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Grit and Grace: Real Conversatons on Resilience, Growth and Living in Alignment
by Pam Rader and Erin Payne
Real Conversations on Resilience, Growth & Living in Alignment Most advice is outsourced wisdom from people who haven't lived what they're teaching. Grit & Grace is a weekly podcast built on a different premise: the answers you're searching for aren't out there — they're in your own self-trust, waiting to be rebuilt. Hosted by master coach and leadership facilitator Pam Rader alongside embodiment coach Erin Payne, with regular appearances from Brian Thiessen — a rare mix of psychological insight and straight-talking cowboy wisdom — this show delivers raw, unscripted conversations about resilience, personal growth, nervous system regulation, and what it actually takes to live in alignment. Each episode challenges the culture of borrowed answers and outsourced authority, replacing it with better questions, somatic awareness, and earned — not inherited — direction. If you're tired of advice that doesn't hold up under yo
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You're Not Miserable, You're Just Too Into Yourself: Rumination, Co-Regulation & the LIFT Method
When you're in a funk, what's the first thing you want to do? Go home, shut the door, and figure out what's wrong with you. It feels like self-care. Most of the time, it's the thing keeping you stuck. In this episode of Grit and Grace, Pam Rader and Erin Payne make a bold case: a lot of our...
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Stop Arguing With Reality: How to Find Peace in the Chaos
If you pray for peace, you might just be given a storm in which to practice it. This week Pam and Erin recorded in the middle of real life. Erin's four-year-old is home sick (and makes a few cameos), and Pam just got back from a Nashville trip that started with a bear sighting, a bloody fall on…
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How to Overcome Fear of Failure (What Neuroscience Says)
Ever wonder why building muscle requires literally tearing it? Failure works the same way — and today Pam and Erin unpack the real biology behind why avoiding failure might be hurting you more than failing ever could. This isn't "failure is part of growth" as a platitude. It's hormesis — the same...
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Self-Sabotage, Self-Trust & the Discipline vs. Devotion Trap: The 5 Saboteur Archetypes
Self-sabotage isn't a willpower problem — it's a self-trust problem. In this episode of Grit & Grace, Pam Rader and Erin Payne break down why self-sabotage, self-trust, and the nervous system are so deeply connected, and introduce the 5 Saboteur Archetypes: the Rationalizer, the Defender, the...
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Manifestation Blocks: The Universal Truth Behind Jim Curtis's Release, Align, Become
Why can't you manifest the thing you want — more money, the right relationship, more peace — even when you're doing everything right? In this episode of Grit & Grace, hosts Pam Rader and Erin Payne break down the real reason manifestation stalls out in the gap between wanting something and...
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Self-Trust, Nervous System Regulation & the CORE Method for Lasting Change
Self-trust is the missing ingredient in personal development — and it's why you can do all the "right" work and still feel stuck. In this episode of Grit & Grace, Pam Rader and Erin Payne break down the exact methodology they use with coaching clients to create lasting, sustainable change: CORE —...
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Meet Your Safety Officer: Dopamine, Avoidant Attachment & Why Familiar Isn't the Same as Safe
Self-trust starts the moment you stop blaming your circumstances and start naming your patterns. In this raw, funny episode, Pam Rader sits down with co-host Erin Payne and returning guest Brian Thiessen ("the cowboy") to pull apart the invisible loops that keep smart, capable people stuck in the...
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The Shadow side of Grace, Boundaries and Self-Love
An Instagram reel sparked this one — a rapid-fire list of "therapy speak" turned into spiritual bypass. Pam and Erin take it further, unpacking the idea that a shadow isn't the bad stuff — it's the stuff getting a standing ovation. If it's being applauded, you can't see the pattern that's keeping...
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"The Belief You Didn't Know You Had" — Money, Love & Being Chosen
The beliefs running your life are rarely the ones you'd say out loud. In this episode, Pam Rader and Erin Payne pull back the curtain on the beliefs hiding beneath the surface — the ones disguised as gratitude, independence, or "good enough" — and hand you a real framework for finding them. This…
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How to Stop Following Someone Else's Map and Start Trusting Yourself
Are you actually living your life — or just checking off someone else's itinerary? In this episode, Pam and Erin unpack Sadhguru's powerful Tourist vs. Traveler teaching and ask the question most of us have never dared to answer honestly: whose map am I following? Tourists go where everyone says…
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The Freedom Trap: Why You're Already Free (And Don't Know It)
Are you chasing freedom — or running from fear? In this episode, Pam and Erin are joined by returning guest Brian Thiessen 🤠 for a raw and real conversation about one of the most misunderstood concepts in personal growth: freedom. Most of us treat freedom like a destination with a locked gate —...
