Pivot Parenting: Expert Tips for Navigating Teen and Tween Challenges
by Heather Frazier
Welcome to Pivot Parenting, the podcast designed to help you thrive in the ever-changing landscape of raising teens, tweens and young adults. Hosted by Heather Frazier, a triple-certified life coach and mother of four, this show is your go-to resource for expert advice, practical strategies, and compassionate support.Each episode dives deep into the complex world of adolescent development, tackling everything from effective communication and setting boundaries to managing emotional turbulence and fostering independence. Heather draws from her extensive experience to offer insights into the latest parenting trends, research-backed methods, and real-life stories that resonate with parents everywhere.Whether you're struggling with your teen's mood swings, navigating the complexities of social media, or simply looking to strengthen your family bonds, Pivot Parenting provides the tools you need to pivot from frustration and uncertainty to confidence and connection. Our goal is to equip yo
Episodes
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333. The Cornell 7, Accountability, and Teaching our Sons and Daughters
No man (or woman) is an island entire of itself- John Donne There are so many voices right now concerning "the Cornell 7". I want to offer a parent, coach, and womans perspective. My goal is to offer love, levity, and insight to how you and I can make an impact in our homes and communities. This…
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332. An Open Letter to the Young Ladies
What do I want my daughter (and yours) to know before she leaves home and becomes an adult? A LOT. In this episode, I'm sharing an open letter to young women heading into college and adulthood. We're talking about self worth, dating, boundaries, friendships, faith, social media, sex, mistakes…
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331. Follow Your Intuition While Raising Teens
Second guessing yourself as a parent is so common. Your teen tells you everything you're doing wrong. Your parents, friends, or siblings have opinions too. Then there are the parenting books, podcasts, social media accounts, and experts all promising the best way to get your teen to listen, stop...
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330. The Anatomy of an Apology
If we're honest, most of us aren't very good at apologizing. Some apologies build trust. Others create more distance. And sometimes the words "I'm sorry" aren't actually about repairing the relationship at all, they're about ending the conversation, controlling how we're perceived, avoiding...
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329. How to Talk About Sex in Ways That Help Teens Stay Safe
Once upon many times, a girl told someone she trusted about what had happened to her. How her trust had been broken, how what she didn't want to happen had happened. Things she never wanted to think about again, things that hurt her deeply. and then that trusted person asked her why she didn't...
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328. Creating Peace in Our Homes, with Abigail Harper
We say we want peace in our homes. We talk about how our world can find peace, but do we know the best ways to make this happen? Today I have conflict and peace expert Abigail Harper on to discuss the structure we need to learn for lasting peace. She teaches us about collusion, how to recognize…
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327. When our Teens Disappoint Us
Even more than 31 flavors, disapointment is so varied and unavoidable in parenting. They lied. Again Their apprearance is embarrassing They failed a quiz, class or college They are breaking all the rules They don't care about us or their family I've heard too many disapointments to name, but they...
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326. Why Your Teen Lies To You
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325. Seeing Your Teen as a Person, Not a Reflection
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324. You and Your Teen Are Not Enemies
Humans are wired to look for an enemy. And when things feel hard with your teen, it is easy to turn them into the problem. But that approach quietly creates more distance. In this episode, I revisit one of my most important conversations about what it really looks like to be on the same team as...
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323. Rules and Consequences
This is a reprise episode of "ep. 89 Letter of the Law". I am going to break down the value of rules and consequences in parenting, as well as the application of how to create and follow through with rules and consequences. This is a really common topic with clients and will be very helpful to...
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322. Are You a Good Parent?
This weeks episode is a throw back of ep. 158. I teach you how to know the answer to a common and often painful question: Am I a good parent? It can be a scary thing to consider, but I invite you to have me along as you do. To more fully understand, embrace and implement what I teach, book a free...
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321. LOVE is The Strongest Force for Change in Hearts, Homes, and Communities
What if love isn't just sweet and soft? What if it's actually the strongest force for good, for change? In this final episode of my LOVE series, I'm talking about why love changes people in ways pressure, fear, shame, criticism, control, and consequences never can. As parents, partners, and…
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320. Out-of-the-box Ways to Love Your Teen, with Sonia Suthar
"I love you" might not be getting the job done. Most parents believe that saying the words should be enough—but with teenagers, love isn't always received the way we intend it. Sometimes the most powerful ways to show love are the ones we don't naturally think of. In Episode 11 of the Pivot...
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319. Love Your Teen Even When They Make it Hard to Love Them
Why are teens often the hardest on the people who love them most? And how do we keep loving our teens well when they're rude, angry, defensive, disrespectful, or pushing us away? In part 10 of my LOVE series on the Pivot Parenting Podcast, I'm talking about what's really going on underneath...
