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Kind [of a] B!*ch
by Liz Hake
Society loves to label people who are bold, confident, and direct as ”bitches”. But here’s the thing—shrinking to avoid that label doesn’t serve you or anyone else. This podcast is about owning your strength, speaking up, and showing up fully as yourself.For most of my life, I cared deeply about what people thought of me. I was the “good, nice girl,” which worked… to an extent. When I pivoted from a career as a professional performer to the cutthroat world of real estate, I struggled with this fear of being called a name for being bold and direct. But I learned that showing up as my authentic self—unapologetically bold—wasn’t just freeing; it was the key to success for me and my clients.This podcast is for anyone who’s tired of shrinking themselves to fit other people’s expectations. Whether you’re rebuilding your confidence, stepping into leadership, or just figuring out how to say “no” without guilt, this is the space for you.We’ll dive into stories of transformation—mine, and th
Episodes
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Taking a Beat | Ep 50
We've made it to 50 episodes! One year of creation, musing, dedication and consistency and SO much learning. Today we're talking about the Law of Least Regret and what intentions I'm taking with me into 2026. And with that, we're also taking a break! I don't know what's next for Kind [of a]…
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How Do You Measure A Year? | Ep 49
I used to be afraid of setting goals because missing one felt like a personal failure. In this episode, I'm reflecting on how my relationship with goals has changed, what happens when life responds to your effort in unexpected ways, and why I'm learning to trust timing instead of forced outcomes....
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Hot Take: Skip the 75 Hard Challenge | Ep 48
I love discipline. I love effort. I do not love programs that promise confidence and grit through rigid rules and punishment for being human. In this episode, I explain why 75 Hard looks like mental toughness on the surface but actually trains compliance, not self-mastery. I talk about why…
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New Year Manifesting vs Goal Setting | Ep 47
Manifesting and goal setting are often treated like opposite approaches to New Year resolutions, but they are meant to work together. In this episode, we explore why vision without action leads to frustration, why hard work without intention leads to burnout, and how identity-based action is what...
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Letting Your Boundary Speak For Itself | Ep 46
This episode is for the anxious ones. The people who like to over explain, justify, or provide additional PROOF when a simple "no" would suffice. Today we'll talk about the pressure to perform when setting a boundary. That urge to educate and explain shows up fast, especially when we are…
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Social Anxiety - The Mental Load of Managing Perception | Ep 45
In this episode, we dig into a form of social anxiety most people never talk about. It is not fear of people...it's the fear of being misread. The fear of being seen as harsh, cold, intense, or unkind when we are simply being ourselves. We'll explore why this type of anxiety shows up so often for...
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Stop Waiting for January | Ep 44
I'm making the case for why we should ditch the New Year resolutions and just start NOW. In this episode, I'm unpacking the quiet trap of hesitation and why the New Year often convinces us to wait for a version of ourselves that feels more ready. After spending an entire weekend spiraling about a...
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Micro Actions = Macro Impact | Ep 43
Everyone wants a village, but no one wants to be a villager. This gauge is how I measure whether giving will burn me out, or build the village and I have been using it CONSTANTLY. If you're an overgiver-turned-boundaries queen, feeling burnt out, or lonely, this one is for you.
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Do We Need Friction to Feel Joy? | Ep 42
Do we need friction to feel joy? This is an exploration today.. not a fully formed thought, but something that has been on my mind as I come out of the fog of my own tough season. Today we'll explore how the contrast between hard seasons and moments of ease create big moments of joy. Part…
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On Having the AUDACITY: To Rest | Ep 41
In this final episode of the Audacity series, we're tackling one of the hardest things to do in a culture that celebrates hustle... REST. In the words of Tricia Hersey from The Nap Ministry: "Rest is an act of resistance." This episode is a big reminder to myself that recovery is the true key to...
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Having The AUDACITY: To Change Your Mind | Ep 40
What if changing our minds was viewed not as flakiness, but as paying attention to our intuition? Today we'll discuss the courage it takes to pivot and to outgrow old plans or expectations. We'll unpack what the research says about growth mindset and why it’s so hard to let go of the identity...
