All Episodes

Episode 722: Making Peace With a Past You Don't Like

Episode 721: Postpartum Exhaustion and Emotional Numbness

Episode 720: How Do I Recover From a Sudden Breakup?

Epsidoe 719: Keeping Community In Capitalism

Episode 718: Cosmically Good Sex or Past Life Connection?

Episode 717: I Bad About Self-Soothing With Casual Sex

Episode 716: Loving Alcoholic Parents Without Losing Myself

Episode 715: Staying, Leaving, and the Truth in Between

Episode 714: Waiting for Sex Unapologetically

Episode 713: Empathy Without Erasure

Episode 712: Reclaiming Life, Redefining Stepparent

Episode 711: Age Gaps, Power, and Perception

Episode 710: Stuck Between His Messy Divorce and My Mom

Episode 709: Is Toxic Sex Inherently Hotter and Easier?

Episode 708: Staying Present in a Temporary Love

Episode 707: What Happens When That Anger is Directed at You?

Episode 706: Two Steps Forward, One Step Back

Episode 705: Why Your Friend Won't RSVP to Your Wedding

Episode 704: Can Healing Drown Out Instinct?

Episode 703: Grief Rearranges a Life Without Asking Permission

Episode 702: Unsettled by “Settled”

Episode 701: Recycled Pet Names

Episode 700: I Miss Him, But Not Our Relationship

Episode 699: Grieving a Friendship That Hasn’t Officially Ended

Episode 698: Dating While Trans in Your 60s

Episode 697: Feeling Stuck After Grad School Rejections Letters

Episode 696: Either Way, She Left You

Episode 695: Don't Get Burned By Your Sexy Friends' Chaotic Relationship

Episode 694: Love Isn't a Reward for Good Behavior

Episode 693: You Were Allowed To Be Drunk

Episode 692: It's Not Pathetic To Tell Someone You Like Them

Episode 691: Metabolizing Anger At Your Ex

Episode 690: Resentment Toward Someone Who Isn't "Working As Hard"

Episode 689: My Friend’s Partner Crossed a Line

Episode 688: Love in Low Battery Mode

Episode 687: Where Love Ends and Self-Respect Begins

Episode 686: Learning to Sit With Other People’s Choices

Episode 685: It's Time to Get Some New Friends

Episode 684: When Grief Hardens Into Anger

Episode 683: Compromise as a Living Conversation

Episode 682: Dreaming About My Crush During Naptime

Episode 681: Retroactive Rage

Episode 680: Being Enlightened Doesn't Mean You Don't Have Needs

Episode 679: My First Toxic Lesbian Break Up™

Episode 678: Extroverts Dating Introverts

Episode 677: The Abject Terror and Excitement of Liking Someone

Episode 676: Detoxing From a Chaotic Relationship

Episode 675: Might Not Be the Time to Fix Your Jealousy Issues

Episode 674: When Our Social Circles Don't Match

Episode 673: I Read My Boyfriend's Journal and Hurt Myself

Episode 672: My Ex Husband Tells Everyone I'm a Wh*re

Episode 671: Is My Bar Too High?

Episode 670: Acting Out After Being Left On Read

Episode 669: My Boyfriend is Threatened By My Journal

Episode 668: Caught in a Cycle of Emotional Hunger

Episode 667: Can a Work Crush Ever Be a Good Thing?

Episode 666: Are Long-Lasting Relationships Inherently Better?

Episode 665: Navigating An Overly Negative World

Episode 664: Do You Want Couple's Therapy With A Man Who Won't Say I Love You?

Episode 663: Panicking Over A Potential Proposal

Episode 662: When People Pity Your Happy Single Life

Episode 661: The Shame We Carry

Episode 660: My Boyfriend's Brother's Girlfriend Hates Me

Episode 659: We're Not Meant to Hold Lightning

Episode 658: You Can't Compartmentalize Your Way Out of This

Episode 657: The Familiarity of Self-Isolation

Episode 656: It Could Be Different This Time

Episode 655: When Self-Soothing Isn't Enough

Episode 654: Missing His Kids More Than Him

Episode 653: Responding Instead of Reacting Isn't Always Easy

Episode 652: Changing Relationship Patterns

Episode 651: When You *and* Your Therapist Get It Wrong

Episode 650: Finding Belonging When Things Are Uncertain

Episode 649: Cheating Does Not An Open Relationship Make

Episode 648: New Relationship, Old Trauma

Episode 647: How To Stay Soft After Repeated Betrayal

Episode 646: My Mom Doesn't Want My Dad At My Wedding

Episode 645: How Do I Forgive Myself For Cheating

Episode 644: My Boyfriend Googled "Erotic Massage Near Me"

Episode 643: Your Intuition Knew the Right Choice

Episode 642: All Emotions Start as Love

Episode 641: This Path Could Lead to Cheating

Episode 640: Trying To Rebuild The Sandcastle

Episode 639: My Best Friend's Girlfriend Made Him Ghost Me

Episode 638: You Can't Build a Friend House with Romance Tools

Episode 637: Should I Open My Marriage For My Crush?

Episode 636: Is This "The Work" People Talk About?

Episode 635: What Is This Tingly Sexy Feeling?

Episode 634: Limerence Is Ruining My Life

Episode 633: The Retired Slut

Episode 632: You're Not A Secret To Be Kept

Episode 631: Navigating Sexual Incompatibilities

Episode 630: My Bestie Is Cheating On Her Husband!

