Hello Me, It's Me : Vulnerable AF

In this episode of Hello Me, It's Me, I'm joined by my youngest daughter, Amiyah, for one of our most honest conversations yet.Together, we dive into what it's really like growing up in today's teen culture from the pressure to jump into relationships quickly, to how social media has changed the way teenagers view love, sex, commitment, and self-worth.We talk openly about why so many young people lose themselves in relationships before they've had the chance to discover who they are, how confidence changes the choices we make, and what healthy love should actually feel like.This isn't a lecture. It's a real conversation between a mother and her teen daughter about the questions many families are already facing but often aren't talking about.Whether you're raising a teenager, navigating dating yourself, or simply trying to understand the world young people are growing up in today, this conversation offers perspective, honesty, and plenty to think about.In this episode we discuss:• Why teens often rush into relationships• The pressure created by social media and online dating culture• Teenage sex culture and changing expectations• Building self-worth before building a relationship• What healthy love actually looks like• Why you should never lose yourself trying to keep someone else The walk away? Healthy love doesn't ask you to become less of yourself; it gives you more freedom to become who you already are.If this episode resonates with you, share it with another parent or a teenager who needs to hear this conversation.

In this episode, Nikki shares her personal journey of letting go as a parent, navigating her daughter's independence, and managing her own emotions. She offers insights into love, trust, and the importance of letting go of control to foster growth and peace.Key topicsThe importance of letting go for personal peaceUnderstanding and supporting your child's independenceManaging fears and emotional triggers as a parentThe role of trust and faith in parentingBalancing love and boundaries in adult relationshipsTakeawaysLetting go is not about cutting off emotionally, but about trusting your child.Parents often project their fears; recognizing this helps in letting go.Supporting your child's independence involves setting boundaries and offering love.Releasing control can lead to peace and healthier relationships.Trust that you have prepared your child for adulthood.

Life doesn't always go according to plan.In this episode, Nikki shares what it's been like navigating major life changes as a single mom, from unexpected setbacks to starting over in ways she never anticipated. She talks about resilience, self-trust, and the lessons that come from rebuilding when the path ahead isn't clear.If you're in a season of transition, uncertainty, or reinvention, this conversation is a reminder that growth isn't always loud and sometimes the most important progress happens when nobody else can see it. ❤️key topicsLife transitions and personal growthManaging change as a single parentThe importance of self-belief and resilienceHealing from past experiences and moving forwardTakeawaysPlans can change, but growth is always possible.Facing fears and embracing change leads to empowerment.Self-belief and confidence are crucial during transitions.Healing and self-awareness enable better handling of life's challenges.

I've been quiet, but that is ok. I'm in a rebuilding season right now where I am figuring things out, letting go of what no longer fits, and learning to trust myself in the middle of the unknown. In this episode, I share what I've learned about navigating uncertainty, regulating emotions, and finding peace during the quiet seasons of life. If you're in the middle of a reset too, this episode is for you. ❤️Key topicsThe importance of quiet seasons in rebuildingFinancial independence and stabilityEmotional regulation and self-trust during transitionsTakeawaysRebuilding often requires quiet seasons and emotional regulation.It's okay to not have everything figured out and to take time for yourself.Trust in your ability to rebuild and trust the process.

In this episode, Nikki explores the importance of vulnerability and the necessity of asking for what you want, particularly in the context of parenting. She shares personal experiences emphasizing the need to break free from societal conditioning that discourages assertiveness, especially in women. The conversation encourages listeners to practice asking for their needs and desires, highlighting the emotional and psychological benefits of doing so. Join us!

What happens when healing brings you back to the place that shaped you?In this episode of Hello Me, It’s Me, Vulnerable AF, Nikki D. Lovely sits down with Nicole to talk about what it really means to return home during a season of rebuilding. Together, they explore vulnerability, healing in real time, and the complicated emotions that surface when you’re navigating family dynamics, cultural expectations, and generational trauma, all under one roof.This conversation isn’t about having it all figured out. It’s about learning to set boundaries, advocate for yourself, and choose rest in a world that rewards burnout. Nikki and Nicole reflect on the lessons this season has taught them and why healing doesn’t erase triggers, it changes how you meet them.At its heart, this episode asks an honest question:How do you keep growing when healing leads you back home?

In this episode, Nikki discusses the complexities of independence for women, particularly in the context of dating and relationships. She reflects on her personal experiences and the societal pressures that influence women's choices. The conversation explores the emotional toll of being independent, the challenges of dating in today's economy, and the importance of knowing one's values and not settling for less in relationships. Nikki emphasizes the need for support and partnership while navigating these challenges, encouraging listeners to ask the right questions and prioritize their emotional well-being.

