Hearts Entwined Podcast

Lyn talks to spiritual teacher and best-selling author Christy Whitman to explore the transformational journey from survival to fulfillment.  Christy shares her personal awakening from depression to spiritual clarity, unpacking how hidden, repetitive negative thoughts dictate our reality. Together, they discuss the dynamics of energy flow, providing listeners with practical, somatic tools such as head-and-neck release and visualisation exercises, to dissolve the cycles of fear, lack, worry and doubt, and ultimately tune into a sustainable energy of gratitude and abundance. KEY TAKEAWAYS Moving out of survival mode requires acknowledging that negative thoughts are not absolute truths, but rather malleable energies that we have the power to stop and transform. Our bodies possess an energetic valve at the base of the head and spine that, when consciously released, can instantly soothe the nervous system and clear stress out of the body. Authentic abundance cannot be faked with disconnected positive affirmations; instead, it is built incrementally by leaning into realistic, better-feeling thoughts that slowly positively shift our self-identity. Cultivating a constant, daily dialogue of gratitude for what is present in the "now" is the most direct pathway to matching the universal energy frequency of a consistant flow state. BEST MOMENTS "You create your own reality... You’re either repelling things from you or attracting things to you based on the way you think."  "We're either thinking thoughts of what we want, which feel expansive and life-giving... or we're thinking thoughts of lack or limitation that are constrictive and restrictive."  "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, that's why today is called the present because it's a gift."  "We all think that, 'Oh, when in the future I have this, then I'll feel ...,' and we're projecting and postponing our life force energy out into the future when the only place and only time we can ever feel is in our now." ABOUT THE GUEST - Christy Whitman - Spiritual Teacher/ Author 2 x NYT bestselling author of The Flow Factor: How to Master Your Energy and Enter a State of Flow. Website - https://www.watchyourwords.com ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method [email protected] This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Lyn sits down with sex counselor Fran Frye to dismantle the common misconceptions surrounding male and female sexual desires. Drawing from her personal journey as a rape survivor turned advocate, Fran offers a profound look into the world of problematic sexual behaviours and the distinct frameworks of spontaneous desire versus responsive desire. KEY TAKEAWAYS Men more frequently experience spontaneous desire (instantly ready out of the blue), while women often experience responsive desire, which requires warmth, curiosity, and lead-up to activate. A vital piece of anatomical education is that vaginal lubrication is a natural physiological preparation for penetration, but it does not automatically mean a woman is psychologically turned on or ready for sex. To combat boredom and explore novelty safely, couples can utilise a "yes, no, maybe" list online or via social media to find creative, mutually comfortable ways to connect/ spice things up. Rather than viewing it as a mere tool for performance, men naturally seek emotional connection through their sexuality; understanding the erotic nervous system is crucial for male emotional regulation and well-being. BEST MOMENTS "We are not dildos. We aren't meant to just be erect and expected to be ready to quote-on-quote perform. There is some lead-up and connection that is required." "Women often find themselves bored in sex faster than men do... I find that it’s the sex that they're having is what they're bored with." "A regulated man is safer than any weapon we sell in the name of protection, and I find that sex and regulation is very important to the betterment of men." "Communication is lubrication." ABOUT THE GUEST - Fran Frye – Sex Educator, Counsellor & Clinician Fran Frye focus's on supporting men as they unpack their sexuality within a patriarchal culture that often labels them as dangerous, defective, or emotionally closed off. She helps dismantle these narratives through curiosity, empathy and practical tools that foster healthier relationships with the body, partners and self, helping them build greater empathy, emotional depth, and responsibility in their intimate lives. Website - https://www.franfrye.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/franfryecounseling/ YouTube -  https://www.youtube.com/@franfryecounseling ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method [email protected] This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Lyn welcomes licensed therapist and somatic trauma specialist Erika Shershun for an illuminating conversation on healing & recovering from sexual trauma.  