Episode 629: Am I Destined to Be Alone?

Episode 628: Why Won't My Fiancé Connect with My Family?

Episode 627: My Partner Keeps Bringing Up His Exes

Episode 626: My Parents Didn't Wish Me Happy Birthday

Episode 625: Why Can't My Hookups Make Me Orgasm?

Episode 624: This Isn't As Hot As You Think It Is

Episode 623: My Fiancé Regrets Our Son

Episode 622: The Throuple's Wobbly Third Wheel

Episode 621: Your Partner's Literal and Metaphorical Sh*t

Episode 620: Put Your Oxygen Mask on First

Episode 619: My Husband Commented On an OnlyFans Picture

Episode 618: I Started Dating My F*ckbuddy

Episode 617: Should I Tell My Parents I Had an Abortion?

Episode 616: This Isn't Atonement, It's Stalking

Episode 615: Sexy Pillow Fight With A Straight Man

Episode 614: How To Ask For A Divorce Kindly

Episode 613: Floating in Ambivalence After a Break Up

Episode 612: You Deserve Better Than A Man That Won't Commit To You

Episode 611: This World Is Hungry For Your Softness

Episode 610: His Dog Died And He Dumped Me Over Text

Episode 609: I Think I'm Afraid Of Love

Episode 608: Love Can Exist Without Return

Episode 607: It's Not An Ultimatum, It's A Boundary!

Episode 606: He Fell Into My Lap At A Gay Gym

Episode 605: You Can Choose Peace When They Choose Chaos

Episode 604: They Took the Cat and the Life We Shared

Episode 603: The Body Def Keeps a Score

Episode 602: What If I’m Not the Soft Mom?

Episode 601: The Cost of Constant Correction

Episode 600: Should I Tell My Ex I'm Bisexual?

Episode 599: Is There A Difference Between Coffee and Dinner?

Episode 598: Still Holding On—But to What?

Episode 597: We Got Engaged...And Now I'm Panicking

Episode 596: Is It Weak If I Stay With a Cheater?

Episode 595: The Stories People Tell About Us Aren't Ours

Episode 594: You're Allowed to Ask for Privacy in Your Relationship

Episode 593: Is My Grief Ruining My Relationship?

Episode 592: Herpes Isn't A Moral Failing

Episode 591: Closeted And Heartbroken

Episode 590: Is Empathy Okay After a Breakup?

Episode 589: Her Needs Are Truths, Yours Are Burdens

Episode 588: His Browsing History Is Spicier Than Our Bedroom

Bonus Episode: He Wants Me to Be Sorrier for Being a Former Cam Model

Episode 587: What Does It Look Like for You to Say No More Often

Episode 586: You're in Two Different Relationships and Both Aren't Working

Episode 585: Am I Doomed to Be Isolated With Kids in The Midwest?

Episode 584: Do I Owe My Father Forgiveness?

Episode 583: He *Always* Picks Up When His Mom Calls

Episode 582: So...My New Boyfriend Doesn't Tip

Episode 581: Now I Have to See Him at the Gym 6 Days a Week :(

Episode 580: Navigating a Twenty Year Age Gap

Episode 579: But...I Don't Want To Set My Friend Up With My Crush!

Episode 578: Can You Prioritize Yourself While Trying to Save This Relationship?

Episode 577: My Friend with Benefits Caught Feelings!

Episode 576: Fumbly Chemistry or Sexual Incompatibility?

Episode 575: We Don't Always Have to Know

Episode 574: He's Changed but I Can't See It

Episode 573: Why Did My Ex Send Me $2000?

Episode 572: Why Can't I Get the Healed Sober Version of Him Like Everyone Else?

Episode 571: When Our Partners Become Our Caretakers

Episode 570: What About the What-Ifs?

Episode 569: Should Marriage Be an Ultimatum?

Episode 568: Self-Proclaimed Player but Actually a Lover

Episode 567: He Didn't Even Tell Me He Was Moving!

Episode 566: You Have to Break the Pattern

Episode 565: Is a Lack of Physical Attraction a Deal Breaker?

Episode 564: My Partner's Hidden Credit Card Debt

Episode 563: Post Break Up Regrets

Episode 562: I Found His List of Reasons to Break Up With Me

Episode 561: My BF Searches the Internet for Explicit Pictures of His Ex

Episode 560: I Didn't Cheat...But Almost

Episode 559: Crowdsourcing Why This Guy Ghosted Me

Episode 558: I'm Stressed About My Partner's Future Health

Episode 557: My Boyfriend Might Have a Secret Family

Episode 556: Real Life: I Want to Have an Affair

Episode 555: Slimier Than the Nickelodeon Kids' Choice Awards

Episode 554: He Asked Me Not to Text Him...Should I?

Episode 553: Turns Out He Sucked the Whole Time

Episode 552: He Cheated and I Was Controlling – Can It Still Work?

Episode 549: My Boyfriend's Anger Issues

Episode 551: How Sierra's Birth Anxiety is Like Your Relationship Problem

Episode 550: I Love Him as a Husband But Not as a Coparent

Episode 548: Honoring Your Love By Walking Away

Episode 547: Finding Clarity in Confusing Friendships

Episode 546: Is It The Ick or Just Your Feelings?

