Guys Dealings with Feelings

Feeling like you’re not enough doesn’t come from nowhere.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, we break down worthiness—why so many men struggle with feeling like they don’t deserve more, even when they’re doing everything right. This isn’t just about confidence. It’s deeper than that.Worthiness is shaped by your experiences, your beliefs, and the way you interpret your past. And if you don’t understand it, you’ll keep chasing validation, second-guessing yourself, and holding back from opportunities you’re actually ready for.In this conversation, we cover: What worthiness really is (and what it isn’t)  Where the feeling of “not enough” comes from  How past experiences shape your self-perception  The connection between worthiness and confidence  Why external success doesn’t fix internal doubt  How to start building a real sense of self-worth If you’ve ever questioned your value, held yourself back, or felt like you had to prove yourself—this episode will help you understand what’s really going on and how to move forward differently You don’t build worthiness by proving it—you build it by understanding it.Subscribe for real conversations on men’s mental health, emotional awareness, and personal growth. #GuysDealingsWithFeelings #MensMentalHealth #Worthiness #SelfWorth #Confidence #PersonalGrowth #SelfAwareness 

Inner strength isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you build.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, we break down what inner strength actually is, why so many men feel weak or overwhelmed, and how to develop real mental and emotional strength that holds up under pressure.Most people think strength means pushing through, shutting emotions down, or just “toughing it out.” But that approach eventually breaks. Real strength looks different—and if you don’t understand it, you’ll keep trying to build it the wrong way.In this conversation, we cover: What inner strength really is (and what it isn’t)  Why emotional avoidance makes you weaker, not stronger  The connection between self-awareness and strength  How pressure exposes your level of internal stability  Why discipline alone isn’t enough  Practical ways to start building real inner strength If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, mentally exhausted, or like you’re not as strong as you should be—this episode will give you a clearer understanding of what’s actually going on and how to change it.Real strength isn’t about pretending nothing affects you—it’s about being able to handle what does.Subscribe for real conversations on men’s mental health, emotional awareness, and personal growth. #GuysDealingsWithFeelings #MensMentalHealth #InnerStrength #MentalStrength #EmotionalStrength #PersonalGrowth #SelfAwareness 

Feeling lost isn’t weakness—it’s a signal.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, we break down why so many men feel stuck, directionless, or disconnected—even when everything on the outside looks fine. This isn’t just about not knowing what to do next. It’s deeper than that.Feeling lost often comes from a disconnect between who you are, what you’re doing, and what actually matters to you. And if you don’t understand where it’s coming from, you’ll keep trying to fix it the wrong way.In this conversation, we cover: Why feeling lost is more common than most men admit  The difference between being stuck vs being misaligned  How identity, pressure, and expectations play into it  Why “just push through it” doesn’t work  What feeling lost is actually trying to tell you  Practical ways to start finding direction again If you’ve been questioning your path, your decisions, or your purpose—this episode will help you understand what’s really going on and how to move forward with clarity. You’re not as far off as you think—you’re just not aligned yet.Subscribe for real conversations on men’s mental health, emotional awareness, and personal growth.#GuysDealingsWithFeelings #MensMentalHealth #FeelingLost #Purpose #SelfAwareness #PersonalGrowth #Direction

Anger gets a bad reputation—but what if it’s not the problem?In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, we break down what anger actually is, where it comes from, and why so many men either suppress it or let it control them. The truth is, anger is often just the surface emotion… underneath it is something deeper that most people never address.We talk about: Why anger is usually a secondary emotion  What anger is trying to communicate  The difference between controlled vs uncontrolled anger  How unresolved trauma and stress show up as anger  Practical ways to process anger without damaging relationships If you’ve ever felt like your anger comes out of nowhere—or you’ve been told to “just calm down” without real tools—this episode gives you a different perspective and a better way forward. This is about understanding yourself, not suppressing who you are.Subscribe for real conversations on men’s mental health, emotional awareness, and personal growth.#GuysDealingsWithFeelings #MensMentalHealth #AngerManagement #EmotionalAwareness #PersonalGrowth #SelfAwareness

Shame is the quiet belief that something is fundamentally wrong with *you*—not just what you did. In this episode, Aaron and Jason break down how shame differs from guilt, why it drives overwork, anger, and shutdown, and how it becomes woven into your identity without you even realizing it.They explore where shame originates: childhood conditioning, conditional love, trauma, and repeated failure without support. You'll hear real examples of how shame hides in perfectionism, defensiveness, and the relentless pursuit of external validation (money, status, comparisons). Jason explains the role of the nervous system and why presence—not another achievement—is the antidote.If you've ever felt "not enough," this conversation will help you separate who you actually are from the stories you've been carrying.

