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Loving BDSM

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We help kinksters have happy, healthy power exchange relationships.

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  1. Vanilla Creep in D/s Relationships

    We’re very familiar with stressful events disrupting a power exchange relationships, but sometimes life just lifes. Someone online called it “vanilla creep,” and we agree. So let’s talk about what vanilla creep looks like... The post Vanilla Creep in D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  2. Kinky Q&A

    This week, we’re answering your kinky questions asked on Instagram and Fetlife! In this episode: What inspired you to start your own kink podcast and selling handmade kinky items? I just got out of... The post Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  3. Submissives Using Signals to Communicate Desire

    I have no idea how to title this week’s episode, lol. But it’s a thing we kind of talked about in last week’s Reddit episode and a thing that we do in our power... The post Submissives Using Signals to Communicate Desire appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  4. BDSM Reddit Response

    For our first episode back, we knew it needed to be a fun one! We’re reacting to the kinky side of Reddit this week! In this episode: Today’s the last day to get the... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  5. From the Archives: Unfair Expectations in Your Power Exchange

    This week’s episode from the archives discusses managing unfair expectations in your power exchange. The original episode was published in 2018. This is a stripped down version so no old intro, no announcements, and... The post From the Archives: Unfair Expectations in Your Power Exchange…

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  6. From the Archives: People Pleasing

    As promised, while on hiatus, we’re bringing back episodes from the archives starting with people pleasing in power exchange. It was originally published in 2022. This is a stripped down version so no old... The post From the Archives: People Pleasing appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  7. Another Mental Health Episode and an Announcement

    This week, we share some of what’s going on with our mental health as well as an important announcement (around minute 45). In this episode: Celebrate Kinkmas in July at the Kinkery! We’ve talked... The post Another Mental Health Episode and an Announcement appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  8. Responding to Your Comments

    There was no mental bandwidth for a fresh topic this week, so we did something new(ish?). We responded to recent comments we’ve received on episodes! In this episode: We’re going live on YouTube Friday,... The post Responding to Your Comments appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  9. BDSM Reddit Response

    In this week's episode, we answer questions asked on the kinky side of Reddit covering topics from upsetting a new partner to wanting to brat during aftercare to a submissive questioning their masochism.

  10. Submission vs. Surrender: What’s the Difference?

    Some kinksters talk about submission and surrender as separate concepts – which is not something we’ve thought about before – so let’s talk about it. In this episode: Register for the FREE online Jumpstart... The post Submission vs. Surrender: What’s the Difference? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  11. BDSM in the News

    This week, we’re talking about recent articles and news stories about BDSM and sharing our opinion on the situation. In this episode: June 26 is the last day of a sale at the Kinkery!... The post BDSM in the News appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  12. Kink Terms Evolve

    For better or worse, language changes over time — including the terms we use in kink. These are our chaotic, messy thoughts on those changes. In this episode: We’re no longer live streaming the... The post Kink Terms Evolve appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  13. No Topic, Just Chaos

    We definitely talk about kink and sex in this episode, but it’s more of a bonus section kind of episode, so of course it’s chaotic AF. In this episode: We talked about a few... The post No Topic, Just Chaos appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  14. Kinky Q&A

    This week, we answer your kinky questions! In this episode: Diabolical sticks are available at the Kinkery! We added a new workbook to the Etsy shop: Communication in Power Exchange We asked for questions... The post Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  15. BDSM Reddit Response

    This week, we’re responding to questions asked on the kinky side of Reddit. In this episode: Is it okay to not like the degrading messages I received? I keep meeting “Doms” that are just... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  16. Learning Lessons and Avoiding Future Conflict | Dealing With Conflict Series

    In the final installment of our conflict in D/s series, we’re talking about what do to after you’ve resolved this conflict to learn from it and (hopefully) avoid future conflict. In this episode: Fundraiser... The post Learning Lessons and Avoiding Future Conflict | Dealing With Conflict Series...

