
Many men get into recovery and eventually start asking the question "How did I get here?" One of the things that begins to crop up are questions around their formative years. One of the books that has been so helpful for Vern and the men in his alumni groups is the book "From Broken Boy to Mended...
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Porn Addiction Recovery: Rewiring Your Sexual Arousal - Ep. 196
In the last episode we talked about the statement that "Arousal is not something that happens to us but something we engage with". In this episode Vern talks about why that sometimes doesn't feel true and how we need to move from passive mode to active mode when it comes to experiencing arousal…
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Fuel to Quit Porn - Two Biblical Triplets - Ep. 195
Today I lean on a bit of my bible teaching background to share some insights from the book of Romans - in fact two "triplets" which encourage me that this pathway of recovery of porn is good - not in fact it is REALLY good! If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite...
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15 Years of Freedom from Porn - with Matt Dobscheutz - Ep. 194
One of my recovery heroes (and recovery friends) is Matt Dobschuetz. I recently heard a great episode on porn free radio where he spoke about being porn free for 15 years. I loved it so much I wanted him to come on the podcast and talk a bit more about some of the concepts he shared. Here is the...
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The Ozempic Effect: What Real Porn Recovery Requires- Ep. 193
Recently I heard some interesting information about the benefits of taking drugs like Ozempic and what happens when you stop. It got me thinking about all sorts of interesting parallels with our recovery journey from embedded porn use. If you want to get access to a host of free recovery…
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The Two words that can pull you out of a Porn Relapse - Ep. 192
What do people like Bill Buckner, Steve Smith, Scott Norwood, Andres Escobar, Steven Gerrard, and Tyler Loop have in common. They are all professional athletes who made major screwups that cost their team success - in front of millions of people. Most of us won't have that level of public…
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Do this everyday to break free from porn - Ep. 191
As you head into 2026 - rather than looking at the whole year why don’t you start with one day - one day at a time! The following is a simple exercise you can do daily to be proactive in your day and set yourself up for the best day possible! To download the worksheet for this episode follow the...
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Why your porn struggle can get worse in midlife - Ep. 190
There are a number of challenging seasons of life where porn can re- emerge from the corners of our life. One of these seasons is the season of midlife where we begin to re-evaluate (often negatively) some of the decisions we have made and the places we find ourselfs. In this episode Vern talks...
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What does porn free really mean (and how people fool themselves) - Ep. 189
When a lot of us started out on this porn recovery journey we had a very limited view of what it was to be porn free? In this episode Vern talks about the expanding understanding that he underwent and that a lot of guys go through as they move toward greater freedom in their life. If you want to...
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How your lack of purpose keeps you watching porn - Ep. 188
Passion is good - purpose is better. In this episode Vern talks about a change he has made to how people checkin their weeks and why connecting people with their purpose is a better metric than helping (often unsuccessfully) men find something they are passionate about. If you want to get access…
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How to Quit Porn from the Inside Out - Ep. 187
In this episode, Vern is joined by his Australian buddy Matt who talks about inside out recovery. In a desire for a wholistic model of behavior change, it is necessary to recognize that the most sustainable version of change comes from a deep sense of belonging which informs our beliefs. Out of...
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Will a Dopamine Fast help me Quit Porn? - Ep. 186
There is a lot written these days about the role of dopamine in our addictive struggle with porn. One of the books "Dopamnine Nation" talks a lot about dopamine and seems to give some fairly straightword system to hack the system of recovery. In this episode we talk about how this book and a pure...
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Your Guided Tour to Stop Watching Porn - Ep. 185
Last week we popped the baloon that said that the recovery journey is simple or quick. We spoke about how long it takes to break a habit in a sustained way. Today we talk about some of the highlights we will experience on a guided tour away from porn. This guided tour explains the roadblocks we...
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Quitting Porn - How Long does it take? - Ep. 184
There are a lot of claims on the internet about helping you quite porn in just a few weeks. Sounds great - right? In this episode Vern takes a bit of a deeper dive into the real issues (and the amount of time) that is usually needed to quit a compulsive embedded behavior such as porn. If you want...
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How Procrastination Keeps You Watching Porn - Ep. 183
One of the things I have noticed in working with guys who struggle with porn is - - they also struggle with procrastination. In this episode we look at this connection and discuss some simple strategies to overcome compulsive procrastination! If you want to get access to a host of free recovery...
