Messy Classy

Let's reframe what confidence actually is and how to become confident. Because what you think confidence looks like is different to what it actually is.We are taught that confidence is loud and performative and extroverted, but really, confidence is quiet. There's a calm power that comes from someone who is truly confident and trusts themselves and their decisions.So, in this episode, I want to talk about how my views on confidence have changed over the years and how it's easier to see in someone else rather than ourselves.I've also learned that the way to build confidence isn't following a ten step plan, but really trusting and believing in yourself.

All of us want to transform into a more successful, hotter, richer, more powerful version of ourselves. But at what point are you actually changing or just performing change? When does it become real?Let's talk about the difference between whether you are making changes in your life and becoming a 'better' version of yourself, or whether you just doing to impress others, even people you don't know. And let's not forget that sometimes you're just trying to impress yourself and perform for a version of you that you want to be. This performance can be internal.And I don't even think any of this is wrong. Does it really matter if the habits and lifestyle that you are performing are just for show? Doesn't it help you get there anyway?Change is inevitable, so why not create an aspirational fantasy version of yourself that you want to be, and then act like it whether you're there or not. Is it wrong?But maybe it's deeper and more complicated than that. Because changing habits and schedules is one thing, but without identity shift behind it, it won't stick long term.

What Happens to Your Friendships When You Start Leveling Up?In this episode, I wanted to explore how much your relationships change when you start improving your life. Even if you don’t want them to.And not only how other people are acting toward you, but how you view them now, and how your growth allows you to see behaviours more clearly.Because I've noticed that it isn't always that other people view you differently, but rather because you view yourself differently you don't necessarily feel comfortable with old friend groups, because of the way they act or the activities they like to do. The pulling away of friendships can often start with you and then other people begin the 'you've changed', 'you think you're better than us' conversations. Which isn't actually true, but it's always about your own self perception first.

Sometimes wanting more is actually wanting less. Less chaos. Less clutter. Less noise. Less pressure to become everything all at once.And honestly? Simplifying my life has improved it more than constantly trying to optimise it ever did.Today, let’s talk about why simplifying your life might be the biggest upgrade you can make.Because the truth is, most of us are exhausted not because life is hard, but because we’re overcomplicating it. We’re trying to do too much, become too much, prove too much.At some point, I realised I didn’t actually want more things on my schedule. I wanted more peace. More clarity. More time for the things that actually mattered to me.

Overdressing can change your life (and you personally) for the better. Most people dress to disappear socially, they don't want to stand out. Overdressing forces visibility and allows people to see you. And when people see you, that's when change happens.Not only from others, overdressing creates visibility and that changes your self-perception first. The internal shift is what helps make the improvements, because that self-perception changes how you see yourself.Your behaviour changes the social responses that you get from others which in turn builds your confidence and this repeats and builds, and eventually you stop seeking approval altogether.All from wanting to stand out with your clothing and style.And that is what will change your life, darling.

Here is how you can feel chic again, because you already have it within you. We just need to draw it out.Chic is not wealth. It’s curation, restraint, standards, softness, and self-respect. So in this episode, let's talk about some of the small and simple things that you can do to help yourself feel more chic and classy again.And don't forget to stay messy classy darlings x

Let's discuss the social anxiety of levelling up. The specific discomfort of moving between social worlds, feeling like you don't quite belong in either. This is something that I experienced a lot when I moved into a different social circle over the past year and a half, and also again now as I move toward a new career direction. Everyone talks about levelling up your life, but no one talks about that in-between period, that limbo feeling, where you don't fit in to your new life yet, but you've outgrown your old one and don't belong there either.

How do you become more refined, classy, or elegant when you didn't grow up in that environment? Is it possible, and how to do it?In this episode, let's discuss why you want to level up and become more classy, the steps and mindset it takes to get there, and what I specifically did to move into a more elegant lifestyle when I came from a low-income family.

I'm back with a new episode about where I've been and the changes I'm currently making in my life. We'll talk about night routines, levelling up, wardrobe refreshes, and general life overhauls.

You’re allowed to want more, darling, but sometimes more means less. Let's talk about how to live more beautifully without complicating your life.We'll discuss:Letting go of excessChoosing quality over quantityEditing your life gentlyAllowing mess — but with standards

Elegance isn’t just about your outfit and aesthetic; it’s about discernment and how you treat others. And that starts with your mindset first.So let's discuss whether elegance is a mindset, and if so, how do you cultivate it?

An upgraded life is built through daily, often invisible choices.Upgrading your life is not about big reinventions.It is about choosing differently in small moments.Making this year different comes down to intentionally doing things differently:Going to different places.Wearing your hair differently.Breaking default patterns.Change starts with choice, not motivation.

