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Secret Habit: Porn Recovery for Christian Men
by Shawn Bonneteau | Porn Recovery Coach
This podcast is for Christian men tired of managing compulsive pornography use and wanting to understand what's keeping them stuck. Because quitting porn isn't just about changing behavior. It's about fulfilling your hungry heart and learning to lead yourself into God's truth. Hosted by Shawn Bonneteau, the show helps men move from confusion to clarity, coping to self-leadership, fear to confidence, and sobriety to real freedom. Shawn's wife Helena joins him from time to time to explore vulnerability, relationships, marriage, sexual wholeness in Christ, and lasting change
Episodes
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169. Why Do I Keep Crossing Lines With Porn? Ft Greg Oliver
Why does my porn addiction keep escalating? Maybe you started with something you thought was relatively harmless, but over time you found yourself looking for more, acting out in ways you never expected, or crossing boundaries you once believed you never would. In this episode of the Secret Habit...
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168. Why Do I Want To Watch Porn When I’m Angry?
Why do I turn to porn when I'm angry? Anger is often treated like something we simply need to get rid of, but what if anger is actually telling you something important about what is happening beneath the surface? In this episode of the Secret Habit Podcast, Shawn Bonneteau explores the…
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167. How Do I Know If God Is Speaking to Me While I’m Struggling With Porn?
How do I know if God is actually speaking to me? That can be a difficult question, especially when you're trying to make decisions, walking through relational turmoil, dealing with strong emotions, or simply wondering why God seems silent. In this episode of the Secret Habit Podcast, Shawn...
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166. Does Porn Cause Brain Fog and Anxiety? | Dr. Trish Leigh
Can pornography contribute to brain fog, anxiety, low focus, and feeling mentally drained? In this episode of the Secret Habit Podcast, Shawn Bonneteau sits down with Dr. Trish Leigh, a neuroscience expert who studies the brain, pornography consumption, dopamine, anxiety, and compulsive behavior....
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165. Why Does Quitting Porn Feel Like Losing Something? A Journey Through Grief
Why do I feel grief after quitting porn? Many men expect quitting pornography to feel like immediate freedom. Instead, they may find themselves feeling sad, lonely, restless, or even grieving something they know they needed to leave behind. That's because quitting porn isn't always just about...
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164. How Do I Build More Intimacy in My Marriage? The 6 Pillars of Intimacy
How do I build more intimacy in my marriage? And is intimacy really the same thing as sex? In this episode of the Secret Habit Podcast, Shawn Bonneteau sits down with Tony and Lisa DeLorenzo of One Extraordinary Marriage to explore what intimacy actually looks like in a healthy Christian…
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163: Can God Still Love Me If I Keep Struggling With Porn?
Can God still love you if you keep struggling with porn? This is one of the deepest questions many Christian men carry in silence. You may believe in God's grace, but after another relapse or another season of hiding, you may start wondering whether God is disappointed in you, whether you've gone...
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162.How Do I Fight the Lies in My Head When Quitting Porn?
How do you fight the lies in your head when you're trying to quit porn? For many Christian men, the struggle isn't only the temptation itself. It's what happens in the mind afterward: shame, condemnation, fear, secrecy, and the belief that something is fundamentally wrong with you. In this…
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161. I Like How Porn Feels, Does There Have To Be More?
What if “I like how porn feels” is true… but it isn’t the whole story? In this episode of the Secret Habit Podcast, Shawn Bonneteau explores what guys often mean when they say they simply like how pornography feels. Yes, there is physical pleasure involved. But Shawn challenges us to look deeper…
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160. Can My Marriage Recover From Porn?: How Couples Can Find Their Way Back to Each Other. Ft Clint & Charity Muñoz
When pornography, sexual addiction, betrayal, or broken trust enters a marriage, the impact reaches far beyond the person struggling with the behavior. In this episode of the Secret Habit Podcast, Shawn Bonneteau sits down with Clinton and Charity Muñoz of Restored 2 More for a hopeful…
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159. Heres How I Do Recovery Work Before I Play Hockey
What does preparing to play hockey have to do with overcoming pornography addiction? More than you might think. In this episode of the Secret Habit Podcast, Shawn Bonneteau shares a personal story about hockey, competitiveness, belonging, and the expectations he carries, and how it helped him...
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158. Should I Be Free From Porn Before Dating or Marriage?