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On Having the AUDACITY: To Say NO | Ep39
Why is it that honoring our own "no" often makes us feel the most difficult. The most selfish. And the most AUDACIOUS? Today we're discussing the audacity to say no and how redirecting that energy towards life's best "Yes's" is the only way to go.
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On Having the AUDACITY: Take Up Space | ep38
Taking up space isn’t necessarily about being louder... It’s about being rooted in who you are! In this episode I'm exploring what it really looks like to show up fully... without over-explaining, over-performing, or apologizing for it. It’s about learning to hold your own energy with confidence...
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On Having The AUDACITY to Want More | Ep 37
What if wanting more isn’t selfish — it’s honest? In this first episode of the Having the Audacity series, we unpack what it really means to let ourselves want more. More freedom, more peace, more choice — and yes, sometimes more money. We talk about the guilt and judgment that can come with...
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"You have GOT to be Kidding Me" | Ep 36
Ever had someone test your patience so hard you almost lost it? This week, I found myself three days into a negotiation with an agent who left me hanging, only to come back with what I call a “fuck you counter.” I snapped — and typed, “You have GOT to be kidding me.” Not my most professional...
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The Luck Laboratory: RESILIENCE + BLUEPRINT | Ep 35
Over the past four episodes of the Luck Laboratory, we’ve explored the mindset shifts, bold risks, and authentic connections that shape the way luck shows up in our lives. In this final episode, we pull it all together into a practical framework — a Luck Blueprint you can actually use. We’ll dig...
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The Luck Laboratory: CONNECTION | Ep34
We often think of luck as random, but so many of the ‘lucky breaks’ we admire happen through PEOPLE. In this episode of the Luck Laboratory, we explore why authentic connection is a powerful magnet for opportunity. We’ll talk about how trust and real relationships create doors that hustle alone...
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The Luck Laboratory: ACTION | Ep 33
We’ve all heard the phrase ‘luck favors the bold,’ but what does that actually mean? In this episode, we dig into the psychology of risk-taking and the hidden role of survivorship bias—the way we only see the success stories, not the failures that paved the way. We’ll talk about why stepping into...
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The Luck Laboratory: MINDSET | Ep 32
Want to get luckier? It starts with the way we think. In this episode, we'll dive into the mindset shifts that help us notice opportunities, make better decisions, and stay open to chance events. Plus, we explore practical strategies to create more moments where luck can find us...because the…
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Lessons From Inside The Spiral | Ep 31
We’ve all been there — stuck in an anxiety spiral that feels impossible to escape. In this episode, I share the story of one of my most ridiculous spirals, what science says about why our brains latch onto fear, and how to catch yourself before you spin out. Email us at [email protected]. Book…
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Becoming a B!*ch Who Loves Herself | Ep 30
There are few things that make people angrier than a woman who loves herself. And I'm not talking selfcare, but women who are actually in love with who they are: their character, their quirks, their bodies, etc. If you are feeling out of touch with YOURSELF - woman or not - I'm sharing a few...
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Unshrinkable - Mini Series - Part 3 | ep 29
Our LAST episode in the Unshrinkable mini series! One off-the-cuff TikTok post lit up my comments section—and not in a good way. In this episode, I share how I navigated the echo chamber without losing myself, and the choice I made that helped me move forward. This series is about clarity,...
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Unshrinkable - Mini Series - Part 2 | ep 28
This three-part series is for anyone who's ever felt the urge to contort themselves to fit—into a gig, a room, a conversation, or someone else's expectations. Unshrinkable is about resisting that urge. In this mini-series, I unpack three real moments where I felt myself start to shrink—and chose...
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Unshrinkable - Mini Series Part 1 | Ep 27
This three-part series is for anyone who's ever felt the urge to contort themselves to fit—into a gig, a room, a conversation, or someone else's expectations. Unshrinkable is about resisting that urge. In this mini-series, I unpack three real moments where I felt myself start to shrink—and chose...
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Handle With Care: The Art of Delivering Hard Truths | Ep 26
So you've found yourself the bearer of bad news and you don't know what to do? This episode is for you. I'm discussing the art of sharing hard truths: How to get your energy right, how to open up the convo, and how to sit with someone else's discomfort. No one likes to see someone else...
