How She Really Does It
by Koren Motekaitis
How She Really Does It, is a place for you to learn how to create the life you want. It is the place where inspiration + possibility meet.Here you can create your life, your way in a REAL way that fits you, where you belong.This show is a place for you to learn, grow, create and tweak your life. The show is a place to see the glimmer of possibilities from other people's experiences and/or research.
Episodes
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When the Milestone Isn't Your Age
We're taught that birthdays only count when they're culturally considered milestones. Forty. Fifty. Fifty-five. Sixty. Anything in between, you are supposed to let quietly pass. This year, at fifty-four, I did something different. Not because of my age, but because of who I am becoming. And it...
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We're Back Together Again
Twenty-one years ago, Trudi Roth stood on my lawn + told me I needed to write a book. I didn't write the book. I started this show instead. Trudi + I have been friends through all of it. Raising kids. Building businesses. Supporting our spouses. There were seasons we were deep in our own worlds....
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Beginning Again: The Return
I'm back. After more than two years away, I'm returning to the podcast I've been hosting since 2006, and I'm not pretending the time away was tidy or planned. This episode is an honest look behind the curtain at what really happened, what kept me from returning sooner, and what I've learned about...
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The Pause
Last year, I found myself on a retreat utterly exhausted. I knew I was craving more space in my life and business. So in the fall, I started doing just that. I began shutting down certain lines of business while continuing to do high-quality work with my clients, and after 17 and a half years and...
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Being the Leader of Your Life: Owning Your Role
As a child, we had parents, teachers and other authoritative figures to lead the way. But as we make our move into adulthood, it can become difficult to step into leadership roles - in any aspect of our lives. In fact, this is a topic I discuss with my clients regularly. So I'd like to emphasize...
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Unlocking Connection: The Power of Vulnerability and Feedback
As a leadership coach, one of the things I do a lot of coaching on is communication. Communication can be scary and intimidating. Maybe it's something you think you should know how to do, but let me tell you, it's a learnable skill. In this episode, I share the story of one of my clients from a...
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Managing the Unknown: Face Your Fear and Anxiety Head-On
Sometimes, when you become so anxious about what's going to happen, you may start to under-function, allowing the unknown to manage you instead of managing it. This week, I'm discussing moving into the unknown, whether it involves performances, events, or waiting for a diagnoses. Tune in this…
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Expectations vs. Requirements: The Importance of Getting Clear
Are any of your expectations influenced by fear, shame, and magical thinking? These are called stealth expectations and they will go unnoticed until they resurface when challenges occur. It's crucial to be aware of them and to know how to recognize if you have stealth expectations. In this…
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You Don't Need a Re-do: Learning from the Present
How amazing would it be to go back in time and change the way you did things? Recently, during multiple sessions with clients, the topic of how wonderful it would be to be a freshman in college again came up. It made me think about the fantasy of going back in time with the knowledge that we have...
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How to Thrive During Life's Unexpected Challenges
Loss, empty nesting, challenges at work - these are obstacles we didn't picture when we thought of adulthood, and sometimes, we want to avoid them. In today's episode, I talk about how vulnerability is part of life and how to overcome the heartache and obstacles that we encounter. Tune in this…
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Radiant Rebellion A Guide to Empowerment, Gratitude and Joyful Living with Karen Walrond
I am thrilled to welcome Karen Walrond back to the show this week. She has recently published the book Radiant Rebellion: Reclaim Aging, Practice Joy, and Raise a Little Hell and is here to share how the process of writing it allowed her to see things she hadn't seen before. Tune in to learn more...
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Embracing Authenticity: Navigating Life's Unexpected Emotions
Sometimes emotions come unexpectedly and surprise us. When they do, it can be tempting to run away from them and keep ourselves busy with work or seek artificial happiness. This week, I talk about emotions and authenticity, a topic that has become more personal to me due to an unexpected loss. I...
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Vulnerability in Leadership: Navigating the Feedback Journey
Whether it's at home or in the workplace, we are all leading different aspects of our lives. One of the responsibilities of a leader is to provide feedback, which takes a lot of courage and is very vulnerable. This week, discover how to lead, coach, and provide feedback with effectiveness,...
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Grow Your Self-Awareness: Being
Are you self-aware of your own being? In this episode, I discuss how to become self-aware of your being and I explore two questions and skill sets that have helped me make a significant change in my life. Join me this week to discover which small steps you can start incorporating in your life to...
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Grow Your Self-Awareness: Emotions
While we are all emotional beings, some of us don't have a language for emotions or maybe we've been told that emotions are weak. One thing you can do to grow your self-awareness is to learn the language of emotions. Emotions are not a weakness. They communicate what is going on inside yourself...
