ONGEA, Lets Get Talking

We've all heard that comparison is the thief of joy. I am here to set the record straight and confirm that it is the thief of joy. Today, I will share four areas we compare ourselves and how to alter this tendency. I promise that it's not all doom and gloom. Yes, we compare ourselves, and many of us negatively compare ourselves, but this doesn't mean that you are weird or destined to compare yourself for life.  Here are the four areas of comparison I talk about in this episode: 1) Career |   2) Love, relationships & Intimacy 3) Physicality 4) Success 

Today's episode is all about setting healthy boundaries in our relationships; relationships don’t just mean romantic partners, but everyone in life to whom we have given access to us. Setting boundaries can be uncomfortable for many of us, but it is well worth it when we manage to do it. I’ll share a bit of how I manage to set boundaries in my relationship to inspire you to start the journey of setting boundaries.

Hi, lovelies :) There is so much power in the narratives that we tell about ourselves. How we speak to and about ourselves matters because it provides a basis for our self-identification and imprints how we live out the rest of our lives.

Welcome to episode 13. This week I deep dive into my journey into enoughness, how powerful my limiting self-narratives proved to be, and finally, being able to show up for myself in life fully. This episode had a lot of raw, honest moments in my experiences of low self-esteem and confidence.

Sadly in today’s society, it’s much too common for people to experience a toxic or harmful working environment. It can be tough to exist in a bad working environment/with bad managers. This can often cause us to be discouraged and frustrated and bruise our confidence. In today's episode, I share some helpful tips to help you come to terms with & heal from a negative work experience.

We all have New Year's Intentions/ resolutions we want to achieve in the upcoming year. Coming up with intentions is easy the easy bit however, keeping them a priority is the harder sister and can sometimes leave us feeling discouraged and frustrated, and at times give up on these intentions altogether. I’ll share three pieces of advice that will help us maintain our intentions throughout the year sustainably.

It’s the most wonderful time of the year, you guess it, Christmas. Merry Christmas, fam; even though this time of the year is jolly, know that it’s okay not to be okay! Feeling emotional, or sadness is totally okay. You don’t have to justify how you’re feeling to anyone. Remember to give yourself grace and check in on yourself throughout this period. Lots of love x

Does the absence of an argument or arguments make a relationship incredible? Tune into this week's episode, where I explore arguments in incredibly romantic relationships. As always, thank you for listening and have a lovely week.

We have all heard the self-love jargon, "if you don't love yourself, how can you love someone else?" In this week's episode, we unpack self-love by starting at the root with a definition and then seeing easy, practical ways to put this vital principle into practice. Join me for this critical exploration of self-love. Let's extend self-kindness, forgiveness, and grace towards ourselves as we would a friend as we start the journey to self-love.

I’m back Ongealetsgettalking Fam! I know you’ve missed me. This week I share general life chitchats and talk about the job applications & interview process. Stick around for some encouragement x

What comes to mind when you think of online dating? A creepy, weird, lonely old guy in front of a computer in the basement, desperation, embarrassing, shameful? Online dating has changed a lot over the years, especially over lockdown, as it was one of the few ways people had of meeting "Mr right". Join me in this week's episode as I explore my journey into online dating, the lessons learned and ultimately, how I met my boyfriend. 

Self-doubt is a normal part of life, yet few of us truly understand what is happening to us when we experience our greatest doubts. In this video, I explain what self-doubt is, its possible effects, the consequences of debilitating self-doubt, ways to break the patterns of self-doubt and some famous people who experienced self-doubt in their lives. We never need to be ashamed of experiencing self-doubt because it's an authentic and human experience. Join me as we unpack self-doubt, giving you the tools to recognise and break learned behaviours of self-doubting in your life.

What do you want to do when you grow up? Is this a myth or does it reflect reality? This week we explore a different way to reframe this question, enabling us to have a growth mindset and extend kindness and compassion towards ourselves as we navigate life and career.

A perpetual take learning into their own hands and make it a habit, a daily practice. You can cultivate the habit of being a perpetual learner in 3 easy steps: Being inquisitive, Making time and Application.  Being a perpetual learner is a lifelong journey and not a destination; we can apply this to every aspect of life and in learning about Black History Month (pass, we can do this throughout the year, not only in October)  Some of the books I've listed are below:  The Adventures of Awkward Black Girl by Issa Rae  Who's Loving you by Sareeta Domingo  The Other Woman by Peace Adzo Medie Queenie by Candice Carty-Williams  On Beauty by Zadie Smith  Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie The Good Immigrant Nikesh Shukla Becoming Michelle Obama Natives Akala The Hate you Give Angie Thomas An excellent Instagram account to follow to keep up to date is everydayracism (I've found them so helpful & a great resource) 

I haven't posted in a bit; it's been a while. Careers and jobs in our twenties are delicate and can sometimes feel overwhelming. So much choice, so much opportunity, and little opportunity all at once. Join me today as I share with you why I left my job, the lessons learned (I'm learning), and encouragement for the twenty-something as we embark on jobs and careers. I genuinely believe that some jobs are there for a season to teach us; some inspire something deep within us, some challenge us, some are for us, and some are meant to be left behind. 

Welcome to Ongea, Let’s Get Talking. In this first episode, I introduced myself and I share easy steps tips on how to make friends in your twenties while navigating a new city. Moving can be daunting, and the fear of not having friends in your new home even more. Join me this week and hear reachable ways to make gal pals x