It's All Relative with Dr Eliza Filby

Women and men don't start the working day with the same relationship to time and we rarely talk about it.The pink tax, female time penalty, mental load, women at work, gender inequality, emotional labour, workplace productivity and AI are usually discussed as separate issues. I think they're connected. Women spend more time getting ready, more time organising family life and, often, more time doing the listening, mentoring and emotional work that keeps workplaces functioning. None of this fits particularly neatly into a culture obsessed with productivity, efficiency and measurable outputs.And that's what I talk about in this episode of It's All Relative: not simply the financial cost of being a woman, but the cost in time.It started with something very ordinary.Getting ready.🔔 FOLLOWFollow It's All Relative for weekly episodes exploring generations, work, wealth, housing, and the social and economic forces governing our lives.📩 ⁠SUBSCRIBE TO MY SUBSTACK⁠Every Friday I write about the generational, economic and cultural shifts changing how we live.📚 ⁠BUY INHERITOCRACY⁠Inheritocracy: It's Time to Talk About the Bank of Mum and Dad🌍 FIND ME ONLINE⁠Website⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠Instagram⁠

I address the gender divide, the manosphere, the femosphere, dating, social media algorithms, birth rates, and loneliness in this episode.Are men and women still living in the same world, or are our phones creating entirely different realities?I didn't set out to make an episode about the gender divide.It emerged after two completely different conversations. One was with demographer Dr Paul Morland about falling birth rates. The other was with Professor Jilly Kay about the rise of the femosphere. On the surface, they had almost nothing in common.Then we read the comments and analysed them.What struck me was that men and women were often watching the same interview and coming away with completely different interpretations. It made me wonder whether the biggest divide online today isn't political at all....but gender.🔔 SubscribeIf you enjoy conversations about generations, relationships, AI, work, wealth and the social changes shaping modern life, subscribe for a new episode of It's All Relative every Wednesday.📩 Subscribe to my SubstackEvery Friday I publish a free essay exploring the ideas behind these conversations.📚 Buy InheritocracyInheritocracy: It's Time to Talk About the Bank of Mum and Dad🌍 Follow meWebsiteLinkedInInstagram

Which profession earns the most? Corporate lawyers, doctors, teachers, Tech? In the context of the housing crisis, the Bank of Mum and Dad, social mobility, and the future of work. If the cost of everything has gone up, who can still afford life on a salary alone?That was the question that sparked this episode.A few months ago, my team and I analysed a simple idea: if house prices, childcare, education and healthcare have all raced ahead of wages, which professions have actually kept up? Which profession earns the most?We often assume it's bankers who have come out on top. But the real winners have been corporate lawyers. Their salaries have continued to rise in the UK, largely because of fierce competition between US and UK law firms, while many other professions have watched their earning power steadily erode.This episode is about what their success tells us about the changing nature of work, wealth and opportunity.🔔 SubscribeIf you enjoy conversations about generations, work, wealth, AI and the forces reshaping modern society, subscribe for a new episode every week.📩 Subscribe to my SubstackRead the original essay behind this episode and receive my weekly analysis on generational change, work and wealth.📚 Buy InheritocracyInheritocracy: It's Time to Talk About the Bank of Mum and Dad🌍 Find me hereWebsiteLinkedInInstagram

Gen Z, AI, the future of work, hybrid working, graduate jobs and career advice. Why has an entire generation been labelled lazy when the real story is that work itself has fundamentally changed?Every time I speak to senior leaders, the same questions come up.Why won't Gen Z come into the office?Why don't they stay in jobs?Why are they so obsessed with work-life balance?The assumption is always that the problem is Gen Z.I think the problem is work.For years, we've talked about younger generations as though they're uniquely entitled or unusually demanding. But if you step back and look at the world they've inherited, a different picture emerges.They entered the workplace during a global pandemic. Their first experience of work was often through a laptop screen. They watched the Great Resignation unfold, only to find themselves graduating into an economy shaped by AI, hiring freezes and rising economic uncertainty. At the same time, wages have struggled to keep pace with the soaring cost of housing, education and everyday life.So perhaps the more interesting question is why we expect them to behave as though work hasn't changed.In this episode of It's All Relative, I explore why I think we've misunderstood an entire generation.🔔 SubscribeSubscribe for weekly conversations about generations, AI, work, wealth and the social changes shaping modern life.📩 Subscribe to my SubstackEvery Friday I publish a free essay exploring the ideas behind these episodes.📚 Buy InheritocracyInheritocracy: It's Time to Talk About the Bank of Mum and Dad🌍 Find meWebsiteLinkedInInstagram

