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Not Your Average Counsellor
by HQCS
Welcome to ”Not Your Average Counsellor,” hosted by Vee Vinci, a Mental Health Wellness Expert and Registered Relationship and Family Therapist. Here, Vee takes you on a journey of self-discovery and personal growth, delving deep into the challenges of personal and relationship dynamics, helping you understand the reasons behind your thoughts and actions, and empowering you to create a more fulfilling life.Vee’s approach is refreshingly straightforward and effective. Tune in to her candid, deep, yet humorous conversations covering various important topics, including Navigating Well-Meaning Meddlers, Preventing Burnout, Breaking Free from Negative Thought Patterns, Coping with Trust Issues, Mastering Communication, Fostering Intimacy, and much more.If you’re looking for valuable insights, practical advice, and a new perspective to improve your relationship with yourself and others, ”Not Your Average Counsellor” is the podcast for you. Join Vee on this transformative journey, one episo
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Should You Date Someone Less Attractive But Financially Stable?
Episode Overview This is a confronting question because it touches ego, desire, status, self‑worth, and security. Many people quietly weigh passion and physical chemistry against stability and long‑term safety. There’s no “right” answer - but there are consequences either way. 💭 Why This…
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Is It Shallow to End a Relationship Over Lifestyle Incompatibility?
Episode Overview This question comes up often: you love someone emotionally, but your day‑to‑day ways of living don’t align. It’s not about who is “right” - it’s about whether your lives can actually work together. Lifestyle differences shape the relationship far more than people admit. 🏡 What...
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How Much Emotional Baggage Is Too Much to Bring Into a Relationship?
Episode Overview Everyone brings history into their relationships - past heartbreak, family patterns, attachment wounds, insecurities, and formative experiences. The real question is when past pain begins to actively shape or strain the current relationship. This episode explores the difference...
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Is It Fair to Expect Your Partner to Be Your Therapist?
Episode Overview Modern relationships often blur the line between emotional intimacy and emotional labour. This episode explores whether it’s healthy or fair to rely on your partner to soothe, analyse, or fix your emotional world - and how to stay connected without turning the relationship into a...
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Should You Fake Orgasms to Protect Your Partner’s Feelings?
Episode Overview Faking an orgasm is far more common than most people admit, but the reasons behind it are rarely simple. Is it kindness, avoidance, pressure, or conditioning? This episode explores what happens when sexual authenticity is replaced with performance, why so many people feel...
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Is It Your Job to Manage Your Partner’s Emotions?
Episode Overview: Relationships need empathy, support, and care-but there’s a difference between being supportive and becoming responsible for your partner’s emotional state. This episode explores where that line sits, and what happens when one person becomes the emotional caretaker for the...
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Should You End a Relationship Because of Incompatible Life Goals?
Episode Overview: Sometimes the hardest relationship truth is that love exists, but your futures don’t align. Whether it’s children, career ambitions, lifestyle, finances, or where you want to live, differing life goals can create deep tension. This episode explores when compromise is…
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How much should your partner’s relationship with their ex affect yours?
Episode Overview: Exes can stir up insecurity or jealousy, but not all past connections threaten your relationship. This episode helps you spot the difference between healthy contact and problematic ties, and navigate your feelings with clarity. Discussion Points: 🔹 Exes trigger normal...
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Is it Selfish to Not Want Children When Your Partner Desperately Does?
Episode Overview: When one partner wants children and the other doesn’t, it’s not a small disagreement — it’s a life-defining crossroads. This episode explores whether it’s selfish to stand firm, and what it means for the future of the relationship. Inside This Episode: The Core Conflict Wanting...
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Should You Stay with Someone Your Family or Friends Hate?
It’s one of the toughest dilemmas in love—when those closest to you don’t approve of your partner. Do you trust their judgment, or follow your heart? This episode explores why disapproval happens, how to separate genuine concern from bias, and how to balance loyalty between your partner and your...
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Is It Realistic to Expect Monogamy in Long-Distance Relationships?
Distance doesn’t just test love—it tests trust, loyalty, and emotional resilience. When you can’t rely on physical closeness, commitment takes on a different meaning. This episode explores whether it’s fair—or even realistic—to expect strict monogamy when two people live apart, and what really...
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❤️ How Much of Your Relationship Should You Share on Social Media?