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318. Love Is Advocating for Ourselves, Our Kids, Our Neighbors
Advocating matters. But what matters more is how you model it. Love is the key! Your teen is learning how to speak up, set boundaries, and handle hard situations by watching you. Not just what you say, but how you say it. Emotions matter. In this episode of the Love series, we talk about what it...
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317. Love Everyone Involved for Maximum Peace and Connection
Loving people is simple in theory and much harder in real life. Especially when it comes to your ex, your teen's frienemies, or the adults who haven't treated your child well. So the question comes up fast. Why would I love them? In this episode, I walk you through why loving difficult people...
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316. Love Never Hurts (that's expectations, fear, judgement)
If loving your teen feels heavy, confusing, or even painful… this episode will shift that. Love doesn't hurt. But what we think love is? That often does. In this episode, I walk you through what parents mistake for love, how that creates distance, and how to come back to something that actually...
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315. Love is Owning When You're Wrong
What if what you're calling failure… isn't failure? When your child's life, or your parenting, doesn't look how you thought it would, it can bring up shame, guilt, and that quiet sense of "I got this wrong." But what if you're not wrong… you're just being invited to grow? In this episode, we talk...
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314. Love Comes From Within
They hug you ...They trash talk you in their texts. They confide in you ...They lie to you. They tell you they love you ...They break your rules. It can feel like a roller coaster—loving them deeply while also feeling hurt, confused, or unsure where you stand. In this episode, I talk about why…
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313. Love is Flexible. Bend, Don't Break
What's your favorite TV show? Today I talk about how the stories we love can teach us emotional flexibility—and how that flexibility expands our ability to love our teens well. In this episode, I share the three parts of structured flexibility that help us connect better, find more happiness, and...
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312. Love Is Grounded Even When Your Teen Isn't
Our teen is grumpy, we find something we sished didn't exist, we are angry, frustrated and just want to fix it all. What parents may not realize is that they're parenting out of disregulation and that often causes it's own set of problems. While we may not associate LOVE and REGULATION with each...
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311. Love Yourself Like You Want Your Teen To
If we want our kids to be okay with their imperctions, not beat themselves up, and expect others to treat them with respect, there is a practice we parents need to improve- self love. Our kids learn how to see themselves by how we see ourselves. It is a common misconception that if we think we're...
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310. The MOST Necessary Element to Create a Loving Home
Welcome to the new Pivot Parenting series on LOVE! I love love, and over the next several episodes, I'll be focusing on different aspects of how we love ourselves, our teens, our partners, and our families. They all intersect. After more than six years of coaching, I see the patterns…
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309. How to Stay Connected When Your Teen Triggers you, with Dr. Kelly Flanagan, PhD
Many parents interpret their teen's behavior as disrespect—but what if your child is actually trying to answer a deeper question: Do I belong here? When we get triggered, our brains can quickly jump to worst-case assumptions about our teenagers—their attitude, their silence, their choices. That's...
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308. Belief 6: The Transformation Starts With You
This is the last episode in this six-part series—and honestly, it's the one that puts it all together and matters most. Because at some point, every parent hits the wall. You've tried the consequences, the talks, the reminders, the worrying, the hoping they'll grow out of it. And you're left...
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307. Belief 5: Nothing Has Gone Wrong
Instant Relief Hack: Conflict Doesn't Mean Something Is Broken A few years ago, my son walked out of the room mid-conversation and wouldn't come back. I remember standing there, heart pounding, replaying every word. I'm just trying to help. But whatever I meant to do… it wasn't working. For a…
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306. Belief 4: Their Push for Independence Isn't Rejection
Few things hurt like this: the child who once couldn't get enough of you now barely looks up from their phone. Doors are closed. Eye rolls are constant. And somewhere deep down, a quiet fear creeps in—Did I lose them? In this episode, we're talking about one of the most misunderstood parts of...
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305. Belief 3: Control is Creating the Distance
This one is tender. And it's personal. So I'm going to be gentle with you. Most of us are constantly looking around—at social media, neighbors, family members, even our own kids—to figure out if we're doing okay. If we're good parents. If we're worthy of the life and relationships we want....
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304. Belief 2: You Don't Need Them to Change First
What if the thing you've been waiting for your teen to do… isn't actually the thing that has to happen first? Most parents live in a quiet, exhausting loop of "If they would just…" If they would just try harder. If they would just care. If they would just stop lying, yelling, shutting down, or...
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303. Belief 1: Your Future Doesn't Have to Look Like Your Past
Welcome to a six part series, outlining the exact process to shift your parental struggles to find the connection with your teen. Today we begin with step 1: Your Future Doesn't Have to Look Like Your Past Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "This is just what our relationship will be"… or...
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302. What Your Teen Wished You Knew
Tea time! This weeks episode is unique in that I've have direct feedback from teens on hurtful parenting behaviors. I was told things that they would never tell you- does any of it fit your parenting patterns? Listen to find out. "Why do my parents think this way and are so bothered by me?" "What...
