All Episodes

Submission vs. Surrender: What’s the Difference?

BDSM in the News

Kink Terms Evolve

No Topic, Just Chaos

Kinky Q&A

BDSM Reddit Response

Learning Lessons and Avoiding Future Conflict | Dealing With Conflict Series

What to Do When Conflict Happens | Dealing with Conflict Series

What Causes Conflict in D/s | Dealing with Conflict Series

When a Dom Says No

Kinky Pet Peeves

BDSM Reddit Response

Can You Be Spontaneous in a Kink Relationship?

Feeling Disconnected in D/s

BDSM Q&A

Reconnecting with Silly Relationship Questions

Emotional Intelligence and Power Exchange

Bonus Section Episode

Q&A: How Can We Have a Power Exchange as Parents?

BDSM Reddit Response

Q&A: Is Our 24/7 TPE Hopeless?

Let’s Talk About *Gestures Broadly at the World*

Friendship in Long Term Power Exchange

Q&A: How Much Money Do I Have to Spend to Meet a Dom?

Self Control and Power in Dominance

Q&A: Were They Right to Be Angry?

BDSM Reddit Response

Q&A: Should I Reconnect with My Kinky Friend?

Answering 10 Silly Relationship Questions

Q&A: How Do We Maintain Playful D/s While LDR?

Our D/s Life in 2025

Q&A: How is D/s Worth It if It’s So Difficult?

How to Achieve Your Kink Goals for 2026

Q&A: How Do We Find the Right Amount of Intimacy?

Last Minute Schedule Change

Bonus Section Episode

Q&A: What Can I Wear Instead of My Collar?

WTF is Soft BDSM?

BDSM Reddit Response

Love Maps and Power Exchange

Power Exchange vs Domestic Discipline vs Trad Wives

Q&A: Should I Change Our Dynamic Even Though I’m Happy With What We Have?

Dealing with Shame in Kink

10 Relationship Questions that Show You Really Know Your Partner

Kinky Q&A

What’s Changed in our D/s | Updates from Old Episodes

Is Kink Being Normalized or Is It Just Going Viral?

Chaotically Answering Kink Questions from Our Inbox

It’s Our 10th Podcast Anniversary!

Our Experience Using the Obedience App

Our Uneven, Non-Linear Return to Our D/s Life

Princess Treatment vs Power Exchange

Answering 10 Unhinged Relationship Questions

Adding Kink to Special Occasions

What We’re Still Learning About Each Other

BDSM Reddit Response

Q&A: Am I Asking for Too Much From My Dominant?

Kinky Q&A

Q&A: What Do I Do as a Newly Single But Inexperienced Sub?

How to Be Consistent in D/s | Making D/s Work in the Real World

Q&A: How Do I Stop Apologizing While Topping?

D/s When You Take Care of Others | Making D/s Work in the Real World

Q&A: How Do I Convince My Dom That I’m Ready for More?

D/s No One Else Will Notice | Making D/s Work in the Real World

Q&A: Are These Unwanted Behaviors a Red Flag?

Kink is Customizable | Making D/s Work in the Real World

Q&A: How Will We Know We’re Ready to Try Nonmonogamy Again?

No Topic, Just Vibes | A Bonus Section Episode

Q&A: How Do I Provide Emotional Support to My Dom?

Afraid to Ask for “Too Much” in Your Dynamic

Q&A: How Do I Navigate Being New to Sex and Kink

Kinky AITA

Q&A: Is There a Way to Be Okay With Being Called Mommy or Daddy?

24/7 D/s and Total Power Exchange

Q&A: How Can a People Pleaser Explore Their Bratty Side?

Experimenting with Rules in Public

Q&A: How Do We Negotiate Consensual Non-consent?

Kinky Q&A

Q&A: What Should We Negotiate and Decide Before We Move In Together?

Perimenopause and Power Exchange

Q&A: Is Punishment a Necessary Part of Power Exchange?

Feelings of Comfort and Familiarity

Q&A: How Do I Feel More Confident in Our Dynamic After Trauma?

Silly Conflicts in Our Power Exchange

Q&A: How Do I Get Out of My Head During Sex?

BDSM Reddit Response

Q&A: How Do I Support a Partner Who Doesn’t Take Criticism Well?

Obedience in Power Exchange

Q&A: How Do We Maintain Our D/s Dynamic?

Reconnecting With Our Kinky Identities

Q&A: Am I Really Submissive?

Getting Our D/s Life Back in 2025

Q&A: What Happens If You Can’t Agree That a Sub Broke a Rule?

Looking Back at our D/s Relationship in 2024

Q&A: Does the Kink Community Welcome All Body Types?

Answering More Vanilla Relationship Questions

Q&A: How Do We Find the Balance Between Our Power Exchange Needs?