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When Rest Doesn't Help and the Hustle Isn't Working | Ep 25
The truth about self love and discipline. What are we getting confused about those two things? Are they opposites? Or are they partners? How can adding novelty can recharge ordinary things? How can showing up in more active ways can actually be recharging? How do we show up when we don't want to?...
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Professionalism + Vulnerability: Walking the Line | Ep 24
Today's buzzwords are all about authenticity and vulnerability. But does too much vulnerability start to look unprofessional? As a fellow oversharer, deep conversation haver, and somewhat open book with those I meet, learning to discern when vulnerability was appropriate was a journey. We're...
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A Boundaries Backslide | Ep 23
We've all been there. Working hard on our personal growth journey only to get completely thrown off course and think: "Wait I thought I was over this?" Is it a backslide? A regression perhaps? I'm sharing about my own personal experience with a backslide and what happened to finally snap me out…
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Soft X Savage | Ep 22
Soft Girl vs Bad B!*ch... which one are you?! In today's episode we're going to talk about the necessity of needing BOTH. I have often felt this push/pull between the two archetypes and I am over it. The power of being able to access both is the name of the game. If you've ever felt "too…
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The Power of Giving A Little Extra | Ep 21
What would happen if you gave just a little extra? A little more time? Additional attention? An unnecessary thank you note? A little extra magic? Today we're talking about a few of the principles in Will Guidara's book "Unreasonable Hospitality" and how they can be applied, no matter what your...
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Creating More Freedom Through Structure | Ep 20
Let's be clear... This one's for me. It's the season where we look at our socials and see everybody seemingly going on multiple european vacations, making money from a sailboat, or enjoying lazy days while apparently running massive businesses. It can be hard to follow the routine when it feels...
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Funk-Busters: Turning Sad Girl Days to Bad Girl Days | Ep 19
After a few (what I like to call) sad girl days in a row, I thought to myself "there has to be some quick tips to turn these days around." I'm not talking about crisis or grief... I'm talking about a FUNK. While I am a huge proponent of sitting with emotions, feeling into them, and taking time to...
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Lucky B!*ch - Can We Cultivate More Luck? | Ep 18
Ever looked at someone in your life and think "lucky b!*ch."? Someone who always seems to stumble upon good fortune? The butterfly effect trend online has me thinking about luck and how or IF we can cultivate more of it. Want to become a lucky b!*tch? Listen in! AM I THE B!TCH? Series: Do you…
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Professionally GHOSTED: A Modern Horror Story | Ep 17
There are fewer things that sting more than being GHOSTED... But what about when it's professional vs personal? Today I'm sharing my own stories of being professionally ghosted as well as some of the mindset and strategies to avoid and recover from the same fate. Got any professional ghosting...
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The Boundary Hangover | Ep 16
Ever notice yourself navigating guilt, discomfort, or insecurity after setting a boundary? Today, we're talking about it. AM I THE B!TCH? Series: Do you have a situation or story to share? Send us your stories that have left you wondering "wait... am I the b!tch?" and I'll discuss on the mic!...
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...Can I Be A B!tch For A Sec? | Ep 15
Today we're talking PETTY PEEVES. Sometimes you just want to LET IT ALL OUT and recently I've started keeping a list of the things that get under my skin on a regular basis. But how are all these things connected? And what does it say about me? Any peeves you'd like to share? The pettier, the...
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The F Word: Rebranding Failure | Ep 14
My least favorite F Word, if we're honest. Today we're talking about failure and how we can all reframe this very human experience into a potential positive. This is for you if: You're holding back on doing something because you're afraid of looking stupid. You're biting your tongue in…
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What To Do When You're Tired of Waffling | Ep 13
Are you stuck in an indecision spiral? I'm sharing my method for decision making in my own life (the three-legged stool of decision making), as well as way to support others while they're spinning. AM I THE B!TCH? Series: Do you have a situation or story to share? Send us your stories that have...
