Grow As I Go | Personal Growth, Mindset and Figuring Life Out

What if one of the worst days of your life became the beginning of a life you wouldn’t trade for anything?In this deeply personal episode, Amy shares the story behind Cake Day - the anniversary of the day she discovered her husband was cheating, and how she learned to rebuild her life after betrayal, loss and unexpected change.A conversation about personal growth, healing, resilience and developing a growth mindset when life doesn’t go according to plan.Key takeaways:You can grieve the life you thought you’d have.You don’t have to find a “silver lining” in painful experiences.Healing isn’t about getting your old life back - it’s about building your new one.You may not choose what happens, but you can choose what you do next.Timestamps00:38 - The story behind Cake Day03:55 - Grieving the future you imagined07:15 - Why everything doesn’t happen for a reason08:34 - From “Why me?” to “What next?”11:46 - Walking through the scary forest17:34 - Choosing your directionFollow Grow As I Go on instagram @growasigopodcast

What does it really mean to be authentic? In this episode of Grow As I Go, Amy explores authenticity, people-pleasing, fear of judgment and the pressure to perform versions of ourselves that feel more acceptable to others.We unpack why being accepted isn’t always the same as belonging, and how being kind, setting boundaries and staying true to yourself can sometimes mean risking discomfort or rejection.Key takeaways:Why we perform and people-please to feel accepted and safeThe difference between being nice and being kindWhy authenticity requires self-acceptance, not fearlessnessHow to stop making other people’s acceptance a condition of your own self-worthTimestamps:01:40 - Is the opposite of authenticity actually performance?08:03 - Nice vs kind: when people-pleasing gets in the way of authenticity16:30 - Acceptance isn’t the same as belonging20:52 - Choosing authenticity over other people’s approvalA conversation about authenticity, self-acceptance, people-pleasing, boundaries, belonging and the fear of judgment.Follow Grow As I Go: @growasigopodcast

In this deeply personal episode of Grow As I Go, Amy shares her IVF and fertility journey - including the emotional rollercoaster of fertility treatment, pregnancy loss, waiting for results, navigating IVF in silence, and confronting the possibility of a future without children.This isn’t an episode about the medical details of IVF. It’s about what happens emotionally behind the scenes: the hope, uncertainty, grief, hormones, waiting, loneliness and the challenge of continuing to live a “normal” life while carrying something enormous underneath it.Amy also explores what it means to grieve a future you haven’t actually lived, and how we can begin to accept that life may look different from the one we imagined.In this episode:The emotional reality of IVF and fertility treatment beyond the medical proceduresThe loneliness of going through IVF privately while continuing with everyday lifeThe exhausting cycle of hope, waiting, results and disappointmentHow fertility treatment can affect your relationship with your body and sense of selfThe grief of potentially not having the children you always imaginedWhy you can be grateful for your life and still grieve the life you thought you’d haveA reminder that your fertility outcome does not determine your worthTimestamps03:58 — My fertility and IVF journey: the context behind it all07:42 — Falling pregnant naturally - and experiencing an ectopic pregnancy11:26 — Why we chose to keep our IVF journey private13:27 — What IVF is actually like: beyond the medical process16:03 — The waiting, uncertainty and emotional rollercoaster of IVF19:31 — Living a normal life while secretly going through fertility treatment22:24 — How IVF changed my relationship with my body25:20 — Grieving a future you haven’t actually lived28:10 — If you’re considering IVF: prepare for the emotional side too29:29 — If you’re going through fertility treatment, you are not aloneFollow Grow as I go on Instagram - @growasigopodcast

What happens when you achieve something you’ve worked really hard for, only to immediately start thinking about the next goal?In this episode of Grow As I Go, I’m reflecting on ambition, achievement and the pressure to constantly improve - and why I’m learning that slowing down doesn’t mean standing still.Key pointsThe pressure of always chasing the next goalWhy we can struggle to celebrate our own achievementsThe link between self-worth, productivity and achievementLearning to rest without feeling like we’re falling behindWhy growth doesn’t always mean moving forwardSometimes the biggest growth is learning to stop, look around and appreciate how far you’ve already come.Timestamps00:01 - Why am I always chasing the next goal?05:58 - When achievement still doesn’t feel like enough10:15 - Does our worth become tied to achievement?18:28 - The river analogy: learning to pause21:51 - Growth isn’t always forward movement#GrowAsIGo #PersonalGrowth #SelfGrowth #GoalSetting #Achievement #Mindset #SelfWorth #Ambition #WorkLifeBalance #PersonalDevelopment