Communication isn’t just about talking—it’s about being understood.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason break down why so many men struggle with communication and how it impacts relationships, work, and personal growth. Most men were never taught how to express what they feel, set boundaries, or have difficult conversations without shutting down or blowing up.We dive into: Why men avoid difficult conversations  The difference between reacting and responding  How poor communication creates distance in relationships  Practical tools to communicate clearly and confidently  How to say what needs to be said without damaging connection If you’ve ever felt misunderstood, avoided conversations, or struggled to say what you really mean—this episode will give you the awareness and tools to change that. This isn’t about becoming someone else.  It’s about becoming clear, direct, and grounded in how you show up.Listen now and start communicating like a man who knows who he is.

Most men are "using" or trying to use motivation… and that’s exactly why they stay stuck. In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason break down the truth about motivation, discipline, and habits—and why relying on motivation is one of the biggest mistakes you can make if you want real, lasting change.We dive into:Why motivation is unreliable (and always fades)The difference between discipline and habitsHow to build systems that actually move your life forwardWhy consistency beats intensity every timePractical ways to create structure when you don’t “feel like it”If you’ve ever felt stuck, inconsistent, or frustrated with your progress, this episode will give you a clear, grounded framework to take control and start moving forward—regardless of how you feel. This isn’t about hype. This is about real change.#GuysDealingsWithFeelings #MensMentalHealth #Discipline #Habits #Motivation #SelfImprovement #Consistency #PersonalGrowth #MentalStrength #Mindset

Gratitude is often talked about as a simple mindset shift, but in reality it can be one of the most powerful tools for changing how we experience life.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, We explore the deeper meaning of gratitude and why it plays such an important role in mental health, emotional awareness, and personal growth. We discuss how gratitude changes perspective, how it can shift the way we respond to challenges, and why developing a genuine sense of appreciation can dramatically improve well-being and relationships.This conversation looks at gratitude not as a cliché or quick fix, but as a practice that helps men become more present, grounded, and aware of what truly matters.Guys Dealings With Feelings is a podcast focused on men’s health, emotional awareness, identity, responsibility, relationships, and personal growth. Aaron and Jason share real conversations designed to help men navigate modern life with greater clarity, emotional strength, and purpose.Subscribe for more conversations about men’s health, emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and personal development.#GuysDealingsWithFeelings #MensMentalHealth #Gratitude #EmotionalAwareness #PersonalGrowth #MentalHealth #Mindset

Many men struggle to trust their instincts — not because they don’t have intuition, but because years of conditioning, trauma, expectations, and external pressure have taught them to ignore it.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason explore the relationship between self-trust and intuition. They discuss why so many men become disconnected from their internal guidance system, how self-doubt develops, and what it takes to rebuild trust in your own judgment.This conversation breaks down the difference between fear, instinct, and emotional signals, while offering a deeper understanding of how self-awareness and emotional intelligence help men reconnect with themselves.Topics include:Why many men lose trust in themselvesThe difference between intuition and emotional reactionHow trauma and conditioning disrupt self-trustRebuilding internal confidence and clarityDeveloping stronger emotional awarenessGuys Dealings With Feelings is a podcast focused on men’s mental health, emotional awareness, identity, responsibility, relationships, and personal growth. Aaron and Jason share honest conversations designed to help men become more grounded, self-aware, and emotionally strong.Subscribe for more conversations about men’s mental health, personal development, emotional intelligence, and navigating modern life with clarity and purpose.#GuysDealingsWithFeelings #MensMentalHealth #SelfTrust #Intuition #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfAwareness #PersonalGrowth #Mindset

What if the biggest thing holding you back isn’t your circumstances… but your beliefs?In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason break down how deeply held beliefs—many formed in childhood or through trauma—quietly shape our identity, decisions, relationships, and results. Most men never question what they believe. They just live inside the system those beliefs create.We explore:How core beliefs are formedWhy trauma hardwires certain narrativesThe difference between facts and interpretationsHow beliefs impact confidence, leadership, and responsibilityWhy changing behavior without changing belief rarely worksA practical tool to identify and challenge limiting beliefsIf you’ve ever thought: “I’m not enough.” “I have to do it all myself.” “People always leave.” “I can’t trust anyone.” “I’m just wired this way.”This episode is for you.Beliefs are not permanent. They are conditioned. And what’s conditioned can be examined, challenged, and rewritten. This conversation is about awareness, responsibility, and freedom—the kind that starts internally and changes everything externally. Listen in as Aaron and Jason unpack how to bring unconscious beliefs into the light and take back control of your internal narrative.#GuysDealingsWithFeelings #MensMentalHealth #Beliefs #IdentityWork #TraumaRecovery #PersonalGrowth #SelfAwareness #EmotionalIntelligence #MindsetShift #Responsibility

