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Honey, We Need to Chat
by Honey, We Need to Chat
Honey, We Need to Chat is the podcast for couples who want to fight less, connect more, and actually enjoy talking again.We’re Amy and Blair, a real-life couple sharing honest conversations, relatable stories, and practical tools to help you navigate conflict, deepen communication, and build a relationship that feels good, not just looks good.We dive into wild Reddit threads, expert interviews, real-life coaching, and hard-earned lessons, offering fresh insights and actionable steps you can use today! Because when communication dies, bad things happen. So... let’s chat!
Episodes
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77. Season of Transition: Our Big Life Update + Future Pacing Exercise for Clarity
Big personal update from us this week, Amy has just landed a full-time coaching role and the whole family rhythm is about to shift. In this episode we share how it all came together (it's a good story), what it means for the podcast, and how we're preparing as a couple for a season of significant...
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76. How to Show Up in Your Relationship When You Don’t Feel Like It (Survival Seasons Explained)
This week on Honey, We Need to Chat, we almost didn’t record. After a chaotic week of sickness, exhaustion, and zero preparation, we found ourselves asking a question that every couple faces at some point: How do you show up in your relationship when you don’t feel like you can? In this episode…
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75: "Are You Okay?" Why That Question Backfires & What To Say Instead
Does this sound familiar? You can tell something's off with your partner. You ask "are you okay?" They say "I'm fine." You ask again. They snap. You spiral. They shut down completely. In this episode of Honey, Need a Chat, Amy and Blair get into one of the most common, and quietly damaging,...
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THROWBACK: The Mental Load: Why One Partner Is Always Exhausted (And What To Do About It)
The mental load is real, invisible, and quietly exhausting. Amy and Blair break down what it is, why it's so hard to see, and how to finally talk about it. Today we're throwing it back to our most popular episode: Ever feel like you're managing your entire household inside your head, and your...
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74. Stop Trying to Be the Perfect Partner: Perfectionism, Family Pressure & Relationship Stress
Have you ever planned the perfect family weekend, date night, holiday, or special moment, only to end up stressed, snappy, and feeling like you ruined it? In this episode, we explore perfectionism in relationships, emotional pressure, family expectations, parenting stress, disappointment, and the...
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73. The Pre-Marriage Conversations Nobody Warns You About | Pre-Marital Coaching
What questions should every couple answer before getting married? Blair & Amy break down 13 marriage therapist-identified topics across 4 blocks: money & roles, communication, family & in-laws, and intimacy. This is your premarital coaching session. FULL DESCRIPTION: Not premarital counseling,...
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72. Marriage Hot Takes: What You Must Talk About Before You Get Married (Communication, Compatibility, Boundaries)
If you’re planning a wedding, engaged, newly married, or 10 years in, this episode is for you. We’re reacting to marriage hot takes and the stuff people wish they’d talked about before the big day. Not flowers. Not seating charts. The real topics: communication, compatibility, family dynamics,...
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71. “I Love You… But I Don't Like Your Friends": Tips & Reddit Stories
Ever loved your partner… but couldn’t stand their friends? In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we unpack the messy reality of when your partner’s friendship group becomes a relationship problem and why it’s never as simple as “just cut them off”. We talk about the hidden layers: identity,...
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70. The Social Load: When One Partner Withdraws
We’ve talked about the mental load — but today we’re diving into another hidden pressure in relationships: the social load. The social load includes the practical work of managing friendships, invitations, kids’ social calendars and family events… and the in-the-moment strain when one partner...
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69. We Took a Break. Here’s Why, and How to Know When You Need One Too
Season 3 is here and we’re coming in honest! Chatting all about the last few months, burnout, life pressure, and a full maintenance phase. In this episode, we share: Why we took a break (and how to know when you need one too) What “survival mode” does to connection and communication A simple…
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68. UPDATE EPISODE - Why We’re Taking a Break | Balancing Burnout, Family & Creative Dreams
We’re alive 😅 promise. In this update episode, we’re sharing an honest update on life behind the scenes of Honey We Need to Chat podcast: burnout, balance, and big changes ahead. Between raising four kids, working in the not-for-profit world, and creating content we deeply believe in, we hit a...