Episode 545: The Person Who Hurt You is Broken, Not You

Episode 544: How Do We Let Go of Hurt?

Episode 543: I'm the Maid of Honor and I Hate the Groom

Episode 542: He's Benefiting From You Hating Yourself

Episode 541: Navigating Romance in Early Sobriety

Episode 540: My Ex Died and I Feel Complicated

Episode 539: Returning to Yourself After a Year of Self-Betrayal

Episode 538: Closing the Door (Even If We Love What's Behind It)

Episode 537: But She's Just a Barista...

Episode 536: Staying Sane During the Post Breakup Spiral

Episode 535: My Boyfriend Loves to Correct Me

Episode 534: Is It Hostile or Just a Hostel?

Episode 533: Unblocking During Climate Catastrophe

Episode 532: I Love Him But I Don't Want to Jump His Bones!

Episode 531: An Ex-Lesbian Enters the Wild World of Dating Men

Episode 530: How To Break Up With Someone!

Episode 529: His New GF Is Not An Improved Version of You

Episode 528: Don't Get Stuck Mothering This Grown Man

Episode 527: Stuck in the Waiting Room of My Life

Episode 526: It's Time to Lay Down Your Sword

Episode 525: Communication Confusion

Episode 524: Super Avoidant Attachment Girl

Episode 523: Honestly, I'm Leading Myself On

Episode 522: The Orgasm Gap

Episode 521: Am I Being Mistreated Or Am I Just Too Sensitive?

Episode 520: This Sounds Like a Christmas Movie

Episode 519: My Toxic Ex Still Owes Me Money

Episode 518: Can't Unhear The Mean Things You Said

Episode 517: Who Has This Strap On Been In Before?

Episode 516: You Can't Grow a Relationship In Resentful Soil

Episode 515: Remembering The Reality, Not Just The Romance

Episode 514: What To Do With A Professional Crush

Episode 513: Learn This Lesson Now

Episode 512: My Boyfriend Cheated And My President Is A Rapist

Episode 511: Queerness Is Not A Monolith

Episode 510: Do You Like Emo...tions?

Episode 509: Sharing A Business With Your Cheating Ex

Episode 508: Don't Over-Romanticize Your Ex

Episode 507: You Can't Be Everything To Everyone

Episode 506: Holding The Good With The Bad

Episode 505: The Unfair Burden of Birth Control

Episode 504: I'm Lonely In My Relationship

Episode 503: Are These Friends Safe For You?

Episode 502: My Friend Got Dumped..But It Was Her Fault

Episode 501: You Can Never Be A Perfect Parent

Episode 500: My Mom's Third Marriage

Episode 499: My Boyfriend's Proposal Isn't Romantic Enough

Episode 498: Sexting With My Hot Parisian Tattoo Artist

Episode 497: Avoiding Relationship Burnout

Episode 496: You Don't Trust Him Because He's Proven Himself Untrustworthy

Episode 495: His Ex Still Uses His Netflix

Episode 494: Parenting Yourself When Your Mother Can't

Episode 493: Mr. Fix-It Fixes His Codependency

Episode 492: I Can't Stop Reading Cheating Stories On Reddit

Episode 491: Dating With A Chronic Illness

Episode 490: Why Did He Think You Needed To Know That?

Episode 489: Am I B*tch Or Do I Just Know What I Want?

Episode 488: Kids or No Kids, What's The Plan?

Episode 487: Wanting The Wife And The Mistress Too

Episode 486: If They Like Me, Then Why Can't I See It?

Episode 485: Single, Again

Episode 484: Held Hostage By The Past

Episode 483: You Say Tomato, I Say TomaNO

Episode 482: Choosing No Love Over Broken Love

Episode 481: My Friends Are Hanging Out Without Me!

Episode 480: My Friend Is Marrying Her Abuser

Episode 479: Dating Across Economic Class

Episode 478: You Deserve A Love That Thrives In The Light

Episode 477: Being The Sober Friend

Episode 476: I Love To See You In My Sweatshirt

Episode 475: Healing From Harassment In the Workplace

Episode 474: Bisexual FOMO

Episode 473: You Will Be Able To Love Again

Episode 472: Should I End My Marriage After Two Months?

Episode 471: One Big Pill Or Fifty Spiky Ones

Episode 470: Into The Unknown! (AKA Dating in Your 30s)

Episode 469: Riding The Waves Of His Mood Swings

Episode 468: Accepting Their Scraps Of Love

Episode 467: I Might Break Up With A Lifelong Friend

Episode 466: Rock Bottom Stone Top

Episode 465: I'm Jealous Of A Clown Doll Replica Of My Partner

Episode 464: Is Getting Married Young A Bad Idea?

Episode 463: His Bad Behavior Isn't Your Fault

Episode 462: The 51% Approach

Episode 461: Broken Up But Not Moved Out

Episode 460: Will They Do The Vulnerable Work With You?

Episode 459: My Married Girlfriend Doesn't Know My Real Name

Episode 458: Your One Wild And Precious Life

Episode 457: Why Aren't You Telling Her We're Engaged?!

Episode 456: Supporting Your Partner Through Grief

Episode 455: He Broke Up With Me Because I Am A Sex Worker

Episode 454: It's Okay To Break Up With An Old Friend

Episode 453: Getting Over Someone I Never Actually Dated

Episode 452: Learning How To Reassure Yourself

Episode 451: My Boyfriend's Parents Hate Me

Episode 450: Waiting For My Ex-Fiancé To Come Back

Episode 449: I Ghosted My Friend For 3 Years

Episode 448: My Partner Makes Less Money Than Me

Episode 447: HELP: I Have A Crush On A Couple!

