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Send us Fan MailMelissa and Jared talk about the polarity between the masculine archetype and the feminine archetype.  Compares to the Jungian concept of the Anima and Animus.  We must wake up to the one end of the polarity that is operating within us, or we can’t see the other end of the polarity.  Healthy development of both is discussed.  

Send us Fan MailMelissa and Jared speak to the body and how the society socializes us to be disembodied.  We look at the body as something to be ignored or shaped to fit a certain image that really makes the body an enemy.  How we learn to listen to what the body has to say is discussed and several examples given.  Authenticity without embodiment is performance.   The body can hold what arises.  The body is where we go to interrupt the ego interpretation or story.  

Send us Fan MailThe Vessel.  Pulling from the concepts of alchemy as identified by Carl Jung.  When experiences happen, when those images come from soul we need to create a container that we can hold these experiences in.  Like a beaker in a chemistry experience, there are three qualities this container, this vessel, must have: 1) Clarity-awakening to what is going on.  Putting a name to the experience that is arising.  It will be hard to get clarity if we are hiding.  2) Strength-Being in a place where we can hold on to the experience and approach it with curiosity.  The heat of continually checking in with it.  3) Restraint-Holding on to the experience, not being so quick to dismiss it or move on to the next thing, some experiences may take 6+ years to uncover themselves and also not being so quick to share the experience.One way to enhance vesseling is by making and keeping the appointment with self.  Some sort of spiritual practice that can be done every day and then we keep that appointment every day.  Various options of appointments are explored.  

Send us Fan MailMelissa and Jared explore the call.  The soul speaks to us using images, imagination, and dreams.  If we pay attention to the images that arise in our consciousness, we will start to gain a deeper understanding of what the soul is trying to say to us.  "How we are with the image, affects how freely the images feels to show itself."--Frances Weller.  We have to slow down and sit with the images to understand what the image is trying to tell us.  Sometimes we have to hold on to the images for a long time before they speak to us.  We need to make and keep an appointment with soul.  

Send us Fan MailMelissa and Jared cover the topic of "The Wound."  There is a discussion about approaching the wound, verses managing the symptoms that are uncomfortable. With enough experience the Soul acquires a wound that is meant to awaken us.  The wound does not need a origin story.  Some personal examples are shared.  "We want to not fix what is broken, but to have what is broken blessed."  The soul is unattached to the stories we tell ourselves.  When we can identify the call of the wound, we can use that to get to know the Soul.  

Send us Fan MailJared and Melissa talk about another line of defense that can keep us asleep and that is the story we tell about ourselves.  The energy around the "should" may allow us to see lives and stories in a new way, and because we are the narrators of our story we can tell the story in a different way.   The suggestion of living life as an improvisational actor rather then an actor in a play with a well worn script.  Stories come out in our Enneagram types.  An outside person who asks us to question our story can cause us to start to look at our stories in a new way.  "Unfold your own myth." 

Send us Fan MailMelissa and Jared talk about the concept of the Inner Critic.  A model of soul development is introduced where we go from Essence, to Ego, to Encapsulation and ultimately try to move to Expansion.  An earlier version of ourselves creates a set of rules and an operating system in order to survive.  As we get older a voice develops that keeps us encapsulated into the person we think we need to be and then this contrived self needs to stay in this pattern by using an inner critic or a motivating voice.  It is ultimately a voice that reminds us of the rules of being a "good" person and warns us of the danger of attempting something outside of the narrow perception we have of ourselves.  Using a multitude of metaphors Jared and Melissa talk about the need to start uncovering the rules, to start moving towards expansion.  Our souls age in geological time.  

Send us Fan MailJared and Melissa share how we are asleep in so many ways.  How can we tell if we are asleep and how do we wake up?  And why would we want to wake up if life seems to be going okay?  

Send us Fan MailWhat keeps us stuck in mistyping?Head Types and ADHD, aka Melissa cries on the internet again. :)Email us at [email protected]

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Send us Fan MailToday is part two of our new trip around the enneagram from a neuroscience perspective. If you missed part one last week, be sure to listen.. we talk all about enneagram 8s, 9s and 1s. Today we are talking all about the heart patterns (enneagram 2s 3s and 4s) and heads patterns  (enneagram 5s, 6s, and 7s.)As always, thanks for listening and we hope you enjoy this episode 

Send us Fan MailWhat is the gift of your pattern?What does it look like when that pattern becomes rigid? What is the gift of your pattern from a neuroscience perspective? What does it look like when that pattern becomes more flexible? Email us at [email protected]

Send us Fan MailIpek has been working with the enneagram professionally for over 20 years.  She recently had the courage to take a second look at her type. Today she tells us what that process was like for her and breaks down some common misconceptions of the type 3 pattern.Can Threes be spiritual and goal oriented? Difference between type 3 and 7. Deceit and Type 3. How 3s connect. How to get into contact with your heart. ----Email: [email protected] About Enneagram Circles HereStill struggling to find your type? Book an enneagram discovery call HERE. 

