Loving BDSM

Some kinksters talk about submission and surrender as separate concepts – which is not something we’ve thought about before – so let’s talk about it. In this episode: Register for the FREE online Jumpstart... The post Submission vs. Surrender: What’s the Difference? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we’re talking about recent articles and news stories about BDSM and sharing our opinion on the situation. In this episode: June 26 is the last day of a sale at the Kinkery!... The post BDSM in the News appeared first on Loving BDSM.

For better or worse, language changes over time — including the terms we use in kink. These are our chaotic, messy thoughts on those changes. In this episode: We’re no longer live streaming the... The post Kink Terms Evolve appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We definitely talk about kink and sex in this episode, but it’s more of a bonus section kind of episode, so of course it’s chaotic AF. In this episode: We talked about a few... The post No Topic, Just Chaos appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we answer your kinky questions! In this episode: Diabolical sticks are available at the Kinkery! We added a new workbook to the Etsy shop: Communication in Power Exchange We asked for questions... The post Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we’re responding to questions asked on the kinky side of Reddit. In this episode: Is it okay to not like the degrading messages I received? I keep meeting “Doms” that are just... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In the final installment of our conflict in D/s series, we’re talking about what do to after you’ve resolved this conflict to learn from it and (hopefully) avoid future conflict. In this episode: Fundraiser... The post Learning Lessons and Avoiding Future Conflict | Dealing With Conflict Series appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In this week’s episode, we’re continuing our series on conflict on D/s and answering the question, “What do we do about it when it happens?” In this episode: No episode next week Friday night... The post What to Do When Conflict Happens | Dealing with Conflict Series appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s episode is the first in a series on dealing with conflict in your power exchange, and we’re talking about what can cause conflict. In this episode: New live stream time starts NEXT... The post What Causes Conflict in D/s | Dealing with Conflict Series appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Note: If you need to skip the part with a content warning, fast forward by about 7 minutes. In this week’s episode, we discuss the fact that Dominant’s may use their authority and control... The post When a Dom Says No appeared first on Loving BDSM.

NOTE: The audio quality wasn’t so great for this one, but we figured out the problem and fixed it for next week! This week, we share some of our own kinky pet peeves and... The post Kinky Pet Peeves appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we’re responding to questions asked on the kinky side of Reddit. In this episode: Where we were last week Dom pushing too far Toy vs sub Punishment or play One-sided dynamic Fairness... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

There’s no single right answer. This is a wide-ranging conversation where we try to figure out what we think about the idea of being spontaneous. Spoiler alert: Kayla does not have a spontaneous bone... The post Can You Be Spontaneous in a Kink Relationship? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Let’s talk about what might make you feel disconnected from your partner in your D/s relationship – and how to reconnect again. In this episode: Get your FREE ticket to the 2026 Dom/sub Dynamics... The post Feeling Disconnected in D/s appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we asked for your kinky questions over on Instagram and YouTube! In this episode: Final donation totals to the Campaign for Southern Equality Questions: I’m a soft dom and my wife wants... The post BDSM Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

After a couple of stressful weeks where we’re both exhausted, we recognize that we’re disconnected. Part of reconnecting is answering (mostly) ridiculous relationship questions, lol. In this episode: Our 2026 Patreon Membership Drive ends... The post Reconnecting with Silly Relationship Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Emotional intelligence and emotional regulation is extremely important for communication and happy, healthy power exchange relationships. In this episode: Join our Patreon during the 2026 Membership Drive What is emotional intelligence? From HelpGuide.org: “your... The post Emotional Intelligence and Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week was a tough one personally but we wanted to show up, so we went with a chatty bonus section-like episode, but we also answered kinky questions from YouTube Live Chat. In this... The post Bonus Section Episode appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This is a question we get asked a lot – in this case, it’s more about not seeming “obvious” to your children. Here’s the question: I grew up in a religious family and while... The post Q&A: How Can We Have a Power Exchange as Parents? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Yes, we just did this a few weeks ago, but we all probably need a good rant or two. In this episode: Join our Patreon during the 2026 Membership Drive I don’t want to... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A submissive has been in and wants to remain in a 24/7 TPE but wonders if it’s hopeless now that their Dom isn’t communicating. Here’s the question: I am 78, and my Dom is... The post Q&A: Is Our 24/7 TPE Hopeless? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Consider this a “political” episode but instead of rehashing the news, we’ll offer ways to get involved plus we’ll answer a question we received: can you have a power exchange with someone you disagree... The post Let’s Talk About *Gestures Broadly at the World* appeared first on Loving BDSM.