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Snake or Rope? How to Stop Making Decisions from Fear and Find Clarity
Have you ever sent a text, gotten silence back — and immediately decided it meant the worst? That gap between what actually happened and the meaning you assigned it? That's where most of our suffering lives. And it might be costing you some of the most important relationships in your life. In…
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You Are Not Your Story: Setting Down the Past to Step Into Who You're Becoming
You Are Not Your Story: Setting Down the Past to Step Into Who You're Becoming Have you ever caught yourself leading with your hardest chapters — the divorce, the breakdown, the business that fell apart — as proof you've earned the right to be taken seriously? In this episode, Pam Rader and...
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Gottman's Four Horsemen: The Patterns That Are Killing Your Relationship
What if the thing quietly killing your relationship isn't the big blowouts — but the small patterns you've never even noticed? In this episode of Grit and Grace, Pam and Erin sit down with Aftin Jolly, Registered Clinical Counselor and Level 2 Gottman-trained couples therapist based in Kelowna…
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The Law of Assumption: How Your Hidden Beliefs Are Creating Your Reality (And How to Change Them)
What if the life you're living right now isn't happening to you — but because of you? In this episode, Pam and Erin dive deep into the Law of Assumption — the teaching made famous by Neville Goddard and later built upon by Bob Proctor — and explore how our unconscious assumptions about love…
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Resentment is Self Abandonment with Attitude: Here's how to stop
You’re not just “irritated.” You’re not just “tired of people.” You might be resentful… and it’s costing you more than you think. In this raw and honest conversation, Pam and Erin unpack one of the most misunderstood emotional patterns: resentment. Not as something someone else is doing to you……
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The Real Reason You Can't Let Go (It's Not What You Think)
What if the stuff you're holding onto isn't just clutter — it's proof you haven't fully chosen yourself yet? In this episode, Pam and Erin get real about the deeper meaning behind the things we just can't seem to let go of — from engagement rings and grandma's China to love letters from exes and...
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Question Everything: Charisma, Cult Thinking & the Danger of Outsourcing Your Truth
Are we unknowingly shaping our lives around advice from wounded people? In this thought-provoking episode of Grit & Grace, Pam and Erin dive into the hidden risks of blindly following popular ideas — from relationship trends and parenting philosophies to spiritual influencers and self-help...
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Check Yourself Before You Wreck Yourself: Your Emotions are NOT Facts
Grit & Grace with Pam Rader & Erin Payne What if the thing causing the most chaos in your relationships… isn’t what happened — but what you told yourself it meant? In this honest (and hilariously cringey) episode, Pam and Erin pull back the curtain on the emotional spirals we all experience —…
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Stop Explaining Yourself: The Courage to Be Misunderstood
In a world where everyone seems to have an opinion about how we should live, the real work is learning to trust ourselves—even when others don’t understand our choices. In this episode of Grit & Grace, Pam and Erin reflect on their experience at the Pathmaker Awards on International Women’s Day…
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Is That Intuition… or Anxiety? The “Quiet vs Loud” Truth You Need
In this episode of Grit & Grace, Pam Rader and Erin Payne sit down with anxiety and panic expert Silvia Araya for a real, grounding conversation about what panic attacks actually feel like—and how to stop letting anxiety run your life. If you’ve ever wondered “Am I in danger… or is my nervous...
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The Pause is Power: Slow, Deliberate Communication in a Reactive World
What if the most mature thing you could do this week… is not respond? In this episode, Pam and Erin slow it right down and talk about something deceptively simple—but wildly life-changing: the pause. Not the “I’m biting my tongue so I don’t lose it” kind of pause… but the kind that becomes a...
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The Quiet Power of Being Unimpressive (feat. our resident Cowboy, Brian Thiessen)
Grit & Grace Podcast — The Quiet Power of Being Unimpressive (feat. our resident Cowboy, Brian Thiessen) What if the most aligned version of you… isn’t the flashiest one? In this episode, Pam and Erin are joined by our resident cowboy, Brian Thiessen, for a funny-as-hell and surprisingly profound...
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Drama is Not a Love Language- Calling All Intensity Junkies
Addicted to Intensity? Here's how to stop letting it run your life. Ever notice how things can be good… and then your brain is like, “Cool cool cool—let’s ruin it”? 🙃 In this episode, Pam and Erin get hilariously honest about the sneaky ways a dysregulated nervous system can become addicted to...