Boundaries aren’t walls — they’re clarity. And without clear boundaries, relationships, mental health, and personal growth all begin to suffer.In this full episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason dive deep into why boundaries are essential for men’s mental health, emotional stability, and strong relationships. They break down common misunderstandings about boundaries, why many men struggle to set them, and how learning to communicate and maintain healthy boundaries can transform your life.This conversation explores emotional awareness, responsibility, self-respect, relationships, and personal growth, offering practical insights to help men build stronger, healthier, and more intentional lives.Subscribe for more conversations focused on men’s mental health, emotional intelligence, self-awareness, identity, responsibility, and personal development.#GuysDealingsWithFeelings #MensMentalHealth #Boundaries #HealthyRelationships #SelfAwareness #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalIntelligence

Emotional awareness is one of the most important skills a person can develop — yet most men were never taught how to understand what they feel or why they feel it.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason explore what emotional awareness really means, why it’s foundational to happiness and stability, and how learning to recognize your emotions can transform your relationships, decision-making, and overall quality of life.This conversation breaks down how emotions work, why we often avoid them, and how building emotional awareness leads to personal growth, responsibility, and a deeper sense of fulfillment.Subscribe for more conversations focused on men’s mental health, emotional intelligence, self-awareness, responsibility, identity, and personal growth.#GuysDealingsWithFeelings #MensMentalHealth #EmotionalAwareness #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfAwareness #PersonalGrowth #MentalHealthMatters

In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason explore the relationship between happiness and personal responsibility — and why lasting fulfillment can’t be outsourced, chased, or handed to us by circumstances.They discuss how many men unknowingly place responsibility for their happiness on relationships, careers, validation, or external success, and why this leads to frustration, resentment, and disconnection. The conversation looks at how trauma, conditioning, and avoidance shape our expectations — and what it actually means to take responsibility without blame or self-judgment.This episode isn’t about forcing positivity or grinding harder. It’s about understanding where responsibility begins, how awareness changes choice, and why happiness is less about control and more about relationship to experience.Guys Dealings With Feelings is a podcast dedicated to helping men develop emotional awareness, nervous system regulation, and a grounded sense of responsibility for the lives they’re living.

In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason explore the invisible weight of trauma — the unseen burden many men carry without realizing how deeply it affects their thoughts, bodies, relationships, and sense of self.They discuss how trauma doesn’t always show up as dramatic memories or obvious symptoms, but instead as chronic tension, emotional numbness, hyper-responsibility, disconnection, or a constant feeling of pressure. Often, men adapt so well that the weight becomes normal — until it starts shaping identity, behavior, and burnout.This conversation looks at how trauma lives in the nervous system, why “pushing through” often makes things worse, and how awareness and presence create space for real healing without forcing change.Guys Dealings With Feelings is a podcast dedicated to helping men build emotional awareness, resilience, and a more honest relationship with themselves and the lives they’re living.

In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason explore the concept of presence — what it really means, why it’s so difficult in the modern world, and how a lack of presence quietly impacts mental health, relationships, and fulfillment.They discuss how trauma, stress, and constant distraction pull us out of the present moment, why many men live in their heads or the future as a survival strategy, and how learning to inhabit the body is essential for clarity and emotional regulation.This conversation invites men to slow down, reconnect with what’s happening right now, and recognize presence as a skill that can be practiced — not a personality trait you either have or don’t.Guys Dealings With Feelings is a podcast focused on helping men build self-awareness, emotional resilience, and a grounded relationship with themselves and the world around them.

 In this episode, Aaron and Jason explore identity — how it’s formed, how it gets distorted through experience and conditioning, and why so many people feel lost when the version of themselves they’ve been operating from no longer works. They discuss how identity is often built around survival, expectations, and unprocessed experiences, rather than truth or presence. This conversation invites listeners to question who they think they are, notice what no longer fits, and begin reconnecting with a more grounded, honest sense of self. 

In this episode, Aaron and Jason discuss the importance of grounding in mental health, particularly for men. They explore how external chaos can affect emotional stability and the significance of being present and aware of one's feelings. The conversation delves into the impact of societal conditioning on emotional responses and the necessity of developing routines and community support for personal growth. Practical steps for achieving grounding and emotional awareness are shared, emphasizing the need for balance between movement and stillness, and the importance of understanding and processing emotions like fear.