WE’ve said for years that we think friendship needs to be the basis of any power exchange but certainly a long-term relationship. This week we’re talking about why it matters and how to build... The post Friendship in Long Term Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Nothing about this question sounded like financial Domination – we read it as someone being an asshole. That being said, sometimes you do spend money to meet up with a partner and/or get kinky.... The post Q&A: How Much Money Do I Have to Spend to Meet a Dom? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s topic comes from both a question we received and questions we’ve seen asked on Reddit: newer Doms worried they’ll lose control of themselves and try to dominate people in other parts of... The post Self Control and Power in Dominance appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, a kinkster asked their exes to remove intimate pictures from Fetlife, and those exes got angry about the situation. This kinkster wonders if their anger was fair or reasonable. Here’s the question:... The post Q&A: Were They Right to Be Angry? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Happy New Year! We’re back from our winter break and starting 2026 with a Reddit response episode! In this episode: Thanks to silentwinged for sending over most of these Reddit posts. Am I the... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A kinkster hasn’t had a great time with a kinky friend, but they miss the friendship they had at one time. Here’s the question: My question is related to BDSM but it’s about a... The post Q&A: Should I Reconnect with My Kinky Friend? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

It’s the last episode of 2025, so we’re keeping it casual and chaotic with a bit of silliness. In this episode: This month’s virtual munch live stream is this Friday, December 19 starting at... The post Answering 10 Silly Relationship Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM.

They’re in a long distance relationship and each have their own partners and lives to balance. They want to know how to have a playful power exchange when they can’t be together. Here’s the... The post Q&A: How Do We Maintain Playful D/s While LDR? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We made a goal to reconnect and become more intentional in our power exchange this year. Now that we’re near the end of the year, let’s talk about how it went! In this episode:... The post Our D/s Life in 2025 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we’re answering a question I (Kayla) couldn’t stop thinking about. We’re not sure if they asked in good faith or not, but we’re taking the question seriously. Here’s the question: Does any... The post Q&A: How is D/s Worth It if It’s So Difficult? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we’re looking forward to 2026 to how to achieve some of the kink goals a lot of kinksters have (including us!). As always, you don’t have to wait for an arbitrary date... The post How to Achieve Your Kink Goals for 2026 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Two kinksters have moved in together and things aren’t quite like what they expected. Here’s the question: I have been with my baby sub for about a year and up until the last five... The post Q&A: How Do We Find the Right Amount of Intimacy? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This probably seems really random, but we’re bringing you a quick “commercial” break to let you know our podcast/live stream plans for the week of Thanksgiving 2025. We hope you can join us on... The post Last Minute Schedule Change appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Even though YouTube doesn’t impact the podcast, what they do to our channel does impact our plans. That’s why this week’s episode is a bonus section episode, lol. In this episode: Join us for... The post Bonus Section Episode appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A submissive works in the medical field and can’t wear her usual collar and wants to know what she can do instead. Here’s the question: I am a collared submissive to my Daddy. I... The post Q&A: What Can I Wear Instead of My Collar? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Trying to figure out what “soft BDSM” even is took us on a journey. Let’s talk about it. In this episode: Our Holiday Cricket tier – and holiday party sign up – ends on... The post WTF is Soft BDSM? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we’re responding to situations shared on the kinky side of Reddit! In this episode: Join us through Patreon for a special holiday tier and get extra perks! Soft kink shaming Got dumped... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

The idea of love maps comes from the Gottman Institute in their studies on relationships, specifically marriage. We wondered if it could be applied to power exchange, too. In this episode: Join us through... The post Love Maps and Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s episode is from a question a kinkster sent to us. They wanted to know our take on power exchange, domestic discipline, and trad wives. In this episode: It’s the 5th Anniversary sale... The post Power Exchange vs Domestic Discipline vs Trad Wives appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This kinkster loves what they have with their boyfriend, but they’ve also discovered new desires that feel opposed to who they think they are. Here’s the question: I’m a poly woman with two long-term... The post Q&A: Should I Change Our Dynamic Even Though I’m Happy With What We Have? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In this week’s episode, I (Kayla) share a moment in kink where I realized I felt shame – which was a shock. Which brought me back to this conversation – the last time we... The post Dealing with Shame in Kink appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we’re answering relationship questions from Therapy Jeff (again!) because we needed a chill, low-key episode, lol. In this episode: Check out the new version of the Kinkery! This week’s trans-affirming resource is... The post 10 Relationship Questions that Show You Really Know Your Partner appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we’re answering questions you asked us over on IG at that handle Kayla hates. In this episode: Our Wednesday livestream will be at 3pm ET starting next week. This week’s trans-affirming care... The post Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We had technical issues last week which kept us from recording this episode, but we’re back! (Technically with new technical problems but those don’t impact the podcast, lol.) This week, we’re giving updates from... The post What’s Changed in our D/s | Updates from Old Episodes appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we look at some of the most recent viral trends that borrow from kink and ask, “Is kink becoming mainstream?” In this episode: Kinkery is having a Labor Day sale! Use code... The post Is Kink Being Normalized or Is It Just Going Viral? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

After multiple weeks locked out of our own email inbox, we’re finally back in and celebrating by answering the questions that were waiting for us just like we would for our Monday Q&A episodes... The post Chaotically Answering Kink Questions from Our Inbox appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Somehow, someway, we’ve managed to keep the chaos going for exactly 10 years! In this week’s episode, we take a look at how we got here, then we do our “job” of helping folks... The post It’s Our 10th Podcast Anniversary! appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’ve spent the past couple of months using the free version of the Obedience app, and now we’re ready to share how we’ve used it and how it’s helped us. Spoiler: We like the... The post Our Experience Using the Obedience App appeared first on Loving BDSM.