Healing doesn’t mean you stop getting triggered.It means you stop abandoning yourself when it happens.This episode is a year-end reflection on what we’re leaving in 2025 and what we’re intentionally carrying into 2026. We’re talking about healed reactions versus old patterns, emotional awareness, and how growth shows up when life still life’s.Healing is about recognizing, taking responsibility, and choosing differently than you have in the past. The question we begin with and leave you with is simple but honest:What are you leaving behind in 2025, and changing about yourself into the new year?

In this episode, Nikki shares her journey of temporarily moving back in with her parents, reflecting on personal growth, family dynamics, and the challenges of managing debt. She discusses the importance of healing, forgiveness, and the lessons learned about pride and peace, while also emphasizing the need for self-reflection while navigating life's challenges. Join us if you know the feeling!

In this episode, Nikki shares her personal struggles with moving, self-compassion, and the emotional challenges that arise during transitions. She reflects on her past decisions, the importance of giving oneself grace, and the lessons learned from her experiences. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-reflection, understanding emotions, and the journey of personal growth.

Join us as we discuss the journey from avoidant and anxious attachment styles to achieving a secure and healthy mindset. My guest, Nicole Yvette, shares her experiences with social media detox, the impact of algorithms on self-perception, and the importance of self-reflection and therapy. Together, we unpack the challenges of dating, why I needed 5 years of celibacy, the significance of vulnerability, and the power of healing. If you're suffering from emotional unavailability, this is an insightful conversation you won't want to miss.

In this soul-stirring conversation, Nikki and ShebaSpeaksVolumes unpack the quiet heartbreak of transactional friendships, the ache of abandonment, and the power of choosing yourself. They reflect on how friendships evolve, how self-worth shifts with healing, and why it's okay to outgrow what no longer fits. This episode is a tender reminder: don’t just show up for others, show up for you, too.

Nikki shares her journey of navigating life's unexpected turns, managing expectations, and the importance of healing and self-discovery. She emphasizes that it's never too late to pursue new dreams and encourages listeners to relinquish old expectations while setting new goals. Through her reflections, she highlights the significance of self-awareness, the healing process, and the power of resilience in overcoming life's challenges.

Are you a single parent? This week, Nikki reflects on her journey as a single mother, balancing her dreams and aspirations. The conversation delves into the importance of being present, financial struggles, and the significance of breaking generational cycles through therapy and open communication. Ultimately, Nikki emphasizes the value of embracing the journey of motherhood and self-discovery, encouraging listeners to prioritize presence over perfection in their parenting.

In this episode, Nikki and Nickole discuss the complexities of dating as single parents, mainly focusing on celibacy and abstinence. They explore personal experiences, the importance of vetting partners, and the cultural pressures surrounding relationships. They explore the themes of celibacy, dating, and self-discovery, recognizing red flags in dating and the necessity of healing from past relationships. Join Us as we highlight the emotional complexities involved in dating and the transformative power of self-reflection and intentional healing.

In this episode, we explore vulnerability, emotional intelligence, and personal growth. Nikki shares her journey of becoming more emotionally in tune, discussing the importance of self-awareness, empathy, and setting boundaries in relationships with an emphasis on healing from past traumas and the impact of celibacy on her dating experiences. If you'd like to improve your emotional intelligence and engage in self-reflection for healthier relationships, this podcast is for you!.

In this engaging conversation, Nickole Evette and Nikki discuss the complexities of dating as single mothers. They explore the shifting priorities that come with age, the challenges of online dating, and the importance of empathy and shared experiences in relationships. The discussion also delves into attachment styles, the impact of past traumas on current dating experiences, and the necessity of effective communication in navigating conflicts ultimately, emphasizing the importance of self-love and healing for successful dating and relationships.

 Love Bombed or Love Bomber? This week, Nikki explores the concept of love bombing, sharing personal experiences and insights on how to recognize and deal with it. This week we discuss the dynamics of love bombing, the psychological reasons behind it, and the importance of setting boundaries in relationships. We also address the need for self-awareness and reflection, therapy and attachment styles awareness to avoid falling victim to love bombing in the future.

Have you been ghosted recently? Nikki discusses the importance of healing, understanding attachment styles, and setting boundaries while navigating new relationships. Through personal anecdotes, she highlights the challenges of comparing new partners to past experiences, particularly those involving love bombing. The conversation emphasizes the need for genuine connections and the significance of self-reflection in dating. She also emphasizes the need for self-awareness, setting boundaries, and the significance of vulnerability in building healthy relationships. 00:00 Understanding Ghosting and Discarding 02:53 Healing and Preparing to Date Again 05:48 Navigating the Dating Scene Post-Ghosting 09:10 First Date Experiences and Expectations 12:02 Attachment Styles and Their Impact on Dating 14:50 Setting Boundaries and Managing Expectations 18:09 The Importance of Genuine Connections 21:04 Reflections on Dating and Future Plans 28:34 Navigating Anxious Attachment in Dating 34:58 Understanding Attachment Styles 42:57 The Dynamics of Anxious and Avoidant Relationships 49:45 Strategies for Managing Anxious Attachment 54:57 Reflections on Dating and Emotional Availability

Have you just been ghosted? Well, Nikki shares her recent ghosted again dating experience and then discusses avoidant discard, emotional unavailability and the signs of love bombing. As a former avoidant, join this episode as Nikki emphasizes the need for vulnerability and communication while navigating modern dating, while also reflecting on the impact of ghosting, and the lessons learned about healthy attachment versus trauma bonding. If you're trying to heal from an avoidant who discarded or ghosted you, it's an episode you won't want to miss!