  17. What to Do When Conflict Happens | Dealing with Conflict Series

    In this week’s episode, we’re continuing our series on conflict on D/s and answering the question, “What do we do about it when it happens?” In this episode: No episode next week Friday night... The post What to Do When Conflict Happens | Dealing with Conflict Series appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  18. What Causes Conflict in D/s | Dealing with Conflict Series

    This week’s episode is the first in a series on dealing with conflict in your power exchange, and we’re talking about what can cause conflict. In this episode: New live stream time starts NEXT... The post What Causes Conflict in D/s | Dealing with Conflict Series appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  19. When a Dom Says No

    Note: If you need to skip the part with a content warning, fast forward by about 7 minutes. In this week’s episode, we discuss the fact that Dominant’s may use their authority and control... The post When a Dom Says No appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  20. Kinky Pet Peeves

    NOTE: The audio quality wasn’t so great for this one, but we figured out the problem and fixed it for next week! This week, we share some of our own kinky pet peeves and... The post Kinky Pet Peeves appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  21. BDSM Reddit Response

    This week, we’re responding to questions asked on the kinky side of Reddit. In this episode: Where we were last week Dom pushing too far Toy vs sub Punishment or play One-sided dynamic Fairness... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  22. Can You Be Spontaneous in a Kink Relationship?

    There’s no single right answer. This is a wide-ranging conversation where we try to figure out what we think about the idea of being spontaneous. Spoiler alert: Kayla does not have a spontaneous bone... The post Can You Be Spontaneous in a Kink Relationship? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  23. Feeling Disconnected in D/s

    Let’s talk about what might make you feel disconnected from your partner in your D/s relationship – and how to reconnect again. In this episode: Get your FREE ticket to the 2026 Dom/sub Dynamics... The post Feeling Disconnected in D/s appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  24. BDSM Q&A

    This week, we asked for your kinky questions over on Instagram and YouTube! In this episode: Final donation totals to the Campaign for Southern Equality Questions: I’m a soft dom and my wife wants... The post BDSM Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  25. Reconnecting with Silly Relationship Questions

    After a couple of stressful weeks where we’re both exhausted, we recognize that we’re disconnected. Part of reconnecting is answering (mostly) ridiculous relationship questions, lol. In this episode: Our 2026 Patreon Membership Drive ends... The post Reconnecting with Silly Relationship Questions...

  26. Emotional Intelligence and Power Exchange

    Emotional intelligence and emotional regulation is extremely important for communication and happy, healthy power exchange relationships. In this episode: Join our Patreon during the 2026 Membership Drive What is emotional intelligence? From HelpGuide.org: “your... The post Emotional Intelligence...

  27. Bonus Section Episode

    This week was a tough one personally but we wanted to show up, so we went with a chatty bonus section-like episode, but we also answered kinky questions from YouTube Live Chat. In this... The post Bonus Section Episode appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  28. Q&A: How Can We Have a Power Exchange as Parents?

    This is a question we get asked a lot – in this case, it’s more about not seeming “obvious” to your children. Here’s the question: I grew up in a religious family and while... The post Q&A: How Can We Have a Power Exchange as Parents? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  29. BDSM Reddit Response

    Yes, we just did this a few weeks ago, but we all probably need a good rant or two. In this episode: Join our Patreon during the 2026 Membership Drive I don’t want to... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  30. Q&A: Is Our 24/7 TPE Hopeless?

    A submissive has been in and wants to remain in a 24/7 TPE but wonders if it’s hopeless now that their Dom isn’t communicating. Here’s the question: I am 78, and my Dom is... The post Q&A: Is Our 24/7 TPE Hopeless? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  31. Let’s Talk About *Gestures Broadly at the World*

    Consider this a “political” episode but instead of rehashing the news, we’ll offer ways to get involved plus we’ll answer a question we received: can you have a power exchange with someone you disagree... The post Let’s Talk About *Gestures Broadly at the World* appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  32. Friendship in Long Term Power Exchange

    WE’ve said for years that we think friendship needs to be the basis of any power exchange but certainly a long-term relationship. This week we’re talking about why it matters and how to build... The post Friendship in Long Term Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  33. Q&A: How Much Money Do I Have to Spend to Meet a Dom?

    Nothing about this question sounded like financial Domination – we read it as someone being an asshole. That being said, sometimes you do spend money to meet up with a partner and/or get kinky.... The post Q&A: How Much Money Do I Have to Spend to Meet a Dom? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  34. Self Control and Power in Dominance

    This week’s topic comes from both a question we received and questions we’ve seen asked on Reddit: newer Doms worried they’ll lose control of themselves and try to dominate people in other parts of... The post Self Control and Power in Dominance appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  35. Q&A: Were They Right to Be Angry?

