Know Your Crazy with Susan Denee

My story of recovery from alcoholism and addiction   Watch: https://youtu.be/56fPQUESKVQ 

Have you ever felt as if you lost your voice at work? Are you having imaginary conversations with your boss and winning - and they don't even know you are unhappy? What would it take for you to communicate your disagreement with policies, procedures, maybe even personalities in the office? Often, we remain silent instead of being brave, only to find that our silence is a symptom of our doormat side. Learning to spot, treat, and heal this is what today's show is all about.    Watch:https://youtu.be/D0zpe3eku20 

Do you ever doubt your decisions? Do you wonder, "Where did that decision come from?" Or, "why don't I feel better about my decisions? Well, how is your sense of agency? Agency is the feeling of control over actions and their consequences. The more control we have, the better we feel. Control sometimes gets a bad name, but healthy control feels wonderful. Please join me for the show as I discuss the difference between the feeling of agency and the judgment of agency.    Watch: https://youtu.be/Q-dm6bQT5dA 

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Have you been feeling less than excited about your partner? Your friend? Your co-worker?  Have you been focused on what they are NOT doing more than what they are doing?  Does it feel as if something has gone cold??? Well, we have all been there, and in today's show I will provide some simple tools to help get your relationship back on track! Sometimes, only a simple tune up is needed!    Watch: https://youtu.be/zssBx89Kcr0 

In this episode of Know Your Crazy, host Susan dives into the concept of "packing the luggage of problems"—the tendency to let one challenge snowball into an overwhelming sense of chaos. Through personal experiences, insights from clients, and powerful reflections, Susan explores how we can recognize our "crazy," shift our mindset, and stop letting stress consume us. She discusses the importance of staying present, finding meaning in struggles, and reclaiming confidence in difficult times. With wisdom from Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning and a dose of humor, this episode will help you unpack the emotional baggage and move forward with clarity and resilience. Tune in for a raw, insightful, and empowering conversation about navigating life's inevitable ups and downs.   Watch: https://youtu.be/QvIW-2zFNAw 

 They say, “You don’t have to change much, just everything.” Saying it and doing it are two different actions. What happens when the social marketing event excludes you, they don’t invite you for “building relationships” after the event because they know you are sober. Or the family gathering is awkward now, not only because you are the only sober one, but because you see a few family members might be playing on your team, if you know what I mean. Loneliness we drank over. Taking the drink to fit in, to take the edge off, but now that the drink is not an option to lubricate the uncomfortableness, what do we do?   Watch here: https://youtu.be/r_2_R35O9wk  

Have you ever been on the receiving end of someone else's righteous attitude? How did it make you feel? Have you been the righteous one? Today's show concerns righteousness and the pitfalls it can create in our relationships when we are not harmonizing it with humility. An inspired share around the impact of alcoholism and addiction with those we love.  Watch https://www.transformationtalkradio.com/watch.html 

Do you become consumed with them the moment you enter the room they are in? Does this happen daily? Maybe 4 times a week? Who in your world do you think TOO MUCH about? Well, if this resonates with you, then you have likely placed someone else's opinions, moods, behaviors, and presence as more important than your authority. It happens to all of us. In today's show, I will discuss how to remove them from the role of Higher Power by reclaiming your authority within the relationship.  Watch https://www.transformationtalkradio.com/watch.html 

Have you ever felt unheard in a relationship? Have you ever felt as if your boss doesn't acknowledge your ideas? Do you often feel misunderstood within your intimate relationship? When we try too hard to have a positive outcome in our favor in our valued relationships, we sometimes do ourselves more harm than good! In today's show, I will discuss why spot-checking a habit of trying to perfect your words within a valued relationship doesn't serve your highest self and isn't fair to the other person. I will suggest how to "pivot" your communication so you can authentically share the true and divine you, that is worth the best of life!  Watch https://www.transformationtalkradio.com/watch.html 

Has life gotten so full that you consistently feel like you lack time? what does it require for you to get present with the moment lately? What happens when things like relationships and careers feel big, almost impossible? What about when it's all good stuff? In today's show, I will share the power of taking things - One at a time. 

Have you considered you might be a little obsessed with your partner's behaviors? Do you constantly reminisce over what they are NOT doing correctly? Do you suffer from the illusion that if ONLY they would change all would be well for you? Or perhaps the delusion is you are always RIGHT - therefore, there is no compromise in your relationship(s). Well, if so, this show will highlight some of the struggles with these three topics and follow with solutions for you - it will provide hope for you amid the relationship storm that all is well if you are willing to do the inner search about you to make it happen! 

