Porn Free Radio
by Matt Dobschuetz
RecoveredMan.com presents Porn Free Radio with Matt Dobschuetz. This is the podcast for motivated guys, who want to quit looking at porn, get hope and take action. Whether you have been at this a long time or just hit rock bottom, this podcast is for you. Matt Dobschuetz shares how his journey to being porn free started with being caught by his wife downloading pornography in 2001. What came out of that lowest point was a new desire to get free and a passion for helping others. Matt has practical advice and a plan for getting out of porn addiction. He gets it. He's been there and made mistakes, but now lives 100% porn free. Getting a system that works and is repeatable is the cornerstone of Porn Free Radio. Every time you fail you have an opportunity to learn what works for you and make the necessary changes to your plan. Whether your goal is improving your marriage, your career, or just making you a better dad- getting rid of the porn will free you to make it happen. Get hope and take
Episodes
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382 - Recovery is Making My Life No Fun
Are you attaching to your negative thoughts, or are you questioning them? In this episode, you will learn a practical tool to break automatic reactions and reclaim control over your thinking. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/382 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways…
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381 - How To Overcome Instant Gratification
In this episode, we explore present bias—the common challenge of making impulsive decisions based on immediate feelings while ignoring the long-term impact on our future self. You'll some practical tools to bridge this gap so you can overcome the pull towards instant gratification. Get the full...
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380 - The 2026 NFL Preview Show
Back for year 6! The Porn Free Radio Podcast Network presents the 2026 NFL Preview Show with Vern Tompke, Aaron W., Sam Dobschuetz, Matt Dobschuetz, and introducing new panel member, Braiden G. As always, we have a lot of football banter mixed with some rich recovery nuggets along the way. If...
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379 - Trace the Slip: Using Toyota's 5 Whys To Improve Your Recovery
In this episode, we discuss using the "Five Whys" technique, a problem-solving method inspired by the Toyota Production System, to trace recovery missteps back to their core root causes. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/379 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I…
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378 - Getting Out of the Sunken Place
In this episode, we use a metaphor from the 2017 film Get Out to examine how disconnection and dissociation trap us. Our goal is to reclaim ownership in our life and stay fully present in every scene. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/378 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here…
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377 - It Takes Less Work to Succeed Than to Fail
In this episode, we look at the surprising idea that it takes less work to succeed than to fail. You'll learn why a systematic approach to your recovery requires less energy than failing through random effort and wasted steps. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/377 PLUS:...
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376 - Why The Road To Recovery Goes Through Your Childhood w/ Eddie Capparucci
Dr. Eddie Capparucci joins Porn Free Radio to discuss how childhood wounds often drive problematic sexual behaviors. Discover how to identify core emotional triggers and use the "what I feel versus what is real" tool to counter shame-based lies. Get a free copy of Eddie's "20 Emotional Regulation...
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375 - Noah Filipiak Returns
Noah Filipiak from The Flip Side podcast returns to Porn Free Radio. We discuss codependency, resentment, developing a secure sense of self, and reclaiming "brain space" from porn-use. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/375 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can...
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374 – 10 Tipping Point Ideas for 2026 w/ Vern Tompke
Matt Dobschuetz and Vern Tompke, from the Finding Traction podcast, discuss ten "tipping point" ideas for 2026. The conversation highlights 10 actionable strategies used by Matt's coaching clients in their Porn Free plans. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/374 PLUS: Whenever...
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373 - AI Pros and Concerns w/ Michael Leahy
Matt is joined by Michael Leahy from Bravehearts to explore the complexities of AI (artificial intelligence.) The guys review a list of pros and concerns generated by Matt's AI assistant, Cal. Matt then shares his own pros and concerns about AI in recovery—including the benefit of "agentic…
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372 - Are my tight restrictions making things worse?
In the episode, Matt answers a listener question about whether tightly restricted boundaries and rules make cravings worse. The answer surprised even Matt. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/372 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery…
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371 - Live Above The O-Line
What we believe about our current situation can keep us stuck. But here's the truth: the way we interpret events is a habit. On this episode, I'm sharing a powerful tool from Master Coach Chris Dorris: his mental toughness mantra, "Live Above the O-Line." Get the full show notes here:...
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370- Breaking Shame Pt. 2
Day-one listener Jason joins Matt for Breaking Shame Pt. 2. In this episode, we explore how greater freedom comes from examining our unconscious agreements with shame. Learn how shame stories are dislodged and healed in authentic, healthy relationships. This is part 2 of 2. Get the full show…
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369 - Breaking Shame Pt.1
In this 12th-anniversary episode, Matt explores shame — the painful feeling of believing something about yourself is fundamentally wrong or defective. Learn to identify the "shame stories" driving your escapism as the first step to reclaiming your freedom. This is part 1 of 2. Get the full show...
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368 - Instagram Audit
Like a tax audit for your Instagram usage — 11 questions to reveal what the app is actually doing for (or to) you. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/368 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course)...
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367 - Me Without Beer One Year
This past January marked a new type of sobriety milestone for myself: one year alcohol-free. In this episode, I share why I gave up drinking and what I have learned in the process. My thanks to Jason George from the GRIZ podcast for sitting in on this show. Get the full show notes here:...