Episode 446: Healing After Miscarriage

Episode 445: There Are Lots of Reasons People Get Married

Episode 443: Making Space For Moving On

Episode 442: Some Friends You Just Can't Travel With

Episode 441: It's Not Polyamory If Her Husband Doesn't Know

Episode 440: Losing Yourself In Your Compassion For Others

Episode 439: Having Sex On The Fourth Date

Episode 438: Heteronormative Tunnel Vision

Episode 437: Regretting That Last Text

Episode 436: ADHD And My Overstimulating Apartment

Episode 435: Should I Take A Free Trip To Europe With Someone I Barely Know?

Episode 434: Your Hurt Deserves To Be Seen

Episode 433: Undetectable Is Untransmittable

Episode 432: Is This A Red Flag Or A Real Boundary?

Episode 431: I Lost The Only Good Love Of My Life

Episode 430: Play Wordle With Your Own Boyfriend!

Episode 429: Crying Over Gluten Free Mac & Cheese

Episode 428: Queer Polyamorous Witch

Episode 427: Alone In The Woods With A Man Or A Bear

Episode 426: Cohabitating Isn't For Everyone!

Episode 425: There Doesn't Need To Be A "Strong One" In The Relationship

Episode 424: We're Moving In Together & I'm Spiraling!

Episode 423: Forgiveness Is Morally Neutral

Episode 422: This Isn't The Ending To Every Story

Episode 421: Feeling Healed? Visit Your Family.

Episode 420: My Boyfriend Isn't Curious About Me

Episode 419: Is It Diabolical Or Totally Understandable?

Episode 418: Giving Head vs. Changing A Tire

Episode 417: Can I Fantasize About Women AND Love My Husband?

Episode 416: I Was Dumped For *Not* Cheating

Episode 415: Newly Sober and Still In Love

Episode 414: How Much Meh Is Too Much Meh?

Episode 413: Your Timeline Is A Valid Desire, Not A Guarantee

Episode 412: This Is Hard AND You Can Do Hard Things

Episode 411: Seeking Deep Connection And Coming Up Short

Episode 410: This Doesn't Sound Like Ethical Non-Monogamy

Episode 409: Emotionally Immature Coworkers

Episode 408: My Boyfriend Went To A Strip Club

Episode 407: From Partners To Platonic Without The Pain

Episode 406: Watching Someone Younger Make Your Past Mistakes

Episode 405: Your Anger Is Safe Here

Episode 404: Complex Grief And The Unfairness of The Universe

Episode 403: Caught My Boyfriend On Bumble

Episode 402: Overthinking My Dating App Messages

Episode 401: Who Taught You Solitude Is Selfish?

Episode 400: It's Okay To Break Up With Your Nice Boyfriend

Episode 399: Were My Exes Just Experimenting?

Episode 398: People Want To Like You

Episode 397: Reaching Past The Pattern

Episode 396: Do You Want To Be With a Workaholic?

Episode 395: Should I Forgive A Cheater?

Episode 394: My Boyfriend's Not Hot Enough

Episode 393: Marriage? Been There, Done That, Never Doing It Again

Episode 392: I Prefer The Caterpillar

Episode 391: Just Move To South Dakota

Episode 390: Is It Love Or Love Bombing?

Getting Ghosted By a Friend

It's Not Profound, It Just Sucks

Episode 389: Crumbling Foundation

Episode 388: You Don't Need To Bubble Wrap Your Hard Edges

Episode 387: I'm Not My Boyfriend's #1 Priority

Episode 386: My Partner Is Always On Their Phone

Episode 385: Is It Really Over Forever?

Episode 384: Being Reasonably Ready

Episode 383: Do Not Give This Man A 57th Chance

Episode 382: Real Or Rebound: Dating After Loss

Episode 381: You Don't Have To Forgive Your Cheating Boyfriend

Episode 380: Stable Serious Man VS Wild Bad Boy

Episode 379: I Feel Bad My Girlfriend Has More Friends Than Me

Episode 378: I Might Actually Want To Live With My MIL?

Episode 377: Not Anti-Social, Just Asocial

Episode 376: How To Trust Your Feelings

Episode 375: Daddy Issues

Episode 374: Hi, I Dated Your Ex-Husband

Episode 373: Dating Is A Practice Of Being Seen

Episode 372: Wait, Why Weren't You Talking For 10 Days?

Episode 371: I Accidentally Insulted My Boyfriend's Penis

PATREON BONUS - Seeking Love and Safety

Episode 370: Coming Out As Childfree

Episode 369: My Husband Is Obsessed With A OnlyFans Creator

Episode 368: Trusting Again After Infidelity

Episode 367: How To Date Without Settling

Episode 366: Deep Cleaning Your Relationship

Episode 365: Your Husband's Coworker Definitely Has A Crush On You

Episode 364: Empathy Doesn't Mean Losing Yourself

Episode 363: This Is Textbook Gaslighting

Episode 362: My Husband Was Depressed All Year And I Had No Idea

Episode 361: You're Not Alone in Your Loneliness

Episode 360: I Can't Emotionally Connect with My Mother-in-Law

Episode 359: Self-Compassion Allows Us to Own Our Mistakes

Episode 358: A Bunch of One Foot Wells

Episode 357: Do Breaks Really Work?