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Has the excitement fizzled out? Did the momentum go from the speed of light to the speed of a turtle? Do you find yourself hopeless regarding your future? Have the expenses become overwhelming? Does the number of "to-do's" feel endless? If so, I'm here to share that there are always tricks to keep our motivation focused on forward momentum so we don't stop. We don't quit. Yes, the dream is still a possibility! Join me today on the Know Your Crazy Show as I discuss four key takeaways that will keep you in the game of motivation.    Watch: https://youtu.be/F8kMnwcO_kU  

Have you ever hit a wall in a relationship? You know - "they" aren't changing fast enough and you are spending hours in an emotional "fight or flight" mode? Are you the couple that is considering therapy - but secretly one of you is thinking it's the "other one" that truly needs it? How do you "stay in the ring" with your partner, when you are losing all patience with the amount of time it seems to be taking? Well, if you are in a relationship where staying seems harder than leaving, stay tuned for this show! Joe and I will share our experience, strength, and hope as a married couple who has learned HOW to be patient with one another as each of us grows individually and then WE grow as a partnership. This show is a must for any couple who believes in personal growth and, therefore, relationship growth, and is running out of patience.

  In the recovery world, we sometimes call alcoholism the disease of perception. Doesn’t it feel true, that you emotionally feel better when you have had time to gain a new perspective on the situation? What if that situation is your day-to-day life? Research shows that individuals today tend to carry more stress and anxiety than ever before! What about you? What is your stress barometer today? Most days? Today’s show will discuss my top three perceptions to consider to help reduce your stress.  

Are some of your relationships more emotionally triggering than others? What happens when you are married to them? Or they are your children? What about your employer? Or Your Clients? Why do we continue to participate in relationships that seem to cause more uncomfortableness than comfortableness? Well, what if you considered you are addicted to them? And the energy that you exchange with them when participating emotionally with them? Being afflicted with stress when it comes to some relationships can be as solvable as identifying the trigger, and learning how to separate yourself from it – not them.

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Right, wrong, or indifferent to goal setting for the year - you can't deny it goes through most people's minds that they can either get a "redo" for the next year or "let go" of the prior year. Now, yes....every day could be used to change it up, and that would be the best-case scenario - AND, using the beginning of the year to set goals and set aside time for reflection can benefit our mindset.    Today's show will focus on ideas on what you want to STOP doing, what you would like to START doing, and what you would like to CONTINUE doing! When we get to the continuing part, I will be helping guide you through a mini High-Performance Productivity and Challenge session.    Let's go! 

It was never the large dramatic decisions that caused the turmoil in the past but the minutia within the process of making day-to-day decisions that caused the biggest meltdowns. Whether raised in a dysfunctional home or someone who had to rely on themselves for their whole life, often our relationship process regarding decision-making can use an upgrade – shall we say quality control? LLCs reminded me recently of the details required to help make contractual agreements work, so the next thought was, what are the operating agreements within our intimate relationships? Our familial relationships? If this topic piques your interest, join me at 5 pm PST for the Know Your Crazy Show as I discuss simple solutions for an out-of-whack operating agreement!

Have you come far enough along in your personal awareness journey to truly identify what your biggest relationship weakness is? Here are a few ideas for you: Emotional Withholding, lack of communication, too much communication, judgment, knowing everything, enabling, super doormat, super bulldozer, the fixer, the avoider. Join me on this show to see what I can help you discover about yourself regarding your relationship hang-ups! Prepare for that holiday get-together as we work together to unleash a solution to help with those relationship hiccups.

Have you ever felt as if someone else’s crazy was spilling over into your psyche? Did you become confused, almost a – WTF? Am I nuts? Or did they really just do that? And what do you do with the emotions resulting in the aftermath of witnessing or experiencing their crazy? How do you calm down, reflect, and not blow up at them? Or do you? If any of this resonates with you, then please tune in today to the Know Your Crazy Show because I am HOT on this topic today.

Falling prey to depression, or the "lull" when you feel aimless in life, can happen to the best of all of us, but what happens when it falls on those of us who are sober? Does a drink or drug sound like a good idea, to enhance our life moment? How does a sober person avoid becoming emotionally stalled and, therefore, intrinsically lifeless? If we want to have a new experience in life, we MUST make a new decision - yet that can sometimes feel overwhelming and pointless. How do we do it? And Why should we do it? Is it time for you to make a new decision? If so, listen in today, as I discuss the power of changing it up, by changing your mind. 