More parents than ever are opening pensions for their children, but this trend isn't really about retirement. It's about how families are adapting to an increasingly uncertain economy.In this episode of It's All Relative, I explore one of the fastest-growing financial trends you've probably never thought much about: parents and grandparents setting up pensions for children from birth.At first glance, it sounds strange. Why would you start saving for someone's retirement before they've even started school?But I don't think the rise of child pensions is really about pensions at all.It's about how parents are thinking differently about security, inheritance and opportunity in a world where housing is unaffordable, university is expensive, careers are uncertain, and retirement keeps moving further away.As families become less confident that they'll be able to hand over a house deposit, pay university fees or leave a substantial inheritance, they're increasingly turning to the one advantage every child has: time.🔔 SUBSCRIBEIf you enjoy conversations about generations, work, wealth, technology, family and the future of society, subscribe for a new episode every week.📚 BUY MY BOOK – INHERITOCRACYInheritocracy: It's Time to Talk About the Bank of Mum and Dad––––––––––––––––––📩 SUBSCRIBE TO MY SUBSTACKWeekly essays exploring generations, work, wealth, AI, family, parenting and the future.––––––––––––––––––🌍 FOLLOW MEWebsiteLinkedInInstagram

The defining political emotion of the 21st century is powerlessness, says Grace Blakeley who I sat down with on this episode. Capitalism, inequality, stagnant wages, the housing crisis, Gen Z, millennials, entrepreneurship, AI, social mobility, and the future of work are all colliding in ways that are reshaping how we live, work, and think about our future.If capitalism won, why do so many people feel like they're losing? Grace argues that capitalism was never quite the free-market system we were promised. Instead, she suggests we live in an age of concentrated power, monopoly, political influence, and growing inequality. Together, we unpack how this affects everything from education and homeownership to entrepreneurship, community, social mobility, and our sense of freedom itself.🔔 FOLLOWIf you enjoy conversations about generations, wealth, work, demographics, technology, and social change, follow It's All Relative on Spotify and join me every week on It's All Relative.📩 SUBSCRIBE TO MY SUBSTACKWeekly essays and analysis on generations, work, wealth, and social change🌍 FIND ME ONLINEWebsiteLinkedInInstagram

I'm joined by youth culture expert and researcher Konrad Collao to unpack one of the most analysed, stereotyped, and misunderstood generations on the planet: Gen Z.Everyone seems to have an opinion about Gen Z.They're either saving the world or destroying it.They're activists or apathetic.Entrepreneurs or work-shy.Progressive heroes or victims of the manosphere.But what if most of what we think we know about Gen Z is wrong?Drawing on three years of research, thousands of interviews and one of the most comprehensive studies of young people in Britain, we explore what it's actually like to be Gen Z today.🔔 Follow on SpotifyA weekly show exploring generational change, work, technology, culture, and the forces shaping modern life.📩 Subscribe to My SubstackGet my weekly essays on generations, work, wealth and social change:📚 Buy InheritocracyMy book on inheritance, family wealth and the Bank of Mum and Dad:🌍 Find Me HereWebsiteInstagramLinkedIn

This week on It’s All Relative, I explore one of the defining cultural questions of the 2020s: Who gets to be creative anymore?Because increasingly, traditional creative careers are becoming the preserve of the financially secure.The children of affluent families. The beneficiaries of the Bank of Mum and Dad. Those who can afford unpaid internships, unstable income and years of uncertainty. And that raises a bigger question:What has happened to working class creativity?In this episode, I explore:00:00 Intro00:53 Premise Explained02:05 Romanticising Struggling Artist03:52 Postwar Meritocracy in the Arts05:46 Access to Arts Closing07:57 Creative Industry Cuts And Class Data08:53 Creator Economy Shift12:34 Monetising Is A Slog14:12 Keep Creativity Private16:46 Arts Culture Beyond The West22:05 Community Questions🔔 Follow on SpotifyA weekly show exploring generational change, work, culture and the forces shaping modern life.Follow so you don’t miss the next episode.📩 Subscribe to My Substack📚 Buy InheritocracyMy book on inheritance, class and the Bank of Mum and Dad🌍 Find Me HereWebsiteInstagramLinkedIn

