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Secure Marriage Podcast
by Paul & Shannon Elmore
We’ll show you how to have a marriage where you fight less, feel understood, and enjoy a deeper connection with your husband or wife.
Episodes
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350: I’m No Longer Attracted To My Spouse
If you’ve found yourself wondering why the attraction you once felt has faded, you’re not alone. It also doesn’t always mean your marriage is beyond repair. On today’s episode, Shannon and I talk about what changing attraction can really be telling you, how emotional disconnection often shapes...
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349: We’ve Entered Into A New Season of Life
Life is made up of seasons, and every season asks something different of your marriage. As Shannon and I enter a new chapter ourselves, we talk about the changes we’re experiencing, what we’re learning, and why embracing new seasons with intention matters. If your relationship feels different…
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348: Why Accusations Are Toxic To Your Marriage
When you’re hurt or frustrated, it’s easy for your thoughts to turn into accusations and internal statements of blame. In this episode, Shannon and I talk about why accusations are so damaging to emotional safety, even when the pain behind them is real. We explore why accusations shut you down...
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347: The Year of Adventures
2026 feels like a fresh page, and maybe you’re sensing a desire for more—more connection, more laughter, more shared experiences with the person you love. Adventures don’t have to be big or expensive to change a marriage, but they do have to be intentional. In this episode of the Secure Marriage...
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What it Takes To Forgive An Incredibly Hurtful Husband
Forgiving your husband after he’s caused deep emotional pain can feel overwhelming. You may want healing, but you don’t want to excuse what happened or rush past the hurt you’re still carrying. In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I talk about what forgiveness actually...
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Why You Get Defensive When You Hear “You’ve Hurt My Feelings”
Why do we immediately put up walls when someone says ‘You’ve hurt my feelings’? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, you’ll discover the psychological reason behind this universal response and learn a simple but powerful reframe that can transform these vulnerable moments into...
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This Simple Trick Will Make Your Spouse Happier
Want to make your spouse smile more, without grand gestures or big talks? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I share the surprisingly simple trick that shifted the tone in our own marriage (and no, it’s not what you think). You’ll hear how this one small change can create...
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343: When should you start seeing progress in marriage therapy?
If you’re feeling stuck or wondering if your marriage therapy is even working, this is the episode where we break down the hidden signs of progress most couples miss, share why slow growth is often the best kind, and reveal what to do if things feel stagnant. Don’t give up too soon—tune in and...
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342: Doing THIS Creates The Deepest Connection
Ever wonder what truly creates the deepest connection in a relationship? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I unpack the one practice that can completely transform how you and your spouse relate to each other. Drawing from my twenty years as a marriage therapist and…
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341: Don’t Let Comparison Become the Cancer in Your Relationship
If you’re not careful, comparison can creep in and quietly start sabotaging your relationship. In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I dive into how measuring your relationship against yourself can erode trust, intimacy, and connection. Find out why comparison is more toxic...
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340: Stop Chasing: How to Rebuild Attraction During a Marriage Separation
Are you in the middle of a marriage separation? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I talk about the one thing that’s pushing your spouse further away—and how to rebuild attraction the right way. Even though some of our suggestions are counterintuitive, we’ll show you how…
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339: Why Your Husband Thinks Your Feelings Are Always Wrong
Feeling dismissed when you try to share your emotions with your husband? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I unpack why your husband thinks your feelings are the “wrong” feelings—and, more importantly, how the two of you can bridge the gap. Our hope is that we can help…
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Husbands, Stop Trying To Fix Your Wife
Does your wife just want to vent, but you can’t resist jumping in to fix things? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I tackle why your ‘helpful’ solutions might be backfiring—and what to do instead. Discover the surprising secret to truly supporting your wife…
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Six Steps to Fix A Struggling Marriage
Is your marriage feeling more like a battleground than a partnership? On this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I share the six simple steps that helped us rebuild trust, improve communication, and rediscover joy in our relationship. If your marriage feels stuck, we hope this...
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Strengthen Your Relationship: How to Work Together as a Team
“Do you and your spouse struggle to tackle challenges as a team? In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Paul & Shannon share how they’ve learned to align their strengths and overcome ‘me versus you’ mindsets in their marriage. Discover the simple strategies that helped them turn conflict...
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7 Magic Questions to Make You An Empathetic Husband
If you’re a husband that struggles to emotionally connect with your wife, you’re going to want to download our 7 Magic Questions for Husbands. These questions will help you find the right words at the right time so your wife will feel loved and cared for.
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My Wife Doesn’t Like Sex. Should I leave?