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Grow Your Self-Awareness: Mindset
Our beliefs guide us into thinking in a way that is not necessarily aligned with our true mindset. They can also make us do what we think we're supposed to do, rather than what we truly want. Discover how to be aware of the things you say to yourself and identify your limiting beliefs. Learn how...
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Being your best self every day
As the new year approaches, there's a lot of talk about being your best self for 2024. While the definition varies from one person to another, something high achievers all have in common is setting unrealistic standards for what it means to be our best selves. This week, I discuss what being your...
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How to decide what can & can't be dropped
What in your life can be dropped, whether it's for the time being or completely? I'm giving personal examples of things that were no longer relevant that I kept on doing because I'd always done them and what happened when I let go of them. Discover how to recognize the things that you don't need…
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Taking care of yourself this holiday season
During the holiday season, we try to do everything that is expected from us, but there is one important thing that we don't always take the time for: taking care of ourselves. This week, I give you examples of various ways you can take care of yourself during the holidays and discuss the…
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Unnecessary suffering in the thoughts we think
Our brains have the capacity to make up stories, and to create tragedies in which we are the main character. While some stories are happy, the thoughts we entertain can also contribute directly to the pain in our lives. This week, I encourage you to notice the stories your mind conjures up....
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I'm such a perfectionist
Do you ever get home from work and find yourself dwelling on the one thing that went bad that day rather than celebrating the many good things you achieved? This week, I look at how perfectionism affects our lives by getting in the way of personal growth. Discover how to let go of the survival…
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The Holiday Season
Our idea of the perfect holiday season can be guided by our cultural surroundings or by the happiness of our family or spouses. We want to make things perfect for everyone, but how can you keep giving if you are exhausted? Discover how to allow yourself to breathe, to fill yourself up in a way…
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Unnecessary suffering in the choices you make
I have never enjoyed cold weather. Yet, for a long time, I put myself in a situation that didn't make my life more enjoyable during that season: I didn't turn on the heat. My friends, this week I invite you to look at the choices you've made and try to pinpoint what causes unnecessary suffering…
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Stop judging yourself
Why are our achievements overshadowed by our perception of the time taken to reach them? Too often, we judge ourselves or compare our journey to that of others before celebrating our victories. Tune in this week for some questions to ask yourself to break the pattern of self-judgment. Learn how…
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Coming to an end
Do you sometimes feel like you can't help but be bittersweet when things come to an end? Endings certainly come with a lot of mixed and competing feelings. This week, discover how to let go and embrace the new things that enter your life after others leave it. I'll share my personal experiences...
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The vulnerability of relationships
Communication in relationships can sometimes feel murky. This week, we emphasize the significance of honest and vulnerable communication. Discover the value of building connections and techniques for communicating with kindness. Understand why embracing vulnerability, though challenging at times,...
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The obstacles of receiving
Have you ever offered a compliment only to have it shrugged off or downplayed? Or perhaps you've found it challenging to truly accept a compliment yourself? In this episode, we'll explore the factors that may prevent us from fully embracing a compliment, whether it's the discomfort of feeling…
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7 Lessons on the 17th Anniversary of How She Really Does It (Part 2)
Welcome back to the celebration of 17 years of How She Really Does It! This week, tune in to discover four more practices and mindsets that will help you conquer your desires and live your dream life. Learn how to identify what you want and the steps necessary to move into your next level of…
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7 Lessons on the 17th Anniversary of How She Really Does It (Part 1)
To celebrate the 17th anniversary of this podcast, I'm reflecting on how far I've come and sharing 7 lessons that I've learned along the way. This week, discover 3 important lessons to get started on your true desires in life and business. Learn why support, starting small, and being vulnerable…
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Intrinsic + Extrinsic Motivation
Do you know your why? What is it that keeps you striving? In this episode, discover the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, how these motivations develop over time, and why it matters. You'll learn how to play the long game and start developing intrinsic motivations that keep…
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From not enough to belonging: Stories from camp
I've confronted feelings of shame and not belonging many times in my life, but specifically in my days of summer camp. So this week, I'm sharing some stories from camp in which I grappled with feeling like I didn't belong, and how I found my own sense of belonging. Tune in and discover how to…
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How to lean into resistance
One of my superpowers lies in my ability to lean into resistance, and this week, I want to share a few stories from my recent Camp Reunion Trip where I had the opportunity to put this superpower into action. Discover tips for overcoming resistance, some ways to get to the bottom of your…
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When you know what to do and don't do it
Being an entrepreneur is no walk in the park. It takes many skills, commitments, and time for rest. Even then, you will experience challenges. However, these challenges can be some of your greatest lessons. Discover the big win that I experienced on a recent trip despite being exhausted and...