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Stop Chasing Harmony. Learn Repair
This episode was inspired by a powerful conversation between Mel Robbins and Terry Real, whose work has deeply shaped how we understand relationships, conflict, and repair. We took their brilliant insights and pulled them apart through our own lived experience — sharing real examples, honest...
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The Cost of Being Reasonable: When Emotional Regulation Becomes Self-Abandonment
Reasonable Is Just Fear in a Nice Outfit In this episode of Grit & Grace, Pam Rader and Erin Payne dive into a conversation many of us didn’t realize we needed—the hidden cost of being “reasonable.” You know the pendulum: On one end, emotional chaos and oversharing. On the other, being so calm,...
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Forgiveness Is Freedom: Putting Down the Rock Before the New Year
As the year comes to a close and Christmas approaches, Pam Rader and Erin Payne invite you into an honest, compassionate conversation about forgiveness—not as a moral obligation, but as a pathway to freedom, peace, and reclaimed energy. This episode is for anyone who has had a hard year—marked by...
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Darkness has its teachings: Every Emotion is a Portal
What if sadness, anger, doubt, and anxiety weren’t problems to fix—but teachers inviting us into deeper truth? In this honest and timely conversation, Pam Rader and Erin Payne explore why our culture’s obsession with “being happy” often disconnects us from our humanity—and how so-called…
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Curiosity, Courage & the Unknown: The Path to Secure Love With Dr. Rebecca Reid
In this rich and deeply human conversation, Pam and Erin sit down with Dr. Rebecca Reid—family physician, embodiment coach, and wise guide in the realms of healing, attachment, spirituality, and conscious relationship. Together, they explore what it truly takes to grow, to listen inwardly, and to...
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The Season of Firsts: Grief, Boundaries & Becoming
Big life shifts come with a thousand “firsts”—first holiday alone, first mortgage in your own name, first week without the kids, first date after years, first time setting a real boundary. In this raw, hopeful conversation, Pam and Erin unpack the messy middle of change and how to meet it with...
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Beyond “Protect & Provide”: A Cowboy’s Take on Real Partnership
This week on Grit & Grace, the Cowboy rides in. Pam sits down with Brian for a straight-talk conversation about masculine and feminine energy—minus the jargon and the rented Lamborghinis. What starts as a discussion about polarity quickly turns into something much more honest: how men and women…
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Invisible Contracts: The Promises We Forgot We Made
Pam and Erin get real about “invisible contracts”—the unconscious promises we made (often as kids or in intense moments) to keep ourselves safe… that now keep us small. From “I’ll never need anyone” to “If I’m chosen, I’m worthy,” they unpack how these agreements live in the body, show up in...
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Owning the Cringe: Letting Go of Shame
If you can’t look back and cringe… are you even growing? In this light-hearted (but real) conversation, Pam and Erin open their “outtakes” folder—dating while high on accident, parenting meltdowns in Costco, telling an Italian mother-in-law her pasta feedback should be “nice,” and more—to show…
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From Armour to Ease: Rebalancing Your Feminine & Masculine
Pam and Erin unpack the “boss babe” era—how what felt like empowerment was often survival mode in disguise. They share the moments that taught them softness isn’t weakness, why we armored up in the first place, and how to rebalance masculine and feminine energy (in ourselves and our…
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4.The Rebel, The Seductress, The Inner Child: Meeting Our Parts with Grace
In this episode of Grit and Grace, Pam and Erin pull back the curtain on parts work—the inner cast of characters we’ve created to protect ourselves. From the “dark seductress” to the “boss babe” to the rebel within, we all have protectors that once kept us safe, but may now be keeping us stuck....
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3. Cowboy Up: Lessons in Grit and Grace
In this candid and captivating episode of the Grit and Grace Podcast, host Pam Rader sits down with Brian Thiessen—former professional steer wrestler and occasional co-host—to unpack the grit, wisdom, and surprising depth of cowboy culture. From the camaraderie that defines life on the rodeo...
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2. From Ashes to Authenticity
In this heartfelt episode of the Grit and Grace Podcast, co-host Pam Rader opens up about her ongoing journey of reinvention and what it truly means to live authentically. With Erin Payne by her side, the conversation moves through themes of service, freedom, and the kind of depth in…
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1. When Grit Becomes Grace: Meet Erin Payne
Pull up a chair and pour yourself a coffee—this isn’t just another podcast, it’s a conversation with old friends. In the very first episode of Grit and Grace, hosts Pam Rader and Erin Payne invite you into an intimate space where laughter, honesty, and hard-earned wisdom flow freely. Together…
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65. Everything Changes: Authenticity Unleashed is Evolving
After a year and a half of raw conversations, vulnerable stories, and powerful transformations, Authenticity Unleashed comes to a close. In this final episode, I reflect on the incredible journey we’ve shared—our guests, the grit we’ve unpacked, the lessons learned, and the community that’s grown...