It’s been a little bit since our last podcast episode, but… we’re back. In this episode, we delve into the complexities of intimacy, marriage expectations, and what might really be behind a wife’s lack of desire. Listen in as we offer surprising insights and actionable steps that could save a...
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I Don’t Feel Like I’m Important To My Husband
Once again, I’ve been an imperfect husband. Unknowingly, over the last several months, I’ve been doing something that has made my wife feel unloved and unimportant. In today’s podcast, you’ll hear us work through the issue together, and see what it looks like to get reconnected again.
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Supporting Your Spouse’s Wild Ideas
Sometimes, my wife comes up with some CRAZY dreams and ideas. It’s in those moments that my true character as her husband is revealed. On today’s podcast, you’ll hear about Shannon’s latest “adventure” and what a joy it was being her biggest cheerleader (minus the pom poms).
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2024 Marriage Cruise Recap
Want to work on having a happier marriage while enjoying the beautiful blue waters and white sandy beaches of the Caribbean? Listen in on the conversations from the couples who went on our 2024 Secure Marriage Cruise and hear how their marriages have changed for the better.
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My Friend is Having An Affair? What Do I Do?
Ever had to make a decision which is guaranteed to make at least one person angry, and there’s absolutely nothing you can do to get out of it? On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll give you crystal clear instructions on what to do if your friend tells you they’re having an...
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Did my Husband Sabotage My Birthday?
What are you supposed to think (or do)when you’ve told your husband for years that you want to be celebrated on your birthday, and he still completely forgets or does lame last-minute things? That’s what we’re tackling on today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast. P.S. We’re also taking a...
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How to Melt Your Wife’s Heart Through the Power of Empathy
Do you know how to get emotionally reconnected after a fight? In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll walk you through the secret recipe you need to know that will make your wife’s heart melt with love and affection.
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Yelling at Your Wife and Kids is ALWAYS a Bad Idea
We understand that you get frustrated with your wife and kids at times. But losing control and blowing up on your family does damage that can last for years. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll look at why losing your temper is actually causing more problems than it’s…
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Don’t Let Shame Destroy Your Relationship
If you spend a lot of time beating yourself up internally, chances are you’re pretty critical of everyone else around you, including your spouse. On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re exploring how shame becomes a toxic element in your relationship and why it’s important to...
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How to Completely Remove Anger From Your Marriage
Remember the last time you or your spouse blew up in anger during a fight? Remember what they said and how they acted. Now imagine the same fight except without the blow up. How would things have gone differently? How would it have felt. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re...
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Why Doing Planks Makes Your Marriage Stronger
Shannon and I have committed to doing planks everyday of 2024. So far, we’ve kept our promise despite being sick for the first two weeks of the year. So what does this have to do with marriage? You’ll have to listen to today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast to find out.
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Why I Woke Up SUPER Mad at my Husband
Husbands… have you ever woken up and the first thing you realize is, your wife’s really mad at you? Welcome to my world today. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re inviting you into our humor-filled morning of a wife who didn’t get enough sleep. Buckle up!
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The RIGHT Way to Pick A Christmas Tree
It’s Christmas Day on the podcast, and out of the goodness of our hearts, we’ll share with you the RIGHT way to pick a Christmas Tree… which obviously is Shannon’s way. 😁 Merry Christmas to everyone who so kindly listens and supports us here at Secure Marriage. Without you, we wouldn’t be able…
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Why Love Isn’t Enough For A Happy Marriage
At some point in your marriage, you’ve probably said (either verbally or internally), “We’re sooooo in love!” And I have no doubt that this was (and maybe still is) true. But being in love will never be enough to have a healthy and secure Marriage. “Why?” I’m so glad you asked. That’s what we’re...
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My Husband Confides More in His Mother Than in Me
When your spouse starts sharing the intimate details of your relationship with other people, it can feel like a major betrayal. It can hurt even more when you find out those other people are extended family members, On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re exploring the options…
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Will Dating Other People Help Strengthen Our Relationship?
In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re challenging the belief that dating others can inherently strengthen a committed relationship or marriage. We’ll shed light on the emotional risks and potential damage it will inflict on the foundation of love and trust.
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Why You Should Stop Using A Toxic Tone of Voice
If you truly want to be heard whenever you speak, you need make sure your nonverbal communication (posture, attitude, tone, and timing) isn’t sabotaging your message. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, you’ll learn why HOW you say things says more about WHAT you’re saying than the...
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How to Know When To Call it Quits!