Should you be completely free from pornography before you start dating or consider marriage? It's a question I hear all the time from Christian men—and it's one Helena and I have had to live through personally. In this episode, Helena joins me for a very honest conversation about pornography,...
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157. How Do I Rely On God When Quitting Porn?
What would it actually look like to trust God with your whole heart? We've all heard Proverbs 3:5-6: "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding." But what if trusting God with your whole heart means more than believing the right things in your head? What if…
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156. How Do I Develop Sexual Integrity and Emotional Maturity? | Dr. Eddie Capparucci
What happens after you get sober? For many men, this is where recovery gets surprisingly interesting. You can stop watching pornography. Learn your patterns. Read the books. Attend groups. Get accountability. And yet, You can still struggle to handle your emotions. You can become defensive when...
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155. How Can I Stay Consistent With My Porn Recovery? Finding Clarity Before Strategy
Why is consistency so difficult in pornography recovery? You know what you should do. You've probably tried motivation, accountability, filters, Bible reading, avoiding triggers, and promising yourself that this time will be different. But then something happens. You get tired. Stressed. Lonely....
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154. How Do I Find My Purpose And Stop Watching Porn?
What if one of the missing pieces in your pornography recovery isn't another tool, another filter, or another strategy? What if you need a deeper reason to live? In this episode of the Secret Habit Podcast, Shawn Bonneteau explores purpose, pornography recovery, the Hungry Heart, and the…
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153. What Does Spiritual Warfare Look Like in Porn Recovery?
What if part of the reason your recovery feels harder than it should isn't just habit or willpower, but the spiritual battle surrounding your deepest vulnerabilities? Shawn Bonneteau shares a raw wake-up call from his own season in the Czech Republic and breaks down how the enemy looks for the...
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152. I Have Tried Everything To Quit Porn. Now What? | Nick Stumbo, Pure Desire
What if the reason you haven't found lasting freedom from pornography isn't because you haven't tried hard enough, but because you've been trying to recover without the right plan? In this powerful conversation, Shawn sits down with Nick Stumbo, Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, to…
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151. Does My Childhood Really Impact My Struggle with Porn?
Many guys struggle with the idea that they have trauma. I get it. It's hard to admit that our parents made mistakes and hurt us. This is why I want to give you a new framework. A new approach. A new perspective One that does not dismiss the pain or challenges you went through. But keeps the focus...
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150. How to Build a Porn Recovery Plan That Actually Works | Personal Recovery Plan Ep. 7
Many men desire to get free from porn. Theres no shortage of programs out there, however, we have to ask, are they offering the help men need? Most men I meet feel like they're putting in the work, but they feel frustrated. They tell me that they don't really understand their struggle. Without…
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149. What Actually Helps Your Hungry Heart? Building a Better Strategy | Personal Recovery Plan Ep. 6
Once you've identified who supports your recovery, it's time to ask another important question: What actually helps your Hungry Heart? Many men have a few healthy habits, but very few have a Green Zone that's intentionally designed around the hungers of their heart. In this episode, you'll learn...
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148. Who Helps Your Hungry Heart? Building a Better Accountability System For Porn Recovery | Personal Recovery Plan Ep. 5
Lasting recovery isn't something you build alone. One of the biggest mistakes Christian men make is believing they simply need more discipline or willpower. But God designed us to grow and mature in relationship. In this episode, we're beginning the Green Zone portion of the Personal Recovery…
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147. Catch Your Triggers Before They Become Sexual Temptation | Personal Recovery Plan Ep. 4
Overcoming pornography isn't just about what you do when temptation shows up. It's about learning to recognize what's happening in your heart before temptation ever becomes overwhelming. In this episode, we're exploring one of the most overlooked parts of recovery: the subtle tendencies that…
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146. The Missing Piece in Porn Recovery: Your Hungry Heart | Personal Recovery Plan Ep. 3
You've learned to listen to your feelings. You've started understanding the story beneath your thoughts. Now it's time to uncover the deeper issue both of them have been pointing toward all along: your Hungry Heart. Most Christian men think pornography is the problem. Others realize it's a…
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145. Stop Fighting Your Thoughts. Start Understanding Them | Personal Recovery Plan Ep. 2
Taking your thoughts captive is a crucial part of the christian life. It's an especially vital part of any solid porn recovery plan. However, most guys are missing the deeper piece of their thoughts that helps them break free from bondage Every thought has a story. And in this episode, I want to...