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301. Assuming the Worst While Parenting
In this episode, we're talking about one of the most common (and sneakiest) patterns in parenting: assuming the worst. I see it all the time. And yes—I do it too. It shows up in the little moments. Like when your teen doesn't answer your text for an hour and your brain instantly goes to: They're...
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300. The Over-Loving Parent Trap (and How to Step Out Gracefully)
If you've ever thought, "I just want to love my kid and have them let me!" — this episode is for you. Many parents find themselves chasing their teen's affection, bending rules, overgiving, or trying to buy closeness with gifts and favors — all in the name of love. But instead of feeling more...
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299. Healing Apathy in Your Teen, with Alma Galvan
Your motivated kid turned into a teenager who doesn't care about anything. Now what? It's heartbreaking watching your once-enthusiastic child become indifferent to grades, goals, relationships - everything that used to matter to them. You're probably wondering if you did something wrong, if it's...
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298. Worrying About Your Teen
If you're a parent who lies awake at night mentally running through worst-case scenarios, overthinking every decision your teen makes, or trying to prevent every possible meltdown, mistake, or danger—you're not alone. Parental worry is universal. And it's exhausting. In this episode, I'm breaking...
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297. 5 Steps to Stop Nagging and Get Buy-in from Your Teen, with Marielle Melling
Nagging your teen never works—but what if you had a framework that did? In this episode of Pivot Parenting, I sit down with author and parenting expert Marielle Melling to talk about how parents can finally get on the same page with their kids without the endless power struggles. We unpack why...
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296. Protecting Harm with Connecting Conversations, with Jason Reid
Today I'm talking with Jason Reid about one of the hardest parts of parenting: having real, honest conversations with our kids about the things nobody wants to bring up. The messy things. The scary things. The things we hope aren't happening—but often are. Jason shares his family's story of…
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295. Teenage Loneliness Epidemic
Teenagers today are more "connected" than ever—and also more alone than ever. In this episode, I break down what researchers are calling a teenage loneliness epidemic and how it's quietly shaping our kids' emotional, social, and spiritual health. Large global studies show that about 1 in 9...
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294. Purity Culture and Teens
Purity culture isn't the opposite of sin—it's the counterfeit of real purity, emotional maturity, and healthy sexuality. In this episode, we unpack how purity culture quietly slips into our parenting, our faith conversations, and our expectations of teens… and how to replace it with something...
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293. Stop Fixing Them, Start with You- with Chris Rich
If you've ever thought, "Why do my teen's moods control the whole house?"—this episode is for you. Instead of doubling down on control (which never works), I'll walk you through how to regulate yourself first, so you can actually connect with your teen and get real results. Here's what you'll…
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292. Help! My Teen Is Using and I Don't Know What to Do, with Brenda Zane
What do you do when you get that call in the middle of the night—the one that flips your world upside down? For Brenda, it was the night her son was picked up for wilderness therapy because his substance use had reached a breaking point. In this honest, gut-punch of an episode, Brenda and I talk...
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291. How I Fixed My Teen, book reading CH 11
In this special 9-episode series, I'm reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You'll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around. Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus...
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290. How I Fixed My Teen, book reading CH 10
Trigger warning. This episode contains suicidal ideation. In this special 9-episode series, I'm reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You'll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around. Plus, get…
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289. How I Fixed My Teen, book reading CH 9
In this special 9-episode series, I'm reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You'll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around. Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus...
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288. How I Fixed My Teen, book reading Ch 7&8
In this special 9-episode series, I'm reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You'll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around. Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus...
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287. How I Fixed My Teen, book reading CH 5&6
In this special 9-episode series, I'm reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You'll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around. Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus...
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286. How I Fixed My Teen, book reading Ch 4
In this special 9-episode series, I'm reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You'll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around. Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus...
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285. How I Fixed My Teen, book reading CH 3
In this special 9-episode series, I'm reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You'll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around. Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus...
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284. How I Fixed My Teen, book reading CH. 2
In this special 9-episode series, I'm reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You'll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around. Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus...
About this show
Welcome to Pivot Parenting, the podcast designed to help you thrive in the ever-changing landscape of raising teens, tweens and young adults. Hosted by Heather Frazier, a triple-certified life coach and mother of four, this show is your go-to resource for expert advice, practical strategies, and compassionate support.Each episode dives deep into the complex world of adolescent development, tackling everything from effective communication and setting boundaries to managing emotional turbulence and fostering independence. Heather draws from her extensive experience to offer insights into the latest parenting trends, research-backed methods, and real-life stories that resonate with parents everywhere.Whether you're struggling with your teen's mood swings, navigating the complexities of social media, or simply looking to strengthen your family bonds, Pivot Parenting provides the tools you need to pivot from frustration and uncertainty to confidence and connection. Our goal is to equip yo
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