Have you ever felt as if nothing is working for you? Have you lost sight of what is important? Does it take a movie to jolt you back into an authentic appreciation for the tenderness of relationships? If so, then today's show will elevate you into the action of appreciation. The difference between gratitude and appreciation is present vs. the past. In today's show, I will teach the eight aspects of appreciation to help you realign with the joy of life.

It’s not unusual to be in recovery and have had a divorce or two or even three! nor is it unusual to have children from an “ex” that you are responsible for. So, divorced, sober, and likely have some co-dependency issues. Do you wonder what to do with all the emotions of single parenting, co-parenting, and step-parenting? Let alone how to be a loving and supportive partner. Maybe your ex is the one with the blended family, and you stand on the sideline judging how they do it? Assuming you think you know the “right” way.   One of my favorite past sayings was, “Parenting didn’t come with a handbook, but it should have; why did no one tell me about…….” Let alone stepparenting. I was a step-parent before I was a birth parent. Then there is the learning how to navigate with your partner. What is mine to parent? What is theirs?   Watch: https://youtu.be/nhB_0xaSzPc

Couples in recovery share an authentic understanding of addiction and what it can do to them. Couples also have a shared language amongst them, that is unique to their relationship. However, what occurs when the emotions run high? Do they communicate in the same way? Is it all drama? What if dry alcoholism creeps in - what then?    In today's show, Susan Denee is joined by her husband Joe, to discuss topics such as the impact of our words with one another in recovery, the relationship patterns/addictions we can fall into, and how to effectively recover from tension that does arrive within the relationship.  

Do you know the words, incidents, situations, and kinds of people that will send you over the edge and into an emotional meltdown? How do you stop yourself flying off the handle with your boss, yelling unreasonably at your kids, or losing it completely with your husband to the point of no return? For some of us, these ‘moments of crazy’ can destroy everything we’ve worked for, and for others, it can mean returning to destructive behaviors like substance abuse.     

"They gave me an offer - "a package"  in writing; I don’t even know they do that now.” These were the exact words of a coaching client of mine. I realized that although it sounds like a great idea to “find yourself” in your mid-forties, maybe even thirties, it’s not as easy as you may think. Learning how the job market operates in 2023, is a lot different than the times when we were knocking on the door, asking to fill out a paper application! Soon after, I was put in touch with Today’s guest, Aaron Thweatt, who is not only an expert in salary negotiation but also a certified high-performance coach helping individuals find their ultimate clarity in life.  

For those of us who get sober in the rooms of recovery, dare I say, AA, NA, MA or the likes, we understand the ultimate goal is to give back what has been given freely to us. It’s the icing on the cake per se. Not everyone “sponsors” – that is the term or the title given to someone who takes another person “under their wing” and helps them find a new way of living so they don’t relapse. It’s this service that glues the recovery programs together. But, many refrain from it because they are scared they will do it wrong, or they suffer from the “perfectionists” attitude. In today’s show, I am going to give 4 tops lessons I learned in sponsoring somewhere between 100- 200 women over a span of 20 years. Now, I do not hold a degree in psychology (yet). This is street smart, common sense, taught lessons from my owns sponsors of the years, and a whole lotta practice that brings these to the forefront. I picked Four, but really there are dozens of lessons I learned . From parenting to marriage to friendship, to awareness of co-dependency habits within myself and others.

Has the excitement fizzled out? Did the momentum go from the speed of light to the speed of a turtle? Do you find yourself hopeless regarding your future? Have the expenses become overwhelming? Does the number of "to-do's" feel endless? If so, I'm here to share that there are always tricks to keep our motivation focused on forward momentum so we don't stop. We don't quit. Yes, the dream is still a possibility! Join me today on the Know Your Crazy Show as I discuss four key takeaways that will keep you in the game of motivation.    Watch: https://youtu.be/F8kMnwcO_kU

Know your crazy with Susan Denee! 

All of sudden, the work projects feel overwhelming. What you were going to say vanishes from your brain before you take your next breath. The word "goal" is now a four-letter word, not in a good way. Does any of this resonate with you? ADHD symptoms exasperated during the perimenopause phase of a woman's journey are real - yes, it's another form of our crazy, although not our fault, we get to look at and learn from! 