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Fighting Porn? Learn These Warfare Principles - Ep. 182
The metaphor of war is used a lot in recovery for the reason that it often feels like we are in a battle!! In this episode Vern talks about principles of warfare and applies them to our recovery battle. If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for...
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The Porn Recovery Journey with Nate Larkin - Ep. 181
One of the forerunners of the porn recovery field is Nate Larken. His book - Samson and the Pirate Monks is a classic read for anybody starting out on this journey. Today I am pleased to have Nate on the podcast as he talks about his recovery journey, missteps along the way, and how he wants the...
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Porn Relapses Ripples and Resets - Ep. 180
A relapse is always possible but never inevitable. There are inescapable ripples that follow a relapse but how do we prevent a slip from becoming a slide! In this episode we discuss how to get back on track when we fall off the wagon! If you want to get access to a host of free recovery…
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Marriage Hacks Pt. 3 - Ep. 179
In this third and final episode of Marriage Hacks - Vern explores some of the ways to explore why you hit a wall on certain topics with you partner as well as the idea of recognizing when you have a filter on that you need to communicate with your spouse. Your marriage is not your recovery but...
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Has Porn Created a Deep Fake Version of You? - Ep. 178
It seems that deep fakes are everywhere these days. My question for you is this - are you a deep fake? Are you a person with a deep disconnect between the public and private you. In this Episode I talk about how that happens and how to experience the benefits of living a life of integrity. Todays...
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Examining a Porn Relapse - the 5 W's - Ep. 177
In a recent television episode of The Paper the new boss teaches his employers what it takes to be a local report. Toward that end he talks about the classic rules for reporting called the 5 W's. In this episode Vern talks about this in helping us learn to be better reporters of our relapse…
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Porn Struggles and Sexless Marriages - Ep. 176
Women Please Note: This episode is not mean to shame you if you are struggling with the after effects of the disclosure of your husbands porn use. It is meant to encourage you not remain stuck in your pain, anger and grief and get the help to see your marriage restored to the dream you had when…
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More Marriage Hacks Pt. 2 - Ep. 175
We had so much fun last time I thought we would do it again. Actually I realized there was a number of marriage tips and hacks that didn't make the last episode so I thought we would do a part 2! Heres to having a great marriage relationship! If you want to get access to a host of free recovery...
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5 Marriage Hacks Pt. 1 - Ep. 174
Relationships can be hard work - especially maintaining a marriage over the long haul. In this episode Vern shares 5 marriage hacks that can make that challenge be a little bit easier! If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for Vern's Circle...
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I'm Dating - What should I share about my Porn Use? - Ep. 173
What should I tell my girlfriend about my porn history (or other sexual history). Should I hide it? What if honesty will end the relationship? In this episode I talk about why it is important to be honest but also nuance when and how this could be done. If you want to get access to a host of free...
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Welcome Back to Your Journey out of Porn - Ep. 172
So how did your summer go? Vern has been away for the last month and shares somes up and downs from his summer holidays including a recovery lesson that he is working at integrating into his life. If you want to get access to a host of free recovery resources, I invite you to to sign up for…
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Can Porn Damage Men's Health? Here's What We Know - Ep. 171
It's fun to talk to people outside your circles who dont' necessarily share your experience or assumptions. The following is a conversation I did with Jeremy Longpre from the North Star Podcast around men's health and problematic porn use. The following is a link to the North Star Podcast...
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Are you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives you real hope and practical steps. Each episode explores how to quit porn, how to stop a porn addiction, and how to live porn free. You’ll discover methods to quit porn, no-fap strategies, steps to quit porn, and the tools to stop watching porn for good. Together, we’ll talk about overcoming porn addiction, beating the porn habit, and finding life after porn. Porn addiction recovery is possible. Through personal stories, and proven strategies, you’ll learn how to be porn free, build a new life of freedom from porn, and experience real change. If you’ve been searching for a porn recovery program, help stopping porn, or just answers to “Why quit porn?”, you’re in the right place. It’s time to
HOSTED BY
Vern Tompke - Porn Recovery Coach
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Are you struggling with porn and wondering how to break free? Finding Traction: Freedom from Porn is a porn recovery podcast designed to help men and women who feel stuck in addiction. Whether you’re saying, “I hate porn,” “I want to quit watching porn,” or “I have a porn problem,” this show gives...
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