We are about to enter a NEW YEAR, and trust me, 2026 is YOUR year, baby girl. Let’s create some goals to ensure you have the best, most amazing year ever, because after this year, you deserve it. 2026 is going to be all about getting hot, rich, healthy, fulfilled, wildly in love, and very, very happy.Let’s all go into 2026 with a strong mindset and make sure we live the life of our dreams. 

The saying that money can’t buy happiness is flawed, because nobody said that accumulating money and doing nothing with it is ever a good move.Rich girls know that what you buy and where you spend your money is the real key to happiness. And not having money limits those possibilities. It isn’t that money can’t buy happiness, it’s that most people don’t know how to use money to achieve happiness.

Stop oversharing and telling people more than they need to know, because the less you reveal, the more confident and elegant you appear. By moving in silence and only sharing what needs to be shared, you get to live more peacefully, and you get to hold power and become more magnetic. Silence is how you win, darling. 

Let's talk about creating rich girl habits, which, if you start now, will put you ahead of everyone who tries to start on New Year's Eve and their good intentions fade as fast as their alcohol fuelled resolve.I'll discuss the rich girl habits that you need to have a financial glow up because a luxury soft life does cost money, and you deserve to be hot, rich, healthy, fulfilled, wildly in love, and very, very happy, darling.

Elegance is much less about how you look and a lot more to do with how you act and how you think. And you certainly don’t need money to be ‘elegant’. It’s a mindset that’s rooted in psychology. Let’s go over the simplest way to develop elegance by embracing calmness, which will change how you act and how others see you.

Let’s forget about the 5 am nonsense and start planning a simple morning routine. Elegance works best with calm mornings and soft luxury. Maybe you only need to change up a few things, or maybe your morning routine needs a complete overhaul.Let's talk about creating Elegant Morning Rituals for That Soft Luxury Life x

I’m ready to lock in, just like everyone else right now, so let’s glow up, dress well, work smart, make money, and educate ourselves, all while staying classy and elegant.There are only ten more weeks left of this year, so let's make an action plan that balances ambition with reality, to glow up and look our best for the next ten weeks to stay effortlessly elegant.Let's finish the year strong, darlings!

They told you to play by the rules, and you'll succeed in life. But I've found that when you start writing your own rules, that's when you step into your true power. It’s time to stop seeking permission and start creating success your OWN way, darling.So let's talk about the problem with living by certain rules, where they came from, and why you don't need to live by someone else's standards (just your own). How to rewrite your own rulebook, and even own the consequences (and power) of doing life your own way.Women who change things are never the ones who play by the rules. So don’t be afraid to be the exception.

Everyone’s busy showing off, oversharing, and overreacting, ugh, but the real power move? Staying calm, mysterious, and classy while the world spins around you.Let's discuss what you can do to stay classy when it feels like everyone else is acting way too messy.

Smart women don't waste energy on self-pity; it just makes you weak. I know, I know, we’ve all been there, curled up under the covers with salted caramel ice cream, replaying everything that went wrong, convinced the world is unfair. But, darling, here’s the truth: self-pity doesn’t make life better, it makes you stuck in one moment. That's not growth, and that's not taking your power back.It's time to get your life together and start building that confidence back up. You've got this, baby girl x

Every classy woman needs her own set of rules. Think Blair Waldorf – she didn’t follow the crowd, she set the standard. Let’s talk about how creating your own code of class can make your life feel more magnetic, more powerful, and undeniably yours.

If you want to not only look confident, but actually feel confident and self-assured, and have it be something that comes easily and effortlessly, rather than just pretending and hoping others see you that way. Then, darling, this episode is for you.Because what I’ve discovered is that confidence isn’t actually about how other people see you at all, but rather how you’re talking to yourself and your internal dialogue. Once you’re not overthinking everything and constantly trying to determine how other people see you, and start to embrace yourself instead, that’s when you can truly shine.Welcome back to the messy classy podcast, and in today's episode, we’ll be talking about how to exude confidence that looks effortless and genuine, personal growth, confidence building, and self-discovery.So relax on the sofa, fire up the jazz, and let’s get into it.

Spring is the perfect season for glow-ups, and darling, we’re not sitting this one out. Let’s talk about how to reset, refresh, and become the most magnetic version of ourselves this spring.Messy Classy is back for the spring season, full of fresh new episodes ready to help you on your glow-up journey to become the most elevated classy version of yourself. But, since we're messy classy, darling, we don't mind having a little fun along the way.Kisses x

The classiest, most successful women understand that real power doesn’t need to be broadcast; it needs results. There is power from someone who quietly transforms their life compared to someone who constantly posts about what they plan to do.Let’s talk about why moving in silence will help you reach your goals and help you to maintain that class and grace along the way.After all, messy classy girls still like to win, we just let our actions speak for themselves. Stay messy classy, darlings x

Let's analyse some of Blair Waldorf's best traits and apply them in our own lives to become unstoppable. If you want some of Queen B's power and confidence, it comes down to planning strategically and going after what you want.And you can do it with class and grace.So if you've ever asked yourself what Blair Waldorf would do in a situation, let's break down why she's made some of the choices she has, and how we can do the same.And do it the messy classy way.