Episode 356: Blocked By My Metamour

Episode 355: You Don't Have To Hold This Alone

Episode 354: My BFF Is Marrying Someone I Don't Like

Episode 353: Having Boundaries Is An Internal Process

Episode 352: Waiting On A Proposal

Episode 351: Not All People Are For Us But Some People Are

Episode 350: Middle School Teacher Drama

Episode 349: You're Unhappy And That's Okay

Episode 348: She Has a Crush On Your Husband...What Now?

Episode 347: He's Either A Hoarder or A Murderer

Episode 346: My New Boyfriend Has Cancer

Episode 345: Help! My Partner Is Moving In A Year!

Episode 344: Morticia & Gomez 4Ever

Episode 343: Labels Are Just Tape!

Episode 342: He Is Choosing Someone Who Lit Your Underwear On Fire

Episode 341: The Vulnerability of Shooting Your Shot

Episode 340: The Cliché of Heartbreak

Episode 339: The Emotional Gymnastics of a Yo-Yo Relationship

Episode 338: Unrequited Crushing On A Friend

Episode 337: You Don't Have To Talk About Your Abortion

Episode 336: This Man Is Trash

Episode 335: Am I Avoidant or Am I Just Unhappy?

Episode 334: P In V Sex is Not The Only Sex

Episode 333: Your Growth May Not Help Their Healing

Episode 332: Crushing On Greener Grass

Episode 331: Tired Of The "Should We Break Up?" Conversation

Episode 330: My Husband Didn't Tell His Mom We Got Married

Episode 329: Believing In Others' Capacity To Grow

Episode 328: How To Handle Having A Crush on Your Friend

Episode 327: Is It Bad To Date Someone Who Is "Safe?"

Episode 326: This Is Confusing Because It Is Confusing

Episode 325: I Can't Believe It's Not Rejection!

Episode 324: Haunted By A Ghost of Yom Kippur

Episode 323: His Silence is Speaking For Him

Episode 322: Caught In Communication Fatigue

Episode 321: Exes, Condoms, and A Private Investigator

Episode 320: Sitting On The Sidelines Together

Episode 319: Not My Best Friend's Best Friend

Episode 318: Hook Up With My Ex, Just Don't Lie About It

Episode 317: Is Marriage A Trap?

Episode 316: Relationship Escalator to Hell

Episode 315: Your Queer Love is Holy and Real

Episode 314: He's a Leo And An Only Child

Episode 313: Solo Poly Wanna Cracker?

Episode 312: Becoming A Stepparent

Episode 311: This AI Doesn't Even Know What Grindr Is

Episode 310: Keeping Your Friend's Secrets

Episode 309: Breaking Up As A Game Of Chicken

Episode 308: Miss Mcfeels-A-Lot

Episode 307: Letting Go Of A Difficult Love

Episode 306: The Difference Between A Boundary and A Rule

Episode 305: Advice for Dating Our Exes

Episode 304: All Of Our Brains Are Broken

Episode 303: You Can't Stop Bad Things From Happening

Episode 302: What We've Learned Over The Past 5 Years

Episode 301: Right Person + Wrong Time = Wrong Person

Episode 300: Libido? More Like Libidon't

Episode 299: Your Efforts Don't Guarantee An Outcome

Episode 298: When Their Growth Is Too Little Too Late

Episode 297: Tale of the Broke Bridesmaid

Episode 296: Spiraling Into The Anxiously Attached Abyss

Episode 295: Life Is Full Of Imperfect Choices

Episode 294: Discomfort Doesn't Mean We Are On The Wrong Path

Episode 293: Is It a Boundary or an Ultimatum?

Episode 292: Thanks For The Trauma, Mom!

Episode 291: Self Awareness Is Attractive

Episode 290: I Don't Want To Have Kids...With You

Episode 289: Not Awkward Is Not Real

Episode 288: Love Lost In Translation

Episode 287: Reversing the Relationship Escalator

Episode 286: People Need Other People

Episode 285: Addicted To Their Ex's Instagram

Episode 284: Is It Your Intuition or Your Anxiety?

Episode 283: You Don't Have To Act On Those Feelings

Episode 282: Does He Cosmically Owe You?

Episode 281: Let FedEx Return That Engagement Ring

Episode 280: You Can Let Go of That Pressure

Episode 279: Grief Has No Timeline

Episode 278: When is Ghosting Not Ghosting

Episode 277: Love Is Scary!

Episode 276: When To Let Go Of Hope

Episode 275: Everyone Knows You're Making Out in the Break Room

Episode 274: What To Wear When You Run Into Your Ex

Episode 273: Choosing The Harder Path

Episode 272: Am I A Homewrecker?

Episode 271: You're Confused Because It's Confusing

Episode 270: Their Sadness is Not Yours to Fix

Episode 269: Hot People Suck

Episode 268: It's Safe To Believe Your Own Experience

Episode 267: When Guilt Leads To Self-Sabotage

Episode 266: Holding Boundaries With Humanity

Episode 265: It's Okay To Miss Someone Who Hurt You

Episode 264: Internally Spiraling But Totally Fine

Episode 263: Stay Off Your Ex's Spotify

Episode 262: Relationships Are Not Transactional

Episode 261: How Long Are Our Exes A Part of Us?