Navigating the Holidays in Power Exchange

Q&A: Why is My Sub Irritable After a Scene? Is It Drop?

BDSM Reddit Response

Q&A: Is It OK for Subs to Call Me Sir When We Meet?

Kinky Q&A

Q&A: How Do I Talk About My Mental Health?

Assertive Submissives

Dominants and Communication

Q&A: How Can I Motivate My Dom to Bring D/s Out of the Bedroom?

Old Relationship Energy in Power Exchange

BDSM Reddit Response

Q&A: Can We Go Back to Normal?

When Life Interferes with Your Power Exchange | Back to Basics Series

Q&A: How Do I Enjoy Scenes with a Nervous Domme?

Where to Find a Dominant or Submissive Partner | Back to Basics Series

Q&A: Is It Okay to Enjoy Our Power Dynamic Without Labeling It?

What to Watch Out for in New D/s Relationships | Back to Basics Series

Q&A: How Do I Move Past Bad Memories to Enjoy Old Kinks?

Consent in D/s Relationships | Back to Basics

Starting a New D/s Relationship | Back to Basics

Q&A: Am I an Unreliable Dominant?

Kinky Q&A

Things We’ve Learned About Power Exchange in Nine Years of Podcasting

Q&A: Can We Be Switches in Different Ways and Still Have a Good D/s Relationship?

The Pressures and Privileges of Dominance

Q&A: How Can My Dom Become Comfortable Initiating Free Use?

Imposter Syndrome in Power Exchange and Kink

Q&A: What If a Dom Doesn’t Always Want to Lead?

BDSM Reddit Response

Q&A: When is the Right Time to Meet in Real Life?

Answering Cute and Spicy Questions

Q&A: How Do I Trust My Dom Again?

Radical Honesty in Power Exchange

Q&A: How Do I Tell My Partner I Want to Switch?

Needing External Motivation in Power Exchange

Task Creep in Power Exchange

Celebrating 400 Episodes with Kinky Q&A

BDSM Reddit Response

Over Communication in Power Exchange

Q&A: Is My Dom the Problem or Am I?

Submission With Control Issues

Q&A: How Do We Get Our Kink Life Back After Having a Baby?

What Grounds or Centers You in Kink?

Q&A: How Do I Help My Dom Act More Commanding?

Responsibilities to Your Power Exchange

Q&A: Should I Just Let My BDSM Relationship End?

Answering Feel Good Relationship Questions

Q&A: What Make Good Punishments and Rewards?

BDSM Reddit Response

Q&A: What Do I When People Reject Me For Being Kinky?

A Bonus Section Episode

Building Confidence in D/s and Your Kink Identity

Q&A: What Kinky Lingerie Options Are Available for Big Breasts?

Do Submissives Really Have All the Power in D/s?

How Do I Introduce My Kink Partner and Honor the Requirements of My Divorce?

Answering Random But “Deep” Relationship Questions

Responding to Your Kinky Hot Takes and Unpopular Opinions

Q&A: Will These Household Items Work as Pervertables?

Ask Us Anything!

Q&A: How Do I Navigate a Complex Poly and Kink Relationship with Two Partners?

Submission and Pleasure

Q&A: How Do I Let My Dom Know I’m Ready for Sex and Kink Without Feeling Like I’m Initiating Play?

What is a Pleasure Dom?

What Do I Do When My Dominant Can’t Handle the Mental Load?

BDSM Reddit Response

Q&A: Can I Be My Authentic Kinky Self With a Vanilla Friend?

The State of Our Power Exchange

Q&A: Is Anger Part of Dominance?

Age Gaps in Power Exchange

Q&A: How Do We Make the Most of Our LDR?

How We Show Up in Our D/s Relationship

How Do We Renegotiate Our Marriage For D/s?

Free Use and Blanket Consent in Power Exchange

Q&A: How Do I Get Kinky Punishment Without Sex?

Our 2024 Kinky Goals and Plans

Q&A: Is This Past Trauma or a New Beginning for My Submissive?

BDSM Reddit Response

How Do I Negotiate When They Want to Experiment With Kink?

BDSM in the News

Can a Submissive Negotiate Their Rewards?

How Well Do We Know Each Other | Answering Relationship Questions

What Do I Do When My Dominant Wants Something Silly?

Pure Randomness | A Bonus Section Episode

What We Find Easy and Hard About Kink

How Can We Have the D/s We Planned While We Were LDR?

Brat Tamer vs Brat Handler

What Do I Do When My Dom Leaves Me Hanging?

Changes We See In Each Other After a Decade

BDSM Reddit Response

How Do I Get More Kinky Fun When I Hate Planning For It?