Let’s talk about becoming the trifecta: hot, elegant, and unbothered. And as I was in Paris recently, I’ll also sprinkle in a few of my favourite Paris moments too.So getting hot.This encompasses two things. One is about looking the best you’ve ever looked, and the second is your attitude, since you CAN decide that you’re hot now.Now elegance.This comes down to three main areas: clothing, how you carry yourself, and how you interact with others.And finally, unbothered, before we tie them all together.So, becoming unbothered is the ultimate cool girl power move. If you want to win, you need to practice moving from a place of intelligence rather than emotion.Enjoy the episode, and stay messy classy darlings x

Once you start choosing yourself and your goals, and taking that focus away from needing approval or validation from someone else, that’s when your life starts to change for the better.Your self-worth does not belong in the hands of other people. You don’t need someone else's approval or validation to become the person you want to be. Let’s talk about growing from a people pleaser to a classy queen.

If you want to become irresistible, combining class and charm together is the key. That way, you get to be elegant and polished, but not cold. And magnetic, but not like you’re trying too hard. They intertwine and enhance each other.So let’s talk about combining both class and charm to create that magnetic aura.In this episode, we'll discuss body language, voice, confidence, emotional intelligence, and self-respect.I’ll also mention some inspiring women who have nailed the charm/classy combo down. Sometimes it’s easier to have a role model to emulate when we’re trying to step into a new version of ourselves.Enjoy the episode and stay Messy Classy darlings x

So let’s talk about one of the biggest glow-up hacks I’ve done this year. And that’s quitting alcohol.Here are some of the benefits that I’ve discovered being alcohol-free:You look better (glowing skin, weight loss), you save money, and these internal changes:Mental clarity: better ideas, deeper reflection;Confidence: real confidence, not wine-fueled;Energy & routines: mornings feel sacred, not sluggish;Stronger boundaries: less people-pleasing, more intentionality;Elegance: the quiet power of being in control of yourself in social situations.Enjoy the episode and stay Messy Classy darlings x

You want to be THAT girl. What if you could be her, but the classy version? The one who walks into a room and doesn’t need to say a word. With timeless style and magnetic habits, people will turn heads and want to know who you are. Today, I’m not giving you another basic routine, I’m showing you how to become THAT girl -the classy edition.You already know the ‘that girl’ aesthetic online. Usually, it consists of matcha, green juice, and pilates in matching workout sets. Which is all fine, but what if you want timeless class over TikTok trends?The ‘that girl’ I want to be is about elegance, confidence, and building a life I love.So, let’s go over some tips and ideas in three sections: 1. How to refine your image, 2. habits & lifestyle, 3. your mindset to embody effortless elegance and confidenceStay Messy Classy Darlings x

Your worth isn't determined by others, you get to decide it for yourself.We often look to others for validation or to 'choose' us. But often, people can't see you for who you are because they don't see the world the same as you do.But when you start to build your confidence and self-worth, it no longer becomes about whether someone else can see your worth or not, because who cares what they see.That's why you need to choose yourself. Always. Believe in you. Because soon you will find the people who also believe in your worth AND can treat you accordingly.But it always has and always will start with you and how you see yourself.You've got this, my darling x

A good Sunday reset routine marks the end of one week and sets up the next for success. You can leave any chaos in the past and start fresh and have a clear mind for the new week.It’s like a mini shakeup that you get to do every week, and it is excellent if you have anxiety. It’s my favorite day of the week, and I always look forward to it. And not because it’s the weekend, because it’s a reset. I get to continue doing things that are working well and reset those that aren’t.It’s like the 1% rule, where you strive to get 1% better next time, so it’s not overwhelming. You don't have to have a dramatic change overnight. It’s simpler and more subtle. When I don’t do my usual Sunday reset, then my following week is less productive, less fun, and more stressful.In this episode, I’ll go over my Sunday reset checklist so that you can get inspiration for your own best Sunday ever.