In this episode of Grow As I Go, Amy explores the often overlooked impact of betrayal: losing trust not only in someone else, but in yourself, your judgment and your ability to read people.Amy shares her personal experience with infidelity and the journey of rebuilding self-trust, while unpacking why betrayal can lead to self-doubt, overthinking and hypervigilance, even when a new relationship is healthy and safe.In this episode:Why betrayal can damage self-trust and confidenceThe link between betrayal, hypervigilance and overthinkingWhy you don’t need to blame yourself for someone else’s deceptionHow to rebuild trust in yourself through small moments of evidenceWhy healthy trust is built through consistency, actions and accountabilityTimestamps:00:01 Why betrayal can make you stop trusting yourself08:34 When past betrayal follows you into a healthy relationship16:20 Why overthinking can become a trap after betrayal18:25 How to rebuild self-trust20:25 The “marble jar” approach to rebuilding trustA reminder for anyone rebuilding trust: You don’t need a guarantee that nothing will ever go wrong. You need to trust that if something does go wrong, you’ll be able to handle it.Follow Grow As I Go on Instagram @growasigopodcast

Have you ever reacted in the heat of the moment and wished you had handled things differently? In this episode of Grow As I Go, Amy explores emotional intelligence, emotional regulation and why understanding our emotions is one of the most important skills we can develop for better relationships, leadership and personal growth.Amy unpacks why emotions are not something to suppress or avoid, but valuable information that helps us understand ourselves and others. Drawing on insights from Dr Marc Brackett, neuroscience and psychology, this episode explores self-awareness, emotional regulation, managing triggers and the power of pausing before responding.You’ll learn:Why emotional intelligence matters more than IQHow to recognise and name your emotionsWhy unprocessed emotions eventually catch up with usHow to build stronger relationships through empathy and self-awarenessTimestamps00:00 – What emotional intelligence really means (and why it matters)03:26 – Why EQ can matter more than IQ in life and leadership05:12 – “Emotions are debts”: why ignoring emotions catches up with us13:18 – The neuroscience behind naming your emotions15:01 – The power of the pause: responding instead of reacting. Follow Grow As I Go on Spotify and Apple, and on Instagram @growasigopodcast

What happens when you become the person who holds everything together?In this episode of Grow As I Go, Amy is joined by author, speaker and mental health advocate Sarah Rosse to unpack the invisible mental load carried by so many mothers, caregivers and people supporting loved ones through difficult seasons.Sarah shares her deeply personal journey supporting her son through mental illness, ADHD and a suicide attempt, and the emotional weight of trying to keep life functioning while quietly falling apart inside.Together, Amy and Sarah explore the pressure to “keep it together”, why asking for help can feel so difficult, the importance of sharing your story, and how journaling can help process emotions and make sense of overwhelming experiences.In this episode:Understanding the invisible mental load and why it can be so exhausting.Why caregivers often prioritise everyone else’s emotions before their own.The link between mental health, caregiving and emotional burnout.How journaling can help organise thoughts, process feelings and reduce overwhelm.Why you don’t have to wait until you’re completely broken before asking for support.Timestamps00:42 - What is the invisible mental load and why so many people silently carry it.04:47 - Sarah’s experience of hypervigilance, emotional exhaustion and never being able to switch off.14:42 - How journaling became a tool to process emotions and make sense of overwhelming experiences.27:23 - Sarah’s message to anyone carrying too much: “You don’t have to carry it alone.”Follow Grow As I Go on Instagram @growasigopodcast

Kindness isn’t just about random acts - it’s about how people feel after they’ve spent time with you.In this episode, Amy explores why empathy, patience and making people feel like they belong may be some of the most important things we can offer another person. Through personal stories, practical reflections and research, she shares why kindness isn’t a grand gesture and why it’s a way of seeing people.In this episode:Why almost everyone is carrying an invisible struggle.The link between kindness, empathy and patience.How to make people feel seen, accepted and like they belong.Why the smallest interactions can become someone else’s lifelong memory.A simple challenge to help you become a kinder person this weekTimestamps01:18 - Why kindness matters more than ever in today’s busy world.10:02 -The quiet definition of kindness: making people feel seen, safe and like they belong.19:14 -The science behind kindness and why it benefits your own wellbeing.21:56 -This week’s challenge: one simple question that could change someone’s day.Connect with Grow As I Go @growasigopodcast