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366 - My No Ghosting Policy for 2026
Have you ever been "ghosted?" You know that feeling you get when someone blows you off or doesn't respond to your text. It's confusing. It got me thinking... Where do I not show up in my life? Where am I not present? Where do I check out? In this episode, I share my personal "no ghosting" policy...
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365 - The ONE Thing That Made 15-Years Porn Free Possible
Kick off 2026 with Matt Dobschuetz as he celebrates 15-years porn free. In this episode, Matt looks back with his brother (Sam) and identifies the ONE THING that has made this streak possible. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/365 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4…
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364 - What do you get out of being bored?
In this episode, you will discover how your emotional state is a choice, not something that happens to you. For more, listen to my three-part Personal Mastery series from 2020 starting with PFR 246. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/364 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are…
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363 - Owners, Not Renters
The core of recovery is about taking 100% ownership for your needs and choices. This episode is about shifting away from a renter mindset and embracing the freedom of being an owner in your life. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/363 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4...
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362 - Integrity Gaps
In this episode, we learn how integrity gaps in our lives can be useful—much like a car's dashboard light—by alerting us toward the places that require greater wholeness and integration. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/362 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I…
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361 - Advanced Recovery pt. 3: How Men Build Friendships Beyond Recovery
This is part 3 of our 3-part series on advanced recovery. In this episode, we talk about the need for creating deeply supportive friendships that go beyond recovery. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/361 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your...
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360 - Advanced Recovery pt. 2: Identity and Performance w/ Dick Ryan
Author Dick Ryan, joins us for part 2 of a 3-part series on advanced recovery. In this episode Dick, a musician by trade, shares from his experience mentoring performing artists. He addresses an issue all too common among artists: the problem of defining your identity by your performance. This...
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359 - Advanced Recovery Pt. 1: D.I.R.E. Traits w/ Hope Ray
Hope Ray, L.P.C., joins us for part 1 of a 3-part series on advanced recovery. In this episode, Hope discusses her new program for men, called Getting D.I.R.E. Straight. The program addresses four maladaptive traits (Detachment, Incongruence, Regression, and Entitlement) that can negatively…
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358 - Real Guys Living Porn Free 3 Yrs And Beyond (Roman, Steve, & Nathan)
Matt is joined in-studio for a conversation with three PFR listeners who are all living porn free; Roman (3 Years), Steve (7 yrs), and Nathan (8yrs.) In this hope-filled episode, the guys share their recovery stories and the habits that have gotten them this far. Get the full show notes here:...
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357 - The 2025 NFL Preview Show
Back for year 5! The Porn Free Radio Podcast Network presents the 2025 NFL Preview Show with Vern Tompke, Aaron W., Sam Dobschuetz, and your host Matt Dobschuetz. This year we've added a segment dedicated to helping you in your recovery. If you're not an American football fan, you might just be...
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356 - Expense vs. Investment (Updated)
Lee Cockerell was Disney World's Executive Vice President of Operations for over a decade There he oversaw the daily operations and guest experience for all of its theme parks, hotels, and properties. He is often brought in to an organization looking to improve its customer service. He famously...
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355 - Intention Vs. Commitment
Steve Chandler from episode 274 wrote this, "Many people I work with make the mistake of confusing commitment with intention. They think they're the same thing. And by thinking that, by living in that misunderstanding, they lose all the power commitment has." Sam Dobschuetz joins this episode to...
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355 - Intention Vs. Commitment
Steve Chandler from episode 274 wrote this, "Many people I work with make the mistake of confusing commitment with intention. They think they're the same thing. And by thinking that, by living in that misunderstanding, they lose all the power commitment has." Sam Dobschuetz joins this episode to...
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354 - Don't Just Change What You're Doing. Change Who You're Being.
The whole point of this podcast is not just to change what you're doing. It's to change who you are being. For that, we look at repetition and beliefs. In this episode we discuss how the our identity is shaped by our habits. And how the identity we choose determines the habits we need to create....
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353 - The Surprising Way To Meet Almost Any Need
We often say that porn is not the problem, it's the solution. And when we let go of porn we are left with one thing: our needs. But just how do we get our needs met? On this episode, I share a counterintuitive approach, you can use, to meet almost any need. Get the full show notes here:...
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352 - Potential Vs. Capacity
Have you ever felt guilty that you have not lived up to your potential? That because of your past something you were destined for will never be achieved. On this episode, we reframe this mindset with a hopeful alternative where nothing has been lost and even more is to be gained. Get the full…
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352 - Potential Vs. Capacity
Have you ever felt guilty that you have not lived up to your potential? That because of your past something you were destined for will never be achieved. On this episode, we reframe this mindset with a hopeful alternative where nothing has been lost and even more is to be gained. Get the full…
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351 - Freedom Questions
This episode is a fast follow-up to PFR 350- Pure Freedom, where we discuss Rich Litvin's "three distinctions around freedom." In this show, Matt asks some prompting questions to help you get more clarity about your freedom. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/351 PLUS…
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350 - Pure Freedom
In the episode, we are going to focus on the concept of pure freedom. Master coach, Rich Litvin describes pure freedom as "the freedom to make decisions moment by moment. The freedom to be yourself... a place to come FROM, not a place to get to." Get the full show notes here:...