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67: The #1 Predictor of Health: Tiny Repairs That Make Relationships Last (Harvard Happiness Study)
The #1 Predictor of Health: Tiny Repairs That Make Relationships Last (Harvard Happiness Study) We’re calling out the “funny” partner-bashing that social media rewards and replacing it with real repair. Backed by the Harvard Happiness Study and other research on wellbeing, we show why…
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66. How to Reignite the Spark in Your Relationship | Fresh Honeymoon Vibes at Home
Ever wondered why your relationship felt so exciting at the start, and how to bring some of that back now? In this episode of Honey We Need to Chat, Amy and Blair dive into the science of attraction (dopamine vs. oxytocin), why the honeymoon phase fades, and, most importantly, how to reignite the...
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65. How to Raise Issues in a Relationship Without Arguing | Reddit Stories & Real Coaching Tools
Your partner does something that bothers you… do you bring it up and risk an argument, or stay quiet and let it simmer? In this episode, we break down real Reddit relationship stories and give you practical tools to raise concerns without wrecking the moment.What we cover:- Baby talk, mismatched...
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64: How to Stop Fighting With Your Partner: The One Skill That Changes Everything
This isn’t just theory, it’s practical coaching you can apply in your next hard conversation. Are you stuck in the same arguments with your partner? This episode of Honey, We Need to Chat reveals how one underrated skill, curiosity, can help you stop fighting and start connecting. Amy walks…
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63. The Fatherhood Gap: How Supporting Dads Strengthens Families with Tom & Kate Docking
Becoming a parent can be an incredibly isolating experience, not just for mums, but for dads too. And yet, dads are often left out of the perinatal conversation. In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, Amy and Blair sit down with Tom and Kate Docking, founders of Dad’s Group and Man with a…
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62. Would You Want to Be Married to Yourself? How Self-Awareness Changes Relationships
If you were married to yourself, would it be a healthy, life-giving relationship, or a hard one? In this Relationship Reset Mini Series- episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, Amy and Blair ask the confronting but transformative question: What’s it like to be in a relationship with me? We dive into...
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61. How to Make Relationship Goals REALLY Stick | Why Big Promises Fail & What Actually Works
Ever made a New Year’s resolution, only to fall back into old habits by week two? The same thing happens in relationships, we set huge goals, dream of date nights every week, and promise big changes… but nothing sticks.In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we’re breaking down why…
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60. How to Like Your Partner Again | Resetting the Culture of Your Relationship
Ever caught yourself thinking, “I just don’t like my partner right now”? You’re not alone, and it doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. In this episode we unpack why couples lose the “like” factor, how it’s different from love, and practical ways to bring back the fun, curiosity, and…
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59: How to Build Trust in Your Relationship Through Accountability & Integrity
Real love ONLY works when both people are owning their stuff. If you’re tired of carrying the emotional load, walking on eggshells, or repeating the same arguments, this episode is for you. In this raw and practical conversation, Amy and Blair unpack what accountability and integrity actually…
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RE-RELEASE 3: Why Are So Many People Getting This Wrong? | Mental Load, Gaming Addictions & Shut-Down Partners
Welcome to our REWOUND RE-RELEASE Bonus Series. These are our TOP episodes ever, so we're bringing them back as bonus video episodes. In one of our most-downloaded conversations, we dive into the heart of what’s really going wrong in so many relationships: uneven emotional labour, avoidant...
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RE-RELEASE 2: Why Won’t You Talk to Me? | Understanding Stonewalling, Avoidance & Emotional Shutdowns in Relationships
Welcome to our REWOUND RE-RELEASE Bonus Series. These are our TOP episodes ever, so we're bringing them back as bonus video episodes. Does your partner shut down during conflict? Do conversations feel like hitting a brick wall, no matter how hard you try? You're not alone — and it's not hopeless....
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RE-RELEASE 1: Thought I Was Helping! Why Strong Couples Still Miss the Mental Load
Welcome to our REWOUND RE-RELEASE Bonus Series. These are our TOP episodes ever, so we're bringing them back as bonus video episodes. Ever thought, "But I am helping!" — and still ended up in a fight? This episode is for every couple who’s ever tripped over the invisible burden of mental load. In...
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58: How to Future-Proof Your Relationship (Before the Cracks Break You)
Struggling with miscommunication, built-up resentment, or avoided conversations in your relationship? In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, Amy and Blair unpack what it really means to future-proof your relationship, before emotional triggers, sarcasm, or misaligned expectations quietly wear...