What if personal growth isn’t about becoming more, but carrying less?In this solo episode of Grow As I Go, Amy reflects on the mindset shifts helping her let go of unrealistic expectations, people-pleasing, overthinking and the pressure to stay the same.From learning that people can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves, to embracing change, being more present and trusting that “no” is a complete sentence, this episode is a reminder that sometimes the biggest breakthroughs come from putting things down instead of picking more up.If you’re working on healthier boundaries, emotional growth, mindfulness or simply feeling lighter, this conversation is for you.Key TakeawaysWhy not everyone has the capacity to understand your perspective.Changing your mind is a sign of growth, not inconsistency.The present moment isn’t a stepping stone; it’s your life happening now.Boundaries don’t need lengthy explanations to be valid.Growth often begins with letting go.Timestamps01:05 Growth is sometimes about carrying less01:45 “People can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves”03:30 Why changing your mind is a strength05:25 Learning to be more present07:30 People-pleasing, boundaries & why “no” is enough09:05 Final reflections & this week’s song recommendationIf this episode resonated with you, I’d love to hear what you’re choosing to carry less of. Connect with me on Instagram, and don’t forget to follow, rate and review Grow As I Go on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

Is infidelity really about sex - or is it a symptom of something much deeper?When we hear the word infidelity, most of us immediately think betrayal, broken trust, and relationship-ending behaviour. But what if the affair wasn’t actually the beginning of the story? What if it was the final expression of patterns that had been quietly forming long before anyone crossed the line?In this thought-provoking conversation, I sit down with Psychotherapist and Author Chad Taylor to explore the psychology behind infidelity through a completely different lens. Together, we unpack why cheating is often less about the other person and more about our relationship with ourselves. This episode is not about excusing infidelity or minimising the pain it causes. Accountability always maters. Instead, its about understanding the unconscious patterns, unmet needs and emotional disconnection that can drive behaviours we later regret - and why genuine healing requires far more than simply changing partners. Whether you’ve experienced betrayal, are rebuilding trust, or simply want to better understand human behaviour and relationships, this conversation offers powerful insights into self-awareness, emotional responsibility and lasting personal growth. Key takeaways Why infidelity is often a symptom of deeper emotional disconnection rather than simply a moral failure How unconscious patterns, unmet emotional needs and validation seeking share our relationshipsThe subtle forms of infidelity that often begin long before a physical affairWhy self-awareness, accountability and emotional responsibility are essential for breaking unhealthy relationship patternsWhat it actually takes for a relationship to recover after betrayalPractical ways to strengthen connection and prevent emotional distance from growing over timeTimestamps00:00 - Why we need to look beyond behaviour or infidelity05:20 - The psychology of disconnection, unmet needs and unconscious patterns13:10 - Emotional affairs, micro-infidelities and the behaviours we often overlook23:05 - Accountability vs avoidance: Can people really change after betrayal?30:00 - Can relationships recover after infidelity? What rebuilding trust actually requires38:20 - Chad’s approach to developing self-awareness through ongoing personal growthIf this episode resonated with you, I’d love it if you shared it with someone who might need to hear it. And don’t forget to follow Grow As I Go on Spotify or Apple Podcasts so you never miss an episode.Connect with Chad TaylorIf you’d like to learn more about Chad’s work, you can find his newly released book ‘It’s You. Oh F*ck. It’s Me’ on Amazon.Chad also hosts his own podcast, where he explores relationships, self-awareness and the unconscious patterns that shape our lies and runs a weekly online therapy group designed to help people develop greater self-awareness in a safe supportive environment. @chadtaylor.itsyou