Have you asked yourself, am I addicted to sugar? Do you truly understand how it impacts your body, specifically your brain? Do you find you can’t stop eating foods that are high in sugar? Do you feel like you are a food addict? Well, if any of that resonates with you, then today’s guest, Anna Fruehling, will be a godsend for you! Join us as we discuss how to RECOVER from sugar addiction. Anna will be sharing a simple 3-step approach to help steer you from active addiction and into a progressive solution!

 They say, “You don’t have to change much, just everything.” Saying it and doing it are two different actions. What happens when the social marketing event excludes you, they don’t invite you for “building relationships” after the event because they know you are sober. Or the family gathering is awkward now, not only because you are the only sober one, but because you see a few family members might be playing on your team, if you know what I mean. Loneliness we drank over. Taking the drink to fit in, to take the edge off, but now that the drink is not an option to lubricate the uncomfortableness, what do we do?   Watch here: https://youtu.be/r_2_R35O9wk  

Do you get tired more often then not these days? Do you feel less enthusiasm than, let’s say your younger years? Did you once have goals and dreams, and since have tossed in the towel and settled? Well, if so, todays show will help you get back on track with the younger, vibrant you!   Watch here: https://youtu.be/ePr_AhiFzZ8  

Do you decide how you feel AFTER looking and feeling about your partner in your life? Do you become enmeshed in another person's feelings BEFORE deciding on how you feel? Do your thoughts fill with thoughts of others constantly? Do you worry about what they think of you? Does it wound you deeply when someone expresses disappointment in you?

Do you suffer from PTSD? What about depression? Have you tried nearly every anti-depressant on the market and still feel hopeless about a solution? If so, you may be aware of the recent upswing in the discussion surrounding the use of psychedelics such as psilocybin and psilocin to help relieve the pain of such disorders. Listen in today as I talk with advocate Greg Rea on this topic. Greg is a retired SWAT team survivor who not only overcame high-functioning alcoholism through his experience with psychedelics but also through years of negative self-talk. He has a multi-layered solution, which includes surrounding himself with a community of men who share a similar professional background and are willing to share their daily struggles and solutions openly. If you are curious about the details, tune in, this will be a great show!

Do you know anyone who when you are in their presence, you automatically feel better? They seem to carry a level of calm, which transmits to you. Do you know anyone who makes you laugh, or fills you with joy within a moment of getting in contact with them? In all these scenarios, you have been calibrated to their energy, their “chi.” You have been co-regulated, per se. In today’s show, I will share the power of co-regulation and the “know-how” and “know-how nots” of co-regulation within your relationships.

Do you have someone in your life that has tremendous potential yet can't seem to apply common sense to their life choices? Do you feel you are left picking up the pieces of their inaction? This person might be someone you love or, at minimum respected, that is why it's hard to be angry. You have been tolerating their choices and behaviors for so long that you hear yourself justify why you don't just 86 them. You might be experiencing SAD MAD. You are angry yet numb to the pain of prolonged inaction in someone you care about. You wished they could just "get it", and when they don't, you don't necessarily scream and yell; instead, you bury the disappointment within and do your best to move on. On today's show, I will be going into detail about SAD MAD, how to identify it, how to deal with it, and once and for all, get rid of it!   Watch: https://youtu.be/nz7g-jmmuz4 

How many ways are there to communicate? When and where you choose a communication style is unique to you. Maybe you are defensive at work but passive at home. Do you switch communication roles dependent on how other people are behaving? Tune into today's show to learn more about your communication style; the pros and cons of it!    Watch  https://youtu.be/GQ_C87KMqhY

Do you think the relationship hurdles are the other persons fault? Does their seeming dysfunction speak louder than yours? It’s easy to become trapped in the worry around the other person not changing enough, quick enough for you. But what happens when that worry becomes an obsession, and you can’t seem to let go?   Watch https://youtu.be/aQYbUe74jxk

Many writers suffer the agony of having a great idea, only to see it fall far short of brilliance once on the page. It doesn't have to be this way.  "Most people who write suffer needless writer's block and self-doubt," Says Todd Brison, aware winning ghostwriter and bestselling author of The Creative's Curse "When you combine the right skills with the right mindset, these problems vanish" Todd is going to be sharing with you today, 5 ways to help your writing shine. If you have been suffering from professional crazy when it comes to writing expression, than this show is for you!  https://www.facebook.com/transformationtalkradio/live_videos/