Send us Fan MailNeuroscientist Dan Siegel's research and new book (Personality and Wholeness in Therapy) has really rocked our world. Today we begin to share what we're learning!Is your enneagram type nature or nurture?Should we be saying the word type?Playground vs. Prison?Email: [email protected] About Enneagram Circles HereStill struggling to find your type? Book an enneagram discovery call HERE. 

Send us Fan MailYou've seen the movie, now let's talk type. :) We want to hear your theories! Email us at [email protected] tuned for new content and podcast rebrand!

Send us Fan MailWe miss you! We have been taking a deep dive into all things typing, and it is rocking our world. We are learning so much, and can't wait to continue to share more. Today's episode:-Why is finding your type so hard? -Why we are changing our stance on helping people find their type.

Send us Fan MailA month ago, I started meeting with a new enneagram coach. She starts all of her clients with a very thorough typing session. So, as standard proceedure, she did a two hour typing session with me. At the end of the session she said, "I don't think you're a Type 7." ...insert internal scream....(And.. she was right.)

Send us Fan MailWe are back with another Type Interview!Kristen is a Type 9. She has done her Enneagram work, and she has so much wisdom to share!She shares about the following things:Waking up to her anger and how that has helped her connect with God.The sturdy comfort of coming home to her body, and discovering what's true there.How that place of truth and integrity has helped her connect with the power of her most energetic self.How the church colluded with her ego in a way that kept her meek and small. How staying with conflict has helped her invest in real relationship and problem solving. Thanks so much for listening and we hope you enjoy this episode! 

Send us Fan MailWhat is my ego fixation?Why is it so hard to let it go? What will I lose by letting go of my attachment?Today Jared and Melissa answer a question from a listener:"I'm beginning to become aware of my patterns, but I can't change them. Why is this so hard?" Today we discuss our ego fixations, letting go of control, and the humble willingness it takes to become new. Thanks so much for listening, and we hope you enjoy this episode.

Send us Fan MailToday our guest is Aubrey Chaves. Aubrey is an Enneagram 2.Just as a refresher, The Enneagram Two is called the Helper. They need to be needed and liked. They are naturally helpful and accommodating, but struggle with feeling unwanted, unworthy or unloved. Aubrey’s enneagram journey coincided with a painful crisis of faith. She talks about deconstructing her ideas about a God who is constantly disappointed with her, and rediscovering a God that loves her unconditionally. Aubrey talks about shame getting mixed into her faith, death of the false self, and discovering God through really truly knowing herself. She also gives really useful advice for 2s struggling to figure out what is their to do. Also, Aubrey and her husband Tim are cohosts for the podcast Faith Matters. Their podcast has been a really valuable resource for me for years now, so definitely check it out.Thanks so much for listening, and we hope you enjoy his episode. Show Notes:Faith Matters PodcastCare of the Soul Thomas by, Thomas MooreThe Road Back to You by, Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile 

Send us Fan MailWe have another interview for you today with my friend, Brenna Kimber. Brenna is a six on the enneagram. As a quick reminder an Enneagram six is called the loyal skeptic. They are responsible, group minded, and very loyal. They also tend to struggle with trusting themselves and other people, and this  can cause some anxiety and hyper vigilance, and thinking of in terms of worst case scenarios. Brenna is someone who has used the enneagram for deep inner work, and I’m so excited for you to learn from her today. She talks about her search for safety, her pattern of externalizing authority, and learning to surrender and live her life without a plan and from a more embodied place. As always, thanks for listening, and we hope you enjoy this episode. Show notes: https://faithmatters.org/dont-let-a-good-faith-crisis-go-to-waste-jared-halverson/The Road Back to You The Path Between Us

Send us Fan MailMelissa here. As I’ve been working as a coach, I’ve noticed a lot of people struggling with their faith. Some people experience this as a crisis, others are experiencing  new questions or doubts, others have family members who are having a painful experience in the church and it’s making church hard. I’ve noticed some patterns when in comes to enneagram types, and going through some kind of faith shift. I am seeing how our personality structure- or our ego- can help or hurt the process. Today, with Jared’s help, I wanted to share what I’m noticing and help you be aware of what to look out for if you’re going through a faith crisis.Today we go through all 9 types and discuss what things in church can potentially trigger an ego response, and ways your ego might automatically protect itself. We also give some tips that can help you as you navigate a faith shift. Thanks for listening!Email: [email protected]: @melissaenglebright

Send us Fan MailToday we’re talking to my dear friend, Lindsay Alder! Lindsay is a 4 on the Enneagram, and today she’s sharing what’s it is like to be deep diving in that rich emotional world of an enneagram 4. She talks about how relationships can get tricky when people don’t know how to meet you in that space, and how the Enneagram has helped her navigate the the tension between being true to herself, and still meet people where they are at. Feel free to reach out! Email: [email protected]: @melissaenglebright

Send us Fan MailThe Enneagram is not static. It is a dynamic tool of growth and transformation. Part of the brilliance of the Enneagram is understand your lines of stress and integration. Understanding your lines and bringing awareness to where you will help you move beyond you type, and bring depth to your enneagram practice.Need help finding your type? Email [email protected]: @missenglebright

Send us Fan MailThe number one question we have been getting from folks is “how do I learn to be embodied?” Today we thought we would show you how we practice embodiment in a coaching session. Jared volunteered to be coached today. Enneagram Fives tend to be the most private type on the Enneagram, so this is a very rare and special treat.  Thanks for listening and we hope you enjoy this episode. 