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57. Oops, That Came Out Wrong | Repairing Hurtful Comments in Relationships. Reddit Stories
Ever blurted something out and instantly regretted it? Whether it's sarcasm, body image comments, or unspoken assumptions, clumsy conversations happen in every relationship. In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, Amy and Blair dive into the messy aftermath of words that land wrong, even when...
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56. Why Can't I Just Say It Right? How to Fix Clumsy Communication in Your Relationship
Ever find yourself saying, "That's not what I meant!" after a conversation spirals out of control? Or maybe your partner’s words always seem to come out wrong, sparking frustration instead of connection. In this practical episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we're tackling how to overcome clumsy...
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55. How to Navigate Painful Conversations in Relationships
Struggling with blunt comments, sarcastic jabs, or misunderstood intentions in your relationship? This episode of Honey, We Need to Chat cuts straight to practical tools and honest insights to decode hidden messages, manage emotional triggers, and navigate tough conversations effectively. Break...
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54: Mental Load from the Other Side: What the “Receiver” is Really Thinking | REDDIT STORIES
In this eye-opening episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, Amy and Blair dive deep into the other side of the mental load conversation, exploring what it might feel like to be the partner on the receiving end, from real life stories. Are they really ignoring the invisible labour… or just overwhelmed…
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53. When Mental Load Leads to a Stand-Off | How to Move Forward When Your Partner Shuts Down
You finally brought up the mental load. You found the words. You mustered the courage. And then… nothing. Maybe they shut down. Maybe they pushed back. Maybe the conversation just fell flat. In this powerful follow-up to our original Mental Load episode, we unpack what happens when that invisible...
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52: The Silent Thing Ruining Your Relationship: Unbearable Feelings and What to Do About Them
What’s the feeling you can’t even name, let alone share? In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we’re diving deep into the emotional undercurrents that silently shape our reactions, create disconnection, and quietly erode intimacy. We explore the concept of unbearable feelings, those...
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51: Why You Keep Missing Each Other in Conflict (and How to Change It) with Sam & Liv Ramsden from Silly Stories for Kids
Ever feel like you're speaking two different languages in your marriage? Or wonder why your partner shuts down when you bring something up? We sat down with Sam and Liv Ramsden (aka Mr. & Mrs. Silly Stories for Kids) to explore what really goes on under the surface when we miss each other in...
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50: Unspoken Contracts in Relationships: How Hidden Rules Create Disconnection & Resentment
In this revealing episode, we dive into the powerful concept of unspoken contracts - the invisible rules and assumptions quietly shaping your relationship. From mental load to emotional shutdown, financial habits to intimacy dynamics, we’ll help you uncover the hidden systems that might be…
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49. Scorekeeping in Relationships: How to Stop Tallying and Start Connecting | REDDIT STORIES
Welcome to Honey, We Need to Chat, where we dig deep into the real struggles couples face, from silent resentment to those tricky conversations that can make or break a relationship. In this episode, we uncover the hidden habit of scorekeeping in relationships, what it is, why it happens, and how...
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48. What’s Driving You? Understanding the 6 Core Needs Behind Your Relationship Patterns
Ever wonder why you react the way you do in conflict, or why certain habits feel impossible to break? In this episode, Blair gets coached live by Amy using the “Six Core Human Needs” framework to explore what truly drives our behaviour in relationships. From control issues to chasing dopamine…
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47. Unmet Needs in Relationships: Why You’re Arguing About the Wrong Thing | REDDIT STORIES
Why do the smallest things trigger the biggest arguments? In this episode, we unpack the sneaky, subtle unmet needs that quietly shape our relationship dynamics, often without us realising it. From rejected dinners to phone use tensions and dead bedrooms, we explore real Reddit stories that show...
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46. Why We Pull Away (or Cling Closer): Attachment Styles in Real-Life Relationships | Chit-Chat
Feel like you and your partner keep missing each other emotionally? Do you shut down when things get tense or over-explain to get back on the same page? In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we unpack how attachment styles shape the way couples communicate, fight, and try to reconnect. We...