Drawing from her own 17-year healing journey, Erika demystifies complex concepts like Polyvagal Theory (understanding the relationship between the nervous system and our emotions) and the body’s innate "flight, fight or freeze" responses, explaining how trauma physically embeds itself in the nervous system long after the event. KEY TAKEAWAYS Trauma isn't just a mental hurdle; it’s a physical state where the nervous system remains stuck in a defensive response of flight, fight, or freeze. The nervous system decides to enter a protective state (such as freezing) faster than the conscious brain can think, often as a primal survival mechanism. "Talk therapy" often falls short because it ignores the physical patterns of constriction and numbness that trauma leaves in the body. Recovery involves learning to gently transmute trauma by shifting between nervous system states, moving away from chronic hyper-vigilance and back toward a felt sense of safety. BEST MOMENTS "The realisation came to me about 17 years into therapy. I realised just how much the trauma stays in the body until it's integrated." "Your nervous system has a wisdom. It took you to a freeze state because it knew it was your best chance of survival." "If you only work with a persons thoughts, the patterns of movement and constriction are still taking place in the body; you're not really integrating the trauma." "Healing is no longer getting triggered by the trauma and having the symptoms clear up that are clearly associated with it." ABOUT THE GUEST - Erika Shershun - Somatic Psychotherapist Erika Shershun, MA, LMFT, is a somatic psychotherapist who specializes in helping trauma survivors reclaim the life they were meant to live. She’s the author of the Healing Sexual Trauma Guided Journal: Writing and Somatic Practices to Help You Process, Heal, and Feel Safe. Websites: https://healingsexualtrauma.com/ https://erikashershuntherapy.com/ ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method [email protected] This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Lyn sits down with Jeff Abraham, the CEO of Promescent, to discuss a new innovative solution to premature ejaculation, plus the intricacies of sexual wellness and intimacy.  Jeff shares his unconventional journey from semiconductor engineering to sexual wellness and provides deep insights into common intimacy issues like premature ejaculation and the arousal gap between partners. The conversation highlights the critical role of communication and education in overcoming the shame often associated with sexual health and the importance of creating a judgment-free environment to encourage deeper connection and a more fulfilling intimate life. KEY TAKEAWAYS On average, men last about 5 minutes and 42 seconds during intercourse, while women may need about 18 minutes to reach climax, making it important to find ways to bridge this gap. Open, honest, and non-judgmental communication about sexual needs and preferences is the most essential tool for any couple to enhance their intimate relationship. Injecting anxiety into intimacy only makes a problem worse; using products like delay sprays can help men focus on their partner rather than their own performance. There should be no shame in seeking help or using products to improve sexual wellness, just as one would not feel guilty for seeking treatment for any other health condition. BEST MOMENTS "I tell people that I probably took the most circuitous route in the history of sexual wellness to become the CEO of a sexual wellness company." "Anxiety and intimacy are two completely separate emotions and they should never interact. Injecting anxiety into intimacy only makes it worse, not better." "Communication is probably the best tool in any lover's tool bag because no matter how good the physical aspect of intimacy is, if you're not communicating, things might not be as good for your partner." "Why don't we spend as much time and energy keeping that person by having the best intimacy you can have as we do attracting that person?" ABOUT THE GUEST - Jeff Abraham - Sexual Wellness Authority Jeff Abraham has over 10 years of experience in the sexual wellness industry as both an expert and entrepreneur. Jeff is the CEO of Promescent, a leading sexual wellness brand focused on making intimacy solutions more accessible and effective. After discovering a groundbreaking treatment for premature ejaculation developed by urologist Dr. Ronald Gilbert, Jeff invested in the product and became the majority owner, launching the company’s flagship Delay Spray. Email - [email protected] - https://www.promescent.com/LYN15 ABOUT THE HOST Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now feeling safe, fulfilled, alive, full of passion and having inner peace. She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert/ Trainer/ Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts. Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale. Contact Method [email protected] This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. ⁠https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/