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349 - When are you going to stop living like you're never going to die?
We're back on PFR asking the question, "when are you going to stop living like you're never going to die?" Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/349 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video course)...
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348 - High Bottom Porn Use
In this episode, we explore the idea of "high bottom" porn use—when your life isn't falling apart, but you're still stuck and it's costing you. We discuss how people in this situation can break through denial and rationalizations to take more action. There is more freedom to be had! Get the full...
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347 - Dan Miller's 15% Rule for New Year Goal Setting
One of my podcast heroes, Dan Miller, had a goal setting practice which I love. "When I set my goals for the new year, I ruthlessly eliminate 15% of the things I've been doing to make room for the new things I want to do." — Dan Miller, 48 Days Podcast Dan shares how it's important eliminate…
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346 - What's The Difference Between a Relapse and a Slip?
In this episode, I'm joined by my brother Sam Dobschuetz, as we open the Porn Free Radio mailbag answering questions like… What percentage of guys that do coaching with you achieve a porn free life? Any recommendations on a porn blocker or firewall? What is it actually like when you are in…
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345 - Confessions of a Recovered News Junkie
We just picked a new president here in the States. Maybe you heard? This season, I noticed my news consumption went way up. As I look back now at my feelings and motivations, I found some interesting connections to my old porn struggle. On this episode, I consider my vulnerability with consuming...
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344 - Diagnose Any Relapse and Get Better Faster
When solving a crime, detectives use motive, means, and opportunity to catch the criminal. In recovery, after a troubling episode, we can use the same logic to solve our relapse. Our ultimate goal is to prevent future crimes. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/344 PLUS…
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343 - The 2024 NFL Preview Show
The Porn Free Radio Podcast Network presents the 2024 NFL Preview Show with Vern Tompke, Aaron W., Sammy D. (Sam Dobschuetz) and your host, Matt "The Dobber" Dobschuetz Join us for our fourth annual episode about our shared passion, NFL football. If you're not an American football fan, you might...
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342 - How to Avoid Getting Addicted to Porn
A favorite trick of value investor Charlie Munger was inverse thinking. It's where you reverse the problem you're trying to solve. In this episode, we invert the challenge of going porn free. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/342 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways…
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341 - Examining Our Thoughts w/ Dr. Amy Johnson
On this episode, I invite Dr. Amy Johnson, author of Just a Thought, to help us start examining our thoughts in a new way. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/341 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video...
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340 - 90% Of Your Relapses Are Predictable
Most relapses are predictable. So why are so often surprised by them? On this episode, Matt shares an episode from his Coffee with the Dobber series for contributors to Porn Free Radio. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/340 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can...
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339 - Are You Still In the Porn Bubble?
Men use porn because they like the effect produced by it. The elusive sensation changes our state while we are using it. It provides a timely escape from our present reality. And even though we have taken steps to stop using porn we often are still are looking for the escape. I call this the...
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338 - I'm not a bad person getting good, I'm a sick person getting well (a PFR Listener Story)
On this episode, Matt shares a PFR listener story from Aaron C. who got hope from Porn Free Radio and took action by joining a 12-step fellowship. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/338 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free...
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337 - My 12 Provocations Pt. 2 with Vern Tompke
In the second of two episodes, Coach Vern Tompke from Finding Traction joins me, as we complete this list of 12 provocations designed to challenge your recovery thinking. Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/337 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in…
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336 - My 12 Provocations Pt. 1 with Vern Tompke
My book, Porn Free: Becoming the Type of Man Who Does Not Look At Porn, is known for its provocative statement, "Porn is not the problem for us. It's the solution." In the first of two episodes, Coach Vern Tompke from Finding Traction joins me, as I share 12 more provocations aimed at challenging...
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335 - PFR 10th Anniversary Show
Join Matt and Sam Dobschuetz as they read listener letters celebrating 10 years of Porn Free Radio. Take hope and take action! Get the full show notes here: https://recoveredman.com/335 PLUS: Whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways I can help you in your recovery: Porn Free This Year (Free video...
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RecoveredMan.com presents Porn Free Radio with Matt Dobschuetz. This is the podcast for motivated guys, who want to quit looking at porn, get hope and take action. Whether you have been at this a long time or just hit rock bottom, this podcast is for you. Matt Dobschuetz shares how his journey to being porn free started with being caught by his wife downloading pornography in 2001. What came out of that lowest point was a new desire to get free and a passion for helping others. Matt has practical advice and a plan for getting out of porn addiction. He gets it. He's been there and made mistakes, but now lives 100% porn free. Getting a system that works and is repeatable is the cornerstone of Porn Free Radio. Every time you fail you have an opportunity to learn what works for you and make the necessary changes to your plan. Whether your goal is improving your marriage, your career, or just making you a better dad- getting rid of the porn will free you to make it happen. Get hope and take
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