Ever wonder where the creepy, crawly frustration begins? Once, it's got its crawl on, how do you suspend it's momentum? Have you learned to identify the grumpy? What does your crazy grumpy look like? How does it feel, and what do you do about it? Tune in to today's show to learn how to De-Grumpify Your Life!!!   Watch https://www.facebook.com/transformationtalkradio/live_videos/

Do you have a relationship in your life today that feels foggy? You know, that "I'm not sure if I want to stay or go?" feeling. Maybe, you are emotionally twisted about a professional relationship, or perhaps it's your adult child that you cannot seem to understand. Whatever the relationship role is to you, there are key solutions to apply in order to re-up your experience within the relationship. In today's show, I will be providing suggestions on how to inject positivity into your relationships. If you are someone ready to take productive action within your relationship, this show is for you!  Watch https://www.facebook.com/transformationtalkradio/live_videos/

Did you know the longer you know a person, the more you assume about them? What if you don't like them? Would it be fair to say that perhaps you are stuck in an endless loop of assumptions about them, and truly haven't been giving them a fair perspective because YOU think your way is better? Negative assumptions are the root of a sickened relationship. The challenge is learning how to assume positively vs. staying stuck in the negative. If you are someone stuck in a loop of negativity within your relationship(s), then listen in to today's live show, and learn how to assume to your benefit! 

Do you feel like the one everyone comes to? Do you find yourself thinking or even worrying about the impact the decisions in your life will have on those around you – to a fault? Do you suffer from the inability to say no – ultimately putting “their” needs in front of your own? Although kindness and consideration of others is an altruistic way to live, our motives are not aligned with our best selves when we do it to the extreme of co-dependency. What is truly motivating your decisions? Join me today for a show about decision-making as I highlight the co-dependent nature in which many find themselves trapped and unable to move forward. Watch https://www.facebook.com/transformationtalkradio/live_videos/

Have you ever felt as if nothing is working for you? Have you lost sight of what is important? Does it take a movie to jolt you back into an authentic appreciation for the tenderness of relationships? If so, then today's show will elevate you into the action of appreciation. The difference between gratitude and appreciation is present vs. the past. In today's show, I will teach the eight aspects of appreciation to help you realign with the joy of life.

Have you considered freezing in order to get healthy? Did you know cold temperatures can help with inflammation? What about mental health? Today's guest, Jenna Loney is joining me to discuss the benefits of Cold therapy for the mind and body.    Jenna is a giver and a healer by nature. She has been a Registered Nurse in the hospital setting for nearly a decade, with a recent transition into a holistic setting. As a front-line nurse through the pandemic, she witnessed tragedy and stress on a regular basis whilst navigating her own life of balancing a career, new motherhood, and everything in between. It was through this experience that she witnessed the rewards of cold therapy.  Although a traumatic experience that tempted professional burnout, she was still recognized by her patients and colleagues with the daisy award for extraordinary nurses. She has spent the last few years on her own healing journey. She is learning how to prioritize her physical and mental health to keep caring for others.    Watch https://www.facebook.com/transformationtalkradio/live_videos/  

Not knowing what to do is part of grief. Not understanding what grief feels like is scary. Being responsible during the loss or caretaking of an elder parent can feel surreal. A cloud of overwhelm is inevitable. Grief can undermine our embracing of a new way of being. Shedding an old identity, and working towards a new one, when you are clueless about the details, yet you hunger for them. Grief can be crying; grief can be boredom. Grief can be self-pity that slowly crawls up on you. Grief can bring with it a sense of mortality, perhaps for the first time. Today's show is for you if you have experienced grief and find yourself there again, or if you feel like you don't know who you are anymore, to grieve and let go is part of the process.  Watch https://www.facebook.com/transformationtalkradio/live_videos/

If you are someone who, after getting sober, realized you have no clue what it takes to have a functional and loving relationship, then this show is for you. The ability to learn a new way of being within a relationship, whether it's your spouse or your kids, who are you in sobriety when it comes to relationships? Many of us suffered from selfishness and self-centeredness to an extreme. As we stay clean and sober, new levels of awareness come to the surface teaching us new ways to behave, and to love. This show is about a few of the hurdles we may face, and how to overcome them.    Watch https://www.facebook.com/transformationtalkradio/live_videos/