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64. Know Your Worth with Lynn Hiscoe
In this powerful and uplifting episode of Authenticity Unleashed, host Pam Rader sits down with Lynn Hiscoe—a registered clinical counsellor, social worker, speaker, author, and founder of emPoweredlives—to explore the deep roots of self‑worth and how we can cultivate it in our lives...
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63. Life Lessons From the Wild West
🎙️ Life Lessons from the Wild West — Solo Episode with Pam Rader In this solo episode of Authenticity Unleashed, Pam Rader takes you on a deeply personal ride through the Wild West of reinvention — a chapter marked by heartbreak, self-discovery, dating after divorce, grief, growth, and building…
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62. Navigating Breakdowns with Coach Erin Payne
In this episode of "Authenticity Unleashed," host Pam Rader and Coach Erin Payne dive into the transformative power of breakdowns. They explore how life's challenges can serve as catalysts for profound personal growth and healing. Through candid conversations, they share personal stories and...
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61. From Panic to Presence: Transforming Anxious Attachment in Relationships
In this deeply personal episode, I share my own surprising discovery that I have an anxious attachment style—even after years of personal development work. Dating someone with avoidant tendencies has become both mirror and teacher for me. I open up about moments when my nervous system panicked…
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60. Stop Seeking, Start Trusting: The Lesson of Bharadvāja
In this episode, Pam explores the difference between endlessly seeking knowledge and truly living what we know. She shares a personal story of 25 years of spiritual seeking, the moment she chose to set aside the textbooks, and the freedom that comes from listening inwardly. Drawing on the ancient...
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59. How to Stop Rescuing and Start Healing: What Every Family Needs to Hear with Asha Altun
When someone you love is suffering from addiction, the pain doesn’t just belong to them—it ripples through the entire family. In this raw and real episode of Authenticity Unleashed, Pam Rader is joined by clinical psychotherapist, addiction counselor, and clinical supervisor Asha Altun to talk...
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58. Beyond the Selfie: How Conscious Travel Transforms Us with Zach Smith
Beyond the Selfie: How Conscious Travel Transforms Us In this powerful episode, Pam Rader sits down with Zach Smith, founder and CEO of Anywhere.com, to explore how travel can be more than just a break from daily life—it can be a path to deeper self-discovery and global connection. Together, they...
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57. Healing Doesn't Have to be Hard : Biohacking Your Way to Peace with Akary Busto
In this powerful and heart-opening conversation, Pam Rader sits down with Akary Busto—transformational specialist, emotional biohacker, and founder of Uhkare Mind Body Soul—to explore how understanding and regulating the nervous system can become the gateway to profound healing. Akary shares her...
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55. Reinventing Myself at 53: Following Truth Over Tradition
What if the life you were living wasn’t the one that truly aligned with your heart? In this raw and empowering solo episode, Pam Rader shares her journey of reinvention after the end of a 19-year marriage — and what it means to follow your truth even when it goes against societal norms. From...
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55. The Future of Leadership with Susan Power
In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Susan Power, founder of Powered Up Leadership in Halifax, to explore the evolving landscape of leadership in today’s world. Together, we dismantle the outdated notion that leadership is just a title or a role. Instead, we make the case that…
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54. The Power of Enough with Nicole Richard
The Power of Enough with Nicole Richard In this heart-opening episode of Authenticity Unleashed, Pam sits down with Nicole Richard, founder of Wax Pencil Headshots, for a powerful conversation about what it really means to belong. Together, they explore the unseen ripple effect of everyday...
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Real Conversations on Resilience, Growth & Living in Alignment
Most advice is outsourced wisdom from people who haven't lived what they're teaching. Grit & Grace is a weekly podcast built on a different premise: the answers you're searching for aren't out there — they're in your own self-trust, waiting to be rebuilt.
Hosted by master coach and leadership facilitator Pam Rader alongside embodiment coach Erin Payne, with regular appearances from Brian Thiessen — a rare mix of psychological insight and straight-talking cowboy wisdom — this show delivers raw, unscripted conversations about resilience, personal growth, nervous system regulation, and what it actually takes to live in alignment.
Each episode challenges the culture of borrowed answers and outsourced authority, replacing it with better questions, somatic awareness, and earned — not inherited — direction. If you're tired of advice that doesn't hold up under yo
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