In this episode of Guys Dealing with Feelings, Aaron Gray reflects on the journey of the podcast, expressing gratitude for listeners and discussing the importance of self-reflection and personal growth. He previews the upcoming season, emphasizing themes of emotional health, responsibility, and internal happiness. The conversation highlights the challenges men face and the necessity of focusing on oneself to foster better relationships and overall well-being.

Modern men are under pressure like never before—dating expectations, changing roles at home, economic strain, and a cultural message that tells us to “be strong” while giving us zero tools to actually handle what we feel.In today’s episode, Jason and I break down what’s REALLY going on.We talk about:The brutal reality of online datingWhy men are withdrawing and shutting downHow emotional expression became tied to “weakness”The evolutionary shift happening in relationshipsWhy presence, not perfection, is what your partner actually needsHow lack of community has made everything heavierThis one is honest, real, and overdue. If you're a man trying to understand why everything feels harder today—or a partner trying to understand the man you love—this conversation matters.

 In this episode, Jason and I break down how our beliefs are shaped by the experiences we’ve lived through—especially the ones we never fully processed. We talk about why old emotions resurface, how unresolved moments keep showing back up, and what it looks like to finally face them. We also get into the discipline of staying present, staying out of the past and the future, and building a mindset that keeps you grounded instead of reactive. This one is direct, practical, and built for any man who’s ready to understand himself on a deeper level. 

Most men don’t even realize they’re living inside a box they built themselves.Not a physical box — an emotional one.When we avoid emotions, ignore reflection, and push down anything that feels uncomfortable, those same unprocessed emotions start calling the shots. They become patterns, patterns become beliefs, and beliefs dictate our perception and the direction of our lives.In this episode, we break down how men “box themselves in” without ever noticing:Why avoiding emotions leads to predictable, destructive patternsHow your behavior today is shaped by emotions you never addressedWhy so many men feel stuck, frustrated, or disconnectedAnd how expanding your emotional awareness is the key to unlocking your potential and your happinessThis is a direct, honest conversation about breaking out of the box — not to become someone different, but to finally become who you want to be and who you were meant to be.

In this episode, Aaron Gray and Jason Adams delve into the complexities of men's mental health, focusing on the importance of understanding values, feelings, and communication. They explore how cultural influences and conditioning shape our self-expression and relationships, emphasizing the need for self-awareness and reflection. The conversation highlights the challenges men face in navigating their emotions and the impact of societal expectations on communication styles. Ultimately, the hosts encourage listeners to engage in self-discovery and foster healthier relationships through improved communication.

Jason and I discuss how we have been isolated even further through societal influences. We touch on several areas of helping ourselves understand and achieve real fulfillment. 

Jason and I start exploring all of the impacts that our culture has on our lives. We start out with an overall description of how culture is all encompassing in our lives and specifically how it impacts are values both in what they are and how we try to nurture them.

Jason and I discuss why it is so difficult to progress and grow as a human. There is a constant desire to grow and expand ourselves in different ways, but why is it so hard?! 

Jason and I go through the different internal and external influences affecting our lives. We dive into understanding and reflection as it pertains to be able to identify what is really happening when we find ourselves unsatisfied, unhappy, or both.

Logan and I have a great discussion surrounding his recovery from sexual addiction. His story and tools we discuss are applicable to anyone trying to recover.Logan's IG: https://www.instagram.com/no.longer.in.bondage/

Jason and I dive into enlightenment. We try to demystify the topic and discuss the beauty that comes with it.

Dean and I have a fascinating conversation. We dive deep into enlightenment, consciousness, and understanding of self. I had an amazing time doing this interview and I am so glad I got to meet Dean.Dean's website where you can find his books and information: https://www.ddeangraves.org/

Alan and I have an awesome conversation on a range of topics. He too used his rock bottom for a foundation for rebuilding. We cover unhappiness, self work, and emotional health. https://www.nextleveluniverse.com/business-consulting/

Jack and I have a great conversation around his path to helping others with their healing. Jack focuses on using laughter, and other methods to heal from past experiences. He is retired Navy and has a very interesting story to share. Jack's Website: https://jackdalyauthor.com/

In this episode, I sit down with Shane to explore his incredible journey of transformation. After hitting rock bottom and battling alcoholism, Shane used his struggles as a foundation for change. Today, he has rebuilt his life and empowers others through a unique coaching program that combines the healing power of horses with his inspiring message. Tune in to hear how Shane helps people overcome obstacles and achieve their best selves.Shane's Website: https://www.thehorsemanshipjourney.com/

Dan and I have a good conversation based on turning rock bottom into our foundation. After suffering 2 traumatic brain injuries Dan is sharing is road to recover with others to inspire growth.Dan's Website: https://www.macqueendan.com/

Thomas and I discuss he journey riding a bicycle across the country. After losing his brother to suicide, he and a friend decided to do the ride for themselves and others. We discuss mindfulness, breathwork, and self reflection among other things.Thomas' Website:  http://www.risephoenix.org

Jason and I dive into the issues that we face that leading to us feeling stuck in our lives. We cover a wide range of topics, but focusing on self and learning as much about ourselves is crucial. We then begin to experience more and have a stronger understanding of who we are and what we want.