In this episode, Nikki talks about her move to a new house from Louisiana to California, her latest endeavors, and her most recent experiences with dating in LA. Nikki also discusses the importance of taking time for oneself, following dreams, and embracing change. life update, move, new show, dating, self-reflection, dreams, change Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Life Updates 04:22 The Challenges of Dating 06:17 Embracing Change and Growth 09:10 Following Dreams and Setting Goals 12:57 Taking Time for Self-Reflection 15:23 Expressing Gratitude and Looking Ahead

In this episode Nikki shares her thoughts and experiences as she prepares to move from Louisiana back to California. Reflecting on her journey as a single mother, Nikki discusses the challenges of relying on herself without a support system. She delves into her desires for companionship and partnership, acknowledging her readiness for a fulfilling relationship. Through anecdotes and personal insights, Nikki explores themes of self-awareness, growth, and the importance of doing the inner work before seeking external fulfillment. As she anticipates her move to LA and the prospect of dating again, Nikki embraces the lessons learned and looks forward to the future with optimism and self-assurance. Come along for the journey!

Nikki shares her personal experiences with postpartum depression and the importance of facing oneself after a run-in with someone at the hairdresser who broke down they were struggling with being both a good mother and wife. In this episode, she emphasizes the need to embrace vulnerability and share one's story as a way to help others. Nikki tries to be open and vulnerable, encouraging listeners to stop hiding from themselves and find strength in their struggles so they can do the same. Takeaways Postpartum depression is a common and often misunderstood condition that many women experience. Facing oneself and being vulnerable is essential for personal growth and healing. Sharing one's story can help others going through similar struggles. 00:00 Introduction and Background 03:01 Facing Postpartum Depression 06:05 The Importance of Facing Yourself 07:56 Embracing Vulnerability and Sharing Your Story 09:27 The Purpose of the Podcast 10:21 Conclusion and Encouragement

In this episode, Nikki explores the challenges and rewards of vulnerability. She reflects on her journey of opening up and sharing her stories, acknowledging the pain and fear that come with being vulnerable. Nikki discusses how dating experiences have taught her valuable lessons about herself and the importance of self-love. She emphasizes the need to have conversations with oneself, asking deep questions to gain self-awareness. Nikki shares her realization that personal growth requires facing fears and embracing one's own story. She encourages listeners to explore the why behind their actions and appreciate their journey. Takeaways Being vulnerable is challenging but can lead to personal growth and self-discovery. Dating experiences can provide valuable insights into oneself and relationships. Self-love is essential for being vulnerable and forming healthy connections with others. Having conversations with oneself and asking deep questions can lead to self-awareness and personal development. Embracing personal growth requires facing fears and owning one's story. Chapters: 00:00 The Challenge of Vulnerability 02:22 Learning Through Dating 05:21 Being Vulnerable with Oneself 08:36 The Importance of Self-Love 11:50 Embracing Personal Growth 13:18 The Power of Self-Reflection 16:07 Finding Inner Strength 18:03 Owning Your Story 19:45 Asking the Why 20:44 Appreciating the Listener

In this episode, we embrace change. Facing the daunting challenge of a major move, Nikki confronts her anxieties and discovers a powerful truth: discomfort is not just inevitable, it's necessary for growth. In this heartwarming and enlightening conversation, we explore how facing our fears can lead to extraordinary personal development. Nikki shares her story of how the unease of change pushes her to make bold decisions, ultimately leading to newfound strength and confidence. 🔹 Key Highlights: Nikki's initial struggles with the idea of moving The pivotal moment of realization: discomfort as a catalyst for change Practical tips for coping with change and anxiety How embracing discomfort can unlock new opportunities and personal growth 🔹 Why Listen: If you're facing a crossroads in life, feeling the weight of change, or simply seeking inspiration to step out of your comfort zone, this episode is a must-listen. Nikki's story is a testament to the power of embracing the unknown and finding joy in the journey of personal transformation. 🔹 Subscribe and Share: Don't forget to subscribe for more inspiring stories and practical advice on personal development. Share this episode with anyone who might find strength and inspiration in change.

