Relationship Anxiety

If you’ve been feeling stuck in anxiety, OCD, or just frustrated with parts of your life you can’t control, this episode is for you. I’m sharing a perspective that has truly changed my life: what if life is like a hand of cards you’ve been dealt—and instead of wishing for a different hand, you learn how to win with the one you have?   We’re going to talk about what it looks like to step out of victim mode and into empowerment, and how becoming an expert in your struggles can actually change everything. Whether this shows up in relationship anxiety, your mental health, or even physical challenges, my hope is that this episode helps you feel more grounded, more capable, and a little more hopeful moving forward.

Boundaries are everywhere right now. Everyone is talking about them. But, most of what we’ve been taught about boundaries isn’t actually helpful.   In this episode, I’m breaking down what boundaries really are, and what they’re not. A boundary is not controlling someone else. It’s not telling someone what they can or cannot do. A boundary is how you keep yourself safe.   We’ll talk about: The difference between a request and a boundary Why boundaries build self-trust How boundaries actually create deeper connection (not distance) Why boundaries don’t mean you’re in the wrong relationship
 Why anxiety might spike a little after you set one (and why that’s okay)   If you’ve ever felt u sure about how to actually create a healthy boundary, this episode is for you! Boundaries aren’t about control — they’re about safety, which allows you to love so much more abundantly.

Valentine’s Day can bring up a lot when you struggle with relationship anxiety or ROCD. The pressure to feel in love, to feel certain, or to make sure your partner shows up “the right way” can turn one simple day into a spiral.   In this episode, I’m sharing 5 gentle tips to help you move through Valentine’s Day with more calm and intention — from letting go of feeling-checking, to not testing your partner, to choosing love as an action instead of obsessing over love as a feeling.   Link to free consult call: https://calendar.app.google/hTiWm3wRJUd4LHSU7   Instagram: @kresenyaclairecoaching

In this episode of The Relationship Anxiety Podcast, Kresenya shares how learning to distinguish between these two voices became a turning point in her healing. She explains how anxiety and OCD seek certainty, urgency, and perfection - while God's voice allows space for uncertainty, grace, and patience. Through personal examples and compassionate guidance, Kresenya offers tools to help you respond to anxiety without judgement and reconnect with a calmer, more grounded faith. If you struggle with relationship anxiety, intrusive thoughts, or religious OCD, this episode offers clarity, hope, and permission to rest.

In this episode of the Relationship Anxiety Podcast, I’m sharing one of my favorite tools for regulating emotions: EFT tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique). This is a practice I use personally and with clients to help calm the nervous system and lower the intensity of anxious thoughts—especially around relationships. I walk you through what EFT tapping is, how it works, and why it can be so effective for relationship anxiety. Then I guide you through a full tapping script focused on one of the most common fears I see: the fear of choosing the wrong person. We move through three important phases—acknowledging what you’re really feeling, creating safety for those emotions, and gently reframing anxious thoughts once your body feels more regulated. You’re welcome to tap along in real time or come back to this practice whenever you need it. With all of this, remember: the goal isn’t to get rid of anxiety—it’s to learn how to support yourself when it shows up. You’re doing an amazing job! 

In this episode, we’re diving into something so many of us people-pleasers struggle with, especially during the holidays: feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions. If you find yourself tiptoeing around family dynamics, worrying about how your partner is being perceived, or trying to keep every single person happy (even at the cost of your own peace), this one is for you.   I’ll walk you through why we slip into people-pleasing mode, how it actually comes from a protective part of us, and a reframe that has completely changed the way I show up. It’s not about making everyone else feel good—it’s about choosing the kind of person you want to be. You get to let people handle their own emotions, and you get to show up in the world with grace and kindness because it feels true to you.

In this episode, we'll break down what self-trust actually is-and why it absolutely does not mean believing every anxious thought your brain offers. If you live with relationship anxiety or ROCD, the idea of "trusting yourself" can feel scary or confusing. I'll share what true self-trust is: about building a compassionate, consistent relationship with yourself-one where you show up, listen, and support yourself no matter what. You won't want to miss this episode! 

Today's episode is about how to respond to random anxious thoughts that pop up during the day. It's tempting to respond with frantic and panicky energy, but what if we responded with boredom? Responding with boredom helps show our brains that we're not really in danger at all. If you're intrigued, today's episode is for you!