Posting about your relationship can feel like a celebration—or sometimes, a performance. But where’s the line between healthy sharing and oversharing? This episode explores why some couples document every moment while others keep things private, and what our online lives really reveal about our...
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📩 Is Sliding into DMs While in a Relationship Always Cheating?
In a world where connection is just a click away, the lines around fidelity have never been fuzzier. Sliding into someone’s DMs—innocent curiosity, harmless flirting, or emotional betrayal? This episode dives into what our digital behaviours reveal about intent, trust, and the emotional…
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🔍 Should You Investigate Your Partner’s Dating History Online Before Getting Serious?
We live in a digital world where a few clicks can reveal almost anything about someone’s past. But just because it’s easy to look up your partner’s dating history online, does that mean you should? This episode explores the tricky space between healthy curiosity, mistrust, and crossing personal...
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🤔 Is It Fair to Make Major Life Decisions Without Consulting Your Partner?
Independence feels good—and it’s an important part of who we are. But where’s the line between personal freedom and partnership? What happens when one person makes a big decision—like moving cities, changing jobs, or starting therapy—without checking in first? Is it confidence, self-trust, or...
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🤲 When Does “Helping” Your Partner Become Controlling Their Life?
We like to think we’re just being supportive, loving, and helpful. But sometimes, that “help” can cross a line—slowly shifting into control without us even realising. This episode explores how caring can turn into managing or micromanaging, and what it truly means to support someone while...
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🎙️ Is It Manipulative to Use Your Partner’s Insecurities to Win Arguments?
When we’re close to someone, we get to know their fears, their history, the places that feel a little tender. And in the heat of conflict, it can be tempting to use that knowledge to land a point—or to “win.” But when does emotional awareness cross the line into emotional manipulation? And what...
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💭 Should You Stay with Someone Who Refuses to Work on Their Mental Health?
Here’s the truth: you can love someone deeply and still be exhausted by the weight of their unaddressed struggles. When a partner refuses to seek support, it doesn’t just impact them—it impacts you, the relationship, and your sense of safety and stability. So how do you know when staying is...
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🧠 Can Relationship Problems Be Caused by Mental Health Issues?
Let’s be real—love doesn’t happen in a vacuum. Our mental health impacts how we connect, communicate, and cope in relationships. So, what happens when one (or both) partners are struggling? Can anxiety, depression or past trauma actually create relationship issues? And more importantly—what can…
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💬 When Does a Relationship Become Exclusive?
You’re spending most of your time together, texting good morning and goodnight, and maybe even leaving a toothbrush at their place—but are you exclusive? In today’s dating world, exclusivity isn't always a given—so let’s talk about how to know where you stand, and why it’s better to talk than...
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🎭 What Are the Signs That a Partner Is Manipulative?
💭 Ever walked away from a conversation feeling confused, guilty, or like you’re the problem—even when you know you're not? In this episode, we’re naming what’s often hard to see: manipulation. Whether it’s subtle or straight-up toxic, let’s unpack the signs—and what to do if it’s showing up in...
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🔐 How Do You Deal with a Partner Who Has Trust Issues?
💭 When your partner doubts your loyalty—no matter how solid you’ve been—it can leave you walking on eggshells. In this episode, we’re unpacking how to love someone who struggles with trust, without losing yourself in the process. ----more---- Inside This Episode: 🧠 What trust issues really look...
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🧱 How Do You Deal with an Emotionally Unavailable Partner?
💭 When you're giving your all—and they’re holding back—it can leave you feeling confused, hurt, and alone. In this episode, we’re unpacking emotional unavailability: why it happens, how to spot it, and what the hell to do when you're falling for someone who can’t (or won’t) let you in....
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❤️🔥 Is It Possible to Be in Love with Two People at the Same Time?
💭 Torn between two hearts—or just confused? In this episode, we dive into the raw, real question: Can you genuinely love two people at once? We’re talking passion, emotional bonds, and the complexities that don’t fit neatly into fairytales or checkboxes. Inside This Episode: 💘 What does “being…
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🔥 Should You Disclose Your Sexual History to Your Partner?
💭 Is full honesty always the best policy—or are some things better left unsaid? In this episode, we’re diving into the tricky terrain of past partners, present insecurities, and how much is too much when it comes to sharing. Inside This Episode: 🧠 Why people ask. Is it genuine curiosity,...
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🔐 Is It Ever OK to Go Through Your Partner’s Belongings Without Their Permission?