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45. Getting on the Same Financial Page as a Couple | Money and Marriage with Phil and Kate Thompson
Money stress can quietly erode trust in a relationship, but it doesn't have to. In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we sit down with our friends Phil and Kate Thompson to share real-life lessons about navigating finances as a team. From starting marriage with nothing to building a business...
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44: How the Silent Treatment Damages Relationships (and What to Do Instead) | REDDIT STORIES
The silent treatment might seem like a quiet moment to cool off—but we’ve seen how it can loudly erode trust, create emotional distance, and chip away at connection over time. In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we’re diving into the real cost of the silent treatment in relationships. We...
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43: Chit-Chat: Burnout in Relationships: How to Recognise the Signs & Support Each Other Through It
In this raw and honest episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we dive into one of the most misunderstood yet widespread relationship challenges, burnout. Whether you’re the one feeling physically, emotionally, or mentally drained, or you're supporting a partner through exhaustion, this episode will...
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42: Talking About Marriage While in the Thick of it: A Candid Conversation with Andrew & Kayte Kitchen
This powerful episode of Honey, We Need to Chat welcomes Andrew and Kayte Kitchen (creatives, therapists, and real-life warriors) into a vulnerable and deeply encouraging conversation. What makes this episode especially moving is that they didn’t wait until things were resolved to speak. Andrew…
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41: Apart But Still Chit-Chatting: What Happens When Couples Reflect Separately?
This episode is a little different — we weren’t in the same place when we recorded. With Blair away for work, we decided to try something new: answering all our questions separately… without hearing each other’s responses first. 👀 What followed was fun, real, and surprisingly deep. We shared…
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40. How to Stay Emotionally Connected While Raising Kids: Real Talk From Real Couples | REDDIT STORIES
In this milestone episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we celebrate one year of their podcast by diving deep into a raw and real conversation about navigating relationships through the chaos of parenting. From real-life Reddit stories to our own experiences, we unpack: The parenting-relationship...
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39. Chit-Chat: The Truth About Love Languages: Why They're Misunderstood & What to Do Instead
🎙️ Feeling frustrated that your partner "should know" how to love you? Think love languages are the answer — but still feel disconnected? In this powerful episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we dive deep into how love languages are misunderstood, overused, and sometimes misused — and why...
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38. Rethinking Sex, Intimacy & Emotional Connection with Sheila & Keith Gregoire
In this powerful episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we sit down with bestselling authors Sheila and Keith Gregoire to discuss why traditional views on intimacy may be hurting your relationship more than helping. 🔥 What you'll learn in this episode: ✅ Why prioritising sex might be the wrong...
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5. Toxic Phone Habits, Compassion Fatigue & Relationship Challenges | Reddit Reactions
What happens when you discover something unexpected on your partner’s phone? We’re diving into Reddit relationship dramas, covering phone privacy, trust issues, and job loss struggles. We also explore compassion fatigue in relationships—how to support your partner without burning out. Plus, we...
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Bonus Ep. 27: Feeling Unappreciated REDDIT
Join us for an extra Reddit Story all about not feeling appreciated!
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37. Feeling Unappreciated? REDDIT STORIES
We’ve talked about the mental load before, but what about the emotional load? That invisible, often unspoken burden that one partner silently carries in a relationship? In today’s episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we’re diving into real REDDIT STORIES that expose the struggles of feeling...
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Bonus Ep. 26: Emotional Load
Join us as we dive deep into Emotional Load in relationships.
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36. Chit-Chat: The Emotional Load in Relationships: Why You’re Carrying More Than You Realise
You might be carrying a hidden weight in your relationship—and so might your partner. In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we dive into the invisible emotional load many people carry without realising it. From managing conflicts, anticipating needs, and diffusing tension to remembering...
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Bonus 25 - Communication Loops
Join us this week as we dive into our first ever Reality Check Corner of the HWNTC podcast. This wee we're chatting all about communication loops you may find yourself stuck in in your relationship.
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Honey, We Need to Chat is the podcast for couples who want to fight less, connect more, and actually enjoy talking again.We’re Amy and Blair, a real-life couple sharing honest conversations, relatable stories, and practical tools to help you navigate conflict, deepen communication, and build a relationship that feels good, not just looks good.We dive into wild Reddit threads, expert interviews, real-life coaching, and hard-earned lessons, offering fresh insights and actionable steps you can use today! Because when communication dies, bad things happen. So... let’s chat!
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