Owen and I have an awesome conversation surrounding men's healing work. We cover so many aspects of growth and vulnerability Owen Marcus is a pioneering coach and author known for integrating emotional physiology and attachment theory into men's emotional connection. His 30-year journey has led him to author a book, feature in a documentary, and start three impactful businesses. Featured in Men's Health, The New York Times, ABC News, and The Today Show. Link to Owen's website:  https://meld.community 

Jason and I have a great discusion on men's mental health. Jason has been involved with men's groups for 20 years and has some great insight that he shares. Here is the link to connect to Jason:  https://evolutionary.men/talkBook a free exploratory call with Jason to talk about what's going on in your life and how men's work and coaching might support you.

Kevin and I discuss a range of strategies and tools that he and I utilize to maintain happiness in our lives. Kevin found himself fiscally stable but emotionally struggling. He has turned this into a foundation of personal growth and development.Link to Kevin's coaching page: https://www.nextleveluniverse.com/group-coaching/

Eric and I have a wide ranging conversation that touches on a variety of topics. His experience at the meditation retreat is awesome, the insight he shares is great. Eric's website: https://shopx.co/

Join David and me as we dive into an engaging conversation about time management and its impact on our daily lives. Link to David's Time Management Analysis https://infinitylifestyledesign.com/tma/

Martin and I have a great conversation on a variety of topics from overcoming a catastrophic business failure to working through divorce to limiting beliefs. Listen in to hear about real tools and process that will help with your trauma recovery. Here is a link to Martin's website: https://connectwithmartin.com/

Carlo and I have a great conversation around taking action to change your life's circumstances. Carlo is a life coach helping men with their journey. Here is a link to connect with Carlo via Instagram:    https://www.instagram.com/carlotaormina_coach/

Seth and I have an amazing conversation about the childhood abuse that he suffered. Seth is an inspiration to anyone who listens. He has overcome one of the most horrific things we as humans can go through and he shares his message with us, and I couldn't be more grateful!Seth's IG account: https://www.instagram.com/gobeyondtheshadows/?igsh=a210cWp5dmFhaXd0&utm_source=qr

Liam Naden is a pioneering coach who uniquely integrates cutting-edge neuroscience, psychology and practical strategies to help people unlock their true potential, overcome challenges, achieve goals, and live a deeply-balanced, purpose driven life. He is the host of the "Let Yourself Off the Hook" podcast and coaching program, explaining how to achieve success without the struggle. https://liamnaden.com Here is the link to access Liam’s free webinar, his book, coaching program, and to reach out to him.

 Jason and I had a great discussion about the differences between shame and guilt. We explored what each of these emotions entails, why we experience them, and some effective strategies for managing them. In this episode, we share valuable tools that you can use to better understand and handle your emotions in turn enhancing your life experiences.

Another great conversation with Jason. This time we dive into triggers. How do certain things become triggers. Why are we being triggered in the first place. We are able to explain how the nervous system is "inflamed" causing it to constantly be on alert turning everything into a "snake" and keeping us in the fight, flight, or freeze mode. My apologies for the audio (again smh), but this was too good of interview to not publish. Enjoy and thanks again for listening!

In this episode I go over the importance of being in control of your life. Choose to be defined by the way that you react to trauma, not by the trauma itself. We cannot always control what happens around us, but we do control how we react. With this in mind we can build our foundation for our best lives after going through something traumatic. Thanks for listening!

Jason is a longtime friend. He is a licensed therapist and he shares his recovery journey with us. We discuss some great tools throughout this episode. My apologies for the audio quality, there were technical difficulties but the interview was too good not to publish. Thank you for listening!

Ron and I get into a great conversation surrounding his recovery from a rough childhood and the loss of a brother to suicide. Ron has an amazing story. We touch on accountability, reflection of self, not being a victim or your own making, decision making processes and more. 

In this episode I go over the importance of not only learning the lessons life teaches us, but how impactful the lesson has been. This allows us to look back on what would have been a negative event, but appreciating it for the positive that it created. Understanding the gift that the negative experiences in our lives give us.