Episode 260: Stability vs. Settling

Episode 259: Sometimes You Just Have To End It

Episode 258: Unfortunately the Answer is "Talk About It"

Episode 257: To Love Something So Impermanent

Episode 256: Punishment Doesn’t Work in Adulthood Either

Episode 255: You Can Only Say Your Truth So Many Times

Episode 254: The Emotional Block-Block-Block

Episode 253: Good News! You Get to Make Better Choices

Episode 252: It’s Literally Just… Not That Deep

Episode 251: Grab a Bucket & Get to Work

Episode 250: The Plot of Every “L Word” Episode Ever

Episode 249: Hormonal Hell? I Own A Timeshare There

Episode 248: Big City Woman Changes Her Mind

Episode 247: You’re Not Bridezilla, You’re Very, Very Human

Episode 246: Tropes Are Easy, But They Aren’t Our Truths

Episode 245: Seasons of Figuring It Out

Episode 244: Swimming Against the Undercurrent of Gender

Episode 243: Stop the Resentment Snowball In Its Tracks

Episode 242: Closure Isn’t Real (But I Still Want Some)

Episode 241: Now’s a Great Time to Take Care of Yourself

Episode 240: The Best Revenge is Forgetting

Episode 239: You're a Catch, a Babe, a Great Time!

Episode 238: Their Struggles Don’t Outweigh Your Safety

Episode 237: Their New Relationship is Not Your Failure

Go To Costco and Get That Candy

Episode 236: Where’s the Healthy Model for Friendships?!

Episode 235: The Universe Is Cruel & Chaotic, As Is Dating

Episode 234: Love vs. Attraction is Apples vs. Oranges

Episode 233: Their “I’m Fine” Is Not Your “I’m Fine”

Episode 232: Sex Could Be This Good THIS WHOLE TIME?!

Episode 231: Thankfully, Your Other Wells Have Water

Episode 230: Being Alone > Feeling Alone in a Relationship

Welcome to Just Break Up

If You’re Not Going To Stay, Make Room For Someone Who Will – An Interview with Yesika Salgado

Episode 229: Don’t Get Confused by the False Romance of Longing

Episode 228: What Ifs and The Relationship Multiverse

When You're Healed You Tell the Story Differently – An Interview with Camonghne Felix

Episode 227: Give Yourself Permission to Leave

Episode 226: Relationship Wants vs. Relationship Needs

Widowhood, Sexuality, and Complicated Grief – An Interview with Rebecca Woolf

Episode 225: Queer Heaven Has No Gates

Episode 224: It's More Nuanced Than Good Guy vs. Bad Guy

Acknowledging the Breakup: An Interview with JP Saxe

Announcing - There They Are: Breaking the Binary of Pageants

Episode 223: The Hurt Doesn’t Mean You’re Doing Something Wrong

Episode 222: Just Because It Looks Easy Doesn’t Mean It Is

Reframing Consent: An Interview with Leah Juliett

Episode 221: A Tall Order from an Imperfect Person

Episode 220: The Ever-Present Confusion of Our Early 20s

The Meaning of Sex: An Interview with Angela Chen

Episode 219: Too Much Self-Awareness Can Make Our Tummies Hurt

Episode 218: This is Not the Horrible Corpse You Think It Is

Penile Diversity: An Interview with Oscar Montoya

Episode 217: Are You More of An Ariel or Eric (or… Ursula)?

Episode 216: As If The Human Experience Wasn’t Hard Enough

Episode 215: Universal Chillness is Not Your Cross to Bear

Episode 214: We May Not Have Control, But We Do Have Power

Episode 213: “Agree to Disagree” Is For Books, Not Lived Experiences

Episode 212: Doesn’t Your Soul Cost More Than $5?

Episode 211: Yep, that sucks! And here we go again!

Episode 210: Tickling My Insecurities

Episode 209: You might be the toxic one if…

Episode 208: The Realms of Appropriateness

Episode 207: Yes, but WHEN do I block him?

Episode 206: That's Intimacy, Baby!

Episode 205: You Were Like A Pinball

Episode 204: A Lot of Boat Metaphors

Episode 203: It'll Be Crunchy Until It's Smooth

Patreon Bonus: A Heartbreaking Pickle

Episode 202: Of Course Things Came Out Sideways!

Episode 201: Where Are They Now? Pt. 4

Episode 200: Here's To Another 200 Years!

Episode 199: I Love Pizza AND My Wife

Episode 198: Multiple Sexual Apartments

Episode 197: Not All Podcast Hosts Are For Us

Episode 196: Sam and Sierra's Rainbow Tower

Patreon Bonus: Continuing The Conversation

Episode 195: The Parent Episode

Episode 194: A Whole Jar of Pickles

Episode 193: Butt Stuff Is the Trojan Horse

Episode 192: ALL CAPS WORK EMAILS

Episode 191: Let Yourself Hear What They're Saying

Episode 190: Where Are They Now? Pt. 3

Episode 189: Love Sandwich

Episode 188: Where Are They Now? Pt. 2

Patreon Bonus: More Love Songs!