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144. Stop Fighting Your Feelings. Start Listening to Them. | Personal Recovery Plan Ep. 1
Everybody feels... however, not everybody understands what their feelings are trying to tell them. When you miss the clues built into your hearts cry, you miss the chance to move toward a solution that really works. Most guys are stuck trying to eradicate their feelings. They're more focused on...
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143. Whats The Best Practical Steps For Porn Recovery?
You've learned about Heart Hunger. You've discovered the Red Zone and the Green Zone. You've started understanding why pornography isn't simply about willpower. So... now what? One of the biggest challenges I see after coaching thousands of Christian men is that information doesn't automatically...
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142. Become the Man God Created You to Be | Freedom Foundations Finale
After everything you've learned throughout the Freedom Foundations Series, one question remains: Now what? This final episode isn't about learning another recovery strategy. It's about becoming the man you've been building toward all along. Throughout this series, We've explored your inner world,...
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141. How to Forgive When It Still Hurts | Freedom Foundations Ep. 13
Forgiveness is one of the hardest parts of the healing journe. Not because it's complicated, but because it touches the deepest places of our hearts. In this episode of the Freedom Foundations Series, Shawn explores why forgiveness isn't about pretending the past didn't happen or minimizing the...
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140. Repentance Isn't Punishment. It's How Intimacy Is Restored | Freedom Foundations Ep. 12
Most men think repentance is about trying harder, feeling worse about their sin, or proving themselves to God.I don't believe that's what repentance is at all.I believe repentance is about restoring intimacy. Throughout this Freedom Foundations series, we've been uncovering the deeper reasons...
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139. From Confusion to Clarity: The Two Systems That Simplify Recovery | Freedom Foundations Ep. 11
Most men don't struggle because they lack motivation. They struggle because they lack a clear, repeatable process. After thousands of coaching sessions with Christian men, I've become convinced that lasting freedom isn't found in collecting more recovery tools—it's built through a simple system…
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138. Jesus and the Boy: Bringing Your Story to Jesus | Freedom Foundations Ep. 10
Most Christians believe Jesus heals. But many have never experienced His presence in the places they still carry pain. In this fourth episode of the Freedom Foundations Series focused on the Inner boy, Shawn explores what it looks like to invite Jesus into the stories, wounds, and formative...
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137: Leading the Boy Within: The Christian's Guide to Renewing the Mind | Freedom Foundations Ep. 9
Most Christians know they're supposed to renew their minds. But very few have ever been shown how. In this powerful guided episode of the Freedom Foundations Series, Shawn walks through the practical process of leading the wounded places of your heart out of what feels true and into the truth of...
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136: Understanding the Boy Beneath Your Triggers | Freedom Foundations Ep. 8
Most men are in a hurry to change. Very few take the time to understand themselves. But before you can lead the boy within, you must first learn about him. In this episode of the Freedom Foundations Series, Shawn guides you through one of the most powerful reflection exercises in his coaching...
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135: Finding the Boy Within: Understanding the Story Beneath Your Struggle | Freedom Foundations Ep. 7
Most men spend years trying to change their behavior while never stopping to understand the story behind it. What if your struggle isn't random? What if the anxiety, shame, triggers, and patterns you experience today are connected to lessons you learned years ago? In this episode of the Freedom...
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134: Formative Wounds: Understanding the Story Behind Your Struggle with Porn | Freedom Foundations Ep. 6
Many men hear words like childhood trauma and immediately think: "Nothing that bad happened to me." "My parents did the best they could" "Its my fault im this way" But what if moving forward isn't about focusing only on what happened to you? What if it's about understanding what formed in you...
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133: From Reaction to Response: The Missing Skill in Porn Recovery | Freedom Foundations Ep. 5
Many men think they need to work harder and do more good things... What they actually need is a better framework. In this episode, Shawn introduces the Red Zone and Green Zone - a practical tool that has helped countless men move from confusion and overwhelm into clarity and confidence. You'll...
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132: The Hungry Heart: What Porn Is Actually Trying to Satisfy | Freedom Foundations Ep. 4
Most men think they want porn. But what if that's not actually true? What if porn has simply become a substitute for something your heart has been searching for all along? In this episode, Shawn unpacks one of the most important concepts in recovery: the Hungry Heart. You'll discover why so many...
