Redeem the Commute - Marriage - Audio
by Redeem the Commute
The Marriage Course is for any couple, whether you have been together for one year or 61 years and whether you feel you have a strong relationship or are struggling.If you have a strong marriage this course will help you make it even better and will reinforce your good habits.If on the other hand your marriage is in difficulty, the course will help provide you with very practical tools to help you work through the issues. Some couples who are separated have used the course as a way of trying to get back together.Whatever your situation, the practical tools you learn will help improve and strengthen your relationship.
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Day 34 - What Forgiveness Is and Is Not - Marriage
Forgiveness IS NOT • demanding a person changes before we forgive them • pretending it doesn't matter and trying to forget about it • thinking time alone will heal the hurt Forgiveness IS • facing the wrong done to us • recognizing the emotions inside • releasing the other person into God's…
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Day 33 - The Healing Process - Forgive - Marriage
Forgiveness IS essential and one of the greatest forces for healing In a marriage Degrees of difficulty in forgiving o Jesus on the cross of those who crucified him o Small Issues, e.g. husband or wife forqeting to do something or making you late o Big issues, e.g. unfaithfulness Forgiveness, is...
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Day 32 - The Healing Process - Say Sorry - Marriage
• take responsibility • resist the urge to make excuses or to blame your partner • confess to God and receive forgiveness • enables us to see the effect of our actions • opens the way for reconciliation and healing Question:Do you find it easy, or hard to apologize? Why?
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Day 31 - The Healing Process - Identify The Hurt - Marriage
• take the initiative to resolve anger and heal hurt • recognize the ways in which you have caused pain to your partner and hurt your marriage (see Matthew 5: 23-24 in the Bible) • be prepared to tell your partner when you have been hurt (see Matthew 18:15 in the Bible) Question:Complete the...
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Day 30 - The Healing Process - Marriage
What happens if hurt and anger are buried? Physical symptoms • disturbed sleep • appetite affected • medical conditions, e.g.; ulcers, high blood • pressure, pain Behavioral symptoms • inability to relax • low sexual desire • quick temper / intolerance • escape through drugs, alcohol…
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Day 29 - Handling Anger - Marriage
We explore handling anger, before completing an exercise. Question:Complete the Worksheet found under "Study Guide"
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Day 28 - Understanding Anger - Marriage
Reactions to hurt 1. Anger • some are like rhinos-they attack when provoked • some are like hedgehogs-they withdraw when threatened 2. Retaliation • to let our partner know what the hurt felt like 3. Fear • we withdraw so as not to be hurt again 4. Guilt • hurt will always be caused by both...
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Day 27 - The Power of Forgiveness - Marriage
• to say sorry and forgive is so important because we will all hurt our partner • dealing with hurt is vital to intimacy • relationships grow through trust and openness • hurt undermines trust and openness Question:Do you agree with what you’ve heard today? Why, or why not?
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Day 26 - The Importance of Shared Faith - Marriage
When we expect our partner to meet all our needs, We inevitably fail each other and get hurt, causing our marriage to spiral downward. When we look to God to meet our needs for significance, security, and self-esteem, we are better able to give to each other. Praying Together • helps us connect...
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Day 25 - Putting Negotiation into Action and Grow Together - Marriage
• we're not incompatible unless we refuse to change • we can change ourselves; we cannot change each other • we can only change when we know what matters to each other • we must tell each other what frustrates and hurts us • much conflict arises from our different assumptions about the way things...
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Day 24 - Learn to Negotiate - Final Steps - Marriage
• Work out possible solutions (make a list if necessary) • Decide on the best solution for now and see if it works • Be prepared to re-evaluate if there still seems to be conflict over the issue Question:Complete the Worksheet found under "Study Guide"
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Day 23 - Learn to Negotiate - Identify and Discuss the Issue - Marriage
Identify the issue Discuss the issue rather than attack each other • avoid labelling "you never ... "you always” • use "I" statements e.g., (I feel undervalued when) • listen to your partner (allow them to hold the table napkin when speaking as described earlier) Question:Complete the Worksheet...
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Day 22 - Learn to Negotiate - Find the Best Time - Marriage
We learn to use the 10 o'clock rule! Question:Complete the Worksheet found under "Study Guide"
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Day 21 - Identify and Accept our Differences Part II - Marriage
We continue yesterday’s topic. Question:What differences between you and your spouse do you have the most trouble accepting?
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Day 20 - Identify and Accept our Differences Part I - Marriage
• recognize differences of temperament, personality, upbringing, and values • don't try to change each other • see your marriage as a partnership in which you combine your strengths and support each other’s weaknesses • maintain a sense of humor Question:Complete the Worksheet found under "Study...
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Day 19 - Express our Appreciation - Marriage
• make your husband or wife feel like the most important person in the world to you • focus on what you like and admire about your partner • express gratitude for what your partner does • show appreciation for who your partner is • make it a daily discipline Question:Write down six things you...