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Honesty Is A B!*ch | Ep 12
Honesty in relationships, in friendships, in career, and with yourself.... ...Is a B!*CH. Today we're addressing how honesty can make you a [insert favorite insult here], but it can also set you free. This has been a tough one for me to learn and it has certainly ruffled some feathers, but the…
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Permission to QUIT | Ep 11
Today we're exploring the power of being a QUITTER. When you know something isn't working for you. When your needs aren't being met. When the juice isn't worth the squeeze. We're NOT talking about quitting because things are hard... it's about quitting when things aren't RIGHT. AM I THE B!TCH?...
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Are We Only Type-A Because We Have To Be? | Ep 10
This week, I'm exploring the idea of "Circumstantial Type-A" personalities. Are we only Type-A because we had to be? If there is another Type-A in the group that we could trust to lead, would we be happy to follow? I'm sharing the differences and strengths of all types, trying to decide if I am a...
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What I SHOULD'VE Said | Ep 09
If one of your favorite pastimes is replaying a situation over and over so you can figure out what you SHOULD have said, this episode is for you. I'm sharing a step by step process to get better at responding in the moment because I KNOW you're exhausted by the ruminating. **note: not all...
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Lessons My Dog Taught Me | Ep 08
This will be a personal one. 7 years ago we adopted a dog who turned out to have some special needs we were not expecting. He has been one of my greatest teachers in boundary setting, saying no, and advocating for his comfort and safety (and everyone's safety!) no matter whether it disappoints...
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The Nice Girl Trap | Ep 07
I did it again. I overcommitted and made plans in advance, and now the time has come for me to follow through on these plans and I am OVERWHELMED. But someone else just asked me to help them with a project, or to attend their birthday party, or to pick my brain about how to grow their business.…
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Giving Less: The Kind Girl's Dilemma | Ep 06
Ever feel the need to fill that awkward silence when you have nothing to say? What about asking for a raise and following it with "No worries if not"? How about the inclination to laugh and brush it off when the "joke" is personal? Today we're exploring the Kind Girl's urge to jump in and soothe,...
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Kind [of a] B!*ch with Julie Johnson | Ep 05
I'm sitting down with the Queen of Lending, Julie Johnson. Julie is a top producing mortgage broker whose story is captivating and inspiring. She is a true example of how leading with kindness and striving for greatness TOGETHER is what builds an empire. You'll walk away with insights into how to...
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Kind [of an] Imposter | Ep 04
As we work our way towards badass b!tch status, we're all going to bump up against it... The self-doubt, the nagging voices reminding us we're not good enough. You guessed it: Imposter Syndrome. Join me as I talk MYSELF through a week where my own confidence has been dragging. Thankfully for me,...
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In My Imperfection Era | Ep 03
Is the pursuit of perfectionism holding you back? Embrace your Imperfection Era with me! Walk through the tools I use and questions I ask myself when I'm bumping up against the bad habit of aiming for perfection. Stories and musings galore! AM I THE B!TCH? Series: Do you have a situation or story...
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The Art of Getting What You Want | Ep 02
In order to get what you need in this life, you're going to need to be able to SELL. It's not what you think. We're "selling" ourselves every day; from negotiating a raise, courting a new partner, asking for an email response, or simply making a friend. As a pivot-master and multi-hyphenate, I'm...
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Becoming A Better B!*ch | Ep 01
Let's explore the concept of becoming a better b!tch, shall we? There are a key lessons I've learned (and am currently learning) along the way, and today I'm sharing them with you. Hope you hear something that resonates!
About this show
Society loves to label people who are bold, confident, and direct as ”bitches”. But here’s the thing—shrinking to avoid that label doesn’t serve you or anyone else. This podcast is about owning your strength, speaking up, and showing up fully as yourself.For most of my life, I cared deeply about what people thought of me. I was the “good, nice girl,” which worked… to an extent. When I pivoted from a career as a professional performer to the cutthroat world of real estate, I struggled with this fear of being called a name for being bold and direct. But I learned that showing up as my authentic self—unapologetically bold—wasn’t just freeing; it was the key to success for me and my clients.This podcast is for anyone who’s tired of shrinking themselves to fit other people’s expectations. Whether you’re rebuilding your confidence, stepping into leadership, or just figuring out how to say “no” without guilt, this is the space for you.We’ll dive into stories of transformation—mine, and th
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