Send us Fan MailWe use all sorts of easy buttons when we don't want to feel pain. Food, media, booze or porn are common ones. But gratitude can also be a socially acceptable easy button. How do we express gratitude that is sincere and heartfelt? When does gratitude start to verge on spiritual bypass?What should each type look out for as they express gratitude and develop practices that are supportive?Thanks for listening!

Send us Fan MailEmbodiment is a buzz word right now, but what does it really mean? Why do we disconnect from our bodies? And what's the danger in that? Why is coming home to our bodies so difficult?In this episode we talk about people pleasing, a reflected sense of self, trauma, and sin as separateness. We talk about the sacred work of letting letting old patterns die, and becoming new. We also speculate around the sacred feminine. These words are our own, and are not meant to represent the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Thanks so much for listening!

Send us Fan MailWhat do we mean when we say that someone is a heart type or a head type? Today we're introducing the centers of intelligence! Body/Belly: (8s, 9s. 1s)Heart: (2s, 3s, 4s)Head: (5s, 6s, 7s)What are the gifts of each center?What happens when we aren't fully present to our centers?What happens when there are imbalances?We also talk about how coming home to the body increases your capacity to feel and recognize the spirit and receive revelation. Feel free to reach out with any questions!Email: [email protected]: @melissaenglebright 

Send us Fan MailYou're in for a treat today! Kipp has been a life long student of psychology. He has a wealth of knowledge and experience that he was kind enough to share with us. A few of the things we discuss:8, 3, 5 mistype. How the ultimate goal is freeing ourselves of our typeThe importance of understanding levels of development Why Christians can be skeptical of the enneagram, and why there has been a recent surge in popularityThe power of innocenceFeel free to reach [email protected]: @melissaenglebright

Send us Fan MailWe're talking aalll about fear today. What are Jared and Melissa afraid of? What is your type's core fear? How do you experience fear differently? What would be your absolute worst nightmare?We'd love to hear if your worst fear fits!Contact:[email protected]: @melissaenglebright

Send us Fan MailWe are so thrilled to learn from Christina Felt! Christina is a 2 on the Enneagram. In this episode we cover:-Type 5 and Type 2 Pairing-Pharisee Faith, and what helped Christina develop into something deeper-How the church can collude with the ego of a 2. -How to measure success as a mother, even when the relationship is strained. - The quote: "A mother is only as happy as her saddest child" and why that's the worst saying for an Enneagram 2. - How to discern whether or not your desire to help is essence or ego. - How to handle launching children who don't need you as much anymore.Thanks for listening!Feed free to reach out:[email protected]: @melissaenglebright

Send us Fan MailHooray for our first interview! Marilyn Smith joins us today talking about being an Enneagram 1. What is it like being a rule follower in a church with a lot of rules?Why is it hard to relax into relationship rather than rules?How can we love the Enneagram 1s in our life? 

Send us Fan MailIs the Enneagram Christian?Can I study Buddhism and still be a good member of the church?In this episode we explore resistance behind new age ideas, and the Enneagram as a tool for healing, growth and compassion. 

Send us Fan MailDiscovering your Enneagram number is only the beginning of the journey! Today we share our favorite typing tips.Are tests helpful?Which ones do we recommend?Which books, podcasts, and websites do we recommend?How long can finding your type take?Books:The Wisdom of the Enneagram by Don Richard Riso and Russ HudsonThe Road Back to You by, Suzanne Stabile and Ian Morgan CronThe Essential Enneagram by David Daniels and Virginia PriceThe Enneagram: Understanding yourself and the Others in Your Life by Helen PalmerDeep Living With The Enneagram by Roxanne Howe-MurphyThe Art of Typing: Powerful Tools for Enneagram Typing by Ginger Lapid-BogdaTests: RHETI: (Paid) Recommendedhttps://www.enneagraminstitute.com/rhetiFree testhttps://www.eclecticenergies.com/enneagram/testWebsite:enneagraminsitute.comPodcasts:The Enneagram JourneyThe Road Back to You

Send us Fan MailWhere did the Enneagram come from? What is the ego? How would each type show up at church?Today we walk you through a brief history of the Enneagram, dive into Essence and Ego, and introduce you to all nine types.Thanks for listening!Email: [email protected]: @melissaenglebright

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Jared and Melissa introduce themselves. They talk about how they found the Enneagram, how discovering their type has helped in their healing, and they open up about their faith journeys. Jared also talks about chickens. (This will definitely  be a thing.) Thanks for listening and we hope you enjoy the episode.