    This week, a kinkster asked their exes to remove intimate pictures from Fetlife, and those exes got angry about the situation. This kinkster wonders if their anger was fair or reasonable. Here’s the question:... The post Q&A: Were They Right to Be Angry? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  36. BDSM Reddit Response

    Happy New Year! We’re back from our winter break and starting 2026 with a Reddit response episode! In this episode: Thanks to silentwinged for sending over most of these Reddit posts. Am I the... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  37. Q&A: Should I Reconnect with My Kinky Friend?

    A kinkster hasn’t had a great time with a kinky friend, but they miss the friendship they had at one time. Here’s the question: My question is related to BDSM but it’s about a... The post Q&A: Should I Reconnect with My Kinky Friend? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  38. Answering 10 Silly Relationship Questions

    It’s the last episode of 2025, so we’re keeping it casual and chaotic with a bit of silliness. In this episode: This month’s virtual munch live stream is this Friday, December 19 starting at... The post Answering 10 Silly Relationship Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  39. Q&A: How Do We Maintain Playful D/s While LDR?

    They’re in a long distance relationship and each have their own partners and lives to balance. They want to know how to have a playful power exchange when they can’t be together. Here’s the... The post Q&A: How Do We Maintain Playful D/s While LDR? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  40. Our D/s Life in 2025

    We made a goal to reconnect and become more intentional in our power exchange this year. Now that we’re near the end of the year, let’s talk about how it went! In this episode:... The post Our D/s Life in 2025 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  41. Q&A: How is D/s Worth It if It’s So Difficult?

    This week, we’re answering a question I (Kayla) couldn’t stop thinking about. We’re not sure if they asked in good faith or not, but we’re taking the question seriously. Here’s the question: Does any... The post Q&A: How is D/s Worth It if It’s So Difficult? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  42. How to Achieve Your Kink Goals for 2026

    This week, we’re looking forward to 2026 to how to achieve some of the kink goals a lot of kinksters have (including us!). As always, you don’t have to wait for an arbitrary date... The post How to Achieve Your Kink Goals for 2026 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  43. Q&A: How Do We Find the Right Amount of Intimacy?

    Two kinksters have moved in together and things aren’t quite like what they expected. Here’s the question: I have been with my baby sub for about a year and up until the last five... The post Q&A: How Do We Find the Right Amount of Intimacy? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  44. Last Minute Schedule Change

    This probably seems really random, but we’re bringing you a quick “commercial” break to let you know our podcast/live stream plans for the week of Thanksgiving 2025. We hope you can join us on... The post Last Minute Schedule Change appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  45. Bonus Section Episode

    Even though YouTube doesn’t impact the podcast, what they do to our channel does impact our plans. That’s why this week’s episode is a bonus section episode, lol. In this episode: Join us for... The post Bonus Section Episode appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  46. Q&A: What Can I Wear Instead of My Collar?

    A submissive works in the medical field and can’t wear her usual collar and wants to know what she can do instead. Here’s the question: I am a collared submissive to my Daddy. I... The post Q&A: What Can I Wear Instead of My Collar? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  47. WTF is Soft BDSM?

    Trying to figure out what “soft BDSM” even is took us on a journey. Let’s talk about it. In this episode: Our Holiday Cricket tier – and holiday party sign up – ends on... The post WTF is Soft BDSM? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  48. BDSM Reddit Response

    This week, we’re responding to situations shared on the kinky side of Reddit! In this episode: Join us through Patreon for a special holiday tier and get extra perks! Soft kink shaming Got dumped... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  49. Love Maps and Power Exchange

    The idea of love maps comes from the Gottman Institute in their studies on relationships, specifically marriage. We wondered if it could be applied to power exchange, too. In this episode: Join us through... The post Love Maps and Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

  50. Power Exchange vs Domestic Discipline vs Trad Wives

    This week’s episode is from a question a kinkster sent to us. They wanted to know our take on power exchange, domestic discipline, and trad wives. In this episode: It’s the 5th Anniversary sale... The post Power Exchange vs Domestic Discipline vs Trad Wives appeared first on Loving BDSM.

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