This podcast is all about what anxiety is trying to protect us from, and how to actually heal the root cause. Your anxiety isn't a problem--it's a protector from a deeper wound. But, we have to learn how to befriend anxiety before it will let us in to heal the wound. You won't want to miss this episode!

This week's episode is all about what it really means to overcome the natural man. We are taught that the natural man is an enemy to God, and because of this, start to vilify different emotions and behaviors we have. We start to use willpower to try to change our actions, which doesn't work very well long term. In this episode, I talk about what the natural man really is and a much more attainable way to overcome it.

This week's episode is all about scrupulosity (religious OCD) and relationship OCD and how they can interact with each other. I also discuss different ways to heal the root problem of scrupulosity, along with some personal examples of how it showed up in my life. This is one of my favorite topics and things to coach on, so if this resonates, please reach out to me @kresenyaclairecoaching on Instagram or sign up for a free mini session with me!

This episode is all about how to actually feel and process your emotions! Processing emotions is probably something you've heard people say a lot about, but maybe you've wondered how to actually do it! If so, this is the podcast for you :) Disclaimer: deep trauma can bring up big emotions-these are best handled with a trauma therapist!

This Episode is all about how to go from feeling stuck to feeling empowered. It's about two models of human interaction that changed my brain chemistry forever when I learned about them. This is one of the top three things that helped me heal from a relationship OCD, and I'm so excited to share it with you! There's also a little piece about how to look at your relationship with God in a healthier way when deciding who to marry!

This podcast is all about what to do when you're in the middle of a big emotional spiral. It can be so hard to remember to use tools you know when you're in the middle of it! This is a simple way to calm yourself down and process whatever emotion is coming up for you. The framework is called "the 3 S's", and my coach McKell Kristen created it to help when you're in the middle of a big emotion: naming the situation, story, and sensations you're feeling in the moment. It is SO powerful and I'm so excited to share it with you!

Do you believe something you know isn't serving you? You might believe that you're unattractive, that you're a bad decision-maker, or that you're only worthy of love if you reach a certain bar. This podcast is all about how to change your beliefs in small and simple ways that feel more genuine than trying to convince yourself of something that you brain rejects.

In this episode, you'll learn about the unintuitive relationship between pride, shame, confidence, and humility. Understanding this relationship will help you stop comparing yourself to others and ranking your partner compared to other people!

In this episode, I talk about three things I wish I could tell myself when I was in the middle of relationship anxiety. I wish I could go back in time and comfort that girl who was so scared and hurting. These are three things I also want to share with all of you. 1: You are not alone. 2: You are the expert in your relationship. 3: Your life will be so beautiful. Join me as I go deeper into all three.

This quick episode is all about how to create more love and romance in your relationship. This is something I've been thinking about a lot lately, and it has made a huge difference in my life. Hint: It's all about the way you experience the world.

This episode is the number one thing I would teach anyone about anxiety. It is the single most important thing to understand to truly heal your anxiety, not just put a band-aid on it. I wish I could explain this to every single person who has relationship anxiety.

This episode is the final part in the How to Stop Spinning in Anxiety series. While the first three episodes have been full of background and understanding what the anxiety cycle is, this episode is all about how to actually break out of the cycle.  You don't want to miss this!

Today we'll talk about how to start distancing yourself from the anxiety cycle. Hint: It's not what you think! Understanding these tools changed my life, and I hope that they will change yours.

In this episode, I explain many of the ways we unknowingly keep the anxiety cycle going. It's crazy how we think we're fixing the cycle, but we're actually just perpetuating it. This episode is crucial if you want to start stepping out of anxiety.

Do you ever feel like you can't stop spinning in anxious thoughts? In this episode, I give the framework for the anxiety cycle and how we get stuck in it. Understanding this cycle is key to overcoming anxiety, and is truly life changing!

This episode focuses on the difference between facts and stories, a distinction that has made a huge difference in the healing of many of my clients.

In this episode, I share examples of the many "what if" questions that can come up with relationship anxiety, including some personal ones. I also share some perspectives that will help you find freedom from these constant questions.

This episode explores the difference between having a growth mindset and a destiny mindset. It shows how beautiful growth mindsets can be in a relationship.

Discover the differences between relationship anxiety and relationship OCD, and how it is possible to begin rewiring our brains. There is so much hope in overcoming relationship anxiety and OCD!