💭 Trust, privacy, and that sneaky little urge to check. In this episode, we’re diving into the grey area of snooping—what it says about your relationship, and where the line is between curiosity and crossing a boundary. Inside This Episode: 🔍 What does privacy really mean? Is wanting personal...
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Should Couples Merge Their Finances or Keep Them Separate?
💭 Is combining money a sign of trust—or a recipe for tension? In this episode, we’re talking dollars, independence, and the tricky terrain of shared finances in relationships. Inside This Episode: 💸 Why money matters. How finances influence relationship stability, shaped by our upbringing and...
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Should You Prioritise Your Relationship or Your Career?
💭 Can you truly have it all—deep love and career success—or does something always have to give? In this episode, we’re diving into the balancing act between personal connection and professional ambition. Inside This Episode: ⚖️ Why does it feel like a choice? Societal pressures and traditional...
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Can You Truly Love Someone Without Ever Having Met Them in Person?
💭 Is love real without physical presence, or is it just an emotional illusion? In this episode, we explore how digital-age relationships are redefining what connection and intimacy mean today. Inside This Episode: 💬 What is love in the digital era? Emotional connection vs. physical presence—has...
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Soulmates? Not So Fast! How Disney and Other Stories Mess with Our Idea of 'The One'
💭 Is “The One” a romantic fantasy or a harmful myth? This episode unpacks how movies, books, and culture have shaped our expectations of love—and whether believing in soulmates is helping or hurting modern relationships. Inside This Episode: 📜 Where did the soulmate idea come from? Exploring…
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Is It Fair for One Partner to Have Significantly More Power in a Relationship?
💭 Does power imbalance strengthen or weaken a relationship? In this episode, we explore where power dynamics come from, how they impact both partners, and whether true equality is possible in relationships. Inside This Episode: ⚖️ What is power in a relationship? Emotional, financial, social…
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Has Society Turned Co-Dependency into a Love Story?
💭 Are we mistaking emotional over-reliance for true love? This episode unpacks how society romanticises co-dependency and where we should draw the line between deep connection and unhealthy attachment. Inside This Episode: ❤️ What is co-dependency? The difference between healthy interdependence...
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Should Couples Have Access to Each Other’s Phones and Social Media Accounts?
💭 Does full access build trust, or is it crossing a boundary? In this episode, we’re diving into the ongoing debate over privacy, transparency, and control in relationships. Inside This Episode: 🔑 Trust vs. transparency. Is sharing passwords a sign of honesty or insecurity? 🚧 Healthy…
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Should You Change Who You Are for Your Partner?
💭 Is love about compromise, or should you be accepted exactly as you are? This episode dives into the fine line between healthy growth and losing yourself in a relationship. Inside This Episode: ❤️ The nature of change. Relationships naturally shape us, but when does growth turn into...
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What’s Your Role in Coercive Control?
💭 Could you be unknowingly enabling, experiencing, or even exercising coercive control? This episode unpacks the complexities of manipulation, power, and control—helping you recognize, address, and break free from harmful dynamics. Inside This Episode: ⚠️ What is coercive control? How it differs...
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Is It Possible to Be Friends with an Ex?
💭 Can you truly move on while keeping your ex in your life? This episode dives into the emotional, practical, and relational challenges of post-breakup friendships—when they work, when they don’t, and how to navigate them. Inside This Episode: ❤️ Why do some people stay friends with an ex?…
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Should You Tell Your Partner If You Cheat on Them?
💭 Is honesty always the best policy, or can some secrets do more harm than good? Today, we’re tackling one of the most controversial relationship dilemmas—should you confess to infidelity, or take it to the grave? Inside This Episode: ❤️ What counts as cheating? Emotional affairs, physical...
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What Are Your Thoughts on Open Relationships? Can They Work?
💭 Are open relationships the key to deeper connection, or a fast track to heartbreak? Love isn’t one-size-fits-all, and today, we’re exploring the world of non-monogamy—its challenges, its benefits, and what it really takes to make it work. Inside This Episode: ❤️ What exactly is an open...
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Is It Okay to Stay in a Relationship If You’re No Longer in Love?
💭 What if love isn’t gone, just buried under routine? Or what if staying means sacrificing your happiness? This is one of the toughest questions in relationships, and there’s no simple answer. What We’re Covering in This Episode: ❤️ How do you know if you’re truly out of love—or just stuck in a...