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Sobriety with Andrea Owen
I'm joined by author, global keynote speaker, and professional certified life coach, Andrea Owen. Andrea helps high-achieving women maximize their confidence and master resilience, and she's here this week to share her experience with drinking, addiction, sobriety, and recovery. Discover why...
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We don't all have the same 24 hours in a day
We are told that we all have the same 24-hour day. But the reality is more complicated than that. We all have different circumstances, support systems, and resources. Those successful people you admire have teams of invisible support systems behind the scenes. This week, I invite you to be honest...
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Invisible skillsets
The ability to understand emotions is often considered a weakness in corporate environments. But it is an invisible skillset and the scaffolding that bolsters your leadership. This week, I walk you through different types of invisible skillsets and explain how understanding soft skills can help…
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Unlock your leadership potential
Do you consider yourself a leader? I'm here to tell you that no matter what your title is at work or at home, you have huge leadership potential. Discover why you are already a leader and how to step into a new level of leadership. Learn the difference between domination and bravery, how to…
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Embracing parenting hardship
Parenting, a journey filled with both joys and hardships, presents itself as one of life's greatest challenges. Just when you start feeling confident and capable, new phases of growth emerge, bringing along fresh sets of hurdles. Tune in this week to discover methods of checking in with your...
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Other people's judgment
Part of our human experience is dealing with the judgments of others. Whether it's family members or someone at work, when we feel judged, it can trigger a slew of reactions. I invite you to STOP taking on the judgment of others, identify what is important to you, and dig in to how you want to be...
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Achieve BIG GOALS with Small Steps
If you're like me, you've got big audacious goals. But sometimes, your big goals might bring you down because they're overwhelming, abstract, and hard to know how to achieve. This week I share an essential method for achieving the big dreams of your life and business. By identifying the right...
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Stop asking these 2 questions
Do you ever find yourself asking, "what am I missing?" or "am I doing it right?" Most of us ask ourselves these questions from time to time. Well, this week, I invite you to look at the questions you pose as a tool to understand your emotional state. Discover why these are two questions all…
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Achieving your dreams
Are you hard on yourself? A perfectionist? Sometimes, we miss that we are already living our dreams because we are so busy with our heads down, moving on to whatever is next. This week, I unpack how we view achievements. Learn to own your story by celebrating wins and letting go of perfectionism....
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Birthday Learnings + Unlearnings
As your birthday approaches this year or next, how would you like to spend your day? With family, in solitude, with a big party, a delayed celebration a month late? There is no wrong answer; your birthday is for you. I share methods that I've been using to get clear about my birthday so that you...
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Inside our messy minds
Building the tool of self-awareness is essential for identifying strengths and moving through your thoughts. Re-framing the stories within your head takes time, ownership, and assistance. Today, I discuss the nature of our minds and messy internal landscapes. I share stories from my…
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Creating resilient cultures
This week, I share some stories of building resilient cultures. May you feel inspired by these stories to see what is possible in your own life, to cultivate resilient cultures wherever you show up in the world and within yourself. Get full show notes and more information here:...
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Making time for you
I unpack the importance of scheduling time for connecting with yourself and connecting with others, and finding the right balance. Find out why the little lessons and messages that come along the way are huge and worth listening to. I invite you to schedule unstructured time so you can discover...
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Vulnerable Talk: Creating Communication Rules
Cell phone, landline, text, WhatsApp, email, Zoom... the list goes on of how to reach out and connect. By clarifying our personal communication methods and tactics with others, we can encourage a more easeful experience without the communication fatigue. Learn how to create communication...
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What celebrating looks like
Wins come in all shapes and sizes: big goals to "yay me" moments. My clients are high-performers who are hard on themselves and unfortunately, this keeps them from celebrating their wins. Finding the time to honor and celebrate makes all the difference. I share my experience with a challenging…
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Why traveling to Europe as a family may not be ideal
Family travel can be hard to manage for many reasons. Your money mindset, scheduling time, and assumed parental obligations all impact your trip. Plus, our families don't always connect with our visions about vacation. This week, I share how I have handled our family vacations over the years.…
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Grant yourself permission to care deeply
As we build our ability to listen and treat ourselves well, we build momentum in all areas of life. This week, I share various methods and activities for caring for yourself. Caring deeply looks different for everyone. It can be spending time in nature, exploring, having a quiet moment with a…
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About this show
How She Really Does It, is a place for you to learn how to create the life you want. It is the place where inspiration + possibility meet.Here you can create your life, your way in a REAL way that fits you, where you belong.This show is a place for you to learn, grow, create and tweak your life. The show is a place to see the glimmer of possibilities from other people's experiences and/or research.
Hosted by
Koren Motekaitis
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