Episode 187: The Sexisode: Labyrinth of the Labia

Episode 186: Where Are They Now? Pt. 1

Episode 185: Sam "Galaxy Brain" Blackwell

Episode 184: Toxic Positivity Villain

Episode 183: The Taco Bell of Sex

Episode 182: The Vulnerability Garden

Episode 181: Things Will Always Be Weird

Dating, Self-Care, and Chronic Illness: An Interview with Tonya Ingram

Episode 180: More Than the Sum of Our Butts

Episode 179: Sex Is Like Soup

Relationship Patterns and Working with Friends: An Interview with Trina Olson and Alfonso Wenker

Episode 178: A Blanket Statement You Can Unpack In Therapy Later

Accessing Your Higher Self: An Interview with Bunny Michael

Episode 177: The Introspective Elevator

Episode 176: Prioritize Your Peace

Desire and Communication: An Interview with Sex Therapist Casey Tanner

Episode 175: There's Something Better Out There

Episode 174: Our Tiny Little Brains!

Polyamory & Non-Monogamy: An Interview with Evita Lavitaloca Sawyers

Episode 173: A Band-Aid for a Wound of Insecurity

Patreon Bonus: Humbled by the Breadth of Human Experience

Episode 172: Is It Us, or Is It Capitalism?

Navigating Grief & Cultivating Joy in Partnerships: An Interview with Alyesha Wise and Matthew Cuban-Hernandez

Episode 171: Traditions Are Just Patterns

Episode 170: You Deserve to be Caretooketh

Online Dating & Interracial Relationships: An Interview with Melissa Lozada-Olivia

Episode 169: Humans Are Faulty

Episode 168: You Are Infinitely Capable

Body Positive Dating + Relationships - An Interview with Virgie Tovar

Episode 167: Let's Destigmatize "Experimenting"

Episode 166: Normal is Just a Setting on a Washing Machine

Emotional Maturity + Healing Parental Wounds - An Interview with Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson

Episode 165: Feelings Happen

Episode 164: How Are You Cherishing Yourself?

Episode 163: Returning to the Goo State

Episode 162: Clarity Makes the Heart Grow Stronger

Episode 161: There’s No Healthy Conflict On TV

Episode 160: Cool Bro, Good Luck with Your Parents

Episode 159: No Brakes on the Love Train

Episode 158: We’re All Just Sloppy

Patreon Episode: Trick That Lizard Into Chilling Out

Episode 157: Aging Into PBS’ Target Audience

Episode 156: It Doesn't Have to Make Sense to Be True

Episode 155: Real World Compatibility

Episode 154: Attraction is Subjective

Episode 153: Sam’s Not Here to Talk About Genitals

Episode 152: We’re All Uniquely F’d Up

Episode 151: Trying to Solve an Unsolvable Equation

Episode 150: JBU Turns Three!

Episode 149: Not a World For Naive Idealists

Episode 148: A Swimming Pool of Success

Episode 147: All Relationships Are Weird All The Time

Episode 146: Sam and Sierra Are Fighting

Episode 145: He’s Just a Dude

Episode 144: Noted, and Ignored

Episode 143: Uncomfortable Doesn't Necessarily Mean Unsafe

Episode 142: You Can't Date Half a Person

Episode 141: Having a Big Feeling

Episode 140: Everyone Is Annoying

Episode 139: The Sierra Sear

Episode 138: How Do You Block Someone On Linkedin?

Episode 137: 90% of Human Interaction Hurts

Episode 136: Hundreds of Small Decisions

Episode 135: You're Having Two Different Conversations

Episode 134: You Don't Need Anything Else

Episode 133: Sam the Time Travelin' Man

Episode 132: All In or All Out

Episode 131: Wrestling? Baseball? What’s the Difference?

Episode 130: Intimacy Is Like Exercise

Episode 129: The First Pancake Always Sucks

Invite Those Emotions In (Patreon bonus episode)

Episode 128: There Is No Normal

Episode 127: Receive Their Love!

Episode 126: You Didn’t Betray Yourself

Episode 125: Recognizing the Complexity

Episode 124: We're Allowed to Change Our Minds

Episode 123: Is the Juice Worth the Squeeze?

Episode 122: A Real Man Would Just Die In His Sleep

Episode 121: Blocker's Remorse

Episode 120: The Boring Love Story

Episode 119: We're All Still Learning

Episode 118: JBU Middle School

Episode 117: Does This Feel Good?

Episode 116: Accountability To The Self

Episode 115: Who Does This Serve?

Episode 114: You're Doing The Right Thing

Episode 113: Navigating The Nuance

Episode 112: You’re Worth More Than Crumbs

Episode 111: A Long-Term Waste Of Time

Episode 110: Don't Abandon Yourself

Episode 109: Intimacy Isn't Necessarily Compatibility

Episode 108: People Fall Out Of Love All The Time

Episode 107: Choosing The Unknown

Episode 106: Thomas the Train Wreck

Episode 105: We Have Time to Become More of Ourselves

Episode 104: A Weak Broth

Patreon Episode - April 29, 2020 [Gaslighting]

Episode 103: All Relationships Are Risks

Episode 102: 2-Year Anniversary Live Show!

Episode 101: Faith In My Feelings

Episode 100: And You Can Cook With It!