In this episode, we explore the idea of emotional walls - the invisible coping mechanisms we build after difficult experiences, and how they can quietly shape our relationships, reactions and sense of self long after the original pain has passed. You might feel 'fine' about something, until suddenly you're not. You might overreact, shut down, become overly busy, over controlling, or withdraw completely - without really understanding why. This episode unpacks the psychology behind those responses and brings awareness to the patterns we often mistake for personality traits, when in reality they are learned emotional protection strategies. If you've ever wondered;- Why do I shut down in conflict?- Why do I get so defensive or overwhelmed so quickly?- Why do I avoid difficult conversations or emotions?- Why do I overthink, people-please, or stay constantly busy?This conversation will help you start to understand the why behind the behaviour. Key TakeawaysEmotional reactions are often rooted in past experiences, not present situationsEmotional walls are protective coping mechanisms, not personality flawsUnprocessed emotions don't disappear - they show up as behavioursCommon behaviours like busyness or control, or ''I'm fine'' are emotional strategiesYou can not selectively numb emotionSelf-awareness is the key to emotional growth and changeAwareness creates choice - not pressure to immediately changeTimestamps00:43 - Introduction - Why we're talking about emotional walls01:13 - What emotional walls actually are02:24 - How emotional walls are formed (childhood, trauma and lived experience)07:08 - Common emotional wall behaviours we don't recognise12:30 - The hidden cost of emotional suppression and avoidance17:31 - Self-awareness, emotional triggers and accountability20:17 - The mirror exercise: understanding emotional patterns22:14 - Closing message: You are not your coping mechanisms Brenee Brown TED Talkhttps://youtu.be/iCvmsMzlF7o?si=pq3toXzZYzMbfrlHConnect with Grow As I GoFollow the show on Instagram @growasigopodcast and wherever you listen to your podcasts.

Are you actually happy?It’s a simple question that often has a surprisingly complicated answer.In this episode of Grow As I Go, Amy invites you to step off the treadmill of daily life and complete a personal Happiness Audit - a practical self-reflection exercise designed to help you assess the areas of your life that most influence your wellbeing, fulfillment, and overall happiness.Rather than chasing happiness as a destination, this episode explores how happiness is something we nurture, revisit, and intentionally create throughout different seasons of life.Together, we’ll explore five key areas that research and lived experience suggest have a significant impact on happiness. If you’ve been feeling disconnected, stuck on autopilot, overwhelmed by responsibilities, or simply curious about how you’re really doing, this episode is your invitation to pause, reflect, and reconnect with what matters most.Key TakeawaysHappiness is not a permanent state: Happiness isn't something we achieve once and keep forever. It requires ongoing attention, reflection, and nurturing throughout different seasons of life. Relationship are one of the strongest predictors of happiness: Meaningful connection matters more than wealth, status, or achievement. Investing in the people who energise and support you can significantly improve wellbeing. What feels like a happiness problem may actually be an energy problem: Poor sleep, stress, unhealthy habits, and exhaustion can dramatically impact mood, perspective, and enjoyment of life.Purpose doesn't have to be grand: purpose isn't necessarily changing the world. It's having something meaningful that aligns with your values.Joy deserves to be scheduled: Many adults prioritise responsibilities while neglecting fun. Small moments of joy often have a bigger impact on happiness than major milestones.Your mindset shapes your experience: The stories you tell yourself, your level of self-compassion, and your tendency toward comparison can significantly influence how happy and fulfilled you feel.Timestamps00:00 - Why happiness is more complicated than it seems02:27 - Relationships: the strongest predictor of happiness08:11 - Health and Energy: Is it exhaustion or unhappiness?10:06 - Purpose and Growth: Finding meaning in everyday life12:46 - Joy, fun and the moments we forget to prioritise16:30 - Mindset, comparison, and moving goalposts18:05 - Bringing the Happiness Audit togetherHappiness Audit Questions1. Relationships and ConnectionWho are the people in your life that make you feel energised? Are you making enough time for these peopleAre you actively investing in the relationships that matter most?When was the last meaningful conversation you had?2. Health and Energy How am I really feeling physically?Do I wake up feeling restored most days?What habits are helping my energy levels right now?What habits are draining my energy levels?3. Purpose and GrowthWhat gives me a sense of meaning and purpose?Am I growing in any area of my life?What am I excited about?Where have I become stuck on autopilot?4. Joy and FunWhat do I do purely because I love it?When was the last time I laughed really hard?Have I accidentally removed too much fun from my life?What am I looking forward to?Where can I create more moments of joy in everyday life?5. Mindset and Self-TalkHow do I speak to myself on a daily basis?Am I constantly focused on what’s missing?Am I comparing my life to someone else’s highlight reel?What would change if I appreciated what I already have while still pursuing my goals?Connect With Grow As I GoIf this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who might benefit from taking a moment to pause and reflect.Follow Grow As I Go for weekly conversations about personal growth, self-awareness, mindset, leadership, relationships, and navigating life’s messy middle.Remember: Happiness isn’t something you find. It’s something you practice.