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Day 18 - Conflict Resolution - Marriage
Why is some conflict inevitable in every marriage? • we are different-different backgrounds, priorities, desires, personalities, opinions • no good trying to force our partner to do things our way • must see ourselves as being on the same side (3-legged race) • we are naturally self-centered •…
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Day 17 - Effective Listening Summary - Marriage
The presenters encourage us to engage in effective listening. Question:What will be the hardest part of effective listening for you? How will you try to overcome this?
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Day 16 - An Example of Effective Listening - Marriage
The presenters model effective listening for us. Question:Complete the worksheet under "Extras -> Study Guide"
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Day 15 - Principles for Effective Listening - Marriage
For some people, learning to listen is as difficult as learning a foreign language, but we must learn in order to build intimacy in our marriage and grow closer to our husband or wife. 1. Pay Attention and Do Not Interrupt. Allow your partner to finish what they are saying. Research indicates…
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Day 14 - Practicing Effective Listening - Marriage
We give an opportunity to practice effective listening. Question:Take turns spending one minute telling your husband or wife about a happy memory of something that happened to you before you met. The listener should then summarize what they have heard, taking particular care to describe their...
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Day 13 - Hindrances to Listening - Bad Habits - Marriage
1. Reassuring 2. Giving advice 3. Intellectualizing 4. Going off on a tangent 5. Interrupting • these habits can prevent the speaker from saying what they're feeling and they may eventually shut down • we need to listen first, before coming in with our contribution Question:Take a few moments to...
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Day 12 - Hindrances to Listening - Filters - Marriage
• we all listen through filters but often we are unaware of them • when someone is speaking, our own memories, attitudes, prejudices, physical environment, lack of interest, etc. all affect what we hear • some of the time we are listening more to ourselves than to the other person • effective...
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Day 11 - The importance of listening - Marriage
• we can become highly selective in our listening • most of us take listening for granted, yet it is possible to close OUR ears • listening has the power to make our husband or wife feel loved and valued • one of the most important skills to learn for a strong marriage • the Bible places great...
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Day 10 - Effective Communication - Marriage
• communication involves the message, the speaker, and the listener • building intimacy in marriage involves hearing each otheros experiences, thoughts, feelings, and desires The importance of talking • telling each other our thoughts and feelings • may have been taught to hide feelings during...
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Day 9 - The Art of Communication - Marriage
• intimacy requires effective communication • we all have a longing to be known • The Marriage Course is designed to help couples communicate Question:Complete the worksheet under "Extras -> Study Guide"
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Day 8 - Nurture Each Other - Marriage
Nurturing involves seeking to meet each other’s emotional needs for affection, encouragement, support, comfort, etc, • we all have a longing to be loved and to be known by another • empty space inside that needs to be filled up with love • when empty, we feel alone or lonely giving each other...
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Day 7 - Make Marriage Time a Priority and Protect It - Marriage
Make marriage time a commitment that you stick to every week. It should take priority over other demands such as work, going out with friends. playing sports, and even parenting. Protect this time from interruptions and distractions such as the telephone, the computer, visitors, the television…
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Day 6 - Make Time for Each Other - Planning Marriage Time - Marriage
If a relationship is to thrive and keep growing, we must have regular time together. At the very least, plan to spend 1-2 hours alone together each week; to rekindle romance, to have fun, to talk together about your feelings (e.g., your hopes, fears, worries, excitements.) We call this marriage...
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Day 5 - Building Strong Foundations - Marriage
Why do some marriages breakdown? • a process of growing apart • a lack of communication • consumerism - the failure to work at a relationship Question:Complete the Worksheet you will find under "Extras" or in the Study Guide
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Day 4 - The Third and Fourth Seasons of Marriage - Autumn and Winter - Marriage
Autumn • season of richness and maturity-reaping • the benefits of what has gone before • marriage more established having weathered tough times • may be teenagers in the house • emotionally the most exhausting stage of parenting • the greatest need is to support and encourage each other Winter •...
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Day 3 - The First and Second Seasons of Marriage - Spring and Summer - Marriage
The four seasons of marriage (not every marriage will go through each stage, but the principles apply to all marriages) Spring • early years of marriage • season of discovery and excitement • initial infatuation will wear off at some stage • the greatest need is to accept each other Summer •…
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Day 2 - Introduction Part II - Marriage
Question:Reflect on the vision of marriage described here. How is it different from other relationships?
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Day 1 - Introduction - Marriage
The aim of The Marriage Course is to help couples grow closer through: • choosing commitment to each other and to their marriage • spending time looking at relevant issues together • increasing their understanding of each other • developing good habits Question:Tell each other your strongest…
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About the Marriage Course - Marriage
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The Marriage Course is for any couple, whether you have been together for one year or 61 years and whether you feel you have a strong relationship or are struggling.If you have a strong marriage this course will help you make it even better and will reinforce your good habits.If on the other hand your marriage is in difficulty, the course will help provide you with very practical tools to help you work through the issues. Some couples who are separated have used the course as a way of trying to get back together.Whatever your situation, the practical tools you learn will help improve and strengthen your relationship.
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