Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

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Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

Sam & Sierra may not be therapists, but they will tell it to you straight (even if they aren’t). Each episode, they answer listeners’ questions with compassion, radical honesty, and all the relationship advice you don’t want—but definitely need. And no, it’s not always “just break up.” (Unless you really should!)

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    Episode 722: Making Peace With a Past You Don't Like

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who feels like she wasted 5 years of her life Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  2. 751

    Episode 721: Postpartum Exhaustion and Emotional Numbness

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is struggling to feel sappy adoration for her kid when he's awake Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  3. 750

    Episode 720: How Do I Recover From a Sudden Breakup?

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose life was upended with zero discussion Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  4. 749

    Epsidoe 719: Keeping Community In Capitalism

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is feeling resentful of the family she nannied for Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  5. 748

    Episode 718: Cosmically Good Sex or Past Life Connection?

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is between a rock and a hard place, by which we mean two men Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  6. 747

    Episode 717: I Bad About Self-Soothing With Casual Sex

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose trying to gain self-confidence after a terrible relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  7. 746

    Episode 716: Loving Alcoholic Parents Without Losing Myself

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to maintain a normal relationship with her alcoholic parents Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  8. 745

    Episode 715: Staying, Leaving, and the Truth in Between

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is stying with her husband out of guilt Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  9. 744

    Episode 714: Waiting for Sex Unapologetically

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who doesn't know when to tell the people she's dating that she wants to wait until marriage Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  10. 743

    Episode 713: Empathy Without Erasure

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose joy seems to cause her partner pain Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  11. 742

    Episode 712: Reclaiming Life, Redefining Stepparent

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose husband wants her to be a more involved stepparent Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  12. 741

    Episode 711: Age Gaps, Power, and Perception

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who maybe wants to date someon 8 years younger Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  13. 740

    Episode 710: Stuck Between His Messy Divorce and My Mom

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose mom wants her to date someone whose life is a little less messy Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  14. 739

    Episode 709: Is Toxic Sex Inherently Hotter and Easier?

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose sex with her toxic ex was more passionate than sex with her wonderful partner Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  15. 738

    Episode 708: Staying Present in a Temporary Love

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is having a hard time just enjoying her fling Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  16. 737

    Episode 707: What Happens When That Anger is Directed at You?

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend can sometimes get angry Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  17. 736

    Episode 706: Two Steps Forward, One Step Back

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who feels like time isn't actually healing all wounds Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  18. 735

    Episode 705: Why Your Friend Won't RSVP to Your Wedding

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who uninvited her friend to her wedding after he said no because weddings aren't important? Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  19. 734

    Episode 704: Can Healing Drown Out Instinct?

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose healing of her anxious attachment style seems to be backfiring Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  20. 733

    Episode 703: Grief Rearranges a Life Without Asking Permission

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to feel sexy, open, confident, and present, but...her dad is dying Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  21. 732

    Episode 702: Unsettled by “Settled”

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partners said he settled for her Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  22. 731

    Episode 701: Recycled Pet Names

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose brain has started looking for threats in her relationship where there might not be any Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  23. 730

    Episode 700: I Miss Him, But Not Our Relationship

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is grieving for her ex but not for the relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  24. 729

    Episode 699: Grieving a Friendship That Hasn’t Officially Ended

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose friend told him she needed space but won't tell him why Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  25. 728

    Episode 698: Dating While Trans in Your 60s

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is struggling to find connection with people his own age Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  26. 727

    Episode 697: Feeling Stuck After Grad School Rejections Letters

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is feeling like a failur after facing rejection after rejection Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  27. 726

    Episode 696: Either Way, She Left You

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who's investigating his breakup and not liking what he's finding Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  28. 725

    Episode 695: Don't Get Burned By Your Sexy Friends' Chaotic Relationship

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is in too deep with a couple friend Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  29. 724

    Episode 694: Love Isn't a Reward for Good Behavior

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who did everything right but still lost his relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  30. 723

    Episode 693: You Were Allowed To Be Drunk

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who's wondering how much to disclose about a painful moment from their past Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  31. 722

    Episode 692: It's Not Pathetic To Tell Someone You Like Them

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is stuck in limbo with an ex who left her on read Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  32. 721

    Episode 691: Metabolizing Anger At Your Ex

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose post-breakup fury just keeps rising Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  33. 720

    Episode 690: Resentment Toward Someone Who Isn't "Working As Hard"

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who thinks about her resentment for her sister-in-law every single day Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  34. 719

    Episode 689: My Friend’s Partner Crossed a Line

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose friend has crossed the line multiple times while high Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  35. 718

    Episode 688: Love in Low Battery Mode

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend isn't showing her love in the way she can feel it Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  36. 717

    Episode 687: Where Love Ends and Self-Respect Begins

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wishes her relationship had ended with more dignity and respect Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  37. 716

    Episode 686: Learning to Sit With Other People’s Choices

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriends' parents don't have the capacity to improve she wants them to Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  38. 715

    Episode 685: It's Time to Get Some New Friends

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to feel her feelings and not take on other people's perspectives Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  39. 714

    Episode 684: When Grief Hardens Into Anger

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who doesn't want to be consumed by bitterness about his ex Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  40. 713

    Episode 683: Compromise as a Living Conversation

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who finds her mother-in-law difficult Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  41. 712

    Episode 682: Dreaming About My Crush During Naptime

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who is wondering if she's in the wrong relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  42. 711

    Episode 681: Retroactive Rage

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose ex won't respect the block Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  43. 710

    Episode 680: Being Enlightened Doesn't Mean You Don't Have Needs

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner is gone for weeks at a time Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  44. 709

    Episode 679: My First Toxic Lesbian Break Up™

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who just got out of her first chaotic queer relationship Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  45. 708

    Episode 678: Extroverts Dating Introverts

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose partner has only met her important friends once or twice Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  46. 707

    Episode 677: The Abject Terror and Excitement of Liking Someone

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who went on a date with someone cooler than her and maybe blew it Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  47. 706

    Episode 676: Detoxing From a Chaotic Relationship

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who wants to learn what healthy love feels like with a nervous system trained on chaos Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  48. 705

    Episode 675: Might Not Be the Time to Fix Your Jealousy Issues

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who doesn't want to keep bringing up what her boyfriend did Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  49. 704

    Episode 674: When Our Social Circles Don't Match

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone whose boyfriend has a very different social circle Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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    Episode 673: I Read My Boyfriend's Journal and Hurt Myself

    Sam and Sierra answer a letter from someone who read her boyfriend's journal and found something she didn't like Join us on Patreon for an extra weekly episode, monthly office hours, and more! SUBMIT: justbreakuppod.com FACEBOOK: /justbreakuppod INSTAGRAM: @justbreakuppod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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ABOUT THIS SHOW

Sam & Sierra may not be therapists, but they will tell it to you straight (even if they aren’t). Each episode, they answer listeners’ questions with compassion, radical honesty, and all the relationship advice you don’t want—but definitely need. And no, it’s not always “just break up.” (Unless you really should!)

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Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell

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