Need to shake up your life? Not sure if you should? Guess what, baby girl, you can rebrand yourself as many times as you like. Let’s explore the topic of rebranding and reinventing yourself. It’s my favourite thing to do when I need a change. I love a good life glow-up.I’ll go over the aesthetic first, then lifestyle changes, and the mindset shifts to become the new version of you.The empowering thing about rebranding is that you get to decide WHO you want to be and then make a plan HOW to get there. Enjoy the episode, and stay messy classy darlings x

Drinking alcohol made me weak and stupid, so I decided to cut it out. It was the biggest power move I’ve made so far this year.In this episode, I’ll talk about why I gave up alcohol. How it's making me smarter and more successful, and why it’s leading me towards my dream life.It was a bold move, but one that was oh-so easy to make. Now I’m reaching my goals so much faster and easier than ever. If you want to hear the full story, listen now.

Imagine you weren't scared to pursue your dreams? If you started to chase your goals relentlessly? How would people react if you were more bold and audacious? If you set boundaries and put yourself first?In this episode I'll show you what I wrote in my notes app for more motivation and confidence to reach my goals. It came down to one main thing: Having more audacity to start asking for what I wanted.Audacity is being bold. Taking risks. Having the courage to put yourself first and chase your dreams no matter what.And baby girl, you (like me) need more audacity.

Forget the January resolutions. The real reinvention starts now, and I'm going to show you how.This is your action plan. Reinvent your look. Curate your space. Elevate your circle. And do it with intention.An excellent place to start is always with ourselves. Our clothes, our look, our mindset. So let’s talk about that first and then we can move on to our homes (which I think is a super important place to start reinventing because that’s where you spend the most time and your environment really does shape you into the person you want to be. Lastly, we’ll talk about lifestyle, the things that you do socially or even solo to help enrich your life even further, because yes, sometimes we do need to leave the house.Stay Messy Classy x

Let’s discuss how to attract and find quality relationships (both friendship and romantic relationships) as you level up and become a more classy version of yourself. We’ll also discuss moving on from those old relationships that no longer serve you while maintaining your grace and style. Enjoy the ep and don’t forget to follow me on ig @messyclassypodcast Stay messy classy! Trace x

Let’s create a simple but classy morning routine. It’s all about crafting a routine that’s more soft life and luxurious with quality over quantity. That means we are not waking up at 5am to do a gruelling workout, we are taking our time to be intentional with the day and start calm and prepared. Not many updates this week, but that starts at 14:10. The rest of the podcast is about how to set up a morning routine that works for you for a more peaceful but productive day ahead. Also, this is the first video podcast episode. What did you think? Let me know here or on ig @messyclassypodcast

As you become more confident, you will trigger jealousy and bad behavior in other people. It's unavoidable, as they perceive it as a threat to their self-esteem. I'll cover tips on how to handle it and why it happens. Life updates at 10:05. Enjoy the episode!

Let's discuss people who claim they are just keeping it "real" as an excuse to be rude or offensive. Being rude is a lack of self-control and empathy towards others. You have far more power and dignity when you remain gracious and polite. Not only that but you'll attract more people to you and get ahead in life. And that's classy.

Halloween as a classy girl can be so hauntingly chic. In this episode, I'll go over practical tips and inspiring ideas that combine sophistication with a playful spirit. If you want to elevate your Halloween style and be elegantly spooky this year, then you'll enjoy this fun episode, covering decorating, costumes, and Halloween party ideas.

In today’s episode, we are asking if classy girls can have a brat summer and, if so, what that looks like in terms of fashion, activities, social etiquette, and what kind of social media posts would work. We are about to enter summer here in Australia, so I thought it would be a great topic to discuss. Grab your martini, put on your crown, fire up the jazz, and let’s get into the episode.

Learn how to draw people to you with confidence and style while being the classy queen that you are. This episode will go over tips that you can do to be magnetic and irresistible to others. Appear confident & approachable and, above all, classy.

Queens make the rules, they don't follow them. In this episode, we'll explain why being a queen rather than a princess is more desirable. It's about knowing your worth and never settling for less than you deserve. A queen can stand on business and always be the one in control. Put on your crown, fire up the jazz, and listen to this week's episode.

In this episode, let's talk about how you can level up to become more confident and use that confidence for more success in your life. I'll discuss goal setting, how to balance your ambition with self-acceptance, and maintaining grace under pressure. So grab your martini, put on your crown, fire up the jazz and enjoy.

The first step to becoming classy is to rebrand your aesthetic. This week we'll cover your look with fashion, since how you portray yourself to the world is often how people treat you. We'll also look at lifestyle and going to the types of up-leveled places that convey the sophistication you want. Next, we'll discuss relationships and dating as you level up to a more classy lifestyle. Lastly, cover curating a home you'll want to spend time in.

Welcome to the introduction episode of the Messy Classy podcast. I'll talk about why I decided to start this podcast, who is the messy classy girl, and what topics we'll be talking about going forward. This podcast is for all the girls who want to be classy and elegant but can also be a little messy sometimes too. And that's what makes us fabulous.