In this episode of the Grow As I Go Podcast, Amy Savage explores one of life’s biggest challenges: making decisions and living with uncertainty. From relationships and career changes to major life crossroads, Amy unpacks why regret is often rooted in comparing reality to an imaginary alternative. She shares powerful insights on decision-making, the psychology of choice, grief, commitment, and why the goal isn’t to make the perfect choice - but to make your choice the right one. If you’ve ever been stuck overthinking a decision, questioning a path you’ve taken, or wondering “what if?”, this episode offers a refreshing perspective on trust, growth, and moving forward with confidence.Key TakeawaysYou cannot compare your life to an imaginary one. The path not taken exists only in your imagination, making it easy to idealiseMost decisions are predictions, not certainties. We make choices based on incomplete information and can never fully know how the alternative would have unfoldedEvery choice comes with both gains and losses. Even the right decisions often involve grief, sacrifice or discomfortRegret often assumes the alternative would have been better. In reality, we never experience the challenges and trade-offs that would have come with the road not takenIndecision is still a decision. Choosing not to act continues to shape your life just as much as taking actionFocus less on making the right choice and more on making your choice right. Meaning is built through commitment, effort and participation after the decision is made.Timestamps00:37 - Why uncertainty and 'what if' thinking creates so much suffering03:03 - The road not taken: why you'll never know the outcome of the alternative path06:34 - The myth of the 'right choice' and accepting the trade-offs that come with every decision11:28 - When decisions aren't unclear - they're just difficult because of what comes next12:24 - Amy's deeply personal story about making a difficult decision during her adoption journey 16:42 - 'What you're not changing, you're choosing': why avoiding decisions still shapes your life20:00 - The three levels of decision making: instinct, social expectations and intuition22:02 - Choices, chances and changes: why growth required action despite uncertainty Memorable quote“Lets stop focusing all our energy on trying to make the right choice. Let’s make a choice based on the knowledge we have, and focus our energy on making it the right choice for us’’Connect with Grow As I GoIf you enjoyed this episode, please follow the podcast on Spotify and share it with someone you know who struggles with making a decision, whether it be what to eat from the menu at a restaurant or a big, life changing decision. Follow on Instagram: @growasigopodcast

Do you constantly struggle with motivation, procrastination,or feeling stuck despite wanting to make positive changes?In this episode of Grow As I Go, Amy explores the surprising connection between dopamine, instant gratification, and motivation. From social media scrolling and online shoppingto binge-watching and sugar cravings, we unpack how easy dopamine hits may be rewiring our brains and making it harder to stay focused, disciplined, and motivated. Learn why motivation doesn’t come before action, how dopamine reallyworks, and practical ways to retrain your brain to find satisfaction in effort, progress, and meaningful goals.Key TakeawaysMotivation doesn't come before action - it often appears after you get started.Dopamine is linked to anticipation and reward-seeking, not just pleasure.Constant access to instant gratification can reduce our motivation for harder but more meaningful activities.Easy dopamine hits can create a cycle of craving, temporary satisfaction, and emotional 'comedowns'.Boredom, stillness, and effort are often the foundations of creativity, focus and genuine fulfilment. Simple strategies like 'dopamine stacking' can help retrain your brain to associate effort with reward.Timestamps00:49 - Why motivation may not be your real problem04:35 - The truth about dopamine and how it influences motivation08:21 - The dopamine cycle: pleasure, pain and the 'gremlins' effect12:13 - Why smart phones are powerful, dopamine delivery systems16:30 - How to reset your dopamine baseline and reconnect with effort17:50 - Dopamine stacking: using rewards to make things easierConnect with Grow As I GoIf you enjoyed this episode, please follow the podcast onSpotify or Apple and share it with someone who might need a fresh perspective on motivation, habits, and personal growth. You can also follow the show on Instagram - @growasigopodcastMel Robbins episode about dopamine, if you're looking for a more in depth explanation behind the science of it all!Get Motivated With The #1 Dopamine Expert - Mel Robbins

