In The Mind Of Valerie

A couple of years ago, I said Valentine’s Day was pointless. I didn’t see the need for one “special” day to celebrate love. But with time, I realized something deeper, sometimes we block love not because we don’t believe in it, but because we’re afraid of being disappointed.In this episode, I talk about emotional walls, fear of expectations, and why we must stop robbing people of the opportunity to show us how much we mean to them. Love needs space. And sometimes, we have to learn how to receive it.

it’s my birthday🎉

Sometimes we think fragility makes us weak. But even a trembling voice, even the softest threads, can stitch broken places back together. This episode is a gentle reminder that your fragility is not something to hide it’s a gift that heals.

Sometimes the strongest faith isn’t loud it’s the quiet trust that refuses to let go. Join Valerie as she unpacks the difference between belief and faith, and the power of choosing trust in the silence.

In this raw reflection, we explore the freedom that comes with releasing the unspoken rules we hold over others, why we expect to be seen, heard, and loved in specific ways, and how those very expectations set us up for pain. Learn how to distinguish between mind-reading and genuine needs, how to ask boldly or let go quietly, and why the most peaceful relationships are those where you expect nothin but receive everything. If you’ve ever felt the ache of unmet hopes, this is your invitation to lay them down.

Language isn’t just about words—it’s about intention. In this episode, we dive into why phrases like ‘thanks’ instead of ‘thank you,’ ‘love you’ instead of ‘I love you,’ and ‘sorry’ instead of ‘I’m sorry’ can leave relationships feeling hollow. These half-phrases might seem small, but they carry weight. I’ll share why I refuse to accept them and why you should, too. Discover how words can deepen connection, honor effort, and rebuild sincerity in a world starving for authenticity. Say it whole, or don’t say it at all.

Join me as I share a personal journey of shifting focus from grand, flashy achievements to the tiny, often overlooked wins that truly fuel our motivation and confidence.

Have you ever been your own harshest critic? In this episode, we'll explore the weight of self-punishment and the liberating power of self-compassion. Join me as we journey beyond guilt and shame, and discover the gentle art of treating ourselves with kindness.

The series — Extroverted Convos intends to connect with a lot of people, get inside their heads/ minds, meet new people, create new bonds too and just have random conversations. This series would be published once a month. The episode has Aniebietabasi, interviewing random people in Uyo. I hope you enjoy this one😁

This episode promises to be mind blowing as Valerie had a wonderful conversation with UK based performance poet and writer — Joshua Idehen. Some of his songs played in this episode; “Field Negus” and “I Got You Every Step of the Way” can be found on any of your favorite streaming platforms. Do well to also listen to his new project called ‘Best Kind of Lost’. With my heart, I hope you enjoy this episode as we enjoyed making it. Before I forget, Joshua recited a poem too😁

You probably think this has to do with Chemistry. I know, who titles an episode “chain reaction”? This episode is just a reminder. Be polite.It hope you enjoyed it as much as I enjoyed recording.

This episode is a reminder of one of the many parables in the Bible. Hopefully you get to enjoy this one

This episode is just urging us to to give people the chance to be honest with us. I hope this meets you well.

Listen in as Valerie talks about the need of showing compassion/ grace to not just the people around us but to our own selves as well.

There’s a song you should listen to just after being here, Austin French — Rest For Your Soul. I honestly hope this episode meets you well.

This is yet another episode with Elon MacKenzas on the topic Grief. I hope this episode meets strikes close to home.

It’s a new year and since some of us are doing this new year, new me thing or “no gree for anybody” thing, i think it is only wise that you prepare yourselves for the mistakes that are bound to happen on the way. Listen in🥰

This episode tries to leave you with a different perspective/ view of the saying “Life is Short”.

I called it “Reverie” because the episode has to do with me thinking out loud. It’s about ‘Love Languages’, anyway. I hope you enjoy this one.

Listen in as Valerie shares her two cents in this week’s episode. Enjoy!

There’s a certain kind of peace I want to experience in my life. That kind of peace that makes no sense. The very one that keeps you in wonder. That one that feels surreal and bizarre/strange. Listen in.

There’s something about reliance or dependence. Say you’re relying on someone for a particular thing to pull through. Say without this person you feel it won’t be possible or this person has or holds the keys to your big break. Listen in as Valerie shares honest thoughts.

