Practice Belonging

Day zero after a binge. Starting over.

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My body is perfect just the way it is.

I am worthy of love and belonging.

I have not binged today. My body is perfect just the way it is.

This is the day I stopped doing a quote at the end.

"Daring is essential to solve the problems in the world that feel intractable..." - Brene Brown

"People who wade into discomfort and vulnerability and tell the truth about their stories are the real badasses." - Brene Brown

"If we're going to put ourselves out there and love with our whole hearts, we're going to experience heartbreak." - Brene Brown

"Yes, there can be no innovation, learning or creativity without failure..." - Brene Brown

"We want to be brave, and deep inside we know that being brave requires us to be vulnerable. The great news is that I think we're making serious headway..." - Brene Brown

"Both The Gifts and Daring Greatly are call to arms books. The are about having the courage to show up and be seen even if it means risking failure, hurt, shame and possibly even heartbreak..." - Brene Brown from Rising Strong

"I define wholehearted living as engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and thing: Today, no matter what gets done and what is left undone, I am enough. It's going to bed at night and thinking, Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn't change the truth, that I am brave and worth of love and belonging." - Brene Brown

"Rising strong after a fall is how we cultivate wholeheartedness in our lives; it's the process that teaches us the most about who we are." - Brene Brown

"I spent a lot of years trying to outrun or outsmart vulnerability by making things certain and definite, black and white, good and bad. My inability to lean into the discomfort of vulnerability limited the fullness of those important experiences that are wrought with uncertainty: Love, belonging, trust, joy, and creativity to name a few." - Brene Brown

"When we are willing to make what wants to be made rather than make what we want, we become open to new directions." - Julia Cameron

From Julia Cameron's THE ARTIST'S WAY EVERYDAY: "Morning Pages remind me that while I cannot choose much of what happens to me in my life, I can choose how I respond to what happens. The trick is getting small enough to inch forward. The past is huge. The future may be huge as well. What remains for me, what is given is to do the small tasks of the day. First among those tasks is Morning Pages, teh daily writing of three pages that draws me into the life I have now, the choices I can make today to find beauty in what is given to me."

No quote today.

"I napped beneath a blanket of moss, with a fairy on dream patrol, and a flower lamp shining softly." - Sark

A Hillside ThawRobert Frost To think to know the country and not knowThe hillside on the day the sun lets goTen million silver lizards out of snow!As often as I've seen it done beforeI can't pretend to tell the way it's done.It looks as if some magic of the sunLifted the rug that bred them on the floorAnd the light breaking on them made them run.But if I thought to stop the wet stampede,And caught one silver lizard by the tail,And put my foot on one without avail,And threw myself wet-elbowed and wet-kneedIn front of twenty others' wriggling speed, --In the confusion of them all aglitter,And birds that joined in the excited fun,By doubling and redoubling song and twitter,I have no doubt I'd end by holding none.It takes the moon for this. The sun's a wizardBy all I tell; but so's the moon a witch.From the high west she makes a gentle castAnd suddenly, without a jerk or twitch,She has her spell on every single lizard.I fancied when I looked at six o'clockThe swarm still ran and scuttled just as fast.The moon was waiting for her chill effect.I looked at nine: the swarm was turned to rockIn every lifelike posture of the swarm,Transfixed on mountain slopes almost erect.Across each other and side by side they lay.The spell that so could hold them as they wereWas wrought through trees without a breath of stormTo make a leaf, if there had been one, stir.It was the moon's: she held them until day,One lizard at the end of every ray.The thought of my attempting such a stay!

"Some days life is all about your dreams, hopes and visions for the future. But there are some days where life is just about putting one foot in front of the other. And that’s OK." - HealthyPlace.com

“Authenticity is a daily practice. Choosing to be authentic means cultivating the courage to be imperfect. To set boundaries and allow ourselves to be vulnerable. It means exercising the compassion that comes from knowing that we are all made of strength and struggle. Knowing that we are connected to each other through a loving and resilient human spirit. It means nurturing the connection and sense of belonging that can only happen when we let go of what we are supposed to be and embrace who we are. Authenticity demands wholehearted living and loving–even when it’s difficult. Even when wrestling with the shame and fear of not being good enough. Mindfully practicing authenticity during our most soul-searching struggles is how we invite grace, joy, and gratitude into our lives.” -Brene Brown

"I am the greatest, I said that even before I knew I was. I figured that if I said it enough, I would convince the world that I really was the greatest." - Muhammad Ali

Brene Brown: "We cannot selectively numb emotions. When we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions."

Brene Brown: "Living a connected life ultimately is about setting boundaries, spending less time and energy hustling and winning over people who don’t matter, and seeing the value of working on cultivating connection with family and close friends."

"Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself." - George Bernard Shaw

Chris Gillebeau: "There is no rehab program for being addicted to freedom. Once you've seen what it's like on the other side, good luck following someone else's rules ever again."

"Faith includes noticing the mess, the emptiness and discomfort, and letting it be there until some light returns." - Anne Lamott

Day 25: Quote from Steven R Covey: "Accountability breeds response-ability."

Day 24. Quote of the day: Robert Brault "A good marriage is each for the other and two against the world."

Day 23: "This too shall pass." - Unknown

Day 21: "And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, It is because I find some person, place, thing, situation, some fact of my life, unacceptable to me, And I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment." - Alcoholics Anonymous

Day 20. "I failed my way to success." - Thomas Edison

"If we want to reclaim the essential emotional part of our lives and reignite our passion and purpose, we have to learn how to own and engage with our vulnerability and how to feel the emotions that come with it." - Brene Brown

"When your values are clear to you, making decisions becomes easier." - Roy Disney

Day 16. "Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world." - Lucille Ball

Day 15: Practice Belonging. No quote

Day 13: Quote: "Submit to a daily practice. Your loyalty to that is a ring on the door. Keep knocking and the joy inside will eventually open a window and look out to see who’s there." -Rumi

Day 12. Quote of the day: "A river cuts through a rock, not because of its power, but because of its persistence." - Anonymous

Day 10, Quote: "I believe that the privilege of a lifetime is being who you are, truly being who you are. I have spent far too long apologizing for that." - Viola Davis

Day 9. Quote: "You get to choose how long you want to stay in school and work on the same issues over and over and over. Your graduation cap and gown are cleaned and pressed and waiting for you whenever you want to put them on. All you have to do is let go of your present story and rewrite a new one that fits who you truly are." - Jen Sincero

Day 8. No quote.

Day 7: Paraphrased quote: "Denying the past is the surest way to have it define you." - Brene Brown

Day 6. Quote: "In the beginning, survival is more important than success." - Paul Hawken

Day 5: "You are not dumb, crazy, grandiose or silly just because you falsely believe yourself to be." - Julia Cameron

Day 4. Quote: "No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough." - Brene Brown

Day 3. Quote: "So go ahead. Fall down. The world looks different from the ground." Oprah Winfrey

Day 2. Quote of the day: "All too often, it is audacity and not talent that moves an artist to center stage." - Julia Cameron

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