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131: Your Inner World: The Real Reason You Keep Going Back to Porn | Freedom Foundations Ep. 3
Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on what they're doing. Very few stop to explore what's happening underneath it. The reality is that every behavior is connected to something deeper. Thoughts. Emotions. Longings. Fears. Stress. Heart hunger. In this episode, Shawn introduces one…
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130: Your Porn Triggers Are Trying to Tell You Something | Freedom Foundations Ep. 2
Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on avoiding temptation, but rarely stop to ask what their triggers may actually be revealing. In this episode of the Freedom Foundations Series, Shawn unpacks the deeper meaning behind porn triggers, emotional patterns, and why so many men stay...
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129: Why Most Porn Recovery Approaches Keep Men Stuck | Freedom Foundations Ep. 1
Most men trying to quit porn are working incredibly hard, but still feel exhausted, confused, and stuck in the same cycles. In this first episode of the Freedom Foundations Series, Shawn unpacks one of the biggest problems in modern porn recovery: Men are being taught to work harder without...
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128: How Can I Find Sobriety From Porn? The Green Zone
Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on avoiding triggers. However, underneath the struggle is often something much deeper... a hungry heart that still doesn’t know how to receive healthy connection, regulation, and care. In this episode, Shawn unpacks the Green Zone and explores…
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127: How Can I Recognise My Patterns That Lead To Watching Porn? The Red Zone
Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on stopping the behavior… but underneath the struggle is often something much deeper: a dysregulated inner world full of suppressed emotions, negative thoughts, and unmet heart hunger. In this episode, Shawn unpacks the Red Zone and explores what...
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126: How Can I Understand My Porn Triggers and Respond With Maturity? | Drew Boa
Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on behavior, but underneath the struggle is often a much deeper story involving emotional wounds, unmet heart hunger, shame, confusion, and misunderstood sexuality. In this powerful conversation, Shawn sits down with Drew Boa - founder of Husband...
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125: What Approach Works Best For Porn Recovery?
Most men trying to quit porn aren’t lacking discipline. They’re overwhelmed, disconnected from their inner world, and applying solutions to a problem they don’t fully understand. In this episode, I share more about the transition happening inside my coaching and the way I help guys. I do a deeper...
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124: How Do I Become More Humble and Less Prideful in Recovery?
Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on behavior, but underneath the struggle is often something much deeper: A hungry heart longing to be filled by God instead of numbed through escape. In this episode, Shawn and Helena unpack humility, surrender, and what it actually looks like to...
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123: What Am I Missing Beneath My Porn Addiction?
“I’ve tried to quit, so why do I keep going back?” In this episode, I'll break down why your struggle with porn isn’t actually about discipline or motivation — and what’s really going on underneath it. You’ll learn: why behavior isn’t the real problem what your “inner world” actually is (in a...
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122: Why Cant I Be More Disciplined When Im Quitting Porn?
Most men think porn recovery is mainly about discipline. Trying harder. Staying accountable. Fighting urges. But what if the real issue goes deeper than behavior? 👉 Take the Clarity Quiz:secrethabit.ca/quiz In this episode, we talk about the hungry heart . And why real freedom starts by...
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121: I Want To Quit Porn But I Feel Overwhelmed
You’re making progress… so why does it feel like a lot to handle? In this episode, I'll unpack why quitting porn can feel overwhelming, even when you’re doing better. You’ll learn: why this doesn’t mean you’re failing what’s actually happening in your inner world (emotions, thoughts, longings)…
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120: How To Journal and Quit Porn?
Most men are journaling, but they’re still stuck. In this episode, we break down why journaling often doesn’t lead to real change, and what actually does. If you’ve ever tried to “be more aware,” write out your feelings, or stay consistent with journaling but still find yourself falling back into...
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This podcast is for Christian men tired of managing compulsive pornography use and wanting to understand what's keeping them stuck. Because quitting porn isn't just about changing behavior. It's about fulfilling your hungry heart and learning to lead yourself into God's truth. Hosted by Shawn Bonneteau, the show helps men move from confusion to clarity, coping to self-leadership, fear to confidence, and sobriety to real freedom. Shawn's wife Helena joins him from time to time to explore vulnerability, relationships, marriage, sexual wholeness in Christ, and lasting change
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Shawn Bonneteau | Porn Recovery Coach
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