Episode 99: We'll Never Love Anyone Perfectly

Episode 98: You Are Whole, Even As You Become

Episode 97: Your Boyfriend Probably Has Debt

Episode 96: White Supremacy and Being Antiracist

In Solidarity

Episode 95: There Are No Rules

Episode 94: Relationships Are Hard Enough Already

Episode 93: The Rom Com Outcome

Episode 92: Thanks, But No Thanks

Episode 91: Just Wake Up

Episode 90: Emotional Labor

Episode 89: @Sam's_Muscles

Episode 88: I Started Dating the Abundance of the Universe

Episode 87: A Messy-Hearted Adult Baby

Episode 86: Their Love Is Not Going To Fix Your Life (Live From Oklahoma)

Episode 85: You're Doing This For You

Episode 84: Awkward Isn't Real

Episode 83: Being Young Sucks, I Don't Know Anything

Episode 82: Trauma Bonding

Episode 81: A Multifaceted Person Who Routinely Messes Up (Live in Brooklyn)

Episode 80: Boundaries First

Episode 79: It's Ok To Breakup With A Friend

Episode 78: You Are Not Asking For Too Much

Episode 77: Not All People Are For Me

Episode 76: AH! There's a Robot in my Bed!

Episode 75: What Does Trust Look Like?

Episode 74: The Diet Coke of Dating

Episode 73: You Deserve Someone Who Wants You

Episode 72: I'm Unhappy, Bye!

Episode 71: Divorce is Just Part of Life

Episode 70: Your Happiness Lies Ahead of You

Episode 69: Life is Too Short to be in a Mess Like This

Episode 68: I Want To Be Like Wet Clay (Live from Austin)

Episode 67: Ghost Boy

Episode 66: Can You Really Stay Friends With An Ex?

Episode 65: A New Nipple Hair

Episode 64: It's Okay To Want More

Episode 63: Cani Getadate

Episode 62: Do You Like Me or Like Like Me?

Episode 61: Choke Me Daddy

Episode 60: Drunk Texting “I Miss You” on a T9 Phone

Episode 59: I Wasn’t Being Uncommunicative; I Was In Vietnam for 7 Weeks and Didn’t Have Service

Episode 58: The FBI Has Seen All Angles Of My Naked Body

Episode 57: You May Never Know If They Cheated On You

Episode 56: Come On Voldemort, Let's Go To The Beach

Episode 55: Destigmatize the Sex Rut

Episode 54: Live Anniversary Show!

Episode 53: Making His Life Perfect & Mine a Living Hell!

Episode 52: He Is Not Worth Erasing Yourself Everyday For a Year

Episode 51: You Know What To Do

Episode 50: Romantic Convicts

Episode 49: Emotional Connection is My Drug of Choice

Episode 48: The Brain is a Bonkers Place

Episode 47: A Bit of a Pickle

Episode 46: Weird Sexual Encounters of the Third Kind

Episode 45: Dear Ex, I Hope You're In Therapy

Episode 44: Boom Boom Boom Boom AHHhhAahhhaaa

Episode 43: Everybody's Dumpable

Episode 42: When All Your Hard Work Just Doesn’t Work

Episode 41: Sam's Nightmare, Sierra's Wet Dream

Episode 40: Frolicking With a Peasant Boy Named Ralph

Episode 39: This Is Your Heart On Heartbreak

Episode 38: Totally Not About Butt Stuff

Episode 37: In Which Sam Attempts to Quote Wayne Gretzky

Episode 36: Hippie Woo Woo Bullsh*t Self Love Bla Bla Bla #Instagram F*ckin Whatever

Episode 35: Fluent In The Language Of “Well, He Did It Because...”

Episode 34: Boy Bye (Pay Us $1000)

Episode 33: Back in My Day, You Just Poked A Man With A Stick

Episode 32: An Emotionally Unavailable Kitchen Sponge of a Human

Episode 31: You Don’t Have To Be Friends With Your Exes

Bonus Episode: 10 Tips for Surviving February 14th

Episode 30: How to Not Take Someone Else's Relationship Personally

Episode 29: Overextending Yourself Isn't Love

Episode 28: I Don't Trust You But Here Is My Heart

Episode 27: Pedastool

Episode 26: Tiny Little Boner in Your Heart

Episode 25: In What Way Has This Been Great For You

Episode 24: Fa La La La Block

Episode 23: Shame Can't Live in the Dark...I Mean Light

Episode 22: Ghosts Can't Text

Episode 21: To Know You And Love You So Simply

Episode 20: Surprise Boner!

Episode 19: I Wanna Be Happy For You But I'm Insanely Jealous

Episode 18: Peanut Butter in Bed

Episode 17: The Word of the Day Is Sustainability

Episode 16: I Don't Want Your Wishy-Washy Tepid Bullshit

Episode 15: Let Me Be Great

Episode 14: It Will Never Make Sense

Episode 13: I'm Not Listening to the Words He's Saying

Episode 12: Quit This S*** Girl

Congratulations Sam & Peter!

Episode 11: There Are Whole States I Can't Go Back To (with Olivia Gatwood)

Episode 10: The Relationship Dump

Episode 9: Affirmation Masturbation

Episode 8: I Too Have Loved A Tank of Toxic Sludge

Episode 7: Two Virgins Who Can’t Drive

Episode 6: Frickin' Robert Frost

Episode 5: That Butterfly Is Intimacy

Episode 4: Don't You Know That You're Toxic?

Episode 3: #BlockBlockBlockBlockBlock

Episode 2: I Just Unbuttoned My Pants

Episode 1: Tent Sex