This week on It’s All Relative, I unpack exclusive polling data from OnePoll, looking at how under-45s in Britain are really coping financially.And the findings are stark.38% of respondents said they felt worse off after receiving a pay rise.Not because pay rises don’t matter.But because rising wages are being immediately absorbed by housing costs, childcare, debt repayments, tax, and the general cost of living.Which raises a much bigger question:What happens when work no longer feels like a reliable route to financial stability?In this episode, I explore:00:00 Intro01:54 Why Raises Feel Useless03:52 Patchwork Household Income05:20 Side Hustles Reality Check07:49 Two-Income Economy Trap09:08 Lone Parents Under Pressure11:07 Bank of Mum and Dad12:12 Luxury Redefined Today14:04 Three Ways People Adapt14:40 Community Q&A31:19 Wrap Up and Next Episode📩 Subscribe to My SubstackRead the full essay this episode is based on:👉 https://drelizafilby.substack.com/p/britains-under-45s-no-longer-runs📚 Buy InheritocracyMy book on inheritance, family wealth and the Bank of Mum and Dad:👉 https://www.amazon.co.uk/Inheritocracy-Time-Talk-Bank-Mum/dp/1911709809🌍 Find Me HereWebsite: https://www.elizafilby.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drelizafilbyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizafilby

This week on It’s All Relative, I unpack my recent conversation with Simon Sinek and explore why AI is transforming work and exposing everything that was already broken about it.The collapse of stable careers.The erosion of loyalty between employer and employee.The rise of individualism.The breakdown of the old life script. For decades, we sold people a very clear promise: Work hard. Get a degree. Build a career. Buy a house. Build stability.And increasingly, that promise hasn’t been delivered in the way many people expected. Especially for millennials and Gen Z.In this episode, I explore:🔔 Subscribe to the ChannelA weekly show unpacking generational change, AI, work, culture, and the forces shaping modern life.Subscribe so you don’t miss the next episode.📩 Subscribe to My SubstackRead the full essay this episode is based on.📚 Buy InheritocracyMy book on inheritance, family wealth, and generational change🌍 Find Me HereWebsiteInstagramLinkedIn

Are you actually rich? Middle class wealth, income vs wealth, cost of living, generational wealth and inequality, why so many people feel poor in a rich country.If you earn £50k… you’re in the top 30% of earners in the UK.And yet most people on that salary would not describe themselves as rich.So what’s going on?In this episode of It’s All Relative, I unpack one of the biggest misconceptions shaping our politics and our sense of self:the idea that “the rich” are always someone else.The billionaire.The hedge fund manager.The 1%.But what if that’s not the full picture?What if wealth isn’t just concentrated at the very top… but spread more widely across what we might call the mass affluent?And what if many of us are both feeling squeezed… and sitting in wealth at the same time?In this episode, I explore:00:00 Intro03:30 Dinner Party Politics06:03 Advert Break Art Print06:57 Greens and Middle Class Squeeze10:03 Defining Who Is Rich11:20 Mass Affluent Hidden Wealth13:52 Britain Poorer Than We Think16:52 Expectations and Feeling Poor21:17 Community Questions29:11 Behind the Scenes Chat🔔 Subscribe to the ChannelA weekly show unpacking generational change, wealth, work and the forces shaping modern life.Subscribe so you don’t miss the next episode.📩 Subscribe to My SubstackRead the full essay this episode is based on:👉 https://drelizafilby.substack.com/p/you-are-probably-rich-you-just-dont📚 Buy InheritocracyMy book on inheritance, class and the Bank of Mum and Dad:👉 https://www.amazon.co.uk/Inheritocracy-Time-Talk-Bank-Mum/dp/1911709809🌍 Find Me HereWebsite: https://www.elizafilby.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drelizafilbyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizafilby

Are women becoming more “materialistic”… or just more realistic? In this episode of It’s All Relative, I unpack one of the most controversial conversations happening right now around dating, relationships, and money. Because increasingly, we’re hearing that women are becoming more selective, more financially focused, even “gold diggers”.I don’t think that’s what’s happening. I think we’re seeing the rise of something else entirely: financial compatibility. And it reflects the economic reality of the 2020s...Stagnant wages.Unaffordable housing.Student debt.Expensive childcare.And the growing importance of the Bank of Mum and Dad.In this episode, I explore:00:00 Intro00:53 Gen Z Money Reality03:32 Gold Digger Myth06:33 Class Matching in Love10:27 Seesaw Marriages12:10 Algorithms, Dating Apps and Money13:58 Inheritance and Dynasties15:22 Quickfire Questions17:00 Community Questions19:47 Breadwinner Resentment21:09 Talk Money Before Kids21:42 Final Thoughts and OutroFollow so you don’t miss the next episode.📩 Subscribe to My SubstackRead the full essay this episode is based on:👉 https://drelizafilby.substack.com/p/its-not-gold-digging-just-realism📚 Buy Inheritocracy: My book on inheritance, class, and the Bank of Mum and Dad👉 https://www.amazon.co.uk/Inheritocracy-Time-Talk-Bank-Mum/dp/1911709809🌍 Find Me HereWebsite: https://www.elizafilby.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drelizafilbyLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizafilby