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Shameproof Your Desires
by Auntie Carmen, The Desire Midwife
Shameproof Your Desires is the podcast for women standing at a turning point: divorce, loss, career change or simply the decision that you don't have to answer to anyone the same way anymore. Hosted by Auntie Carmen, The Desire Midwife, a certified sex and relationship coach, this show is for the woman who's done believing she's “too much,” especially when it comes to what she wants sexually. Auntie Carmen is your trusted, spicy friend who never shames you, she just holds space while you figure it out and nudges you a little closer to the edges you've been circling, kinky or otherwise.
Episodes
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I Didn’t Know I Had Kinks | Discovering Kink and Power Exchange After Divorce
When I got divorced, I just wanted intimacy. I had no idea I was a woman with kinks. In this episode I share how the very first person I slept with after my divorce made me curious about power. It took me from “no man will ever control me” to loving sexual submission in a consensual D/s...
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Alone at the Trevi Fountain
I once stood in front of the most romantic fountain in Rome all by myself, on a trip with my husband. In this episode I share what that morning taught me about shrinking, staying busy and telling myself "it's fine." If you have been toning down what you want, this is your wake-up call. Ready to...
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Three Ways Shame Is Running Your Sex Life (And How to Get It Back)
In this episode, Auntie Carmen brings together the three patterns covered in the last three episodes, the good girl lane, fantasies under lock and key, and expanding and contracting, and shows how they're actually stages of the same underlying problem: shame. She introduces the full PACT method…
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Expanding and Contracting: Why You Keep Retreating the Moment Someone Judges You
In this episode, Auntie Carmen names the pattern she calls Expanding and Contracting, the cycle of getting brave, opening up, and then retreating right back into hiding the moment judgment shows up. She shares her own experience with this pattern after her divorce, why it happens even after…
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Fantasies Under Lock and Key: Why Keeping Your Desires Secret Is Costing You More Than You Think
Auntie Carmen breaks down why women keep their fantasies locked away, and what becomes possible the moment you finally say them out loud. Keywords: hidden fantasies, suppressing sexual desire, communicating sexual needs, sexual autonomy, co-creating pleasure with a partner, fear of judgment sex,...
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The Good Girl Lane: Why You're Still Waiting for Permission You'll Never Get
In this episode, Auntie Carmen names the pattern she calls the Good Girl Lane, the invisible habit of waiting for permission before claiming the sex and desires you actually want. She breaks down why this pattern forms, what it quietly costs you in real relationships, and what shifts the moment…
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The Secret I Kept Even From Myself: Discovering What I Actually Wanted
In this episode, Auntie Carmen picks up where episode eight left off, exploring what happens once desire comes back but you don't yet have language for what you actually want. She shares how she began getting curious about power exchange dynamics and her own bisexuality, and why solo...
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The Good Mom Trap: When Motherhood Became My Excuse to Ignore My Own Desire
In this episode, Auntie Carmen opens up about a belief that quietly ran her life for years: that being a good mom and having real, active sexual desire couldn't exist in the same woman. She shares what happened during a decade-long sexless marriage, and what it was like when her libido came…
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I'm Not a Trad Wife, But I Am in My Dynamic
In this episode, Auntie Carmen picks up where episode six left off and takes listeners inside the real, everyday version of her power exchange marriage. She breaks down the difference between being a trad wife and choosing to be "in her dynamic," introduces her husband and explains the small…
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From Controlled to Collared: My Real Story of Finding Consensual Submission
In this episode, Auntie Carmen goes deep into her origin story, from a controlling first relationship in high school to a sexless ten-year marriage, and finally to the consensual power exchange dynamic she shares with her husband today. Carmen opens up about her first taste of submission with a...
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Too Much Was Never the Problem
Can you remember the first time someone made you feel like you wanted too much? In this episode, Auntie Carmen, the Kink Midwife, traces the exact moment "too much" got written into your story, and how family, partners, culture and religion all piled on to make it feel like the truth instead of...
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Your Line in the Sand
Standing at a turning point, a divorce, a loss, a big life change, and wondering what you actually want now? Auntie Carmen opens the show by asking the question most women are afraid to answer: what turns you on, specifically, right now, in the life you're actually living. A permission slip for...
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The Fantasy You've Never Said Out Loud
There's a fantasy you've never said out loud to a single person, and it's been sitting there this whole time, taking up more space than you realize. In this episode, Carmen the Kink Midwife unpacks why women lock their most specific desires away, what it actually costs to keep them hidden, and…
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You Don't Need Permission to Want What You Want
You don't need anyone's okay to want what you want. In this episode, sex and relationship coach Carmen Joseph breaks down why so many women wait for permission to claim their sexual desire, where that conditioning comes from, and how to start giving yourself permission instead. If you've ever...
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Welcome to Shameproof Your Desires
Welcome to Shameproof Your Desires! In this opening episode, certified sex and relationship coach Carmen Joseph shares why she renamed the podcast and the realization that changed everything: freedom isn't about never feeling shame—it's about no longer letting shame make decisions about your...
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Juicy Bits Announcement
In today's brief episode, Carmen shares a little of what's to come with this podcast.
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Micro-Stepping Into Your New Sexual Identity
What happens when you stop waiting for the perfect moment and start saying yes to your own curiosity? In this honest episode of Juicy Bits with Carmen, Carmen shares a recent experience that reminded her of an important truth: sexual exploration doesn't stop just because life gets busy. Even as a...
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Why You Don't Enjoy Sex
This episode is your reminder that the permission you've been waiting for isn't coming from a partner, society, your family or even your favorite coach. It starts with you. So many women have been taught that sexual desire is something to suppress, hide or apologize for. We learn to be desired...
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Episode 36- The Shame is the Same: Food, Sex and Shaming Women
What if the shame you carry around your desires was never yours to begin with? In this episode of Juicy Bits with Carmen, we explore the surprising connection between food, sexuality and the patriarchal conditioning that teaches women to distrust their own desires. From hiding snacks to hiding...
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Episode 35- Using Your Partner's Desire as a Shield from Shame
Juicy Bits with Carmen is the permission slip for you to create your juicy life. In this episode, Carmen contemplates why you might be more comfortable responding to desire than claiming it for yourself. Women are expected to fill impossible roles and that is very evident in the arena of sex and...
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Episode 34- Shame and How it's Blocking You From Your Juicy Life
Even when you think you've busted through your shame, it keeps rearing its ugly head and if you let it run your life, you'll never have a life that is juicy AF! Shame is often a giant block for women to claim what it is that they want. It is the root cause of so much destruction in our world.…
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Episode 33- Your Day as an Unleashed Woman
In this episode, Carmen takes you on a journey into what it looks and feels like when you claim your juicy life and are self-led in intimacy from the moment you wake up through aftercare post the most attuned, sexy AF sesh with your lover. Juicy Bits with Carmen is the podcast that is your...
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Episode 32- Why Women Lose Themselves in Intimacy and How to Take Their Power Back
In this powerful episode of Juicy Bits with Carmen, Carmen explores the hidden ways women lose their voice, disconnect from their desires and struggle to create deeper intimacy with men. If you’ve ever found yourself people pleasing, overgiving, performing or abandoning your own needs in...
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Episode 31- Receiving is an Act of Rebellion
What does it really mean to receive? In this powerful episode of Juicy Bits with Carmen, Carmen explores the vulnerability, desire and deep self-worth required for women to truly open themselves to pleasure, intimacy and support. Through intimate storytelling and somatic reflection, Carmen…
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Episode 30- Confessions of a Show Pony: How I Decentered the Patriarchy to be led by My Own Desires
Step into a powerful conversation about reclaiming your desire, your voice and your body in a world that has trained you to perform instead of feel. In this episode of Juicy Bits with Carmen, we explore what it really means to decenter the patriarchy and truly lead and be led by your own desires....
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Episode 29- Do They Meet Your Standards? Stop Shapeshifting and Start Choosing Yourself
In this episode of Juicy Bits with Carmen, we turn the lens around and ask a question most women were never taught to ask: do they meet my standards? After divorce in her 40s, Carmen found herself pulled toward dating, desire, and the urge to find a new partner. But underneath that pull was...
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Episode 28- How This Ends With Us- Become the Cycle Breaker
This episode of Juicy Bits with Carmen is a powerful wake-up call for bold, driven women who look like they “have it all together”… but feel disconnected, exhausted, and unfulfilled in their intimate lives. If you’ve been stuck in over-functioning, people-pleasing, and survival mode, this...
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Episode 27- Disengage From Our Culture of Urgency and Honor Yourself
It feels like everything is moving so fast and we forget that we can actually stop participating in our urgency culture to honor ourselves and what we're wanting to build. This episode is your reminder that we can build our lives and our businesses differently by collaborating rather than…
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Episode 26- Wanting is Your Life Force- Honor Your Ancestors with it
This podcast rewrites the story of desire that many women hold. Women are told that it's selfish to want things. Women's desires are muted through institutions, medication and addiction. Women are told to BE a certain way in order to attract things. And we forget or we never learn that we need to...
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Episode 25- Your Giving Identity is Blocking Your Ability to Receive
Do you identify as a giver? How did that identity come to be? Is it control, over-functioning, needing to prove value? In this episode, Carmen shares a juicy rendezvous with friends and the pure pleasure in being able to both give and receive. She breaks down what it means to actually receive and...
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Episode 24- Diving Deeper into Pleasure is an Act of Resistance
It's a firehose of horrors at the moment and our collective "mama bear" rage is real and so is a risk of collapsing and disconnecting from our own bodies. In this episode, Carmen shares why it's important to feel that rage but also consciously chose to dive deeper into pleasure. Feeling our...
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Episode 23- Pussy Power & Feminine Sovereignty: Why Real Feminine Energy Is Power, Not Compliance
In this episode of Juicy Bits with Carmen, Carmen shares her personal journey from divorce and sexual disconnection to building a life, relationship and identity rooted in female empowerment, desire and authentic feminine power. Challenging the popular narrative that femininity means softness,...
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Episode 22- Why True Feminine Energy Starts With Desire, Not Receptivity
In this episode of Juicy Bits with Carmen, the conversation challenges popular ideas about feminine energy and what it really means to be receptive. While online narratives often frame femininity as softness and receiving from others, Carmen explores a deeper truth: feminine power is creative,...
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Episode 21- Who is Your Invisible Master?
In this thought-provoking episode of Juicy Bits with Carmen, a provocative film becomes a powerful metaphor for female entrepreneurs, power dynamics and unconscious devotion. Inspired by Pillion, Carmen explores how a BDSM Dominant/submissive relationship mirrors the way ambitious women can lose...
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Episode 20- Ritual to Nourish Who You Are Becoming
Podcast Summary for SEO: In this empowering episode of Juicy Bits with Carmen, bold women are invited to step out of conditioning and into their Creatrix identity to claim more pleasure, abundance and self-expression. Through a powerful personal ritual inspired by the Lunar New Year, Carmen…
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Episode 19- The Overuse of AI is Making Our Pussies Dry!
In this bold episode of Juicy Bits with Carmen, we’re having a real conversation about why the overuse of AI in business is collectively making us dry up. This episode explores becoming more discerning around your use of AI in business so that you're not outsourcing your voice. It talks about…
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Episode 18- How I stopped Guarding my Butthole
Trigger warning- SA In this episode of Juicy Bits with Carmen, female entrepreneurs are invited to examine where past experiences, boundary violations and shame may still be shaping how they lead and grow their businesses. Through a vulnerable story of erotic reclamation, this conversation…
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Episode 17- The World Needs a Collective of Women
In this powerful conversation, Carmen explores how women in business can shift from survival mode into a pleasure-led way of living and leading. Instead of overfunctioning, people-pleasing and proving worth, this episode invites ambitious women to reconnect with their bodies, desires and inner...
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Episode 16- Ladies, It's Time to Rise!
This episode explores a truth many women only see after distance, healing and deep self-reflection: how much we’ve normalized self-sacrifice in relationships, family roles and even our careers. This episode shines a light on the invisible ways women give themselves away — emotionally, mentally…
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Episode 15- When a Woman's Retreat Upholds the Patriarchy
In this episode of Juicy Bits with Carmen, we unpack an important conversation for women exploring sexual healing, erotic liberation and personal growth retreats. If you are a driven, high-performing woman craving more pleasure, intimacy and embodiment, this episode is your reality check and your...
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Episode 14- Permission to Want Bigger
In this episode of Juicy Bits with Carmen, we explore desire — what you truly want in business, money, pleasure and life. Many women are taught to shrink their desires, feel guilty for wanting more and undervalue their work. This conversation unpacks how social conditioning, scarcity mindset and...
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Episode 13- Ditch the Grind: Healing to Access Pleasure and Flow
In this episode of Juicy Bits, we explore how overworking, perfectionism and constant striving are often rooted in an unregulated nervous system rather than true desire. For women who have built successful lives yet feel exhausted, disconnected or unsatisfied, this conversation offers a powerful...
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Episode 12- Love Letter to Women Who Feel They Self-Abandoned Part 1
In this compassionate episode of Juicy Bits with Carmen, Carmen offers a love letter to women who have carried shame, guilt or self-blame around their stress responses in moments when they felt unsafe. With care and honesty, she reframes trauma responses as intelligent survival mechanisms rather...
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Episode 11- Pleasure is Essential to Your Empire
In this episode, you learn that being able to receive pleasure is essential to accept and sustain wealth. Carmen takes female entrepreneurs behind the scenes of a pivotal embodied experience that reshaped how she understands desire, pleasure and receiving. This conversation is an invitation for...
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Episode 10- From Business Dominatrix to Life Creatrix
What if the same traits that make you successful in business are also the ones draining your pleasure, creativity, and connection? In this episode of Juicy Bits with Carmen, we explore the archetype of the Business Dominatrix—the driven, high-achieving woman who knows she can build her empire…
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Episode 9- Control is an Illusion that Blocks Creativity
When you’re controlling outcomes, people, or timing, you’re not present. You’re living in the future, bracing for what might go wrong, or replaying old stories from the past. That bracing shows up clearly in the body as tension, vigilance, anxiety and EXHAUSTION. Through the lens of a seven-year...
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Episode 8- Pause in order to Receive
You think you know what pleasure is but you're probably just responding to someone else's desire OR trying to please someone else but did you know that true, direct pleasure comes from connecting with yourself? To truly go deep and understand what is pleasurable to YOU requires a commitment of...
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Episode 7- Letting Go and Being Seen
Is it possible for a strong, dominant woman to find someone who can co-create the safety, trust and space to let go and hand over control? Yes, it is but it's not just the other person who needs to be willing to see you. You also have to be willing to become trustworthy with yourself and be…
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Episode 6 True Sexual Freedom Arises When There is Safety
There is a myth in the world that sexual freedom is a free-for-all and that arousal comes forth when limits are crossed. Carmen debunks that myth and explains why creating containers and respecting each other's limits is the more fulfilling path to juicy connection and play. BDSM protocols are a...
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Episode 5 Power Dynamics and How They Create Who We Are
Often women come to entrepreneurship, whether unconsciously or consciously, because of power dynamics in the world and the workplace. It feels safer to work for ourselves. Being strong enough to build your business and your empire is super exciting yet if its built on a survivalist mentality, you...
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Shameproof Your Desires is the podcast for women standing at a turning point: divorce, loss, career change or simply the decision that you don't have to answer to anyone the same way anymore. Hosted by Auntie Carmen, The Desire Midwife, a certified sex and relationship coach, this show is for the woman who's done believing she's “too much,” especially when it comes to what she wants sexually. Auntie Carmen is your trusted, spicy friend who never shames you, she just holds space while you figure it out and nudges you a little closer to the edges you've been circling, kinky or otherwise.
HOSTED BY
Auntie Carmen, The Desire Midwife
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