The episode takes an introspective turn as Nikki emphasizes how her past abuse has led her to cherish every moment now. She engages in a candid conversation about the mental and physical toll of abuse, stressing the need for open dialogue on these often-taboo subjects. Interestingly, the episode was recorded before Nikki's TikTok video on Cassie and P Diddy went semi-viral, highlighting the need for more abuse awareness & conversation. Nikki encourages listeners, especially women who have endured similar traumas, to embrace their past while forging a path of healing and empowerment. She stresses the importance of not dwelling on lost time but rather using one's experiences as a catalyst for growth and change. This episode is not just a personal narrative but a call to action for greater awareness and support for survivors of abuse. Want to leave me a voice message to include in my next video or podcast? Follow this link: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/nikkidlovely/message

In this thought-provoking episode, join Nikki as she embarks on a soul-searching road trip to Texas. Amidst the hum of the highway, Nikki delves deep into the realms of emotional availability. She confronts a pivotal question: Is she truly as emotionally open as she believes? Throughout the journey, Nikki introspectively examines her past interactions, pondering whether she's been unjustly blaming others or if it's time for self-reflection. While the sound quality bears the marks of her on-the-road setting, the episode's raw and honest content makes it a must-listen. This candid conversation marks a significant turning point, offering listeners a chance to reflect on their own emotional journeys alongside Nikki's. Join her as she navigates the complex highways of the heart, seeking truth and clarity in the vastness of Texas.

Nikki goes to visit her best friend, spiritual advisor and Pastor Enji Banks. They breakdown the fact that dating has become a distraction from goals that need to be achieved which brings them to the question, why are we dating? If you are at a place where you realize you're just using dating to waste time and have other things you should probably be focused on instead, this podcast is for you!

Nikki invites her married brother back to talk about a recent date with a Pastor. Her brother, who hasn't dated since before the Apple iPhone came out can't relate. It's a hilarious take you won't want to miss.

Nikki invites her married brother on for a special 'sibling session' where they discuss her dating life, the recent ghost from previous episodes, and some tips to get over ghosting in general. It's a hilarious and fun-filled reunion that offers Nikki a male perspective.

Nikki speaks on how much it sucks to be back in the dating pool but how necessary it is to get back out and date again after learning from her mistakes. What are some things she'll be doing differently now that she's in infested waters again and what does a steak, potato, and a can of peas have to do with all her newfound dating revelations? Tune in to find out!

Nikki breaks down in this episode and discusses some old trauma. Although she was able to walk away, some scars will always remain. Another vulnerable AF episode awaits with a confession she's never shared with the world...

Nikki goes on a spontaneous trip to visit her grandmothers and best friend and learns there is power and not having to plan everything, but to go with the flow.

Need to heal from a broken heart? Nikki dives into how she was able to mend her broken heart in 30 days after being ghosted. This episode she goes into the importance of watching and helping her friends go through heartbreak before her, the Blue Baby Seal method, and tips she took away from rereading her own book, No F*** Boys Allowed.

Nikki goes over what she's discovered about herself after reading the book, No More Mr. Nice Guy (a book written for men). Has she been too nice her whole life and in her previous dating experiences? Is being too nice, really about being nice, or are their ulterior motives?

Nikki discusses how grateful she is to be where she is and how showing gratitude for what she has helps her relinquish control of the things she cannot. She also touches on what it's been like moving from (big city) LA to (small town) LA and how that too has helped her in the growth process more than she could ever imagine!

Nikki touches on the reason she kept her dog, and dives into wanting to be seen in past relationships and potential abandonment issues. She also touches on the guy who inspired the book, No F*** Boys Allowed and breaks down why she thinks she tries too hard to make relationships work with people who aren't it for her. *This is a very emotional episode - join her on her spiritual journey!

Nikki tries to be more vulnerable and transparent. This episode she takes a look at the last two relationships she'd tried to form since starting back dating after 5 years of celibacy and writing the book, 'No F*** Boys Allowed." As she reflects on why the relationships didn't work out and how hard dating is these days, she realizes that the only thing she has control over is herself - so why not focus on that for now? Join the episode then give us your take at the end!

In this episode, Nikki dives deep and addresses dating after being single AND abstinent for five years, the effects of her current breakup, people pleasing, and the need to be vulnerable with the person you're dating, and being strong enough to let things go. Whew! It's a lot, but it's another episode of raw & real emotions you won't want to miss.

In this episode Nikki addresses her fear of ghosting and other childhood insecurities, dating with an open heart, letting go of control, and functioning depression! Whew! That's a lot, but it's definitely an episode you won't want to miss. Join in.

My deepest secrets and advice - spoken from me - to me (but shared with the world). In this episode we discuss how I've learned I'm an anxious dater, particularly around avoidants, and what stepping out onto the dating scene after 5 years of celibacy is teaching me. The final advice from me to me: Let things be! Join me to see how I get there!