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Welcome to the New Era of Not Your Average Counsellor!
Welcome to Not Your Average Counsellor 2025! I’m back with bold, thought-provoking conversations on relationships, mental health, and personal growth. This season, we’re shaking things up with big questions like: 👉 Should you stay in a relationship if you’re no longer in love? 👉 Should you tell...
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Navigating Toxic Relationships: Is It Me or Is It Them? (PART 2)
Have you ever wondered if you're in a toxic relationship but just can’t quite put your finger on what feels off? Maybe you’re questioning if it’s you or them. Toxic relationships aren’t limited to romantic partners. These unhealthy dynamics can show up with friends, family, and even colleagues.…
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Navigating Toxic Relationships: Is It Me or Is It Them? (PART 1)
Jane’s story is one I can’t keep to myself—it’s too important. Jane walked into my office with a smile that hid the pain she had carried for years. On the surface, she seemed to have it all—young, intelligent, beautiful, and financially independent. But beneath that, she was grappling with a…
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Parenting Your Parents
Are you in the position where you're not just a son or daughter anymore, but also a caregiver to your parents? This is something I’m going through myself right now, and I know how overwhelming it can feel. In this episode I explore what this generational role reversal really means and why it...
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Navigating Conflict: Surviving Relationship 'Spats' and 'Tiffs' with Your Sanity Intact
Let’s face it—every relationship has its share of arguments. Whether it's over something small like leaving the toothpaste cap off or bigger issues like money, disagreements are totally normal. But here’s the thing: conflict doesn’t have to be a bad thing. When handled right, it can actually…
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Parenting Partners: Navigating Parenthood Together
This one is for couples who have embarked or are about to embark on the exhilarating roller-coaster ride of parenthood – the ups, the downs, and everything in between. Join me and Chelsea Morgan, (Counsellor, Teacher, Rapid Transformational Therapist, and Mum) as we share practical tips, tools…
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Intimacy: More Than Just a Wink-Wink, Nudge-Nudge
When you hear the word intimacy, what comes to mind? If your thoughts go straight to the bedroom, you're not alone. But intimacy is so much more than what happens between the sheets. In my latest podcast episode I sit down with Sexologist Erika Shaw for an open and honest conversation about the...
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Evolution of Priorities: How and Why They Change in Relationships
You know that feeling when everything in your relationship feels just right? But then, suddenly, things start to shift, and you're left wondering why? Well, it often comes down to evolving priorities. In this podcast episode, I explore why our priorities shift and how this impacts our...
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Couples' Guide to Financial Harmony with Special Guest Breanna May
Ever feel like money talk in your relationship sets off a ticking time bomb? This podcast episode is all about defusing that tension and finding financial harmony with your partner. In this episode, I'm thrilled to have Breanna May with me. She's an educator, business mentor, mindset magician…
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Wedding Bells to Reality: Navigating Newlywed Challenges
You know, we often talk about the magic of weddings – the love, the excitement, the promise of forever. But what about after the confetti settles and reality kicks in? That's exactly what we're exploring in this episode. It's all about delving into the journey from "I do" to the daily grind and…
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Mastering Miscommunication: From Texting Fails to Expecting Your Partner to be a Mind Reader
Get ready to laugh, nod along, and maybe even facepalm as we tackle one of the biggest relationship roadblocks: miscommunication. Yep, we've all been there, expecting our partner to magically read our minds or completely misinterpreting what they're trying to say. It's like a comedy of errors…
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Welcome to ”Not Your Average Counsellor,” hosted by Vee Vinci, a Mental Health Wellness Expert and Registered Relationship and Family Therapist. Here, Vee takes you on a journey of self-discovery and personal growth, delving deep into the challenges of personal and relationship dynamics, helping you understand the reasons behind your thoughts and actions, and empowering you to create a more fulfilling life.Vee’s approach is refreshingly straightforward and effective. Tune in to her candid, deep, yet humorous conversations covering various important topics, including Navigating Well-Meaning Meddlers, Preventing Burnout, Breaking Free from Negative Thought Patterns, Coping with Trust Issues, Mastering Communication, Fostering Intimacy, and much more.If you’re looking for valuable insights, practical advice, and a new perspective to improve your relationship with yourself and others, ”Not Your Average Counsellor” is the podcast for you. Join Vee on this transformative journey, one episo
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