In this deeply honest and vulnerable episode, Amy sits down with her close friend Emma Donohue to unpack the emotional reality of being single in your 30’s and in later life. Together they explore the insecurities, societal pressures, loneliness, healing, dating experiences, relationship patterns and unexpected growth that can come with navigating this chapter. From divorce and heartbreak, to dating apps, biological clocks, friendship shifts, and learning not to settle out of fear, this conversation is a raw and reassuring reminder that life does not have to follow a traditional timeline to still be meaningful, beautiful and full. Amy and Emma reflect on the lessons they’ve learnt through relationships, the importance of boundaries and self-worth, and how dating later in life can actually become an advantage - because you finally know who you are, what you value, and what kind of love truly aligns to you.This episode is for anyone who has ever felt ‘behind’ in life, feared being alone, struggled with relationship expectations or questioned whether love is still possible later in life. Key  takeawaysThere is no universal timeline for love, relationships, marriage or childrenBeing single later in life does not mean you are behindFear of loneliness can sometimes keep us in relationships that aren’t alignedDating in your 30’s can actually be an advantage because you know yourself more deeplyHealing and growth often come from difficult relationships and heartbreakA romantic relationship is only one slice of a very full and meaningful lifeVulnerability and authenticity help you find the people who are truly meant for youYou are not ‘left on the shelf’ - you are simply on your own pathThe right relationship will meet you where you are, not require you to abandon yourself. Timestamps00:00 - Why being single later in life can feel isolating02:25 - The fears and insecurities that come with dating in your 30’s07:30 - Funny dating stories, red flags and friendship support systems10:00 - Learning what you truly want from a relationship14:10 - Fear, loneliness, validation and staying in the wrong relationships18:20 - Boundaries, self worth, and not losing yourself in love22:10 - The ‘pie analogy’ and finding fulfilment while single23:20 - Why your timeline doesn’t have to match anyone else's26:10 - Final reflections on growth, healing and finding love later in lifeFollow Grow As I Go on Spotify and Apple, and on Instagram @growasigopodcast

In this episode of Grow As I Go, we unpack body image and the complicated relationship so many of us have withthe way we look. This conversation explores how body image is often far deeper than appearance itself - touching identity, belonging, self-worth, comparison, ageing and the human desire to feel accepted.I explore the psychological impact of growing up surrounded by beauty standards, diet culture and media scrutiny, particularly through the 90s and early 2000s, and how social media has intensified self-comparison in ways humans were never designed for. From filters and edited perfection to childhood insecurities that stay with us into adulthood, this episode dives into why body image affects almost everyone, even when logically we know the standards aren’t real.I also share personal reflections on ageing, weight fluctuations, social comparison, adolescent experiences thatshaped my insecurities, and the ongoing process of learning to speak to ourselves with more compassion instead of criticism. This episode is a reminder that body image isn’t just a women’s issue - it’s a deeply human one.Key takeaways:Body image is often connected to identity, belonging, validation and self-worthHumans were never designed to analyse their own appearance constantlySocial media and technology have amplified self-comparison and self-surveillanceGrowing up in the 90s and 2000s exposed many women to harmful beauty standards and body shamingEven when we know images are edited, our emotional brains still absorb unrealistic standardsBody image struggles affect men too, although they are often discussed less openlyMany insecurities begin in adolescence through comments, experiences or social environmentsHealing body image may not mean loving every part of yourself — but spending less time at war with your bodyTimestamps00:00 Introduction to body image and self-perception01:30 How technology changed the way we see ourselves03:20 Growing up in the 90s/2000s beauty standard era06:10 The psychology behind body image and emotional comparison09:20 Why body image affects men too11:15 Childhood insecurities and the experiences that shape us16:00 How adults unintentionally pass down insecurities17:40 Learning to speak to ourselves with more compassionFollow Grow As I Go on Instagram @growasigopodcast

Have you ever been told “you’re so lucky”… when you know it wasn’t luck at all?In this episode of Grow As I Go, we unpack the powerful truth behind luck vs resilience and why what looks like “everything working out” is often the result of unseen effort, hard decisions, and personal growth.We explore what resilience really means (hint: it’s not just getting through hard things), why two people canexperience the same situation and end up in completely different places, and how your mindset, actions, and choices shape your outcomes over time. From the concept of the two arrows (pain vs suffering) to the idea that resilience can make struggle invisible, this episode will shift how you see yourself, and others.If you’ve ever felt stuck, overlooked, or frustrated by the idea of “luck,” this conversation will help you understand how to start building resilience and creating your own 'luck' (aka opportunities). Key TakeawaysResilience is not just survival - it’s how you adapt, respond, and take actionTwo people can go through the same hardship and have completely different outcomesThe 'two arrows' concept: pain is inevitable, but suffering is often a choiceWhat looks like 'luck' is often the result of consistent decisions and effort over timeResilience can make struggle invisible, which leads to misunderstanding from othersSmall, intentional actions can open doors to new opportunities and long-term growthTimestamps0:00 - Introduction, why 'you're so lucky' isn't what it seems01:10 - What resilience actually is (and what it's not)03:00 - Category A vs Category B: Growth vs staying stuck07:30 - The 'two arrows' concept - pain vs suffering09:30 - Creating your own luck through action and mindset16:30 - Real life examples: marathon training, relationship and effort19:00 - Why resilience doesn't mean doing everything aloneSubscribe so you don't miss future episodes, or follow Grow As I Go on Instagram - @growasigopodcast

Have you ever held yourself back from doing something because you were scared of getting it wrong - or worse, being seen trying?In this episode of Grow As I Go, we unpack the F-word: failure. But more specifically, the fear of failure, fear of judgement, and fear of being seen not getting it right.This conversation explores how perfectionism, overthinking, and “waiting for the right time” often disguise a deeper fear - the fear of stepping forward before we feel fully ready.From starting this podcast to everyday decisions, I share my own experience of delaying action and how learning to move through fear has completely shifted the way I approach growth, mindset, and self trust.We also explore what success really means when you remove external validation from the equation. Because for many of us, fear of failure isn’t about capability - it’s about perception, judgement, and how we think others will see us.This episode is about redefining success, letting go of perfectionism, and learning that meaningful growth almost always begins before you feel ready.If you’ve ever struggled with self doubt, procrastination, or fear of judgement, this conversation will help you rethink what failure actually means.Because most of the time, it’s not failure holding us back… it’s the fear of being seen trying.Key themes in this episode:Fear of failure and fear of judgementPerfectionism and overthinking as forms of self-sabotageWhy “waiting for the right time” keeps you stuckRedefining success on your own terms (growth over validation)Building confidence through action, not readinessThe mindset shift from external approval to internal alignmentTimestamps:0:00 – Welcome and introduction: fear of failure02:00 – My experience delaying starting this podcast06:40 – Redefining success and failure on your own terms11:15 – Perfectionism and self-sabotage patterns13:05 – The “cheap seats vs VIP section” mindset (judgement vs support)21:10 – Choosing action over perfection + final reflection

Have you ever looked at your life and wondered how you got here? Not just the big moments, but the quiet in-between ones that changed everything?In this introductory episode of Grow As I Go, I share why I started this podcast and the personal experiences that shaped it - including grief, heartbreak, IVF, divorce, loss, and rebuilding my identity through it all.This episode sets the foundation for what Grow As I Go is really about: navigating growth in real time, not just looking back once everything makes sense. Because self growth doesn’t happen in hindsight - it happens in the messy middle of life, when things feel uncertain, uncomfortable, and completely unplanned.We explore what a growth mindset actually looks like in practice, how resilience is built through lived experience, and why the challenges we go through don’t define us - but they do shape how we move forward.You can’t always control what life gives you, but you can learn how to respond, reflect, and keep showing up for yourself anyway.This podcast is about honest conversations around personal growth, mindset shifts, emotional resilience, self awareness, and navigating change - especially when life doesn’t go to plan.If you’re in a season of rebuilding, uncertainty, or becoming someone you didn’t expect to be, this episode lays the foundation for everything to come.Because growth isn’t something you arrive at - it’s something you live through.Key themes in this episode:Starting a self-growth podcast and why I created Grow As I GoGrowth mindset and emotional resilience in real lifeNavigating grief, IVF, divorce, heartbreak and changeIdentity shifts and rebuilding after adversity Learning to grow through the messy middle of lifeWhy your experiences shape you, but don’t define youTimestamps:00:00 Welcome to Grow As I Go and why this podcast exists02:30 My passion for self growth and mindset work05:00 Life experiences that shaped me (grief, IVF, divorce, loss)10:00 Choosing a growth mindset over staying stuck16:30 “We all die, but not all of us live”18:30 What this podcast will explore moving forwardFollow my instagram page for more updates @growasigopodcast