The Difference Between Power Exchange Relationships Being Hard vs Requiring Effort

How Do I Make Sure My Submissive Needs Are Fulfilled?

Silliness and Playfulness in D/s Relationships

How Can I Be Vulnerable With New Dom After Bad Vanilla Break-up?

Top 10 Kinkiest States, Sex Toys, and Fetishes

BDSM Reddit Response

Navigating Stress Before It Happens in D/s Relationships

Breadcrumbing vs Doing the Little Things in D/s Relationships

A Random Episode

Responding to Kinky Hot Takes and Unpopular Opinions

And Now for a Break(Down)

BDSM Q&A

BDSM Reddit Response

Answering More Non-Kinky Relationship Questions

Most “Popular” Kinks and Fetishes

Our Kink Life on OnlyFans

Are D/s Relationships 50/50?

How D/s Has Improved Our Lives

Bonus Section Episode

Mental Load in Power Exchange

BDSM Reddit Response

Answering Relationship Questions to Reconnect

How Our D/s Negotiations Have Changed Over Time

BDSM in the News

Procrastination in Power Exchange

Decision Fatigue in D/s Relationships

BDSM Reddit Response

BDSM Q&A

Our Experience with D/s and Depression

Topping from the Bottom | Revisiting Old Episodes

Survey “Reveals” How Kinky the Bible Belt Is

Figuring Out Your Kinky Self

Sensation Play

Answering Silly But Serious Relationship Questions

BDSM Reddit Response

How We’ve Evolved in BDSM and D/s

Bonus Section Episode

Division of Labor in Power Exchange

Our 2023 Plans and Goals

BDSM Reddit Response

BDSM Q&A

What We’ve Learned After a Decade Together

Our Favorite Sex Toys of 2022

Research on Kink Behavior vs. Kink Identity

Toxic Masculinity in Power Exchange | A Dominant’s Perspective

Answering Spicy Questions

Sharing Burdens in Power Exchange

People Pleasing in Power Exchange

Different Types of Intimacy in Kink

What Kinksters Want Others to Stop Getting Wrong About Kink

BDSM Reddit Reaction

BDSM Q&A

Voice Kinks

Submitting While Angry or Upset

Checking in on Our D/s Relationship

What is a Service Top?

Does a Submissive Have to Change in D/s?

BDSM Q&A

BDSM Reddit Reaction

What is Conscious Kink?

Joy in D/s Relationships

What is an Alpha Sub?

What Do You Bring to the Table?

Love Bombing and Power Exchange

Collaboration and Teamwork

Minisode 56: Punishment Tips

Perfectionism in Power Exchange

Getting Back Into a Groove

Our Power Exchange During Times of Stress

Minisode 55: Beyond Subspace

BDSM Reddit Response

Minisode 54: Consent in Power Exchange

Minisode 53: Trying New Kinks Together

BDSM Q&A

Minisode 52: Subspace

Are We Still DD/lg? | Revisiting Old Episodes

Minisode 51: Electroplay Basics and Safety Tips

Burnout in Power Exchange and Kink

Minisode 50: Our Favorite Impact Play Toys

When a Service Submissive Can’t Serve

Minisode 49: Tips for Balancing Kink and Parenting

What We’ve Learned After 300 Kinky Conversations

Minisode 48: Sadism and Masochism

BDSM Reddit Reaction

Minisode 47: Red Flags in Power Exchange

Hard Doms vs Soft Doms

Minisode 46: Our Favorite Vibrators for Forced Orgasms

Questioning Whether Bad Kinky Behavior is “Normal” | Revisiting Episode 5

Minisode 45: BDSM Safety Tips

Sharing Our 2022 Goals

One Big Bonus Section

Minisode 44: Tips for Setting Kinky Goals

BDSM Q&A

Minisode 43: Impact Play Tips for Newbies

Good Doms | Revisiting Episode 3

Minisode 42: Tips for Surviving Holiday Visits with Vanilla Family and Friends

Responding to BDSM Reddit…Again

Minisode 41: Drop

Our Favorite Sex Toys of 2021

Minisode 40: 3 BDSM Book Recommendations

Revisiting Episode 2: How to Talk to Your Dominant

Minisode 39: Negotiation Tips

Minisode 38: What Does It Mean to Be Submissive

Mindfulness, Meditation, and BDSM

Minisode 37: Building Your BDSM First Aid Kit

Changing Old Habits and Forming New Habits in Power Exchange

Minisode 36: Anal Training Tips

Revisiting Episode 1: Anyone Can Be Kinky

BDSM Q&A

Different Types of Personal Boundaries

Minisode 35: Funishment Basics

Green Flags in Power Exchange Relationships

Kinksters React to Vanilla Relationship Reddit