Valerie has a beautiful conversation with an amazing personality— Msugh Anom, who is a singer/songwriter, a teacher, husband and father. He shares his two cents on parenting, his music and life in general. The music played in the beginning is from his debut album “More Than Meets The Eye” and the song is called “Praise”. I hope you enjoy the episode as much as we enjoyed recording.

This episode explores ‘Multipotentiality’. I hope you learn something new from this episode. The song playing is from FadaBen’s project “The Introduction” and it’s called “I Forgive You”, you can find it and more on all major streaming platforms.

Valerie had an amazing conversation with singer and songwriter- Prithvi Prajosh, who happens to be Indian but resides in LA. I hope you enjoy this episode as much as we did recording.

This episode debunks the theory of familiarity and availability breeding a drop in value. Valerie’s main focus is in friendships/ relationships. I hope you find this episode interesting and useful.

Listen in as Valerie converses with Lawrence Udeigwe, who is a Maths Professor and a Jazz Musician in New York. He shared a lot of insightful and exciting stories about his journey and career. You can find him on instagram @lawrenceudeigwe. I hope you enjoy this episode😁

Happy New Year, amigo!!! In this episode, Valerie shared thoughts on the importance of deciphering if an advice is good enough for you to take or not. The beautiful background music was composed by the very best and you can find him on IG @emmeoogwuche

This episode talks about inferior complex, how it affects a person and also how it can be managed. My guest, Nonzo Bassey was very open and guess what? Before leaving my mind, he sang a beautiful song from his coming project. I hope you enjoy this episode as much as we did making it.

This episode episode just share what Valerie has noticed with her womenfolk and it encourages them do be nicer to one another. I hope you enjoy it.

It’s my birthday today and this episode just gives you an insight of my mind as usual.

Listen in as Valerie talks about one of the most neglected type of space, the public space, and how to behave in these shared spaces. I hope you enjoy this episode.

This episode just talks about not trying to force things.

I’ve realized that in other to feel “consistent” we tend to mount unnecessary pressure on ourselves. The intention of this episode is only to make you see “Consistency” in a different way. Share this episode with your friends and if they use Spotify or Apple Podcasts, ask them to give us a rating.

Listen in as Valerie talks about Letting people react just the way they deem fit. I hope you enjoy this episode. New episode every Mondays, 7pm.

Guilt and Regret, I believe, are feelings that a lot of people don’t get to fully understand. I hope you enjoy this episode. New episode: Mondays, 7pm.

This episode is a very delicate one for me because it’s something I’m trying to get totally free from. If you or someone you know is going through this advice them to seek help or be that help. New episode every Monday 7pm

How true is this “Hate dwells in a place love once was”? I would want to hear your thoughts too.

YES, I called it “Nike” when I didn’t even talk about “Nike”. I just couldn’t help but borrow the brand’s slogan “Just Do It”. I hope this episode finds you well🙂🙂

Listen in to know “the crown” to duck😁. The background music was composed for us specially by a very good friend— Jesam Bassey, it’ll be our official music henceforth. I hope you enjoy this episode😊

Listen in as Valerie talks about Criticism, it’s types and using it to your advantage.

Listen in as Valerie shares why it's always important to remember the reason you started. Make sure you always look towards the road ahead of you, but also remember why you started in the first place! And finally, do not wait to get ready before you start.

The little gestures matter too. I hope you enjoy this episode.

Is it just me or you also think this Valentine’s day thing is overrated? You’re free to send in your thoughts too. Enjoy😊

It’s self explanatory, amigo. I hope you enjoy this episode.

Listen to Manny Okonko share his thoughts on the question about music.

The series — Extroverted Convos intends to connect with a lot of people, get inside their heads/ minds, meet new people, create new bonds too and just have random conversations. This series would be published every Month.

This episode has Valerie talking about the need and ways to be intentional in 2022.

Rituals are crucial sometimes to how you start your day, here you'll come across how I start my day. And I also talked about my recent rejection. Enjoy😁

Listen in as Valerie talks about what to expect this season, as well as her thoughts on singing competition auditions like The Voice, Project Fame, Nigerian Idol, and others with Glory Chris & Mannie Okonko.