When things are getting bad in your relationship, where’s the line between continuing to fight for the relationship and calling it quits? In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll attempt to answer this difficult question as well as explore one of the deeper issues that lead to…
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How to Respond to “I Don’t Want To Argue About This.”
It’s pretty difficult to find resolution when your spouse is trying to avoid any conversation about the topic. It usually leads to frustration, disappointment, and eventually discouragement. Instead of getting mad, in today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we want to help you understand...
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Why I Yelled At My Wife Because I Care About Her So Much
It’s been a hard week at our house this week. Shannon went through an experience that scared the crap out of me, and my response, as I tried to care for her, was to yell at her. Yes, we know it doesn’t make sense, but in a backwards sort of way, it does. If you […]
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What If I Get Married and Then Find Someone Better?
On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re going to listen and respond to one the best answers to this question we’ve ever heard. It’s honest. It’s clear. It’s blunt. And, it’s also the truth. Thanks to @discovergrace and @pastormikeadkins on IG for the 30 second clip you’re going…
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Stop Trying To Teach Your Husband How To Be A Good Husband
When your spouse is doing something that’s bugging you, the first (and most natural) thing your survival brain tells you to do is to tell them what they’re doing wrong. Of course, you expect they’ll be ever-so-grateful that you told them how wrong they were because, after all, you were just…
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Help! My Husband Finds Other Women Attractive
What do you do when your husband, who is genuinely loving and kind most of the time, admits he finds other women attractive? In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll show you how to navigate the variety of confusing feelings and learn how to respond in an appropriate manner.
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What To Do When You Realize You’ve Been A Complete Jerk To Your Wife
Realizing you’ve been a less-than-stellar husband to your wife?. On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we explore the journey of self-discovery and self-improvement when you’ve finally woken up to your shortcomings as a partner. Whether you’ve recently had this realization or it’s…
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What NOT to Say When Your Wife is Overreacting
In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll reveal the things to say and, more importantly, NOT to say when your wife has “strong feelings”. Learn how to navigate these situations with patience and grace and create a more harmonious and supportive partnership, even when emotions are...
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How To Be A Loving Husband During “That Time of the Month”
On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, join us on an informative, humorous, and empathetic journey to understand the nuances of supporting your wife whenever “Aunt Flo” comes to visit. Learn how you can be a more loving and supportive husband even while the two of you are riding the...
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Why Negative Self Talk Will Sabotage Healthy Conflict
Negative self-talk is a subtle cancer that can disrupt, and even escalate, everyday conflicts. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I are exploring the intricate connection between your inner dialogue and how it impacts your conflict resolution skill.
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Why Getting Reconnected After A Fight is SO STINKIN’ HARD!
Working through a fight is one thing. Getting emotionally connected is an entirely different skill—one that not many couples have learned to do really well. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll talk through the psychological barriers to getting reconnected and a few practical...
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How Can I Fix My Marriage When My Spouse Doesn’t Want To
Fixing a marriage when one spouse is not willing to do the work can be challenging. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we talk about the difficult decisions a spouse has to face when they realize they’re alone in wanting to improve their relationship.
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How to Get Your Husband To Avoid Helping Ever Again
In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll teach you the fine art of turning your loving husband into a certified expert in avoidance tactics. Forget about teamwork, communication, and shared responsibilities—we’re here to show you how to master the art of making your man…
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Why Giving More Than You Get in Marriage Always Works Best
In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re sharing some insights that underscore how acts of selflessness and generosity can lead to thriving relationships. From the small gestures that strengthen emotional bonds to larger sacrifices that shape the foundation of lasting relationships…
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How to Take Your Marriage to the Next Level Using Emotional Intelligence
When you can understand and manage your own and others’ emotions, especially in the midst of complex and stressful situations, you’ve finally mastered the essential skill of emotional intelligence. On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll show you how EQ will help you to...
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Is AI Trying to Sabotage Healthy Masculinity
Earlier today, Shannon typed a question about marriage and relationships into an AI engine and was stunned by the response she received. Surprising, the answer it returned showed a strong bias against husbands. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll share with you the response…
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Giving Your Spouse the Best Day Ever
In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re talking about the art of creating unforgettable moments for your spouse. Through self-less, intentional acts of service, you can learn how to fill your spouse’s cup and make them feel loved and cared for.
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We’ll show you how to have a marriage where you fight less, feel understood, and enjoy a deeper connection with your husband or wife.
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Paul & Shannon Elmore
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We’ll show you how to have a marriage where you fight less, feel understood, and enjoy a deeper connection with your husband or wife.
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